As a Christian teenager in the 1980s, I had an eyewitness account of the rise of the purity culture. From seventh to ninth grade, I attended a Baptist Christian school and well remember my frustration over the hypocrisy I saw there—namely, female students couldn’t wear slacks, our skirts had to cover our knees and touch the ground if we kneeled, and we had to wear culottes the same length for gym class. On the flip side, the male students had no such clothing restrictions and could even remove their shirts during sports practice (which nearly all of them did on a regular basis). When I asked a teacher why it wasn’t immodest for the boys to be shirtless, I was tagged as a troublemaker who clearly didn’t understand my place in the Christian home.
This one example showcases how easily the purity culture can become toxic—and why there’s been a lot of backlash over the past few years about the purity culture and how poisonous it has become. While much of the purity culture itself is focused on women and what our role should be, men too have responsibility to eliminate the lethal nature related to sexual purity.
First, let’s get on the same page as to what we mean by a purity culture. One writer defined it as “the notion that a woman’s place and worth in life is defined solely by how she chooses to express her sexuality, thus implying that her sexual ‘purity’ is her only value.” Toxic purity culture “is anything that adds to or avoids the whole content of God’s commands for sex and sexuality.”
While women have been fighting to change the noxious nature of the purity culture, men should also work to reduce the toxicity residing within the purity culture. Here are six things men of all ages can do to redeem sexual purity.
Continuing on from how can I be grateful in a season of grief, we now reflect upon the question of why I should be grateful in a season of grief. Maybe you have often wondered the same question. Why should we be grateful when all we are experiencing is pain and grief? This is a question that needs to be answered in order to help us healthily navigate our heartache and pain.
To be honest, it is a difficult concept to know the why behind most things. Especially in the matter of grief, it can feel nearly impossible to see why we should be grateful while surrounded by so much hurt. If anything, we feel we should be crying and hiding from the world as we experience our grief. This is a valid response to grief and one that I still experience, but we can still be grateful. We should be grateful in a season of grief because God is teaching us something through the pain.
Similar to many people who have lost loved ones, I have never been the same since they died. I used to be more bubbly and extroverted, but now I battle depression and prefer to keep people at a distance. Maybe you have noticed the same to be true in your own life. Whether a loved one died or another reason for grief has come into your life, it may have changed you as a person. If this has happened, know that it is alright and there is nothing wrong with you. Tragic times have a way of changing people.
Through these seasons of grief, we can be grateful because God is teaching us about loss, pain, and the importance of turning to Him. How many times have you turned to God when your life was going smoothly, and everything was happy? Now think about how many times you turned to God when you were going through a season of grief. More likely than not, you turned to God more in times of distress than you did during times of happiness. Our seasons of grief can teach us this vital lesson and explain why we can be grateful.
We can be grateful because we know God is always there for us. Unlike human beings, God will never die. He will never leave, nor will we ever be away from His love. Since this is true we can know why we should be grateful in our grief. God is with us, and through Him, we have the promise of seeing our loved ones again in heaven. We can be grateful to God because even though death is ultimately mankind’s fault, our mistake has been fixed through the saving work of Jesus Christ. If it wasn’t for Jesus, we would all be lost and without hope. Grief reminds us of this hope.
The Journey of Grief
It can be hard at the beginning to see anything to be grateful for, but there is much to be thankful for. It can be even harder to find a reason why to be grateful. Oftentimes, right after the cause of the grief, it’s too early to start seeing all the things you are grateful for. It is good to give yourself time to grieve, cry, and miss your loved one. Throughout the months and years, you will discover a state of peace and a new rhythm where you can begin to be grateful and see the reason why to be grateful even in the midst of your grief.
As I mentioned in part one, my loved ones have been gone for seven years at this point, and there is not a day that goes by that I don’t miss them. Even though I still grieve for them, I am able to see the why. Why should I be grateful in the season of grief? I should be grateful because of Jesus’ saving grace through the cross and how I will see my loved ones once again in heaven. I can also be grateful because, through these seasons of grief, I have become emphatic and more understanding of people. Maybe you have noticed some things to be thankful for in your own life too not despite this season of grief but because of this season of grief.
Be thankful for the lessons, the love, and the laughter that your loved one left with you. We often think of our loved ones being gone when they pass away, but nobody is ever actually gone. They are just somewhere else. If our loved ones placed faith in Jesus, they are in heaven with Him, and you will see them again. Our grief will never remain forever as there will be a time when every tear will be wiped from our eyes (Revelation 21:4). Choose to be thankful for all these little things, and don’t allow the grief to cause you to grow bitter.
Looking to Eternity
We can also be grateful that our earthly life isn’t forever. As was the case for my dog, Beauty, and my mom, they were both in terrible pain up to their death. I’m grateful they don’t have to be in pain anymore. They are with God, and never again will they have to experience any discomfort.
I remember about a week after Beauty passed, I asked my mom how long the pain in my heart was going to last—the deep aching in my heart. My mom told me that it might never go away, but it would lessen as days went on. My mom was right; the pain has lessened, but the grief still remains. If I keep myself busy, I don’t have much time to think about the sadness, but if I have a free day, I find myself drifting back to that dark place. Something else my mom told me that day changed my perspective greatly. I told my mom I just wanted Beauty back, and my mom told me that she knew how badly I was hurting, but the hard truth is that it’s often our own selfishness that causes us to want the person or furry friend with us. We want them with us even though they are far happier and without pain in heaven with God.
I’ve had many years to reflect on the death of my loved ones, so don’t get discouraged if you’re not at the stage to start feeling grateful or to know the why in why you should be grateful. Grief comes in waves, and everyone’s grief journey is different. Some might heal faster, while others might take longer. If you are grieving, extend yourself grace, and don’t beat yourself up or play the “what if?” game. I have done this millions of times, and it never does anything to help.
Seasons of grief are hard, but through these seasons, God helps us grow, and He always blesses us with the comfort of His love. As you are walking through this season of grief, know that God is walking right beside you. He isn’t going anywhere, and He will be with you through it all (Psalm 23). Whether your reason for grief is new or old, know that your feelings are valid and God cares about each one. Turn to God in your pain and tell Him everything you are experiencing. He will continue to be with you, and He will comfort you with the comfort only He can provide.
Vivian Bricker loves Jesus, studying the Word of God, and helping others in their walk with Christ. She has earned a Bachelor of Arts and Master’s degree in Christian Ministry with a deep academic emphasis in theology. Her favorite things to do are spending time with her family and friends, reading, and spending time outside. When she is not writing, she is embarking on other adventures.
Grief is difficult. The ever-gnawing pain at your heart, the deep emptiness, and the never-ending tears that fall from your eyes are present throughout grief. If you have gone through grief or are currently grieving, you know the pain associated with this season of life. Even if you have gone through grief on many occasions, it is impossible to get used to the feeling in our daily lives. It is always present, and it is always painful. However, despite this season of grief, you can still be grateful.
About 7 years ago, I went through the worst year of my life. Shortly after the year began, in the month of February, our family dog passed away from cancer. She was the sweetest dog and was always loyal to us. Even on the worst days, she was ready to greet you with eyes full of joy and a wagging tail. Our dog was a Scottish Terrier Beagle mix and she was with us throughout much of our childhood and our teen years. If you have a pet, you know how much they become like family to you. When they pass away, it is like a knife to the heart that is never taken away.
Our dog’s name was Beauty. Our mom named her Black Beauty after the classic book Black Beauty, but we always called her Beauty for short. All throughout elementary school, Beauty was the talk among our friends, and everyone wanted to meet our furry friend. She was always sweet and never tried to bite anyone. The only times she ever growled was if you tried to take her bone, so we learned from a young age not to mess with her while she was gnawing on her bone. Outside of that, Beauty was always ready to give you love and to play.
My older sister often got sick or would break a bone, which forced her to rest a lot. Beauty was her constant companion and kept her company throughout the sickness and healing. In fact, my sister and Beauty were best friends. After the death of Beauty, I believe it hurt my sister the worst. I was experiencing grief and pain after Beauty’s death, but it was nothing compared to my sister’s grief. She went into a deep depression and had trouble wanting to do anything. I completely understand her pain, and I understood it back then too. Does Beauty’s death still cause us to cry? Of course, because we loved her and she is no longer here, but I am grateful for all the time we had with her.
We can be grateful in a season of grief because we can be grateful to God for allowing the individual or the furry friend into our life even if for only a short time. Through our time with Beauty, we learned responsibility, and we learned the unconditional love that comes from a pet. A dog doesn’t care if you stayed in your pajamas all day, didn’t do your hair just right, or that you burnt the toast. A dog loves you just because you are you. This was true for Beauty, and I know it is true for many other dogs and other furry friends across the globe.
Gratefulness doesn’t mean that you are happy, but it does mean you are grateful for the time you were able to spend with your loved one. Through Beauty’s death, I experienced my first actual season of grief that I have never been able to shake. To be honest, I don’t know if I will ever be able to shake it because of the love Beauty had for us and the knowledge that I won’t ever see her again in this life. Even still, I can be grateful for the time I had with Beauty while grieving. In the same way, you can still be grateful despite this season of grief.
More Pain and Death
In hindsight, Beauty’s death almost acted as a preparation for what was going to happen next. About eight months after Beauty passed, my mom passed away. She was young, but she had been having heart problems for several years. We had hoped her condition was improving, yet she was only getting worse. My mom had to be in the Intensive Care Unit (ICU) for ten days before God called her home. Those ten days felt like an eternity. To see your mother in the hospital with a machine pumping to keep her heart beating is something I wish nobody has to ever experience.
It was traumatizing, to say the least, and death provoking to say the worse. The strongest woman I ever knew was on life support in ICU. My mom became alert at times, and we got to talk with her a few times, but what we didn’t know was that my mom was never going to be coming home. I remember the day my mom left for the hospital like it was yesterday. My dad went to pull the car down to take her to the hospital, and I was the only one awake. My mom told me everything was going to be okay and that I needed to go back to sleep.
Something told me that morning, as I saw my mom standing on the porch, that she wouldn’t be coming home. When I saw her standing on the porch, it would be the last time she would ever be home. Or at least at her earthly home. I never did go back to sleep that morning, but instead started praying for my mom to get better and that everything would be okay. Within those ten days, my mom passed on, and I have never stopped grieving since.
It’s more than simply grieving the loss of a loved one because it’s grieving your mom–the one person on earth who knows you better than you know yourself. It’s also grieving the pain of all the memories you will never make with her. Never would my mom see me drive a car, never would she see me graduate college, and never would I share the privilege of getting to know my mom better as I grew older. There’s much to grieve for in a season of heartache, but we can also be grateful for all of the time, all of the love, and all of the lessons our loved ones gave us.
Being grateful doesn’t mean that you aren’t in pain, just as someone who needs shelter from rain is wet and is in pain from the cold doesn’t mean the person isn’t grateful for an umbrella. In the same way, even though we are deep in grief that doesn’t mean we can’t be grateful. We can be grateful for all the memories and time we had with our loved ones. I once read somewhere, though I can’t remember where, that the greater our grief, the greater our love was for that person. Your grief is nothing to be ashamed of, nor is it anything that will heal overnight.
If you are going through grief today, know that you can still be grateful. Remember all of the good times you had with your loved one, and remember all the lessons they shared with you. Grief will happen to all of us at one point, but we don’t have to allow it to swallow us whole. We can turn to God in our grief and find support in His love. Death was never in God’s plan for us; however, after the fall, death came into being because of sin. But because of Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross, we can have eternal life and share this good news with our loved ones.
Choose to be grateful and try to remember all of the things you are grateful for because of your loved one.
Vivian Bricker loves Jesus, studying the Word of God, and helping others in their walk with Christ. She has earned a Bachelor of Arts and Master’s degree in Christian Ministry with a deep academic emphasis in theology. Her favorite things to do are spending time with her family and friends, reading, and spending time outside. When she is not writing, she is embarking on other adventures.
Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn – Founder of Social Attraction
In today’s world, we find ourselves immersed in a shaming culture where judgments, criticisms, and expectations weigh heavily on our shoulders.
In this blog post, I’ll share some insights that can help you understand the roots of shaming culture and provide practical advice on how to overcome it in your journey to confidence and success with women.
Shaming culture is prevalent in today’s society and can be observed in various forms.
Whether it’s online comments, workplace gossip, or even the way we judge ourselves, the constant barrage of negativity can make it challenging to build self-confidence and form authentic connections with others.
Many individuals internalize these external judgments, which can lead to feelings of insecurity, self-doubt, and a diminished sense of self-worth. In the context of dating and relationships, this can make it difficult to approach and engage with women confidently.
Breaking Through and Gaining Confidence
To break free from shaming culture and build confidence with women, consider the following steps:
Recognize your own value: To counteract the negative effects of shaming culture, it’s crucial to focus on your self-worth. Make a list of your strengths, achievements, and positive qualities. This will help remind you of your intrinsic value and boost your confidence when interacting with others.
Surround yourself with positivity: Choose to spend time with people who uplift and encourage you. Surrounding yourself with positive influences will help you foster a healthier mindset, which will translate into increased confidence when approaching women.
Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and recognize that everyone makes mistakes. When you’re able to forgive yourself and learn from your experiences, you’ll be more resilient in the face of shaming culture and better equipped to move forward with confidence.
Challenge negative beliefs: Often, we hold limiting beliefs about ourselves and our capabilities. Reflect on these beliefs and question their validity. By confronting and challenging these thoughts, you can reframe your mindset and create a more empowering perspective.
Develop effective communication skills: Communication is key in building connections with women. Practice active listening, maintain eye contact, and be genuinely interested in what the other person has to say. This will help you create rapport and establish meaningful connections.
Take action: Confidence is built through experience. Put yourself out there and engage with women, even if it feels uncomfortable at first. With each interaction, you’ll gain more confidence and understanding of what works for you.
Frequently Asked Questions
How can I improve my communication skills to build better connections with women?
To improve your communication skills, practice active listening, maintain eye contact, and express genuine interest in what the other person has to say.
What role does social media play in perpetuating shaming culture, and how can I minimize its impact?
Social media platforms can contribute to shaming culture by providing an environment where judgments and criticisms are easily shared and amplified.
To minimize the impact of social media, consider limiting your time on these platforms, curate your feed to include positive and uplifting content, and focus on building connections with people who encourage and support you.
Can building confidence with women lead to more successful and fulfilling relationships?
Confidence allows you to approach and engage with potential partners more effectively, communicate your needs and desires, and establish a solid foundation for a healthy relationship.
As you gain experience and grow in confidence, you’ll be better equipped to navigate the complexities of dating and relationships.
Conclusion
Breaking free from shaming culture and building confidence with women is a journey that requires self-awareness, self-compassion, and consistent action.
Neff, K. D. (2003). Self-Compassion: An Alternative Conceptualization of a Healthy Attitude Toward Oneself. Self and Identity, 2(2), 85-101. This study introduces the concept of self-compassion and examines its relationship with psychological well-being. The findings indicate that practicing self-compassion can lead to decreased levels of anxiety, depression, and self-criticism, all of which are essential aspects of building confidence.
Fardouly, J., Diedrichs, P. C., Vartanian, L. R., & Halliwell, E. (2015). Social comparisons on social media: the impact of Facebook on young women’s body image concerns and mood. Body image, 13, 38-45. This research investigates the impact of social media on young women’s body image concerns and mood. The results show that exposure to social media, where shaming culture is often prevalent, can lead to negative self-perceptions and emotions. By understanding this, individuals can make informed choices about their social media consumption and prioritize positivity in their lives.
Knapp, M. L., & Vangelisti, A. L. (2009). Interpersonal communication and human relationships (6th ed.). Pearson. This textbook highlights the importance of effective communication skills in developing and maintaining healthy interpersonal relationships. By focusing on aspects such as active listening and genuine interest in others, individuals can build connections and rapport, which is essential for success in dating and relationships.
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With all the stories on social media about people who have been betrayed by their partners, it’s quite possible you have wondered whether your relationship is doomed to end the same way. If so, you might be looking for signs she is pretending to love you to ensure that you, too, don’t end up heartbroken one day.
If you want to know if she truly loves you, we at Bonobology can help you find the answer. While discovering the truth can hurt, the pain you would feel if you ignore the red flags and choose the wrong partner will be a thousand times worse. Here are some signs to watch out for, and what you can do about them.
18 Signs She Is Pretending To Love You
Sometimes, it is not easy to tell if your partner actually loves you, or if she is just leading you on because it’s beneficial for her. If you are wondering whether your relationship is genuine or if you are in a fake relationship, a few questions would have arisen in your mind; these could be:
Does she feel like a stranger to you?
Do you find that you cannot trust her actions or intentions?
Is your intuition telling you she is not right for you?
Are you more invested in the relationship than she is?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, to put your mind at ease, here are 15 signs you should look out for if you feel like your girlfriend is not serious about you.
1. She minimizes your feelings
According to this study “Emotional invalidation is theoretically and empirically associated with mental and physical health problems.” In simpler terms, when someone’s feelings are not taken seriously, it has a large negative effect on their mental well-being.
This is the one of the most obvious signs that she is pretending to love you. If she has a habit of dismissing or invalidating your emotions, it is very clear that she is not serious about you. You could just be a standby lover for her and she is just using you for whiling away her time. During your relationship, if you feel like she invalidates your feelings a lot, chances are she doesn’t love you and is a sign she is just keeping you around for company/sex/money/prestige. Here are a few example of what this behavior might look like:
Tells you you’re overthinking and it’s all in your head
Laughs at your discomfort
Tells you that you’re being too sensitive
Your consent is not important to her
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2. There’s a constant lack of appreciation
In a healthy relationship, both partners perform small acts of service for the other as a way to proclaim their love. However, if your partner is stringing you along, she would not appreciate those gestures; she would instead feel entitled to them. This is a sign she is just keeping you around.
3. Your relationship is grounds for emotional warfare
This is one of the most toxic aspects of a relationship. If you are looking for signs she is just keeping you around, watch out for this one.
This girl will constantly try to emotionally abuse and manipulate you into doing something you are not comfortable with. She would withhold intimacy when she wants to control you, and shower you with it once you submit to her will. Here are a few ways this can manifest:
She cries when she does not get her way
Tries to guilt you into performing acts you are not comfortable with
Uses sex as a means of control
Tries to make you angry so that she can complain and tell you that you’re abusive
4. A sign she doesn’t love you: She’s loving in public, cold in private
Andrew, a Reddit user from Pennsylvania, said, “It’s like I am dating two different women. I do not know which version of her is real, but I do know that she doesn’t love me for me.”
When your partner is faking a relationship, she will be the most doting girlfriend you have ever had, as long as you’re surrounded by other people. Once the two of you are alone however, her behavior turns cold and she distances herself from you. She will indulge in hot and cold behavior with you. This is a sign she is just keeping you around and using you for attention.
5. She still acts like she’s single
A heart-breaking sign she is pretending to love you is when you realize that she still acts like she is single.
This could take on many forms, such as her not disclosing to her close circle that she is in a relationship, encouraging the courtship of other people, or not respecting the commitment and trust that is supposed to be put into a partnership. This is a sign she is just keeping you around. Here is what that might look like:
You should know that a girl’s leading you on when you realize that she either omits details that she doesn’t want you to know, or when she outright lies and keeps secrets. This doesn’t always mean a major secret like infidelity, it could be something as minor as who she had lunch with. One of the signs she is just keeping you around is when she always seems to keep these minor secrets from you.
7. If she’s not serious about you, she would avoid being alone with you
When looking for signs she is not really interested, this one stares you right in the face. When she is not serious about you, you will find that the two of you hardly spend any quality time together as a couple. She seems to only hang out with you when her friends are around and never in a romantic setting like an intimate dinner. This is one of the signs she is using you for attention. Here are a few traits that she would exhibit:
Always has other plans when you ask her to hang out
Your dates always include other people
Your sex life feels like an obligation
You feel more like a friend than a romantic partner
8. She demands all your attention
On the other hand, if a girl is always demanding your attention and doesn’t give you the space to indulge in your own interest or hobbies, you can be sure that it is a sign she is pretending to love you. You will know she is future faking. If she demands all your attention, this this what that could look like:
She wants you to make her feel special regardless of the circumstances you are in
She takes it as a personal attack when you want to hang out with your friends or by yourself
She demands that your hobbies and interests should be secondary to her
9. She doesn’t respect boundaries
According to this research, healthy relationship boundaries, setting a mutually beneficial dynamic between partners, as well as practicing self respect for standing your ground – all of these help avoid conflicts in the future.
You will know she is not serious about you when she constantly disrespects your boundaries in the relationship. She may keep ignoring you unless she needs something or doesn’t give you the space you require to be your own person. One of the signs she is just keeping you around is when you constantly find yourself compromising your needs to keep her happy.
10. It’s all about what you provide
One of the signs she is pretending to love you and uses you for money is when she only cares about what you can provide. This could be free meals, the various gifts that she receives, or even just a status boost she receives amongst her friends for dating someone with money. When you always seem to be giving and not receiving, that is a sign she is just keeping you around for her benefit.
There are some obvious signs she doesn’t love you, one of them is when her inconvenience trumps your needs. For example, you may be sick and need some medicine, but she won’t get it for you as it’s cold outside, or you may want to meet her somewhere in public for a change but she refuses because she does not want to face traffic. If this happens regularly, these are all signs she is just keeping you around and she is not serious about you.
12. If she’s not into you, she will evade conversations about the future
One of the signs a girl is messing with you is when she doesn’t discuss the future with you. She does not care about making plans where the two of you build a future together. This is a sign she is just keeping you around as she does not actually see herself being with you in the future. Look out for the following signs that she is not serious about the relationship:
There are no serious discussions about the state of the relationship
Topics of exclusivity or marriage are never brought up
13. She tries to “upgrade” you
One of the more subtle signs she is pretending to love you is when she constantly tries to make minor but noticeable changes to your personality. If she tries to change any of the following, she doesn’t like you for who you are:
Tries to change the way you dress
Dislikes your diet
Tells you your hobbies are childish
Tries to control your spending habits
When she tries to control these aspects of your life, she doesn’t love you. it is one of the signs of a controlling woman. She’s in love with a figment of her imagination and is just keeping you around.
14. She’s a well-known stranger
The concept of a well-known stranger is a little difficult to grasp for some people. Basically, it’s trying to say that you can spend a lot of intimate moments with a person, but still know nothing about them. Here are a few ways to know if your partner is a well-known stranger:
You do not know her thought and feelings about anything in general
You realize that she has not confided in you
You spend a lot of time together, but never talk about anything meaningful or important about your relationship
One of the glaring signs she is just keeping you around is when she refuses to define the relationship with you or others. She may not acknowledge you as her boyfriend and you may not even be sure if you are exclusive or not. This is when you know that she is trying to deceive you.
The first sign she is pretending to love you is when she has absolutely no interest in your life. She doesn’t care about your friends or family, nor does she care about how you spend your day. You find that she texts you only when she is bored and doesn’t make any time for you to be together. If this happens often, she’s stringing you along until she finds someone better.
Also, she doesn’t bother to learn about the following things:
Your love language
Your hobbies and passions
Your triggers/traumas/mental health conditions, if any
If you belong to a marginalized category, she doesn’t bother to unlearn bias or learn how to be an ally
16. You have to lie many a time
If you realize that you need to lie to her, or act like someone else to make her happy, you can be sure that’s a sign she is pretending to love you. If she expects you to be someone else to please her, she is not serious about you. Some examples of this are:
You lie about the people you’re with as she disapproves of your friends
You omit details about your day as you know she will judge you
You pretend to go along with her opinions as voicing your own would get you in trouble
17. A sign she’s using you: You’re her crutch
A textbook sign she is pretending to love you is when she uses you as an emotional crutch for all her problems. This is not the same as confiding in your partner.
When she uses you as a crutch, she behaves as if she cannot independently solve any problem that she faces. The responsibility of sorting out her life always falls on you. If this is the norm in your relationship, she doesn’t love you, she is keeping you around because you’re useful. Here are a few signs that she sees you as a crutch and not a partner:
She demands solutions to all her problems and gets upset when you can’t come up with one
She expects you to step in and intervene wherever she needs you to
You have to drop whatever you’re doing and give her all your attention so that she can vent
She makes handling her emotions your responsibility
To paraphrase this study, there is a thing called disparagement humor. This is where something offensive is said with malicious intent under the guise of humor. Needless to say, this can be a form of bullying.
In every relationship, partners tease each other. That is natural. However, when you are the butt of every joke, and when she tries to embarrass you in public or in front of your friends, you can be sure that it’s a sign she is pretending to love you. When the jokes turn malicious, you should know that the girl is playing with your feelings.
What Should You Do?
So maybe you have realized that your partner exhibits some of the signs she is pretending to love you. If you are wondering what can be done, here are 5 tips for when she is leading you on.
1. Discuss intimacy issues
The first thing you should do is discuss your feelings and intimacy issues with your partner. If the problem still persists after multiple discussions, it’s a sign that she only pretends to love you. If she is not serious about you, no amount of talking would solve the problem.
2. Go for couple’s counseling
Sometimes your girlfriend may actually love you, but is unable to showcase it in a way that makes you feel loved. At this point, couple’s counseling is the best option to try to get to the root of the problem. If your girlfriend refuses the idea of counseling, or any other steps to better the relationship, the partnership is not sustainable.
3. Stop financing her lifestyle
If you are concerned that she is using you for money, the best way to test that theory is to no longer spend money on her. If she really is using you for money, she would immediately start complaining about how you no longer pay attention to her or her needs. If the relationship has progressed and you are either married or considering marriage, you should look into a prenup or leave her out of the will.
4. Stop prioritizing her over everything else
If the issue is that she is not as invested in the relationship as you are, you should stop prioritizing her feelings over yours. If she still doesn’t put the effort into the relationship and demands that you prioritize her again, that’s a sign she is just keeping you around.
5. Leave her
If you have exhausted all other options and she still shows signs she is pretending to love you, you need to realize that this girl is playing with your feelings. At this point, you need to end the relationship, heal, and find someone you can be more compatible with.
Key Pointers
If the relationship is not genuine, she would not advertise you as her partner
If your feelings are not considered important, or if she lies and gives you reasons to distrust her, she is just not that into you
She keeps trying to change you
She uses you but offers very little in return
Try to talk to her about this, get to the root of the issue, establish emotional boundaries, or leave her if this behavior persists
It is always difficult to come to terms with the fact that someone is playing with your feelings. A lot of these traits would be really subtle and difficult to spot. The only way to see yourself through such a situation is by really evaluating your relationship with a fine-tooth comb. While dealing with matters of the heart is never easy, these tips can help you realize if you are in a relationship that is not right for you.
“Believe in yourself and the world will believe in you.” This popular quote closely reflects what high self-esteem can do for you. Unfortunately, many people go through life with jaded, bruised self-esteem, which affects every aspect of their life, including their intimate relationships. So, what is the role of self-esteem in relationships? And how can you find out how you fare on this front?
In this article, psychotherapist Jui Pimple (MA in Psychology), a trained Rational Emotive Behavior therapist and A Bach Remedy practitioner who specializes in online counseling, writes about the connection between self-esteem and relationships and also shares a self-esteem assessment test to help you assess yours.
What Is Self-Esteem?
The general meaning of self-esteem is one’s overall sense of worth, a combination of self-confidence and awareness of one’s skills and abilities. It is the way you think of yourself or how you perceive yourself. If you feel secure, self-confident, worthy most of the time, and have an identity, it means you have positive self-esteem.
According to sociologist Morris Rosenberg, who developed the Rosenberg self-esteem scale (RSES), which is the most widely used tool for assessing self-esteem, a person with high self-esteem “considers himself/herself worthy; he/she does not necessarily consider himself/herself better than others”.
Unlike the narcissistic self which involves feelings of superiority and self-centeredness, self-esteem involves feelings of self-confidence and self-respect. Self-esteem plays an important role in our personal and professional growth, our achievements, relationships, and various other areas of life.
People with healthy self-esteem have a positive perception of life, are assertive, aware of their strengths and weaknesses, are less regretful about the past, and live in the present. On the other hand, people with low self-esteem are full of self-doubts, need assurance in everything, experience insecurities, find it difficult to express their needs, and in general, have a negative outlook toward life.
Development of self-esteem is closely linked to early childhood experiences and a person’s attachment style, based on the nature of their relationship with their parents or primary caregiver. It may also vary depending on various factors such as academic achievements, illnesses, socioeconomic status, physical abilities, experiences at school/work, etc.
The Role Of Self-Esteem In Relationships
Self-esteem and relationships are also closely linked, even though this interesting correlation often doesn’t get the attention it deserves. One simple explanation to understand the role of self-esteem in relationships is that we can give love to the other person if we are able to love and respect ourselves. In this article, we will explore the connection between healthy and low self-esteem and relationships.
Research has shown that people with healthy self-esteem,
Tend to be happier and enjoy long-lasting, fulfilling relationships with their partners.
Experience satisfaction in life
Are confident
Able to communicate their needs
Can be there for their partners without neglecting their own needs
All of these things matter a lot in building healthy, wholesome romantic relationships. One of the findings of the same research is that self-esteem issues in relationships not only affect the person who struggles with a jaded sense of self but also their partner’s satisfaction levels.
How low self-esteem in relationships manifests itself
Low self-esteem in relationships is a widely researched topic. The key takeaway is that a person who struggles with low self-esteem tends to project their fears and insecurities onto their partner, often leading to dissatisfactory, dysfunctional, or stifling relationship dynamics. Here are a few reasons why low self-esteem leads to poor relationships:
Lack of authentic self: People with low self-esteem find it difficult to be their true selves. They sometimes try to adapt to others’ needs or look more attractive and likable while ignoring their likes and dislikes. This kind of behavior often leads to a lack of contentment, and over time, they may get tired of living as per others’ desires, leading to a poor relationship
Insecurities and anxieties: People with low self-esteem often struggle with insecurities and anxieties, and these affect their relationships adversely. One’s anxieties may get transferred to a partner and lead to an overall negative environment
Trust issues: Also, people with low self-esteem have trust issues and may keep doubting their partner’s loyalty, indirectly affecting the peace of mind of both partners
Inability to handle criticism: Low self-esteem results in high sensitivity to feedback from others. These people are unable to handle any negative feedback or even the most constructive criticism. They get hurt easily, which often leads to arguments. As a result of their reactions, their partners may stop sharing their thoughts with them, leading to a sense of disingenuity in the relationship
Inability to express needs: Low self-esteem is characterized by an inability to express one’s needs. If a partner with low self-esteem is not able to express his/her needs assertively, it can lead to him/her always compromising in the relationship. This can lead to a build-up of resentment, which can erupt in the unhealthiest ways with the slightest trigger
Since you know how self-esteem issues in relationships play out, how about taking a quick test to know your self-esteem?
Finally, if at all, you or your partner feel stuck at any moment in a relationship causing low self-esteem, don’t shy away from taking professional help. A therapist can help you recognize patterns like negative self-talk or stories that you tell yourself repeatedly to stay in victim mode. They can also guide you about your insecure attachment style leading to low self-esteem in a relationship symptoms. So, don’t be afraid to reach out to them. Our counselors from Bonobology’s panel are just a click away.
As parents and guardians, it can be difficult to find the time to tackle all of the tasks that need completing each day. Whether you’re juggling work, school activities, or simply trying to keep up with life in general, having a well-balanced daily routine can help you stay organized and on top of your responsibilities. Here’s how you can take control of your day and reclaim some order in your life.
Establish A Schedule
The first step to taking control of your daily routine is to establish a schedule that takes into account all of your commitments and activities. This will give you an idea of just how much time you have available each day—and what needs to be done within that time frame. Of course, no two days are alike; some days may require more flexibility than others—but having a basic structure will ensure that there is still order amidst the chaos.
Once you have established a schedule, you should begin by prioritizing your tasks based on importance and urgency. By doing this, you can focus on the most important tasks first—and then move down the list as needed. This will also give you an idea of how much time you need for each task so that nothing gets overlooked or forgotten about entirely. Additionally, it’s important not to forget about yourself during this process; make sure that there is enough time set aside for rest and relaxation too.
Ask for Help
Asking for help is an essential aspect of creating a well-balanced routine in your day. We all know that life can be overwhelming at times, and juggling work, family, and personal responsibilities can become too much. Whether it’s reaching out to a friend for emotional support, hiring someone to help cut down on time spent cleaning the house, or enlisting the help of child care or pet care professionals, requesting help when you need it can make a significant difference.
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Acknowledging the limits of your capabilities and recognizing when it’s time to ask for help is a hallmark of maturity and a key ingredient in achieving balance and harmony within your daily routine. So don’t hesitate to ask for help when you need it – it’s a vital part of maintaining your wellbeing and overall quality of life.
Plan Ahead
Planning ahead is key when it comes to creating a well-balanced daily routine; it’s easier said than done but it’s worth putting in the effort if it means avoiding last-minute scrambling from one task to another or forgetting things altogether. Try setting aside 10 minutes at night before bedtime devoted solely to planning out the next day; this way when morning comes around, everything is already in place and ready for action.
Take Breaks
Although it’s important to stay productive throughout the day, don’t forget that breaks are essential too. Taking breaks isn’t just necessary for physical health; it also helps us mentally reset our minds and refocus on our tasks at hand once we return from break-time activities like reading or exercising. Aim for at least one 15-minute break every two hours or so; this should provide enough time for rest without disrupting your productivity too much over the course of the day.
Creating a well-balanced daily routine can seem daunting at first but with patience and practice anyone can do it! Establishing a schedule, prioritizing tasks based on importance/urgency, and planning ahead are all great ways to start tackling each day with confidence. With these tips in mind, soon enough taking control of your daily routine won’t feel like an impossible feat—but instead an achievable goal!
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Have a date night coming up and want to knock the socks off your partner? It can be hard to keep thinking of ways to up your style game for those special evenings out with your partner. A pair of jeans may feel too casual and an evening dress may seem too over the top. So, what is the right pick – that feels effortlessly chic?
Well, when it comes to evening outfits, skirts can be the perfect choice for any woman. Nowadays you don’t have to break the bank while shopping for an elegant skirt either. It can be easy to find discount codes for all sorts of different brands. If you’re partial to Shein, for instance, the best Shein coupon codes can be found pretty easily online. But that’s not all. The choice of the right skirt can vary depending on your body shape, fashion preferences, and the occasion you’re shopping for, among other factors. Sounds too complex? Let’s simplify it for you with some tips on how to pick the most suitable evening skirt.
How To Choose The Perfect Evening Skirt For Your Date Night
Start by looking at different silhouettes. A-line skirts are perfect for creating a more traditional look, while pencil skirts offer a more classic vibe. If you want something more modern, try out wrap or pleated skirts – they are both super flattering and quite eye-catching. Next up is color – choose the right shade of skirt to match your complexion and personal style. Finally, don’t forget about accessories! This can make your outfit truly unique.
Are certain fabrics better suited for evening outfits than others?
Certain fabrics are better suited for evening outfits than others. For example, silk is a great choice for an evening look because it has a luxurious feel and drapes beautifully. Satin is another popular fabric for evening wear as it has a glossy finish that adds a touch of glamor to any outfit. Velvet is also perfect for formal occasions as it gives off an air of sophistication and elegance.
Is it important to consider the season when selecting a skirt for an evening event?
It is important to consider the season when selecting a skirt. For example, if you are attending an event in the summertime, you may want to opt for a lightweight fabric such as cotton or linen that will keep you cool and comfortable. Additionally, when selecting a skirt for an evening event it is important to consider the length of the skirt. A midi-length skirt can be both stylish and appropriate for most occasions while a mini-skirt may be too casual for some events.
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As we age, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that our learning days are behind us. After all, if you read all the articles in the news about the state of education today, you could be forgiven for thinking learning is just for young people. Learning for older adults is hardly ever discussed.
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Research shows that learning at an older age is not only beneficial, but it can also be essential to maintaining good physical and mental health. Learning new skills keeps our minds sharp, helps us stay connected to the world around us, and can even reduce the risk of cognitive decline.
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We are constantly impressed by the Stitch members who share their passion for lifelong learning for older adults, connect with others with shared interests, and — most importantly — have fun together!
What sorts of things can I learn?
New workshops, classes, or lessons are published frequently. Remember, Stitch is member-driven, so all activities are created by members, for members. Older learners have a number of options to choose from. Below are some recent examples we’ve seen from members in various different categories on Stitch.
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Learning art as an older adult can be a fulfilling and rewarding experience. It offers a chance to express oneself creatively and explore new ways of thinking and perceiving the world. Art can also serve as a form of therapy and stress relief.
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We’ve all heard of Gary Chapman’s book, The 5 Love Languages. In fact, most of us know which love language speaks best to us and which means more to our spouse. I am a Physical Touch gal who doesn’t believe a marital argument is over until my husband, Josh, voluntarily hugs me or holds my hand. Josh responds best to Words of Affirmation. Until he audibly hears, “I’m so proud of you,” he simply doesn’t believe it.
Understanding these details has saved us many arguments or at least brought quicker reconciliation. After all, male and female brains are vastly different, so any extra measure you take to understand each other’s way of thinking is invaluable.
What about you? What about your spouse? If you aren’t familiar with The 5 Love Languages quiz, take a few minutes to answer the questions and understand how you receive love. Share the test with your spouse.
Whether you are like Josh or me or discover your love language is Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, or Quality Time, I have a simple but impactful challenge for you: find ways to include your spouse’s love language in chores. Yes, the mundane, annoying chores.
While vacuuming or doing the dishes might not seem to fit into any love language category, when we take time to keep an orderly, comfortable house for one another, we are cultivating a home, and when we cater to our spouse’s love language in the process, we are maintaining its foundation. In a true home, partners can retreat to find refreshment and feel the sort of love this harsh world doesn’t easily dish out.
(As someone flipping a second house with her hubby, incorporating chores into how Josh receives love has made this process less chaotic and stressful and strengthened our communication skills.)
Let’s dive into the five love languages and decide which chores we could burden for our spouse that will speak most to their love language:
Words of Affirmation
I’ll start with Josh’s love language since it’s the one I most actively try to engage these days, especially while renovating an 1890s Tennessee farmhouse.
While I can’t audibly speak chores into completion, I can do simple tasks for him that create engaging conversation where I can praise him for the hard work he does. For example, Josh is a pilot. He’s on the road (or in the sky, rather) for four to five days at a time, and once he comes home, he’s busy working to fix our house. Instead of him having to worry about washing all of his pilot uniforms while balancing all the plumbing and carpentry for the house, I always make sure to wash, dry, fold, and hang up his uniforms so they are ready for his next flight.
When I’m finished, I let him know his uniforms are ready for the suitcase, but I also pair it with, “Thank you so much for working so hard for our family. I see all the effort you’re putting in at home and on the road. And I’m grateful.”
Handling his work laundry is a physical task that sets the stage for an audible conversation where he can hear that I am proud of him and recognize the countless hours he puts into flying airplanes and building bookshelves, hanging wallpaper, and fixing leaky faucets in our rickety farmhouse.
Which chores in your household make the most room for encouraging conversation?
Physical Touch
Okay, let’s jump to mine! I receive love best from physical contact, and while I don’t like for Josh to take charge of my household responsibilities (because I have my own method that I believe works best), I love when Josh takes time to do chores with me.
Now, this might sound a bit like Quality Time, and in a way, it is, but here’s where it’s different for us Physical Touch folks: we love when the chores require us to have close interaction. For Josh and me, that looks a lot like outdoor work. We grow vegetables, fruit, and flowers on our little Tennessee farm, and I love when Josh and I can get our hands dirty helping one another plant. There’s lots of hand-to-hand contact while potting soil or patting seeds into the ground.
I also enjoy it when Josh fills our birdfeeders with me. It requires us to help each other lower the birdhouses, spread seeds, and hang them back up. Just a simple “Let me help you” from Josh as he places a hand under mine means more than all the chocolates and roses he could ever deliver to the doorstep.
Receiving Gifts
“Shouldn’t the gift be the fact that I did the chore for you?” would be my sarcastic reply, but here’s the catch: people who accept love by Receiving Gifts aren’t ungrateful for the chores you do, nor are they demanding pricy gifts. Instead, the tangible gift serves as a mental and emotional reminder that someone thinks enough of them to know them intimately, just as a husband and wife should know one another.
But what does that look like in everyday life? Well, take some time to tidy up your husband’s nightstand by organizing books or power chargers, dusting off the nooks and crannies, and putting his favorite candy bar or drink on the nightstand’s coaster.
It takes five minutes to dust a nightstand, stack books, and wrap up chargers, so why not go the extra mile and put his favorite snack by the bed so he can enjoy it that night while watching television or reading a book? He’ll appreciate your effort to clean up his space and know he’s worth the tiny details, like you stopping by the store to grab a Coke or Reeses Cup he loves.
Hubbies, I recommend taking some time to declutter the living room, perhaps putting up toys, dusting side tables, and straightening up pillows, but add a candle or new picture of you two to the space, and I promise that will mean more than any amount of vacuuming or sweeping you could ever do.
Acts of Service
This one seems like a no-brainer, right? Doing chores for your spouse is an act of service, but a selfless act of service is taking on that one chore you both hate for a substantial time.
Josh and I are expecting our first little one soon, and with this beautiful pregnancy, I have encountered intense food aversions. Just the sight of unfinished food on dishes lying in the sink makes my stomach churn. Josh hates—loathes—washing dishes, but he has taken on that responsibility for the past four months without complaint. I don’t have to ask or beg. He does the chore voluntarily because though he hates washing dishes as much as I do, he knows how hard dishwashing has been for me since pregnancy.
What about your spouse? What is the one chore they cannot stand? Josh is a trooper at taking out the trash, but he never wants to do the detailed work of replacing the old trash bag with a new one. So I always come behind him and handle that small part of the task. Maybe your husband knows it’s time to clean out the garage, but it’s an overwhelming feat. You could spend 30 minutes each day decluttering, organizing, and cleaning one space at a time to inspire him to get the job done!
Quality Time
Expressing the Quality Time love language might not seem authentic if you and your spouse are forced to clean out the hall closet or sanitize the kiddo’s bedroom post-stomach bug. Ew. But quality time doesn’t have to be defined by the tight parameters of just being in the same room as each other.
When things get icky and gross, create a playlist you and your spouse can listen to while sanitizing doorknobs and washing yucky bedsheets. Include their favorite oldies, the songs that make them want to dance, or even the song the two of you danced to at your wedding. When things get chaotic and disorganized, quality time might look like hosting a faux-pas beauty pageant as you try on all the old, goofy, or mismatched clothes, hats, and accessories you find lurking in the hall closet. You know what makes your spouse laugh, so go for it!
Plenty of household chores require both husband and wife, forcing you to spend time with one another. But the quality aspect of this love language is found in thoughtful moments when you prioritize your spouse’s mental, emotional, and physical needs rather than simply completing the chore.
For quality time, it’s all in the tiny, seemingly insignificant details.
Take some time over the next several days to think through how you can use mundane household chores to show your spouse that you care about a neat home and, most importantly, a happy, healthy home where everyone feels seen and loved.
Peyton Garland is an author and coffee shop hopper who loves helping others find beauty from ashes despite OCD, burned bridges, and perfectionism. Follow her on Instagram @peytonmgarland and check out her latest book, Tired, Hungry, & Kinda Faithful, Where Exhaustion and Exile Meet God, to discover how your cup can overflow, even in dry seasons.
Are you a beginner or a seasoned bettor? It doesn’t matter when it comes to safety. It’s important to know how to protect yourself from unnecessary risks when betting on tennis and other sports. In this article, we outlined our top picks for the best betting sites to bet on tennis without unnecessary risk. Besides, we’ll provide an overview of the key factors to consider when evaluating different websites. Read on to learn more about how to make sure your bets are secure!
The Safest Betting Sites Available in 2023
When it comes to betting on tennis, there are a plethora of websites. They offer different levels of security and customer service. To make sure you’re not taking any unnecessary risks, you should select a reliable website. Here is a list of our top picks for betting on tennis and other sports safely.
1XBET
This sportsbook is one of the biggest names in the industry and has been around since 2007. Their platform offers a wide selection of tournaments, leagues, and bets from all over the world. They also have an impressive website design and provide money withdrawal options for your selected region. Visit 1xbet India website to check it out yourself.
Unibet
This leading sportsbook is renowned for its excellent customer service and secure banking services. They offer a great selection of both pre-match and in-play betting options. Several promotions are also available to make your bets more exciting.
William Hill
This one offers one the most user-friendly betting interfaces on the internet. William Hill is nothing but a great option for those looking for an easy-to-navigate platform. They also offer several security features. One of them is money and personal information encryption on remote servers.
888Sport
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This popular sportsbook offers a wide range of pre-match and in-play betting options. You will also find a variety of promotions and bonuses to sweeten the deal. They also boast an impressive website design and easy-to-use mobile app.
Betfair
This cutting-edge sportsbook is known for its modern features and secure payment options, making it a great choice for those looking to take their betting experience up a notch. They offer a wide selection of tournaments and bets to choose from, as well as several promotions and bonuses.
What to Consider When Choosing a Betting Site
When selecting a website to bet on tennis, there are several key factors you should consider. Most importantly, you want to make sure the site is reliable and secure. Don’t forget to think about:
the selection of sports
leagues
promotions and bonuses available
user-friendliness
website design
Security and Safety Features
First and foremost, it’s vital to check that the betting site you are using is secure. Look for websites with SSL encryption technology that protect your data from hackers. It’s also important to make sure the site is licensed and regulated by a reputable jurisdiction. For example the UK Gambling Commission or Malta Gaming Authority. It depends on the country you live in. Not on the country the website is based in.
You should also check that there are measures in place to safeguard your personal and financial information, such as:
two-factor authentication
regular software systems audits for fairness and integrity
legal server locations
compliance with your local regulations
User-Friendliness and Website Design
Another key factor to consider when choosing a betting website is user-friendliness. You should make sure the site is easy to use, with a clear and intuitive layout. The website should also be mobile friendly, so you can conveniently place your bets on the go.
It’s important to make sure the betting site you choose offers a good selection of sports, leagues and bets. The best sites will offer a wide range of markets, including pre-match and in-play options. You should also check that there are plenty of tennis tournaments available to bet on.
Bonuses and Promotions
Finally, you should consider the bonuses and promotions offered by the website. Reputable sites will often offer welcome offers and other incentives to reward new customers. You should also check for ongoing offers such as enhanced odds or free bets. This is a great way to get more value for your money when betting on tennis!
Finally, it’s important to check the withdrawal options offered by the website. Make sure there are reliable methods available so you can withdraw your winnings quickly and securely. Look for sites with multiple payment options including debit cards, e-wallets and bank transfers.
By taking into account all of these factors, you can make sure your bets are secure and that you’re getting the best experience possible when betting on tennis. Be sure to do your research and pick a reliable website that prioritizes safety!
Conclusion
Betting on tennis can be an exciting way to make some extra money if done correctly. To ensure your bets are secure and successful, it’s important to select a reliable betting website that prioritizes safety. When evaluating websites, make sure to consider their security and safety features, user-friendliness and website design, selection of sports, leagues and bets, bonuses and promotions, and money withdrawal options. Doing your research will help you make the most out of your betting experience.
There are times when you feel like your boyfriend is falling out of love with you. You feel like he is exerting signs he wants you to leave him alone. You feel neglected, unheard, and unseen because the one person who matters the most is turning a blind eye to you and your affection. Maybe he feels suffocated, or he is feeling unhappy in the relationship, or has other things on his mind. I know this must be a difficult time for you.
A study by Dr. Machin on how men and women perceive relationships concluded that, “The war of the sexes is still alive and kicking within our relationships. The research shows that successful relationships are much more essential to women’s well-being than men’s. Men seem to keep their relationships at arm’s length with one eye on the dating market.”
20 Signs He Wants You To Leave Him Alone
It’s not just painful to be ignored by the love of your life. It’s also confusing. You don’t know if you should leave him alone if he ignores you or to pursue him and find out what’s bothering him. It’s also disrespectful toward the love you both have for each other.
Some people are not brave enough to be upfront about breaking up with you. They go around in circles and resort to a lot of negative actions to make you break up with them instead. All this, just to free themselves from the ‘breakup guilt’. Maybe he is dealing with family issues or he is facing stress at work or even battling childhood demons.
But none of those reasons should be targeted at you and make you feel like you’re not needed. Below are some obvious signs he wants you to leave him alone.
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1. One-word answers
This is one of the ways I found out my former boyfriend was falling out of love with me. Whether it was in text messages or in person, he would manage to answer my questions in a single word. “Yes”, “No”, “Maybe”. Those three words became his go-to answers for everything I asked. It’s hard to describe the level of frustration I experienced.
How do you go from talking about the most random things in the universe to just “okay”, “good to know”, and “whatever”? I was sure of two things when communication dropped from hour-long chattering to one-word replies. He was either falling out of love with me or he had found someone way more interesting to talk to about his life. When they give you short answers, that’s one of the signs he is ignoring you for someone else.
If a guy is unsure about you, he should tell that to your face. We are strong enough to take it. It’s nothing short of hell when you are desperate for him to just talk to you. No grand gestures, no romantic dates. Just talk. That’s the least he can do to show you that you are respected. If he can’t, it’s one of the clear signs he doesn’t care about you.
2. He has no time for you
He could be busy with work or attending a family event and genuinely has no time to spend with you. It’s not one of the signs he wants you to leave him alone. He could be truly busy and you might be overthinking this. If he has told you once he’s busy, then don’t panic and do trust him.
However, it’s one thing to be occupied with work but it’s downright rude to completely cut you off willfully. If he is deliberately choosing to occupy himself in order to spend less time with you, then it’s one of the signs you need to leave him alone. You deserve someone who will try to make time for you within a busy schedule.
3. Signs he wants you to leave him alone — He is irritable most of the time
How do you tell if a guy wants you to leave him alone? When everything you do seems to rub him the wrong way. He is making you feel like you are the cause of his stress and irritated mood. No matter what you do or how far you go to make him happy, he always seems miffed with you when you’ve done nothing to put him in a bad mood.
Jennifer, a dermatologist, says, “I was once in a toxic relationship where my partner was always grumpy. At first, I thought maybe he is going through an emotional turmoil and wants to be left alone. But soon I realized he was fine with everyone else. That irritable mood was reserved for me alone. That’s when I knew I’d had enough and ended the relationship.”
4. Avoids intimacy of any kind
Was it hot and heavy when you started dating him? Always kissing and ready to jump into bed to make love. If he has abstained himself from sexual intimacy, then it’s one of the signs he wants you to leave him alone. The importance of sex in a relationship should be understood by all the couples because sex is one of the major factors that binds a romantic relationship.
Sex is a stress-relieving way of expressing your love toward your partner. When asked on Reddit how important sex is in a relationship, a user replied, “Very important. Obviously it’s not everything, but main way I feel loved and cherished is by physical affection, and so sex is a major part of that.”
5. He fights with you over petty issues
How do you tell if a guy wants you to leave him alone? When he fights with you all the time. Fights are natural and very much needed for a relationship to thrive and survive. Partners in even the most stable relationships end up arguing once in a while. But arguing constantly in a relationship over big and silly things can be emotionally draining.
The distance will only grow more if the quarreling doesn’t stop. You can’t keep loving him when all you get in return are baseless and futile arguments. If he snaps at you for the smallest of things, it’s one of the signs you need to leave him alone. There is a deeper problem behind these constant fights that needs to be addressed.
6. He doesn’t fight at all
On the flip side, if he seems uninterested and ignorant about everything that’s happening around you both, it’s one of the signs he wants you to leave him alone. No argument is a sign of lack of communication. If he is deliberately avoiding an argument, then it’s one of the signs he wants you to leave him alone. It could mean he doesn’t care about fixing things.
When asked on Reddit if lack of fights is normal, a user shared, “Every couple is bound to disagree on some things, have misunderstandings, and sometimes hurt feelings. It is not necessary to “fight” though. You don’t have to scream and yell, or slam doors and whatnot. Talking things out and discussing issues is healthy, if you consider that fighting, then I’m sure everyone does that from time to time.”
7. He is rude and disrespectful
Respect is important in every relationship. When he is disrespectful and rude toward you, it will negatively impact your self-esteem. Respect needs to go beyond the honeymoon phase. He can’t be rude to you or take you for granted because he is not interested in you anymore. That’s unacceptable.
His poor treatment toward you is an indication he is not interested in maintaining the relationship and it’s one of the signs of lack of respect in a relationship. Apart from disrespecting you verbally, there are other actions that portray his uncivil behavior:
Doesn’t respect your time
Doesn’t keep his promises
Has a condescending behavior, like insulting the things that interest you
Dismisses/invalidates your feelings
Avoids any kind of conversation because he is afraid it will turn into an argument
Belittles you
Gives you the silent treatment
8. No eye contact anymore
Eyes are famously known as the “windows to the soul”. Mutual gaze is a sign of attraction, passion, and love. If your partner is hesitant to look you in the eye and talk, then it’s one of the subtle signs you need to leave him alone.
A study published in the Journal of Research and Personality, in which two opposite sex strangers were asked to gaze into each other’s eyes for two minutes, found that this was enough in some cases to produce passionate feelings for each other. So much so that one of the couples even got married a year later.
9. None of his plans include you
He makes decisions on his own. He goes on trips without you. Or worse, if you ask to accompany him on one of his trips and he says he wants to go alone, then it indicates he doesn’t enjoy your company anymore. If you see him making plans with everyone but you, then it’s one of the signs he wants you to leave him alone.
When you’re in love with someone, you want to feel included in their plans, be it short-term or long-term. Leena, a 27-year-old journalist, shares, “I knew it was over when he accepted a job offer in another city. He didn’t even tell me he applied for a job. I was completely blindsided. It was heartbreaking.”
The purpose of any romantic relationship is to feel loved, cared, and wanted by the other person. You feel a sense of belonging in their presence. It takes a lot to keep a relationship going but that’s not a bad thing. When you love someone, you want to put in that extra effort just to make them happy.
But when he looks at all this as his ‘duty’, it’s one of the signs he doesn’t care about you. When you treat the simple act of care-giving as an obligation, it loses its purpose. When hanging out becomes a chore, it leads to a lack of intimacy, communication issues, and neglect of one another’s emotional needs.
11. Other things are prioritized over you
By priority, I am not saying he has to choose you over anybody else. He doesn’t have to choose you over his family and friends. You can’t become someone’s universe. You can be a part of it but you cannot entirely become their everything. They have a life of their own which they need to live in order to be sane. You know what’s one of the signs of unconditional love in a relationship? When he knows how to prioritize you.
So, how do you tell if a guy wants you to leave him alone? When he chooses to hang out with his friends on your date night. You’ve already planned the date and he agreed to it. Now, he suddenly flaked out to chill with his friends instead. This is one of the alarming signs he wants you to leave him alone.
12. Deliberately ignores you
Everyone’s busy with their lives. But he can’t text you back and tell you he’ll reply later? It’s always a conscious choice to ignore someone you love. It’s one thing to ignore your phone calls and messages but it’s extra hurtful when he does this in person. It’s as if he can’t see your existence. He is always watching TV, playing video games, or scrolling through his Instagram feed, but can’t reply to a text. My ex-boyfriend used to ignore me whenever we had a fight. It made me go insane.
When asked on Reddit about how to acknowledge and pay attention to your partner, a user replied, “My boyfriend puts his phone on silent and away whenever we’re together. He never picks it up. I’ve never talked to him about phone etiquette or anything. It’s just something you do out of respect. I don’t check my phone either. We are 100% present when we are together.”
13. He isn’t vulnerable with you anymore
Vulnerability is an intimate language not everyone can be fluent in. It’s a thoroughly calculated risk you take in relationships, only if you completely trust and love that person. It’s one of the characteristics of a healthy relationship because it allows you to see your partner’s unfiltered version. That’s when you find out your partner is a human being with flaws and imperfections.
But if he constantly chooses ‘safe’ topics to have conversations about, then it’s obvious he wants to avoid being vulnerable with you. The unwillingness to express his emotions freely means he is withholding his true self and doesn’t want you to see him as he is. He is either not sure about you or doesn’t trust you enough to open up.
14. He flirts with other people
One of the worst signs he wants you to leave him alone and end the relationship is when he openly flirts with others. You’re there sitting in a restaurant with him and he checks out someone else. He smiles at them. He even tells you how attractive they are. Or you are at a party together. All of a sudden, he is being too sweet to a stranger and he openly flirts with others too. In such times, you don’t know what to do when your partner flirts with others.
If he does all that and you’ve found signs of ‘the other’ person in his life, then leave him alone if he ignores you for them. He could even be cheating on you. But it’s not just cheating that breaks a relationship, is it? It’s how you make the other person feel by disrespecting the trust they place in you.
15. He isn’t affectionate with you anymore
It’s the little things like listening to you, looking into your eyes, smiling at you whenever your eyes meet, making time for you, and holding your hand. It’s these romantic gestures that make you feel loved. How long has it been since he’s done any of that? Lack of affection in a relationship leads to many problems.
My friend Sam recently went through a breakup. I asked him which sign made it obvious that the relationship was nearing its end. He replied, “We loved sitting close to each other during meals, we would snuggle in bed, or have our shoulders pressed together on the couch while watching TV. I knew we were nearing our end when I started relying solely on these memories of what we used to be like, in order to justify staying with him.”
16. He acts as if you’re a burden
When he makes you feel like a burden or that he has sacrificed everything to be with you, it’s time you walk away from the relationship. It’s one of the signs he doesn’t care about you. All acts of love now seem too much to him. Going out for dinner, spending time with you, listening to your stories, and healthy compromise seem like sacrifices to him. If he keeps behaving like this, then it’s one of the signs you need to leave him alone.
When he constantly criticizes you, he is trying to hurt you. He is being spiteful for no reason. Your partner should be someone you can lean on. But his constant criticisms are taking a toll on your mental health. When you confront him about this, he will get defensive and reply, “It’s just a joke.” There’s a thin line between laughing with someone and laughing at someone.
I dated a guy briefly back in college. It was just casual dating but he was quite a jerk. He would constantly criticize my body. I was a little chubby back then and he once touched my belly and said, “You’re a little hippo, aren’t you?” I was appalled but for some reason, I chose to ignore it. He constantly criticized everything I did. From my choice of clothing to makeup to eating preferences. It was deeply disturbing. I ended it the day he criticized my career and called it a “dead-end”.
18. He lies to you
Little, harmless lies are common in every relationship. It’s not a perfect world where everyone is honest all the time. In the real world, everyone tweaks the truth a little bit here and there. However, a recent study published in The Journal of Neuroscience found that people who told a white lie actually had selfish motives for telling that lie.
In that context, big lies can definitely ruin a relationship. Every relationship is built on honesty. When you lie, it damages mutual trust. It’s never just one lie. It’s one lie after another until it becomes a mountain and ends up crumbling.
19. He talks about taking a relationship break
Relationship breaks are taken to be sure about someone or just to have some space. He might be battling a trauma and wants to deal with it all alone. Or he might want to focus on building a career. But if none of the legitimate events are the reasons for a relationship break, then it’s one of the signs he wants you to leave him alone.
While talking about relationship breaks, a Reddit user shared, “Breaks are just breakups to me. My significant other wanted a break earlier last year. It was a break up from my perspective because “breaks” are really just half-assed back-up plans in my opinion.” Some breaks, though, are quite important for the health of a relationship. But if you experience this, along with the other signs, it’s definitely concerning.
20. He threatens to break up but never does
This is an emotionally abusive habit which is a definite relationship killer. How can you threaten to leave someone you love? If he wants to leave you, he would have done that by now. Threatening you that he would leave you is just another way of exerting control over you.
Joanna, a mechanical engineer, says, “Threatening to break up is manipulative and induces fear. It can even lead to anxiety. It’s immature behavior from your partner’s side. It’s one of the clear signs to leave him alone if he ignores you or stonewalls you after threatening to break up with you.”
Key Pointers
He wants you to leave him alone if he ignores you and is not interested in having a conversation with you
You need to leave him if he disrespects you or threatens to break up with you
He doesn’t care about you if he acts as if you are a burden or withdraws affection from you
A man who wants to be in your life will never act in a way that’s intentionally hurtful. If he is trying the push-and-pull behavior with you, that’s also one of the signs he wants you to leave him alone. If he doesn’t want you, then you’re better off without him. Don’t think it’s the end of the world. It’s just the end of a relationship. Something much better awaits you.
FAQs
1. How do you know when a guy is done with you?
When he mistreats you, belittles you, and makes you feel like you are in a one-sided relationship. You know a guy is done with you when he stops spending quality time with you. Everything is boring to him and nothing makes him happy when he’s with you.
2. Will he miss me if I leave him alone?
He will miss you because you two have spent so much time together. There are so many memories that will remind him of you. But do you want to go back together with him after everything he put you through? Make sure you make wise decisions. Don’t go back to someone just because they claim to miss you. Let their actions speak louder than words.
Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn – Founder of Social Attraction
Hello, I’m Gary Gunn, founder of Social Attraction. Over the years, we have helped countless individuals overcome various challenges in their dating lives and achieve their personal goals.
Whether it’s overcoming the fear of approaching women during the day, navigating the modern dating scene after a long hiatus, or building a thriving social circle, our personalised coaching programs have proven to be highly effective in transforming our clients’ lives.
In this blog post, we’re excited to share with you three inspiring case studies that demonstrate the incredible impact that Social Attraction coaching can have on people’s lives.
Tom, a 44-year-old man, was stuck in a rut when it came to his dating life. He found it difficult to approach women during the day, which led him to rely on alcohol to build up courage during nights out.
❌ Tom’s fear of approaching women during the day was rooted in several limiting beliefs, including the fear of rejection, lack of confidence, and self-doubt.
❌ This caused him to resort to alcohol-fuelled nights out, where he often felt that he was competing with other men for women’s attention.
❌ This approach left him feeling unfulfilled and unsuccessful in finding meaningful relationships.
We designed a comprehensive program tailored to Tom’s needs. Our coaching process included the following steps:
✅ Mindset Shift: Through a combination of exercises and coaching sessions, Tom’s mindset began to change. He started to believe that he was capable of making meaningful connections with women during the day without relying on alcohol.
✅ Daytime Approach Strategies: Tom was taught effective daytime approach techniques that allowed him to engage women in conversation without feeling invasive or intrusive.
✅ Rejection Management: Our coaches equipped Tom with the tools to handle rejection and maintain a positive attitude despite potential setbacks.
The end result – Through the Social Attraction coaching program, Tom experienced a transformation in his dating life.
He successfully overcame his fear of approaching women during the day and learned a healthier and more effective dating strategy.
This led Tom to meet a 32-year-old woman who fitted in with his new healthier lifestyle, three months after our coaching, and they are now together and still dating.
Frank, a 48-year-old divorcee, found himself back in the dating scene after a 20-year marriage with no experience in modern dating; and a lack of confidence in his ability to navigate being single.
❌ After a long marriage, Frank faced the daunting task of re-entering the dating scene.
❌ This left him feeling overwhelmed and unsure of how to begin dating again.
We developed a customised program to address Frank’s unique needs and concerns, which included the following steps:
✅ Modern Dating Education: Our coaches taught Frank about the latest dating trends and norms, including dating platforms, texting etiquette, and how to understand modern dating.
✅ Personalised Dating Strategies: Based on Frank’s personality, preferences, and goals, our coaches designed a tailored dating strategy that catered to his particular situation.
✅ Confidence Building: Frank was provided with practical tools and techniques to build his self-confidence, including body language, voice tonality, and personal grooming tips.
The end result – Through the Social Attraction coaching program, Frank was able to regain his confidence and successfully re-enter the dating scene.
With his newfound ability to navigate modern dating practices and platforms, Frank went on to date multiple women and enjoy romantic experiences.
Frank’s experience with Social Attraction coaching illustrates the profound impact that personalised coaching can have on individuals getting back into dating a long hiatus; by providing them with the tools, knowledge, and support needed to navigate modern dating.
Matthew, a 38-year-old man, had relied heavily on his friends to meet women throughout his life. However, as his friends settled down and got married, he found it increasingly challenging to meet new people and expand his social circle.
❌ Matthew’s reliance on his friends to meet new women left him feeling isolated and disconnected as they began to marry and settle down.
❌ He struggled with building a social circle and lacked the confidence to approach women on his own.
❌ Had very limited opportunities to meet potential romantic partners.
Our tailored program helped Matthew overcome his challenges and take control of his dating life. This program included the following steps:
✅ Expanding Social Circles: Our coaches guided Matthew on effective strategies to make new friends, engage in social activities, and expand his network.
✅ Developing Independent Dating Skills: Matthew was taught various techniques for approaching and connecting with women without relying on his friends.
✅ Travel and Adventure: Our coaches encouraged Matthew to embrace solo travel and explore new destinations, providing him with opportunities to meet new women.
The end result – Matthew experienced a significant transformation in his social and dating life by undergoing out coaching program.
By helping Matthew expand his social circle, build confidence, and develop independent dating skills, we enabled him to take control of his social and dating life.
Matthew’s journey demonstrates the effectiveness of Social Attraction coaching in empowering clients to lead fulfilling and adventurous romantic lives, regardless of their starting point.
Conclusion
In conclusion, the success stories of Tom, Frank, and Matthew highlight the life-changing impact that personalised coaching from Social Attraction can have on individuals facing various dating challenges.
These case studies demonstrate that, with the right guidance, tools, and mindset, anyone can overcome their limitations and build a fulfilling, thriving dating life.
No matter what obstacles you may be facing, our tailored coaching programs are here to support and empower you in your journey towards personal growth, self-confidence, and romantic success.
Eastwick, P. W., & Finkel, E. J. (2008). Sex differences in mate preferences revisited: Do people know what they initially desire in a romantic partner? Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 94(2), 245-264. This study examines the role of personal preferences and initial attraction in romantic relationships. The findings suggest that people may not be fully aware of their preferences, emphasizing the importance of coaching and guidance in helping individuals identify and connect with suitable romantic partners.
Greitemeyer, T. (2010). Effects of reciprocity on attraction: The role of a partner’s physical attractiveness. Personal Relationships, 17(2), 317-330. This study investigates the effects of reciprocity on attraction and the role of physical attractiveness. The research highlights the importance of self-confidence and developing skills to initiate and maintain reciprocal interactions in romantic relationships, supporting the need for coaching in areas such as body language, voice tonality, and personal grooming.
MacDonald, G., & Leary, M. R. (2005). Why does social exclusion hurt? The relationship between social and physical pain. Psychological Bulletin, 131(2), 202-223. This study examines the relationship between social and physical pain, showing that social exclusion or rejection can have significant psychological impacts. The findings underscore the importance of rejection management and maintaining a positive attitude in the face of potential setbacks, as taught in the Social Attraction coaching programs.
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This is one of the most common complaints I hear from singles. And it’s not because you’re not attractive, or there are no men out there, or they all want to date 20 years younger, or online dating just doesn’t work for me. (It works for everyone else, just not me).
Nope. That’s not why.
So, let’s take a look. Online texting/messaging is both an art and a science. The art portion is being imaginative, short, sweet and knowing your audience. The science part is super simple: Here we go with stats! On average, an online dater can expect that with every 10 messages they shoot into cyberspace, one will answer. Gulp. Ok, if you are super talented with messaging, it may be 2, even 3 in 10.
But like Wayne Gretzky said “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”.
1. Statistically, if you have not met him/her within 5 days of the initial message, the date/meet will never happen.
Did that floor you? This is true 95% of the time according to a Stanford study. As a dating coach advising singles for over 25 years, I wholeheartedly agree. Cyber dating moves fast—here today, gone tomorrow. Don’t wait!
2. “Saving people” you may be interested in.
Ok, this amazes me as I work with intelligent people. What does this mean? We will be looking at potential matches together online, and I get the comment, “Let me think about him/her”. I ask “Why and for how long”. You know the answer: “I want to see who else is out there”.
You just lost. Please don’t do this. Here is my Rule of Thumb: If someone told you that the Powerball ticket you were thinking of purchasing gave you a 50-50 chance of winning, would you buy it? Of course.
Same logic applied here. If there’s a 50-50 chance you might like them, why does it hurt to send a message? Worst case, you’ll get a bit more info on them. Best case, you’ll love their message and a date ensues. I can’t tell you how rare it is that someone looks at a match online and says “Oh, I know there’s a 90% chance she is the one for me”. How could you know that from a simple profile and a couple of thumbnail photos?
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3. Hearts/Flowers/Winks/Smiles/Likes
Don’t even get me started on this one. You send any of the above without a message, you just wasted your time.
4. Cut/Paste Messages
We know. And who wants to respond to this message.
For men it goes like this: “Hey beautiful, I like your profile”. For women: “I liked your profile. We have lots in common”.
Zero effort here. It’s either someone clueless about messaging…or they’ve been online forever and are burnt out. Either way, don’t respond. And please don’t become one of these people!
5. Paragraphs, and paragraphs and paragraphs
Yes, I run into this working with my clients. They have sent an interesting message to a potential date, and what do they get back? A novel on this person. I’m totally serious. On Monday with one client we got a reply that was 8 paragraphs telling us his life story. Both our eyes glazed over after the first few sentences…who wants to date someone who spills their life on a dating site. TMI!
As Michael Jordan said: “The key to success if failure. I’ve never been afraid to fail”.
And as an expert in dating, he is so right!
So, what works? I’ll get into that in my next article. But here’s a preview: Short, Sweet, Gracious, Funny, Quirky, and asking a good question! More on that Saturday.
Anyone who is diagnosed with cancer has difficult decisions to make in many respects. This includes making choices and decisions relating to getting treatment for cancer, and there are various options that might be available. While your doctor will generally provide further information about local treatments, you might want to consider other options, such as getting treatment at a cancer center in Mexico.
There are various reasons why people decide to choose this option, and there are many benefits that come with traveling further afield for your cancer treatment. It means that you can access innovative treatments that might otherwise be unavailable to you. It also means that you can benefit from state-of-the-art facilities. However, it is vital that you do your research before making these important decisions, as you need to make an informed choice with regard to whether this is the right solution for you. In this article, we will look at some of the things to think about when considering cancer treatment at a center in Mexico.
What You Must Consider
There are a number of factors that you must consider if you want to make an informed decision regarding this type of cancer treatment. Some of the main ones are:
Find Out Whether You Are Eligible
Before you start doing any further research into this option, the first thing you must consider is whether you are eligible for this option. While there are revolutionary treatments that can be accessed if you are prepared to travel, eligibility can vary based on the treatment and the type of cancer you have been diagnosed with. So, you need to make sure you contact the cancer center to find out more about whether you are eligible for this treatment.
Consider Your Finances
Another thing you need to consider before you make any decisions is your financial situation and the cost of the treatment. Naturally, you need to be able to budget for the treatment, and you should keep in mind that it can be expensive. However, it is also worth noting that some providers do offer access to finance, which means that you might be able to spread the payments for the cancer treatment if you are eligible. This is something you will need to look into with the cancer center you are considering using.
Look at the Length of Treatment
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It is also important to consider how long the treatment is likely to take and work out whether you can afford to be away from home for the length of time required. Make sure you speak to the cancer center to find out whether there are different phases to the treatment and whether there is any option to travel home between phases if this is something you prefer to do.
Taking the above factors into consideration is important when it comes to getting cancer treatment in Mexico. It enables you to make a more informed decision when it comes to something as important as this.
Have you ever wondered why you feel a rush of euphoria and excitement when you see someone you’re attracted to? It turns out that there’s a scientific explanation for this phenomenon.
In this episode, we delve into the role that dopamine plays in our brain chemistry and its impact on love and sex. We examine the difference between dopamine and serotonin, and how dopamine can create feelings of anticipation and intense pleasure.
Did you know that the dopamine high of marriage can be even stronger than the high from falling in love? We’ll explain why this is the case, and what happens when dopamine levels fall too low.
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Whether you are moving some hundred miles away to another state or country, completing a long-distance move can prove challenging. Unlike short-distance moves, where you can throw everything in your van, a long-distance move requires extensive planning. There’s a lot that goes into planning for a long-distance move.
Unfortunately, most people focus on finding a moving company, a new home, creating a budget for the move, and other logistics involved, often overlooking the importance of the packing process. Below is a guide to help you pack better for a long-distance move.
What to do Before Packing?
Contrary to what most people think, packing goes beyond picking the right boxes and stashing your items. Being organized is crucial during the packing process. Below are a few things you should do before packing:
Create a checklist
The packing process is overwhelming and stressful regardless of the distance of the move. Keeping track of the different moving parts involved during packing is difficult, and you can easily forget important things. Creating a checklist ensures you don’t forget anything and gives you a timeline to complete important tasks, such as changing utilities.
Take an inventory of your items
Realizing that you forgot important items or documents when packing or unloading is disappointing. Like the checklist highlighting your activities, you should have a list of all your belongings. An inventory makes tracking all your belongings during and after the move easy.
Declutter
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Decluttering is an important part of preparing for the move. While it is tempting to relocate with all your belongings, you should get rid of non-essential and rarely used items. Decluttering also reduces the quantity of your belongings, significantly saving on moving costs. You won’t lose much by donating old clothes and books.
Find a reliable moving company
Finding a moving company before you start packing is also important. Your choice of moving company can directly affect your moving schedule and the safety of your belongings. Moving companies have different services, making it necessary to find one that offers services that meet your needs. Find a professional long-distance moving company, let them assess your items, and give an estimate of the moving costs before packing. Some companies offer packing and unpacking services.
Where to Start Packing When Preparing To Move?
With a plan in place, you can now start packing. While it might seem overwhelming, having an inventory and knowing what to pack first simplifies the process. Pack your home for the move following the order below:
Storage items – whether you have a designated storage unit, use your garage, or use a hidden compartment in your walk-in closet, packing items in the storage area first when preparing for the move is easy. Ideally, most items in storage units are kept in boxes, making it easier to sort and repack. Don’t forget to get rid of non-essential items and repackage items to reduce the load size.
Out-of-season clothes – packing out-of-season clothes is also very easy. Like items in your storage units, off-season clothes are normally categorized or packed in boxes. Besides, you won’t need these clothes for several months after the move, meaning you can keep them among the last in a pile. Nonetheless, sort through these clothes and donate or discard those that no longer fit.
Rare-use dishes – these dishes can also be kept last in the pile, since you certainly won’t host dinner parties immediately after the move. Remember to pack them carefully and label boxes containing them as fragile.
Picture frames, artwork, and wall hangings – packing wall hangings and artwork can prove challenging. You should start with these decorations since you don’t need them while packing. Besides, it is very easy to forget when the struggles and anxiety of moving out kick in. Use cushioning materials to protect glass frames during transit.
Sentimental items – you should also prioritize packing sentimental items when preparing to move. Like artwork and wall hangings, you can easily forget these items if you decide to pack them later. Be it an old journal or a jewelry box, pack these items in your first packing boxes.
Extra towels and linens – you should empty your supplies closet in the early stages of preparation. If you don’t have enough packing boxes, use your extra towels and linens as cushions for fragile items like glasses.
Books – your mini library should also be among the first things to pack when preparing for the move. Donate books you’ve already read and return borrowed books to the library and respective owners.
Packing Tips to Ease Your Long-Distance Move
Consider the following tips when packing for a long-distance move:
Use the right size of moving boxes – use small boxes for books and heavy items and large boxes for light items, like pillows and linens. Packing heavy items in large boxes makes it difficult to load and unload.
Pack boxes with distance in mind – most people forget this when packing for a long-distance move. If you are packing fragile items, wrap them with bubble wrap or an old t-shirt for additional protection.
Label boxes with your name or a unique identifier – unless you intend to rent a moving truck for the move, most long-distance moving companies combine boxes from different clients to save on costs. Label your boxes with your name or a unique identifier to prevent mix-ups during drop-off. You should even consider writing down your phone number or new address.
Choose the right packing materials – it is certainly tempting to pack your belongings in complementary boxes from local stores. However, these boxes aren’t sturdy enough and might not protect your items during transit. Invest in quality packing materials for guaranteed peace of mind.
Disassemble your furniture – you should disassemble your tables, desks, and bedroom sets to ease transport. It also saves space, ultimately reducing moving costs.
The Bottom Line
Many people are moving to different states and across the country due to the increasing adoption of remote work, in search of job opportunities, to live closer to their families, and for many other reasons. Deciding to make a long-distance move is the beginning. After you’ve decided on your new home, you should have an elaborate plan to move your belongings in one piece.
