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  • Matthew Perry Dead At 54 – Perez Hilton

    Matthew Perry Dead At 54 – Perez Hilton

    We cannot believe we’re reporting this right now…

    Matthew Perry has died at the age of 54, according to a shocking report from TMZ on Saturday.

    Law enforcement sources say the Friends star was found at his Los Angeles home, where first responders rushed to respond to a call of a cardiac arrest. Unfortunately it was too late. He was found in a jacuzzi — and it appears he died of drowning.

    Photos: Stars We Lost In 2023

    Sources tell the outlet there were no drugs on the scene, and there is no foul play suspected.

    Perry had apparently been playing pickleball for two hours earlier in the morning. While he was relaxing afterward he sent his assistant on some errands. When the assistant returned later in the morning, they found the actor unresponsive and called 911. A full investigation is being conducted.

    This is just devastating.

    After guest-starring in basically every hit TV show ever, Perry had a great film run being fantastically charming in movies like The Whole Nine Yards, Three To Tango, 17 Again, and Fools Rush In. But of course he will forever be known as the iconic Chandler Bing on Friends, the king of ’90s sarcasm. Here’s a taste of some of his most classic moments…

    We just can’t believe he’s gone…

    Perry was always the most troubled Friends star, dealing with severe addiction problems on and off. In recent years he’s been candid about just how bad it got, revealing some truly sad stories in interviews and his tell-all book Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing.

    But it seemed he had really turned a corner. We thought for sure we’d have decades more of his wit and charm, whether in front of the camera or not. So so sad…

    [Image via Warner Bros/YouTube.]

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  • ‘Friends’ Star Matthew Perry Dead At 54: Reports

    ‘Friends’ Star Matthew Perry Dead At 54: Reports

    Matthew Perry, a beloved actor known for his role as Chandler Bing in the classic ’90s sitcom “Friends,” died on Saturday at age 54, according to TMZ and The Los Angeles Times.

    Law enforcement officials told TMZ that the actor was found dead in his jacuzzi at his home in L.A. from what appears to be a drowning incident. Authorities responded to the actor’s house at 4 p.m., where he was found unresponsive, the LA Times reported.

    The exact cause of death has not been cited, and the Los Angeles Police Department’s Robbery Homicide detective is examining the death. Perry’s team did not immediately respond to HuffPost’s request for comment.

    Officials said that no drugs were found on scene and there were no signs of foul play. Perry has been open about his decades-long struggle with drug and alcohol addiction, including while filming “Friends.”

    Perry was born in Williamstown, Massachusetts and raised in Ottawa, Canada. He later moved to Los Angeles as a teenager and landed a few TV appearances, including in “Boys Will Be Boys,” “Growing Pains” and “Sydney,” before making his big break in the Emmy-nominated show “Friends,” which was about a close-knit group of friends living in New York City and navigating adulthood.

    In 1994, he portrayed the sarcastic but beloved character Chandler Bing, who lived with his best friend Joey (Matt LeBlanc) across the hall from his best friend’s sister — and later, wife — Monica (Courtney Cox).

    He starred alongside big-name actors Matt LeBlanc, Jennifer Aniston, David Schwimmer, Lisa Kudrow and Courtney Cox during the show’s 10-season run. The show was a major success, even years after the show ended in 2004, garnering love and attention from fans across different generations.

    Fans lauded the characters and the humorous, fun dynamic between the cast members, who came together in 2021 for “Friends: The Reunion” to talk about the show, their favorite memories, the emotional finale and the lasting bond that formed between them.

    During the reunion, Perry spoke about how he didn’t remember filming seasons 3 through 6 because he had been struggling with substance abuse. He opened up about his years-long addiction struggles in 2013, People reported.

    “I had a big problem with alcohol and pills and I couldn’t stop. Eventually things got so bad that I couldn’t hide it, and then everybody knew,” he said. Perry went to rehab twice and opened up a sober living center called the Perry House.

    In November 2022, Perry wrote a memoir called “Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing,” which details his experiences filming the hit show.

    ″‘Friends’ had been a safe place, a touchstone of calm for me; it had given me a reason to get out of bed every morning, and it had also given me a reason to take it just a little bit easier the night before,” Perry wrote in the memoir, according to Business Insider.

    “It was the time of our lives. It was like we got some new piece of amazing news every day. Even I knew only a madman (which in many moments I had been nonetheless) would screw up a job like that.”

    After “Friends” ended, Perry continued acting in shows such as “Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip” and “The Odd Couple,” and films such as “17 Again.” In 2016, he also wrote and starred in a London play called “The End of Longing.”


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  • Matthew Perry Dies at 54

    Matthew Perry Dies at 54

    Matthew Perry, the Friends star who battled addiction for decades before, during, and after he spent ten seasons in the ensemble of one of TV’s most beloved sitcoms, has died, the L.A. Times reports. Perry was allegedly discovered unresponsive in a hot tub at his home in Los Angeles; the paper’s source did not cite a cause of death. The actor was 54.

    Perry was best known for his portrayal of the witty, sarcastic and catchphrase-loving Chandler Bing on the iconic ’90s sitcom, starring in 234 episodes of the series created by David Crane and Martha Kaufman from 1994 to 2004 and getting an Emmy nomination for his work in its ninth season. (Perry was nominated for Emmys five times in total, including for his appearance in 2021’s HBO Max Friends reunion special.)  Though all six of the series’ lead characters were funny, Chandler was first among equals—a charmingly self-deprecating, grown-up class clown who could wring a laugh out of nothing more than his unique inflection (“Could she be more out of my league?”). 

    The son of actor John Bennett Perry, Canada-born Perry yearned to make it big in Hollywood before he booked Friends at the age of 24. ”There was steam coming out of my ears, I wanted to be famous so badly,” he told the New York Times in 2002. “You want the attention, you want the bucks, and you want the best seat in the restaurant. I didn’t think what the repercussions would be.”

    During the show’s run, Perry attempted to launch a film career, starring in well-received comedies including Fools Rush In, Three to Tango, and The Whole Nine Yards. After it ended, he starred on numerous short-lived TV series, including Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip, Mr. Sunshine, Go On, and the 2015 CBS reboot of The Odd Couple. But Perry never quite managed to escape Chandler’s long shadow. 

    His efforts were complicated by the lifelong battle with addiction he chronicled in his 2022 memoir, the New York Times bestseller Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing. In an interview he gave while promoting the book, Perry shared that he found it impossible to rewatch Friends because all he saw were the physical signs of his disease. “I was taking 55 Vicodin a day, I weighed 128 pounds, I was on Friends getting watched by 30 million people—and that’s why I can’t watch the show, ’cause I was brutally thin,” Perry said. “I didn’t watch the show, and haven’t watched the show, because I could go, ’Drinking, opiates, drinking, cocaine,’” he said. “I could tell season by season, by how I looked. That’s why I don’t wanna watch it, because that’s what I see.”

    Perry estimated last year that he had spent around $9 million trying to stay sober. He’d been to rehab 15 times, he said; he’d had 14 surgeries on his stomach due to damage wrought from his addiction to opioids and alcohol. The worst of them came when his colon burst when Perry was 49; the actor was placed in a coma for two weeks, he said, and had to use a colostomy bag for the next nine months. “The doctors told my family that I had a 2 percent chance to live,” Perry wrote in his memoir. “I was put on a thing called an ECMO machine, which does all the breathing for your heart and your lungs. And that’s called a Hail Mary. No one survives that.”

    Reps for Perry did not immediately return Vanity Fair‘s request for comment.

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  • ‘Friends’ star Matthew Perry dead at 54, found in hot tub at L.A. home, sources say

    ‘Friends’ star Matthew Perry dead at 54, found in hot tub at L.A. home, sources say

    “Friends” star Matthew Perry was found dead Saturday in a hot tub at his Los Angeles home, law enforcement sources said. He was 54.

    Authorities responded about 4 p.m. to his home, where he was discovered unresponsive. The sources, who spoke on condition of anonymity because the investigation was ongoing, did not cite a cause of death. There was no sign of foul play, the sources added. A representative for Perry did not immediately respond to The Times’ request for comment.

    The Los Angeles Police Department’s robbery-homicide detectives are investigating the death. The cause of death will be determined at a later date by the Los Angeles County coroner’s office.

    “We are devastated by the passing of our dear friend Matthew Perry,” Warner Bros. Television Group, which produced “Friends,” said in a statement. “Matthew was an incredibly gifted actor and an indelible part of the Warner Bros. Television Group family. The impact of his comedic genius was felt around the world, and his legacy will live on in the hearts of so many. This is a heartbreaking day, and we send our love to his family, his loved ones, and all of his devoted fans.”

    Saturday evening yellow-and-black LAPD crime scene tape blocked off the entrance to Bluesail Drive, a tony street just off the Pacific Coast Highway at the crest of a hill with sweeping views of the Pacific Ocean.

    Shortly after 7 p.m., as multiple helicopters whirred overhead, Perry’s mother, Suzanne, and her husband, broadcaster Keith Morrison, joined the journalists and LAPD officers on the scene. Morrison declined to comment.

    The police were barring journalists from passing the crime scene tape onto Bluesail. An LAPD officer at the scene said he had no information and that he did not know when any would be forthcoming.

    Perry, the son of actor John Bennett Perry and Suzanne Marie Langford, onetime press secretary of Canadian Prime Minister Pierre Trudeau, was born in 1969 and grew up between Montreal and Los Angeles after his parents separated when Perry was 1.

    He got his start as a child actor, landing guest spots on “Charles in Charge” and “Beverly Hills 90210” and playing opposite River Phoenix in the film “A Night in the Life of Jimmy Reardon” in the 1980s and early 1990s.

    But his big break came when he was cast in “Friends” — originally titled “Friends Like Us” — a sitcom about six single New Yorkers navigating adulthood that premiered on NBC in 1994.

    The series soon became a juggernaut, the anchor of the network’s vaunted Thursday-night “Must-See TV” lineup, and turned Perry and his castmates Jennifer Aniston, Courteney Cox, Lisa Kudrow, Matt LeBlanc and David Schwimmer into mega-stars almost overnight. At its high-water mark — for a 1996 Super Bowl episode and the 2004 series finale, the series notched more than 50 million live viewers; by its end, cast members were earning more than $1 million an episode.

    As Chandler Bing, the handsome, wisecracking roommate of LeBlanc’s Joey Tribbiani and, later, love interest of Cox’s fastidious Monica Geller, Perry distinguished himself in a crackling ensemble cast. With his dry delivery he created a catchphrase with a mere turn of inflection, based on banter he’d shared with childhood friends: Could he be any more Chandler?

    Soon, he was attached to major stars like Julia Roberts and appearing in prominent films such as 1997 rom-com “Fools Rush in,” opposite Salma Hayek, and 2000 ensemble mob comedy “The Whole Nine Yards” with Bruce Willis.

    There was a dark side to the life of one of television’s most beloved funnymen, however. In his 2022 memoir “Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing,” Perry recounted his lifelong struggle with addiction to alcohol and opioids. He wrote that he had his first drink at 14, but didn’t recognize the signs of alcoholism until 21. Since then, he estimated, he’d spent more than $7 million on efforts to get sober, including multiple stints in rehab. His substance abuse also led to a number of serious health issues, including a five-month hospitalization in 2018 following a colon rupture that left him, he wrote, with a 2% chance to live through the night.

    And it was fueled, he acknowledged during a “Friends” reunion special in 2021, by the pressure to land the joke in front of a live studio audience night after night.

    “Nobody wanted to be famous more than me,” Perry told The Times in April, discussing “Big Terrible Thing” at the Festival of Books. “I was convinced it was the answer. I was 25, it was the second year of ‘Friends,’ and eight months into it, I realized the American dream is not making me happy, not filling the holes in my life. I couldn’t get enough attention. … Fame does not do what you think it’s going to do. It was all a trick.”

    Though Perry estimated he had relapsed “60 or 70 times” since first getting sober in 2001, he maintained a steady presence on American television, playing key parts in backstage dramedy “Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip” and therapy sitcom “Go On,” and making a steady stream of guest appearances on acclaimed shows such as “The West Wing” and “The Good Wife.” Since his near-death experience in 2018, Perry had found solace in friendships, writing and regular games of pickleball.

    Indeed, for all his success as an actor and, more recently, a bestselling memoirist, Perry told The Times in April that his work was not the center of what he hoped would be his legacy.

    Pressed to name how he’d like to be remembered, he said: “As a guy who lived life, loved well, lived well and helped people. That running into me was a good thing, and not something bad.”

    Times staff writers Connor Sheets and Meg James contributed to this report.

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  • A Chasm in the TV Space-Time Continuum, Or: Rachel Green Fucks Don Draper

    A Chasm in the TV Space-Time Continuum, Or: Rachel Green Fucks Don Draper

    Just when you thought scenes of Rachel Green Alex Levy boning Don Draper Paul Marks (not the other way around, as some might sexistly presume) would stop at last week’s episode of The Morning Show, “The Stanford Student,” the latest installment of the third season, “Strict Scrutiny,” chose to pick up where the banging session motif left off. This time commencing a new one that viewers are made privy to after a few requisite “romantic foreplay” shots of a pizza box on the counter with two half-drunk glasses of wine next to it. 

    The tracking shot then passes by the sleeping dog (because dogs aren’t as perverse about watching as cats) and into the living room with the multimillion dollar view of the city—that looks like any megalopolis—before finally showing us Alex and Paul continuing to delight in their forbidden tryst from the previous week. But it’s not really Alex and Paul, is it? Or even Jennifer Aniston and Jon Hamm. No, no. All one can truly see is the unlikely fan fiction melding of Friends and Mad Men come to life. 

    And while it might seem that Green and Draper are worlds (and decades apart), when one stops to think about it, the two really have quite a bit in common. Or maybe, more accurately, Rachel has quite a bit in common with Don’s usual type: Betty Draper (January Jones). For instance, like Rachel, Betty is overly spoiled and a little too into spending money on clothes and other “look at me” frivolities. But, at least in Betty’s defense, she has little else to occupy her time (certainly not the raising of her kids). Even though Rachel could have landed herself a similar trophy wife lifestyle had she not left Barry Farber (Mitchell Whitfield) at the altar.

    Another key similarity between the two “TV queens” are that both Betty and Rachel serve as the quintessential representation of the spoiled daughter/Daddy’s princess. Who no man will ever be good enough for (and this is how Electra complexes happen). Except that Rachel would like to believe getting a job has changed her nature. Alas, the true essence of a person (and the effects of their upbringing) never really goes away. 

    And while Rachel is more like Betty and less like Alex, Paul Marks, though seemingly modeled after a less socially inept Elon Musk, instead has many Don Draper characteristics. Starting with an arrogance and self-assurance that mimics the creative director who was able to make Sterling Cooper change to Sterling Cooper Draper Pryce by season four. Because while the Kennedy Camelot era had just ended in America, Don’s own Camelot era in advertising was just getting started. And so is Paul Marks’ proverbial Camelot era, as he extends his many business endeavors into the world of “legacy media,” cajoled back into a deal he was initially going to back out of thanks to Alex’s batting eyelashes. Granted, he had initially backed out in the first place largely as a result of her actions, so it’s only fair that she should be the one to reel him back in. 

    Indeed, the development of their attraction since the beginning of The Morning Show’s third season has almost felt as simultaneously prolonged and inevitable as the one between Ross (David Schwimmer) and Rachel (with Rachel taking a little more time to get on Ross’ pining bandwagon). Except, in this case, there are far more risks involved beyond merely “weirding Monica out” or making things awkward for a tight-knit friend group after the unavoidable breakup. At the forefront of those risks is sabotaging the deal that would arrange for Paul to buy UBA. A deal that still hasn’t been locked down, despite Cory’s (Billy Crudup) best efforts to push it through without any more scrutiny from the government.

    And yes, the board would surely blanch over the knowledge of Alex and Paul banging, because what would that do for the optics of this deal? For the public would then be keenly aware of a huge conflict of interest. It is this type of high-risk behavior that Don was always known for engaging in throughout Mad Men, and Hamm appears to be attracted to characters with this sense of self-destructive bravado. Aniston, on the other hand, has a flavor for the “goody two-shoes” ilk. And Alex being America’s sweetheart (no matter what dirt on her comes out) plays into her usual typecasting ever since taking on the role of Rachel Green. 

    What’s more, this isn’t the first time The Morning Show has had TV worlds involving Friends collide, with Reese Witherspoon a.k.a. Big Little Lies’ Madeline Mackenzie having once cameo’d as Rachel’s sister, Jill Green, for a two-episode arc (though “arc” is a strong word for a character who doesn’t change) in season six. However, in contrast to Ross falling for Jill’s coquettish charms, Paul has zero interest in Bradley Jackson (lesbian or not), who shows up after Alex backs out of her agreement to partake in a suborbital rocket launch (yes, it’s all very Bezos meets Musk) with Paul on live TV. The power play on Alex’s part (designed to indicate to Cory how much clout she really has) ends up putting Bradley in the rocket launch seat next to Paul and Cory, and, ultimately, titillates Paul. Because, after all, what other woman would have “the balls” to flake out on him in such a public and humiliating way? And, in cliche fashion, powerful men are turned on by “things” they can’t have, seeing those “things” as a challenge. A new “terrain to conquer.” And oh, how Paul conquers Alex’s by episode six, “The Stanford Student.”

    After a brief pause on their “unwittingly” romantic day date, of sorts, in episode four, “The Green Light,” their story comes back into sharp focus. Namely, with regard to their clearly, um, mounting attraction. With Alex playing the Rachel card of delaying gratification for as long as possible before finally giving in after interviewing Paul at his Hamptons house for an episode of Alex Unfiltered. And yes, she was the one who suggested the interview, as though to confirm Paul had feels for her too…by seeing if he would agree to do it. Because Paul never agrees to do interviews with anyone. 

    Watching how “good” the two seem for one another (that is, in this portion of the program, before the invariable crash and burn that TV drama requires), it’s enough to make one contemplate how Rachel Green existing in the 60s, or Don Draper existing in the 90s, might have made things better, relationship-wise, for the two. Because we all know ending up with Ross Geller or, in Don’s case, at an Esalen-like retreat center, isn’t exactly a happy ending. Maybe Don wouldn’t have felt the need to suppress his more narcissistic, work-obsessed qualities, as Rachel possessed them as well. Maybe their mutual narcissism could have tamped down the other’s in some fashion, or they would have simply felt more free to be who they truly were.

    But since this pair of unlikely lovers could never exist in each other’s world due to the limitations of being hemmed in by their respective TV series and decade, The Morning Show offers an unexpected glimpse into a fan fiction narrative that perhaps no one ever thought to concoct before. So yes, they might tell us this is “Alex Levy” and “Paul Marks,” but na. The only way these two can be looked at with each other is: Rachel Green and Don Draper.

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  • Austin Pets Alive! | Factory Mattress

    Austin Pets Alive! | Factory Mattress

    Sep 29, 2023

    Whether your dog sleeps curled up at the foot of your bed, or your cat sleeps resting peacefully at the top of your pillow, one thing can be guaranteed — a bed without a pet is not a bed at all.

    At APA!, we dream of a day that every shelter pet is invited into a home — foster or adoptive, with the opportunity to jump into a bed and snuggle up with a human who cares for them. Until then, we’ll be here to give them the love and care they need and deserve until they find a family to call their very own. And right now, our friends at Factory Mattress are supporting our mission to provide resources to the pets in our care!

    Now through September, Factory Mattress is donating 5% of all mattress proceeds in the Greater Austin Area to Austin Pets Alive! — that’s some cozy support! “Factory Mattress wanted to work with APA! because we’re an Austin family business and strive to give back to the community as often as we can. Our family wouldn’t be complete without our pets, so we wanted to support APA! to help others add furry friends to their families,” says Stephen Frey, Factory Mattress’ President.

    Factory Mattress has a long history of supporting local nonprofits.This philanthropic business has supported missions such as SAFE Alliance and has participated in The Statesman Season For Caring for 10 years! We’re honored to be included in this family owned and operated business’ giving program.

    Our organization depends on the support of our community. Our programs are successful because of individuals and businesses who believe in what we do, who believe that every pet deserves a chance at life so when a business like Factory Mattress asks to fundraise on our behalf, we are nothing but grateful!

    “Our corporate partners are critical to our lifesaving mission, allowing us to keep Austin the largest No Kill city in the country. Businesses and their employees who support APA! can feel good knowing their donations are used across our innovative programs that help to save Central Texas’ most vulnerable cats and dogs, ” says APA!’s Sr. Corporate Relations Officer, Tara McKenney.

    This fundraiser supports pets like Ruthie and Rio. Ruthie has spent over a year in the shelter. She started her journey with APA! as a tiny puppy fighting parvovirus. After surviving parvo, she was adopted and was returned to the shelter after living with her family for 4 years. The beginning of September will mark Rio’s 1 year of waiting for a family. This young kitty came to our organization in need of medical support; she was found with a broken jaw. She’s had breaks from the shelter by going into foster homes, then being returned. Wouldn’t it be great if these two pets could get tucked into a bed (whether pet or human) knowing they’ve made it home?

    Thank you to our friends at Factory Mattress for joining our lifesaving journey by generously offering this fundraising opportunity!

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  • ‘Friends’ writer claims ‘unhappy’ cast deliberately ruined jokes – National | Globalnews.ca

    ‘Friends’ writer claims ‘unhappy’ cast deliberately ruined jokes – National | Globalnews.ca

    For former TV writer Patty Lin, working on the smash sitcom Friends wasn’t the “dream job” she expected it to be.

    In her upcoming memoir End Credits: How I Broke Up with Hollywood, Lin said the star-studded cast of Friends — including Jennifer Aniston, Courteney Cox and Matthew Perry — would “deliberately tank” jokes, knowing it would trigger a rewrite.

    Lin was a writer on Season 7 of Friends from 2000 to 2001. Her other TV credits include Freaks and Geeks, Desperate Housewives and Breaking Bad.

    “The actors seemed unhappy to be chained to a tired old show when they could be branching out, and I felt like they were constantly wondering how every given script would specifically serve them,” Lin wrote in an excerpt of her memoir published by Time.

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    Though Lin was a dramatic writer, not a joke writer, she knew when she was offered the Friends writing spot, she couldn’t turn it down. Lin said the high-pressure gig left her with imposter syndrome, and the worry she may have been hired in part because of a diversity initiative at NBC to bring on more writers of colour.

    Lin recalled that the large team of Friends writers were “cliquey,” like the “preppy rich kids in my high school who shopped at Abercrombie & Fitch and drove brand-new convertibles.”

    Lin said her excitement to be working on Friends “wore off fast.” During table reads with the cast, she claimed that “dozens of good jokes would get thrown out” because a lead actor “mumbled the line through a mouthful of bacon.”

    “Seeing themselves as guardians of their characters, they often argued that they would never do or say such-and-such,” Lin wrote. “That was occasionally helpful, but overall, these sessions had a dire, aggressive quality that lacked all the levity you’d expect from the making of a sitcom.”

    She said the stars would “vociferously” voice their grievances with each script.

    “They rarely had anything positive to say, and when they brought up problems, they didn’t suggest feasible solutions.”

    Lin said she “didn’t learn that much” at Friends, save for one lesson: “I never wanted to work on a sitcom again.”

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    Lin is not the only one to criticize Friends since it ended in 2004. In March, Aniston, who played Rachel Green, said modern audiences would likely not approve of the jokes uttered on the sitcom.

    “There’s a whole generation of people, kids, who are now going back to episodes of Friends and find them offensive,” she said.

    Aniston blamed the offensiveness on a combination of “things that were never intentional” and elements of the program that just lacked thought.

    Friends, a comedy about six young people in New York, has long since been criticized for a lack of diversity. All of the show’s main characters are white. While actors of colour appeared sparsely in short cameo roles, the most prominent, non-white actor on the show, Aisha Tyler (who played Charlie Wheeler), appeared in only nine episodes.

    Some of the jokes in Friends have also been labelled transphobic or homophobic.

    Friends began in 1994. It is one of the most profitable sitcoms ever created, bringing in reportedly US$1.4 billion since its initial debut.

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  • Austin Pets Alive! | Pet Safety Tips During Snake Season

    Austin Pets Alive! | Pet Safety Tips During Snake Season

    Jul 21, 2023

    It’s sizzling in Texas and just like humans, snakes are seeking cool places to beat the heat during our record high temperatures. They may be cozied up in the shade of rocks on a favorite hiking trail, in the moist coolness around potted outdoor plants or dark recesses under decks and porches.

    Most of the time, snakes remain aloof and keep their distance from people and pets. But mid-summer is a peak time for snake activity, which increases the chance of a cat or dog crossing paths with the reptile while on a hike or roaming around outdoors.

    Austin Pets Alive! (APA!)  wants to help Austinites keep their furry friends safe by providing the following helpful pointers:

    • Keep dogs on leash while hiking on trails or when outdoors in unfamiliar areas.

    • Keep yards clear of rock piles, stacks of wood or other “covers” that could provide a shady area for snakes.  

    • Be aware that cats sometimes actually seek out snakes.

    Cats and dogs are inquisitive creatures and despite our best efforts to prevent our furry friends from crossing paths with a snake, it may happen. If you see a snake near your pet, assume they may have been bitten. If possible, take a picture of the snake or commit its color pattern to memory, which will help your veterinarian identify next steps. Keep the dog or cat as calm as possible and immediately call your veterinarian or nearest pet emergency center and follow their instructions.

    Sometimes the only clue you will have that your pet may have been bitten will be based on how your pet is acting, especially since snake bites aren’t often visible. Be on the lookout for the following symptoms:

    • Your pet becomes wobbly or unsteady.

    • Your pet exhibits unexpected shaking or trembling.

    • Your pet’s breathing may become fast or shallow.

    • Your dog may vomit within the first hour of being bitten.

    Following these simple steps will help you protect your fur babies from snake bites during this time of high snake activity and extreme heat.

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  • Austin Pets Alive! | APA! Gives Behavior Dogs a Second Lease on Life:…

    Austin Pets Alive! | APA! Gives Behavior Dogs a Second Lease on Life:…

    Jul 20, 2023

    Four years ago, Zeus was surrendered to the city’s municipal shelter, after living the first two years in a yard, largely left alone. And in 2021, he was pulled into APA!’s care so that the Dog Behavior Program could help support Zeus who was struggling with behavioral challenges that were causing him to be overlooked. Since that time, he’s gone in and out of foster care. The behavior team, along with his circle of friends, have continued to work with him, offering tools to navigate his world and giving him time and space to build his confidence. Zeus has plenty of love to give and he so deeply deserves a home to call his own. 

    Zeus is not a difficult dog. He has behaviors that can be difficult if not approached appropriately, but APA!’s Dog Behavior team, paired with Zeus’ best friends (staff and volunteers)  work to break down the barriers of how people interact with certain behaviors while also working to understand what the dogs are trying to communicate when they showcase those difficult behaviors. Zeus struggles with “stranger danger” and can also act out when over-aroused. This boy has a whole team of friends who have stayed by his side, offering him tools to help manage those behaviors to help him find a loving home.   

    Not all dogs get excited and wiggly to meet new people. Zeus needs new people to go slowly with him. We use treat tosses to build up trust, and watch for his body language to relax and for him to show consent before getting too close and offering any pets. A dog’s body language is an important part of their communication! With time and patience, Zeus will build enough trust to let you into his circle! Our team of staff and volunteers, will work with potential fosters or adopters to ensure they have the right tools to successfully become a Zeus BFF!

    Another of Zeus’s quirks is the behaviors he exhibits when he is over stimulated. He may hump, or give “leg hugs” as his friends jokingly call it! Zeus does this when he is happy and excited, but we also know this isn’t exactly a desirable behavior. This is easily managed with treat tosses down and away or redirecting his behavior with a toy. He also loves to give little “pibble nibbles” when giving kisses. While he does this out of affection, not all people want face nibbles. Luckily treats and toys and appropriate chews and toys help redirect Zeus when he’s getting too excited! 

    This silly pupper also has a number of behaviors that we love to see! Zeus enjoys carrying one of his beloved toys whenever he goes on walks. Not only is it adorable to witness, having a toy in his mouth is a helpful tool to combat stranger danger, too! Zeus loves to go on adventures, whether that be to a local park or going to a friend’s house with a swimming pool. And afterwards, he turns into a snuggle bug — by cozying up on a couch with his best bud by his side. 

    Zeus has waited for his family long enough — let’s get this boy home! His ideal home would be low-traffic without small children. He could live in either a house or apartment.  Zeus goes to playgroup at APA! and would be best suited to live with a similar-sized dog who has the same play styles. Our teams are happy to help assess a potential friendship and facilitate a meet and greet! Most importantly, this deserving dog is looking for someone who will trust the process, be patient as he warms up to a new human and new surroundings and pledge to love him for the good boy he is!

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  • Did Ryan Reynolds ‘steal’ Matthew Perry’s character from FRIENDS? Here’s what we know

    Did Ryan Reynolds ‘steal’ Matthew Perry’s character from FRIENDS? Here’s what we know

    Matthew Perry seems to believe that fellow actor Ryan Reynolds drew inspiration from his iconic sitcom portrayal and incorporated similar performance elements before achieving fame in the entertainment industry. Confidential sources close to Perry reveal his unwavering conviction that Reynolds borrowed his character and delivery without ever acknowledging it publicly.


    Matthew Perry’s decades long resentment towards Ryan Reynolds

    Insiders disclose that the Friends actor has carried these sentiments for over two decades, unable to find closure. The focus is on Reynolds’ involvement in the late 1990s sitcom Two Guys, a Girl and a Pizza Place, where he inhabited the character of Michael Bergen for four seasons. During this period, Perry strongly suspects Reynolds may have observed and emulated certain aspects of his beloved Chandler Bing character from Friends.

    The depth of Perry’s conviction stems from his deep emotional connection to Chandler Bing and the significant impact the character made on popular culture. As insiders explain, Perry’s portrayal of Chandler resonated deeply with audiences worldwide, making it understandable why he might feel unsettled by potential similarities in the deadpool actor’s work.

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    Matthew Perry responsible for Ryan’s successful career?

    According to an insider, Ryan’s sitcom Two Guys, a Girl and a Pizza played a pivotal role in shaping the Red Notice actor’s artistic identity as both a performer and a creative force in the industry. It served as a blueprint for his distinctive voice and ultimately influenced his career trajectory as an accomplished writer and producer.

    Ryan Reynolds swiftly ascended to stardom in Hollywood, seamlessly transitioning from television to starring roles in blockbuster films such as Deadpool, Free Guy, and numerous others.

    While Reynolds has never explicitly acknowledged Matthew Perry’s character as a source of inspiration, sources emphasize that from Perry’s perspective this is irrelevant. The insider further revealed that Perry finds it particularly irksome that Reynolds has never made any reference to the alleged influence.

    However, it is crucial to note that Perry does not harbor any aspirations of achieving the same level of success as Reynolds. Perry is known for his candid acknowledgment of the detrimental impact his own struggles with substance abuse had on his life, recognizing the near-fatal consequences it posed.

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  • Pay a Little Less Attention to Your Friends

    Pay a Little Less Attention to Your Friends

    About two years ago, one of my psychiatry patients was giving me particular trouble. He had depression, and despite his usual chattiness, I just couldn’t find a way to engage him on our Zoom calls. He seemed to be avoiding eye contact and stayed quiet, giving only short answers to my questions. I worried he would drop out of treatment, so I suggested that we do something I rarely do with patients: go for a walk.

    We met at a park on a brisk fall day and sat on a bench when we were done. Among the few people nearby was a group of workers, who were cleaning the grounds, chatting loudly, and obviously having fun. As I tried to ask my patient about his studies, he kept breaking eye contact with me to look at the workers. Just as we were finishing, he became tearful and said that he felt very lonely. It was the most he’d opened up to me in many months, and I was relieved. Perhaps the sight of these convivial young men was a reminder of his painful isolation that he simply couldn’t ignore. Or perhaps the act of walking together had finally made him comfortable enough to open up. Either way, it never would have happened on Zoom or in my office.

    My experience with my patient runs contrary to the American fixation on attention. At work, we are lauded for displaying unbroken focus on the task at hand, while some companies punish employees for taking too many breaks away from their computer. With friends, we are expected to be active and engaged listeners, something that demands nearly constant awareness. Being hyper-focused on what people are saying and trying hard not to break your attention might seem like a way to fast-forward a friendship and make meaningful connections. But in fact, that level of intensity can make you feel less connected to other people. If you really want to nurture a relationship, shared distraction might be more powerful.

    If you’ve ever defused an awkward social situation with unrelated small talk or an icebreaker game, you’re already familiar with the social benefits of distraction. Indeed, a handful of studies, while not investigating distraction per se, have suggested that engaging in a shared distracting activity, such as physical exercise, can enhance feelings of social connectedness and pleasure. This is in stark contrast to the alienating, alone-together experience of people who each engage in their own distracting activity, such as staring at their smartphone.

    Although the mechanism by which distraction might increase a feeling of social connectedness is unclear, there are some plausible explanations. Engaging in physical activity, even one as gentle as walking, has been associated with a substantial increase in creative, divergent, and associative thinking—perhaps because moving takes our focus away from ourselves. Creative thinking, in turn, has the potential to move the conversation along in unpredictable ways, perhaps activating the neural reward pathways that rejoice in novelty and thereby making us delight more in one another’s presence. And moving isn’t strictly necessary for the creative benefits of distraction to occur: A 2022 study published in Nature found that just taking note of one’s environment can enhance creative thinking.

    That study also found that pairs working together virtually were less likely to notice their surroundings; instead, they spent more time looking directly at each other’s images. This is decidedly not good for conversation. Staring at a social partner’s face is cognitively and emotionally exhausting, and can be a sign of a domineering nature. Just as you’ve probably experienced the social benefits of distraction, you’ve also probably noticed the social drawbacks of too much intensity. Years ago, hundreds of thousands of people, myself included, went to the Museum of Modern Art to see the Serbian conceptual artist Marina Abramović’s classic performance piece, in which she sat at a small wooden table, staring silently and impassively for several minutes at the face of any visitor who sat across from her. The encounters were uncomfortable at best, and grueling at worst. By removing nearly all ambient stimulation and props, Abramović had underscored their crucial importance.

    The discomfort of extended eye contact helps explain why having natural-seeming, friendship-enforcing interactions over platforms like Zoom and FaceTime can be so difficult: They largely remove the rich world of distractions and force us to stare at the face of our social partner. But for most of us, some degree of virtual connection is unavoidable. For example, a recent Pew Research Center survey estimated that more than 30 percent of employed American adults continue to work largely by Zoom, and even more on a hybrid schedule. But we can still leverage the social advantages of distraction even when we can’t physically be with friends and loved ones.

    One idea is simply to turn off your camera, and thereby remove the option of staring intently into each other’s pixelated eyes. During the height of the pandemic, I taught my residents by Zoom and became very frustrated when they switched off their video. I thought they were zoning out, but perhaps they were stretching or pacing about their apartment, getting a small dose of distraction and making their Zoom experience richer. The reason it felt annoying to me was because it was one-sided; maybe we would have had a better, more creative dialogue if we had all gone off camera together. At the other extreme, try leaving your video on and picking a conversation-starting background, or taking your conversation partner on a virtual tour of your surroundings, or playing a game together. If your friend spaces out, don’t take offense as I did. Ask them what they just saw or imagined and let the conversation flow.

    When you have the luxury of face-to-face contact, skip the staring contest and get out in the world together. You’ll be surprised at the places that can nurture conversation: a lively bar, a challenging fitness class, the sidelines of a riotous parade. Shouting over the noise can be a bonding experience. But be sure you don’t pick something that’s too distracting—otherwise you’ll each be in your own bubble of experience. That happened to me a few years ago, zip-lining with my husband in the Catskill Mountains. It was fun, but ultimately an exercise of being alone together. We debriefed later.

    There’s a time and place for intense, focused conversation, if not intense, focused eye contact. If your friend comes to you in a crisis, or your partner is in the middle of confessing their love, they probably won’t appreciate you pointing out the guy with his pet scarlet macaw passing by (yes, I’ve had the pleasure of seeing this a few times in New York City). But mostly, we stand to benefit when we allow a little bit of the world to intrude.

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  • Matthew Perry Promises To Delete Keanu Reeves Insults From Future Editions Of Memoir: ‘I Said A Stupid Thing’

    Matthew Perry Promises To Delete Keanu Reeves Insults From Future Editions Of Memoir: ‘I Said A Stupid Thing’

    By Brent Furdyk.

    Matthew Perry is continuing to express regrets for insulting Keanu Reeves in his recent memoir, Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing.

    In his book, the “Friends” alum took a shot at Reeves while expressing his admiration for the late River Phoenix, who died of a drug overdose at the age of 23.

    “Why is it that the original thinkers like River Phoenix and Heath Ledger die,” wrote Perry, “but Keanu Reeves still walks among us?”


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    While Perry has previously admitted he made a “mistake” by singling out Reeves, admitting he “chose a random name,” he’s now revealing he’s prepared to go even further to make things right by removing all references of the “John Wick” star in future editions of the memoir.

    “I said a stupid thing. It was a mean thing to do,” Perry said while appearing at the Los Angeles Times Festival of Books, reported Variety.


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    “I pulled his name because I live on the same street,” Perry continued. “I’ve apologized publicly to him. Any future versions of the book will not have his name in it.”

    According to Perry, he hasn’t yet offered a personal apology to Reeves, but will do so if the opportunity were to present itself.

    “If I run into the guy, I’ll apologize,” Perry added. “It was just stupid.”

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  • Famous TV Shows That Shared Sets With Other Series

    Famous TV Shows That Shared Sets With Other Series

    Sometimes, in Hollywood, you have to cut corners. Especially when it comes to television. Some of the most popular TV shows were filmed on sets that were recycled for a completely different series — and you probably never even realized it.

    Unlike movies, which often shoot on location anywhere in the world, television shows (and especially sitcoms) predominantly shoot on one fixed set. At least, they did up until around a decade ago. Nowadays, TV series are granted the freedom to be filmed just like movies — and that includes a greater variety of onscreen locales. Even so, a great deal of television shows tend to be shot in or around Los Angeles. And, since ongoing series pretty much have to repeat locations at some point, quite a few places have become famous thanks to the television shows they were featured in.

    READ MORE: These Futuristic Sci-Fi Films Are Now Set in the Past

    But when the same location is featured in two different shows, it can be tricky to put two and two together — especially when the series are notably different from one another. For example, you’re not going to be thinking about a wholesome sitcom like The Andy Griffith Show while watching a sci-fi epic like Star Trek. However, television sets have a surprising way of transforming themselves. In some cases, a show will borrow only a single location from another show, but there are some instances where two shows were practically filmed on the exact same set. Once you find out about these TV show connections, you’ll never be able to watch them the same way again.

    Here are ten series that shared filming locations with other popular TV shows.

    TV Series That Shared Sets With Other Shows

    These famous TV shows shared sets and almost no one noticed.

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  • What People Who Have IBD Wish You Knew

    What People Who Have IBD Wish You Knew

    Anyone living with a chronic illness like inflammatory bowel disease (IBD) will tell you that it’s challenging. The condition, which includes Crohn’s disease and ulcerative colitis (UC), ­impacts every corner of your life, from your daily routines to the basic relationship you have with your own body. What can make it more complicated is the way others, both family and strangers, might treat you when they learn that you have IBD.

    A Confusing Diagnosis

    The thing is, IBD symptoms are sensitive subjects and uncomfortable to talk about. And all of the misconceptions and assumptions about the disease can make things more uneasy. Sometimes, even those living with IBD can be confused about what the disease is and what it isn’t

    “I thought it was an ‘old man thing,’ ” says Stefan Thomas, a U.K.-based author and speaker. Diagnosed with UC at the age of 27, Thomas had never heard of the disease beyond a few older relatives in his family having what he said was politely called “stomach problems.”

    For Ijmal Haider,  the owner of a creative and architectural design firm in Calgary, Alberta, who was diagnosed with UC in his late 20s, it was the chronic part of the illness that didn’t compute at first. He thought he could cure his condition simply by taking the right combination of medications.

    The first 2 years of UC were a roller-coaster ride, Haider says, because he started to realize there was no magic pill or quick fix for his illness. And some of the medications he was taking to manage it had major side effects. “Certain steroids can take a big toll on your body and emotional well-being.”   

    Don’t Ignore Mental Health Aspects

    The impact IBD can have on your mental health is another thing that needs to be discussed more, says Jenna Farmer, creator of A Balanced Belly, a blog about life with Crohn’s disease, based in the U.K. “I don’t think anybody realizes just how much anxiety living with a chronic condition can cause, along with the stigma of bowel issues,” she says.

    Thomas remembers the early years of managing his UC as distressing and depressing. “I was very anxious on trips out, always making sure that I was within reach of a toilet, no matter where I was, which in itself is quite upsetting, disabling, and makes you think, ‘Will I ever return to normal life?’ ”

    Thomas says the one misconception he finds most frustrating is when people mistake IBD for IBS (irritable bowel syndrome). “It happens all the time,” he says. “I can understand why someone might get confused.” But the infuriating part, he says, is the way people downplay how serious and severe IBD is by chalking it up to having a “funny tummy” that can be easily remedied by cutting out dairy. “I’m not diminishing the impact of IBS, but IBD and IBS are completely different.”

    Open Dialogue

    The best way to clear up many of these false impressions about IBD is by having more open and respectful conversations with people living with the disease. But just because it’s the best way doesn’t mean it’s easy. As Kate Petty, a Baltimore-based writer, sees it, it’s in our nature to avoid talking about things that scare us.

     “I think human beings in general tend to minimize pain in other people, because we’re all afraid of illness and injury, and so we want to push it away,” says Petty, who was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease at 16 but has been in full remission for more than 14 years.

    Instead of asking someone with IBD questions that could come across as prying, Haider suggests a better way. “One of the most powerful questions that I get asked by people who don’t have IBD is, ‘How can I support you?’ ” he says. “It’s a dynamic question that allows us – people dealing with the illness – to dictate exactly how others can help, because the support I need changes in each given moment.”

    Once you get past some of the shyness around the traditionally “embarrassing” symptoms, most people with IBD are comfortable talking about their experience, Petty says. “Ask open-ended questions about the condition, like how a person is managing it, and how they’re feeling on any given day.” 

    Learn All You Can

    Educating yourself is also key, Farmer says. “Taking just a few minutes to research my condition and the medication I’m taking is a massive help.” It shows that you care about understanding what it’s like living with IBD.

    The more folks living with IBD started to talk about it, the more it helped people like Thomas. “I realized that it wasn’t just me, and that the other people were managing their condition and just getting on with their lives.”

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  • Jennifer Aniston Reacts To Cole Sprouse Having A Crush On Her When Filming ‘Friends’

    Jennifer Aniston Reacts To Cole Sprouse Having A Crush On Her When Filming ‘Friends’

    It’s the one where some of us feel old.

    Jennifer Aniston had a sweetly surprised reaction to being told that actor Cole Sprouse had a huge crush on her when he acted alongside her on “Friends” as a child.

    Cole Sprouse as Ben Geller and Jennifer Aniston as Rachel Green in a 2001 still from “Friends.”

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    “Cole had said he had the biggest crush on you shooting ‘Friends,’” Access Hollywood’s Kit Hoover said during a joint interview with Aniston and her “Murder Mystery 2” costar Adam Sandler.

    “Oh, that makes sense,” said Sandler.

    Meanwhile, Aniston exclaimed, “He was so little!”

    Jennifer Aniston at "Murder Mystery 2" on March 28 in Los Angeles.
    Jennifer Aniston at “Murder Mystery 2” on March 28 in Los Angeles.

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    Sprouse was 7 years old when he started appearing on “Friends” as Ben, the son of Ross Geller. He acted on the show for two seasons, appearing in seven episodes.

    As an adult, the “Riverdale” star has repeatedly reminisced about his childhood infatuation with Aniston.

    “I remember feeling so, so intimidated by my crush on her that I completely blanked and forgot every single one of my lines, and she just stared at me and was waiting,” he told Stephen Colbert on “The Late Show” in 2018.

    Cole Sprouse in 2018
    Cole Sprouse in 2018

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    And while Aniston acted surprised to learn about Spruce’s feelings, he said on the “Drew Barrymore Show” in 2021 that his crush was obvious to the show’s crew, who would tease him about it.

    “But then, the whole world had a crush on Jennifer Aniston,” he said.

    Aside from Sprouse’s crush, another thing about him seemed to stun Aniston ― his current age. When informed that Sprouse, his twin brother, and fellow actor Dylan are now 30, she appeared at a loss for words.

    “What?” she exclaimed, throwing her hands in the air and pressing them against her forehead. “Oh, no, they’re not.”


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  • Jennifer Aniston says ‘Friends’ offensive to ‘a whole generation of kids’ – National | Globalnews.ca

    Jennifer Aniston says ‘Friends’ offensive to ‘a whole generation of kids’ – National | Globalnews.ca

    It’s The One With the Brutally Honest Actor: Friends star Jennifer Aniston is the latest celebrity to discuss the difficulties of working in comedy and making modern, apparently more sensitive audiences laugh.

    Aniston, who has been working in film and comedy for nearly three decades, told the French news agency AFP that it’s become “a little tricky” to produce comedies because you have to be “very careful.” She said this is especially troubling because “the beauty of comedy is that we make fun of ourselves, make fun of life.”

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    Aniston, 54, lamented the past when she said: “You could joke about a bigot and have a laugh — that was hysterical. And it was about educating people on how ridiculous people were.”

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    She used her role as Rachel Green in the 1990s sitcom Friends as an example of how audiences have evolved over the years.

    “There’s a whole generation of people, kids, who are now going back to episodes of Friends and find them offensive,” she said.

    Aniston blamed the offensiveness on a combination of “things that were never intentional” and elements of the program that just lacked thought.

    Friends, a comedy about six young people in New York, has long since been criticized for a lack of diversity. All of the show’s main characters are white. While actors of colour appeared sparsely in short cameo roles, the most prominent, non-white actor on the show, Aisha Tyler (who played Charlie Wheeler), appeared in only nine episodes.

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    Some of the jokes in friends have also been labelled transphobic or homophobic.

    Co-creator of the sitcom, Marta Kauffman, said last year she was “embarrassed” and felt “guilt” over the lack of diversity in Friends.

    “It’s painful looking at yourself in the mirror. I’m embarrassed that I didn’t know better 25 years ago,” Kauffman told the Los Angeles Times.

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    Friends ran from 1994 to 2004. It is one of the most profitable sitcoms ever created, bringing in reportedly US$1.4 billion since its initial debut.

    As a result of increased sensitivity, Aniston said less comedies are being made today than in decades prior. Not having comedies, she said, is a tragedy.

    “Everybody needs funny! The world needs humour!” she said. “We can’t take ourselves too seriously. Especially in the United States. Everyone is far too divided.”

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    Numerous popular comedians have already complained about producing comedy in the post-woke age. In particular, Dave Chappelle and Chris Rock have been especially outspoken about cancel culture and comedy.


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    Still, Aniston charges on. In her latest comedy, Murder Mystery 2, Aniston plays Audrey Spitz, a detective solving the case of a kidnapped billionaire alongside her partner Nick (played by Adam Sandler). Murder Mystery 2 is available to stream on Netflix on Friday.

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  • Jennifer Aniston Laments the Generation That Finds ‘Friends’ “Offensive”

    Jennifer Aniston Laments the Generation That Finds ‘Friends’ “Offensive”

    Friends remains one of the most rewatched—and highly quoted—sitcoms of all time. But some of its 10 seasons have aged poorly since the series ended in 2004, a fact star Jennifer Aniston pointed out in a recent interview.

    “There’s a whole generation of people, kids, who are now going back to episodes of Friends and find them offensive,” she told the Associated Foreign Press (via Yahoo). “There were things that were never intentional and others…well, we should have thought it through, but I don’t think there was a sensitivity like there is now.” 

    While promoting Murder Mystery 2, her upcoming Netflix sequel with Adam Sandler, Aniston spoke of the ways “comedy has evolved,” saying, “now it’s a little tricky because you have to be very careful, which makes it really hard for comedians, because the beauty of comedy is that we make fun of ourselves, make fun of life.”

    Despite the show’s beloved status in TV history, many of its story lines veered into territory that’s become less widely accepted with time—including a multitude of homophobic and fatphobic jokes.

    One of the show’s creators, Marta Kauffman, has acknowledged that her series was a product of its time. Last year, she told the Los Angeles Times she regretted the near-erasure of Black characters on Friends, and said that she’d given her alma mater, Brandeis University, $4 million to endow a professorship in its African and African American Studies department. Kauffman then appeared on the BBC World Service show The Conversation and apologized for misgendering the character of Chandler’s trans parent, Helena. Kathleen Turner, who played the role, said in 2019 she wouldn’t have taken the part today because there are other “real people able to do [the part].”

    Although Aniston wasn’t asked about any specific episodes, she did defend her show by asserting that bigots were often the punch line. “You could joke about a bigot and have a laugh. That was hysterical. And it was about educating people on how ridiculous people were, and now we’re not allowed to do that,” Aniston said. “Everybody needs funny! The world needs humor! We can’t take ourselves too seriously. Especially in the United States. Everyone is far too divided.”

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  • How It Affects Their Emotions and Social Life

    How It Affects Their Emotions and Social Life

    Puberty can be a tough time for any kid. But it might be harder on those with central precocious puberty (CPP). That’s when kids show signs of sexual maturity early. In general, CPP is when puberty starts before age 8 in girls and before age 9 in boys.

    Kids with CPP – which is more common in girls than boys – may start to develop years earlier than their friends. These physical and emotional changes can set them apart from their peers. If you or a child you care for has CPP, here are some ways the condition can affect their social life.

    Bullying

    Janet Lydecker, PhD, director of the Yale Teen POWER clinic and an assistant professor at Yale School of Medicine, says it’s never easy when children are out of sync with their peers.

    “Kids, unfortunately, can be mean,” she says. “And when someone stands out in any way, they tend to be a target for being bullied or teased.”

    Lydecker, a licensed psychologist, focuses on the treatment of adolescents with eating disorders and obesity, including those who deal with bullying. She says kids who develop early may go through all of the above. Older peers may sexualize kids who seem older than they are, particularly girls. That can raise the chances that they’ll face sexual abuse.

    Kids don’t always admit it if they’re being bullied. Here are some warning signs to watch for:

    Withdrawal. Your child may want to avoid certain places or spend more time alone.

    Anxiety about school. They may start to really dread going to school. If that happens, you can ask for support from a teacher or a nurse. “Anyone who can be an ally for the child,” Lydecker says. 

    Disordered eating. Kids may lose control while they eat if they’re dealing with a bully. They may binge on lots of food to “escape feelings of being different,” Lydecker says. “We also see purging behaviors as a desperate attempt to change the body to avoid being victimized.”

    Changing friendships. This isn’t always a sign something is wrong, but Lydecker says a sudden shift in relationships can be a red flag. 

    On the flip side, kids who go through puberty early might be bigger or stronger than their peers. They may become bullies themselves, Lydecker says, especially if they feel defensive.

    When Kids Can’t Be Kids

    A girl or boy who develops young may look older than their actual age. Jami Josefson, MD, an endocrinologist at Ann & Robert H. Lurie Children’s Hospital in Chicago, says people may end up treating kids with CPP differently. For example, a family member might know your child is only 7. But if a kid looks 11, the adult might get on to them for not acting like “a big girl,” Josefson says.

    That can happen at school, too.

    “Teachers can unknowingly have higher expectations, even though the child is only [acting] the age that they should be,” Josefson says.

    You don’t need to get into the details of CPP. But Lydecker thinks you should still speak up for your child.

    “I really do advocate with parents that they say, ‘Well, she’s only 7.’ ”

    Snags With Sports

    If your child has their period, they’ll have to handle hygiene issues. Whether it’s swimming at camp or gymnastics practice, it could affect whether they take part in certain activities. Josefson says that can make them feel different than other kids.

    Alla Vash-Margita, MD, chief of pediatric and adolescent gynecology at Yale Medicine, says kids with CPP can use medication to suppress early puberty or periods. But there are other ways to help your child stay active with their friends, even if they have a monthly cycle.

    One choice is to teach your child how to use menstrual products like tampons. Or maybe your child just sits out practice every now and then.

    Whatever your family decides, Vash-Margita says it can be helpful to reach out to a school nurse or teacher to make sure that your child has support. 

    Check In With Your Child

    This may sound like a no-brainer, but it’s important to keep tabs on your child’s life. Lydecker suggests you do that every day. Maybe you have a chat when you get home from work or over a family dinner. She says you can also just come right out and say that you want to know if anyone or anything is making your child unhappy. Then offer to help them solve whatever problem comes up.

    But make sure they know you won’t do anything before talking to them first.

    Here are some other tips:

    Know what your child is doing online. One way to do this, Lydecker suggests, is to have your child use a computer that’s in a shared family room. And she says it’s a good idea to monitor what they do or say on social media and through text messages.

    Get outside help. It’s OK if you need extra support. “Just about any child psychologist works with parents just as much as they work with kids,” Lydecker says. These are experts who know how challenging it can be to deal with a child who’s not on the same emotional or developmental timeline as their peers.

    Team Effort

    Kids with CPP often have lots of people looking out for them. That may include:

    • Parents
    • Teachers
    • Pediatricians
    • Gynecologists
    • Therapists

    Let your child know they can reach out to you or another adult if they have any kind of issue.

    “Open conversation is always key,” Vash-Margita says.

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  • Advanced Breast Cancer: What People Are Thinking

    Advanced Breast Cancer: What People Are Thinking

    The day-to-day realities of navigating advanced breast cancer are challenging enough. No need to add wondering what’s going through others’ heads. But understanding your loved ones’ thought process and where they’re coming from may make it easier to talk about your condition — and get the support you need. Here, we break down some of the most common questions, reactions, and thoughts. 

    You look too good to have metastatic cancer.

    When Natalie Hyman, 46, first began breast cancer treatment, it was obvious from her hair loss that she was going through chemotherapy. But when it returned more than a decade later as metastatic cancer, people were surprised to learn that she was ill. “People were puzzled because my treatment didn’t have any obvious visible signs: I wasn’t bald, I wasn’t throwing up, and I didn’t lose a lot of weight,” says Hyman, who lives in Kailua, HI. “But that doesn’t mean the drugs I was taking weren’t affecting my insides and making me feel lousy. You can look perfectly fine and still be battling metastatic cancer.”

    How could this have happened?

    In this era of early detection, it may be hard to believe that some women can be diagnosed with such late-stage breast cancer for which there’s no known cure. “There’s this unspoken belief by others that you weren’t vigilant enough, that you didn’t do something right,” says Sally Wolf, a New York City corporate wellness consultant who was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer in 2017. “But since my mother had breast cancer when I was in high school, I’d been undergoing screening since I was 32. It still happened.”

    When will you be OK again?

    Your family and friends want you to get better because they love and care about you. But there’s no cure for metastatic breast cancer. “Metastatic breast cancer is a diagnosis that lasts a lifetime,” explains Wolf. “The best news that we can hope for is a scan that shows no evidence of disease.”

    Wolf notices this anytime she goes through a treatment for her cancer. “Initially, there’s an outpouring of support where people offer to accompany me for chemotherapy or stop by my apartment,” she says. “But after about 3 months, that stops.  Meanwhile, I’m still going to my treatments.”

    Part of the problem is what Raleigh, NC, resident Pam Kohl, 71, who was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer in 2017, dubs as “toxic positivity.” “People don’t want to hear anything negative, and if they do, they dub you a Debbie downer,” says Kohl, who is executive director of Susan G. Komen, North Carolina Triangle to the Coast. “The reality of metastatic breast cancer is that at some point, you stop treatment and just focus on the quality of life you have left. Sometimes, folks don’t want to hear that.”

     

    Why do you seem so upset?

    Your friends may notice that you don’t seem like yourself but they aren’t sure what to do. “My temper is shorter at moments,” acknowledges Wolf. “I liken it to death by a thousand paper cuts. Someone does something stupid in the coffee line, and you’re like ‘Oh my God, really?!’” Wolf had a situation recently where she noticed a Starbucks staffer touching pastries with the same gloves she used to touch the register. “Most people wouldn’t think it’s a big deal. But as an immunocompromised person, I do, and it makes me really angry,” she says. 

    In addition, the day-to-day of metastatic cancer management becomes like a part time job. “I can tell people don’t understand why I’m so overwhelmed sometimes and can’t get through my to-do list,” says Wolf. “It’s because of the time and energy I spend dealing with mindboggling things.” Case in point: Recently, Wolf had a crucial appointment moved by an inexperienced administrative coordinator who didn’t bother checking with her oncologist first. “I managed to fix it, but it suddenly became a 45-minute urgent situation, and it was stressful,” says Wolf. “I spend hours trying to fix things like medical billing errors: things that aren’t my fault but directly affect me. It distracts me from all the other things I am supposed to do.”

    Do you want to talk about it?

    Not always. “Every time I go to a fundraiser or an event, people come up to me that I don’t know well and ask how I am. But I don’t always want to tell them. I live with stage IV metastatic breast cancer, and I do not always feel great,” says Kohl. “I’m not willing to be inauthentic. But people don’t want to hear the realities a lot of the time, especially when they are somewhere that encourages light chitchat.” 

    There’s a time and a place to talk about everything, including metastatic breast cancer, says Kohl. But sometimes, it’s better to speak about it somewhere other than at a schmoozy lunch. 

    I have no idea what you are going through.

    When someone is diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer, it’s life-altering. Even those close to you may have no clue what to say. “It’s hard to have a frame of reference if you have never experienced it,” says Jean Sachs, chief executive officer of Living Beyond Breast Cancer. 

    It’s up to you whether you want to bring your cancer up. You may find it exhausting to tell people about your illness repeatedly. But if it’s someone you’re very close to, realize that they may not always know what to say or may say the wrong thing. Just remember that they do care and want to be there for you in any way that they can.

    It’s OK to let them know you’ll reach out to them when you want to talk about it. It’s also OK to be clear that you don’t need to hear false optimism or how important it is to stay positive. “When they do that, they discount our very real fears, concerns, and feelings,” says Kohl. 

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