Category: Dating & Love

Sometimes I think I’ve heard every imaginable dating question with my dating consulting service. Then I hear a new one! Helping singles navigate online dating for over 25+ years, every now and then and I pause before responding.

These are questions from both my existing clients and singles who call me who are struggling with online dating:

1. Michael, a 44-year-old architect asked me this: I’ve been on 3 dates with one woman but there’s no spark, no attraction on my part. Should I keep trying and see if I suddenly feel physical chemistry?
As he asked me this, and knowing him fairly well, I read between the lines and knew she felt the spark, but he did not. My general rule of thumb is that if you don’t feel attraction by date #3, it probably won’t happen. Yes, it does sometimes happen on date #1, but I have just as often seen it occur on dates 2 and 3. After that, no. And Michael wasn’t looking for more friends. The kindest action is to move on!

2. Do all women online want marriage? John was widowed after a happy 31-year marriage and has told me he will never marry again.
No, John! Many people, both men and women, in their 50’s and 60’s, don’t want to marry again. I hear that over and over again. They want a long-term relationship or perhaps living together. Then again, I always laugh when someone who told me a year ago, they are “never” going to marry again, calls and tells me they are engaged. So, never say never!

3. She messages me and we have great chats. Should I ask her out?
Oh my gosh, YES! Time’s a-wasting here. The whole point of online dating it to meet in real life—and chatting is getting you nowhere!

4. Why am I getting low quality men online responding to me?
Ok, I can think of 3-4 good reasons. You are on the wrong dating site/app, your photos are poor quality and boring, you need help with your dating profile as it’s vanilla or your messages (or lack of them) don’t stand out. Hi, how are you? That shows zero effort and is even worse than sending a heart/like/wink.

5. Why have I had no dates online? (a common question)
See my answer to #4 as that sums it up. Or maybe you are negative in your profile—you wouldn’t believe the things I’ve read online as I help clients with online dating. Examples: Making an offensive political statement, talking about a bad marriage, or how bad the dating site is that you are on. Positive people attract……positive people!

6. Laura, 49, had a fantastic first date with John, 51, three weeks ago. Now he is just messaging her and claims to be super busy at work. Her question: How long should I wait for the second date? I really like him!
Laura you have two options here: Cut bait as actions speak louder than messages. Or, specifically ask him to a concert or an event with a specific date. Example: Hi Mike, I have tickets for the Red Sox Friday against the Yankees. Would you like to be my guest?” You’ll know from his reply (or lack of) if there is any interest on his part in a second date.

7. Can you please call me? I have exciting news to share with you.
OMG, I called her right back—this is tantalizing for me too as I’m dying to know what happened on her 4th date with Thomas. And yes, it was exciting news. She was so happy and she made my day!

8. I met a woman online and she has 3 children living at home under the age of 15. I’m single, never married, not interested in having children. We went on two dates, enjoyed each other. She wants to introduce me to her children—I feel it’s too soon. What are your thoughts?

Ahhha, this is actually several questions.

1. You need to ask yourself: If this turns into a committed relationship, you will most likely be cast into a stepfather role. How do you feel about that?
2. Two dates and meeting the kids? Wow, that’s fast and can be especially confusing to the young children. Is this common for her to do? Introduce her dates after just two dates?
3. Does this make you nervous? Well, it makes me apprehensive about her motives. This is too much, too soon.
4. Should you keep seeing her? Maybe. Maybe not. Does she know you don’t want children? Does that mean just your own? Communication is going to be the key factor here. The sooner you have a heart to heart, honest conversation with her the better.

9. He made it clear on the first date that he just wants to date. I want a long-term relationship, eventually I see myself married. We’ve been on 4 dates so far. What do you think?

He made it clear from the onset—while you may not like it, he was honest. There’s plenty of fish in the sea. Look for someone with the same goals and values.

10. How long after I meet someone are we exclusive?
Reading between the lines, that’s what you want right? I wrote an entire blog about this—Most of the time it happens quite naturally over time. Sometimes one party brings it up; perhaps like this “I’m thinking of taking my profile down as I’d like to just see you. How do you feel about this”? It could be date #10, #20, and I’ve seen it happen as quickly as date #4. Each relationship is different. If you want this — ask in a nice way expressing your feelings first. No one wants to be forced into this!

If you have a dating question, send it in! I don’t just help with online dating and writing online dating profiles, but many dilemmas that surface during the first few month as an online dating profile consultant and love coach.

Happy Dating,

Andrea McGinty
Dating Coach & Dating Consultant
702-494-7344 (Don’t forget to text me for a 15 minute dating consult)
Founder, 33000Dates.com
Founder, It’s Just Lunch (sold)

Some people feel that everyone needs to have a partner in order to be happy. Some people even pity those who are alone because they think they couldn’t be enjoying their lives or are missing out on something. Although it’s true that there are certainly some fantastic benefits to being in a great relationship, it’s also true that it isn’t and should never be the only thing to focus on in life. There are other things that are equally as important, or perhaps even more important.

It can be a hard situation to find yourself in, however. If you’ve been used to being in a relationship and now find yourself alone, or you haven’t been able to find love even though you’ve been looking, you might feel disheartened. Yet the reality is that once you realize you really don’t have to have a partner to be happy, your life will improve, and you might even find a relationship because you’re no longer trying quite so hard (or at all). Considering this, keep reading to discover why you can be happy without a romantic partner. 

You Can Know Yourself 

When you start to think about it, many people, no matter if they have a relationship or not, find that they just don’t really know who they are. This can cause them to be supremely unhappy, even if they don’t quite know why it is they feel that way; they just know something isn’t quite right. 

If you are invested in a relationship, it can be hard to really take the time you need to get to know yourself. This means it’s a challenge to discover what it is you really want or why you feel the way you do because you’ll always have other people to worry about and focus on. Even in the best relationships, where you have plenty of opportunities and space to do whatever it is you want, you’ll still be thinking of others, meaning you’re never fully focused on yourself. 

When you’re not in a relationship, you have all the time you need and the energy to put into discovering who you really are. You’ll be happier and more in tune with yourself. Plus, if you need to make changes in your life, you can do it without worrying about how that might affect a partner. Finally, when you are sure about yourself and know yourself well, any relationship you do enter into will be a much more stable and happy one. You might even decide that matchmaking services would be the perfect way to meet someone new because you will be able to have a clearer idea of just who you are and, therefore, exactly who and what you want in a relationship. 

Freedom And Independence

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When you are in a relationship, you’ll often have to compromise on things, and you’ll always be considering how your partner feels and what they want. Ideally, they’ll be doing the same for you. Despite the fact that this is a great way to make a relationship work, with both of you compromising, the truth is that this also means that neither of you ever get what you really want. Even if your partner gives you the freedom to choose something, you’ll always have their preferences in mind when you do so – it will never be entirely your choice, even if it feels like it is. 

As mentioned, that is not a problem for some, and they are happy to make compromises if they are in a relationship. However, if this isn’t what you want to do and you prefer to have complete independence and freedom in your life, you might be happier if you are not in a relationship. 

When you are single, you can make decisions based solely on your own thoughts and feelings and what you want to do – or don’t want to do. You can make your life exactly as you want it to be, and you can do whatever you want, whether that’s traveling to a dream destination, pursuing a certain career (or making a career change), or just making decisions on the spot that would normally be something you had to discuss with someone else. 

Stronger Connections

One problem that many people have about the idea of being single is that they equate this with being lonely. That will, of course, be exactly right for some people – those who really do want a relationship – but for those who specifically like the idea of being single, loneliness doesn’t have to come into it at all. 

The fact is that when you aren’t in a relationship, you have the ideal opportunity to make new friends and strengthen your existing connections. When you have a romantic partner, this isn’t always easy. In a toxic relationship, they won’t want you to make any new friends (and you might not be given the opportunity to anyway), and may not be able to be with your old ones very much either. Even in a good relationship, you’ll need to prioritize your partner most of the time. However, when you’re single, you can choose exactly what you do and who you are with. You can enjoy making some beautiful and deep emotional connections with the worry of a romantic entanglement as well. 

Having friends in life is crucial. It’s good for your emotional and mental health and means you can experience a lot more than you might otherwise. Whether you see friends in person or simply chat once in a while over a video call, having these connections is extremely important, and these lifetime friendships can be just as fulfilling as a romantic relationship (sometimes even more so). 

Spending Time Alone 

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When you’re in a relationship, finding time to be completely alone is hard. Although having friends and making connections is important, it’s also important to be able to spend time alone at times, and when you’re not in a relationship, this is much easier to do. 

Being alone allows you to focus on self-care, relaxation, mindfulness, and other important elements of a happy, healthy life. Ensure you find time to be by yourself and use that time to grow as a person, perhaps by learning more about something, gaining a new skill, or just unwinding without any interruptions. It’s amazing how beneficial this can be. 

They say jealousy is like mental cancer, always ruining people’s sense of security and joy. It’s one of the harmful negative emotions that can chew away the satisfaction of being in a strong relationship. That’s why it’s crucial to learn how to not be jealous in a relationship because extreme to mild jealousy is common between partners. However, it needs to be controlled and dealt with as soon as possible. 

To find out why some people harbor obsessive jealousy in relationships and how to develop healthy coping skills, we reached out to psychologist Aakhansha Varghese (M.Sc. Psychology), who specializes in different forms of relationship counseling – from dating to breakups, and premarital to abusive relationships.

She says, “It’s really important to have some sensitivity around feelings of jealousy. Usually, when a person imagines or visualizes jealousy, a red monster pops up. While this visualization is truly accurate, we become so engrossed in pointing fingers at the jealous person that we forget to figure out its roots and why it has stemmed inside them.”

Why Do I Get Jealous In My Relationship?

According to studies, you feel jealous when you think someone is better than you. Furthermore, humans are often consciously aware of being jealous or envious of someone. Most of the actual reasons behind this jealousy are buried in our unconscious mind and we disguise this emotion by rationalizing them. 

Being insecure and jealous in a relationship doesn’t mean it’s time to break it off and find someone else to date. It means there are underlying issues that are unresolved and need to be looked at closely. Romantic relationships are built on love, communication, trust, and respect. Sometimes, a person may feel threatened and insecure when they feel something is missing from the above ingredients. 

Other times, there could be some outside elements involved in arousing unhealthy jealousy. Aakhansha shares, “When we enter a new relationship, more often than not, we carry the baggage of past relationship experiences. We sometimes don’t heal properly and jump into a new life. It’s a poor attempt to numb the pain and hurt. Some of these insecurities and vulnerabilities get addressed in the new relationship in the form of jealousy and problematic behaviors.” 

Listed below are other common reasons that a person could feel jealous in their relationship:

• Low self-esteem 
• Perhaps one partner earns more or is considered more good-looking than the other
• Your past relationship experiences and traumas  
• One of the partners is emotionally immature and doesn’t know how to communicate their needs or concerns
• Unrealistic expectations
• One of them is a narcissist and purposefully makes their partner feel jealous

Research proves that grandiose narcissists induce jealousy as means to acquire power and control. On the other hand, vulnerable narcissists induce jealousy as a means to acquire power and control, exact revenge on the partner, test and strengthen the relationship, seek security, and compensate for low self-esteem.

15 Expert Tips On How To Not Be Jealous In A Relationship 

Feeling jealous is a natural human emotion but you need to find out how to tackle it when it begins to prevent you and your partner from having a fulfilling relationship. Here are a few expert tips on how to stop being jealous and to feel secure with your partner.

1. Understand the feeling of jealousy 

Aakhansha says, “Feelings are not facts. They aren’t the gospel truth. When you are feeling jealous in your relationship, sometimes it’s the perception you’ve created within rather than what’s happening on the outside. It’s not what your partner is doing. It’s the meaning you make out of your partner’s actions and behavior.” 

Here are some ways you can try to understand jealousy:

• Understand the meanings you are associating with your partner’s actions 
• Try to analyze if your feelings are facts and if they are not, then try to understand why you want them to be your reality
• For example, if your jealousy is telling you that your partner likes your friend’s physical appearance more than yours, then immediately address this feeling with follow-up questions like: “Is that how my partner actually feels?” “Has my partner ever made me feel bad about my looks?” “Is it my insecurity about my physical features acting up?” “Do I just miss getting emotional validation from my partner?”

2. Talk about it openly with your partner 

Being overly jealous in a relationship will prevent you from having any kind of personal growth. You will be stuck in a toxic cycle where you look at others and feel envious of their success and happiness. Talk to your partner about this and let them know that you are experiencing feelings of jealousy and don’t know how to deal with them. This will also increase emotional intimacy between the two of you.

You need to make sure you don’t make them feel guilty for your feelings, though. Nobody likes to constantly deal with an overly jealous partner. So, don’t point fingers and try to play the blame game because blame-shifting in a relationship can cause serious problems between partners. Instead, use “I” statements that depict your feelings. Discuss how you want to deal with the situation rather than overthinking on your own and creating a mess out of a solvable issue.

3. Don’t be in a rush to act on your negative emotions 

Aakhansha says, “When you are dealing with unhealthy jealousy, sometimes, you tend to act on your feelings. You end up fighting with your partner because you saw them smiling at your friend who is richer or smarter than you. You come back home and rain down hell on them. This is what it means to act on negative emotions in an unhealthy way. Don’t let these jealous thoughts consume you and get the better of you.”

Here are some tips on how you can decrease distressing feelings of envy, comparison, and jealousy:

• Take a deep breath
• Go for a walk, take some space, and give yourself time to feel the emotion
• Even if you want to talk to your partner about this, be gentle with them. Don’t start accusing them of infidelity 
• Try to journal your negative thoughts first
• Get rid of jealousy by meditating when you are angry and low 

Related Reading: 10 Must-Follow Healthy Relationship Boundaries

4. Accept that jealousy is a sign of insecurity

Research has shown that jealousy is a complex experience, and is related to many constructs like self-esteem, dependency, insecurity, loss of control, and involvement. A negative relationship was demonstrated to exist between self-esteem and jealousy. 

How to stop being jealous? By accepting that it’s a sign of insecurity. Here are some ways you can get rid of jealousy:

• Don’t avoid your feelings – that’s not how you decrease distressing feelings of insecurity
• Confront them gently without judgment
• Learn how to date yourself and take care of yourself on your own
• If you can do something for self-improvement, set realistic goals for yourself 
• Have a mindset that you are your own competition 
• Challenge your negative thoughts whenever they occur
• Give yourself positive affirmations 

5. Take responsibility for your triggers 

Aakhansha says, “Stop telling your partner that you are feeling jealous because of them. Sometimes, you are insecure and jealous in a relationship because of your own insecurities that have nothing to do with your loved one. Be responsible for how you feel and tell them that you will deal with these complex emotions without making anybody else bear the brunt of it.”

Don’t hurl accusations at your other half. Don’t fight with your friend because you think they could be having an affair with your spouse/partner. You can’t really prove anything if you don’t have any evidence. When there is no proof, it’s just paranoia and low self-esteem. So, before you jump the gun and ruin your relationship, take responsibility for your triggers.

6. See if there are any unmet needs in your relationship

If you are asking, “Why am I so jealous and insecure in my relationship?”, try to see if there are any unmet emotional needs or physical needs and desires. Here are some things you can ask yourself:

• Are my concerns being validated in this relationship? 
• Am I being heard by my partner? 
• Why do I no longer feel like I am good enough for my partner?
• Why do I constantly feel like others are better than me?

7. Tell your partner their statements are hurting you 

Aakhansha says, “If your partner has said that your friend looks better than you or has made you feel inferior to them because you earn less or aren’t as ‘good-looking’ as them, then let them know that these statements further trigger your insecurities and are damaging your self-esteem. Your partner needs to understand that such things can’t be uttered in a loving and healthy relationship.”

In such cases, it’s completely normal to feel envious of someone’s looks and appearance. This doesn’t mean that your other half has fallen in love with them. This doesn’t mean you’ll go snooping around your partner’s phone trying to check if they are secretly talking to your friend. Stop having internal battles with yourself. Talk to them. Tell them that this is causing you to develop negative and difficult emotions. 

8. Deal with your past traumas 

When there are so many unresolved issues hiding under the carpet, envy and insecurities are bound to creep up once the honeymoon phase fades. If you still feel insecure and think that your partner may cheat on you or doesn’t prioritize you (because that’s what your ex did), then you need to heal from your past.

Here are some things you can do to heal your past traumas:

• Try to have a closure conversation with your former partner if possible
• Don’t let the way they treated you become a weighing scale for how your new partner might/should treat you 
• Don’t hold your new partner accountable for your previous partner’s shortcomings 
• Grieve the past relationship if you still haven’t, talk about how it made you feel with loved ones or a therapist
• Give yourself time to heal and focus on personal growth 

Related Reading: 15 Signs You Are In A Serious Relationship

9. Deal with retroactive jealousy the right way 

Retroactive jealousy in a relationship is when you are jealous of your partner’s past. You perceive it as a threat to your ongoing relationship with them. If you’re a jealous partner who doesn’t know how to identify signs of retroactive jealousy, here they are:

• Constantly questioning your partner’s past
• Stalking their ex on social media
• Talking to their friends and finding out where they went on holidays
• Bringing their ex up frequently to see their reaction 

If you are showing such signs of obsessive jealousy in relationships, then you need to write down everything in your journal, see where your thoughts lead you, talk to your partner, and steer clear of social media for a while. You’ll need to stop comparing your relationship to something that doesn’t even exist today. 

10. Learn how to trust your partner 

Trust is one of the key factors that keeps romantic relationships healthy, safe, and reliable. According to research, when a relationship lacks trust, it allows detrimental cognitive patterns to develop such as negative attributions, suspicion, and jealousy.

When there are trust issues in your relationship, this could be the impact:

• Your partner’s privacy shall be compromised. You’ll suspect them of cheating on you and check their phone for proof or track their movements
• Constant suspicion will damage your partner’s mental health, and yours as well
• There are even chances of them breaking it off with you if you don’t learn how to trust them 

11. Raise your self-confidence 

Confidence is when you start trusting and appreciating your abilities, judgment, and qualities. What are you proud of? What makes you feel good about yourself?

When asked on Reddit how to stop being insecure and jealous in a relationship, a user replied, “Jealousy has a lot to do with your self-confidence. If you are feeling insecure within yourself, there is nothing your partner could do or say to alleviate it for you. You will need to work on your own self-esteem and do things that make you feel more confident.”  

12. Practice gratitude 

Research shows that gratitude has positive effects on many aspects of our life, such as subjective well-being, life satisfaction, social and personal relationships. It can also help us relieve negative emotions like envy and jealousy. 

Count your blessings. Take time out every day to journal all the things you are grateful for. Also, see how much you’ve grown with your current partner and all the positive traits you like about them. This will make you feel better about your relationship growth and how far you’ve both come along. 

13. Practice mindfulness 

Mindfulness is being aware of your sensations and feelings at the present moment. When you are being consumed by romantic jealousy, feel the moment completely before you act on the emotion. Let a few minutes pass before you speak about it. 

Here are some other ways you can practice mindfulness:

• Deep breathing
• Guided imagery
• Remind yourself about your values – it’s okay if your present feelings don’t reflect your values. This conflict is normal and temporary
• Meditation (yoga, Tai Chi)
• Accept yourself and the things you can’t change 

14. Take a break from the relationship

Aakhansha shares, “There is nothing wrong in taking a relationship break when you want to focus on your mental well-being. Jealousy leads to a lot of mental agony. This can become a roadblock for you and your partner to connect on a deeper level. If nothing works, come to a mutual understanding and take a break from the relationship.” 

You can establish ground rules while taking a break in a relationship. The rules can be anything ranging from not dating anyone else to communicating on a weekly basis for a mutual check-in and to remind the other that you are still in each other’s lives.

15. Seek professional help 

If you think jealousy is the sole villain, you couldn’t be more wrong. Jealousy comes with other negative feelings like anger, hostility, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness, and disgust. You sometimes even feel humiliated for being envious of your own sibling or friend. 

If you are still asking, “Why am I so jealous and insecure in my relationship?”, then it’s evident that you aren’t able to understand your own behavior and manage all these feelings in a healthy way. It’s best to reach out to a mental health expert. At Bonobology, we offer professional help through our panel of licensed advisors who can help you embark on a path toward recovery. 

Your day-to-day life can become an inconvenience when you are constantly drowned in jealousy. Use the tips in this article to help you heal as time goes by. Be patient, and remember that you can overcome jealousy together as a team. If they are the right person for you, they won’t mind going through all the ups and downs with you. A healthier relationship awaits you. 

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Self-driving cars, augmented reality windshields, driver assist systems, automatic braking systems, mobile app synchronization, the list of technologies developed for cars, is increasing every day. Convenience aside, the purpose of these technologies is to ensure the occupants of the car have a safe and relaxed traveling experience.

The overreliance on technology has given rise to a whole new list of problems. Malfunctioning cars are causing serious injuries and, in some situations, even death. When another driver causes an accident, a car accident lawyer can prove their negligence and get you compensation. But what happens in the case of defective parts?

This blog post discusses the 5 common ways defective parts can lead to car accidents. I’ve also shared a few pointers on what to do when you’re involved in one.

Defective Tires

Tires are an important part of a car. Hence, it is vital to keep tires in top shape. The durability of tires is blown out of proportion by tire manufacturers since they sit on shelves for so long. Due to this, when a user purchases a new tire, it’s already a bit old.

The older the tire, the greater the chances of blowouts at high speeds. On top of that, overfilling and underfilling a tire can also lead to accidents. Misaligned or unbalanced tires may cause accidents as well.

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When a car runs on defective or old tires, it can usually lead to drivers losing control of the vehicle, rollovers, and cars running off the road.

Malfunctioning Brakes

Car owners should never ignore brakes. Brake maintenance should be taken seriously since all movable and immovable parts of a brake have a limited lifetime. Also, damage to one component of a brake can spread to other parts of the brake as well. 

Brake failure can have devastating consequences. Worn-out brakes may take more time to slow down or stop the vehicle. In some instances, a damaged brake, when used, may also drag the car to one side.

Accidents caused by malfunctioning brakes can range from minor rear-end collisions to major accidents involving pedestrians and other motorists.

Airbag Defects

An airbag is a revolutionary piece of safety equipment that all cars today come with. It protects the occupants in the event of an accident.

A safety device like an airbag cannot cause accidents, right? You’re wrong.

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A botched airbag deployment leads to serious injuries during an accident. Also, some airbags deploy by themselves, blocking the driver’s view and causing accidents. There are also instances where airbags deploy too fast or with a higher force. In such instances, injuries can range from minor scratches to broken bones to death.

Also Read: 6 Things Teen Driver Must Know to Avoid Accidents

Faulty Headlights/Taillights

Visibility is everything for a driver. Proper maintenance of headlights and taillights is vital, even if you’re not someone who frequently drives at night or in conditions with poor visibility.

Headlights/taillights not only improve visibility but also alert other motorists about your vehicle. Faulty taillights greatly diminish the visibility of your car, leading to accidents like rear-end collisions or side collisions.

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Broken headlights hinder visibility, increasing the chances of your vehicle running off the road and bumping into other vehicles, signs, dividers, and pedestrians.

Blinkers (turn signals) are an often overlooked part of a car. They can be useful for drivers when changing lanes or slowing down for turns. Faulty/malfunctioning blinkers increase the chances of an accident, especially at intersections.

Steering and Suspension Problems

Steering and suspension problems are often mentioned together since they are mechanical problems, and they’re difficult to identify after a crash. Faulty steering and suspension often lead to loss of control of the vehicle, that too, at times when you’d least expect it.

A faulty steering system may lock the direction your vehicle is heading, resulting in accidents with other vehicles or elements on the road.

As for suspension, the vehicle may not accelerate when needed, like when your car slows down at an intersection with oncoming traffic.

Also Read: Don’t Make Accidents After An Accident: 4 Things to Keep in Mind Right After a Car Accident and More

What to do After an Accident

Accidents caused by defective parts can be quite complex. The liable parties may include the manufacturer of the vehicle and the part, the seller of the vehicle and the part, and the mechanic who serviced the car.

Also, the victim can use any of the liability theories to support their claim. Common liability theories include strict liability, breach of express warranty, and breach of implied warranty.

After an accident, your best bet would be to consult an experienced car accident attorney. Not only will they fight to get just compensation for your case, but they will also represent you in court, if necessary, and deal with predatory insurance adjusters.

Dealing with dandruff can be an annoying and confidence-dampening experience. Fortunately, ketoconazole lotion has emerged as a powerful weapon against dandruff, offering a glimmer of hope for those seeking relief.

This medicated lotion, enriched with the potent antifungal agent ketoconazole, has garnered significant attention for its effectiveness in combating dandruff and promoting a healthier scalp.

This comprehensive article will explore the uses, potential side effects, reviews, and composition of ketoconazole lotion, equipping you with valuable insights to make an informed decision in your battle against dandruff.

Uses of Ketoconazole Lotion for Hair and Scalp

Ketoconazole lotion offers a range of uses and benefits for promoting a healthy scalp and managing dandruff. Let’s explore some of its key uses:

Treating Dandruff

One of the primary uses of ketoconazole lotion is to treat dandruff. Dandruff is a common scalp condition characterized by the shedding of dead skin cells, resulting in white or yellow flakes. Ketoconazole lotion targets the root cause of dandruff, which is often associated with an overgrowth of a yeast-like fungus called Malassezia. By inhibiting the growth of this fungus, ketoconazole effectively reduces the flaking, itching, and inflammation associated with dandruff, providing relief and improving scalp health.

Managing Seborrheic Dermatitis

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Seborrheic dermatitis is a chronic inflammatory condition that primarily affects the scalp but can also extend to other areas of the body, such as the face, chest, and back. It is characterized by red, scaly patches and can cause itching and discomfort. Ketoconazole lotion can be an effective treatment option for seborrheic dermatitis, as it helps reduce inflammation, control fungal overgrowth, and alleviate symptoms associated with the condition.

Also Read: 7 Best Winter Moisturizers To Treat Sensitive Dry Skin

Addressing Fungal Infections

Ketoconazole lotion’s antifungal properties make it useful for addressing various fungal infections that affect the hair and scalp. It can be effective in treating conditions such as ringworm (tinea capitis), a fungal infection that leads to circular patches of hair loss, itching, and scaling on the scalp. Additionally, ketoconazole lotion can be beneficial for addressing fungal infections caused by yeast or other fungi, providing relief from associated symptoms and promoting healing.

Supporting Hair Growth

In some cases, dandruff and scalp conditions can hinder hair growth and contribute to hair loss. By effectively treating the underlying causes of these conditions, ketoconazole lotion can help create a healthier environment for hair follicles. This, in turn, may support hair growth and prevent further hair loss associated with dandruff or scalp inflammation.

Also Read: The 10 Best Body Moisturizers With Sunscreen That’ll Shield Your Skin And Keep It Hydrated

Maintaining Scalp Health

Even if you don’t have a specific scalp condition, ketoconazole lotion can still be beneficial for maintaining scalp health. It helps regulate sebum production, which is the natural oil produced by the scalp. By keeping sebum production balanced, ketoconazole lotion can prevent excessive oiliness or dryness of the scalp, promoting an optimal environment for healthy hair growth.

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It’s important to note that while ketoconazole lotion offers significant benefits for the hair and scalp, it is essential to use it as directed and follow the recommended treatment duration. If you have any specific scalp concerns or persistent symptoms, it is always recommended to consult with a healthcare professional for a proper diagnosis and personalized treatment plan.

Side Effects of Ketoconazole Lotion for Hair and Scalp

While ketoconazole lotion is generally considered safe and well-tolerated, there are potential side effects that users should be aware of. Some individuals may experience mild skin irritation, redness, or a burning sensation at the application site. These side effects are usually temporary and subside with continued use. However, in rare cases, more severe allergic reactions may occur, requiring immediate medical attention. It is crucial to follow the recommended usage instructions and consult a healthcare professional if any concerning side effects arise.

Composition of Lotion for Hair and Scalp

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Jess and Imani are back with a rapid reaction analysis of Brackeen v. Haaland, a case that threatened the Indian Child Welfare Act, which ensures that Indigenous children stay in their families and tribes. Just when we thought the Supreme Court couldn’t surprise us anymore, a majority of justices voted to protect tribal sovereignty, with Justices Samuel Alito and Clarence Thomas dissenting.

Jess and Imani dig into why the Brackeens lost, Justice Amy Coney Barrett’s majority opinion, and how the issue could get raised again in the future.

Transcript (coming soon!)

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Caring Therapists is excited to be expanding back in Pembroke Pines.  In 2015, in its founding year, Caring Therapists began in Pembroke Pines.  Everyone knew we were on the corner of Sheridan and Douglas.  It was a two-office suite and it was perfect for a fledging practice.  We grew out of that office in 2019 and moved over to Davie.  It felt like a huge risk to change our address from Pembroke Pines to Davie but luckily it worked out well and we have seen continued growth in our Davie location.  Our Davie therapists are busy and full.  

We decided we needed to expand because our office in Davie was full and we wanted to be able to work with clients who live out west.  We looked and looked for office space and found a beautiful location just east of I-75 off of Sheridan street.  We are opening a five office suite and are hiring 5 mental health therapists and a Psychiatrist ARNP to provide medication management.  

Amanda Landry, owner and CEO, has a special place in her heart for Pembroke Pines.  Amanda grew up in Pembroke Pines after moving from Miami in the 90’s.  Amanda went on to attend Pines Middle School and McArthur High School.  She was active in her community and coached cheerleading at Pembroke Pines Optimist.  She continued to live and work in Pembroke Pines for many years.  She started in private practice in 2013 in Pembroke Pines.  

We are excited to provide high-quality and accessible mental healthcare in this area.  We will be offering treatment for anxiety, depression, PTSD, OCD, couples & marriage counseling, play therapy, teen therapy, ADHD, and EMDR & trauma counseling.  We will be using the following evidenced based treatments: EMDR, DBT, Play therapy, Gottman Method Couples Therapy, TF-CBT, and CBT.  We will be offering psychological testing and evaluations, including court-ordered forensic evaluations, psychosexual evaluations, immigration evaluations, sentence mitigation, substance abuse evaluations, risk assessments, full psychological evaluations, educational evaluations, testing for IQ/Gifted, Learning Disability testing, Autism testing, and ADHD testing.  

This is a huge expansion and growth for Caring Therapists and we are ecstatic to be providing mental health services to the Pembroke Pines areas.

We open July 1st and we have openings available.  We accept the following insurances: Aetna, Humana, Cigna, Optum, United, UMR, Oscar, Avmed, Magellan, Lyra, BCBS, and Modern Health.  We offer competitive private pay rates.  

The schedule an appointment, call our office at 954-378-5381.  

If your primary love partner is your overall best friend and provides you many layers of support in multiple life areas, is it OK that they don’t discuss with you the nuances of a short story you emailed them over three months ago and which took you eight years to write?

“No relationship is perfect,” an opinionated person in your life says. “To live with anyone, you have to tolerate certain things. Forty years into my marriage, I’m comfortable saying love is about how much you can stomach!”

Maybe you are being too picky, too sensitive. It is totally possible to view your partner’s failure to engage with your personal creative grail as just another undesirable trait—unavoidable, as in all humans—like leaving the dishes dirty and the toilet seat up.

The voice that chides you next flies in the face of the other opinion. Maybe it’s somebody’s mother, or another matriarch. Maybe it’s just someone extra-assertive:

“If it’s really that important to you that your partner read your short story, climb into bed and read it to them! Better yet, make them read it to you! Better yet, handcuffs!”

Sure, you could do that. But is forcing an activity upon someone the same as them coming to it on their own? Is being pushy really the goal here? Does guilt-tripping someone into admiring your art render false any of their subsequent admiration? Isn’t the natural thing for your partner to want to read something you made because you made it?

When it comes to perceptions of slights and inequalities within love relationships, I have heard more than one person say: “Just flip it around. How would they feel about a hot person inviting you alone to their Italian villa, without them?” And, for this instance: “If your partner had emailed you something they’d written, how long would it linger in your inbox?”

In this case, my partner hadn’t emailed me anything. Their artistic medium was piano. Music, sweet music—immediate, soothing, instant, shareable, here. Music, inkless, is lighter than fiction. Music is air.

Music is fun. We experienced it together. I could dance to what my partner had made and feel it was somehow mine, in that comforting, affirming quality music has that can make you feel like it’s yours by mere participation.

But writing is different. Writing is ink. Writing is solitary eyes on a page—a reader’s voice inventing a narrator. Reading my writing could send my partner back to places in their own memory, brush them against particular aspects of their own life, and maybe even help them see certain things in new ways. It wouldn’t be the same as music, just different. Still good.

This all happened in New York, In the Spring, I moonlighted as a high school teacher in the Bronx, filling in for absent teachers. My favorite class to fill in for was Playwriting. There were never any lesson plans, so one day at the end of May, I took it upon myself to outline the plot of my novel for my students, so they would have something to pick apart and study as a group.

“No, no, no,” Calista and Alanis, best friends, said after I’d gotten to the part where a burgeoning female pianist working in administration at a renowned music school is given the “gift” of performance by a male student:

“You can’t have him giving her the gift. No, no, no, people won’t go for that. You gotta make it the other way around.”

On the train ride home, I thought about what Calista and Alanis had said. Even if it hadn’t come from my partner, it had come from someone—and not just one someone, but two. Though the source was not exactly what I had hoped for, I had still gotten feedback. My work had been respected, taken seriously, and enhanced in the way that I had hoped it would be. Who cared how or why this had happened: the point was that it had.

Besides, my partner did a bang-up job reading my cover letters.

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It’s Supreme Court decision time!

The Court served up some surprising good news for voting rights last week in Allen v. Milligan by keeping Section 2 of the Voting Rights Act in place. My colleague Imani Gandy and I talked about the case, which involves one of the most wildly gerrymandered electoral maps ever, on the podcast when it was then called Merrill v. Milligan.

In a state where over 25 percent of residents are Black, Alabama conservatives tried to create an electoral map with only one majority Black district. The map was so discriminatory that even Chief Justice John Roberts, who has spent his entire career trying to undermine the Voting Rights Act, could not endorse it. The ruling is a rare bright spot from this Court, and one we shouldn’t take for granted.

The decision is also good news for abortion rights. One of the crucial lessons to emerge from the Court overturning Roe v. Wade is that abortion is a winning ballot issue. In elections since Dobbs v. Jackson Women’s Health Organization, voters have overwhelmingly gone to the polls in support of abortion rights and access. So any decision that doesn’t further erode voting rights is a good decision for bodily autonomy.

Whether we like it or not, building back abortion rights and access across the country is going to depend in part on electoral politics. Those electoral wins help build the civic infrastructure required to rebuild access to care. It is a grind, and a necessary one. But the more people who can vote on abortion in their states, the better.

The Milligan decision also gives progressives and Democrats a chance to try and elect more folks to Congress who can strengthen the Voting Rights Act, a point Elie Mystal made in the Nation.

It’s rare to get a second chance from the Roberts Court, but that’s how progressives and Democrats could view this decision—a second chance to return the Voting Rights Act to its past prominence and reform the federal courts so that we as a country don’t find ourselves held captive by a handful of rogue conservative judges.

The first to apologize is always either the bravest or the more sensitive. Saying sorry along with expressing remorse and amends acts like a super glue that can repair just about anything. So, if you did something wrong to hurt the queen of your heart and are wondering how to apologize to your girlfriend, don’t worry. We got you covered. 

Your lady love is disappointed in you and you are feeling guilty for the pain you’ve caused. Apologizing to her will let her know that you are aware of your actions and words, and their impact. When you say sorry to your girlfriend after hurting her, it shows your willingness and desire to put your relationship before your ego. A sincere apology will work in winning back your girl. 

What Are The 6 Elements Of An Apology?

When you say sorry to your girlfriend in a romantic way, it’s a powerful way to restore trust. Accepting that you are wrong is an honest and brave move. It’s one of the ways to let her know you want to reconcile and let bygones be bygones. However, not all apologies are as simple as “I am sorry.” Let’s understand them better by delving into the six elements of an apology. Based on the research done by the University of Ohio, these elements are:

1. Expression of regret 

You’ve hurt your girlfriend’s feelings and you feel her pain. You are remorseful. You need to express this by saying something like “I regret hurting you” or “I wish I hadn’t said that.”

2. Explanation of what went wrong

If what you did was unacceptable behavior, then you need to give an explanation. Stop acting distant or strange, and tell her the reason behind your actions. 

3. Acknowledgment of responsibility 

Acknowledge your mistake and consciously choose to take responsibility for causing discomfort and pain in her life. Use statements where you accept your mistakes without conditions. 

4. Declaration of repentance 

Declaration of repentance is you openly admitting what you did was wrong. Tell her you feel terrible for how you treated her. Make her believe that you will not do it again. 

Related Reading: 10 Examples Of Unconditional Love

5. Offer of repair 

Ask her if you can do anything to pacify her pain. Even if there is nothing you can do to undo the harm, it’s good to offer solutions for her well-being, and practical amends, and ask her what she would be okay with. This will let her know that you genuinely wish this had never happened.

6. Request for forgiveness 

Don’t force her, threaten her, or bribe her to forgive you. Just request her. A good apology sounds like, “Will you please forgive me this time?” or “I promise to never repeat the same mistakes. Please forgive me.” 

25 Ways To Apologize To Your Girlfriend

Offering her an apology is the first step toward mending your broken relationship. You can defuse tense situations by figuring out how to say sorry to a girl in a way that a) fixes things with her, b) allows you to move forward with a clearer conscience. But how to apologize to your girlfriend effectively? We present to you creative ways to say sorry in the list below: 

1. Write her a handwritten apology 

A sincere handwritten apology never gets old. Jot down your thoughts and express your feelings. Talk about how her hurt feelings are causing you sleepless nights and that you feel devastated. It’s making you anxious and you don’t want this to cause permanent damage to your otherwise healthy relationship. 

Here is an example text you can use to say sorry to your girlfriend in a romantic way: “Hey, love. I am sorry for hurting you. I know I messed up and I promise to do better in the future. Please accept my heartfelt apology.”

2. Try to understand her 

They say to be understood is the greatest form of intimacy. She’s upset, so listen to her woes and try to understand things from her perspective. Make her feel heard and don’t invalidate your girlfriend’s feelings even if you disagree initially. She is an important person in your life. It’s your job to make her feel so by being an understanding partner.  

3. Get her a nice bouquet 

What’s your girl’s weakness? A nice bouquet of sunflowers? Daisies? Chrysanthemum? Lilies? Of course, you can’t just give her a bouquet of fresh flowers and expect her to forgive you. Along with some sweet-smelling peonies, get her an “I am sorry” greeting card.

Sign it with a sincere apology message saying, “I know we have been through a lot lately, but I just wanted to show you how much I love and adore you with these flowers. I know I am the worst person for doing what I did, but you are a wonderful person and you deserve to feel special.” 

4. Say sorry to your girlfriend without any ifs and buts

Not everyone comprehends this but when you use the words “if” and “but” when trying to say sorry to your girlfriend after hurting her, it is not a sincere apology. It is self-protection disguised as an apology. “I am sorry, but you were the one who said those things first.” – These words imply justification. They don’t carry any guilt, regret, or remorse for breaking your girlfriend’s heart.

5. Use sticky notes

How to apologize to your girlfriend? Use sticky notes. And if one apology note doesn’t suffice, use many. Write things like:

• I am sorry
• Please forgive me
• I love you
• You’re the love of my life
• My days are incomplete without talking to you 
• You have the cutest smile. Can you show it to me once? 
• Dinner tonight, babe? I’m cooking 
• Want to have a Harry Potter marathon this weekend? 

Drop these sticky notes wherever you can. In her lunch bag, paste it on the bathroom mirror, keep it inside her laptop bag, and you can also paste one in the refrigerator. 

Related Reading: Is Unconditional Love In A Relationship Really Possible? 12 Signs You Have It

6. Bake her favorite dessert 

How to say sorry to a girl you love so much? Bake her favorite chocolate cake or blueberry pie to make her feel special. The two of you can bake together and spend time together. This will show her that you genuinely regret hurting her. 

7. Sing for her 

This is one of the creative ways to say sorry to your girlfriend. And you don’t have to be John Legend to sing for her. You can do it in your own style and tune and make her giggle. Love is all about doing little things for each other and making the most out of them.

8. Message her a sincere apology

How to sincerely apologize to someone you love if you are in a long-distance relationship or if your girlfriend is refusing to meet you for dinner tonight? Send her an apology for your offending behavior. You can create some sorry messages and apologize to your girlfriend through text. Send something along the lines of “Babe. I am heartbroken. I shouldn’t have behaved like that in front of your friends. I am feeling guilty and I don’t know how to make it right. Can you please tell me what you need from me? I’ll do anything.”

9. Take her out for dinner 

How to apologize to your girlfriend when you mess up? Good food is the answer. If she is mad at you and you are desperate for her forgiveness, take her out to a romantic dinner date and talk things over calmly. Do some self-reflection. Offer her a genuine apology and make her feel appreciated and valued. Then, order two glasses of champagne and celebrate your love. 

Related Reading: How To Make Up For Forgetting Your Anniversary – 8 Ways To Do It

10. Do your chores! 

If the two of you live together and she is suddenly acting strange or is always in a bad mood, then it could be because you aren’t contributing enough toward household chores and this is causing friction between the two of you. When you put the entire burden of looking after the house on one person, the relationship is bound to face problems down the lane. Get up and do the laundry. Do the dishes. Make her life easier. 

11. Get her a pet to apologize for your behavior 

Win back your girlfriend’s heart back by getting her a furry friend. A kitten, pup, or even a hamster. Attach a handwritten letter on the animal’s collar conveying how work has been hectic and you know that you’ve neglected her. Assure her you won’t make the same mistake again. 

12. Take her out on a long drive

Imagine this – the night’s silence, empty road, moon chasing your car, a mellow song playing in the background, and the two of you enjoying the car ride. How romantic! Tell her you are sorry for hurting her feelings yesterday. Fix things by communicating in a civil manner. And when she forgives you, end the night with a passionate kiss. 

13. Write a poem to express your love

There is nothing more romantic than writing a poem for your beloved to express how much you love her and how sorry you are for causing her pain. Write a verse or two in her honor. Praise her beauty, her sense of style, and her personality. Tell her she is beautiful inside and out. 

Below is a small poem that you can use. When your girlfriend sees this note, read out loud for her:

“My heart flutters every time I see you

God! I am so lucky to have met you

You’re the star I wish upon, you’re my anchor

Everybody keeps telling me, “There’s nobody like her”

You give me peace and make me tougher

You’re my best friend and my lover.”

Related Reading: 5 Apology Languages: Guide For Choosing The Best One

14. Give her a massage 

How to apologize to your girlfriend after a silly fight? Get on her good side again by giving her a good massage. Light some scented candles, prepare a playlist full of her favorite calming songs, pick her body oil, and start massaging her shoulders. Things may get steamy soon and if she forgives you, then you might get lucky as well. 

15. Get her a special gift as an apology for your actions

You don’t have to show how sorry you are through something expensive. You can also say sorry to your girlfriend in a romantic way by getting a simple apology gift for her. A bracelet or a keychain that you know she’ll like will convey your point. Or think of something that will make her happy. What is it that she always wanted to have? This special gift will let her know how thoughtful you are and that you take her wishes and desires seriously. 

16. Be extra kind to your girlfriend

Kindness is very important in a relationship. It fosters trust, acceptance, and increases affection between partners. Here are some ways you can be extra kind to your partner when she’s miffed with you:

• Go out and get groceries 
• Cook for her
• Use words of affirmation 
• Don’t assume things. Assumptions means bad news in every relationship. Talk about it first before you jump the gun 
• Don’t take her for granted 
• Show your caring side 
• Be her peace of mind and source of comfort 

17. Make a collage novel of the two of you 

Pictures are quite powerful. They hold memories to the most beautiful times of your life. When apology texts and dinner nights don’t work, put in a little more effort and make a collage novel. Add some of the most memorable moments in it, the first picture you took, your first kiss, the first time you said I love you, and pictures from your first holiday together.

Write or stick cute notes throughout the book. Add your final thoughts in the novel and tell her you don’t want to lose her at any cost. This is hands down one of the most creative ways to say sorry to your girlfriend. When she sees this, it will melt her into a puddle for sure. 

18. Plan a picnic date where you can apologize to your girlfriend

You can pack some food, wine, a blanket, and head out to your nearest park. Sit in the greenery, soak in some sun, and say sorry to your girlfriend in a romantic way. If you don’t want to go to the park and want to keep it private, then you can plan a terrace date as well. 

Related Reading: The 5 Types Of Love Languages And How To Use Them For Happy Relationships

19. Crack some bad PJs 

When your girl is in a bad mood, try to lighten the situation with some knock-knock jokes. Or apologize to your girlfriend through text by sending her a funny joke you found on the internet. Here is an example:

Knock, knock

Who’s there?

Iowa

Iowa who?

Iowa big apology

Cute, right? You can also send her funny memes to make her laugh. 

20. Plan a girls’ trip for her 

If she hasn’t had a girls’ trip in a while, then show how sorry you are by planning a surprise trip for her with her best friends. It can be a weekend getaway for her. As she spends quality time with her friends, it will also help her go through the things that happened between the two of you. And you know what they say about distance. It always makes the heart grow fonder. So, go ahead and plan a trip for her and spend some time apart. 

21. Take her on a holiday 

It’s the worst, knowing that your girlfriend is hurting and you can’t do anything to alleviate her pain. You are the reason behind her sadness. So here’s our tip on how to apologize to your girlfriend — Travel with your partner. Take her on a holiday. Spend the entire weekend with her. No work, no friends, and definitely no scrolling on social media. Just the two of you getting to know each other better. 

22. Surprise her with a spa day 

Girls love to feel pampered and relaxed. There’s no better way to destress than a rejuvenating spa day. Express your regret for hurting her by getting her an all-expense-paid spa coupon. She will love it.

23. Take her to play arcade games 

Lighten the tense situation by casually taking her to play arcade games. This will not only make some new happy memories, it’ll also ease the friction between you and her. She’ll feel even better if you lose a game or two. 

24. Give her space – this is an important part of an apology

You’ve tried it all. You’ve given your all but she isn’t ready to forgive you yet. This means she hasn’t come to terms with what happened and she needs some time to get over it. Don’t constantly text her or call her. Just drop one text a day and remind her you aren’t going anywhere; you’re just a phone call away. 

25. Mend your ways sincerely

You’ve apologized to her. But that doesn’t mean you will rinse and repeat your actions. You have to stick to your word and make sure you don’t hurt her intentionally again. Conflicts and disagreements are normal in every relationship. But deliberately hurting your partner is not, and can even be abusive after a point.

With these tips on how to apologize to your girlfriend, we hope your sweetheart forgives and forgets. As long as your apology comes straight from the heart and you mean every word, it’ll all be water under the bridge soon. You just have to promise yourself that you won’t consciously hurt her again. 

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Is Your Energy Pushing Men Away After 50?

 

You can read the blog below or watch it on YouTube by clicking here.

Recently I received a letter from a woman who told me nothing was working in her dating life.

No one was interested in her.

No one was interested in her friends either.

They, like her, were experiencing loneliness and a lack of contact with men.

She and her friends in their 50’s, 60’s and 70’s felt invisible to men.

It doesn’t have to be this way at all.

The problem is most women think finding a good guy is about having the right profile and picture.

Your profile and pictures are important but getting a great guy actually starts within you and the mindset you have about men and yourself.

So what does shifting your mindset about men and you mean?

It’s so easy to get caught in the type of rut I described above.

If your friends are having trouble getting dates, instead of looking at themselves . . . the finger gets turned around and pointed at the men out there and their behavior.

It’s not about the men you want to meet.

It’s about you and how you feel about yourself that makes the difference.

Yes men are attracted to your physical appearance.

It’s how they’re wired from the caveman days of mating with women who could produce strong children that could survive the brutal elements.

What you may not know is that men are also attracted to your energy.

You give off a vibe that men can feel from your profile picture, in emails the two of you exchange, on the phone or even when you meet.

When it comes to dating, there are two types of vibrations you put out into the world.

I mentioned the first already and that is how you feel about yourself.

When you feel beautiful both inside and out, men can sense this and are attracted to you.

By the way, your Inner Glow enhances your outer magnificence and makes you even more attractive to men.

To get that inner fire glowing, you’ll want to really look at what you love about you.

Let’s start with your physical qualities.

Sometimes it’s hard to love your body as you age.

To turn this around, you’ll want to shift your mindset to one of gratitude for what your body can do.

For example, a lot of women don’t love their arms but can have gratitude for them because they use their arms to hug the people they love.

Next rediscover your passions.

Think about the things you’re good at or the activities you’d love to try.

I always wanted to paint so I took classes in both watercolor and acrylics.

My friends and even some of the men I dated back then would tell me my face lit up when I talked about the colors I had fun playing with.

This so called “lighting up” is what men are so drawn to in you.

The second type of energy is about the mindset you have when it comes to men.

A lot of women think women reside in those masculine bodies they’re interested in.

They don’t!

Men think totally differently than women.

And this can frustrate you to no end if you don’t speak the language men can hear or understand.

This misunderstanding can lead you to male bashing.

If you’re talking negatively about men with your friends, I guarantee this downbeat energy shows up in your energy field and pushes men away.

If you come from a mindset that men are fun and really cool in their own way, your energy field gives off this vibe instead, which again draws men towards you.

Good men are interested in women our age.

The secret is learning to love ourselves so we can allow the men we want to meet to love us too.

It is possible to meet is your perfect match!

When I met Lisa and began her “Love after 50” group program, I was 73 years old, over 6 feet tall and had not dated in many, many years. I saw these all as real obstacles to finding a relationship. To my amazement, the man I found, while working with Lisa, in addition to having every single quality I was looking for in a partner, saw these as assets! As a widower, he had not dated in many years, he loves tall women and never lets me forget that he is 2 years younger. I believe that we found each other because of Lisa’s guidance helping me get really clear on who I wanted, fine-tuning my profile to reflect that vision along with having access to all of tools that she has created for the program and her personal guidance. Unsure and very hesitant to start dating again, she was my perfect match for making this happen in my life! Heather, New Jersey

Believing in you!

Big hugs ~

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On June 15, 2023   /   Dating Mindset after 50  

Is Your Energy Pushing Men Away After 50?

 

You can read the blog below or watch it on YouTube by clicking here.

Recently I received a letter from a woman who told me nothing was working in her dating life.

No one was interested in her.

No one was interested in her friends either.

They, like her, were experiencing loneliness and a lack of contact with men.

She and her friends in their 50’s, 60’s and 70’s felt invisible to men.

It doesn’t have to be this way at all.

The problem is most women think finding a good guy is about having the right profile and picture.

Your profile and pictures are important but getting a great guy actually starts within you and the mindset you have about men and yourself.

So what does shifting your mindset about men and you mean?

It’s so easy to get caught in the type of rut I described above.

If your friends are having trouble getting dates, instead of looking at themselves . . . the finger gets turned around and pointed at the men out there and their behavior.

It’s not about the men you want to meet.

It’s about you and how you feel about yourself that makes the difference.

Yes men are attracted to your physical appearance.

It’s how they’re wired from the caveman days of mating with women who could produce strong children that could survive the brutal elements.

What you may not know is that men are also attracted to your energy.

You give off a vibe that men can feel from your profile picture, in emails the two of you exchange, on the phone or even when you meet.

When it comes to dating, there are two types of vibrations you put out into the world.

I mentioned the first already and that is how you feel about yourself.

When you feel beautiful both inside and out, men can sense this and are attracted to you.

By the way, your Inner Glow enhances your outer magnificence and makes you even more attractive to men.

To get that inner fire glowing, you’ll want to really look at what you love about you.

Let’s start with your physical qualities.

Sometimes it’s hard to love your body as you age.

To turn this around, you’ll want to shift your mindset to one of gratitude for what your body can do.

For example, a lot of women don’t love their arms but can have gratitude for them because they use their arms to hug the people they love.

Next rediscover your passions.

Think about the things you’re good at or the activities you’d love to try.

I always wanted to paint so I took classes in both watercolor and acrylics.

My friends and even some of the men I dated back then would tell me my face lit up when I talked about the colors I had fun playing with.

This so called “lighting up” is what men are so drawn to in you.

The second type of energy is about the mindset you have when it comes to men.

A lot of women think women reside in those masculine bodies they’re interested in.

They don’t!

Men think totally differently than women.

And this can frustrate you to no end if you don’t speak the language men can hear or understand.

This misunderstanding can lead you to male bashing.

If you’re talking negatively about men with your friends, I guarantee this downbeat energy shows up in your energy field and pushes men away.

If you come from a mindset that men are fun and really cool in their own way, your energy field gives off this vibe instead, which again draws men towards you.

Good men are interested in women our age.

The secret is learning to love ourselves so we can allow the men we want to meet to love us too.

It is possible to meet is your perfect match!

When I met Lisa and began her “Love after 50” group program, I was 73 years old, over 6 feet tall and had not dated in many, many years. I saw these all as real obstacles to finding a relationship. To my amazement, the man I found, while working with Lisa, in addition to having every single quality I was looking for in a partner, saw these as assets! As a widower, he had not dated in many years, he loves tall women and never lets me forget that he is 2 years younger. I believe that we found each other because of Lisa’s guidance helping me get really clear on who I wanted, fine-tuning my profile to reflect that vision along with having access to all of tools that she has created for the program and her personal guidance. Unsure and very hesitant to start dating again, she was my perfect match for making this happen in my life! Heather, New Jersey

Believing in you!

Big hugs ~

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On June 15, 2023   /   Dating Mindset after 50