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“I think Roy’s slipping. How to get him interested again fast?” When my coworker, Hannah, said this to me, I flipped. They had a great relationship. To imagine people like them struggling with each other was impossible for someone like me who was constantly in and out of toxic relationships. Theirs was the kind of love I aspired to have. I asked her if they argued, but she said they had been drifting apart. Though it was heartbreaking to hear, it made me wonder: Once a guy loses interest, can you get it back?

This was eight years ago. Hannah and Roy are celebrating their third marriage anniversary this weekend. But the question kept bothering me. So to get to the root of this question, I got in touch with Preeti Khare, who specializes in dating and premarital counseling. We had a great discussion, and she explained to me what you can do to make him value you again. 

18 Surefire Ways To Get Him Interested Again Fast

When you feel your partner losing interest, it can leave you worried and with emotional insecurity about the relationship. Preeti suggests the following reasons that your man has drifted away:

• You’re not paying him attention anymore: We all crave love and attention and a lack of it may cause him to drift away
• You’re taking things for granted: You don’t believe dinner dates are needed post-marriage, or that you need to put any effort into your looks once you’ve moved in with him
• One of you is stressed: Work or financial stress in relationships could be another reason. This could lead to a fall in libido, which can also be pushing him away
• He’s having an affair: Your guy could be seeing someone else behind your back
• The relationship is doing nothing for him: Sometimes guys drift away because they’ve been caught up in a ‘right person, wrong time’ situation. They love you, but the relationship isn’t working for them

You can’t do a lot if your partner is distant because he’s falling for someone else or if he’s fallen out of love with you. But if it’s you who needs to make amends, then let’s figure out how to get him interested again fast.

1. Ask yourself if you want him back

Preeti says, “Disrespect, abuse, and toxicity are a few things no one should compromise over. You need to keep an eye out for such red flags in your man. Such relationships have a very short shelf life anyway. Unless both of you can work on the relationship, it’s not going to work.” Whether you’re looking for ways to get back with your ex or are trying to rekindle the dwindling romance in your marriage, first ask yourself if you truly want it. So, give yourself ample time to decide if you want the relationship or if it’s just vanity/social expectations/financial pressure.

• Make a pro-con list to decide if getting back with him will be a good idea
• Analyze your feelings. Do you get jittery or anxious at the thought of being with him? If you do, then it’s not a good sign
• Imagine yourself with him doing different things throughout the day. Is his behavior in your imagination a reflection of his true behavior, or a projection of what you think it should be? If it’s the latter, you know that you’re in love with an idea of him, rather than with him

2. Identify why he pulled away

Like everything else in a relationship, the loss of interest in one’s partner happens gradually. It can get hard to pinpoint exactly when everything began to fall apart, but narrowing the problem to an event or a huge/recurring issue could help.

• It’s possible that your guy has not lost interest in the relationship, but is trying to assess its future. Some guys pull away before they commit because they need time and space to think things through
• Photos hold the key to unlocking certain memories. Look at your pictures and sort out the emotions. In the sad photos, what made you sad? Did he say something? Did something happen on that day?
• Talk to your friends. Since most of us have a very hunky-dory picture of our relationship, our friends can help us put things into perspective
• If you can, talk to your guy and find out why he is not interested anymore. If that sounds daunting, text him. What to text a guy who lost interest? Simple. Send one of the aforementioned pictures and ask why he looks so glum

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3. Be yourself, love yourself

Self-love is easier said than done. And has become a highly commercialized spiral that can suck you into a world of expensive skincare and scented candles. There’s nothing wrong in indulging in either of them, but self-love starts from within, not through external factors. Try to love the damaged person in you, the one who has made mistakes you regret, and whom you compare to others and get disappointed at for not being healthy/successful/beautiful/married/pregnant.

• Lose the mask, especially around your guy. If you have to pretend to be someone else to be with him, then he’s not the right person for you
• Be the main character of your story. Make choices that are right for you and don’t let yourself be taken for granted
• When you love yourself, you want to try things that challenge you. Show this spontaneity to him and surprise him with your confidence

4. Appreciate him

Preeti says, “Relationships are built on empathy. You can’t get him interested again by ignoring him. If you can’t be empathetic, you’d find most of your relationships breaking apart.”

It is often seen in long-term relationships that people begin to take their partners and their efforts for granted. Research suggests that expressing gratitude can improve relationship quality over time.You may believe in showing your gratitude through gestures, but words reinforce gratitude in ways that gestures never can.

• Tell him you’re thankful for him. If talking sounds unnerving, maybe you can leave around cute love notes for your boyfriend to find later
• Give him credit where it is due. Tell people how good he is at what he does. You may find that he lacks certain skills, but try to look at his positives
• Can a guy who lost interest come back with adequate gratitude? Possibly. We rarely realize this, but a majority of distress in a relationship is due to a lack of acknowledgment of one’s efforts
• While you should appreciate him for what he does, don’t put him on a pedestal. Tell him that you expect him to share the load too

5. Become the person you want to fall in love with

Preeti says, “Sometimes, while talking about their boyfriend, a co-dependent client would expect me to tell them ways to seduce him or how to highlight all the work they’re putting in the relationship. But the only way you can get a guy interested again after being needy is if you’re ready to make the very same changes to yourself that you want him to undergo.” You want him to be caring, confident, and independent; you need to embody those values yourself.

• Popular culture often talks about the revenge body or the revenge dress. Yes, you need to look good and feel good. But it has to be for you, in a healthy way, and not for others whose approval you crave
• Exercising releases serotonin, a feel-good hormone. Start a new workout. Revamp your wardrobe. Donate any clothes that don’t make you feel good. Dress how you feel. Work on yourself
• Let go of the negativity. Establish a network of empowering people you can spend time with. Seek out new adventures

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6. How to get him interested again fast — Ensure physical proximity

If you feel that your guy is losing interest in you, then you need to increase your proximity to him. In her book, Social Psychology, Jennifer Croyle identifies proximity as an important factor in love and attachment. Proximity can be manufactured by creating situations that require you two to be present in a place, working in collaboration. You may have seen this cliche in many Hollywood movies like The Proposal, How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days, and She’s The Man. If you do this step right, you can make your husband miss you during a separation too.

• Create a situation where the two of you have to be together. It could be a wedding, project, or vacation. Take your pick
• It will be great if this situation doesn’t have a lot of people. You don’t want him to be distracted
• Don’t use this situation as an opportunity to profess your love. Instead, try to help him in some way so he sees your presence as reassuring and relaxing
• Get him alone and talk about his issues or problems. Get him to share

7. Make your social media colorful

Social media affects your relationship in more than one way. This step will work for you only if your guy is active on social media. If you can’t be near someone physically, create proximity virtually. You can get him interested again fast through texts or social media posts if done right.

• If you’ve separated recently, wait a week or so before posting any pictures to avoid looking desperate for attention. Post pictures that he may not have seen before. They shouldn’t be perfect, they just have to show you doing something new. Use cryptic but subtle captions
• Another way to be subtle about it is to post on those platforms that his friends frequent. This may start a discussion between them, thereby increasing virtual proximity
• Make sure your social media doesn’t exude FOMO or narcissistic vibes. Post about things close to your heart instead of trends to not sound fake

8. Pay attention to him

It’s a common belief, perpetuated by Hollywood, that you can get him interested again by ignoring him. Ignoring a person may trigger approval-seeking behavior in some people, but not in everyone. Ignoring a mindful person can do more damage than good. Preeti says, “This may work if your guy has an insecure attachment style, but it may backfire if he has an avoidant attachment style. Additionally, it can take a toll on you since your emotional needs may be different than what he can provide.”

• Be an active listener. Concentrate on his body language to gauge his natural triggers. This will tell you if the guy is unhappy in the relationship
• Make note of what causes him pain and joy. If he appears distressed, try to give him emotional support. If he is exhilarated, show you are happy for him
• Eat together. Try to talk during meals instead of focusing on your phone. Share what transpired in your day, and ask about his. Keep the conversation flowing

9. Turn up the heat in the bedroom

Sex can be a great tool to communicate one’s love and desire for their partner. Sex increases intimacy and provides a release from life stress. If you feel that you’re growing distant, you may suggest a weekend at a remote B&B with minimal phone reception.

• Ask him if he wants to try something new. Be open to ideas. Give them a try if you’re comfortable 
• At the same time, tell him what you like. According to Christopher Brya, the author of WTF Are Men Thinking?, men love it when a woman takes charge in the bed
• If you think the good old sex is not working for you, you may try tools like vibrators or dildos, or try pro tips by a sex therapist

10. Be his association for non-sexual joy 

Though sex is an important part of any relationship, it’s the non-sexual joy triggers that make attachment stronger. In other words, you’ve got to ensure he associates being happy with you. Make him happy. Be playful. Try not to be sarcastic or passive-aggressive.

• Get him interested again fast through texts that highlight random moments with funny comments. What to text a guy who lost interest? Try something with humor so he would want to engage in conversation. Create inside jokes, and bring back the old ones to remind him of the fun times
• Work on your flirting skills. Think of other flirty emojis to send to your partner besides an eggplant. Try adding humor, while keeping it seductive
• Do something that reminds him of good memories. Think of a holiday that meant a lot to him or a day when he was very happy, and try to recreate that or talk about it fondly. The next time he thinks of that day, he’ll associate it with you

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11. Use the right body language

Body language plays a huge role in expressing one’s feelings and creating a comfortable ambiance for others to express theirs. Research suggests that an average couple uses a range of facial cues, like prolonged eye contact and eyebrow tilts, to express their emotions.

• Try to mimic your partner’s body movements. Psychologists suggest it can make your partner feel more comfortable around you
• He may give you mixed signals. So, while you should count every smile he gives you as a win, it may not always mean that he’s ready to come back
• Create sexual tension through subtle flirting and small touches. Do things that bring his notice to your mouth or cleavage. Don’t give in easily. Make him work for it. The key is sexual tension

12. Give him time and space

While proximity in a relationship is important, it’s also important for both of you to have some time to yourselves. Remember Carrie and the girls, taking a break from their relationships in Carrie’s apartment in Sex And The City 2? It may give you nightmares of LA strip clubs, but you need to give him space so he doesn’t feel stifled in the relationship.

Preeti says, “How to get him interested again fast? Distance may do the trick. Distance makes the heart grow fonder. You need to encourage each other to take solo trips, away from civilization to get a better understanding of your role in the relationship. When you leave, your absence will make him realize what he misses.”

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13. Activate his hero instinct

Renowned relationship expert James Bauer talks of the hero instinct in his book, His Secret Obsession. According to Bauer, all men have a biological need to feel needed in a relationship. In simpler terms, can a guy who lost interest come back? Yes, if he feels that you need him.

• Ask him for help with tasks that demand some physical work, from opening a jar to fixing the sink. Ask him for a solution to a simple problem, and appreciate him for the answer. Make sure you use the solution in front of him. This is a great way to make the first move on the guy you’re trying to win back
• Ask him for his opinions, especially in a group of people. If he has a nervous nature and you feel like that will put him in the spotlight, tell him his ideas are better than others
• Make him feel manly. Tell him he’s strong/confident/inspiring. Celebrate his wins, and encourage him whenever he tries something new unless it’s drugs

14. Express your care through gestures and words 

In a heterosexual relationship, women often work more than men. While men have been conditioned to earn for the household, women not only earn but also do all the things at home that are necessary to run the household. This should be enough of a gesture. However, if you’re in an equal relationship, regardless of gender, you must go above and beyond to win him back.

• How to get his attention back from another woman? Get him stuff he always wanted to have, but never buys for himself. Organize surprise parties with themes from his favorite movies. Cook the things he likes
• If you’ve separated, ask him to take his stuff back. Tell him it hurts to look at it
• If you’re meeting after a long time, tell him through actions that you still remember what he likes. Suggest you can’t get him out of your head

15. Make him value you again — Don’t be desperate

It’s easy to drift into the “overdoing” territory when it comes to loving someone. While showing your love and appreciation is an important part of the ‘how to get him interested fast’ crash course, it can make you shortsighted. Identify where the boundary between showing your love and going overboard lies. But you can get a guy interested again after being needy too. Here’s how:

• Pull away to make him want you. Don’t let him take you for granted. When he learns to respect you, he will want you as a partner
• Don’t let him use you. See if he’s getting you to do favors for him. Help wherever you can, but be careful of any situations where he’s asking you to jeopardize your employment, or asking for your time or money for his gain. Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with
• If he’s calling you only late at night and leaves you cold in the morning, then he is there for the sex and not the relationship. Refuse the booty call. You’re better than that

16. Don’t play games

Preeti says, “Playing games where you create hot-and-cold behaviors, pretend to ignore him, make him jealous—these tricks are quite popular. But they don’t always work. Even if they do, it is only for a short period of time.”

• Don’t follow him and try to “bump” into him. If you’ve both had a breakup recently, it’s obvious what you’re trying to do. Not to mention it’s unhealthy and borderline stalker behavior
• Don’t get your common friends to manipulate him into calling you back. You’re just undermining his free will
• Even if you find that these games work for you, be aware that you’ve produced love not from his feelings for you, but rather from taking advantage of his insecurities and guilt. And once he grows out of that, he will not want to be with you

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17. Try to get his friends and family to like you

People often look for the approval of their friends and family while looking for a mate. It can be great for you if you can be friends with them. Emmett, a teacher from Alaska, told me he had continued to see his ex’s mother even after the breakup. He says, “If you ask me how to get him interested again fast, I’ll tell you to make friends with his mother. She used to rile up every guy he’d bring home by calling him Emmett.” Though it did annoy Tate for a while, his mother was the happiest when Tate finally proposed to him.

• Remember to be nice and friendly to his friends. Because you will need the help of these people to make a guy like you again without talking to him
• Spend time with his family and friends. Getting to know them is a proven way to get a guy’s attention unless he hates his family
• Don’t hesitate to ask them for help, but be mindful of the difference between help and manipulation. Remember, no games

18. Don’t grovel — Move on

Once a guy loses interest, can you get it back? Depends on many factors. But even if it doesn’t work, despite your best efforts, you can’t sit back and hope that everything will work out on its own. Take your time, but move on.

• Ask him upfront if he is ready for commitment. Don’t hesitate to walk out if his decision doesn’t converge with yours
• Show him you can survive without him. If you’re financially dependent on him, it’s better to learn some monetary skills. Ask friends for support while you stand on your feet. Focus on being financially independent. Money can’t buy love, but you’ll feel much better being on your own if you have a roof over your head

What Not To Do When A Guy Pulls Away

Though it feels crushing and helpless if you feel that your guy is not interested in you anymore, the worst thing you can do is confront him. There are so many reasons that he feels distant. It could be pressure from work or family, or just a hitch before he commits. But you could end up aggravating his condition. You can make a guy like you again without talking to him by simply giving him time and space. Whatever you do, make sure to NOT do the following if you want to know how to get him interested again fast:

1. Don’t chase him

Whether your guy is pulling away because he has lost interest in the relationship, or for any other reason, chasing after him will only make him feel smothered. Give him space to work on his feelings.

• Don’t harass him over his loss of libido, or decreased interest in going to parties, or not wanting to be on top of his behavior. Relationship burnouts happen that way
• If he doesn’t reply after the first text or leaves it on read, he doesn’t want to talk. Take the hint. Let him be
• Don’t overdo it with surprises – showing up at his office with lunch, or sending him cupcakes while he is at his parents’ house
• Respect his wishes if he asks to be left alone for a while. It can be frustrating, but that’s his boundary

2. Don’t make him feel guilty for it

Don’t try to guilt him into a relationship with you. If your love is conditional, then it’s temporary. If you use any previous incidents or favors as leverage to make him stay in the relationship, then it only appears as an act of manipulation and passive aggression.

• Do not pull out a list of times you helped him as a reason he should not lose interest in you. If anything, it’s like holding someone captive
• Do not indulge in self-harm in order to keep him close to you
• Unlike many of our boomer parents suggest, having a baby solves nothing. Do not deceive him into having breakup sex while you’re off birth control. It screams manipulation and disrespecting someone’s consent. Additionally, there’s no guarantee that having a baby will make a man come back after a breakup

3. Don’t blame yourself

People may fall out of love. It doesn’t always have to be about you. Sometimes, even the tiniest of things may domino out of control. You may identify an incident that started it all, but essentially, it’s a journey of growing distant from each other.

• Give yourself time to grieve. Cry, if you must. Stop thinking that it’s your fault
• Write a journal. This time period can lead to overthinking and anxiety. Writing your feelings can help analyze what truly ails you 
• Seek the support of your friends. They can help you gain perspective 

People in broken relationships often wonder how the avalanche started. To be honest, no one can pinpoint the exact second it went downhill. Life gets the better of us. We start to ignore our partners and who we are. As a result, your partner’s interest may begin to wane. It could harm your relationship, lead to pointless arguments, or force him into another person’s arms. Therefore, it’s critical to rekindle that spark and quickly pique your partner’s attention. However, keep in mind that while something may work for you, it might not for someone else. Each connection has unique qualities. But some things, like empathy and patience, always work out better than others.

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This includes a step-by-step guide to igniting desire within the women you are dating.

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Establish Trust and Connection

First and foremost, create a comfortable atmosphere.

Make her feel safe and valued. Listen to her thoughts and feelings, and show genuine interest.

Emotional connection and trust are the foundations of a passionate encounter.

Action Steps:

• Engage in deep conversations
• Be empathetic and understanding
• Share your feelings and vulnerabilities

The Power of Touch

Physical touch is a potent tool for arousal.

Use it wisely and with intention.

Start with gentle, non-sexual touches to build anticipation.

Action Steps:

• Caress her hands, arms, and shoulders
• Offer a gentle massage or a playful tickle
• Gradually increase the intensity and sensuality of your touch

Create a Sensual Environment

Set the stage for passion.

A romantic ambiance can significantly enhance her arousal.

Action Steps:

• Use soft lighting, such ascandles or dimmed lamps
• Play slow, sensual music to set the mood
• Ensure the room is clean and inviting, with comfortable temperature and bedding

Communicate Your Desire

Express your attraction and appreciation.

Make her feel desired, admired, and valued.

compliments and affectionate words can boost her confidence and arousal.

Action Steps:

• Compliment her appearance, focusing on specific features
• Express your feelings and desires in a respectful manner
• Use light, flirtatious banter to create a playful atmosphere

Kiss with Passion and Intention

Kissing is a powerful tool in the art of arousal.

It communicates desire, builds intimacy, and heightens sensations.

Action Steps:

• Begin with soft, gentle kisses on her lips and neck
• Gradually increase the intensity, depth, and variety of your kisses
• Pay attention to her reactions, adjusting your technique based on her cues

Explore Her Erogenous Zones

Erogenous zones are areas of the body that are particularly sensitive to touch.

Stimulating these zones can enhance her arousal and pleasure.

Action Steps:

• Focus on her neck, ears, inner thighs, and the small of her back
• Experiment with different types of touch, such as stroking, nibbling, or kissing
• Observe her reactions and adjust your approach accordingly, always seeking her feedback and consent

In this blog, I’ll explain the fascinating role science plays in learning how to flirt with a woman.

Also, how you can use this knowledge to improve your interactions with women.

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Pheromones

Pheromones are chemical signals that our bodies release to communicate with others.

They can influence our mood, attraction, and even mating preferences.

Action steps:

• Shower regularly and wear freshly laundered clothes to keep your natural scent clean and appealing.
• Experiment with a few colognes to find one that blends well with your body’s natural odor

Dopamine

Dopamine plays a crucial role in creating feelings of pleasure and reward.

When flirting, your goal should be to stimulate her dopamine levels.

Action steps:

• Suggest a unique and engaging activity, like an escape room or a dance class.
• Share interesting stories or anecdotes about your life and encourage her to do the same.

Oxytocin

Oxytocin, often referred to as the “love hormone,” helps create feelings of trust and emotional bonding.

To stimulate oxytocin production, focus on building a connection through physical touch.

Action steps:

• Offer a gentle touch on her arm when making a point or laughing together.
• When appropriate, hug her warmly to greet her or say goodbye.
• If you notice she’s cold, offer your jacket or a warm embrace to help her feel more comfortable.

Serotonin

A happy and relaxed woman is more likely to be receptive to your advances.

By elevating her serotonin levels, you can improve her mood and make her more open to flirtation.

Action steps:

• Pay her genuine compliments about her appearance, intelligence, or sense of humor.
• Share funny stories or jokes to keep the conversation light and entertaining.
• Display empathy and understanding when she shares her thoughts or feelings with you.

Adrenaline

Thrill and excitement Adrenaline is responsible for the exhilarating feeling we get during thrilling experiences.

This excitement can make your connection feel more intense and help to create an unforgettable bond.

Action steps:

• Plan a date at an amusement park and ride roller coasters together.
• Try a new sport or outdoor activity together, such as rock climbing or white-water rafting.
• Attend a live event, like a concert or sports game, where you can both feel the excitement and energy of the crowd.

Conclusion

• Understanding the science behind flirtation can give you a unique perspective on how to approach your interactions with women.
• By focusing on stimulating the right chemicals, you can create a stronger connection and increase her attraction towards you.
• The next time you are speaking to a woman you find attractive, remember to use the power of science to your advantage.

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The forces that drive supply and demand can provide a unique perspective on meeting and attracting women.

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Scarcity – Be a Limited Edition

The principle of scarcity dictates that the more limited a resource is, the higher its value.

• To attract women, position yourself as a rare commodity by showcasing your unique qualities and talents.

Don’t be afraid to be different – embrace your quirks and passions. These will set you apart from the competition and create an aura of desirability.

Opportunity Cost – Make Her Time with You Worthwhile

Opportunity cost represents the potential benefits that someone misses out on when choosing one alternative over another.

• Ensure that the time a woman spends with you is worth the sacrifice of not doing something else.

To achieve this, plan engaging activities, offer stimulating conversations, and create memorable experiences that surpass the value of her other options.

Comparative Advantage – Know Your Strengths

The comparative advantage is the ability of an individual or entity to produce a good or service at a lower opportunity cost than others.

• When it comes to attraction, focus on your strengths and capitalize on them to stand out.

Are you a great listener, a skilled chef, or a talented musician? Highlight these qualities to make an impression and showcase your unique value proposition.

Incentives – Reward Positive Interactions

Offer incentives for women to be drawn to you by rewarding positive interactions.

• This could be through compliments, engaging in activities they enjoy, or simply being a supportive and attentive partner.

By creating a positive feedback loop, you increase the likelihood that a woman will be attracted to you.

Network Effect – Expand Your Social Circle

An extensive social circle can make you more attractive to women.

• Being well-connected and having a diverse group of friends demonstrates your social skills and ability to form meaningful relationships.

The larger your network, the more opportunities you’ll have to meet new people, including potential romantic interests.

Supply and Demand – Find Your Niche

The principle of supply and demand can help you find your niche and cater to it.

• Identify the qualities that are in high demand but low supply among the people you’re attracted to, and tailor your approach accordingly.

By differentiating yourself from the competition, you’ll become more appealing to your target audience.

Elasticity – Adapt and Be Flexible

Being able to adapt to different situations and preferences is key to attracting women.

• Be open to learning from your experiences and adjusting your approach based on feedback.

Demonstrating flexibility and resilience will make you more attractive to potential partners who value adaptability and growth.

Sunk Cost Fallacy – Don’t Cling to Past Investments

The sunk cost fallacy occurs when individuals continue to invest in a decision based on the amount of resources already spent, rather than evaluating the current and future value.

• In the realm of dating, avoid becoming trapped by past investments in relationships that aren’t working.

Recognize when it’s time to move on and explore new opportunities, as clinging to past failures can hinder your ability to attract new romantic interests.

Signaling – Communicate Your Intentions Clearly

When it comes to attracting women, clear and honest communication is essential.

• By signaling your interest and intentions, you can establish trust and create a solid foundation for a potential relationship.

This might include being upfront about your goals, sharing your feelings, and openly discussing your expectations in a relationship.

Game Theory – Embrace Cooperation Over Competition

Embracing cooperation instead of competition can increase your attractiveness to women.

• By collaborating with others in your social circle and fostering a sense of camaraderie, you can create a supportive environment that encourages connection and attraction.

Avoid engaging in manipulative tactics or viewing dating as a zero-sum game; instead, focus on building genuine connections based on mutual respect and shared goals.

Conclusion

• Economics and its principles can offer valuable insights into the art of attraction.
• You can increase your chances of attracting women and forging meaningful connections.
• So, step into the dating marketplace and watch as your success with women increases.

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Resources

1. Scarcity & Attraction: Worchel, S., Lee, J., & Adewole, A. (1975). Effects of supply and demand on ratings of object value. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 32(5), 906-914. This study found that the perceived scarcity of a resource influenced participants’ ratings of its value. In the context of dating, this supports the idea that being a “limited edition” and showcasing unique qualities can make one more attractive to potential partners.
2. Network Effect & Social Circle: Burt, R. S. (2004). Structural holes and good ideas. American Journal of Sociology, 110(2), 349-399. This research highlights the importance of having diverse social networks in generating good ideas and achieving success. In the dating world, having a broad social circle can not only increase the opportunities to meet potential romantic interests but also make one more attractive by showcasing their social skills and ability to form meaningful relationships.
3. Signaling & Communication: Kniffin, K. M., & Wilson, D. S. (2004). The effect of nonphysical traits on the perception of physical attractiveness: three naturalistic studies. Evolution and Human Behavior, 25(2), 88-101. This study demonstrates that nonphysical traits, such as confidence, humor, and intelligence, can significantly influence the perception of physical attractiveness. In terms of signaling, this research supports the idea that clear communication of one’s intentions, goals, and personal qualities can enhance attractiveness in the eyes of potential partners.

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Before we get into the video, I have a big announcement today on April the 13th, I am holding my now famous 30-day Confidence Challenge. This is a live coaching experience that kicks off with me on April the 13th. For anyone who wants to graduate from just watching me on YouTube to an actual coaching experience that I have created and it’s free, join us for the 30 days. Build your confidence. Go over to MHChallenge.com. You can do it while you’re watching this right now, just open up a new tab on your browser. Type in MHChallenge.com, type your email address in and I’ll send you all of the information. Did you do it? Did you? Great. I can’t wait to see you on the 13th. Now let’s get onto the video.

Over 15 years I’ve been doing this now, and that means that I have heard just about every excuse that has ever been made for why someone isn’t ready for a relationship or why someone can’t give another person what they want, and still, because I have a whole membership called the LoveLife Club, I have thousands of members who every month on our live coaching calls will at some point give me another excuse that someone has given them that they are taking at face value and there are just so many. What are some of the common ones, Audrey?

Audrey:

I can’t be in a relationship because work is so busy right now.

Matthew:

Okay, so I can’t be in a relationship because work is so busy. What else?

Audrey:

Oh, I know this one. I like you too much.

Matthew:

I like you too much.

Audrey:

Yeah.

Matthew:

Okay.

Matthew:

I can’t be with you. I just like you too much. What else?

Audrey:

I’m just really confused right now.

Matthew:

I’m just really confused right now. I was hurt in the past. That’s another one.

Audrey:

Yeah, I was hurt in the past.

Matthew:

I got hurt.

Audrey:

And I’m afraid to get hurt again.

Matthew:

I don’t want to get hurt again. You have a little thing you do, don’t you, when you are talking about people that give these excuses that often are about being confused. What is it you say?

Audrey:

Well, it’s like I’m not the bad guy. I’m just the confused guy or I’m not the bad guy. I’m just the busy guy.

Matthew:

I’m not the bad guy. I’m just a confused guy. Like that. She hates when I do that.

Audrey:

I like that.

Matthew:

I’m not the bad guy. I’m just a busy guy. I just got a big business. I got to do a bunch of business stuff.

Audrey:

It’s not how it goes.

Matthew:

I’m not the bad guy. I just got a bit my heart break in the past. I got… I’m not the bad guy.

Audrey:

I’m not the bad guy. I’m just the hurt guy.

Matthew:

I’m not the bad guy. I just don’t want to take you to Italy, give you a little pasta, a little trip. Maybe say I want to marry you. I don’t really, but what’s the problem? I’m not the bad guy. I’m just a confused guy. When someone is telling you something that seems to either defy logic completely or just seems to be making life too complicated, instead of trying to work out how to solve their problem, when someone says to you, “I’m too busy for a relationship,” that’s what they’ve concluded. Either it’s true or it’s not, but that’s what they’ve concluded or they’re just telling you this because it’s easier than being the bad guy.

That’s what it’s coming from. We have to be very careful. The number of times I have been coaching someone and I watched them trying to solve an unsolvable riddle because the problem isn’t even real in the first place. The problem is just something someone created so that they could create an element of confusion while keeping the door open. It was an open loop. It’s a way of saying you don’t go anywhere, but I am going to give you some kind of logic that removes me from the game so that you stop asking for as much. It’s like that person wants to leave the door open for maximum options in the future while monopolizing your attention by making themselves the only person you can think about. Have you got someone in your life right now who’s giving you a kind of convoluted excuse or some intricate reason why they can’t give you what you want?

I want you to apply a principle called Occam’s Razor, which I have in a book that just happens to be by my feet. Occam’s razor. Simpler explanations are more likely to be true than complicated ones. Named after the medieval logician William of Occam. Occam’s Razor is a general rule by which we select among competing explanations. Occam wrote that a plurality is not to be posited without necessity. In other words, we should prefer the simplest explanation with the fewest moving parts. If someone says to you, “I like you too much and it scares me, and for that reason I just feel like I can’t go any further,” you have to ask yourself what has to be true for that to be true? Well, this person has to like me so much that they’ve literally decided that this thing that brings them so much joy is not possible.

That they have to go in search of someone they like less so that they can be happier. Or you take the view that this person is just saying the easy thing. Which one is more likely to be true? Occam’s Razor says it’s obviously someone just saying something that makes their exit easy, but not just their exit easy. Something that makes their re-entry easy because at any point they can come back, send you a little text and be like, “I can’t stop thinking of you. Remember when I said I just like you so much? Too much? Well, that’s happening to me right now. I like you too much to let you go, but I also like you too much to be with you. I’m a confused guy.” Occam’s Razor says that is hokum. Nonsense. Bollocks. How is it that someone who is selfishly dishing out a logic that they think is palatable to us allows them to remain the hero or at the very least a sympathetic character and allows them to come back in whenever they want?

How is it that we can so easily end up believing the things that they’re saying and then trying to solve a problem that’s not real in the first place? “Well, if you are too busy with your job, I would support you. We could see each other after work. We can see each other in the cracks of time. I feel like we could make it work.” I think that that’s trying to solve a problem that’s not real in the first place. Why do we do this? Because when we really like someone and when we really want to find love and when we feel that there is a glimmer of hope in this situation, we want it to be true. We become a biased judge. We contort reality in whatever way we have to do it, pretzeling the situation into some form of sense that allows it to be true in our mind.

That is where we end up saying something to somebody else going, “Well, they said this” and our friend says, “You believed that? That’s mental.” But we’ve all believed something like that in the past, haven’t we? Haven’t you had a moment where there was someone in your life and they sold you on a logic that felt true at the time, but it wasn’t because it was really true, it was because you wanted it to be true? We’ve all been in that situation of believing the ridiculous, of believing the convoluted, the complex, instead of applying Occam’s Razor. And I’m not saying that every person who doesn’t give you the real reason that they don’t want to have a relationship with you has these sort of manipulative intentions to come back into your life whenever they please, while also keeping you at arm’s length. Some people are like that and other people, they just don’t want to be honest because being honest is hard.

It’s hard to tell someone exactly why you don’t want to continue with them. We all at times want to go down the path of least resistance and the path of least resistance is often in breakups or telling someone that you can’t give them what they want. The moment where you tell them something that’s easy to say regardless of whether it confuses them, but what you have to take from this is when someone gives you something that’s confusing instead of trying to make it not confusing, instead say to yourself, confusion is closure. When someone doesn’t know what they want, when they have a reason why they can’t be with me, it’s not my job to fix it. It’s not my job to take it on board and try to figure out what I can do better or how I can be enough or how I can solve the logistical problem they’ve handed me.

My job is to just interpret all of this as someone who actually isn’t in the market for a relationship in the way that I am. That’s it. Confusion is closure, and remember I’ve said this before, I’ll say it again. I think it’s one of the most important lines I’ve ever said in this area. When you imagine talking to someone like this, imagine yourself saying “You have your reasons, but I have my reality. Whatever your reason is for why you are the way you are or why you are treating me the way you’re treating me, my reality is that my needs aren’t getting met and I’m looking at a person who doesn’t see the decision to be with me as a simple one. That’s all I need to know.” Let them walk away with their confusion. You walk away with the simplicity, that confusion is closure. Now go find someone who knows what they want.

I hope you like that video. Before you go anywhere, let me tell you a little bit about what we are all going to do together in the 30-day Confidence Challenge. So on April the 13th, I’m going to be joining you live for an hour where we are going to be talking about five specific missions that I’m going to give you and you are going to complete over the 30 days as part of a private community that I am creating for this. So we’re all going to go through it together, holding each other accountable and completing these five missions that are psychologically designed to measurably improve your confidence in these 30 days. Go over to MHChallenge.com now if you haven’t already, sign up for free and I will send you the access details for the live session with me on the 13th and a link to the private community where we’re all going to hold each other accountable. I’ll see you over there. The link again is MHChallenge.com. I can’t wait. This is going to be fun.

“Does my husband love me or is he using me?” This has to be the most heart-wrenching question one could ask themselves. There are many ways he takes you for granted. He could be using you for your wealth, for sex, emotional labor, or to just take care of the household chores and look after the kids. 

Yes, these things do happen and many couples fall out of love with one another in the process. According to research, this falling out of love in an initially healthy relationship happens mostly because of loss of trust, of intimacy, and of feeling loved. It could also be due to a negative sense of self.

Gradually, because of all the unresolved conflicts, loss of respect for one another, and terrible communication skills, the romantic love between two partners decreases and eventually depletes. This is inevitable if you don’t find ways to tackle your marital issues which are caused by the fact that your husband is using you. 

Does My Husband Love Me Or Is He Using Me: 15 Ways To Tell

Every couple goes through rough patches during different stages of their marriage. This may worry you and make you question his true feelings for you. We have come up with a list of ways to tell if your partner truly loves you or if he is using you.

1. He spends time with you only when he wants a favor from you 

Remember the time when all your husband wanted was to spend some quality time with you? When he shows no interest in doing that anymore, it is one of the obvious signs of not being loved by your husband. He barely acknowledges your presence and is reluctant to be with you. He would rather watch TV or sit in his study than go on real dates with you or even have a simple dinner with you. However, when he wants something from you, he will suddenly act all sweet and affectionate. Right after you do his work, he will go back to his old ways of ignoring you. 

When a Reddit user shared that their husband didn’t like spending time with them, a user replied, “You can still love someone and not want to hang out because of plenty of reasons. Do you get mad at him a lot? Fight a lot? How is your energy when approaching him? Has he had any conversation about why it is that way or how he doesn’t like to be treated a certain way? I was there too and it was a result of bad communication and an overly critical mindset on both our parts.” 

But if none of this checks out, then he’s just using you.

Related Reading: 13 Sure-Shot Signs He Pretends To Love You

2. He compliments you only when required

Compliments are very powerful because:

• Compliments from your significant other make you feel better about yourself
• It makes you feel acknowledged, appreciated and loved
• It shows that your partner notices every little thing about you and that they are paying attention to how you look and act. You feel seen

“Does my husband love me or is he using me?” – If your husband has completely stopped praising you and only does so obligingly when he has to return your compliment or when he needs sex, then yes. There are chances he has fallen out of love and is in this marriage because he sees no way out.

Jessica, a 46-year-old homemaker from San Francisco, writes to Bonobology for advice. She says, “I do everything for my husband and he does nothing for me. During the early days of our marriage, he used to compliment me, buy flowers for me, and we would go out on real dates. He does none of those things for me now. Even when I put on a nice dress and some makeup to impress him, he barely acknowledges my attempts.”

3. He is financially dependent on you 

Does my husband love me or is he just using me? The answer to this lies in the effort he puts into running the family. 

• Has he stopped earning and solely relies on you to take care of both the children and him?
• Was this not even discussed with you properly?
• Or does he earn less (which is completely normal) or equally but spends your money without asking you?

If it’s a ‘yes’ to any of these, then it’s one of the signs he is in this marriage for your money. It’s a warning signal and one of the heartbreaking signs your marriage could be over if you don’t do anything to get it back on track.

Here are some more signs your husband doesn’t value you:

• He doesn’t make any effort to relieve your anxiety and stress after a hectic day at work
• He will be in his world and won’t care to find out what’s happening in yours
• He has stopped doing all the little things that he once did to just see you smile. You will feel like you have married the wrong person 

4. He doesn’t care about your love language and is only interested in your income or body 

Love languages are important in a marriage for the following reasons:

• It establishes a strong emotional connection between partners
• It helps the couples revive their honeymoon phase
• It provides you and your partner scope for healthy communication 
• It makes both partners feel seen, loved, and honored

If he doesn’t care about tapping into your love language on a regular basis but suddenly cooks your favorite dish or writes you a love note just before he needs you to do something for him financially or sexually, then he surely doesn’t care about you anymore.

Related Reading: 6 Reasons A Guy Ignores You After A Fight And 5 Things You Can Do

5. He avoids conflicts with you but still uses you as a therapist 

Sandra, a 38-year-old hair stylist from New York, says, “My husband says he loves me but I don’t feel it. He never addresses the glaring problems we have in our marriage. He avoids everything I bring up and keeps watching TV whenever I try to talk to him. But when he needs to talk to me or vent about his day, I’m the one who has to put in emotional labor to comfort him or reassure him of his worth.”

Joseph Grenny, the co-author of the New York Times bestseller Crucial Conversations, writes that couples who argue together, stay together. The problem begins when you start avoiding those arguments because arguments in a relationship are important to understand your partner. If your husband has been swiftly sweeping your problems under the carpet, it’s because he is not emotionally mature enough to handle them. Furthermore, it’s also a sign that he has given up on his marriage. 

6. If he’s the only earning member of the family, he doesn’t provide for your needs

One of the obvious signs your husband doesn’t value you is when he disregards your opinions regarding his financial income. If he’s the sole breadwinner, and refuses to spend money on you or only gives you enough to spend on domestic chores and bare essentials for the kids, it’s one of the shocking signs he is using you to look after the kids and take care of the household activities.

If he’s unable to provide for you properly and you feel like you have to beg for every dollar, if he’s only concerned that the kids are fed and the house is running, then it’s clear he doesn’t love you anymore and that he’s using you. 

7. He is mean to you all the time but acts nicely in front of family and friends 

Does my husband love me or is he using me? When your husband is mean to you and disrespects you in every matter including how to raise children to what you are having for lunch, it’s one of the signs your husband doesn’t value you and he takes you for granted. On the other hand, when you are around friends and family, he suddenly becomes the sweetest husband on earth. Here are some of the mean things a husband will do when he doesn’t respect his partner and is using them:

• He will pass mean comments when the two of you are alone but he will praise you in front of your family to look like a goody two shoes. It’s a fictional character he plays to show them that their child is lucky to have a man like him
• When he can’t insult you in front of others, he will use sarcasm to do so
• When you insult him back or ignore him in front of family and friends, he will make sure to punish you when you are back home. He will verbally abuse you, be passive-aggressive, be demanding, bring up something painful, or give you the silent treatment 

These are some of the warning signs of a disrespectful husband that you shouldn’t ignore. The sooner you spot these signs, the better it will be for your mental wellness. 

8. When you don’t appease him, he punishes you by using the silent treatment 

When you realize he’s using you and stand up to him, he uses the silent treatment – a cunning tool to control someone. It’s a way of inflicting pain without physical abuse. When your partner ignores you after a fight, he is withdrawing all his love because he wants to punish you. According to research, the act of being ignored by someone who loves you activates the same area of the brain that is activated by physical pain. It brings up extreme feelings of abandonment. 

When asked on Reddit how the silent treatment makes one feel, a user replied, “Shutting out a partner also communicates they do not care enough to try to communicate or collaborate to resolve the issue. They let you sit there feeling hurt, confused, frustrated, unimportant, unloved, and alone. Issues don’t go away because the other person refused to discuss them.” 

9. He acts lovey-dovey only before sex 

If your husband ignores you throughout the day but acts all caring and sweet before sex, it’s one of the signs he has sex with you but doesn’t love you anymore. He will indulge in a few romantic gestures just before having sex with you because he takes you for granted. Here are some things you can do if your husband is with you just for sex:

• Tell him you want more than just sex. You want intimacy 
• Let your feelings be known. Tell him you feel used when he goes back to ignoring you after having sex
• If he forces himself on you, it’s time to walk away from the marriage 

10. He stays with you because of the financial security you provide

Hugh, a 28-year-old reader from Nebraska, says, “My husband and I aren’t able to handle the post-honeymoon period. We are having too many fights and we aren’t able to connect with each other emotionally. I feel like he does not love me but wants to stay together because he just lost his job and the burden of running the show has fallen on me.” 

Does my husband love me or is he using me for money? It’s definitely the latter if you are facing a problem like Hugh’s. Looks like there is a lack of emotional intimacy in your marriage, and most marriages can barely survive without it. 

Related Reading: 25 Things For Couples To Do At Home When Bored

11. He doesn’t care about your physical or emotional needs

Some people are inherently empathetic and compassionate, whereas some have to learn these traits in order to become a better person for their partner. When your husband doesn’t show or learn empathy, it will reflect in the marriage bed as well. For a relationship to last and thrive sexually, both partners have to be emotionally connected on a deeper level.

A husband who is using you won’t care about your physical needs. He won’t care to check on you before, during, or after sex whether your needs are being met or not. He will be selfish in bed and won’t make the act pleasurable for you. All he will care about are his fantasies and desires.  

12. He uses you to take care of his parents

You barely recognize your husband anymore. He promised to be your rock before marriage and now you feel like you are married to a stranger. All you end up doing is taking care of his parents. When you fail to do so or make a mistake, he will rain down hell upon you. If that sounds remotely like your husband, it’s one of the signs he is using you to take care of his parents. 

Taking care of elderly people is a noble deed but that doesn’t mean anyone can coerce you into doing so. Marriages are supposed to be a 50-50 contract. If you are taking care of his parents, he should take care of yours. Or both of you should split equal responsibilities and take care of each other’s parents. 

13. His hobbies and friends always come first unless he needs something from you

When he prioritizes watching TV over you, or he goes off to read for hours on the days you’re free and at home, and always has plans with his friends when you want to be with him, then it’s one of the signs he is using you for sex/money/labor. He won’t prioritize your happiness, needs, and desires.

A husband who doesn’t love you and is using you for any of the above things will suddenly:

• Cancel plans with his friends
• Initiate quality time with you
• Plan a date with you
• Take you for the play you’ve been meaning to watch

So much so that you now associate these ‘sweet’ gestures with anxiety because you know what’s coming next. If you are finding it difficult to deal with all this, check out Bonobology’s panel of experienced therapists. With their help, you can move one step closer toward a harmonious relationship. 

14. You have to earn his approval to have a chat with him 

When you are not in a healthy relationship, you will find yourself walking on eggshells around him. You will be afraid to have uncomfortable conversations with him and you will be hesitant to share your problems and feelings with him. You always have to please him somehow so that he lets you communicate. He will make sure he gets something out of you before he allows you to share your concerns with him freely.

Does my husband love me or is he using me? When you get the feeling that you have to walk on eggshells every day around him, it is probably one of the most reliable warning signs of a manipulative/toxic relationship. 

15. He has been cheating on you

If you are still asking, “does my husband love me or is he using me?”, here is an answer that will clear all your doubts. If he has cheated on you or even micro-cheated on you, and the only reason you know is because you found out through someone else, it means he doesn’t love you. It doesn’t get clearer than that. 

He may apologize for his mistake and call it a “one-time thing” or “it didn’t mean anything”. None of his justifications will mend your broken heart and the trust you had in him.

Marriage is a partnership where both people have to give and take equally. You can’t be with someone who makes you feel miserable every single day. This will devastate you mentally and physically. You have given your all, yet you aren’t getting the bare minimum in return. Is this marriage worth it? Talk to your partner about this and if he ignores your pleas, it’s time to walk away from your marriage. 

Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome (CPPS) is a condition that affects men in general, with a prevalence rate of around 2-14%. It is characterized by persistent and severe pain in pelvic floor region for at least 3 months, along with other symptoms such as urinary frequency and urgency, painful urination, and sexual dysfunction. CPPS is a complex condition, and its exact causes are not fully understood. However, it is known that CPPS can be classified into two types: bacterial and non-bacterial.

Bacterial CPPS

Bacterial chronic pelvic pain syndrome is caused by a bacterial infection in the prostate gland, which is located below the bladder and in front of the rectum in men. The bacterial infection can cause inflammation of the prostate gland, leading to pain and discomfort in the pelvic region. This type of CPPS is also known as Chronic Bacterial Prostatitis.

Bacterial CPPS can be treated with antibiotics. The choice of antibiotic and the duration of treatment depend on the type of bacteria that is causing the infection. The treatment may last for several weeks, and it is essential to complete the full course of antibiotics to ensure that the infection is completely eradicated. To properly treat the illness, a combination of antibiotics may be required in some circumstances.

Non-Bacterial CPPS

Non-bacterial CPPS, also known as Chronic Prostatitis/Chronic Pelvic Pain Syndrome (CP/CPPS), is the most common type of CPPS, accounting for about 90-95% of cases. It is characterized by the absence of bacteria in the prostate gland, but it still causes chronic pain and discomfort in the pelvic region. The exact causes of CP/CPPS are not fully understood, but it is believed to be a complex condition that involves various factors such as neurogenic inflammation, autoimmune response, and psychosocial factors.

Non-bacterial chronic pelvic pain syndrome treatment for men can be challenging, and there is no definitive cure for the condition. However, various treatments can help manage the symptoms and improve the quality of life for patients. The treatment approach may include a combination of therapies, depending on the severity of the symptoms and the patient’s individual needs.

Shockwave Therapy for Non-Bacterial CPPS

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Shockwave therapy is a non-invasive treatment that uses high-energy acoustic waves to stimulate healing in the affected tissues. It has been used successfully in the treatment of various musculoskeletal conditions, including tendinopathies and fractures. In recent years, shockwave therapy has emerged as a promising treatment option for non-bacterial CPPS.

The shockwave therapy for CPPS (non-bacterial) involves the use of a handheld device that delivers high-energy acoustic waves to the affected area. The waves stimulate the body’s natural healing processes and promote the regeneration of damaged tissues. This, in turn, can reduce inflammation and alleviate pain in the pelvic region.

The shockwave treatment for CPPS (non-bacterial) typically involves a series of sessions, each lasting around 15-20 minutes. The exact number of sessions required will depend on the severity of the symptoms and the patient’s response to treatment. In most cases, patients will require between 6-12 sessions, spaced out over several weeks.

Benefits of Shockwave Therapy for Non-Bacterial CPPS

Shockwave therapy has several benefits for the treatment of non-bacterial CPPS. These include:

• Non-invasive: Shockwave therapy is a non-invasive treatment that does not require surgery or anesthesia.
• Minimal side effects: The treatment has minimal side effects, with most patients experiencing only mild discomfort during and after the procedure.
• Long-lasting results: Shockwave therapy can provide long-lasting relief from pain and other symptoms of non-bacterial CPPS. The treatment stimulates the body’s natural healing processes, which can continue to improve over time.

• No downtime: Shockwave therapy is a non-invasive treatment that does not require any downtime. Following therapy, patients can immediately resume their normal activities.
• Cost-effective: Compared to other treatment options, shockwave therapy is a cost-effective option for managing non-bacterial CPPS. It can reduce the need for more invasive procedures or long-term medication use, which can be costly.
• Customizable treatment: Shockwave therapy can be customized to the patient’s individual needs, with the intensity and frequency of the waves adjusted to achieve the best results.
• Potential for avoiding surgery: In some cases, shockwave therapy may be able to help patients avoid surgery for non-bacterial CPPS. This can be a significant benefit for those who may be hesitant to undergo more invasive procedures.

Overall, shockwave therapy is a promising treatment option for non-bacterial CPPS, offering a non-invasive, cost-effective, and customizable approach to managing the condition. While more research is needed to fully understand its effectiveness, many patients have reported significant improvements in their symptoms after undergoing shockwave therapy for non-bacterial CPPS.

In addition to shockwave therapy, other options for chronic pelvic pain syndrome treatment include:

• Pain management medications: Over-the-counter or prescription pain medications may be used to manage pain associated with non-bacterial CPPS.
• Physical therapy: Pelvic floor physical therapy can help strengthen the pelvic muscles and reduce pain and discomfort in the pelvic region.
• Behavioral therapy: Counseling or therapy can help patients manage the psychological factors that may be contributing to their CPPS symptoms.
• Lifestyle changes: Making changes to diet, exercise, and other lifestyle factors may help improve symptoms of non-bacterial CPPS.

So, chronic pelvic pain syndrome is a complex condition that can be classified into two types: bacterial and non-bacterial. While bacterial CPPS can be treated with antibiotics, non-bacterial CPPS can be challenging to manage.

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Shockwave therapy is a promising non-invasive treatment option for non-bacterial CPPS, offering several benefits such as minimal side effects, long-lasting results, and customizable treatment. However, it is essential to work with a qualified healthcare professional to determine the best treatment approach for individual patients.

If you are seeking medical attention due to non-bacterial CPPS, then you should contact MANSMATTERS. Mansmatters provides excellent focused shockwave treatment to the men who are suffering from non-bacterial CPPS.

In this treatment option extracorporeal focused shockwave therapy is used in a combination of electromagnetic transduction therapy (EMTT therapy), Nano-Vi and Functional Magnetic Stimulation (Tesla Chair). 

In this article, I will teach you the signs a woman is into you from a psychological perspective.

By understanding the reasons behind these signals, you’ll feel more confident in your dating interactions.

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Hair Play and Anxiety

One common sign a woman is into you is when she plays with her hair.

• From a psychological standpoint, this behavior may be a way to release anxiety and nervous energy.

It is often an unconscious response to the excitement and adrenaline rush she feels when she’s attracted to someone.

Engaging Presence and Interest

A straightforward sign of a woman’s interest is her willingness to engage in conversation with you.

• Psychologically, if she’s not attracted to you or doesn’t feel a connection, she’s more likely to find excuses to leave the conversation.

By staying engaged, she’s signaling her interest and desire to know you better.

Legs Crossed Towards You and Security

When a woman crosses her legs towards you, particularly when standing, it suggests that she’s feeling secure in your presence.

• Psychologically. this posture can indicate that she’s into you, as she’s not positioning herself for a quick exit.

Conversely, if her legs are pointing away from you, it might signal that she’s ready to leave the interaction at any moment.

Mirroring Behavior

Mirroring is an unconscious behavior where people tend to mimic the gestures, expressions, or postures of someone they’re attracted to or connected with.

• This psychological phenomenon is related to the rapport and emotional synchrony that people develop when they feel a connection.

If a woman is mirroring your body language, it could be a sign that she’s interested in you.

Genuine Laughter

When a woman genuinely laughs at your jokes or finds humor in your stories, it may suggest she’s into you.

• From a psychological perspective, laughter releases feel-good hormones like endorphins, which can help build rapport and positive feelings towards each other.

This response is often a sign of shared enjoyment and connection.

Prolonged Eye Contact

When a woman maintains prolonged eye contact with you, it can be a sign of her interest.

• Psychologically, sustained eye contact can create a sense of intimacy and trust, making people feel more connected to each other.

If she’s consistently holding your gaze while talking or listening, it’s likely that she’s attracted to you.

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Resources

1. Chartrand, T. L., & Bargh, J. A. (1999). The chameleon effect: The perception–behavior link and social interaction. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 76(6), 893–910. In this study, Chartrand and Bargh investigated the phenomenon of mirroring, also known as the chameleon effect. They found that people unconsciously mimic the behavior of others they interact with, particularly when they feel a connection or rapport. This mirroring behavior can be an indicator of attraction and interest, as it demonstrates a sense of understanding and empathy between individuals.

2. Dunbar, R. I. M., Baron, R., Frangou, A., Pearce, E., van Leeuwen, E. J. C., Stow, J., … & van Vugt, M. (2012). Social laughter is correlated with an elevated pain threshold. Proceedings of the Royal Society B: Biological Sciences, 279(1731), 1161–1167. This study by Dunbar and colleagues explored the social function of laughter, particularly its role in building rapport and fostering connection between individuals. The researchers found that genuine laughter can serve as an indicator of shared enjoyment and positive feelings, which can be linked to attraction and interest. Laughter also releases endorphins, which contribute to a sense of well-being and can strengthen social bonds.

3. Kellerman, J., Lewis, J., & Laird, J. D. (1989). Looking and loving: The effects of mutual gaze on feelings of romantic love. Journal of Research in Personality, 23(2), 145–161. In this study, Kellerman, Lewis, and Laird examined the effects of prolonged eye contact on feelings of romantic love. They discovered that mutual gaze can lead to increased feelings of attraction and intimacy between individuals. Sustained eye contact can serve as a sign of interest and create a sense of trust and connection, which are essential components of romantic relationships.

As I discussed in the article last week on why your messages are not leading to a first date, let’s tackle the flip side!

While I mentioned messaging for a first date is both an art and science (I won’t bore you with the details—if you missed it, here’s the link), yes, you need to put some effort into messaging. Ok, not contemplating a quirky, witty message for 30 minutes—you’ll fall off the online dating wagon after one evening of this. And, remember, practice makes perfect. The more messages you send, the easier it will be.

Some of you who work with me know my initial system where I have you send me your daily messages for a quick critique—and we quickly polish them up and get on the right track leading to in real life dates.

So, here we go—and make it fun!

1. You just cannot read every single word of every single profile out there.
So, to get started, let’s say your search/app offers you up 60 men or women meeting your criteria. Not to be shallow, but you will do the first round just based on thumbnail photos of singles you find attractive.

2. Set a daily goal: You are sending 6-8 messages today.
I don’t want burn-out or frustration or exhaustion. The first thing you will do as you choose a person is to quickly scroll through their photos. Any of them odd? Like a bathroom shot? A car shot? Photo looks like 1998? Block them. No need to read their profile or delve further.

3. Read their Profile/Summary
If they didn’t bother with one, block them and move on. Otherwise read for interests, personality and what they are looking for.

Example: As Mark (name changed) and I were looking for high potential matches yesterday, we happened upon an upbeat cute woman. One of her comments was “Travel is my thing! 48 states checked off and 14 countries. Oh, so much more to see and looking for a LTR with a man with a similar travel bug”.

Mark’s response: “HI Tanya, you stopped me in my tracks—not just your photos but your travel. Ok, I’ve been to 31 states—my favorite was New Mexico—the food, scenery and culture. Sort of surprised me! Countries—I’ve visited 18 so far. Marrakesh (well, I guess really Morocco) won me over. I felt like I was blasted back into Paris of the 60’s with a North African twist. Friendly, gorgeous boulevards, the souks, the hammams and the tagines were delicious. One local even gave me his mom’s spices! Ok, your turn—love to hear your favorites??? Warmly, Mark

While Mark’s response was much longer than I usually advocate, before our hour was up—Tanya had responded. Yep, a date forthcoming Friday. My fingers are crossed.

4. Common Interests (again)
Another client on Saturday, Susan, 52 from NYC is a baseball addict. One line in her profile read “Oh, I love Spring Training with the Grapefruit League—saw 8 games this season in Florida. Can’t wait until the MLB season starts in April”.

Wow, did she get responses! And she also wrote back. Of course, she was challenged by New Yorkers on the Yankees vs. Mets rivalry.

After reading one avid Mets fans profile she responded : “Hi Jack, Hmmm, not sure about your Mets. We just got Anthony Volpe—will he be the new Derek Jeter? Ok, I’ll go to a Mets game if you’ll go to a Yankees game. How about we start with a coffee? I’m sure we won’t strikeout. Warmly, Susan

Susan nailed it. And, I liked her short, sweet and less than 5 sentence response. She reached out first and men absolutely love this! Jack and Susan are having coffee Saturday and I’m sure they will have much to chat about.

5. Be Specific
When messaging, be specific about what you are interested in. NO: I like your profile. YES: Wow, the cooking class in Italy sounded awesome. I had no idea of the difference between Northern and Southern cuisine. The pic of your twirling the pasta with red sauce on your face was so funny. Favorite food? Mine is Eggplant Parmesan. We may have to try an Italian restaurant here in Boston’s North End—want to start with a drink?

6. Be you
What do I mean? Don’t think too hard—pretend you’re texting a friend. Use informal language and always spellcheck. It just takes a moment and first impressions count.

7. Be Positive
Ok, yesterday I was working with a lovely woman from Atlanta, crafting messages together. She had received a few messages from men, and we looked them over together.

One man who was quite attractive in all 5 photos had sent her this message (and yes, I’m paraphrasing): “You are quite stunning. I want to be forthcoming. I lost my wife last year, though it was not a good marriage. Shortly thereafter, my son died in a car accident. As a result, I am in therapy 4x a week and the meds are helping my depression. Would you like to meet”? (There was much more to this message but you get the picture).

We both agreed while we felt for this man’s tragedies, it was just too much information. Please don’t spill too much information before the first date….or even on the first date.

8. Be Patient
There is a learning curve to crafting good messages. And a good reminder, it just takes one. Please don’t get frustrated as I know from almost 30 years as a dating coach, there’s a lid for every pot. If you find yourself exhausted, take a two week break and don’t get online at all. Come back refreshed!

After starting It’s Just Lunch in the 1990’s and growing it to 110 locations globally, I sold to private equity about 10+ years ago as I saw the writing on the wall. The largest pool of singles is online and you can’t argue with the statistics. One in three got married last year online. There’s been countless ongoing relationships. You’ll meet interesting people outside of your everyday life.

After being married for 24 years, it took me 4 years to begin online dating! (Yes, I guess I was living vicariously through my clients!!!)

But when I jumped in, no, I dove in, the first week I had 5 dates. Love at first site? Nope! But met some very interesting people—one rock and roller who invited me to a concert, one podcast guy who leant me his studio, one doctor who had written a book about vitamins and supplements and boy, did I learn a lot. Ok, no sparks but a lot of fun. Two months later, I met the one. Did I know on the first date? No. But the third was it!

Stay happy, stay positive and have fun with dating!

Andrea McGinty
Founder, https://www.33000Dates.com

Founder, It’s Just Lunch

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Any romantic relationship — be it a marriage or otherwise — is a partnership. Together you will battle personal demons, financial and household crises, terrible moods, career issues, errors in judgements, and so on and so forth. So, there will be as many bad days as there are days full of sunshine and rainbows. No marriage is just about the happy days alone. The secret to a happy marriage is knowing that, no matter the storm, trouble, or obstacle that you face, as long as you have each other and choose your bond over everything else, you will be alright.

You will always emerge from the crises stronger and happier than ever before. A happy marriage is characterized by this knowledge, an understanding of each others’ needs, wants and temperaments, and emotional maturity on each partner’s part. Sure, physical intimacy is important too, but it is all those other little things that characterize a truly happy marriage.

For newlyweds, though, such a terrain may be difficult to navigate and they may find themselves struggling to maintain and strengthen the marital bond when faced with crisis after crisis. In such situations, it is important to remember and stick the 10 key rules to a happy marriage. While there is hardly a manual that will help you deal with everything — especially since everyone’s situation is unique — sticking to these rules will still make it way easier to navigate these treacherous waters.

10 Rules For A Happy Marriage

There is no one-stop solution, no manual or guide that can help you deal with every problem you may encounter in a marriage and turn it into a happy relationship that lasts forever. But still, every married couple looks for that secret ingredient in the recipe to make their marriage a happy and successful one. However, we must come to terms with the fact that the path leading there has no shortcut to this. It is all about putting in constant effort and choosing each other over everything else every time.

This may seem like a lot of work, but, in the end, know that it will always be worth it. Make mistakes, make horrible decisions, but always remember to be willing to fix things. Because, together, you can solve anything. That being said, there are 10 rules for a happy marriage that every couple should always follow to lead a life of marital bliss:

1. Always remember that you are two separate individuals

The first one in this list of 10 rules for a happy marriage is to acknowledge the fact that, even though you are sharing your life with your spouse, you two are unique individuals. While, that shouldn’t stop you from sharing your feelings with your partner, remembering that you are two separate individuals who have been brought up differently and are characterized by different needs, wants and desires will help you understand each other better.

It will also keep you from having unfair expectations of each other and instead allow you to be understanding of your partner’s point of view even in the direst of situations.

2. Be willing to compromise

When two people share a life together, they face many ups and downs in life that require some degree of compromise. Always look at the bigger picture and compromise where necessary and when it’s practical.

While these rules for a successful marriage do not mean that you should always bend over backward to fulfill your partner’s demands, especially if they aren’t rational demands at all, it does mean that you would need to be willing to let go of certain things to make them happy. Human beings are selfish beings. But love is anything but selfish. Love requires adjustments on each partner’s part. So, if giving up on something or changing a habit or two can make your partner and your marriage happier, be willing to make those adjustments.

That being said, another one of the rules for a happy marriage is to remember to not take this too far and end up being the only partner making sacrifices and compromising on everything. Both you and your spouse need to compromise on things to make your marriage a truly equal, mature partnership.

3. Keep your arguments healthy

Finally, don’t be afraid of disagreeing with your partner, but do it respectfully. Remember, a happy marriage has no space for ego. Let your mutual love win through it all. This is an important mantra and one of the key marriage rules to live by.

Healthy arguments are okay. Anger, irritability, and frustration are very human emotions. There will be times when both, you and your partner, make mistakes. There will be other times when you hurt each other. Even if that leads to arguments, do not resort to pettiness. Do not engage in blame games and name-calling. Try and get to the bottom of the issue together instead of turning it into a battle you have to win.

Arguments can be a good medium of communication as long as you keep things healthy, open and respectful.

4. Don’t be afraid to communicate

Communication is the key to any relationship. Your partner can almost never tell what you are thinking. So, it is important to communicate your feelings and needs with your partner instead of keeping it all to yourself. It may feel difficult at first, especially if you are used to dealing with things alone, but as we’ve said before, a marriage is a partnership. So, your problems aren’t just yours alone anymore. Tell them to your partner, even if it feels embarrassing. This is one of the key rules for a happy marriage.

Chances are, your partner has been waiting for the chance to be of help. Also, open communication can solve a problem before it has the chance to turn into a bigger issue. And remember, communication is not just about saying things. It is also about being willing to listen. Listen to their side of the story without getting defensive. One of the major marriage rules to live by is to try to understand each other’s position and deal with the issues together.

5. Work on keeping the spark alive

Just because you are married now doesn’t mean the romance has to be dead. Once the honeymoon period is over, work hard on keeping that spark alive. Don’t just let the romance fade away as you lose yourself to family duties and professional responsibilities. Learn new things about them every day and fall in love with them all over again. Take time out of your busy schedules and spend it with each other. Go traveling. Pull pranks. Buy flowers and have date nights.

Remember, one of the best parts about being married is that you get to be with the love of your life for the rest of eternity. So, shower them with affection whenever you can.

Related Reading: Adjustment In Marriage: 10 Tips For Newly Married Couples To Make Their Relationship Strong

6. Be trustful and trustworthy

There is no point in being together if you cannot trust your partner. Sure, there will be times when both you and they may keep secrets from each other. But still, trust them to do the right thing. One of the rules for a happy marriage is trusting your partner unconditionally as it will inspire them to do better and be better every day, since they would not want to let you down ever. Put your faith in your love and the bond that you share with each other and each day will be filled with marital bliss.

7. Respect each others’ opinions

This may seem like a no-brainer to some, but it is still one of the rules to a happy relationship. They are your partner in crime. They want the same things as you. Both of you want each other to be happy. So, why would you not pay heed to their opinions or advice? Even if it feels like they may have no idea about a situation, explain things to them and take time to listen to their piece.

And, whatever you do, remember not to ridicule their opinions, no matter how silly it may seem. Explain why you think what they are suggesting wouldn’t work instead. Learn to learn from each other and you will grow stronger as people and as a couple with every passing day.

8. Choose your battles wisely

While arguments are a great way of communicating your feelings, sometimes it does not bode well to be fighting and arguing about everything. One of the rules to a happy relationship that you should remember is that some battles are better not fought, especially when they can be resolved if you just make a few, small adjustments on your part.

Instead of always expecting your partner to fix their mistakes, actually ask yourself if the issue at hand is important at all. Or are you just used to doing things a certain way and don’t like it when you have to change them — even if the change is not so bad in itself? Introspect before engaging in arguments every time. In life, you win some, you lose some. But losing some battles and letting go of the rest may just help you win love in this situation.

Related Reading: Incompatible With My Wife And Turning To Counseling To Save The Marriage

9. Tackle problems together

Marriage rules state how important it is to learn to share your hardships with each other — even if it does feel difficult to be so vulnerable in front of another person. The idea of what is personal and private changes when you are married. So, your personal and professional troubles aren’t just yours to deal with anymore.

Think of it this way: Once you are married, you have got a wingman, a partner in crime, a confidante, a well wisher and a best friend all rolled into one. Use that power to tackle problems together instead of keeping things from each other.

10. Support each others’ dreams

Being each other’s biggest source of strength and motivation is pivotal to leading a happy marital life. It is one of the major marriage rules. You must strive to be the most essential force of inspiration for your spouse, even when times get tough. It is your responsibility to support their dreams, their career and their ambitions whenever and however you can and vice versa.

Tap into the powers of companionship, mutual understanding and respect to achieve your dreams and shoot for the stars together. Be the power couple everyone only dreams of becoming. It’s not hard as long as you have each other and your strong bond built out of love, compassion and mutual respect to fall back on.

In the end, while these 10 rules for a happy marriage may help, know that there isn’t a guide or list of rules for marriage that can tell you what to do and how to actually handle every problem, every moment and every disaster that comes with a marriage. But, thankfully, you have your partner and love of your life right by your side so you can face the world and its million hardships together.

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In this article, you will learn how to stop masturbating.

I explore the science and then the spirituality, before giving you eighteen techniques for breaking the habit or reducing its frequency.

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The Science of Masturbation

From a science perspective, several processes occur in the male body when the decision to masturbate is made.

Here’s an overview of some of the key biochemical changes:

1. Dopamine release

When a man decides to masturbate, the brain releases dopamine, a neurotransmitter responsible for the feelings of pleasure, reward, and motivation.

• Dopamine plays a crucial role in sexual arousal and the anticipation of pleasurable experiences.

The release of dopamine can create a positive feedback loop, reinforcing the decision to engage in the act.

2. Activation of the limbic system

The decision to masturbate stimulates the limbic system, a set of interconnected brain structures responsible for regulating emotions, memory, and sexual arousal.

• Key structures involved include the hypothalamus, amygdala, and hippocampus.

The hypothalamus, in particular, releases hormones and neurotransmitters that contribute to sexual arousal and facilitate the physiological response.

3. Hormonal changes

As arousal builds, the hypothalamus stimulates the production and release of hormones, such as oxytocin and vasopressin.

• Oxytocin, often called the “love hormone,” contributes to feelings of bonding and intimacy.

Vasopressin has been linked to the regulation of sexual behavior and motivation.

4. Nitric oxide (NO) release

The decision to masturbate and the subsequent arousal lead to the release of nitric oxide (NO) in the blood vessels of the penis.

• This release of NO causes the blood vessels to dilate.

This increases blood flow to the penis and resulting in an erection.

5. Endorphin release

During sexual arousal and orgasm, the brain releases endorphins, which are natural painkillers and mood elevators.

• These chemicals can create a sense of euphoria and relaxation, contributing to the pleasurable sensations.

These biochemical processes are interconnected and work together to facilitate sexual arousal, erection, and the experience of pleasure during masturbation.

The Spirituality of Masturbation

There are various spiritual texts and religious teachings that offer guidance on the topic of male masturbation.

Here is a brief overview of the perspectives found in some of the major spiritual traditions:

Hinduism

In Hinduism, sexual energy is considered divine and powerful, as it is believed to be a representation of the creative force of the universe.

• The Kama Sutra, an ancient Hindu text, offers guidance on sexual pleasure, including masturbation.

However, some Hindu texts, such as the Bhagavad Gita, emphasize the importance of self-control and moderation, which can be interpreted as discouraging excessive indulgence in sexual activities, including masturbation.

Buddhism

Buddhism teaches the Middle Way, a path of moderation that avoids extremes.

• Sexual desire is considered a form of attachment, which can lead to suffering.

Masturbation is not explicitly mentioned in the Buddhist scriptures, but it can be seen as a form of indulgence in sensual pleasure, which may hinder one’s spiritual progress.

Taoism

Taoist teachings emphasize harmony and balance in all aspects of life, including sexuality.

• Some Taoist practices, such as sexual qigong, involve the cultivation and conservation of sexual energy.

In this context, excessive masturbation may be seen as depleting one’s vital energy (qi), but moderate masturbation could be considered part of a balanced sexual life.

Breaking The Habit of Masturbation

Breaking the habit of masturbation can be challenging, but there are various strategies that can help.

Here are some suggestions:

Pay attention to the situations, feelings, or environments that often lead to the desire to masturbate.

Identifying these triggers can help you avoid or manage them more effectively.

Establish a specific goal for yourself, such as reducing the frequency of masturbation or abstaining completely.

Having a clear objective can help you stay focused and motivated.

A structured daily routine can help minimize idle time and boredom, which can contribute to the urge to masturbate.

Fill your day with productive activities, such as work, exercise, hobbies, or socializing with friends and family.

Strengthening your self-control can help you resist the urge to masturbate.

Develop your discipline by setting small, achievable goals in other areas of your life and gradually building on your successes.

• Engage in physical activity

Regular exercise can help reduce stress, boost your mood, and provide a healthy outlet for your energy.

Physical activities, such as jogging, swimming, or yoga, can help you focus on your body in a positive way.

• Find alternative coping mechanisms

If you use masturbation as a way to cope with stress, anxiety, or other negative emotions, try to find healthier alternatives.

Meditation, deep breathing exercises, or talking to a friend or therapist can help you deal with these feelings more effectively.

• Limit exposure to sexual stimuli

Avoid consuming explicit material, such as pornography, and be mindful of your online activities.

Limiting exposure to sexual content can help reduce the frequency of urges to masturbate.

• Develop a support network

Share your goals with trusted friends or family members who can offer encouragement, advice, and accountability.

Alternatively, you can join a support group or online forum where others are dealing with similar challenges.

• Focus on your mental health

Address any underlying mental health issues, such as depression or anxiety, which may contribute to the habit of masturbation.

Seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor can be beneficial.

• Be patient and persistent

Breaking a habit can be difficult and may require time and effort.

Expect setbacks and be prepared to forgive yourself and continue working towards your goals.

Further Ways of Breaking The Habit of Masturbation

Here are some unusual or unconventional methods that may help in reducing or stopping the habit of masturbation:

Associate the act of masturbation with an unpleasant sensation, such as snapping a rubber band on your wrist, to create a negative association.

Over time, this might reduce the urge to masturbate.

Wearing gloves while sleeping or during times when you might be tempted to masturbate.

You can create a physical barrier and make it more difficult to engage in the act.

Rearrange your room, particularly the area where you typically masturbate.

This change can disrupt the habit loop and make it less likely for you to engage in the behavior.

Repeat a phrase or mantra to yourself when you feel the urge to masturbate.

This could be something like, “I am in control of my desires,” or any other phrase that helps you refocus your attention.

Imagine yourself successfully resisting the urge to masturbate and feeling proud of your self-control.

Visualization can help reinforce your commitment to breaking the habit.

• Engage in creative pursuits

Channel your energy into artistic or creative activities, such as painting, writing, or playing music.

Use these as a way to redirect your focus and reduce the urge to masturbate.

Gradually expose yourself to the triggers that usually lead to the desire to masturbate, but resist the urge to engage in the act.

This can help desensitize you to these triggers over time.

Wear a bracelet, ring, or other piece of jewelry as a physical reminder of your commitment to stop masturbating.

When you see or touch this item, it can help reinforce your resolve.

Conclusion

• Masturbation involves dopamine release, activation of the limbic system, and hormonal changes.
• Major spiritual traditions emphasize moderation, self-control, and the cultivation of sexual energy.
• Simple strategies can help individuals reduce or stop the habit of masturbation.

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1. Please note that the effectiveness of these methods may vary from person to person, and there is limited scientific evidence supporting their efficacy. As with any behavior change, it is essential to approach this process with patience and persistence, as well as an understanding of your own unique needs and circumstances.While it is challenging to find research studies that directly address the unusual methods to stop masturbation mentioned earlier, some of the techniques are derived from broader principles of habit change and psychological interventions. Here are some studies and resources related to these principles:
2. McRobbie, H., & Hajek, P. (2001). Using aversive smoking in the treatment of tobacco dependence. CNS Drugs, 15(5), 353-363. Aversion therapy has been used in the treatment of various unwanted behaviors, such as smoking and alcohol dependence. A study by McRobbie, H., & Hajek, P. (2001) discusses the application of aversive stimuli in smoking cessation.
3. Neal, D. T., Wood, W., & Quinn, J. M. (2006) highlights the role of environmental cues in habit formation and suggests that changing the environment can disrupt habitual behaviors. Source: Neal, D. T., Wood, W., & Quinn, J. M. (2006). Habits—A repeat performance. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 15(4), 198-202
4. Holmes, P. S., & Collins, D. J. (2001). The PETTLEP approach to motor imagery: A functional equivalence model for sport psychologists. Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, 13(1), 60-83.Visualization has been found to be effective in various contexts, including sports performance and behavior change. A study by Holmes, P. S., & Collins, D. J. (2001) discusses the effectiveness of mental imagery in enhancing performance and changing behaviors.
5. Craske, M. G., & Mystkowski, J. L. (2006). Exposure therapy and extinction: Clinical studies. In M. G. Craske, D. Hermans, & D. Vansteenwegen (Eds.), Fear and learning: From basic processes to clinical implications (pp. 217-233). Washington, DC: American Psychological Association. Exposure therapy is a well-established psychological intervention for reducing anxiety and fear associated with specific triggers. A study by Craske, M. G., & Mystkowski, J. L. (2006) reviews the principles of exposure therapy and its applications in various contexts.
6. Baumeister, R. F., & Heatherton, T. F. (1996). Self-regulation failure: An overview. Psychological Inquiry, 7(1), 1-15. Triggers and self-awareness: A study on self-regulation by Baumeister, R. F., & Heatherton, T. F. (1996) suggests that understanding one’s triggers and developing self-awareness can be crucial for habit change.
7. Locke, E. A., & Latham, G. P. (2002). Building a practically useful theory of goal setting and task motivation: A 35-year odyssey. American Psychologist, 57(9), 705-717. Research by Locke, E. A., & Latham, G. P. (2002) has demonstrated the importance of setting specific and challenging goals for behavior change.
8. Salmon, P. (2001). Effects of physical exercise on anxiety, depression, and sensitivity to stress: A unifying theory. Clinical Psychology Review, 21(1), 33-61. Physical activity and mental health: Numerous studies have shown the positive effects of physical activity on mental health, including stress reduction. For example, a study by Salmon, P. (2001) discusses the benefits of exercise for managing stress and anxiety.
9. Kabat-Zinn, J. (2003). Mindfulness-based interventions in context: Past, present, and future. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice, 10(2), 144-156. Mindfulness and meditation: Research by Kabat-Zinn, J. (2003) and others has shown that mindfulness-based stress reduction techniques, such as meditation, can help with various mental health issues and habit change.
10. DiClemente, C. C., & Prochaska, J. O. (1998). Toward a comprehensive, transtheoretical model of change: Stages of change and addictive behaviors. In W. R. Miller & N. Heather (Eds.), Treating addictive behaviors (2nd ed., pp. 3-24). New York, NY: Plenum Press. Social support and behavior change: A study by DiClemente, C. C., & Prochaska, J. O. (1998) highlights the importance of social support in the process of behavior change.

Starting a relationship is not as easy as it appears in the movies. In real life, there are doubts, setbacks, personality conflicts, and just about any other situation that you can think of. As such, it is extremely important to understand the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.

If you have doubts about a man’s intentions and affections, this article will help you answer the following things:

· What are the signs he does not take me seriously?
· Can he like me but not want to date me?
· What can I do if he doesn’t like me?

Can A Man Like You But Not Want A Relationship?

Well, the short answer is yes. But the truth is a little more complicated. It is true that a man can like you but not want to date you due to the circumstances of his life. That being said, there are many men out there who use their circumstances as an excuse to not date someone, so that is something to look out for.

When someone likes you but doesn’t want a relationship with you, things can get confusing. He will be warm and affectionate one day, but cold on another. There are many reasons that such a man wouldn’t date you:

· Lack of self-esteem, he feels unworthy of you
· Trauma regarding past relationships not ending well, being afraid to make the same mistakes
· People around him always had failed relationships, so that is what he expects too
· He believes he is not responsible or financially stable enough for a relationship
· He’s learned something about your past which makes him uncomfortable
· He believes in a bachelor lifestyle with no serious commitments. Studies indicate that men were more likely than women to indicate that they were single in order to be free to flirt around
• He wants to stay single and focus on his health, career, family, etc. for a while

These are some of the most common reasons that a man has for not dating you, even if he likes you. So while it is possible for someone to like you and not want a relationship, you still need to know how to spot the signs of this mindset.

18 Signs He Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You

Whether you are in a long-distance relationship or living together, it is important to know if the two of you have a future together. That hope and expectation is what keeps a relationship going after all. Regardless of the status of your relationship, here are some signs that you should watch out for in a man to see if he wants a long-lasting relationship with you.

1. He doesn’t call you back

A sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you is when you notice that he either does not answer your call, takes a long time to call you back, or doesn’t call you back at all. He may claim that he is busy. While that may be true sometimes, if you frequently find him not sparing a little time to call you, it is an obvious sign he doesn’t like you.

2. He puts in minimal effort into the relationship

One way to judge whether he wants a serious relationship with you or not is to see the amount of effort he puts into maintaining the relationship and keeping you happy. A man who is not serious about you would never put in more than a satisfactory effort. If he truly wants to be with you, he would occasionally go above and beyond what is needed to keep you happy.

3. He keeps picking fights with you

During a fight, you’ll see many signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you anymore. You’ll spot them if you pay attention to how often and what you fight about. Studies like this show that people tend to pick fights with their partner when they no longer want to be in a relationship.

Frictions are normal in a healthy relationship, but if you find yourself in a conflict almost all the time, or if you are fighting over absolutely irrelevant reasons, you should realize that he is trying to look for a way to exit the relationship.

4. Your mistakes are unforgivable

One of the burning signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you is when he is unable to let go of any mistake you make, no matter how small or inconsequential. Everyone makes mistakes, and a loving partner would understand that and try to forgive you. However, if your partner holds every single thing you do wrong against you, they don’t care about you.

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5. He doesn’t want a relationship with you if he always prioritizes other things

A common sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you is when you are placed very low on his list of priorities. This is not to say that you should always be his top priority regardless of the circumstances. But if your boyfriend seems to never prioritize you, or always has something more important to do, you should know that he is not serious about you.

6. He does not act like a partner

If you want to date someone, the most basic expectation that you would have is that they act like your partner. If the guy is not serious about you though, there will be signs of an unequal relationship. If he displays these traits, you should know that he does not care for you:

· Does not call you his partner
· Avoids being romantic or intimate
· Does not consult with you on decisions that affect you both

7. He doesn’t want to be your partner if all he displays is fake intimacy

One of the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you is when you realize that he is only loving and doting when you are surrounded by other people. However, once the two of you are on your own, there is a clear disinterest in the relationship from his side. Research shows that people tend to fake intimacy when they don’t want a relationship, but don’t want to be alone either.

If your boyfriend is only loving in public, you can be sure that he wants to use you as a way to boost his social standing amongst his peers, and he does not consider this a committed relationship.

8. He tries to make you angry

Another burning sign that he doesn’t want a relationship with you is when he is constantly trying to make you angry by disrespecting you or saying hurtful things in the relationship. This is a really toxic method that some people employ so that you break up with them and they can avoid feeling guilty. If you find that your boyfriend constantly tries to make you angry, you can be sure that he does not like you and is looking for a way out.

9. It’s only about sex

Another obvious sign he doesn’t like you much is when there isn’t much substance to your relationship outside of sex. Sex is an important part in many committed dynamics, however, it is not the only thing that’s present in a relationship. If you find that your partnership revolves around sex and lacks intimacy or romance, you need to recognize that your boyfriend does not actually like you and that it is a sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you.

10. He doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you if he does not get jealous

Another sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you is when he doesn’t get jealous about you. Now being secure about your partner and trusting them is a healthy thing to do. However, there are still lines in a relationship that you don’t cross. If the guy you are casually dating does not seem to get jealous when those lines are crossed, or pretends that those lines don’t exist, you can be sure that he doesn’t want a relationship with you anymore.

11. He does not keep his promises

Another sign that he does not want a serious relationship with you, that many people miss out on, is that he never manages to keep his promises. These include both minor and major promises such as:

· He fails to show up on time
· He makes plans then bails out at the last moment
· His behavior in general does not match his word

If your boyfriend shows any of these traits, you can be sure that there is a disinterest in the relationship and he is trying to use you.

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12. He takes you for granted

A major red flag to watch out for in a guy is to see if he appreciates you for the little things you do or if he feels entitled to the services you perform and refuses to acknowledge them. This should be easy to spot as it is very obvious when a man is just using you and it is one of the signs he is taking you for granted.

13. He does not engage in quality conversations

In any relationship, especially long-distance relationships, communication is the key to a healthy partnership. So if your partner refuses to communicate with you, be it on call or text, he is not interested in having a real relationship with you. This could manifest in the following ways:

• His responses are short and lack any details
• His texts don’t display any curiosity about you
• He shuts down conversations and refuses to set a time to discuss it again
• He is ignoring you and does not respond to your texts on time

14. Everything is a lie

Another heartbreaking sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you is when you realize that he always lies to you. It’s not even a major lie like infidelity, but he lies about the little things such as:

· Lies about who he met and what he did
· Lies about being busy or not having time
· Lies of omission, where he leaves out the details he thinks might upset you

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15. He violates your boundaries

A sure-fire sign that he doesn’t want to date you is when he is constantly violating, or trying to push, your boundaries. This is when he deliberately uses the information he has about you to try and make you as uncomfortable as possible. This is a highly toxic and manipulative behavior that you should always be watchful for. If he violates your boundaries, he does not respect you and doesn’t want a relationship with you.

16. He doesn’t plan a future with you

The clearest sign that he doesn’t see himself being in a relationship with you is when he refuses to talk about, or plan, your future together. If a man really wants to be with you, he would be open to discussing moving somewhere together, or how to move ahead in your respective careers while still being with each other.

If you find that a man doesn’t talk about these things, and his answers regarding the future are “I don’t know” or “Let’s see”, he is not looking for a relationship with you. Furthermore, it is also one of the signs that he is not into you.

17. He doesn’t want to be your partner if he openly flirts with others

This sign is so common that it can be considered a cliché. The best way to know if a man wants a monogamous relationship with you is to see if he flirts with others. When a man is into you, he will focus all his attention on you and only you. But if he still flirts with others, or accepts their advances toward him, he is most definitely not interested in having a committed relationship with you.

18. He ghosts you

This really should be the final and most definitive sign that he doesn’t want a relationship with you. Ghosting in relationships is an act of completely cutting off all contact from a person. For all intents and purposes, they are dead to you. If a man ghosts you, the message is pretty clear. He does not like you, he does not want a relationship, and he does not want to see you again. A painful truth to hear, but one that is necessary for you to move on.

Now there is no need to panic if your partner displays any of the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you. While the feeling stings, it’s important to know that it is not the end of the world. There are steps you can take to ensure that your life does get better and that you eventually find someone who deserves you.

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5 Things You Can Do If He Doesn’t Want To Date You

It can be devastating to find out that someone doesn’t want to date you. However, being sad about it is not going to help you in any way. In order to heal in a healthy way, here are 5 things you can do if you realize he doesn’t want to date you.

1. Cut him off

If you see no hope for a future, the best thing you can do is cut him off if he doesn’t want a relationship with you. There is no point in trying to fight a losing battle. Cutting him off will make him miss you. It may feel hard at first, but it will help you in the following ways:

• It will give you time to reflect and heal, you’ll find out that you don’t need him in the first place
• It distances you from the source of your pain, making it easier to deal with
• You don’t carry around the hope of somehow still being with him, allowing you to pursue other interests and improve your life

2. Explore new possibilities

No matter how much you like the guy, you should realize that he is not unique. There are plenty of men just like him, and possibly better. So you should not give up hope – keep exploring your options, there is someone for you out there.

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3. Spend time with friends and family

Nothing heals a broken heart better than love from a trusted individual. After being rejected, it’s a good idea to spend time with your friends and family to reorient yourself and focus on the people who are important in your life.

4. Focus on yourself

As weird and counterproductive as it sounds, heartbreak is a really good motivator. While being rejected can sting, it’s best to channel those energies toward improving aspects of your life that you are unhappy with. Here are some things you can do to focus on yourself:

• Learn a skill, like an instrument or something related to your professional field
• Dive deeper into your hobbies
• Learn how to love yourself again by practicing self-care
• Change your look or get a makeover

The point here is to try and feel good about yourself again.

5. Take some space

If you really liked the guy and are unable to cut him off when he doesn’t want a relationship with you, the next best thing is to take some space from him and go low contact for a while. This will let you see that there is more to life than just him and gives you some time to work through your emotions. Taking a relationship break and giving each other some space will help both of you reassess the importance of this relationship.

By now, you are well-armed with all the knowledge and little tips needed for you to understand how serious he is about you. If you had any doubt about your standing with a man before, this should clear that up.

However, you should also understand that even if a man is serious about you, he might still display some of these traits. It is important to understand that people aren’t perfect, and everyone is still a work in progress. Give him some time to show you that he can improve if you want a successful relationship.

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We are the first ones to talk about how much we love sex–all kinds of it. Kinky, vanilla, slow, fast, outside, inside, we could go on forever. No matter how you do it or what you’re into, consensual sex is, of course, the one necessary consistent element.

As a brand focused on sexual health and wellness, it is important to talk about all sides of the conversation – sexual violence included. To preface, there is no absolute way to prevent sexual assault, but there are strategies to protect and potentially lessen the opportunities. From being aware of the risks to trusting your gut and stepping in when someone needs your help, we’ll look at several things you can do to help put a stop to sexual violence. But before we get into it, let’s define sexual assault (sexual violence) and sexual  harassment.

Sexual Violence

Sexual activity when consent is not obtained or freely given. It is a serious public health problem in the United States that profoundly impacts lifelong health, opportunity, and well-being. Sexual violence impacts every community and affects people of all genders, sexual orientations, and ages. Anyone can experience or perpetrate sexual violence. The perpetrator of sexual violence is usually someone the survivor knows, such as a friend, current or former intimate partner, coworker, neighbor, or family member. Sexual violence can occur in-person, online, or through technology, such as posting or sharing sexual pictures of someone without their consent, or non-consensual sexting. – Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)

Sexual Harassment

Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature in the workplace or learning environment, according to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC). Sexual harassment does not always have to be specifically about sexual behavior or directed at a specific person. For example, negative comments about women as a group may be a form of sexual harassment…Although sexual harassment laws do not usually cover teasing or offhand comments, these behaviors can also be upsetting and have a negative emotional effect. – Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network (RAINN)

In short, sexual harassment is unwelcome sexual attention while sexual assault is sexual contact without consent. Even though we’re differentiating the two, we acknowledge both are wrong and should never happen.

How Common Is This?

Sexual violence touches millions of people a year just in the United States alone. The statistics will never be completely accurate because so many acts of sexual violence go unreported, but here are a few for you to ponder:

• Over 50% of women experience physical sexual violence – according to the CDC
• 1 in 3 of men experience physical sexual violence – according to the CDC
• 1 in 4 women have experienced at least attempted rape – according to the CDC
• 1 in 3 women and 1 in 9 men are made to experience sexual harassment in public – according to the CDC
• Over 80% of women rape survivors and nearly 80% of men rape survivors experience it before 25 – according to the CDC
• Recent estimates put the lifetime cost of rape at $122,461 per survivor, including medical costs, lost productivity, criminal justice activities, and other costs – according to the CDC
• There are over 293,000 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year in the U.S – according to RAINN

While historically and statistically, women are unproportionally most often the victims of sexual violence, we also want to note that men can be (and are) targeted as well. In fact, the CDC and Department of Justice estimate that about 3% of men in America have experienced an attempted or completed rape. So, what can we do about this?

How to Prevent Sexual Violence

RAINN is the nation’s largest anti-sexual violence network, and the organization has a best practice strategy for preventing possible SV known as C.A.R.E. According to RAINN, “if you find yourself in a situation where someone looks uncomfortable or something doesn’t seem right, consider one of the following ways to step in:

Create a distraction: This can be a subtle way to interrupt in a safe way by giving the person an opportunity to leave the situation.

Ask directly: Asking the person you think is at risk if they are okay or if they need help is a good way to determine if something needs to be done. Ask when you have a moment alone, so it doesn’t alert the aggressor.

Rally others: Sometimes you might not think you can handle what is going on alone. Don’t be afraid to ask others to join you so you can still ensure the person you are trying to protect is safe.

Extend support: Whether something happened or you were able to prevent it, the person might need some type of support after. That could mean walking them to their car or offering to listen if they need someone to talk to. Sometimes the smallest things have the biggest impact.”

To take it further, the CDC launched a specific campaign that is designed to help prevent SV, called STOP SV. The CDC’s full breakdown of STOP SV can be seen here, but here is a summary of some of the approaches outlined:

Promote Social Norms That Protect Against Violence.

There are going to be situations when the victim cannot or will not be able to prevent an occurrence. This is when and why it is so important for any witnesses to step forward and help, such as RAINN’s C.A.R.E strategy. Even though you may not be directly involved, you do have a choice to interrupt, and it can make a world of a difference. Even though sexual violence can happen to anyone, anywhere, at any time, from the numbers we know women are more likely to experience sexual violence/harassment. Because of this, men and boys should be taught how to be allies and expected to conduct themselves that way. For sexual violence to end, be part of the solution instead of inactive bystanders or worse, part of the problem.

Teach Skills to Prevent Sexual Violence.

Social-emotional learning in general can be such a positive for many aspects of life, but it is especially important for preventing sexual violence. Teach healthy and safe dating skills to teenagers so they have the knowledge, standards, and tools to act respectfully and know when someone is not being respectful. If teenagers know what    red flags to look out for, they have a better chance of avoiding a situation they don’t want to be in. Promote healthy sexuality…comprehensive sex education programs. Enough said. Empowerment-based training is key to prevention as it gives people the strong mindset they need to know they can do something about the situation and that they hold power and can take certain steps to ensure their safety.

Provide Opportunities to Support and Empower Girls and Women.

Strengthen economic support for women and families essentially means there are financial/power imbalances between men and women that have been linked to risk of SV and if women gain      more economic security, it can lessen their risk. Strengthening leadership and opportunities for girls can be so impactful as it grows their confidence and knowledge. This in turn promotes better results from education, employment, and other productive community aspects so they can, again, have a greater chance to lessen the gender gap that SV is linked to.

Create Protective Environments.

It is so important for kids to feel safe in schools and know they have support from staff, so improving safety and monitoring in schools needs to be a priority. The same goes for people at work–establishing and consistently applying workplace policies is crucial for employees to feel safe and focus on their work not sexual assault/harassment threats.

Support Victims/Survivors to Lessen Harms.

Victim-centered services are necessary for survivors to have the resources they need to recover and thrive afterwards. Treatment for victims of SV, such as therapy services, are also proven to be extremely helpful in the recovery process. Treatment for at-risk children and families to prevent problem behavior including sex offending will help in preventing violent habits and mindsets from forming at the source. When a person is prone to violence, they were most likely exposed to excessive amounts of it in their youth.

 

Resources

If you or someone you know are affected by sexual violence, please use the following resources to seek help:

National Sexual Assault Hotline (available 24 hours): 1-800-656-4673

Find a trained sexual assault advocate near you: https://www.centers.rainn.org/

Seek support for SV and mental health:

Open Path Collective – find a clinician

Psychology Today – find a therapist

Inclusive Therapists – find a therapist

Care for yourself:

Self-care strategies

Coping skills

Presenting the Giant AskMen Guide to Everything You Need to Know About Semen

It’s incredibly common and a crucial ingredient in the creation of almost every person who’s ever lived. Humanity produces masses of it every single day. Yet there’s a strange and mysterious quality to it, and to be frank, most people don’t know very much about it, even when it’s a normal part of their day-to-day lives.

What is this magical whitish, mostly liquid substance that people with penises produce when they ejaculate? You might blow a load of it, or shoot ropes of it. It goes by different names — cum, spunk, jizz, baby batter, splooge — but the technical term for it is “semen.”

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Those on the receiving end of it can feel all kinds of different ways about it. It can be a source of terror for people who don’t want to get pregnant (“Don’t you dare finish inside me!”), of joy for people who do (“Yes! Give me a baby!”) and of significant erotic power for many people, regardless of whether they have a uterus or not (“Oh, yeah, get it all over me!”).

Those who produce it — whether they’re cis men or boys, trans women or non-binary people — may glory in seeing how often or how much they can produce, or how far they can shoot it; or they may worry about its volume, consistency, smell and taste.

It can also transmit infections, which can vary from mild to a matter of life and death. And it can cause pregnancy — which, in addition to being a potentially life-changing event for both people involved, for good or for ill, is also a serious medical condition that can, in extreme cases, end the life of the person bearing the fetus.

In short, it can be a source of incredible pleasure and also a significant contributor to unhappiness. But what is semen, really? And what are the basic facts you should know about it that you maybe weren’t taught in sex education? AskMen spoke to half a dozen different experts to get the lowdown on your loads. Here’s what they had to say:

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What Is Semen?

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“Semen is the fluid expelled out of the penis during ejaculation,” says Suzannah Weiss, certified sex educator and resident sexologist for the erotic pleasure platform FrolicMe. “Typically, it contains sperm, as well as other fluids that help to nourish and transport the sperm. These fluids come from glands such as the prostate gland and seminal vesicles, while the sperm itself is made from the testicles.”

“Semen is a creamy, slightly yellowish or grayish, combination of fluids that includes sperm and water,” says Joe Kort, Ph.D., LMSW, certified sexologist, and founder and director of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. “The sperm in semen are tadpole-like reproductive cells that contain half of the genetic information to create human offspring.”

While sperm is an important component of semen in terms of its function in causing pregnancy, those tadpole-shaped cells don’t actually account for much of the actual volume of semen, primarily because of how microscopically small each sperm is.

Even with tens or hundreds of millions of sperm cells in a normal ejaculation, sperm accounts for just “2 to 5% of semen,” says Sarah Melancon, Ph.D., the sexuality and relationships expert for SexToyCollective.com. “Semen also includes various amino acids, enzymes, nutrients, and fructose.”

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“Overall, semen is a vital part of male reproductive health and fertility,” says Mak Adikami, cofounder of lustyboy.com. “It contains important nutrients and hormones that support normal functioning, and it can contain potentially harmful compounds in small amounts. Ultimately, it is important to practice safe sex and get regular medical checkups to ensure that your semen is healthy and safe.”

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The Age When You Start to Produce Semen

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“People with penises begin to produce semen roughly around the age of puberty,” says Rohit Walwaikar, MD, a consultant psychiatrist with Allo Health. “This period varies from person to person, depending on a lot of factors, such as genetics, comorbid conditions, male reproductive hormone levels, and lastly any anatomical defects in the reproductive system.”

In numerical terms, the experts cited in this piece mentioned an age range from 10 to 16 years old, although the middle of that range, from 13 to 14, seems to be more common.

If you were assigned male at birth, puberty is typically the period when you begin to produce testosterone, says Adikami, “which is responsible for the development of the male reproductive organs. This is also when the testicles start to produce sperm.”

“It is important to note that although semen production is linked to puberty,” he adds, “it is not the same as being able to ejaculate. To ejaculate, a person needs to have an orgasm, and this is something that will usually occur after a person reaches a certain level of sexual arousal.”

However, not everything happens at the same time or in the same order for every person. As Weiss points out, “‘dry’ or non-ejaculatory orgasms” can happen before you start producing semen, and Melancon notes that ejaculations with semen can also occur before you start producing sperm.

“It is also important to understand that while semen production usually starts at puberty, it can take a while to reach its full potential,” says Adikami. “The amount of semen produced can vary greatly from person to person, and it can take months or even years for the full potential to be reached.”

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Finally, Kort notes that for people who’ve only just started producing it, their semen “may be only a few drops at first and it is clear instead of a milky color,” and adds that “the glands that produce semen are independent of other body systems such as height and body hair.”

Meaning, if you start “showing signs of puberty in other areas, it does not necessarily mean [you] will start producing semen at the same time.”

While men and other people with penises typically hit their peak in terms of semen volume per ejaculation in their 30s, as they continue to age, they’ll begin to produce less semen, with most of the experts we spoke to citing the 50s as a point where semen production may dip noticeably.

And while they may find themselves less fertile — due to decreased sperm quality, rather than decreased semen volume — at that age, Weiss points out that, if you produce sperm, it’s still technically possible to impregnate someone no matter what age you are.

“Semen has the ability to get someone pregnant unless someone has undergone a vasectomy (which prevents sperm from entering the semen) or has dealt with a health condition or medical treatment that compromises fertility, such as radiotherapy or hormone therapy for prostate cancer,” she explains.

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Semen Ingestion Facts

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While much of sex involves condoms, and acts like handjobs, mutual masturbation or phone sex don’t involve semen entering into another person’s body, sex acts like blowjobs, and unprotected penetrative sex, whether anal or vaginal, can and do lead to one person’s semen entering into another person’s body.

While this may be the desired result on the part of both parties involved, and isn’t necessarily cause for alarm in and of itself, getting semen in someone else’s orifice(s) can, in many different scenarios, have negative consequences, so it’s important to know the potential risks involved before you proceed.

Semen and Pregnancy

Perhaps most notably, semen plays an important role in conception, aka getting someone pregnant. This happens when someone with a penis ejaculates inside the vagina of someone with a uterus, most commonly with a cis man and cis woman.

In these cases, the sperm cells in your semen — aka the 2 to 5% of it by volume — ”must travel through the cervix and uterus and then must find the egg in order to fertilize it, and create a pregnancy,” Adikami says.

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If a person with a uterus — this could be a cis woman or girl, but it could also be a trans man or a non-binary person who was assigned female at birth — is ovulating “and semen is introduced into the vagina, then it is possible to cause pregnancy,” says Melancon. “Pregnancy is a potential risk five days before and five days after ovulation, termed the ‘fertile window.’

While Melancon, notes that semen “cannot cause pregnancy when a female is outside of her fertile window,” she also points out that “sperm can live inside the vagina for up to five days” — as well as the fact that people with uteruses don’t just magically know when they’re ovulating: “A female partner would have to track her cycle to know her fertile window; otherwise, always assume pregnancy is a risk, and engage in safer sex practices.”

Kort adds that, in rare cases, “semen can cause pregnancy even if the woman does not have intercourse,” says Kort.

Engaging in oral, manual or anal sex, if you’re not careful, can lead to trace amounts of semen entering into the vagina, which could lead to a sperm cell eventually reaching an egg and fertilizing it. That’s why, if you or your partner(s) aren’t interested in conceiving a child, you should use condoms or other birth control methods.

Semen and Sexually Transmitted Infections

Whether your sexual partner has a uterus or is ovulating or not, semen can also carry with it more than just pregnancy-causing spermatozoa — it can also carry with it sexually transmitted infections.

“STIs (sexually transmitted infections) are infections in which a bacteria or virus is present in bodily fluids, including semen,” says Kort. “If this happens, the STI can be passed to a partner.”

“When it comes to STIs, transmission can occur through any type of unprotected sexual contact,” says Adikami. “This means that if a person engages in sexual activity with someone who has an STI, they can contract it through direct contact with the infected person’s bodily fluids, including semen.”

“Semen can carry a variety of STIs, such as HIV, herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis. HIV is transmitted when an infected person’s bodily fluids, including semen, come into contact with the mucous membranes of another person.”

However, not all STIs are transmitted through semen — herpes and HPV, for instance, “are transmitted through skin-to-skin contact,” Weiss notes, meaning there can be transmission even without an ejaculation. As such, wearing a condom remains a best practice for protecting yourself and others from STIs.

Not all STIs are serious matters. Kort adds that gonorrhea and chlamydia are “treatable immediately with antibiotics that are easily available, inexpensive and effective.” But getting them — and passing them on to one or more partners — isn’t fun for anyone, so taking measures to prevent that transmission is a good idea.

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Semen Ingestion Safety

“With a stellar sexual health status upon prior testing, ingesting semen is a safe practice,” says Christine Kingsley, health and wellness director of the Lung Institute. “Swallowing ejaculate is no better or worse than drinking another person’s sweat. It’s a form of excretion that the body creates as a byproduct of all the functions of its systems.”

“If there are no STIs present, then it is generally safe to ingest semen,” Melancon agrees. “There are two extremely rare circumstances where ingesting semen would be dangerous: If you ate a food to which your partner is severely allergic several hours before sex, it is very rare but possible for your semen to contain proteins of that food, and lead to an allergic reaction. Allergies to semen itself are also possible, though rare.”

“If you are allergic to semen, you will notice symptoms such as itching, burning, and pain wherever the semen made contact around half an hour later,” says Weiss. “If this is the case, you should avoid direct contact with semen by using condoms.”

Additionally, semen itself can be an indicator of whether it’s safe to consume, says Kort: “If the semen has a foul smell or is not the normal whitish to grayish color, your partner could have an infection or health problem. Red-colored semen can mean inflammation of the glands that produce it. Yellow or green semen can be caused by an infection, medication or vitamins.”

If you’re not allergic to it, and your partner doesn’t have any communicable diseases, ingesting semen “may even have some benefits,” though, Weiss says: “Research has linked semen exposure with reduced risk of depression and preeclampsia, though these studies looked at semen exposure via intercourse, not oral sex. Semen also contains vitamins such as zinc as well as hormones such as melatonin (which helps you sleep).”

However, “It would take gallons of semen to actually deliver a substantial amount that can positively improve one’s immunity or overall health,” says Kingsley. And, as you’ll see in this next section, gallons of semen can be hard to come by.

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Semen Volume

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If you’ve ever spent any time in a kitchen, you may be familiar with the teaspoon as a unit of measurement — it’s one of the most commonly used ones in many recipes. It’s also approximately how much semen the average ejaculation contains, at least at the upper range.

That’s right — not a tablespoon (15 ml), a simple teaspoon (5 ml). While porn actors may have you thinking otherwise, the data shows that a mere 2 to 5 ml of liquid is the standard range for semen volume.

That being said, it’s possible to ejaculate more or less than that at any given moment depending on a handful of factors.

“According to the World Health Organization,” Adikami says, “the average amount of semen produced in a single ejaculation is [between] 1.5 and 7.6 ml. However, the actual amount of semen produced in a single ejaculation can vary from as little as 0.2 ml up to 10 ml or more.”

So what are those factors? As discussed earlier, age can be a significant one.

“Generally speaking, younger men tend to produce more semen than older men, as young men typically have higher levels of testosterone and other hormones that stimulate the production of semen,” says Adikami, who also mentions “alcohol and drug use, smoking and certain medications” as possible factors.

However, whether you’re ejaculating less than a milliliter or over 10 times that much, it’s likely not much to be worried about either way.

“The only time that semen volume becomes a concern is when you ejaculate after a while of no sex or masturbation, and the semen produced is watery,” says Kingsley. “Normal, healthy semen should have a consistency similar to a raw egg or a runny jelly. Holding out for a couple of weeks will increase the semen content in the ejaculate and, therefore, make it more volumized and slightly thicker.”

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Increasing Semen Volume

If you are wondering about increasing the volume of your semen, the first thing you should know is that it’s not either important or necessary when it comes to your fertility.

“Men in general associate semen volume with fertility and masculinity,” says Kort, but he notes that there’s not a scientific link to this association.

“There is no known health or fertility benefit from shooting more semen,” he adds. “Unfortunately, pornography depicts a different, untrue picture about semen volume.”

It’s also not likely that producing more semen will make a significant difference to your partner. While some people may get very aroused by seeing a man shoot “big loads,” the absence thereof isn’t a common complaint from people who date men.

Ultimately, we’re all bound by natural constraints here.

“Normal semen volume is about 2 ml to 5 ml per ejaculate,” says Kort. “It doesn’t and can’t vary much from this. Many products on the market will claim to increase semen volume, but be very cautious. These don’t work.”

Weiss agrees that there “isn’t much evidence behind” these supplements, noting that “the best way to increase your semen volume is to go a period of time without ejaculating, so that there is more available.”

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However, even if you can’t increase your semen production radically above the standard range of about a teaspoon, abstaining from ejaculating for a period of time isn’t the only thing you can do to positively impact your semen volume.

“First, you should make sure you’re getting enough nutrients,” says Adikami. “Eating a healthy diet full of fruits, vegetables, and proteins can help increase semen volume. A healthy libido is also important, so make sure you’re getting enough sleep and avoiding excessive stress.”

“You should also try to exercise regularly,” he adds. “Exercise increases blood flow to the penis, which can help increase semen volume. Additionally, exercise can help reduce stress levels and increase testosterone levels, both of which can have a positive effect on semen volume.”

There’s also the question of your relationship to addictive substances like nicotine and alcohol. Smoking and drinking, Adikami notes, can negatively impact your fertility, and your semen volume, too.

On the dietary side of things, Melancon notes that “ashwagandha and zinc may help,” and Walwaikar mentions “amino acids, most notably d-aspartate” as potentially working in your favor.

Finally, Kort points out that, as noted earlier, volume increases and decreases over time: “Peak volume is produced between the ages of 30 to 35, and lowest volume is experienced when men reach 50 to 55 and older.”

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Semen Taste and Smell

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So what does semen taste and smell like? It can be a tricky question to answer.

“Like all other bodily fluids, the ejaculate’s taste and smell vary depending on one’s physical state,” says Kingsley. “Because what’s excreted out of the body, be it ejaculate, sweat, or odor, reflects the chemical reactions that take place within our system, their taste, smell, and consistency majorly depend on certain foods, medications, drinks that are consumed, or even the overall state of one’s health.”

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Let’s start with its taste. While Weiss describes it as having “a bleach-like, chlorine-like, or salty taste,” and Adikami calls it “salty, slightly sweet,” Kingsley points out that “different people can register different tastes in different ways, so some may experience semen to be tasteless while others may experience it to be bitter.”

“In general,” says Kort, “it can taste slightly salty, sometimes slightly bitter, sometimes a little sweet and sometimes a little coppery.” Melancon, for her part, notes its “distinct flavor that is difficult to describe.”

Got that? Ultimately, the truth is that it varies from person to person, both in terms of the person producing the semen and the person tasting it, and that how each person’s semen tastes may change over time based on a variety of factors.

(In fact, Kort notes, “the thickness of semen will change how it tastes. If it is thick and creamy, its taste may be more intense, and if it is thin and runny, it will be easier to swallow and less intense in taste.”)

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So what about the smell? While Melancon says it shouldn’t smell especially strong, it will still emit a slight odor, and Kingsley and Adikami both mention its potentially smelling somewhat like chlorine.

However, Melancon notes, if it carries a “particularly foul taste or smell,” it could be a sign of infection.

Changing Semen Taste

If you enjoy receiving oral sex, it’s not a bad idea to think about the taste of your own semen, particularly if you’re hoping that your partner(s) will swallow your ejaculate.

While taste and smell, like volume, tend to only exist within a certain range — you’re never going to be able to make your cum taste like vanilla ice cream, sadly — it is possible to shift them within that range.

While working on making your cum taste better is certainly a noble goal, Melancon points out that there isn’t any hard scientific research on semen taste — but there is a generally accepted group of things that will influence its taste. As with volume, it has a lot to do with what you eat and drink.

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“Eating foods like pineapples, celery, and melon can make the taste of semen sweeter, while red meat and dairy products can make it more savory,” Adikami notes. “On the other hand, certain medications, such as antibiotics and antidepressants, as well as recreational drugs, can also affect the taste.”

“Fruit in general may cause semen to taste sweeter, while beverages like coffee and alcohol can give it a more bitter taste when consumed in large quantities,” Weiss adds.

Kingsley highlights “citrusy and sweet foods like pineapple and oranges,” while Kort mentions lemon, cranberries, wheatgrass and peppermint — and both mention cinnamon.

Diet, of course, Adikami notes, isn’t the only way to improve matters — you can also drink “plenty of water,” which he says “helps to flush out toxins from the body.”

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On the flip side, the experts cite things like smoking doing drugs, drinking alcohol and caffeine, eating candy and salty, fatty fast food, garlic and onions, meat and dairy, and high-sulfur cruciferous foods like cauliflower, broccoli, and cabbage as things that can negatively impact your semen’s taste.

Either way, Kort notes, “changes in eating habits will not change the taste of your semen right away. It might take a few weeks.”

So if you’ve got a hot first date coming up, it may already be too late to make much of a difference — but it’s not too late to have a positive impact for a second or third date a little while later.

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