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Poems About Friendship That Will Warm Your Heart

Hello friends! Isn’t life just great? This is especially true when we have good friends by our side. After all, in the cookie of life, friends are the chocolate chips!🍪

Because we love you so much and truly consider you our friends, we whipped up a heartwarming treat for you—40 delightful poems about friendship! Take a look at them all below!

Table of Contents

1. Poems About Friendship That Will Warm Your Heart
2. Best Friend Poems
3. Poems About Friendship and Love
4. Poems About Lasting Friendships
5. Friendship Poems for Kids

Best Friend Poems

A best friend is someone who knows everything about you and still loves you anyway! Take a look at some of the best best friend poems!

1. Will You Ever? by Kaitlyn M. Yawn

I don’t think you will
Ever fully understand
How you’ve touched my life
And made me who I am.

I don’t think you could ever know
Just how truly special you are,
That even on the darkest nights
You are my brightest star.

You’ve allowed me to experience
Something very hard to find,
Unconditional love that exists
In my body, soul, and mind.

I don’t think you could ever feel
All the love I have to give,
And I’m sure you’ll never realize
You’ve been my will to live.

You are an amazing person,
And without you, I don’t know where I’d be.
Having you in my life
Completes and fulfills every part of me.

2. In the Company of Women by January Gill O’Neil

Make me laugh over coffee,
make it a double, make it frothy
so it seethes in our delight.
Make my cup overflow
with your small happiness.
I want to hoot and snort and cackle and chuckle.
Let your laughter fill me like a bell.
Let me listen to your ringing and singing
as Billie Holiday croons above our heads.
Sorry, the blues are nowhere to be found.
Not tonight. Not here.
No makeup. No tears.
Only contours. Only curves.
Each sip takes back a pound,
each dry-roasted swirl takes our soul.
Can I have a refill, just one more?
Let the bitterness sink to the bottom of our lives.
Let us take this joy to go.

3. Childhood Friends by Mindy Carpenter

As childhood friends, we grew up together,
Swearing to be friends forever and ever.
Sometimes we would argue and fight,
Other times we would laugh and stay up all night.

We went from playing with games and toys,
To talking and dreaming about different boys.
My thoughts and feelings, to you I would confide,
Never having anything to hide.

Friends we do remain,
Things changing, and things staying the same.
To each other, we still listen and share,
About each other, we will always care.

4. A Friend by Gillian Jones

A person who will listen and not condemn
Someone on whom you can depend
They will not flee when bad times are here
Instead, they will be there to lend an ear
They will think of ways to make you smile
So you can be happy for a while
When times are good and happy thereafter
They will be there to share the laughter
Do not forget your friends at all
For they pick you up when you fall
Do not expect to just take and hold
Give friendship back; it is pure gold.

5. Twin Stars by Claire Estevez

Can you hear my heart?
Oh, but I can tell!
We are twin stars
With different births.
My caring shadow –
It has your face.
The voice of my soul
Knows well your name.
Tell me
Can you hear my heart?
Oh! How I love you
My best friend.

6. Friends for Life by Angelica N. Brissett

We are friends.
I’ve got your back,
And you have mine.
I’ll help you out
Anytime!
To see you hurt,
To see you cry,
Makes me weep
And wanna die.
If you agree
To never fight,
It wouldn’t matter
Who’s wrong or right.
If a broken heart
Needs a mend,
I’ll be right there
Till the end.
If your cheeks are wet
From drops of tears,
Don’t worry,
Let go of your fears.
Hand in hand
Love is sent.
We’ll be friends
Till the end!

7. I Knew a Man by Sight by Henry David Thoreau

I knew a man by sight, 
A blameless wight, 
Who, for a year or more, 
Had daily passed my door, 
Yet converse none had had with him. 

I met him in a lane, 
Him and his cane, 
About three miles from home, 
Where I had chanced to roam, 
And volumes stared at him, and he at me. 

In a more distant place 
I glimpsed his face, 
And bowed instinctively; 
Starting, he bowed to me, 
Bowed simultaneously and passed along. 

Next, in a foreign land 
I grasped his hand, 
And had a social chat, 
About this thing and that, 
As I had known him well a thousand years. 

Late in a wilderness 
I shared his mess, 
For he had hardships seen, 
And I a wanderer been; 
He was my bosom friend, and I was his. 

And as, methinks, shall all, 
Both great and small, 
That ever lived on earth, 
Early or late their birth, 
Stranger and foe, one day each other know.

8. What Friendship Means by Tracie Labauve 

Friendship means being there just to be there.
Friendship means listening and not asking questions.
Friendship means lending your shoulder for someone to cry on.
Friendship means being comfortable around each other in silence.
Friendship means being able to tell each other anything and understanding without questions.
Friendship means being honest with each other no matter what the cost.
Friendship means staying up all night and talking about nothing.
Friendship means being able to say I love you!
Friendship means forgiving each other no matter what you have done.
Friendship means learning from each other’s mistakes.
Friendship means me and you.
This is the way I look at you, my friend, and I love you!

9. Chums by J.W. Foley

If we should be shipwrecked together
And only had water for one,
And it was the hottest of weather
Right out in the boiling sun,
He’d tell me—no matter how bad he
Might want it—to take a drink first;
And then he would smile—oh, so glad he
Had saved me!—and perish from thirst!

Or, if we were lost on the prairie
And only had food for a day,
He’d come and would give me the share he
Had wrapped up and hidden away;
And after I ate it with sadness
He’d smile with his very last breath,
And lay himself down full of gladness
To save me—and starve right to death.

And if I was wounded in battle
And out where great danger might be,
He’d come through the roar and the rattle
Of guns and of bullets to me,
He’d carry me out, full of glory,
No matter what trouble he had,
And then he would fall down, all gory
With wounds, and would die—but be glad!

We’re chums—that’s the reason he’d do it;
And that’s what a chum ought to be.
And if it was fire, he’d go through it,
If I should call him to me.
You see, other fellows may know you,
And friends that you have go and come;
But a boy has one boy he can go to,
For help all the time—that’s his chum.

10. There Is Always a Place for You by Anne Campbell

There is always a place for you at my table,
You never need be invited.
I’ll share every crust as long as I’m able,
And know you will be delighted.
There is always a place for you by my fire,
And though it may burn to embers,
If warmth and good cheer are your desire
The friend of your heart remembers!
There is always a place for you by my side,
And should the years tear us apart,
I will face lonely moments more satisfied
With a place for you in my heart!

11. Having a Coke With You by Frank O’Hara

is even more fun than going to San Sebastian, Irún, Hendaye, Biarritz, Bayonne
or being sick to my stomach on the Travesera de Gracia in Barcelona
partly because, in your orange shirt, you look like a better, happier St. Sebastian
partly because of my love for you, partly because of your love for yogurt
partly because of the fluorescent orange tulips around the birches
partly because of the secrecy, our smiles take on before people and statuary
it is hard to believe when I’m with you that there can be anything as still
as solemn as unpleasantly definitive as statuary when right in front of it
in the warm New York 4 o’clock light, we are drifting back and forth
between each other like a tree breathing through its spectacles

and the portrait show seems to have no faces in it at all, just paint
you suddenly wonder why in the world anyone ever did them
                                                                                                              I look
at you, and I would rather look at you than all the portraits in the world
except possibly for the Polish Rider occasionally and anyway, it’s in the Frick
which, thank heavens, you haven’t gone to yet, so we can go together for the first time
and the fact that you move so beautifully more or less takes care of Futurism
just as at home, I never think of the Nude Descending a Staircase or
at a rehearsal, a single drawing of Leonardo or Michelangelo that used to wow me
and what good does all the research of the Impressionists do them
when they never got the right person to stand near the tree when the sun sank
or, for that matter, Marino Marini when he didn’t pick the rider as carefully
as the horse
                               it seems they were all cheated of some marvelous experience
which is not going to go wasted on me, which is why I’m telling you about it

12. Best Friends Forever by Melissa Magaliff

Best Friends,
The title we chose,
But what does it mean to be “best friends”?
You should see each other every day?
Well, that’s not true for you and me.
Should silly little fights get in our way?
Only if that’s how it’s meant to be.
Should we give?
Should we borrow?
Should we dance like there’s not tomorrow?
Secrets are traded,
Privacy invaded,
Hugs and smiles are shared,
Tears are shed,
Love is spread.
We know that we both really cared.
I smile, you smile.
You cry, I cry.
I wish, you wish.
You die, I die.
If you fall,
I’ll help you up,
And if you call,
I’ll always pick up.
Best Friends Forever…
The promise we made,
And I know in my heart
That it will never fade.

Poems About Friendship and Love

Isn’t friendship just another word for love? We think so! Here are some of the loveliest poems about friendship and love.

13. I Love You by Roy Croft

I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am when I am with you.

I love you,
Not only for what you have made of yourself,
But for what you are making of me.

I love you for
the part of me that you bring out;
I love you for
putting your hand into my heaped-up heart
And passing over all the foolish, weak things
that you can’t help dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out into the light
All the beautiful things
that no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.

I love you because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good,
And more than any fate could have done
To make me happy.

You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it by being yourself
Perhaps that is what
Being a friend means, after all.

14. Bonds of Friendship by Craig Burkholder

From the day that I first knew you,
Your heart was pure and kind;
Your smile was sweet and innocent,
Your wit was well refined.
The sparkle in your eyes was keen,
Your friendship fast and real;
Soft words were your virtue,
And humor your appeal.
We grew as friends together,
We laughed and shared our dreams;
Along the way, crush or two,
Went unrevealed, it seems.
As years rolled on, our paths were split,
Our roads went separate ways;
We each pursued our interests,
That occupied our days.
We soon forgot our youthful bliss,
Of tender carefree years;
We didn’t talk or keep in touch,
Throughout life’s pain and tears.
Then my darkest hour came,
And tried me to my core;
To save my heart from ruin,
I closed and locked the door.
Then out of every nowhere,
With precise directed cue;
An old familiar smile,
Came slowly into view.
Although much time was gone,
And the die of fate, long cast;
It was as if we hadn’t missed,
A second of the past.
You listened with attentive care,
And reassured my mind;
That loving hearts are still alive,
With purpose and design.
Deep inside, I’ve locked way,
Emotions yet untold;
As time goes on and bonds grow strong,
They will all unfold.
So thank you, friend, for taking time,
To demonstrate your love;
It’s yet another blessing that,
I’m undeserving of.

15. Poem by Langston Hughes

I loved my friend. 
He went away from me. 
There’s nothing more to say. 
The poem ends, 
Soft as it began—
I loved my friend. 

16. Sonnet 104 by William Shakespeare

To me, fair friend, you never can be old,
For as you were when first your eye I ey’d,
Such seems your beauty still. Three winters cold,
Have from the forests shook three summers’ pride,
Three beauteous springs to yellow autumn turn’d,
In process of the seasons, have I seen,
Three April perfumes in three hot Junes burn’d,
Since first I saw you fresh, which yet are green.
Ah! yet doth beauty like a dial-hand,
Steal from his figure, and no pace perceiv’d;
So your sweet hue, which methinks still doth stand,
Hath motion and mine eye may be deceiv’d:
For fear of which, hear this thou age unbred:
Ere you were born was beauty’s summer dead.

17. Love and Friendship by Emily Bronte

Love is like the wild rose-briar,
Friendship like the holly-tree—
The holly is dark when the rose-briar blooms
But which will bloom most constantly?

The wild rose-briar is sweet in spring,
Its summer blossoms scent the air;
Yet wait till winter comes again
And who will call the wild-briar fair?

Then scorn the silly rose-wreath now
And deck thee with the holly’s sheen,
That when December blights thy brow
He still may leave thy garland green.

18. I Should Not Dare to Leave My Friend by Emily Dickinson

I should not dare to leave my friend,
Because—because if he should die
While I was gone—and I—too late—
Should reach the Heart that wanted me—

If I should disappoint the eyes
That hunted—hunted so—to see—
And could not bear to shut until
They “noticed” me—they noticed me—

If I should stab the patient faith
So sure I’d come—so sure I’d come—
It listening—listening—went to sleep—
Telling my tardy name—

My Heart would wish it broke before—
Since breaking then—since breaking then—
Were useless as next morning’s sun—
Where midnight frosts—had lain!

19. Love by Erich Fried

I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.

I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.
I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out;

I love you
For putting your hand
Into my heaped-up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can’t help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.
I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern
But a temple;
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.
I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good,
And more than any fate
Could have done
To make me happy.

You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By being yourself.
Perhaps that is what
Being a friend means,
After all.

20. It Would Be Better by Eben E. Rexford

Oh, my friend, it would be better
If to those we love, we gave
Tender words while they were with us
Than to say them o’er a grave!

Many a heart is hungry, starving,
For a little word of love;
Speak it then, and as the sunshine
Gilds the lofty peaks above,

So the joy of those who hear it
Sends its radiance down life’s way,
And the world is brighter, better,
For the loving words we say.

Loving words will cost but little,
As along through life, we go;
Let us, then, make others happy—
If you love them, tell them so.

Poems About Lasting Friendships

Lots of friends come and go, but every once in a while, you’ll find a friendship that lasts through all of life’s ups and downs. These poems are about those friendships!

21. A Time to Talk by Robert Frost

When a friend calls to me from the road
And slows his horse to a meaning walk,
I don’t stand still and look around
On all the hills I haven’t hoed,
And shout from where I am, What is it?
No, not, as there is a time to talk.
I thrust my hoe in the mellow ground,
Blade-end up and five feet tall,
And plod: I go up to the stone wall
For a friendly visit.

22. Emblems of Friendship by John Imrie

Friendship is a golden band.
Linking life with life,
Heart to heart, and hand to hand,
The antidote to strife.

Friendship is a silken cord.
Beautiful and strong,
Guarding, by each kindly word,
Loving hearts from wrong.

Friendship is a beacon-light
On life’s rocky shore,
Brightest in our darkest night
When the breakers roar.

Friendship is an iron shield.
Where life’s cruel darts
Ever may be forced to yield
Ere they wound true hearts.

Friendship is the gift of God.
Freely to us given,
As the flowers that gem the sod,
Or the light of heaven!

23. To All My Friends by May Yang

That I could be this human at this time
breathing, looking, seeing, smelling

That I could be this moment at this time
resting, calmly moving, feeling

That I could be this excellence at this time
sudden, changed, peaceful, & woke

To all my friends who have been with me in weakness
when water falls rush down my two sides

To all my friends who have felt me in anguish
when this earthen back breaks between the crack of two blades

To all my friends who have held me in rage
when fire tears through, swallows behind tight grins

I know you
I see you 
I hear you

Although the world is silent around you

I know you
I see you 
I hear you

24. Your Catfish Friend by Richard Brautigan

If I were to live my life
in catfish forms
in scaffolds of skin and whiskers
at the bottom of a pond
and you were to come by
one evening
when the moon was shining
down into my dark home
and stand there at the edge
of my affection
and think, “It’s beautiful
here by this pond. I wish
somebody loved me,”
I’d love you and be your catfish
friend and drive such lonely
thoughts from your mind
and suddenly, you would be
at peace,
and ask yourself, “I wonder
if there are any catfish
in this pond? It seems like
a perfect place for them.”

25. Old Friends by Edgar Guest

I do not say new friends are not considerate and true,
Or that their smiles ain’t genuine, but, still, I’m tellin’ you
That when a feller’s heart is crushed and achin’ with the pain,
And teardrops come a-splashin’ down his cheeks like summer rain,
Becoz his grief an’ loneliness are more than he can bear,
Somehow it’s only old friends, then, that really seem to care.
The friends who’ve stuck through thick an’ thin, who’ve known you, good an’ bad,
Your faults an’ virtues, an’ have seen the struggles you have had,
When they come to you gentle-like an’ take your hand an’ say:
‘Cheer up! We’re with you still,’ it counts, for that’s the old friends’ way.

The new friends may be fond of you for what you are today;
They’ve only known you rich, perhaps, an’ only seen you gay;
You can’t tell what’s attracted them; your station may appeal;
Perhaps they smile on you because you’re doin’ something real;
But old friends who have seen you fail, an’ also seen you win,
Who’ve loved you either up or down, stuck to you, thick or thin,
Who knew you as a budding youth, an’ watched you start to climb,
Through weal an’ woe, still friends of yours an’ constant all the time,
When trouble comes an’ things go wrong, I don’t care what you say,
They are the friends you’ll turn to, for you want the old friends’ way.

The new friends may be richer, an’ more stylish, too, but when
Your heart is achin’ an’ you think your sun won’t shine again,
It’s not the riches of new friends you want, it’s not their style,
It’s not the airs of grandeur, then, it’s just the old friend’s smile,
The old hand that has helped before, stretched out once more to you,
The old words ringin’ in your ears, so sweet an’, Oh, so true!
The tenderness of folks who know just what your sorrow means,
These are the things on which, somehow, your spirit always leans.
When grief is poundin’ at your breast—the new friends disappear
An’ to the old ones tried an’ true, you turn for aid an’ cheer.

26. A Poison Tree by William Blake

I was angry with my friend:
I told my wrath, my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe:
I told it not, my wrath did grow.

And I watered it in fears
Night and morning, with my tears,
And I sunned it with smiles
And with soft deceitful wiles.

And it grew both day and night,
Till it bore an apple bright,
And my foe beheld it shine,
And he knew that it was mine—

And into my garden stole
When the night had veiled the pole;
In the morning, glad I see
My foe outstretched beneath the tree.

27. The Friend by Matt Hart

The friend lives half in the grass

and half in the chocolate cake,

walks over to your house in the bashful light

of November, or the forceful light of summer.

You put your hand on her shoulder,

or you put your hand on his shoulder.

The friend is indefinite. You are both

so tired; no one ever notices the sleeping bags

inside you and under your eyes when you’re talking

together about the glue of this life, the sticky

saturation of bodies into darkness. The friend’s crisis

of faith about faith is unnerving in its power

to influence belief, not in or toward some other

higher power, but away from all power in the grass

or the lake with your hand on her shoulder, your hand

on his shoulder. You tell the friend the best things

you can imagine, and every single one of them has

already happened, so you recount them

of great necessity with nostalgic, atomic ferocity,

and one by one by one until many. The eggbirds whistle

the gargantuan trees. The noiserocks fall twisted

into each other’s dreams, their colorful paratrooping,

their skinny dark jeans, little black walnuts

to the surface of this earth. You and the friend

remain twisted together, thinking your simultaneous

and inarticulate thoughts in physical lawlessness,

in chemical awkwardness. It is too much

to be so many different things at once. The friend

brings black hole candy to your lips, and jumping

off the rooftops of your city, the experience.

So much confusion — the several layers of exhaustion,

and being a friend with your hands in your pockets,

and the friend’s hands in your pockets.

O bitter black walnuts of this parachuted earth!

O gongbirds and appleflocks! The friend

puts her hand on your shoulder. The friend

puts his hand on your shoulder. You find

a higher power when you look.

28. On Friendship by Kahlil Gibran

And a youth said, Speak to us of Friendship.
    And he answered, saying:
    Your friend is your needs answered.
    He is your field, which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving.
    And he is your board and your fireside.
    For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace.

    When your friend speaks his mind, you fear not the “nay” in your own mind, nor do you withhold the “ay.”
    And when he is silent, your heart ceases not to listen to his heart;
    For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared with joy that is unacclaimed.
    When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
    For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.
    And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit.
    For love that seeks aught but the disclosure of its own mystery us not love but a net cast forth: and only the unprofitable is caught.

    And let your best be for your friend.
    If he must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also.
    For what is your friend that you should seek him with hours to kill?
    Seek him always with hours to live.
    For it is his to fill your need but not your emptiness.
    And in the sweetness of friendship, let there be laughter and sharing of pleasures.
    For in the dew of little things, the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.

29. We Have Been Friends Together by Caroline Elizabeth Sarah Norton

We have been friends together,
In sunshine and in shade;
Since first beneath the chestnut-trees
In infancy, we played.
But coldness dwells within thy heart,
A cloud is on thy brow;
We have been friends together—
Shall a light word part us now?

We have been gay together;
We have laugh’d at little jests;
For the fount of hope was gushing
Warm and joyous in our breasts.
But laughter now hath fled thy lip,
And sullen glooms thy brow;
We have been gay together—
Shall a light word part us now?

We have been sad together,
We have wept with bitter tears,
O’er the grass-grown graves, where slumber’d
The hopes of early years.
The voices, which are silent there;
Would bid thee clear thy brow;
We have been sad together—
Oh! what shall part us now?

30. Thank You Friend by Grace Noll Crowell

I never came to you, my friend,
and went away without
some new enrichment of the heart;
More faith and less of doubt,
more courage in the days ahead.
And often in great need coming to you,
I went away comforted indeed.
How can I find the shining word,
the glowing phrase that tells all that
your love has meant to me,
all that your friendship spells?
There is no word, no phrase for
you on whom I so depend.
All I can say to you is this,
God bless you, precious friend.

31. Success by Edgar A. Guest

I hold no dream of fortune vast,
Nor seek undying fame.
I do not ask when life is past
That many know my name.
I may not own the skill to rise
To glory’s topmost height,
Nor win a place among the wise,
But I can keep the right.
And I can live my life on earth
Contented to the end,
If but a few shall know my worth
And proudly call me friend.

32. The Arrow and the Song by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

I shot an arrow into the air,
It fell to earth; I knew not where;
For, so swiftly it flew, the sight
Could not follow it in its flight.

I breathed a song into the air,
It fell to earth; I knew not where;
For who has sight so keen and strong,
That it can follow the flight of song?

Long, long afterward, in an oak
I found the arrow, still unbroke;
And the song, from beginning to end,
I found again in the heart of a friend.

33. Alone by Maya Angelou

Lying, thinking
Last night
How to find my soul a home
Where water is not thirsty
And bread loaf is not stone
I came up with one thing
And I don’t believe I’m wrong
That nobody,
But nobody
Can make it out here alone.

Alone, all alone
Nobody, but nobody
Can make it out here alone.

There are some millionaires
With money they can’t use
Their wives run round like banshees
Their children sing the blues
They’ve got expensive doctors
To cure their hearts of stone.
But nobody
No, nobody
Can make it out here alone.

Alone, all alone
Nobody, but nobody
Can make it out here alone.

Now if you listen closely
I’ll tell you what I know
Storm clouds are gathering
The wind is gonna blow
The race of man is suffering
And I can hear the moan,
‘Cause nobody,
But nobody
Can make it out here alone.

Alone, all alone
Nobody, but nobody
Can make it out here alone.

Friendship Poems for Kids

Kids love friendship poems, and the following poems are just so cute! They will definitely give you that warm fuzzy feeling.

34. Hug O’ War by Shel Silverstein

“I will not play at tug o’ war.
I’d rather play at hug o’ war,
Where everyone hugs
Instead of tugs,
Where everyone giggles
And rolls on the rug,
Where everyone kisses,
And everyone grins,
And everyone cuddles,
And everyone wins.”

35. Us Two by A.A. Milne

Wherever I am, there’s always Pooh,
There’s always Pooh and Me.
Whatever I do, he wants to do,
“Where are you going today?” says Pooh:
“Well, that’s very odd ‘cos I was too.
Let’s go together,” says Pooh, says he.
“Let’s go together,” says Pooh.

“What’s twice eleven?” I said to Pooh.
(“Twice what?” said Pooh to Me.)
“I think it ought to be twenty-two.”
“Just what I think myself,” said Pooh.
“It wasn’t an easy sum to do,
But that’s what it is,” said Pooh, said he.
“That’s what it is,” said Pooh.

“Let’s look for dragons,” I said to Pooh.
“Yes, let’s,” said Pooh to Me.
We crossed the river and found a few—
“Yes, those are dragons, all right,” said Pooh.
“As soon as I saw their beaks, I knew.
That’s what they are,” said Pooh, said he.
“That’s what they are,” said Pooh.

“Let’s frighten the dragons,” I said to Pooh.
“That’s right,” said Pooh to Me.
“I’m not afraid,” I said to Pooh,
And I held his paw, and I shouted, “Shoo!
Silly old dragons!”—and off they flew.

“I wasn’t afraid,” said Pooh, said he,
“I’m never afraid with you.”

So wherever I am, there’s always Pooh,
There’s always Pooh and Me.
“What would I do?” I said to Pooh,
“If it wasn’t for you,” and Pooh said: “True,
It isn’t much fun for One, but Two,
Can stick together,” says Pooh, says he. “That’s how it is,” says Pooh.

36. How Many? How Much? by Shel Silverstein

How many slams in an old screen door?
Depends how loud you shut it.
How many slices in a bread?
Depends how thin you cut it.
How much good inside a day?
Depends how good you live ’em.
How much love inside a friend?
Depends how much you give ’em.

37. True Friend by Ashley Campbell

A friend is like a star that twinkles and glows
Or maybe like the ocean that gently flows.
A friend is like gold that you should treasure
And take care of forever and ever.
A friend is like an angel that is there to guide you.
A friend is someone you can trust out of a few.
A friend is more than one in a million.
They are one in a ca-zillion,
And you, my friend, are very special
and so it is official.

38. The Cake of Friendship by Michelle Flores

Preheat the oven of love

With plenty of secrets and hugs

Mix in giggles and laughs 

That make your sides split in half

Bake with the love and care

And all the things you both should share

Decorate with the frosting of trust

This is really a must

Enjoy the cake, do not eat it fast

Just like your new friendship, make it last. 

39. If I Could Catch a Rainbow by Sandra Lewis Pringle

If I could catch a rainbow, I would do it, just for you,
And, share with you, its beauty, on the days you’re feeling blue.
If I could, I would build a mountain, you could call your very own.
A place to find serenity, a place just to be alone.

If I could, I would take your troubles, and toss them into the sea.
But, all these things, I’m finding, are impossible for me.

I cannot build a mountain, or catch a rainbow fair;
but, let me be, what I know best,
A Friend, who’s always there.

I promise to defend you, should the occasion ever rise,
And, I promise to wipe away the tears,
which might stream from your weeping eyes.

Let me be the trusted Friend, the one that you know best.
I will never leave you, on that, you can surely rest.

40. My Best Friend by Abby Jenkins

Black and white
Thick and furry
Fast as the wind
Always in a hurry
Couple of spots
Rub my ears
Always comes when his name he hears
Loves his ball; it’s his favorite thing
What’s most fun for him? Everything!
Great big tongue that licks my face
Has a crate, his very own space
Big brown eyes like moon pies
He’s my friend till the very end!

There’s an old Irish proverb that says, “A good friend is like a four-leaf clover: hard to find and lucky to have.” Isn’t that the truth? Luckily for you, poems about friendship aren’t hard to find with this amazing list! We hope this list warmed your heart and renewed your own desire to be a good friend to others. Until next time, friends!

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Say the word nerd and the image of a socially awkward bookworm pops up in your head. So, it comes as no major surprise that dating a nerd can feel quite bewildering to some people. Sometimes these shy, introverted people, who barely make eye contact, seem so into their books that they come off as boring. But boy, is that wrong!

Do not be deceived by their demure demeanours. Once comfortable in your presence, they can blossom into the coolest friends and the most amazing romantic partners. I guarantee you will end up saying, “He’s a nerd, but I like him”. Curious about what it feels like dating a geeky guy? Here are a few things you should know before you step into their world of magic.

11 Things To Know When Dating A Nerd

The 80’s and 90’s media stereotyped geeks as men and women with pasty-looking skin, thick black glasses and braces. You don’t have to look too hard to find out exactly how far away from the truth that stereotype is. Think Elon Musk, Henry Cavill, Margot Robbie, Anne Hathaway and Joe Manganiello. But what really makes them so special is not their looks but their personalities. Here are some things you should know before you think of dating a nerdy man.

1. Nerdy guys like staying in

Most nerdy guys are introverted. They are more likely to stay at home and play video games or read manga than go out partying all night long. While there is no denying that for a lot of people, this is not the definition of fun, to those who have outgrown the nightclub scene, dating a nerd is as good as it gets.

Imagine curling up on a sofa together with a glass of wine, you’re reading A Tale of Two Cities and he’s reading One Piece. Or you happily indulging in a self-care routine while he plays Dungeons & Dragons. Paints quite the picture, doesn’t it? One of the biggest perks of dating a nerd is while he is ok going out, he will be equally content staying in and spending quality time with you.

2. They are not superficial

Let’s be honest, we all like looking good and seeing good-looking people. There is nothing wrong with that. But when a relationship is built on the foundations of mere appearances, it becomes a superficial relationship. This is not a problem that you will be facing when you are dating a nerd.

You might catch them staring at you in awe with hearts in their eyes, marvelling at your beauty and wondering how they got so lucky to have landed you but that’s not the only answer to what do nerdy guys find attractive. They will be equally interested in what you think about the Cold War or the possibility of time travel. Your opinion and your thoughts will matter to them.

Related Reading: 15 Signs He Finds You Irresistible

3. They are passionate

Nancy always found Bret to be the timid guy who stayed calm and avoided confrontations. It was this quality of his that made Bret seem extremely cool and mysterious. He was a sweetheart who loved his comic books and superheroes. Nancy liked him a lot but assumed that there would never be any fireworks between them. Until the day The Avengers: Endgame hit the screens.

Nancy had never seen Bret like this. He was so excited, he could barely sit still on the way to the movie. Throughout the journey, he kept talking about all the characters and that was the first time she caught a glimpse of how passionate Bret was about the things he liked. And later that night, she experienced the rest of it. It was all the fireworks she had hoped for but thought she would never share with Bret.

One of the best pro tips for dating a nerd that pop culture gets right: dressing up as Princess Leia from Star Wars will definitely have him drooling all over you.

4. You can be sure of their loyalty

Loyalty in a relationship is an essential aspect of any relationship, be it between lovers or friends. If you have ever wondered are nerds loyal, then let me tell you. One of the biggest perks of dating a nerd is that they are loyal to the core. You will rarely find a more loyal and reliable friend or partner than them.

All the books like The Lord of the Rings and Harry Potter where good overcomes evil portray rightly how loyal nerds can be. Even games like Mario where the little Italian guy goes to save his princess. They have this innate urge to stand up for what is good and right. So, if you are dating an awkward nerd, then know for sure that he has a knight inside him who is willing to fight dragons to save you.

5. Nerdy guys are intelligent

There’s one thing that you can safely assume when dating a nerd. That your geeky man is smart. Nerds are known for having a high IQ. They have spent the majority of their life focused on acquiring in-depth knowledge of things that they like. Along with being intelligent, they are also hard-working and give their best in their chosen field.

When you are dating a nerdy man you get to build intellectual intimacy in the relationship. He will not only tell you about the stars in the sky, but he will also point out the constellations and tell you the romantic story behind the names of each of the constellations. This is one of the biggest perks of dating a nerd, you will learn something new every day.

6. They do not have a playbook

Geeky guys love playing all kinds of games, on their phones, on their computers, on their television etc. but there is one thing that they never play with and that is someone’s feelings. If you are having thoughts like he is a nerd but I like him but you are also simultaneously wondering, “Are nerds loyal?”, then worry no further because the answer is yes.

Along with being sensitive, nerds happen to be very empathetic. So, the chances of them not appreciating your love and cheating on you are very rare. Nerds know when they have something beautiful going and appreciate it from the bottom of their hearts.

7. Genuine to the core

Nerds are quite aware of the fact that they are considered geeky. They are also aware of the social stigma that comes with being called a geek but they never let that affect them. When you are dating a nerd you will realize that they are actually quite self-aware and they have accepted themselves and love themselves just the way they are.

However, you might even wonder what nerds find attractive in a person. The answer is, a person who is genuine. Nerds cannot fake their feelings or emotions. They are true and honest to everyone around them. They expect and appreciate the same from their partners as well.

Related Reading: How To Differentiate Between Love Bombing And Genuine Care

8. You will be loved

One of the best perks of dating a nerd is that you will receive unconditional love from them. Nerds can be very strange, as a result, they are also very accepting of other people’s individuality. You do not need to shy away from a nerd. When you are dating a nerd, you are given enough space mentally and physically to be your true authentic self.

Being vulnerable in front of someone can be very difficult for a person. Your nerdy partner understands that. And will love you in spite of all your weirdness.

9. Nerdy guys can be sensitive

Along with high IQ, nerds also have a high EQ. Nerds can be very perceptive and will pick up on your moods in an instant. They might have been bullied a lot in their teen years. This makes them learn to be observant and recognize other people’s moods early on. As a result, they also end up being very compassionate and empathetic in their relationships.

So if you are dating a nerd, your feelings will be heard and your emotions will be validated. Nerds appreciate vulnerability and you and your emotions will be given their due worth.

10. Chances of a stable future are high

Nerds are essentially very hard-working people. They tend to give every subject its due importance during childhood; all that effort and hard work pays off in their adult years.

In today’s time where machines play such an important role, it is these nerds who have a steady and regular income and are able to excel and do well for themselves in their adult life.

Related Reading: How Money Issues Can Ruin Your Relationship

11. They are full of surprises

Talking to a nerd can never be boring. Their interests are so varied and so deep-rooted that you can delve into any subject at any time and have deep and meaningful conversations. They might often come off as socially awkward or anxious but they can also be very romantic and display their affection through little meaningful romantic gestures.

Their self-awareness and the willingness to grow and develop as a person makes them mature, smart and kind.

Dating a nerdy man can be a very exciting experience. Not only are these men smart and sensitive, but they also accept you and all your imperfections. They are capable of making the most mundane days interesting and fun.

No relationship is perfect and every relationship requires effort and time. If there is anyone out there who is willing to invest time and effort to make a relationship work, there are high chances it is going to be your geeky partner. So, what are you waiting for? Ask out that sweet man who keeps looking at you but is too shy to make a move. And get ready to have an adventure of a lifetime.

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In this blog, we’ll explore the science of seduction and what happens when a woman becomes attracted to a man.

The intricate dance of biochemistry, hormones, and human psychology creates a potent mix that drives us to form connections with others.

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Pheromones: The Invisible Scent of Attraction

Although humans don’t have the same sophisticated sense of smell as some animals, we still rely on pheromones to communicate attraction.

These are chemical signals that are released by our bodies and detected by others, often subconsciously.

While the role of pheromones in human attraction is still debated, some studies suggest that they may influence a woman’s attraction to a man.

Action steps to increase chemical signals:

• Maintain good hygiene and grooming
• Regular showering, wearing clean clothes
• Using a subtle scent or cologne

Dopamine: The Pleasure Pathway

One of the most important neurotransmitters involved in attraction is dopamine.

This chemical messenger is responsible for generating feelings of pleasure, reward, and motivation.

When a woman is attracted to a man, her brain releases dopamine, creating a pleasurable sensation that reinforces her desire to be near him.

The increase in dopamine levels is also responsible for the feelings of excitement and euphoria that often accompany the early stages of attraction.

Action steps to increase dopamine:

• Engage her in exciting and enjoyable activities that stimulate her brain’s pleasure center
• Planning fun dates, trying new experiences together, or pursuing shared hobbies and interests
• Engaging in stimulating conversation and making her laugh can also release dopamine

Norepinephrine: Fueling the Flames of Passion

Norepinephrine, another neurotransmitter, plays a crucial role in the attraction process.

It is responsible for the “butterflies in the stomach” sensation and heightened alertness that often accompany romantic feelings.

This adrenaline-like chemical increases heart rate and blood flow, giving a woman a burst of energy and focus when she is attracted to a man.

The surge of norepinephrine also contributes to the feelings of nervousness and excitement that characterize new romantic connections.

Action steps to increase norepinephrine:

• Create an environment of excitement and novelty
• Planning adventurous outings, such as hiking, amusement park visits, or trying a new sport
• Step outside of your comfort zone and engage in activities that create a sense of excitement and anticipation

Oxytocin: Building Trust and Attachment

Oxytocin, often referred to as the “love hormone,” is released during physical touch and intimacy.

When a woman becomes attracted to a man, her brain may produce oxytocin, encouraging her to form a deep emotional connection with him.

This hormone is known to promote trust, empathy, and bonding between romantic partners, fostering a sense of closeness and security.

Action steps to increase oxytocin:

• Being open, honest, and empathetic in his communication
• Engaging in deep, meaningful conversations can help build trust
• Physical touch, such as hugs, holding hands, or cuddling, can also encourage the release of oxytocin

Serotonin: The Happiness Booster

Serotonin, a neurotransmitter responsible for regulating mood, plays a role in maintaining emotional stability and happiness within a relationship.

When a woman is attracted to a man, her serotonin levels may increase, boosting her overall mood and sense of well-being.

This can make her feel more positive and content in the presence of her romantic interest.

Action steps to increase serotonin:

Conclusion

The biochemistry of attraction is a complex and intriguing process.

It involves multiple hormones and neurotransmitters working together to create feelings of desire, excitement, and attachment.

When a woman becomes attracted to a man, her body undergoes a series of chemical reactions that not only create pleasurable sensations but also encourage the formation of deep emotional bonds.

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If you believe in the power of zodiac signs, then there is no denying that you’d want to know whom to stay away from in this list of the worst zodiac sign to date. Of course, you shouldn’t make sun signs the primary criteria for rejection. But in a generic sense, there are certain traits because of which a few zodiacs are hard to date for you personally.

Have you ever observed that there are certain people you just don’t get along with, and all of them seem to have similar personalities or behavior? This is why some of the worst zodiac sign couples might be together but would eventually end up separating due to their clashing traits.

In this article, we have listed the 8 worst zodiacs to date with the help of Nishi Ahlawat, a certified astrologer and relationship coach, who throws light on the role of zodiac signs in your dating life.

Who Is The Worst Zodiac Sign To Date For You? Expert Answers

According to Nishi “Zodiac signs play a significant role in dating life. The zodiac traits of a person can help you understand how they will behave or look at a situation while dating you.” 

Hence, the worst zodiac sign to date for you would depend on what your own astrological sign is. In this list, we have listed the 8 worst zodiacs to date for specific signs and why they should avoid being in a relationship with each other: 

1. Aries and Scorpio 

Scorpio sun signs are hard to date for Aries. Explosive, aggressive, and confrontational are words that describe an Aries man/Scorpio woman pairing, which is excellent if you’re lovers in a Shakespeare play but bad in real life. Both signs have strong personalities and a desire to be in charge.

According to Nishi, “They both have Mars energy. This can lead to doubly intense situations between them which becomes really difficult for them to handle in the long run.” 

2. Taurus and Aries 

This is probably one of the most toxic zodiac couples because of their starkly different personalities and needs. Once one digs their heels in due to the stubbornness of Taurus and the obstinacy of Aries man, neither of them will budge. 

“Due to Mars’s energy, Aries are passionate and aggressive in nature and also a bit impulsive with people and money matters which Taurus doesn’t like as they believe in patience and giving time before deciding to do anything,” says Nishi. As a result, these two signs make one of the worst zodiac sign couples and are likely to end on a bad note.

Related Reading: 11 Warning Signs Of A Toxic Relationship

3. Gemini and Cancer 

Geminis are gregarious people. They’re charming, great flirts, and have no trouble making friends with anyone. Everyone wants to meet the life of the party, which is a Gemini. On the other hand, Cancer tends to be a more reserved zodiac.

Nishi says, “Cancer (the water sign) can get overly emotional and insecure at times which can easily make the carefree and charming Gemini (the air sign) uncomfortable.” 

A Gemini woman is the worst female zodiac sign to date for a Cancer because of their distinct lifestyle and temperaments. They prefer to stay at home and speak only to a few people. When your partner likes to stay in and watch movies on the weekends while you want to go out, as a Gemini, you will immediately see this as a problematic fit.

4. Cancer and Aquarius 

Why is Aquarius one of the worst signs to date for Cancer? Because Aquarius is more of a free spirit and Cancer is a homebody. Cancer may feel that they don’t need Aquarius because they are so independent, but Cancer wants to know that someone is entirely devoted to them. 

Nishi further explains, “Again, there is air energy and water energy, and air doesn’t mix well with water. There is more depth and seriousness in Cancer while Aquarius wants to be free and doesn’t like to lose their freedom.”

Additionally, a Cancer won’t appreciate it if Aquarius corrects them or calls their attention to a mistake they’ve made, which they’re extremely likely to do.

5. Leo and Pisces 

This couple is the primary example of signs that are worse together. Leo can be testing and also tends to enjoy being pampered and admired because they are a royal sun sign. Pisces can help to make them feel special, yet they can also be incredibly elusive. 

According to Nishi, the reason these signs are worse together is that “Leo is a fire sign and due to the sun’s energy it likes to dominate and be independent. Whereas Pisces, the water sign, is a dreamer and gets hurt easily with harshness and dominance.”

Leo also seeks total loyalty and commitment. However, Pisces has a wandering eye. When the highs are so high, it’s a recipe for treachery and damaged sentiments. Once the honeymoon phase is finished, this relationship is a textbook example of things going south.

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6. Virgo and Aries 

Virgo and Aries just don’t have enough in common, aside from the fact that they both strive for perfection making them one of the most toxic zodiac couples. The Virgo is incredibly structured and enjoys meticulously preparing every detail of their life, whereas the Aries are impulsive and live in the moment. 

This zodiac sign is hard to date for Aries because “Virgo is more practical and a sharp observer. The impulsive Aries doesn’t like this energy and gets uncomfortable when Virgo tries to watch their every move and becomes critical,” says Nishi.

What also makes Aries one of the worst female zodiac signs to date or the worst male sun sign specifically for a Virgo is that Virgo men enjoy serving others, whereas Aries enjoy making decisions and reaping the rewards. If you’re into a BDSM dynamic, this is fantastic.

However, if you want a more conventional kind of relationship, this dynamic can turn abusive, especially if the Aries is a bully and the Virgo is unable to stand up for themselves.

8. Libra and Virgo

Most signs can get along with Libras, but Virgo is definitely the worst zodiac sign to date for this earth sign. Virgo is far too judgmental for Libra. One trait Virgos can’t stand in Libras is their flightiness and capriciousness. 

Although it might seem enjoyable at first, Virgo is all about efficiency while the Libras waste a lot of time. People frequently push and pull Libras in opposite directions. Also, even if their sexual relationship starts out great, very traditional, and passionate, it will eventually become monotonous for both of them.

9. Scorpio and Gemini 

It’s understandable why Gemini might capture Scorpio’s attention. They have a knack for making a Scorpio feel understood and are intelligent and charming. A Scorpio finds their encounters with them to be quite enlightening as they’re one of the zodiac signs that are the most misunderstood. Gemini often uses mental tricks to gauge other people, just like Scorpios tend to be master manipulators.

The reason that Gemini is one of the worst male zodiac signs to date or the worst female sun sign specifically for a Scorpio is that they’ll be curious to find out how advanced these games may get. Scorpio also craves intense emotional closeness, whilst Gemini would rather only show them their superficial appeal. While it lasts, this connection won’t be worth expending too much emotional energy on.

Nishi further explains, “Gemini just wants to be free. They are fickle-minded too and are mostly confused. They don’t know what they want most of the time. This is exactly what a Scorpio (the sign that believes in stability and consistency) doesn’t like at all.”

Related Reading: Manipulation In Relationships – 11 Subtle Signs You Are A Victim

9. Sagittarius and Taurus 

Sagittarius is constantly eager to get out and do something exciting, but Taurus occasionally prefers a quiet evening at home. Taurus does not have much fun playing mind games like a Sagittarian, who is stimulated by mental challenges and drama.

“Taurus has earth energy which likes stability and consistency which the intense fire energy of Sagittarius fails to match,” says Nishi. Sagittarius is simply too much for Taurus to handle. 

Sagittarians don’t take things seriously because they’ve been in several past relationships. Their flair for the dramatics and a lack of commitment makes Sagittarius one of the worst signs to date for a Taurus.

10. Capricorn and Gemini 

Gemini zodiac signs are hard to date for a Capricorn. Gemini requires a lot of conversation and jumps around from one assignment to another. Capricorns, who always complete what they begin, are perplexed by this. 

There is too much discussion, shifting, and changing, which makes the Caps lose faith. Like Geminis, they prefer to know what their next course of action will be and do not really enjoy change. This might work for a little while, though, if a Cap is looking for an uncommitted fling.

11. Aquarius and Scorpio 

Scorpios confound Aquarians, who struggle to comprehend why they are unable to perceive things from their perspective. This is one of the most toxic zodiac couples and it will end in tears if these two even start a discussion that develops into any kind of relationship.

An intelligent zodiac, the Scorpio does not care for the child-like curiosity and free-spirited nature of the Aquarius. They crave a mental connection,

When Scorpio tries to convince them to settle down, Aquarians might become passive-aggressive and demand their freedom. Scorpio will become silent and fall into a sullen state. Scorpio is emotionally more open than an Aquarius and would wait for the latter to commit while being tied down is definitely undesirable for the free-spirited Aquarius.

Related Reading: 8 Most Unemotional And Cold Zodiac Signs

12. Pisces and Libra 

A Pisces would have a difficult time getting along with Libras. Pisces, a water sign, is adaptable and though this appears to be a good match for either of these gregarious, joyful signs, Pisces actually values solitude more than Libra. 

These two signs wouldn’t know how to handle the barrage of emotions that might come from a Pisces who is hurt or even delighted. Pisceans would feel horribly emotionally unsupported in these relationships. There is also the issue of adultery, which negatively affects Libras, and Pisces particularly.

This brings us to the end of our list of the 8 worst signs to date. You shouldn’t solely rely on astrology when it comes to love and relationships but it is always better to consider this factor and avoid zodiac signs that are hard to date for your personality. 

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In this article, we will explore how ecological principles can be applied to increase your chances of getting a girl to kiss you.

When considering the factors that contribute to attraction and romantic connections, it’s essential not to overlook the role of the environment.

Ecology, the study of how organisms interact with their surroundings, can offer valuable insights into the dynamics of human attraction.

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Niche Selection: Finding the Right Environment

In ecology, the niche of an organism refers to its specific role and place within an ecosystem.

Similarly, in the realm of human attraction, the environment you choose to engage with a potential romantic partner can significantly impact the outcome of your interaction.

• Selecting an environment where both you and the girl feel comfortable and relaxed, such as a cozy café, park, or familiar social setting. These can create a positive atmosphere conducive to building a connection.

Resource Availability: Demonstrating Abundance

Ecological systems are often influenced by the availability of resources, such as food, shelter, and mating opportunities.

In dating, demonstrating an abundance of resources, such as emotional support, financial stability, or social connections, can make you a more appealing partner.

• By showcasing your ability to provide and share valuable resources, you can increase your attractiveness to a potential romantic partner.

Adaptability: Responding to Environmental Changes

Adaptability is a key ecological principle, as organisms must respond to changes in their environment to survive and thrive.

In the context of human attraction, being adaptable means being able to adjust your behavior and communication style to suit the preferences and needs of the girl you’re interested in.

• Listening actively, being open to feedback, and demonstrating flexibility can create a more harmonious connection, increasing the chances of a romantic encounter.

Symbiosis: Building Mutualistic Relationships

Symbiosis refers to the close, long-term interaction between different species, often resulting in mutual benefits.

In relationships, developing a symbiotic connection with a potential romantic partner involves fostering trust, respect, and cooperation.

• By working together to achieve common goals and providing support to one another, you can create a strong bond that encourages physical intimacy, such as kissing.

Environmental Cues: Timing and Context

Ecological systems are often influenced by environmental cues, such as changes in temperature or light, which can trigger specific behaviors in organisms.

In dating, paying attention to context and timing can be crucial for a successful romantic encounter.

Be sensitive to the girl’s mood, the atmosphere of your surroundings, and any verbal or nonverbal cues she might be giving.

• Choosing the right moment to initiate a kiss can significantly impact the outcome of your interaction.

Conclusion

By applying ecological principles to the realm of human attraction, you can better understand the environmental factors that contribute to romantic connections.

Focus on niche selection, resource availability, adaptability, symbiosis, and environmental cues to increase your chances of getting a girl to kiss you.

Ultimately, fostering a genuine connection, respecting the girl’s boundaries, and being attentive to her needs will be the foundation of any successful romantic endeavor.

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Everyone whispers. That’s what I learned as I set out to find different birth control options that are available and photograph them for our Special Issue, Panic! At the Pharmacy.

I traveled from Washington, D.C. to Atlanta and stopped at clinics and city and state health departments—even one of my previous general practitioners—but hit roadblock after roadblock. Along the way, I found folks who were familiar with Rewire News Group and our work but who were largely terrified to even talk about accessing birth control.

That’s the post-Roe reality we’re living in: Discreet reproductive health-care access in states where abortion has already been banned is nearly impossible without providing information that might lead authorities to the person in question.

So the tone of this photo diary shifted from documenting what your options are to what options are available over the counter—and without divulging your life story. As someone from the South, I’ve known that none of these states are places where people shout about contraception or reproductive care.

Conservatives are coming for your birth control. We’ve been talking about that at Rewire News Group for some time now, and with the Supreme Court overturning Roe v. Wade last June, that time is now here. In this current climate even the accurate portrayal of scientific information can be a radical act.

The first thing I was able to get my hands on was a series of birth control pamphlets from a clinic. What struck me most was how some of this literature reminds us that birth control is used to prevent pregnancy for some, but for others, it’s lifesaving medication to treat other illnesses and conditions.

For decades, this was how most people who needed birth control received it—as multiple blister packs with a plastic case for travel.

The Greenville County Health Department in Greenville, South Carolina handed me condoms rolled up in a paper bag, taped tightly shut.

Traditional pill-based birth control comes with a week’s worth of hormone-free pills for the week a person menstruates. As a teen, I was often told to “skip the sugar pills” to prevent my period from coming at all as part of treatment for my extremely painful periods. My doctor at the time referred to it as “stacking my birth control.”

Elizabeth’s birth control method is the NuvaRing, which she doesn’t use as a prophylactic but as treatment for hormone imbalance that severely impacts her mental health. According to the Kaiser Family Foundation, nearly 1 in 5 women use contraception for reasons other than preventing pregnancy.

Due to various insurance issues, Elizabeth, whose last name is being withheld for privacy, said she “ultimately had to go two months without it and [my mental health] was not good.”

An online pharmacy is now the only way she can fill her NuvaRing prescription, which means they’re shipped to her year-round, including during the summer. When it’s delivered, Elizabeth only has a small window to put it into the refrigerator for temperature control, which often means she has to spend the days she’s expecting it waiting at home, because her insurance won’t cover more if the prescription is ruined in transit.

Emergency contraceptive is still available over the counter, for now. But as we’ve seen in the years leading to the fall of Roe v. Wade, conservatives and the religious right are coming for all of your birth control.

Keira Knightley’s dating history dates back to her teenage years when she was rumoured to be dating her co-star from her first movie, The Hole, Thora Birch. However, both Birch and Knightley have denied the rumours and maintained that they were just good friends.

Keira Knightley is an accomplished actress known for her roles in blockbuster movies such as Pirates of the Caribbean, Pride & Prejudice and Atonement. While her career is impressive, her love life has also been the subject of much speculation and interest.

Knightley has been linked to several high-profile celebrities, including actors Jamie Dornan, Rupert Friend, and Orlando Bloom. Several high-profile relationships and breakups, each making headlines in the media, have marked her dating history.

Early Relationships and Rumors

After The Hole, Knightley appeared in several other movies, including Bend It, like Beckham and Love Actually, where she caught the attention of many young men. In 2003, she began dating model and actor Jamie Dornan, whom she met through a mutual friend. The couple dated for two years before calling it quits in 2005.

In 2004, Knightley was also linked to actor Del Synnott, whom she met on the set of their movie, The Jacket. However, the relationship was short-lived, and the two parted ways after a few months.

The Early Years: Jamie Dornan and Del Synnott

Knightley’s dating life began to make headlines in the early 2000s when she was still a relative newcomer to Hollywood. Her first serious relationship was with Irish actor and model Jamie Dornan. The couple met on the set of a photo shoot and quickly hit it off. They began dating in 2003 and were together for two years before calling it quits.

After her split from Dornan, Knightley began dating British actor Del Synnott. The couple kept their relationship relatively private, but they were together for two years before breaking up in 2005. Despite the breakup, Knightley has spoken fondly of Synnott in interviews and has credited him with helping her navigate the ups and downs of Hollywood.

Pirates of the Caribbean and Orlando Bloom

One of Keira Knightley’s most high-profile relationships was with actor Orlando Bloom, whom she met on the Pirates of the Caribbean: The Curse of the Black Pearl in 2003. The chemistry between Knightley and Bloom was palpable on screen, and rumours quickly began to circulate that the two were dating in real life.

Although the couple never officially confirmed their relationship, they were frequently photographed together and were rumoured to be engaged at one point. However, the couple ultimately broke up in 2007, citing conflicting schedules and the pressures of fame for their split.

Relationship with Rupert Friend

Keira Knightley’s most high-profile relationship to date was with actor Rupert Friend, whom she met on the set of their movie Pride & Prejudice. The couple started dating in 2005 and remained together for five years before calling it quits in 2010.

Knightley and Friend were known for their intimate and low-key relationship during their time together, rarely appearing in public. However, they were often seen attending events and premieres together. Their chemistry onscreen was evident to everyone who watched them.

Their relationship came to an end in 2010. While the couple never publicly announced the reason for their split, rumours suggested that their busy schedules and long-distance relationship played a significant role in their breakup.

Relationship with James Righton

After her split from Rupert Friend, Knightley started dating musician James Righton, whom she met through mutual friends. The couple started dating in early 2011 and were engaged by May of the same year. They married in May 2013 in a private ceremony in southern France.

Righton is the lead vocalist of the British indie rock band, Klaxons. He and Knightley have always been very private about their relationship, and little is known about their life together. 

However, Knightley opened up about her married life in an interview with Elle UK, saying that she and Righton have a “boring” marriage, but in a good way. “I’m thrilled with our boring married life,” she said. “I love my husband. He’s brilliant, and we’re very happily married.”

Family Life

In May 2015, Knightley and Righton welcomed their first child, a daughter named Edie. The couple has been notoriously private about their family life and has rarely shared photos or details about their daughter with the media.

Looking Ahead: What’s Next for Keira Knightley?

Today, Knightley is a successful actress and a dedicated mother. She has continued to work in Hollywood, starring in films like Colette and The Aftermath in recent years. While she has kept her personal life relatively private in recent years. Knightley remains one of the industry’s most talented and sought-after actresses.

In an interview with The Telegraph, Knightley explained her decision to keep her family private: “I want her to have a normal life. So, we don’t talk about it to the press. I think it’s a choice. I think you do have a choice.”

In September 2018, Keira Knightley gave birth to her second child, a daughter named Delilah. Again, the couple kept the news of their daughter’s birth private and has since been focused on raising their family away from the public.

Reference:  Keira Knightley’s Dating History 

Having a selfish husband is a real predicament. Just the other day when I was traveling in public transport, I eavesdropped on the conversation of two women. While one said, “My husband is selfish in bed”, the other complained, “My partner makes big decisions without me”. As these two miserable women discussed the signs of an ungrateful husband, I could not help but sympathize with them.

When it comes to relationships, what if the other person only takes and never gives back? Life can become suffocating and frustrating, especially when you are tied in a marital knot with this man!

Why Do Men Become Selfish?

A selfish personality could be an inherent trait or maybe a zodiac sign weakness. It could also be a result of certain developments in life. There could be a number of reasons behind selfishness in marriage:

• Childhood experiences: Being the only child could mean he never learnt the concept of ‘sharing’, be it food/books/toys/physical space. Or maybe he had siblings who never understood him. As a result of that insecurity, complexes were formed and he eventually became an inconsiderate husband
• Birth of a child: When a couple has a child, it’s only natural for the woman’s attention to be focused on her newborn baby. This can leave the husband feeling left out. He constantly craves and demands attention and this can often translate into extremely selfish behavior
• Work stress: Every marriage gets monotonous after a point. When the husband is under extreme stress at work, he starts expecting and demanding more at home. When he is unable to have his needs met, the disappointment eventually grows into a disregard for others. And he becomes a selfish husband
• Male chauvinism: Some men have stereotypical mindsets due to their upbringing and cultural influences. He always wants to have an upper hand in everything and fights to have a superior position. They simply cannot tolerate it when their wives are ambitious or have flourishing careers. This gives rise to an inferiority complex that causes them to lash out

Related Reading: 13 Signs You Are The Selfish One In The Relationship

Top 15 Signs Of A Selfish Husband

Have you ever thought to yourself, “My partner makes big decisions without me” or “My husband only cares about himself”? It can really affect your self-esteem when your husband is not affectionate. Here are some top signs of a self-centered husband:

1. He doesn’t take interest in your interests

Natalie, a homemaker in her 30s, says, “My husband, Patrick, leads with the assumption that his career is more important and expects me to follow him around wherever his work takes him. Does he even care that I need to stay close to my friends and family? I hardly think so. Is my husband a narcissist or just selfish?”

Just like Patrick, here are some selfish husband signs:

• Doesn’t bother about your interests and dreams
• Isn’t a patient listener and rarely pays attention to you, all the while expecting you to listen to him
• Is only concerned about his needs and his well-being

2. He is always the boss

A selfish man possesses the following red flags:

• Is dominating in the relationship and unwilling to compromise on even the smallest of issues
• Lashes out on minor inconveniences
• Wants the perfect food, perfect bed linen, the towels in place, and his wardrobe in order

This bossy attitude can make your partner rude and inconsiderate toward you too. If you find yourself living with the realization, “My husband is only nice when he wants something”, it’s one of the typical signs of a bad husband.

3. He decides for you

One of the signs of a selfish husband is that he tends to believe that you are not capable of taking charge. You won’t find him considering your opinion on small things. For instance, if you’re going out to dinner date, he’ll decide the place on his own. Once you’re at the restaurant, he may go ahead and order for you as well without thinking of asking about your preferences. Even when buying gifts for wife or husband, he will buy you what he wants and never considers your likes/dislikes.

Related Reading: 8 Signs You Have A Controlling And Manipulative Husband

4. A selfish husband never says sorry

According to mindfulness coach Pooja Priyamvada, “Taking accountability in a healthy marriage means that you share your part of the responsibility to make that marriage work in a functional and healthy way.” A self-absorbed husband avoids taking accountability in the following ways:

• He goes into victim mode whenever fingers are pointed at him
• He never takes time to introspect/reflect on his selfish behavior
• He is receptive to criticism and lashes out if you point out his mistakes 

Are you the one who has to make up after every fight and disagreement no matter who is at fault? The voice in your head screaming “My husband is selfish” is absolutely on point. If you are eager to know how to teach a lesson to selfish husband, perhaps you should give him a taste of his own medicine. It’s high time you stop being apologetic about every minor clash and put an end to walking on eggshells around him.

5. He is ungrateful

Is there anything more heartbreaking and exhausting than living with an unappreciative husband? In every relationship, both partners demand (read: deserve) a little bit of gratitude and acknowledgment from their better half. But if you have a selfish husband on your hands, he will be as inconsiderate as ever.

No matter what you do to make your husband happy, he is forever ungrateful . You will never hear him thanking you for your romantic gestures. He thinks taking you for granted is his birthright. How to deal with a selfish husband? Well, as long as you don’t put your foot down and assert yourself, this pattern is not going to change.

6. He doesn’t reach out after a fight

A selfish person almost inevitably has certain narcissistic tendencies, which fuel their desire to always be on the winning side. Rebecca shares with us, “Every discussion with my husband transforms into an argument in no time. And he has this magical power to manipulate me into believing that I am the one to blame for everything. There is no winning with him!”

Many of us, like Rebecca, unfortunately may have a partner who is selfish in marriage. At the end of an argument, he will be unwilling to initiate a resolution. Chances are you will always have to be the one approaching him first after a fight in the hopes of making amends.

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7. He always criticizes you

As a loving husband, your partner should be bringing out the best in you by showing you the error of your ways and encouraging you to be the best version of yourself. But there is a huge difference between correcting and criticizing. If your partner is always belittling you and making you feel worthless, these are the traits of a selfish husband.

8. He can’t even do the bare minimum

A Reddit user wrote, “My husband makes everything about himself. I got no mothers day gift, but he got himself a new boat motor. Not even a card. He can’t help much with bills, but he can buy tons of things for his different hobbies. We’re 5 years in and I’m already burnt out. He won’t go to therapy. Ugh. I can only scream into the void for so long.”

As she mentions, even a cute card as a compliment is enough to make someone happy. A little admiration with affirmative words like “You look beautiful today” can certainly go a long way. Sadly, if your husband is selfish, it is possible that he almost never compliments you for any of your exceptional qualities (like how well you take care of the children). Don’t expect him to buy you a dress because he feels it will look good on you. We are afraid to break it to you but that’s the last thing on his mind.

9. No displays of affection

As they say, “A warm hug can make everything all right.” Cuddling with each other, holding hands, resting on your hubby’s shoulders, or looking into each other’s eyes are all very meaningful gestures that increase the intimacy in a relationship. However, with a self-centered spouse, such displays of affection are few and far between.

10. He avoids communication

For a relationship to thrive, open communication is the key. Good communication in relationships doesn’t necessarily mean talking for hours on end. It is simply about being able to express your thoughts/worries/concerns honestly and openly to your spouse. Having a selfish husband means being stuck with stunted communication in your marriage.

11. The sex is all about him

In the American Psychological Association (APA) dictionary, the definition of “selfishness” is listed as, “the tendency to act excessively or solely in a manner that benefits oneself, even if others are disadvantaged.” And this hold true for outside as well as inside the bedroom.

If your husband is only focused on his needs in bed, there is no doubt that he is selfish. Does your husband demand intimacy like it’s his right? When you’re together, is the act all about him achieving the big O? Does he leave you high and dry once he is done? If yes, you’re right in thinking, “My husband always puts himself first and that’s very selfish of him.”

12. Doesn’t share the work load

A Reddit user wrote, “My husband is a lazy father. There are worse, much worse, and he isn’t a deadbeat, and he loves his daughter a lot. But I do literally 90-95% of the parenting; I parent 24 hours a day and am lucky if he steps in for an hour here or there. I haven’t slept for longer than 3 hours in a row since she was born and I’m at the end of my rope.”

To deal with a selfish husband during pregnancy and also after that, can be the worst possible nightmare. Here are some more signs of an uncaring husband:

• He doesn’t pick up his plate from the dining table
• He gets mad at you for not washing his clothes on time
• He expects you to do all the housework when the maid ditches

13. No romantic dates

According to research, husbands and wives who engaged in couple time with their mates at least once a week were approximately
3.5 times more likely to report being “very happy” in their marriages, compared to those who enjoyed less quality time with
their spouse.

So, one of the signs of an uncaring husband is that he wouldn’t be into this kind of stuff at all. Neither will he get you flowers and wine or cook you dinner for a romantic evening at home. If your husband is not on board for any of these activities, it is a cause for concern.

14. A selfish husband doesn’t compromise

A Reddit user wrote, “The thing that gets me so angry is, I NEVER tell him he can’t golf or do any of his favorite activities. Mostly because he works hard all week, its not usually a big deal. But the ONE FUCKING TIME I could have done something I love to do, he couldn’t sacrifice a second round of golf with his friends so I could play volleyball for 2 hours.”

Often, if your husband does whatever he wants and you’re the one who’s always sacrificing, it’s an unequal marriage. Self-centered people tend to think that the sun shines out of their rear and they are the center of the universe. This can start to make you feel neglected in the relationship. It’s important that you find ways to take care of yourself.

Related Reading: 8 Common “Narcissistic Marriage” Problems And How To Handle Them

15. He doesn’t check in

The most important thing in a partnership is checking up to make the other side feel good. Here are some examples:

• “How was your day?”
• “You worked so hard for that presentation. How did it go?”
• “I know you had a rough couple of weeks. How are you feeling?”

If your husband is never concerned about whether you’re in a good mood or not, chances are that he is self-absorbed. If you’re thinking, “Should I leave my selfish husband?”, here’s a detailed guide for you on how to go about it.

How to deal with a selfish husband?

Looking for tips on how to teach a lesson to your selfish husband? Follow these easy steps:

• Journal to pinpoint what exactly you want from the relationship
• Use “I” statements to express your needs without blaming (For example, say “I feel disappointed that you don’t check on me” instead of saying “You hurt me by thinking just about yourself”)
• You also become a little selfish about your needs, do away with the people pleasing and start saying “No” to things you dislike
• Be kind (instead of lashing out) while expressing your needs (Say “I would appreciate it if you share the work load” instead of “You are such a jerk! Can’t you see I am exhausted?”)
• Take self-care seriously and unapologetically take vacations to detox from your routine (gift yourself a good spa day too)
• If you feel unheard even after expressing your needs multiple times, consider breaking it off

Finally, not every marriage is a smooth ride, but it is important that both people in the relationship make efforts to better their lives together. Dear couples, sit and communicate about your problems because your marriage and your love for each other are worth all the trouble! If you still cannot sort things out, consult a relationship counselor from Bonobology’s panel. As a last resort, leave him if nothing else works. We wish you luck.

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Falling in love is a magical experience. The stolen glances, the endearing hugs, the endless kisses and the mad attraction! But after that glorious honeymoon period, sets in the phase when you must decide whether to consider this a serious relationship or not.

Compared to the joys and excitements of a new relationship, staying in love is a matter of luck and some work. There is the proverbial huge slip between the cup and the lip when it comes to being totally attracted to someone and then getting into a serious relationship with him or her.

Sometimes, the affair may falter at the first slight hurdle making you run away and then you begin the search for ‘The one’ all over again. In the normal or idealized world, the relationship trajectory follows a simple path. You meet, you get attracted, you date, you get involved more deeply and you take it to the next levels.

Unfortunately, the path of romance isn’t that smooth and not every relationship unfolds in to a serious or long-term one. Often, the confusions and conundrums of modern dating leave lovers asking the same question: ‘Am I in a serious relationship?’

What Is Considered A Serious Relationship?

The dilemma of where your relationship is headed often arises due to confusion, lack of commitment, past fears and worries about the future. Also, in this day and age of casual sex, where finding a date is as easy as swiping right or left, not many people are inclined to get in a serious relationship that will lead to marriage when they can easily have fun without the risk of a heartbreak.

“The difference between a serious relationship vs a casual one means that you and your partner can envision a future together,” says Dilshed Careem, a UAE-based life coach. “It could also mean that both partners do not hesitate to take the next step – be it moving in together, getting engaged or talking about the future together.”

Here it is important to note that a serious relationship does not mean that you are in a happy relationship. Even if you are long-term partners, exclusive to each other, there can be several other problems which may or may not resolved. The essential difference is that in casual dating, the emotional investment is very low and so are the feelings.

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15 Signs You Are In A Serious Relationship

If you are looking for a serious relationship, ensure that your intentions and expectations are aligned with your actions. If you are madly attracted to someone who fears commitment or exclusivity, it might lead to nothing but heartbreak for you.

On the other hand, there are those bonds where both partners are not quite sure where they are headed but their behaviors and emotions both show signs of a serious relationship.

If you have been dating for a while and still unsure if there is a future to your relationship, here are some signs and suggestions you need to pay attention to which can help you decide whether you two are ready to handle a serious relationship.

1. Being exclusive is one of the signs of serious relationship

Relationship exclusivity is the biggest sign that your beau is getting serious about you. You suddenly want to go out to every party or event only with one person. You have fixed dates and there is no one else in the background even if you haven’t quite confessed your feelings to each other.

If you are exclusively seeing each other, neither of you will still be swiping on dating apps. And if you were on one, you would keep deleting it! Continuing to be on Tinder or Bumble while you are seeing somebody is a huge sign that you want to keep your options open and if you are not, well then – it might be time for a serious relationship.

2. The magic words have been uttered

Agreed, some people wear their hearts on their sleeves. Saying the magic ‘I love you’ comes easy to them and they do it pretty often. But those who are looking for a serious relationship, do not take these words lightly.So before you agree to a suitor, find out if they really mean what they say.

If, on the contrary, both you and your partner have said “I love you” to one another, it is a huge indicator that the relationship is getting serious and both of you are clear on what you want. That’s clearly one of the signs of a serious relationship on the horizon! It doesn’t matter when you say it – immediately after dating or after a while of being together – it’s the sincerity that makes a difference.

3. You are in a serious relationship if you are invited to family functions

If your bae wants to bring you home for Christmas, take that as a massive sign that you are in a serious relationship. “Spending quality time with one another is important, but spending time with family has different connotations altogether,” says Careem.

Being introduced to your partner’s family is quite a significant step in the relationship journey because it shows your partner is willing to include you in his personal circle. What does a serious relationship mean to a guy? Well if you meet his mom, there’s no bigger tell than that!

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4. You want to resolve conflicts

Fights and arguments occur in every relationship, sometimes in the early stages and at times, in the later years. However, if you are just casually dating, a single argument is enough to tempt you to walk out.

However, in a serious relationship, you or your partner will make serious attempts to resolve conflicts and extend the olive branch. The thought of a fight will pain you and you feel upset and angry after an argument. Simply put, the emotions will be more striking and the anger will eventually fizzle out.

5. You talk about the future in a serious relationship

Instant hooking up and breaking up is all about instant gratification. You prefer living in the ‘now’ rather than worrying about the future. You may not even see yourself walking down the aisle or settling into a future with your date. If these things are true for you, maybe you are not ready to handle a serious relationship.

Because when you flip the coin, things are different. In a serious relationship, talking about the future naturally comes to you two. It doesn’t mean you immediately plan a wedding or ask the “Should I have a baby?” question but you organically want to share your dreams, hopes and aspirations about your life with your partner.

6. You increasingly spend time at each other’s homes

At what point does a relationship become serious? Well, consider the following scenario and think about whether these signs of a serious relationship apply to you or not.

Weekends mean you are either spending time at your partner’s place or they are coming over to yours. You leave behind things at their apartment – from small items to bigger things. You have the key to each other’s houses.

These are perhaps the first steps towards making the decision to move in. These are also the signs of increasing levels of comfort and allowing the person into your intimate space. It shows that you are dedicated to each other and maybe ready for a serious relationship.

7. Sex is not the most important thought in a serious relationship

Most relationships start with attraction and thereby, good sex. Great sex is the foundation to begin a new relationship but there are a lot of other elements that go into building it. Trust, honesty, comfort, to name just a few.

As you begin to get more deeply involved, lust is complemented by caring, affection, concern etc. You may find that you can spend time with your partner and have a lot of fun even regardless of whether it involves sex or not. If this is the case, it might even be possible that you are in a serious relationship that will lead to marriage.

Related Reading: Am I Sexually Compatible With My Fiancé?

8. It is not just one person picking the tabs

Even in the age of equality, some things remain delightfully old fashioned and for good reason. Like the fact that men try to impress the object of their affection by picking up the tab on their first or initial dates. They want to be seen as gallant.

However, as time passes by, this might seem unnecessary and there comes a time when you won’t think twice about splitting the bill. You both buy gifts for each other and the question of who spends what does not really come into the picture. There will be honesty about finances in a serious relationship.

9. One of the signs of a serious relationship is that you do not hesitate to show your vulnerability

If you have always wondered why is it hard to find a serious relationship, perhaps it’s time to look at your own behavior and outlook as well. Both men and women, find it tough to show their vulnerability to their partner for the fear of making them look weak. So what does a serious relationship mean to a guy or a girl? It’s the comfort.

The ability and comfort level to be at your most vulnerable in front of your man or woman is the most important of all signs of a serious relationship. You are not scared to show your warts to them or to show them you care. If the love is true, you will be loved even for your weaknesses.

10. You are engaged with their success and failure

When you get into a serious relationship, their involvement with your life gets deeper. They will have opinions on your choices (you may or may not like them but that’s another matter!). You may seek advice from them and vice-versa.

More importantly, you will feel engaged with their success and failure. You will celebrate the good things in life and be there to support them when they are on a low. Needless to say, at times, a bit of jealousy can creep in too if your partner is moving ahead and you are not but you are able to control them.

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11. You form habits with one another

You may have to plan your first date to the T. But as time goes by, everything falls into a familiar pattern and certain mutual habits get formed organically. For instance, it might be a given that every Friday, you will watch a movie together. That is indeed the answer to the question of at what point does a relationship become serious.

Perhaps there would be an unspoken or unwritten rules of dating that you would watch the new play at the Opera together. It does not mean you give up your other friends or activities but you are definitely inclined to draw your beloved into your world and plan mutual habits.

12. The pretenses drop

It’s understood that whenever you are trying to impress a person, you are on your best behavior. You or your date might even be tempted to go out of your way to ensure everything is perfect and that you appear perfect.

But in a serious relationship, there is no need to put up this pretense. The façade drops and you can be your natural self, without any formality. A sign of being accepted as you who truly are is a hallmark of a serious relationship.

So if you’re pondering what does a serious relationship mean to a guy, maybe think about when he stopped wearing shirts and started wearing sweatpants.

13. PDA is natural in a serious relationship

In this day and age of social media, a shout out on Instagram or Facebook is a surefire away to announce to the world that you are in a committed serious relationship. When you don’t have anything to hide from the world, these mentions become all the more common.

So from your trip to the beach to your fun meal together, everything becomes fodder for your Insta handle with cute and mushy hashtags. You wouldn’t just do this Social Media PDA with a casual date. So if you suddenly find yourself being mentioned on social media more often by your crush, know that they are starting to get serious about you.

14. If you travel together, it is one of the signs of a serious relationship

Travelling is not just about packing your bags and taking the first flight out. When you go on a trip with a man or woman you are developing feelings for, it is quite an important step towards making a more formal commitment.

Travelling together and spending that exclusive time is a great way to know one another and no man or woman would want to do that unless he or she wants to get more serious. Holidays are also an occasion to create happy memories and who you choose to do that with, speaks a lot about the relationship.

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15. Your important decisions involve the other person if the relationship is going serious

A key difference in the serious vs casual relationship debate is the importance you give to the other person while making some life changing decisions. Let’s say, you have got a new job offer that requires you to move to another city.

Will you think about how it might impact your relationship? Will you make plans to stay in touch or be connected and figure out ways to meet each other? Do you take into consideration your partner’s comfort, life situation, opinion and all, while making a decision of your life? The answers to these questions give an indication whether you are in a serious relationship or not.

Relationships are hard work and while some times, things progress naturally and organically, most times, you have to put in an effort and watch out for the signs.

It is entirely up to you how you convey your love, hope aspirations and intentions to your partner. If you have a few or more of the above listed signs of a serious relationship in your relationship, congratulations you are definitely on the right track to cement your love!

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You see an attractive man when you’re out and about and you’d like to get him to notice you.

But what do you do?

Let’s start with men need encouragement to know it’s safe to approach you and that’s why today, I want to share 5 tips certain to let him know you’re interested in him.

 

Tip #1

Smile at a man you’re attracted to and make eye contact with him for 3-5 seconds.

It will seem like an eternity but it’s a signal to him that you’re interested.

Or walk into a room, smile at a man, go back to talking to who you’re with then turn again and smile.

This too is a signal that lets him know if he’s available, he can come over and talk with you.

 

Tip #2

Get a man’s attention by asking him a question.

Remember men are wired to help women.

Here are examples of questions you can ask to get the dialogue going between the two of you . . .

• You’re at a happy hour with a friend and a man sits next to you and orders red wine. Ask him about it and whether he’d recommend it.

• You’re at Starbucks. Ask if the chair next to a nice looking man is taken. Or if you’re in line, ask what his favorite coffee is.

• You’re at a dog park. Ask about his dog’s veterinarian and if he’d recommend him or her for your puppy.

 

Tip #3

Listen to what a man is really saying to you.

Men do speak another language that women don’t necessarily hear or understand.

Here’s what I mean . . .

Heidi was sitting at a bar having dinner with her friend.

They struck up a conversation with a man who sat down next to them.

It was her friend who asked the question, “What salad is that?” and the conversation between the three of them took off.

When her friend left, Heidi and this attractive man from out of town continued talking.

Over and over again he shared with her that he wasn’t locked into where he lived and that he’d seriously dated women from cities other than the one he lived in.

She totally missed his male language hint for, “are you interested in dating me even though I live out of town?” ultimately losing out on an opportunity to date a man she was attracted to.

 

Tip #4

To this day, one of my favorite television shows is I Love Lucy.

In the 1950’s, a woman would drop her handkerchief in front of a man to let him know she was interested in him.

In this one particular episode, Lucy, dressed in disguise, was pretending to be another woman.

She wanted to see if Ricky would flirt with her.

So she dropped her handkerchief and said, “Pardon me,” fully expecting him to pick it up for her.

Both understood this as a sign she was interested in him and he could approach her if the attraction was mutual.

You can do the same thing with men today.

Instead of using a handkerchief, try dropping your phone if it won’t shatter or a folder or package you might be carrying.

Who knows what it might lead to!

 

Tip #5

Your job is to let him know you’re interested in having him approach you.

His job is to ask you out if he’s interested in you.

If he’s not, it doesn’t mean he’s personally rejecting you.

He might be married, have a girlfriend or you might not be his type.

Just move on . . . There are plenty of other men out there for you to date.

Chalk the experience up as an opportunity to practice your flirting skills.

Use these five tips to start interacting with men wherever you go.

Why? because you never know – ONE just might turn out to be your Mr. Right.

I found love at 65!

Lisa, can’t say enough about how much your program helped me. Found my love at age 65. Without what I learned from you I would never have replied to his “ping” on the dating site. He did not tick many of my boxes in terms of age, location, hobbies, etc. But he had a twinkle in his eye and I remembered your advice to be curious about meeting nice men so I responded. We are coming up to our first wedding anniversary and I have never been happier. Thanks again for all you do to help women find quality men! Laurelea, Ontario

Big hugs ~

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On March 23, 2023   /   Dating Advice Over 50, Dating After 50  

In today’s world, we find ourselves immersed in a shaming culture where judgments, criticisms, and expectations weigh heavily on our shoulders.

In this blog post, I’ll share some insights that can help you understand the roots of shaming culture and provide practical advice on how to overcome it in your journey to confidence and success with women.

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Understanding Shaming Culture

Shaming culture is prevalent in today’s society and can be observed in various forms.

Whether it’s online comments, workplace gossip, or even the way we judge ourselves, the constant barrage of negativity can make it challenging to build self-confidence and form authentic connections with others.

Many individuals internalize these external judgments, which can lead to feelings of insecurity, self-doubt, and a diminished sense of self-worth. In the context of dating and relationships, this can make it difficult to approach and engage with women confidently.

Breaking Through and Gaining Confidence

To break free from shaming culture and build confidence with women, consider the following steps:

• Recognize your own value: To counteract the negative effects of shaming culture, it’s crucial to focus on your self-worth. Make a list of your strengths, achievements, and positive qualities. This will help remind you of your intrinsic value and boost your confidence when interacting with others.
• Surround yourself with positivity: Choose to spend time with people who uplift and encourage you. Surrounding yourself with positive influences will help you foster a healthier mindset, which will translate into increased confidence when approaching women.
• Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and recognize that everyone makes mistakes. When you’re able to forgive yourself and learn from your experiences, you’ll be more resilient in the face of shaming culture and better equipped to move forward with confidence.
• Challenge negative beliefs: Often, we hold limiting beliefs about ourselves and our capabilities. Reflect on these beliefs and question their validity. By confronting and challenging these thoughts, you can reframe your mindset and create a more empowering perspective.
• Develop effective communication skills: Communication is key in building connections with women. Practice active listening, maintain eye contact, and be genuinely interested in what the other person has to say. This will help you create rapport and establish meaningful connections.
• Take action: Confidence is built through experience. Put yourself out there and engage with women, even if it feels uncomfortable at first. With each interaction, you’ll gain more confidence and understanding of what works for you.

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Frequently Asked Questions

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How can I improve my communication skills to build better connections with women?

To improve your communication skills, practice active listening, maintain eye contact, and express genuine interest in what the other person has to say.

Developing these skills will help you create rapport and establish meaningful connections with women.

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What role does social media play in perpetuating shaming culture, and how can I minimize its impact?

Social media platforms can contribute to shaming culture by providing an environment where judgments and criticisms are easily shared and amplified.

To minimize the impact of social media, consider limiting your time on these platforms, curate your feed to include positive and uplifting content, and focus on building connections with people who encourage and support you.

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Can building confidence with women lead to more successful and fulfilling relationships?

Yes, building confidence with women can lead to more successful and fulfilling relationships.

Confidence allows you to approach and engage with potential partners more effectively, communicate your needs and desires, and establish a solid foundation for a healthy relationship.

As you gain experience and grow in confidence, you’ll be better equipped to navigate the complexities of dating and relationships.

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Conclusion

Breaking free from shaming culture and building confidence with women is a journey that requires self-awareness, self-compassion, and consistent action.

By recognising your value, surrounding yourself with positivity, challenging negative beliefs, and developing effective communication skills, you can overcome the barriers of shaming culture and create meaningful connections with women.

Remember, the key to success lies in your willingness to take action and grow from each experience.

If you found this article insightful and beneficial, our team is here to assist you in achieving greater success in your dating life through our courses. Learn more by downloading our Social Attraction Training Course PDF Brochure.

Resources

1. Neff, K. D. (2003). Self-Compassion: An Alternative Conceptualization of a Healthy Attitude Toward Oneself. Self and Identity, 2(2), 85-101. This study introduces the concept of self-compassion and examines its relationship with psychological well-being. The findings indicate that practicing self-compassion can lead to decreased levels of anxiety, depression, and self-criticism, all of which are essential aspects of building confidence.
2. Fardouly, J., Diedrichs, P. C., Vartanian, L. R., & Halliwell, E. (2015). Social comparisons on social media: the impact of Facebook on young women’s body image concerns and mood. Body image, 13, 38-45. This research investigates the impact of social media on young women’s body image concerns and mood. The results show that exposure to social media, where shaming culture is often prevalent, can lead to negative self-perceptions and emotions. By understanding this, individuals can make informed choices about their social media consumption and prioritize positivity in their lives.
3. Knapp, M. L., & Vangelisti, A. L. (2009). Interpersonal communication and human relationships (6th ed.). Pearson. This textbook highlights the importance of effective communication skills in developing and maintaining healthy interpersonal relationships. By focusing on aspects such as active listening and genuine interest in others, individuals can build connections and rapport, which is essential for success in dating and relationships.