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So often this job includes sharing really difficult news and explaining some of the cruelest methods of attacking our communities and our reproductive autonomy. Not this week! This week, I’m thrilled to shine a spotlight on the first ever Trans Youth Prom that took place in Washington, D.C. on Monday. Rewire News Group was on the ground documenting the day-long celebration of trans lives and futures. And let me tell you: The joy was infectious.
Dreamt up and organized by trans youth from more than 16 states, the goal of the event was deceptively simple and effective: Center trans youth and their joy as a critical way to push back against the harmful narratives about trans folks by conservatives. Trans Youth Prom was an opportunity—with our nation’s Capitol as the backdrop—to let trans kids just be kids. They laughed, danced, and were righteously, joyously themselves in public. “This is about trans joy, trans creativity, trans brilliance, and trans futures,” said Chase Strangio, a civil rights lawyer and transgender activist who spoke at Monday’s prom, in a press release.
The joy and celebration Strangio described Monday was palpable. If you have a chance, please check out our Instagram and see for yourself. It was simply a spectacular day. And one that was so needed given the fact that, this year alone, conservative lawmakers have introduced at least 549 anti-LGBTQ bills, a legislative record. Included in this watershed of hate legislation is another dubious record—over 220 bills targeting trans and non-binary folks this year alone, according to the Human Rights Campaign. Within those anti-trans bills, more than 125 bills would prevent trans youth from being able to access age-appropriate, medically-necessary, best-practice health care. Conservative lawmakers advanced more than 45 bills banning transgender students from playing school sports and more than 30 “bathroom bills” that require students to use bathrooms that align with their assigned sex at birth, not their gender identity.
It’s been nothing short of a tidal wave of targeted legislative harassment. And it comes with a great price for those who find themselves the target of this latest conservative hate campaign.
“Trans Prom came from the anger and exhaustion trans kids like me felt after continuously fighting against anti-trans legislation and after continuously debating our personhood and our identity to people who don’t seem to care,” said Daniel Trujillo, Trans Youth Prom Steering Committee Member and organizer. “Trans Prom is evidence of what trans joy is. It is living proof of what trans people can achieve when supported and loved. Not only by parents, but by friends and even strangers.”
If you’re a frequent listener to the Boom! Lawyered podcast, then by now you’ve heard us talk about how important it is to center joy in political organizing especially given the fascist threat we face today. The simple truth is fascists hate joy and they definitely hate the joyful and exuberant expression of self the Trans Youth Prom represents. That’s because it is such a rejection of everything the current conservative movement embraces and endorses. So, as May winds down and we begin Pride Month in June, I can’t think of a better way to center joy than by celebrating trans lives and potential and by just letting these kids be kids.
Marriage is the ultimate covenant between two people. When two people are joined in marriage, they vow to love, honor, and cherish each other through the best and worst of circumstances for the rest of their lives.
Not only is marriage God’s plan for his people but also marriages are to reflect the love of Christ and the church. Marriage is also the place where people see us at our worst. When we have unprocessed trauma and pain in our lives, the person we take it out on the most is our spouses.
This can cause our marriage to break down, and both parties stop thinking about each other and start focusing on themselves. The unmet needs and desires they have in marriage, which are not met, result in partners being angry and sometimes bitter.
But there’s still hope. When two people ask God for his help and obey his commands, even the most broken marriage can be mended.
As Christians, it is more important than ever to be praying for people’s marriages, especially for those who are going through a difficult season.
Here are six prayers for a broken marriage:
1. Father, Heal Us
One of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage is that both parties work on healing anything that hinders their emotional, mental, and physical well-being. Any emotional wounds that someone has can infect both the person’s abundant life and also the people around them.
It is difficult to be around two people who are constantly fighting or, worse, assassinating each other ‘s character. To combat this problem, spend some time alone with God. Ask him to show you any areas of your life where you are not healed.
If unhealed trauma results, and you need to forgive someone, forgive them. If brokenness means you’re in conflict with someone, do your best to settle the conflict. Nip conflict in the bud as soon as possible.
Ask God to keep healing old wounds until they’re completely healed. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
2. Father, Speak to Us
Many marriages are broken because they don’t hear from God regularly. When a person becomes a Christian, they yield their lives to God. This means they allow him to direct their steps when it comes to their future spouse, their career, and everything in between.
God’s will is not for divorce but rather wholeness and healing. Although we should not look to our spouses to fill our lives with happiness, God does want us to work together in marriage to exemplify his joy in our lives.
After asking him to heal old wounds, ask him if there’s anything specific, he wants to tell you. The holy spirit dwelling within you wants to speak to us. He yearns to be in fellowship with us. This includes him telling us things that are for our education, comfort, and encouragement.
3. Father, Forgive Us
It is easy in a marriage to place blame on the other. Adam blamed Eve after they fell victim to the serpent’s evil ways. Since the beginning of time, people have wanted to place blame and make things someone else’s fault.
Yet, when we analyze our relationships, we often find we are just as guilty as the other party. Take the time to forgive your spouse for whatever they’ve done. This may take months or even years.
That’s okay. Forgiveness is a process; people often want to skip the process because it’s hard work. Forgiveness is hard; so was Jesus’ death on the cross. He died for us to live a life of freedom. That is the impetus to forgive our spouses.
Additionally, sometimes the person we can’t forgive is ourselves. Despite the reality that Jesus’ blood covers all our sins, we often want to hold on to our grievous behavior as a spiritual penance so that we can earn God’s forgiveness.
But God’s forgiveness came when Jesus died on the cross. We can live in freedom and ask God to forgive us, knowing that he is just and will forgive all our sins, even the ones we think are too horrible for God.
4. Father, Help Us Reflect You
Both partners in a marriage mirror the love of Christ for the church. Each person reflects Jesus. The best way we demonstrate our adoration for God is if we honor the marriage covenant. It is difficult to mirror Christ in a relationship where unmet expectations and trauma abound.
This is especially true if there is emotional or mental abuse within the relationship. The best thing we can do is seek help from professionals who can help us work through our issues so we can be the best spouse we can be.
5. Father, Give Us Peace
Scripture says, “As long as it stands with you, a little peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18). Although reconciliation may not be possible in every relationship, we should both strive to make sure that happens.
Peace may not be possible in every situation, but peace is what gives us the freedom to live a life secure in our identity as God’s child.
Peace is not necessarily just the absence of fear, but rather it is the contentment of knowing that Christ is in control of each situation and he wants what’s best for his children.
Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
Sometimes God’s will is beyond our comprehension. But it is not our job to figure out what God’s will is. Our job is to simply trust him and know he will act on our behalf.
We can take comfort knowing God is in control and that we don’t have to figure out every situation to rather just yield to him.
6. Father, Help Us to Love as You Love Us
God loves us unconditionally. But we love others with conditions. Jesus sees people through the lens of sinners in need of a savior. He came to show all the world would have hope in him.
As humans, however, we place expectations on people, and when they hurt us, we are apt to cut them off or spend no time with them.
We see people through the lens of our past pain and feel the spirit, but God, who’s forgiven all sins, has already paid the penalty for our sins. He lives in the security of knowing that the wages of sin is death, but Jesus paid that debt in full.
If we could learn to be more like Jesus, we would see people through the lens of love and forgiveness. When we believe we are fully loved, fully forgiven, and that God loves us no matter what, we are more apt to see others in the same light.
This helps us more easily forgive people and love them just as Christ loves us. In our own humanity, however, that can be difficult. We must anchor our lives to Scripture and live as people fully loved. When we can do that, we can forgive and love others the same way.
If you are having difficulty in your marriage, reach out to a friend, pastor, or other leader who can help you sort out the issue. Make sure it is not someone we’ll see things with bias but rather someone who can look at it objectively.
Take their advice and do the hard work it takes to turn your marriage around. There is no sin that has not been covered fully by Christ, including your marriage. Let God be your guide, and allow him to transform both you and your spouse from the inside out.
Michelle S. Lazurek is a multi-genre award-winning author, speaker, pastor’s wife, and mother. She is a literary agent for Wordwise Media Services and a certified writing coach. Her new children’s book Who God Wants Me to Be encourages girls to discover God’s plan for their careers. When not working, she enjoys sipping a Starbucks latte, collecting 80s memorabilia, and spending time with her family and her crazy dog. For more info, please visit her website www.michellelazurek.com.
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For some people, listening comes naturally as their personality is to be less verbal. Others may feel they have nothing to offer in a conversation, so they listen more than they speak. After all, God did give us two ears and only one mouth!
Whether we are quiet in nature or a person who is uncomfortable in silence and feels they must fill every space with words, learning to really listen to others is hard work. For a Christ-follower, however, it’s vital to our mission as God’s ambassadors and ministers of reconciliation.
2 Corinthians 5:18-20 – “Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation, namely, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and He has committed to us the word of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God were making an appeal through us; we beg you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.”
The way we listen can either draw people toward God or push them away. Even in our attempts to tell others about Jesus, we can talk too much in the uncomfortableness of a gospel presentation. Are we focused on downloading information and our beliefs without stopping to listen to the questions people are asking? Good listening skills can help us slow down and reduce our anxiety to win a convert. Instead of talking constantly, we need to hear what the other person is sharing about their own hearts and where they are in their spiritual journey, trusting Jesus’ promise that the Holy Spirit will give us the right words at the right time.
Listening well tells others they are valuable to us, and illustrates they are valuable to God. Just as God patiently listens to our prayers with His heart of compassion, we must learn to listen with more than our ears. Let us humble ourselves to close our mouths often, and when we do open them, make sure we speak timely words that produce life, hope, and peace in the hearts of the listener.
Proverbs 18:21 – “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
Are you dating a man you suspect isn’t all that committed to you? Have you ever wondered, “Why does he keep me around if he doesn’t want a relationship?” He may even tell you upfront that he doesn’t want to be committed to you, but still spends time with you romantically. He may tell you, and sometimes shows you, that he genuinely likes you. His actions leave you utterly perplexed as to how he is feeling.
He probably makes you feel like a yo-yo, constantly pushing you away and pulling you back in. Because of the non-stop mixed messages this guy sends, you may feel as if you’re going insane at times. “Why does he keep me around if he doesn’t want a relationship?” you wonder, yet again. Let’s have a look at the inner workings of his mind.
Why Does He Keep Me Around If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship – 17 Probable Reasons
You’ve done almost everything “serious” couples do. You’ve traveled together, met each other’s friends, and possibly met each other’s families too. Despite this, you remain in the limbo between relationship and courtship. Although there are numerous reasons that a man may act interested and then suddenly backs off, they typically fall into two categories: a) It could be about him, b) It could be something you’re doing. Learning to tell the difference between the two will save you a lot of heartbreak in the future, not just with this guy, but with all the other people you’ll date.
1. He’s only interested in a sexual relationship with you
It’s a ridiculously shallow and awful reason, but here we are. Being intimate early in a relationship is not wrong, but it can blur the lines between a casual and a serious relationship. According to a study, if you’re a woman, it is true that you are more likely to interpret physical pleasure as a sign that he has strong feelings for you. In his mind, however, he could just be having fun, filling his boots.
Why would he leave that kind of fun behind to be single and forced to spend his nights alone? He is sexually attracted to you but doesn’t want a relationship, so if you want to get some answers from him, you should first remove sex from the equation. When he realizes you are serious about the no-sex rule, he’ll be able to suddenly discover his honesty. He’ll have to decide whether it is just the sex that inspires him to keep you hanging or if he has genuine feelings for you.
2. He does not want to be lonely
It’s human nature to want to be loved and to be in the company of those who care about you. It’s possible that a guy doesn’t know what he wants from you, but he doesn’t want to be alone – so he keeps you close for those long, lonely days. But remember, his surface-level feelings for you are not going to change. If you both are dating, you’re probably spending a lot of time together. If that were to end, he’d be left alone with his thoughts. While some people thrive independently and venture out on their own, others will never be that type.
He’s the type of guy who always wants company, whether it’s just to go to the movies or out to dinner, or even for a weekend away. He might just be hanging out with you and leading you on so that he always has someone to make him feel better about being single. You don’t want to be his shadow because that’s the closest thing to a relationship he’ll give you.
Similarly, though in a much shallower form, he might just be trying to avoid boredom. When you’re dating someone, you tend to go out a lot and even spend nights at each other’s places. There’s a reason when people start dating someone new, they tend to lose their friendships.
If he wants to go to a new bar or see a new movie, but none of his friends are available, he’s probably used to expecting you to be there and spend time with you. If he lets you go, he will have no one to hang out with, which, as pathetic as it sounds, maybe his reason for keeping you around despite his lack of romantic intentions.
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4. He doesn’t want you to be with anyone else
Men can be possessive. They want what they think is rightfully theirs, so he doesn’t want you but doesn’t want anyone else to have you either. You, as a person, do not belong to him. He has no claim on your heart if he isn’t serious about starting a relationship with you.
Still, the thought of you with someone else can horrify him. Show him that you have other options besides him, and tell him that if he doesn’t want to commit, someone else will. If he genuinely doesn’t want a relationship, he will most likely become jealous – but without changing his mind. Or worse, he will fake being in a relationship with you just to keep you away from other guys. Here’s more about a guy like this:
He appreciates your attention and devotion to him, so he wants you to stick by him
Your attraction to him boosts his ego
He refuses to admit that he isn’t looking for a committed relationship and continues to make empty promises about your future together
He doesn’t want you to move on from him
5. He is scared of dealing with the drama
Even if you’ve only been dating briefly, breakups can be complicated and dramatic. If you don’t feel the same way as your partner, they will be hurt. There’s a chance he doesn’t want to be mature and tell you the truth, because he doesn’t want to deal with the consequences.
Depending on where you met, there may be additional consequences to ending your relationship that he has been attempting to avoid. For instance, if you work or take classes together, he may be afraid that being around each other will be awkward and uncomfortable if he breaks up with you. Find ways to let him know you’re okay if he doesn’t see this romance progressing and that you won’t cause him any trouble if you cross paths again.
6. He doesn’t want to cause you pain
Perhaps we should give him the benefit of doubt and consider that he is a nice guy who doesn’t want to see you hurt when he ends a growing relationship. Ending a serious relationship is difficult for the receiver, without a doubt, but it’s also tricky for the dumper because they have to deal with being the bad guy. We hope no one enjoys telling someone they don’t feel as strongly for them as the other had hoped.
He may delay the inevitable because he doesn’t want to subject you to the agony of learning that he isn’t interested, especially if you’ve been completely honest with him about your feelings. While he is still cowardly in not telling the truth, his intentions are good as he cares about you.
It’s better to do it quickly, like ripping off a band-aid, for both of you
Make sure he knows you’re strong and can handle anything he has to say
Rather than permitting him to linger in a lie to keep you both in naive bliss, tell him about the benefits of being honest
7. He doesn’t want to lose you as a friend
Trying to navigate a romantic relationship that grew out of close friends can be difficult, but it is entirely doable. Many lifelong soulmates began as just a friend, but a friendship can also shatter by the failed attempts to make it a romantic interest. If your relationship arose from a great friendship, he might be keeping you around despite his lack of desire for a relationship because he doesn’t want to lose you as a friend. He might also keep you around if he has a girlfriend.
We’ve all experienced how difficult it can be to move on after a breakup. The fact that one person will be caught off guard and hurt while the other will emerge confident, could be tricky to navigate. Returning to a simple friendship after ending a romantic relationship is easier if you were in the early dating stages. Otherwise, it’s harder. But your friendship can be rebuilt over time and eventually get back on track.
The reasoning can be quite toxic at times if he is overprotective. He may want to keep you around so he’s always in the loop. One of the most stressful things about a breakup is suddenly being removed from your ex’s life, where you were emotionally involved, with zero way of knowing what they’re up to anymore.
Because social media stalking only gets you so far, some people choose to keep you hanging despite having no real feelings. If this is the case, he does not respect you as the strong human you are, and you should cut the cord yourself.
He is too afraid to lose you because then he won’t be able to control your life
He does not want you to take your decisions on your own
He does not like the choices that you make in your life
He’s always been a little controlling and gets upset when you act with “freedom”
10. He keeps you around as he needs you to pay for things
It’s a horrible thought but more common than you might think. If your man is in a shambles, unemployed, and lost in life, he may lead you on and refuse to let you go because you are his financial support. According to a study, balance is essential in a healthy relationship. If you’re both earning, you don’t have to wait for the man to pay – but it would be nice if he did his part without you bringing it to his notice.
If it appears that he is sponging off you, it’s most likely because he is
Does he offer to pay only to realize he’s forgotten his wallet, leaving you to cover the cost of your dates?
Do you ever find him paying the bill instead of you?
Maybe he’s always hanging out at your place during lunchtime or inviting himself to dinner? It could be because you have food and he can’t afford it, or it is too expensive to buy his own
He may even approach you and ask you to find him some money to help him get by
If he lets you spend on him and your dates consistently, he might be hanging on to your dysfunctional romance, so he can save money
10. He wishes to maintain his options
Some guys are just not ready to settle down, but they are aware that they have genuine feelings for you. If you’ve found an eligible bachelor who’s used to living it up and meeting a new potential date every night, it’s unsurprising that he’s avoiding taking your relationship to the next level.
As per a study, men were more likely than women to indicate that they were single in order to be free to flirt around, and because they were not into family-making. When you are casually dating, you’re seeing other people and being as flirtatious and carefree as you want. Living like that is natural for some, and it is the only way your guy knows how to be.
He enjoys the attention and ego boost that comes with having the attention of multiple people at the same time, and committing to you would mean giving up that lifestyle
He is more interested in casual dating and not a committed relationship
He keeps you on the line so he has you as one of his options
11. He enjoys the advantages of the ‘relationship’
I know you’ve had this thought because it’s always my first assumption when I find myself in a similar situation. He may keep you around because he reaps all the benefits of being in a relationship without having to expend any relationship energy. It’s a simple way to meet his needs without doing something he doesn’t want to do: commit.
He doesn’t see this as a problem. If you have feelings for him and want the relationship to progress to a more committed stage, state your needs. If he’s made it clear that he doesn’t want more than that, you’ll need to accept it rather than try to persuade him that you’d be an excellent partner. You can end things with him if he cannot meet your relationship’s physical and emotional needs.
Some of the needs he fulfills through this ‘relationship’ could be:
He enjoys the sex with you and does not want to give it up
He is not committed to you, but he gets a lot of emotional benefits from you. You’re basically his therapist without pay
He keeps coming to you because he is sure that he will be welcomed. If he needs his ego to be validated constantly, tell him to adopt a dog
He loves to brag about you to his friends and tell them all about his “girlfriend” – you’re a status symbol for him
12. He needs a backup option while on the field
Some people simply do not want to commit to one relationship. They prefer to keep their options open by playing the field. He might have added you to his backup list in case other potential partners don’t work out. He’s not technically doing anything wrong if he’s been honest and the relationship between you two is non-committal. But if he knows you want a relationship and you know he doesn’t, you’re both blind to the disaster you’re causing for yourselves.
Or this could be a case of a situationship. Some types of situationships may develop into full-fledged relationships, but many don’t end well. You can’t force him to want a relationship, and you don’t have to accept being a backup option. While you cannot control him, you can choose how to handle the situation. Will you stay knowing you’re getting less than you deserve? Or are you going to leave despite having feelings?
13. He is insecure and requires an ego boost
Even the most attractive and successful people can be insecure if you look for the signs. He keeps you around because it feeds his ego. You make him feel wanted, cared for, and appreciated. You may even overlook his flaws because you adore him, which he appreciates. It’s natural for him to want to feel good, but is it making you feel bad about your relationship and yourself?
These are the things a guy could be insecure about:
He is comfortable showing you his flaws and fears, but not to any other person as he fears being mocked for them
He is comfortable doing something messy in front of you, but he is insecure about showing it to someone else
He doesn’t think he’s lovable and thinks no other person could love him the way you do, so he keeps you in his life
14. He is using your relationship to heal from his recent breakup
This is a difficult pill to swallow. Is he still talking about his ex? Is he still emotional when he talks about this person? Even if he acts like he despises her, this is just a sign that he isn’t over her. That doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to rekindle the flame. In some cases, he simply needs to heal so that he is not sad or angry about the relationship or how it ended. But that also counts as not having moved on from his ex.
On the other hand, you may have noticed the tone in his voice when he says he would gladly run back to her if given the chance. Perhaps she was “the one” for him and he can’t seem to get over it. Do you want to be second fiddle to the person he loves? He may keep you around because he likes you and believes that one day he’ll be ready to commit to you, but for the time being, he’s still focused on the ex. Are you prepared to wait in the hopes that his feelings will change?
15. He does not believe you are “it” for him
This one stings. He might genuinely enjoy being with you. He might think you’d make an excellent relationship partner. He simply does not believe you are meant for ‘him’, though. This does not imply that something is wrong with you. Something about the relationship just does not appear to be a good fit.
If you want to get to the bottom of it, know that lack of compatibility is not always a feeling that can be defined. You can tell when something is right for you, just like you can tell when something is slightly off for you. It’s never fun to be the person they don’t want, for reasons you don’t understand, but we’ve all been there. Try to remember that it’s not about you, you both are just incompatible. After all, isn’t it true that the heart wants what the heart wants?
16. It’s simply too early
It’s possible that it’s too early in the relationship for him to change his mind. According to research, it takes about six months for people to know if the person they’re with is marriage material. Even if you have no plans to marry, this information suggests that it may take him a few months to determine whether the relationship is serious.
If you’ve only been dating for a month or two, you should temper your expectations. The person you’re dating may not want to be Facebook-official until they’re certain the relationship will last. After all, no one wants to have to change their relationship status from single to ‘in a relationship’ more than once.
17. He keeps you around because you’re not going anywhere
One of the reasons he keeps you around is that he simply can. After all, you continue to make yourself available to him. You always go and see him even when you say you’re busy. He knows he can count on you to be there for him even though he doesn’t show up for you at all. He does it because he can — according to a study, it’s human nature to accept what is freely given.
What actions are you taking in this regard? Waiting for him to change his mind is a passive action, but it is still a decision you make. Can you really be mad at him for keeping you around when you’re doing everything in your power to be there for him?
Key Pointers
A guy could be keeping you around without committing to you, because he likes to control your life and the decisions you take
He needs you as his backup option, or his free therapist, or his source for money and social status
He might be keeping you in his life as he’s afraid to lose you as a friend or of hurting you, or he may just be trying to skip the drama of the breakup
If you’re ready for a relationship, you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you for who you are and who wants to commit to you
Respecting your own needs is a sign of self-respect. You should concentrate your efforts on finding someone who shares your desire for romantic love and consistency
You must never waste time on someone to make up their mind about you; you deserve to be treated well. If he doesn’t seem to be putting in much effort with you and if he’s not being honest about his intentions, he’s probably not that interested and is just trying to keep you around for one or two of the reasons listed above. If you’re ready for the next, more formal stage of emotional connection, tell him that you want more. Allow him to choose, and don’t feel guilty about saying goodbye if he isn’t giving you what you need in this relationship.
FAQs
1. Can a man love you but not want a relationship with you?
When it comes to commitment, men are exceptionally forthright. So yes, people can be in love but not want a commitment. Some indicators that a guy is not ready for a serious commitment include: – He is unable to define your relationship – He doesn’t think it’s important for you to meet his close friends and family – He doesn’t make any future plans with you
2. How do you know if he likes you but doesn’t want a relationship with you?
When a guy doesn’t have romantic intentions for a relationship, he’ll appreciate you and tell you how great you are, but will go in and out of your life as per his convenience, always rely on you to initiate plans, and will not want to spend quality time with you.
3. How do you get over a guy who doesn’t want a relationship?
When you’re finally ready to move on from a crush, you might be wondering what to do next. You might know what to expect after a breakup or divorce, but how do you get over a relationship that never happened? What can you tell your friends about how you act around him? How do you deal with the sickening feeling of rejection, even if you know intellectually that you are deserving of love? You’ve already taken the first step: you’ve decided to move on. Taking some time for yourself and shaking it off will help you on your way.
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Living with a chronic illness is challenging. Not only do you have to deal with the physical hardships of your condition, but you likely have to deal with associated financial struggles. Treatment for ailments isn’t cheap, and even if you have insurance that covers some of the costs, you’ll still have to cover co-payments, deductibles, and alternative care.
You may find yourself earning less than you’re spending, and the longer this continues, the more debt you’ll accumulate and the more challenging time you’ll have digging out of that debt.
Read on for some tips to build financial security despite your hardships. Then, we’ll talk about money-saving strategies, life insurance for the chronically ill, and things you can do to improve your quality of life.
Save Money Despite Chronic Illness
If you don’t have a budget, it’s time to make one. A budget can help you identify your priorities and excess spending you can cut.
You can work out a budget that serves you no matter your income. You might want to start by tracking your spending. Sometimes, the simple act of tracking your purchases can keep you from buying things you don’t need.
After reviewing your spending for a month, you might be surprised at how insignificant purchases through the month add up. Even if you think you know how you’re spending, you should track every penny so you’re sure. Then, you can use that information to set your budget.
Lower Your Utilities
If you work outside the home, consider turning back your thermostat by 10 degrees during the hours that you’re gone. That simple step could save you 10% on your heating bill. Likewise, doing the opposite during the summer could help you save on your cooling costs.
If you have a leaky faucet or a toilet that runs in between flushes, fixing those problems can save you a lot on your water bills.
As your lightbulbs burn out, replace them with LED bulbs. They’re more expensive to start with, but they’ll save you considerably over time. Just be careful to choose warm light LED bulbs to reduce your exposure to blue light’s negative effects.
Save Money Driving
Did you know that properly inflated tires help improve your fuel mileage? Check your tire pressure every month and whenever there’s a drastic temperature change to ensure they’re filled according to manufacturer specifications. Also, keep an eye on your average number of miles driven per year.
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Cars have a sweet spot speed on the highway, and that speed is usually around 55 or 60 mph. So you might be able to get five to seven more miles per gallon if you switch from 70 to 60 mph.
Stay on top of scheduled maintenance. If funds are tight, you might be tempted to skip an oil change, but if you do, you could end up with far more expensive engine damage later on.
Life Insurance With Chronic Illnesses
In most cases, your life insurance needs are the same whether you have a chronic illness or not. If you have a lot of debt, such as a mortgage, and you have responsibilities such as children, you should have a term life insurance plan.
Term Life Insurance With Chronic Illness
Term life insurance pays a death benefit if you die during the policy’s term, which can be anywhere from 10 to 30 years or longer. Once the term expires, you have no benefit from the policy. So, most people pay monthly premiums and get absolutely nothing in return.
You might be tempted to avoid such a bad bet. Still, for those rare cases where your beneficiaries get the benefit, it can make the difference between them losing everything because of your debts and death or continuing in their same lifestyle.
With some illnesses, you may not be able to get a term life insurance plan. Even if you can find an insurer to offer you a term policy, you’re probably not going to qualify for preferred plus pricing.
The type of chronic illness you have will be the most critical factor in determining your insurability. For example, if you have had a stroke, heart attack, or heart disease, it will be nearly impossible to find an affordable term life insurance policy.
However, if you have well-managed diabetes, arthritis, or asthma, you will likely be able to choose from a variety of term life insurance plans.
Guaranteed Issue Life Insurance With Chronic Illness
If your illness makes you uninsurable, you can still get a guaranteed issue life insurance plan. It’s more expensive and offers a smaller benefit than a standard term policy, but it may be your only option. The benefit can help take care of funeral expenses.
Guaranteed issue policies don’t require a health evaluation, so that’s why you can get a policy no matter what health conditions you have.
Quality of Life With Chronic Illness
Don’t let your illness define you. Take care of your illness, but don’t forget who you are at your core. You have a personality and things you enjoy, and you must nurture that part of you to improve the quality of your life.
Self-Care Importance
A lot of your time is consumed with treating your illness, and that’s essential, but you need to set aside time for self-care unrelated to your condition. For example, you may need a massage, pedicure, nap, or bath to help you feel refreshed and cared for. Or you could spend a weekend afternoon reading fiction or watching a movie.
Exercise Benefits
You should always consult with your medical professional before starting an exercise regimen, but there are appropriate programs for everyone, regardless of your physical restrictions.
Exercising will help boost your mood and improve your health. So it’s worth the time you put into it. If you can get outside to exercise, you’ll also reap the benefits of connecting with nature, absorbing the sunlight, and breathing fresh air. Enjoying nature can transform your life.
Relationships Support
Your relationships are a significant part of your support system, so invest your time into building your marriage, family bonds, and friendships.
Living within a budget will help you manage your debt, and a life insurance policy will protect your beneficiaries from assuming your debt if you die. But one of the best ways to improve your health and keep yourself living as long as possible is taking care of yourself. Self-care doesn’t have to be expensive, and it will improve your quality of life.
With Memorial Day right around the corner, the dating apps and sites will be super busy. Why? Scientific studies have found that people are happier and more active in the summer months. Maybe we give Vitamin D a round of applause?
So, here’s my recommendations to make your summer dating skyrocket:
1. Lose the beard
I feel like I’m walking on thin ice with this one. It’s hot out—let your face breathe. Plus, guys, it’s one of the top things women say to me as a dating coach: Please, no men with facial hair. Why? Sometimes it just looks sloppy and maybe we want to kiss you!
2. Take a self-defense class
Ok, guys, if you’re mad at me for #1, here you go. Everyone should know self-defense and guess what? The classes are full of women (kind of like yoga!).
3. Update your photo and bio
Get rid of that primary photo that’s been sitting on Bumble or Match forever. And that profile you’ve had for months/years? Adios! My client Melissa and I were looking at a potential great date for her yesterday on Hinge and the man said he couldn’t wait for quarantine to end. Ok, where has he been? Does he ever check this site he’s paying for?
4. Meet quickly or stop messaging
During a coaching call yesterday with a client, there was a string of messages dating back to March, talking about basically the weather. OMG. Remember that Stanford study I talk about? It says from the time of your first message to your first date, no more than 5 days should have passed. Or, statistically there is zero chance of the in-person date ever occurring.
5. Refresh your wardrobe
That doesn’t mean break the bank. A little retail therapy goes far and will boost your self-confidence. And while you are at it, have a friend snap a photo of you in that cute new sundress—and post it!
6. BONUS TIP: Have a strategy.
You have a strategy when you play golf. Tennis. Work. So, you’ve been on Bumble for 2 years. Ok, time to say goodbye and try a new site. And, you need to work the site. Nope, not full-time. How about a simple goal of 20 minutes 3-4 times each week—and no just looking. Set a goal. I must message 5 men/women. (Yes, ladies, men love when you reach out first). Hopping online and looking gets you….nothing. Write a message that is less than 4 sentences, unique, quirky and fun!
When they respond (and you like the response), invite them for a Friday drink or Saturday coffee. Be specific. No “let’s get together sometime”. It’s not too forward; we are all online to meet a great person so go for it!
Need help? You can always schedule that free 15-minute call with me. It’s what I do and what I love.
Happy dating,
Love,
Andrea and Luna (oh, if I hadn’t met my boyfriend online I bet I’d meet him walking Luna by the beach—!!!)
Are you trying to move on from a nasty breakup or a damaging on-again-off-again dynamic? The no-contact rule can be your savior! However, the no-contact rule male psychology can be hard to crack. Does the no-contact rule work on men? Will no contact make him move on or miss you more? What goes on in a man’s mind during no contact?
If these questions have been on your mind since you hit the block button, we’re here to help you. With the help of psychotherapist Dr. Aman Bhonsle (Ph.D., MBA, PGDTA), who specializes in relationship counseling and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, we take a deep dive into how men respond to no contact and all you need to know about it.
The Male Mind During No Contact
The no-contact rule is a post-breakup period where you cut off all contact with your ex, in hopes of trying to move on or even to get them back into your life. If you’re wondering “What goes through a guy’s mind during no contact?”, you might be tempted to contact him to figure out what he’s thinking.
But since that would literally defeat the purpose of the no-contact rule, we’re here to help you out. Speaking on the subject, Dr. Bhonsle says, “While experiencing the no-contact rule after the breakup, the man might go through anger, humiliation, and fear, sometimes all at once. Depending on the time of day, the man could feel any of these individual emotions or all of them together.”
So, if you could get inside the male mind, you’d see that he is agonizing just as much as you are. Want to know more? Let’s dive deeper into the no contact psychology.
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No-Contact Rule Male Psychology – 7 Things To Know
“Is he thinking about me during no contact? That question gave me sleepless nights after I dumped my ex-boyfriend, Caleb. It looked like he couldn’t care less about us not talking,” Jollene told us. “It had been about one week, and I’d often see him laughing around campus. His attitude made me feel like I never mattered much to him. But I tried to focus on my own improvement.
“One day, Caleb’s best friend texted me to give him another chance. That’s when I realized that the male psychology in relationships works a lot differently than I thought. He tried his best to not seem vulnerable, but apparently, he was crushed. That day, Caleb texted me at 2 am asking how he hurt me. That was when I knew he was just running away from his emotions. Of course, I didn’t respond,” she adds.
Do questions like “how does a guy feel when you block him” weigh on your mind? To put your mind at ease about the psychology of a man during no contact, here are 7 components for you. Keep in mind, that while every guy reacts differently after a breakup, these are emotions they most likely will go through at some stage during the process.
1. The humiliation of being cut out
Dr. Bhonsle sheds light on the topic, “What essentially happens is a state of humiliation ensues. He feels like he’s been cast aside, like a bad habit, as if there’s something about him that’s repugnant and repulsive to her. Regardless of what he may or may not have done, no one likes to be treated poorly. Hence, the humiliation of being cut off can hit hard,” he says.
No contact after breakup psychology often revolves around his pride. When it is challenged, he may just put on a hard exterior and appear as though he is on board with your decision and is okay with it. This is one of the vital men vs woman breakup differences that governs the way he feels after the breakup as well as how he deals with those feelings.
Key components of no-contact rule male psychology
2. The bargaining stage
On the male psychology after break up, a Reddit user wrote, “I begged and made an ass of myself, so I would say you have more chance of getting the ex back by ignoring her than by begging. She hated me at the end.” So, one of the stages of no contact for a man is the bargaining stage, wherein:
In a desperate attempt to make amends, a man may say whatever you want to hear at the moment
Since he is unable to deal with the sudden scarcity of communication, he may resort to desperate tactics
You may see a 180-degree shift in his attitude and a readiness to do whatever it takes to win you over again
If you want to see if the no-contact rule is working, the degree of his bargaining stage will be a good indicator. Dr. Bhonsle says, “Immediately after humiliation, some bargaining may ensue in an attempt to crawl back into her life. He may even try to beg his way back into her life by upselling to her and saying things like “I’ll be a changed man”, “I’ll do better” or “I will change for you”. This, in turn, leads to more humiliation, since ‘change’ isn’t that easy to come by.”
3. The no-contact rule male psychology entails anger and establishing stereotypes
The male mind during no contact is fraught with pain and hurt, which often manifest in the form of anger and negativity. Just like everyone else, men start generalizing and putting women into a certain category in their minds after a rough breakup. They’ll start to display worrisome signs of trust issues by saying things like “no woman is trustworthy”.
The degree of anger depends on each individual, but the feeling of anger is something almost every man will experience. Dr. Bhonsle says, “Being at the receiving end of the no-contact rule can also lead to anger and resentment. In the long run, anger can lead to building stereotypes, which will lead to biases. If in the future a new relationship becomes possible, the man may enter into it with biases based on the fact that he was rejected.”
It leads to a vicious cycle of humiliation and rejection,” says Dr. Bhonsle about the dangers of the stereotypical mentality men can resort to. “He might be putting himself into a loop. The next woman might say, ‘He’s a bitter, angry and frustrated individual’, which, in turn, leads to more rejection or even experiencing no contact again. Since dealing with rejection isn’t easy, It then becomes a vicious cycle of suffering,” he explains.
4. A feeling that he has to “prove” his love
The psychology of a man during no contact can also often be shaped by what he has seen around him growing up. On the big screen, the chronicles of depressed, alcoholic, and heartbroken men have been romanticized since forever. So, some men believe that that’s something they must go through to prove their love.
As a result, when you don’t contact him, he looks for ways to woo you again after a breakup. Dr. Bhonsle says, “A lot of movies show men putting themselves through turmoil because of a woman. So, a lot of men may start believing that going through turmoil is a part of the process of being a man as if it’s a way to prove how authentic their love is.”
Explaining how this flawed philosophy almost never works, he adds, “It’s actually quite pathetic to grovel and not move on because you believe that’s what you need to go through. Just because it’s in the movies doesn’t legitimize it, it just popularizes a damaging notion. Your chances of recovery are hurt by that kind of destructive and self-pity-filled behavior.”
5. The fear of loneliness and losing love
Does no contact work to get him back? A Reddit user wrote, “After the breakup, I was OVER THE TOP with texting “are we still friends? Do you want to work on our issues? Are we seeing other people now? What is our status? Answer me pleeeeeeease!” This is precisely the loneliness stage, wherein:
No contact rule for guys serves as a reality check on what their life might look like without you
The realization sets in that the no-contact rule isn’t a gimmick employed by you for a couple of days
A sudden panic along the lines of “Why am I still single? I’m going to die alone” may take hold
At this stage, the male mind during no contact is gripped by the fear of the unknown and a desire to gravitate toward the familiar. “Once the fear kicks in, it can lead to some pretty bad decision making in terms of self-respect. By giving a person what they want only to withdraw its availability, a scarcity mindset will kick in and they’ll start acting in desperation,” says Dr. Bhonsle.
6. Experiencing depression
Understandably, the male mind after no contact goes through a mourning period. A Reddit user wrote, “We all torture ourselves with this obsession over the ex, when our goal should be working on ourselves, grieving the relationship and healing.” As he said, this stage of no contact for a man is all about grieving the relationship, which means grappling with self-pity/sadness/depression.
Arguing that the use of the no-contact rule can be disrespectful/hurtful, Dr. Bhonsle says, “You can distance yourself from someone without being disrespectful. The ideal way to do it is to not ghost the person and disappear in the wind. You could say, “I’m no longer interested in continuing our association and I want to move on.” The more direct you are, the easier it is for the man to also lick his wounds and move on. However long that takes,” he adds.
How does the no-contact rule affect a man? In his stubbornness, he might just end up using the no-contact rule himself. This final stage might be due to multiple reasons:
Perhaps he has moved on and does not wish to communicate with you further
Or he has come to the conclusion that you’re not a good fit for him
Dr. Bhonsle says, “We disassociate with someone because we deem them to be a threat to our way of life. Perhaps, he realized that she was bad-mouthing him, manipulating him, gaslighting in the relationship, or just being nasty.” In the psychology of no contact on a male dumper, you might often see him using this tactic. Once he’s made his mind up, the no contact from your end will be retaliated by no contact from his end as well. A game of cat and mouse, so to speak.”
If you’ve been using male psychology to get an ex-boyfriend back, this is the stage where you should give up. The distance, the pain, and angst caused by the no-contact period has made him see that he’s better off without this relationship.
That’s especially the case when he has already crossed the bargaining and the “fear of dying alone” stages. Now, he may either work on self-improvement or let the grief dictate his behavior. Which option he pursues depends on his personality and perseverance. Once he begins to heal, he starts to pick up the pieces, rebuild his life, and move forward.
How Does The No-Contact Rule Work On Men?
Now that we’ve broken down the no-contact rule male psychology for you, you know exactly how his mental health might fluctuate, and all the ways in which he may avoid or tackle his issues. But, what next? How should you cope with the breakup? Should you move on or give it another shot? Let’s get you some answers so you can get your beauty sleep again.
Scenario 1: He wants you back
The 30 day no-contact rule male psychology works in surprising ways. It can lead to you both realizing each other’s value. Taking some space might actually lead to an emotional connection. After all, there are types of breakups that get back together.
If you’re wondering what percentage of breakups get back together and sustain that relationship, here’s some data for you. Studies point out that 15% of people actually won their ex back, while 14% got back together just to break up again, and 70% never reconnected at all with their exes.
So, there’s a possibility that he might want to come back to the good relationship. In such cases, what’s the first thing that you should do? Be honest with yourself and ask yourself these important questions:
Keep your closed ones in the loop instead of keeping it a secret
Imagine yourself as a third party (would you advise your bestie to get back?)
Go through a trial run to test the success of the reconciliation with your ex
Take things VERY slow. Imagine your relationship to be snail
Don’t bring up issues of the past; consider this romance as a clean slate
Scenario 2: He wants to move on
My friend Sarah told me, “I broke the no contact and he replied. But, his response caught me off guard. He told me to lose his number. I couldn’t believe that he told me not to contact him again.” Hence, there’s a possibility that he might not want to move on. In such cases, you might end up questioning if you were good enough.
Counselor Ridhi Golechha previously told Bonobology, “One of the most common self-sabotaging behaviors is holding yourself responsible for everything. To deal with the breakup, practice self-forgiveness and self-compassion. The more you forgive yourself, the more you are at peace. You need to look at the two sides of the coin, where you acknowledge your mistake along with the need for you to move on.
“There is nothing wrong with you if you are struggling to get over someone. Without hating yourself, allow your thoughts to come and go like clouds. Break out from the pattern of self-judgment. Know who you are. Celebrate yourself for the person you are.” Here are some more handy tips on how to let go of a long-term relationship:
One way to heal is to come out of the denial stage and see things as they are
Write down facts about how this relationship has altered your equation with yourself
Avoid drowning yourself in drugs/alcohol/cigarettes to ease your current situation
Opt for healthier coping mechanisms like performing better in your work/developing new hobbies
Seek professional support and lean on trustworthy people for support
Learn the lesson that your self-respect has to be stronger than your feelings
The healing process will happen naturally, in its own sweet time; don’t force anything
Key Pointers
The 30 day no-contact rule male psychology works in complex ways
He may feel like getting you back
You may also notice signs your ex is in a rebound relationship
The best thing is both will get the space to process the relationship
He might stalk you on social media/read old text messages
Finally, the no-contact rule male psychology can be a complex assembly of emotions that even the man will have a hard time understanding. The lack of closure is what really gets to most since it’s troubling to not know the reasons behind the sudden discontinuation of contact. Now that you have a better idea of how men respond to no contact, hopefully, you have put to rest any questions that were on your mind.
FAQs
1. Will no contact make a man move on?
While making a man move on is definitely one of the components of male psychology during no contact, there are also plenty of other steps/emotions he will feel and most likely get fixated upon. Chances are, the hurt and confusion you cause him by suddenly disappearing will stunt his moving on process.
2. Does no contact work on a stubborn man?
A stubborn man may be harder to crack, and he may initially put up a nonchalant display as though your absence doesn’t bother him, there will come a time when it eventually will. How he chooses to act on those feelings/display them is entirely up to him.
3. Will no contact work if he lost feelings?
If your ex has completely lost feelings for you, the chances of the no-contact rule working are slimmer than its usual high success rate. If he starts to frantically contact you after a few weeks or maybe even a few months of cutting out all communication with him, there’s a big chance that he may be pining for you.
Let him try to communicate with you, and when the time is right, ask him what he thinks is going on in his mind. If the period of no contact has done you both any good, you’ll be able to have a conversation about it with more clarity. However, if the no-contact rule does not work in this scenario, it’s a sign you need to move on with your life as well.
4. How does the no-contact rule affect a man?
The no contact psychology works in stages. When you block him for the first time, he will feel shocked/humiliated. He might put on a hard exterior, even though he’s dying inside. But he won’t be able to pretend for a long period. Then, he will give mixed signals to test you. He might even come to the other side and use reverse psychology on you. Also remember, the psychology of no contact on male dumper works differently.
Every year, I take a group of students to Amsterdam for a course on sex and culture. As part of this class, we visit the Sex Museum, which attracts hundreds of thousands of visitors annually. It provides an opportunity to explore how sexuality has evolved and changed throughout the ages. Each time I go, I’m always struck by how little sex has changed. For example, BDSM and fetishes, threesomes and orgies, oral and anal sex—heck, even tentacle porn—have captured the erotic imagination for centuries. We have dildos that date back to the Stone Age and condoms that date back to the 1600s. We even have guidebooks like the Kama Sutra that date back thousands of years and detail hundreds of different sexual positions. For as long as humans have been having sex, they’ve been highly creative—and often pretty kinky. That said, while there are a lot of common threads when looking at human sexual practices over time, there are obviously a lot of differences as well. So, let’s look at some of the major ways sexual behavior has evolved over the last century or so. We’ll focus on the last 100 years here because this marks an era of revolutionary change in our sex lives, owing to various technological and medical advances, along with loosening cultural constraints.
Sex is Safer Than Ever in Many Ways
One of the most significant changes that have occurred in our sex lives recently is the growing development and accessibility of highly effective safer-sex tools. This started in the 1940s with the widespread use of penicillin to treat syphilis and the introduction of hormonal birth control in the 1950s. We often hear about the pill as the driver of the subsequent “sexual revolution” in the 1960s and 70s, but the advent of effective antibiotic treatments for bacterial STIs was a noted contributor to this as well. Today, we have even more tools than ever to prevent unintended pregnancy and STIs. There are dozens of contraceptives currently available, with hormonal variants (including pills, implants, and shots) offering more than 99% protection with perfect use. On the STI front, bacterial STIs can still be effectively treated with antibiotics (although, admittedly, there is growing concern about antibiotic resistance); we have vaccines to prevent HPV and hepatitis and PrEP to provide high levels of protection against HIV. While there is regional and cross-cultural variability in the availability of these tools (owing to things like local laws and insurance coverage), we have more tools available than ever to protect our sexual health, which has had the net effect of making many people more comfortable and confident in exploring their sexuality.
Porn Has Never Been More Accessible
Porn has changed with the advent of each new technology, from the printing press to the development of photography to the invention of film. In the last century, the format of pornography has shifted from being more photo-based to more film-based. Seeing a pornographic film actually used to be a rarity—and in the early days, it was often a social experience. For example, in the first half of the 1900s, if you saw a porn video, it was probably at a clandestine screening of a “stag film” in a room full of men. These were films made by men, for men, and shown in secret gatherings. Following this, the “porn chic” era of the 1970s brought people to cinemas to watch pornographic films with a plot (think Deep Throat). However, it wasn’t until VCRs became widely available and affordable that porn started to retreat into a more private and solitary experience that occurred at home. And then computers, the internet, and smartphones came along, forever changing how we access porn. As a result, it’s easier to find porn than ever before, and there’s now an endless supply of it. In the span of less than 100 years, pornographic videos went from being a rare and shared social experience for men to a situation where anyone can now have access to the world’s largest collection of porn in the palm of their hand that they can view on demand.
Sexual Attitudes are the Most Liberal on Record
One of the major changes in sexual behavior we’ve seen over the last century is that a growing proportion of the sex people are having is occurring outside the context of committed romantic relationships. Data show a rise in the number of people having casual sex, hookups, and friends with benefits compared to decades past. There is one caveat to this, which is that the youngest generation today (Gen Z) seems to be having less casual sex—and less sex in general. But that’s a story for another article. That said, a big part of the reason why casual sex grew is because sexual attitudes, in general, have become more liberal. For example, within the last 20 years alone, the percentage of American adults who think that sex outside of marriage is morally acceptable has climbed from 53% to 76%. And that’s just one of many changes in sexual attitudes. For instance, public opinion polls in the United States indicate that record majority numbers now think that same-sex relationships, divorce, having kids outside of marriage, and birth control are morally acceptable. These shifts in public opinion have paved the way for people to be more open about their sexual identities and to pursue the types of sexual and romantic relationships that are right for them.
Technology is Giving Us New Ways to Explore Our Sexuality
Finally, one other key way sex has changed in the last 100 years has to do with various technologies that have been introduced. For example, prior to the internet and the advent of dating apps, most people met their sexual and romantic partners in person. They were people you met out in public, or friends or family introduced them. Nowadays, the single most common way people are meeting their partners is online—and this seems to be changing the types of relationships we’re developing. For instance, as online dating has increased in popularity, more people have entered into interracial relationships and long-distance relationships. Online dating simply creates a more diverse dating pool. Technology is also changing how we experience sexual pleasure. Sex toys have gone high-tech, offering new sensations. This includes toys that can be controlled remotely, toys that provide customizable vibration (and even temperature), as well as toys that synch to virtual reality porn and let you feel what you see. Long gone are the days of basic dildos and one-speed vibrators. We now have toys for every hole—and every goal.
Takeaways
In some ways, sex hasn’t changed all that much over the years. Our fantasies and desires, our sexual positions, and even our kinks are things that have a very long and rich history. Novelty and creativity have been the hallmarks of human sexuality for centuries. At the same time, however, human sexual expression has changed considerably, perhaps no more so than during the last 100 years. From the 20th century into the 21st, there has been remarkable change in societal attitudes toward sex, as well as technological and medical innovations of great import to our sexual health and pleasure. When it comes to sex, we are always innovating, and attitudes are constantly changing. We can’t say for sure what the future will hold, but we know that sexual expression will continue to evolve.
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Marriage is not merely a contractual agreement or a societal expectation. It is a divine covenant—a merging of two souls destined to walk together through life’s joys and trials. God created marriage to be a source of comfort, support, and friendship from the beginning. The book of Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” This union is meant to establish a harmonic bond, a safe haven where couples may find comfort in each other’s company.
In the realm of mental health, marriage plays a pivotal role. It has the power to nurture and uplift, providing a sense of emotional security and stability. A loving and supportive spouse can serve as a pillar of strength during times of adversity, offering a listening ear, a comforting embrace, and words of encouragement. The presence of a loving spouse can reduce stress, worry, and feelings of loneliness, creating an atmosphere that promotes excellent mental health.
However, the problems that come with marriage can significantly influence the couple’s mental health. The complications of combining two lives, as well as different expectations and unavoidable disputes, can have a negative impact on emotional and mental health. Unresolved disagreements, a lack of efficient communication, or poor relationship dynamics can lead to emotions of irritation, anxiety, and even despair.
Yet, even amid these challenges, marriage can be a catalyst for growth and healing. It provides an opportunity for individuals to confront their own vulnerabilities and insecurities, fostering personal development and self-awareness. As we navigate the intricacies of marriage, we are confronted with our own flaws, learning to extend grace, forgiveness, and patience toward our spouse and ourselves.
The foundation of a healthy marriage rests upon the principles of love, respect, and mutual understanding. Ephesians 5:25 reminds us, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it…” Love becomes the guiding force, empowering spouses to empathize, support, and uplift one another in times of need.
Moreover, the role of faith cannot be underestimated in the context of marriage and mental health. Placing our trust in God and surrendering our struggles to Him can bring peace, wisdom, and guidance. Philippians 4:6-7 reassures us, “Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
In the pursuit of sound mental health within marriage, open communication and mutual support are essential. The ability to express one’s feelings, fears, and struggles without fear of judgment or rejection cultivates an environment of trust and emotional safety. Seeking professional help, when needed, is not a sign of weakness but a proactive step towards healing and growth.
As we continue on this journey of exploring the impact of marriage on mental health, let us remember that we are not alone. God is present, walking alongside us, providing the strength and wisdom we need. Let us strive to cultivate a marriage that promotes emotional well-being, supporting and uplifting our spouses in their journey toward wholeness.
The Importance of Mental Health in Marriage
Mental health encompasses our thoughts, emotions, and overall psychological well-being. It influences how we perceive ourselves, our spouse, and the world around us. It shapes our ability to cope with stress, navigate conflicts, and cultivate a loving and supportive atmosphere within the sacred bond of marriage.
Proverbs 4:23 reminds us, “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” Our mental well-being is closely intertwined with the condition of our hearts, affecting our attitudes, perceptions, and interactions within the marriage relationship.
When spouses prioritize their mental health, they are better equipped to face the inevitable challenges that arise in marriage. The complexities of daily life, responsibilities, and external pressures can take a toll on our mental well-being. By tending to our mental health, we are nurturing the very essence of who we are, allowing us to bring our best selves into the marriage.
When individuals neglect their mental health, it can lead to a myriad of challenges within the marriage. Unresolved emotional wounds, untreated anxiety or depression, and unchecked stress can strain the relationship, hindering effective communication and emotional connection. Couples must recognize the importance of mental health and actively work towards its preservation.
Seeking God’s Guidance in Navigating Mental Health Challenges
In times of distress, when our hearts are heavy and our minds are weary, we can seek God’s guidance and find comfort and wisdom in His Word.
Prayer is a powerful tool that connects us directly to the heart of God. Amid mental health challenges within marriage, we can come together as spouses, hand in hand, and pour out our burdens, fears, and struggles before the throne of grace. We are reminded in Matthew 18:20 that “where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” Through joint prayers, we invite God’s presence into our marriage, acknowledging our dependence on Him for strength, healing, and guidance.
In prayer, we can express our deepest emotions, offering both gratitude and petitions. We can lay our burdens at the feet of Jesus, knowing that He cares for us (1 Peter 5:7). We can seek His wisdom and discernment, trusting that He will provide clarity amidst confusion. Together, we can intercede for one another, lifting up our spouse’s mental well-being to the One who knows and understands every need.
The Bible, God’s Living Word, is a treasure trove of comfort, guidance, and wisdom. As we navigate mental health challenges within marriage, we can turn to the Scriptures for reassurance and strength. Psalm 119:105 says, “Thy word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path.” By immersing ourselves in God’s Word, we gain perspective and insight. The Psalms, for example, express a wide range of emotions and can provide solace and encouragement in times of distress. Proverbs offers practical wisdom for navigating the complexities of life and relationships. The teachings of Jesus in the Gospels remind us of His compassion, love, and healing power.
In the journey of navigating mental health challenges within marriage, seeking godly counsel and support from trusted individuals can be invaluable. Proverbs 11:14 reminds us, “Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” This may involve seeking guidance from pastors, spiritual mentors, or licensed Christian counselors who can provide biblical insights and practical tools to help us navigate the complexities of mental health challenges.
In addition to professional guidance, being part of a community of believers can offer a sense of belonging and support (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). By connecting with others who share our faith journey, we can find encouragement, empathy, and understanding. Support groups, prayer circles, or even engaging in open conversations with trusted friends can create a space where we can share our struggles, receive prayer, and gain perspective.
During mental health challenges within marriage, it is essential to remember that God is sovereign and His timing is perfect. Even when we cannot fully comprehend the reasons behind our struggles, we can trust in His unfailing love and faithfulness. Romans 8:28 assures us that “all things work together for good to them that love God.” God can use our trials to shape us, strengthen our faith, and bring about beauty from ashes.
Therefore, while seeking God’s guidance, we must exercise patience and trust in His timing. Some challenges may require ongoing perseverance and a journey of healing. In these moments, we can draw comfort from Isaiah 40:31, which promises that ” But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.” By surrendering our timeline to God and aligning our hearts with His purposes, we can find peace in knowing that He is working all things for our ultimate good.
Supporting Each Other’s Mental Health
Supporting each other’s mental health is an essential aspect of a thriving and God-honoring marriage. As spouses, we have the privilege and responsibility to create a safe and nurturing environment where both partners can flourish emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
One of the foundational pillars of supporting each other’s mental health is open communication and active listening. Proverbs 18:13 says, “He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him.” By creating a space where both partners feel heard and valued, we can foster an environment where thoughts, feelings, and concerns can be openly shared without fear of judgment or rejection.
Active listening involves more than just hearing the words spoken—it requires attentiveness, empathy, and a willingness to truly understand the other person’s perspective. It means setting aside our own preconceived notions and giving our full presence to our spouse. Through active listening, we validate their experiences and emotions, fostering a sense of emotional connection and trust.
Supporting each other’s mental health requires a proactive approach to building a strong foundation for emotional well-being in our marriage. Here are two key areas to focus on:
1. Prioritizing Self-Care
2. Prioritizing Emotional Well-being
Caring for ourselves is not a selfish act but rather an act of stewardship of the bodies and minds God has given us. Jesus reminds us in Mark 12:31 to “love thy neighbor as thyself.” It is difficult to pour into our spouse’s mental health if we neglect our own.
Prioritizing self-care involves engaging in activities that bring us joy, rest, and rejuvenation. It means setting healthy boundaries, managing stress, and practicing self-compassion. By taking care of ourselves, we model the importance of self-care to our spouse and create an atmosphere where both partners can thrive emotionally and mentally.
Our relationship with God also serves as the cornerstone of our emotional and mental well-being. Psalm 62:8 encourages us to “trust in him at all times; ye people, pour out your heart before him: God is a refuge for us.” By cultivating a deep and intimate connection with our Heavenly Father, we find solace, guidance, and strength to navigate life’s challenges.
Nurturing our relationship with God involves spending time in prayer, studying His Word, and seeking His guidance in every aspect of our lives. It means surrendering our anxieties, fears, and burdens to Him, trusting in His divine wisdom and perfect plan. By drawing close to God individually and as a couple, we create a spiritual foundation that sustains and supports our mental health journey.
Supporting each other’s mental health is a sacred responsibility within marriage. Through open communication, active listening, encouragement of professional help, and the cultivation of a strong foundation for mental health, we can create an environment where both partners thrive emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. By prioritizing self-care and nurturing our relationship with God, we can journey together, hand in hand, towards greater emotional well-being and a deeper connection with one another and with our Creator.
Emmanuel Abimbola is a creative freelance writer, blogger, and web designer. He is a devout Christian with an uncompromising faith who hails from Ondo State in Nigeria, West Africa. As a lover of kids, Emmanuel runs a small elementary school in Arigidi, Nigeria.
When you think of the word ‘mature’, do you think of slightly weathered skin, strands of white hair, and muted clothes? Or do you picture a person with a gentle demeanor behaving responsibly, irrespective of their age? Either way, you are not wrong. Our analysis of what a mature woman wants in a relationship depends on both of these perceptions.
What mature women want in a relationship is not very different from what any mature person would want from their romantic partner. Since their outlook toward life is alike, and the importance they give to core values hits a match, both men and women who are mature, more or less, find similar things attractive in a potential partner and a relationship.
First, let us first take a look at the signs of a mature woman. Who is she? How can you tell if a woman is mature? How does a mature woman behave in a relationship? Once you’re able to tell the difference between the ones who are actually emotionally honest and mature and the ones who just “seem” to be so, the next step is to figure out what they want from relationships.
Who Is Considered A Mature Woman?
It is not uncommon for us to hear sentences like, “She is quite mature for her age”, or, “He is over 50, but so immature!” Maturity, technically, refers to being physically fully developed. This is why we use it for a plant, a fruit, a cat, as much as for people. But we have come to understand maturity not just in regards to physical growth but also in mental and emotional growth.
It is usually understood that a mature woman is independent and confident about what she wants from a relationship. She understands the nuances of a great relationship. She knows the difference between compromising on her values and being accommodating to others. She is equipped with the emotional maturity to be adept at conflict resolution strategies. She is forthcoming when it comes to sharing her dreams, time, space, and future plans but she is not dependent on someone else to fulfill them for her. She knows that finding balance between independence and a healthy relationship is what she needs to do.
This was made clear from two different studies that focused on dating for older women vs dating for younger women. A study, Dating for Older Women: Experiences and Meanings of Dating in Later Life, published in the Journal of Women and Aging, found that older women’s attitudes toward dating were directed more toward their own needs. Women mentioned honestly that fun and companionship with independence for oneself were the strongest factors when considering what they wanted.
In contrast, a different study published as What Do Women Want? A Qualitative Study of Dating that interviewed women in their 20s pointed at starkly different motivations for dating. For the younger women, the reasons were more focused on the other person than their own needs. In addition, it is noticeable in this study that only 8 out of 45 women in their 20s listed maturity as a preferable trait in their partner. Not everyone’s looking for maturity, it seems.
What Are The Characteristics Of A Mature Woman?
So, who should be considered a mature woman? And does age play a role here? Age does help us define maturity as seen in these two studies. Our expectations of what kind of emotional quotient a physically mature or a person older in age should have dictate our idea of a person mature in their attitude. All in all, the signs of maturity in a woman usually include the following points:
A mature woman knows her strengths and utilizes them for personal growth. They know their weaknesses and actively work on them
They do not intentionally intend to hurt another person and are usually emotionally honest about their intentions and needs
They’re self-aware and know they’re responsible for their actions
They recognize what it means to cultivate a relationship with a person and accompany it with empathy, respect, and honesty
A mature person is well-mannered and poised
They are goal-driven, and have a fair idea of what it’s going to take for them to get what they want
They respect differences, focus on self-improvement, aren’t afraid of commitment, and are usually good listeners
They approach life with a positive mindset and accept the things they are not in control of
In a nutshell: imagine someone who you can never associate the words “childish behavior” with, who you know will never play any mind games, who know how to put in the work, and don’t jeopardize their relationships or prospects based on impulses. With that out of the way, let’s take a look at what a mature woman wants in a relationship.
23 Things Mature Women Want In Relationships
There couldn’t be a better way to put what mature women want in a relationship than as stated in the aforementioned study. “These women know the type of person with whom they enjoy spending time, and they know how they want to be treated. This is different from when they were adolescents and young adults in part because they feel that they know themselves better now. (…) Finding a man who is interesting with whom they can go out and have fun and from whom they can be treated with kindness and respect are the goals voiced in these interviews.”
If you are wondering if it is difficult finding or impressing a mature woman, or even, romancing a mature woman, we think it depends on your own level of maturity. Understanding what mature women want in a relationship is not rocket science, and once you’ve started dating women who are a bit more mature than others, you’ll realize what it is you must do differently. Let us pick simple and recognizable things that mature women want in a relationship:
1. A relationship free of drama – Signs of a mature woman
Are you looking for signs you are dating a mature woman? The more easy and fun your relationship feels, the more mature your partner is. A mature woman wants to stay away from unnecessary drama. She asks that healthy relationship boundaries be laid out, she promises to respect them and expects them to be followed.
One study found that companionship and fun were the primary motivations older women had for dating. Most women were not interested in marriage or remarriage, wanting to have independence over their life. One participant in the study, Peggy, says almost nonchalantly, “I’ve dated a lot of nice guys. It’s fun. It’s nice to have somebody to go out with.”
Peggy’s attitude puts it in perspective. What a mature woman wants in a relationship, mature in age or attitude, is an easy fun drama free companionship, even if it’s not necessarily a serious relationship. To the guy’s mind, all of this sounds absolutely perfect, doesn’t it? When pondering over how to impress a mature woman, keep the following things in mind:
They’re not the kind who play emotional games, they greatly appreciate honesty
Even if misunderstandings arise, they do their best to resolve them without impulsively reacting
They make sure to let the other partner know exactly what they’re looking for to avoid miscommunication
They’re good at addressing concerns and do not opt to “sweep it under the rug
2. A mature woman wants sincere effective communication
Since she’s good at communicating her feelings in uncomplicated words, a drama-free relationship is a real possibility. She understands that a relationship cannot thrive without communication, since she has probably experienced breakups and knows what the usual suspects are. It is not only essential to be on the same page with her partner regarding countless things in a relationship, but it is also directly responsible for resolving issues and conflicts.
She likes a man who knows how to recognize his emotions and can communicate them effectively, instead of one who reacts immediately to stimuli. She also wants a partner who can nurture them in a safe space to allow each of them to express their emotions freely. If she finds herself lacking, she’s quick to prioritize it and work on improving communication in the relationship.
3. She wants a partner she can talk to
“There were concerns of being bored (…) or being forced to talk about things in which they had no interest, especially when it came to love relationships at the right time. They were not willing to do those things just for the sake of having a date,” the Dating For Older Women study says.
While the last point was about the ability to communicate complaints, desires, and address conflicts, this one is about the ability to share conversations with someone, especially loved ones. Mature women look for interesting conversations in relationships, irrespective of the topic or the age group. They want to be able to connect with their partners on a deeper level and share their innermost thoughts and feelings.
These conversations may include discussing future goals, offering encouragement, or reminiscing about their childhood. It helps if both partners share similar interests or hobbies, but this doesn’t mean that differences always hinder conversation. If you’re in love with a mature woman who you have nothing in common with, just try being a good listener and ask her about the things she’s interested in. Just avoid the foolish conversations about the very-niche and very-new TikTok trend.
What a mature woman wants in a relationship is a trustworthy partner. She would like to be able to depend on him, just like she can on good friends. Are you thinking of sharing household duties and bigger responsibilities? Yes! That too. But also, someone who can simply keep a secret. She wants a reliable person, someone who has her back.
Someone who is trying their luck at impressing a mature woman should know that she wants an emotionally mature person by her side. He should understand the various components of trust in a relationship. Someone, who knows that irrespective of the temporary status of their relationship – a fight, a disagreement – all that aside, they are a team. When it comes to what a mature woman wants in a relationship, keep the following in mind:
She doesn’t mind games, manipulation, or someone who is not self-assured (which eventually leads to insecurity and trust issues)
Jealousy, trust issues, and anger issues can not be completely avoided, but a mature girl needs someone who is actively on top of such issues
She won’t settle for the big promises or just butterflies in her stomach, she needs to be able to see through a person’s actions that they’re trustworthy
She appreciates a partner who knows how to establish trust in a relationship and knows how to maintain it
5. She craves honesty – Mature woman characteristic
Whether you’re married to a mature woman or can’t stop dreaming about her, what she would want is complete honesty from you. To her, it is not a far-fetched expectation (as it shouldn’t be). We are not limiting our reference to emotional cheating, physical or financial infidelity, and the like. Even white lies in relationships can be a turn-off for a mature woman.
That her partner cannot tell her the truth is disrespectful to her, especially since she doesn’t like the presumption that she could not handle the truth, as though she’s a little girl. If the woman you are with hates it when you lie to try to spare her feelings, you can take it as one of the signs you are dating a mature woman.
Honest, clear communication, which is so foundational for a mature relationship, is possible when partners exhibit deep trust in each other. This trust cannot be built if partners cannot freely express their deepest thoughts. A commitment to building a safe space for communication is what a mature woman wants in a relationship.
She approaches tough conversations with the same attitude toward the other person that she approaches regular conversations with, and she’d appreciate the same in return. Unless a non-judgmental space is established, you’re not really going to be able to impress a mature woman. How can you, if she’s always worried about what you think of her?
7. A mature woman likes a kind and humble man
A humble man is extremely attractive to a mature woman in a relationship. After all, humility shows that a man is not a self-centered Mr. Know-It-All. It shows that he can accept his mistakes and improve, instead of being forever lost in his own ego (the kind of men that popular dating sites seem to be overcrowded with). He is willing to listen to the opinion of others. He can put others’ interests before his own.
Humility and selflessness naturally make a man kind. Did you know, the Ideal Partner Survey, a collaboration between Clue, the University of Göttingen, and MyONE Condoms, interviewed 64,000 women and found that 90% of them rated kindness as the most desirable quality in a man. 3,800 women interviewed in the survey were ages 40 and above. With a 90% weightage, it can suffice that what mature women want in a relationship are kindness and humility. Here’s exactly what a mature woman wants in a relationship, especially from her partner:
A mature person prioritises honesty, kindness, empathy, respect, and manners. A loving partner who offers true companionship instead of someone who plays emotional games
Even if it’s not a serious relationship, they always appreciate honesty and someone who’s capable of delivering
She appreciates a partner who has a goal, knows the direction their life is taking them in, and is humble
8. She wants to nurture a multidimensional idea of physical intimacy
If you are romancing a mature woman, you would have noticed that she is not wound up on a uni-dimensional idea of intimacy, which is limited to sexual intercourse. Her focus is on increasing physical intimacy which can be shared in many more ways than just under the sheets.
Holding hands, engaging in physical ways of recreation with her partner, giving a massage, a surprise kiss, rubbing the back, sitting closely, looking in the eye when talking, and putting the phone away when listening are various ways through which mature people ensure that they remain physically intimate with their partner. This is what mature women want in a relationship.
That, of course, is a two-way street. Such women are primarily interested in people who they know will treat them the same way, have a pure heart and don’t play games with someone’s feelings. It’s not that difficult, really.
A mature woman wants the space to grow and pursue her interests and passions
9. She wants to nurture other forms of intimacy
When we think of intimacy, we mostly think of its physical aspect. But there are other dimensions to feeling intimate with a significant other. Emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and experiential are some of the other domains of feeling intimate with your partner. A mature woman is aware of this and expects to explore these with equal dedication.
She wants to travel together, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, engage in common hobbies, and learn something new with her partner to connect with them at a deeper level. Each of these serves to foster various types of intimacy. When you see a woman engaging with you on such a level, it’s safe to say that you’re witnessing the signs of maturity in a woman.
A mature person may value spiritual, emotional, and intellectual intimacy more than the obvious physical form of intimacy
To a mature person, feeling love doesn’t necessarily include the trivial niceties people associate with a person’s love life. Instead, you might see her trying to connect on a deeper level
A mature woman’s mantra, when it comes to love, usually involves not wasting any time and building a connection. Try to show her that you’re willing to find a connection with her as well
10. Mature woman in a relationship wants space to grow
Space for personal growth is what a mature woman wants in a relationship. Along with that, she certainly wouldn’t mind a little extra helping of motivation to be better. A partner and a relationship that encourages you to nurture your passion, hone your skills, work on your issues, and be better is a dream for many. 86.5% of the women interviewed by the Ideal Partner Survey, picked supportiveness among the most desirable qualities in a potential partner.
A mature woman cannot compromise on this requirement. She is conscious of a toxic living environment and will neither tolerate insincere flattery nor spiteful criticism. She wants to be in an honest relationship with someone who doesn’t shy from appreciating her strengths and gently underlining her shortcomings so that she can work on herself. She wants a self-assured partner, who’s capable of offering emotional support when need be.
11. She wants to learn something new
This willingness to improve comes from easily recognizable mature woman characteristics – self-confidence and a sense of security. Only a person who is comfortable in their skin and is proud and confident looks to improve themselves and learn new things.
Not only is an older woman passively open to learning new things, but she is also willing to add to her arsenal of skill-set and qualities. A partner who can provide her with something aspirational is an extremely appealing prospect to her. A philosophy worth imbibing, a quality worth emulating, a fun quirk worth borrowing – this is what mature women want in a relationship.
12. She wants someone who can take responsibility for their actions
Have you ever snapped at your partner for a tiny issue, only to realize later that the issue was created due to an oversight from your end? Like locking yourself out, losing your wallet or keys, or forgetting an appointment. Did you have the courage to apologize when you found out that the keys were in your bag, the appointment noted in your diary?
Being able to take responsibility for yourself is a foundational quality one should never compromise on in a mature relationship. No wonder an older woman looks for a man who accepts his mistakes, takes responsibility for his actions, commits to improvement, and follows up on the promises he makes.
13. She wants to be able to respect her partner
Love is a dynamic emotion forever changing. It is a conscious act. The act of love. On the other hand, respect is an underlying constant that is the basis of a relationship filled with love. A mature woman is not ignorant of these subtle differences. She knows that love becomes possible when a person respects their partner for who they are.
What an older woman wants in a relationship is a partner who is worth her respect. A mature woman knows that she may respect him for his intelligence, his capacity for love and empathy, the way he carries himself, his life journey, his charitable nature, his love for animals, his future goals, or any other value or quality. These are just a few examples and not an exhaustive list. Really, what a mature woman wants in a relationship is to be able to look up to the person she is with.
Respect is the cornerstone of any good relationship, and a high-quality person acknowledges that fact
A mature person values respect in a relationship as much as love
She wants to be able to look up to the person she’s with and admire them
To be a respectable person, a person needs to conduct themselves with integrity and treat others around them with respect
14. She wants to feel respected by her partner
Newsflash: a woman prefers feeling respected in her relationship. Who would’ve thought, right? Jokes aside, feeling respected for the qualities a person possesses is a critical emotional need. A woman when respected by her partner is treated as an equal. Her judgment and wisdom are valued. Her opinions are sought. Her time and effort are appreciated.
Why wouldn’t a woman want all that in her relationship? An older woman recognizes this. That is why she looks to be valued, appreciated, and respected by her partner. In fact, there’s a strong chance that she bid adieu to some past relationships because of a lack of respect. In fact, It’s not just a thing a woman needs in a relationship, it’s something we all need.
15. A mature woman is not desperate for a relationship
The Dating For Older Women study says, “‘I am not that desperate’ was a chorus repeated time and again.” In the study, a participant, Sally, says, “I thought if a good one came along, then I would be open to it, but not just anything with anybody.”
An older woman doesn’t want to be in a codependent relationship. She wants her personal space and is ready to give her partner his. For this, it is essential that her partner likes his own company and doesn’t entirely rely on her to pass his time.
Some amount of willingness to share time and experiences is not only tolerable but desirable. What she does not like is a relationship in which partners feel the urge to spend every waking moment with each other and anything else makes them feel insecure.
If you think a mature person is just looking to ‘settle down”, think again. In fact, their independent nature allows them to not rush into relationships
What a mature woman wants in a relationship is a steady timeline that feels appropriately paced, instead of making rash decisions
16. She wants someone who has a life of their own
A woman protective of her own time and personal space would naturally love it if her partner also had a life of their own. This would take the pressure off her to be her partner’s only source of companionship. After all, it is unreasonable to expect one person to fulfill all relationship roles.
An older woman understands this and loves it when her partner can have a social life of his own, while she utilizes that time the way she wants to. Even if it’s a serious relationship she’s going for, the ability to maintain a positive relationship while practicing a healthy amount of personal space is a pre-requisite. Plus, such practices also bring novelty to a relationship as the two partners come together with fresh stories and experiences to share with each other. So, keep all the incessant text messages, sending notes, and unending calls far away from the relationship. You don’t want her to be able to say that she’s had to sacrifice good friends for this relationship.
17. She wants someone who understands what is important
To be able to have an objective view of the larger picture is a respectable quality mature people possess. And a mature person appreciates it so much. She wants in her man the ability to separate the essential from the non-essential. The important from the trivial. Far-sightedness from egocentric short-term vision.
What mature women want from a relationship is this clarity. She wants a partner who prioritizes the health and future of the relationship over personal wins in arguments. This quality helps her trust him to make important decisions on their behalf when needed.
A mature person knows that having personal space and prioritizing yourself in a relationship is always important, and she wants someone who understands and agrees with these basic points
Once she knows she is with someone who is able to distinguish the important from the trivial, she will respect the partner a whole lot more
To be able to show her that you understand what’s important in the long run, you must have clear goals, a similar vision of the future, and must not play any mindless games to try and emotionally manipulate the partner
18. She wants a man who is professionally and financially secure
An older woman would not like to waste her time with someone who would be envious of her professional or financial status. An insecure man would compare his success to his partner’s, unable to see how the two of them can work in partnership. This shortsightedness would be a sign he is not trustworthy and is detrimental to the prosperity that the two of them can enjoy together.
Only a man who is mature and possesses financial confidence would allow his partner to flourish and grow. Companionship with a man who is proud of himself and the achievements and success of the woman he is with, no matter how much more or less she earns, is what a mature woman wants in a relationship.
According to NCBI, financial problems are among the top reasons for divorce. A mature person realizes the importance of financial confidence and the ability to have productive conversations about money
A man who is financially insecure and constantly compares his career with hers is usually a red flag for the independent, mature person
Apart from financial confidence, other traits a mature person looks for include a career-driven individual, someone who knows what their goals are and has prospects lined up
19. A mature woman appreciates a man who is secure in bed
Men with conservative ideas around women, desire, and libido are a big turn-off. A mature person wants a partner in bed, not a master (unless that is part of a sexual fetish). If a woman is assertive, active, and vocal about her desires, you should treat these as signs you are dating a mature woman.
A great sexual partnership stems from confidence in oneself, unshakeable trust in the partner, and honest communication. An older woman wants such a partnership. She wants to have a safe space for communication of desires, devoid of any judgment, and definitely not someone going through a mid-life crisis, trying to overcompensate with weird tactics in bed.
20. She wants a man who understands consent
Consent should ideally be such an easy concept to understand, yet so many people fail to prioritize it in their relationships and intimate connections. If you truly want an answer to “How does a mature woman behave in a relationship”, you cannot overlook the role of consent. A mature person doesn’t force their wishes, desires, or body on the other person. They don’t manipulate or pressurize their partner into doing something the partner was unwilling to do.
An older woman, like any person, wants to feel safe and respected in her relationship. She wants her partner to understand the nuances of enthusiastic consent. Be respectful of consent. Observe, listen, ask, and communicate. Do it actively and continually. That is what a mature woman wants in a relationship.
The role of consent doesn’t just end after the first time. Consent is to be secured actively and continually and in clear terms
A mature person appreciates someone who approaches consent in a serious and productive manner
Even if you’re married to a mature woman, it’s important to practice consent, not just in physical terms but wherever it may be required
Signs of a mature woman include flexibility and accommodative nature. Under-confident, insecure people show obstinate tendencies. An older woman would keep herself miles away from a narcissistic boyfriend, a person who is egotistically stubborn about getting his way or proving himself right. Such self-serving behavior proves to be detrimental to any partnership.
An older woman realizes this and makes sure she is with someone who can accept when he has erred or is ready to accommodate the suggestions of others when someone else has a better solution than his. She wants her partner to have the ability to compromise and think of the common good whether an issue arises or not.
22. She wants loyalty
An older woman expects her partner to be loyal to her. Infidelity of all kinds would be unacceptable to her. An older woman understands that cheating is not limited to sexual cheating. Emotional cheating or financial infidelity too are signs of a relationship crisis. She wants a man who understands these nuances.
A great partnership requires active effort by both members. A man who displays loyalty, not only toward his partner but also toward the relationship, would be willing to make the effort or do the work to benefit their partnership. A mature woman wants a man who is committed to this value.
Even if it’s not a serious relationship the mature person is looking for, they’ll often have a clear idea of the ground rules they want to adhere to. If the partner is disrespectful toward the ground rules, it indicates a lack of respect and loyalty
Once a mature person sees that their partner isn’t loyal, re-building the trust becomes an uphill task, and they may move on to better things
A mature woman knows the subtle mannerisms that may point toward a disloyal partner, hence, it doesn’t necessarily have to get to the point of emotional or physical cheating before she deems a person disloyal
23. An older woman is looking for a relationship of equals
It is clear by now that what mature women want in a relationship is a partnership of equals, instead of playing games about who has the upper hand. A sincere appreciation and respect for your partner, valuing their judgment, valuing the relationship, being nice to people and things that are important to your partner, and being a person worthy of respect – these are some of the qualities that appeal to her.
A mature woman would like to practice these values. At the same time, she expects her partner to exhibit the same values in his life. She truly wants a modern relationship of equals. Like we said before, she wants a partnership and not a relationship with a slave or a master.
Key Pointers
Maturity, technically, refers to being physically fully developed. But we have come to understand maturity not just in regards to physical growth but also in mental and emotional growth
When calling a woman “mature” one could refer to an older (in age) woman, as well as any woman displaying maturity in attitude and demeanor
An older woman seeks qualities like honesty, trust, ability to communicate effectively, kindness and humility and loyalty from her partner
An older woman seeks from her relationships a non-judgmental space, a space to pursue interests and passions and an environment that encourages her personal growth
The more easy and fun your relationship feels, the more mature your partner is
In a nutshell, a mature woman wants to be in a relationship with a mature person. She recognizes unnecessary drama from afar and knows that a good relationship is supposed to feel easy, and not like people drifting apart. She is not afraid of putting in the work to nurture her relationship. She is looking for a partner for the sake of companionship and not to fix a broken part of herself. She is not shy about self-love and wants to grow in the relationship everyday.
An older woman’s characteristics are not limited to these. But we are sure you now catch the drift. If you are trying your luck at impressing an older woman, or are already lucky enough to romance a mature woman, try to learn more about what makes a mature relationship and how can one be more mature in relationships.
I picked him up at the airport just before midnight, scruffy and weary after two days of travel. We had been apart for a month, a decision we prayed about and made together. Though I stayed behind, I felt like part of what he was doing. Questions about our commitment to each other never entered in. It’s one of the best things about marrying your best friend.
Follow the hashtag #bestfriend on Instagram and you’ll find over 61 million images including pets, marriage proposals, babies, teenagers, and more pets. A lot of couples describe themselves with the label “best friend” on social media before they marry and on special occasions later on.
It isn’t until life partners live in the pressure cooker of life together that they dig deeper than companionship and cultivate true friendship.
Best friends aren’t born, they’re developed. Treasured friendships usually grow over time and through shared experiences spanning seasons leading to uncommon understanding between two people. Some like to think marriage and friendship are best kept in different beds.
However, marriage between best friends takes both matrimony and friendship to a whole new level. Here are 5 of the best things about marrying your best friend.
1. KNOWING
Be married to the one who knows you best.
Have you ever played the Newlywed Game at a marriage event or small group? Everyone wants to be the couple who knows all the answers about each other. No one wants to be the disconnected partner who can’t remember their lover’s favorite drive-thru order.
Ironically, recalling our favorite comedy and the song we first danced to doesn’t always indicate how good our married life really is. “Knowing” goes way beyond the facts of casual friendship.
The Bible uses the same word for “knowing” each other sexually that it uses to describe the understanding of a person inside a love relationship. “But whoever loves God is known by God,” (1 Corinthians 8:3). To be genuinely loved is to be genuinely known. To be genuinely known is to be genuinely loved.
By learning to have full knowledge of each other, we understand each other. Nowhere else does a relational level of knowing reach the depths of who we are at our core than in living life as partners, including sharing physical intimacy with each other. One of the best things about marrying your best friend is the liberty a couple finds.
The freedom of friendship expresses itself in open communication, cooperative partnership, and yes, unhindered intimacy. It’s so good to be fully known by a best friend who has marriage partner level “clearance.”
2. ACCEPTANCE
Choose to accept the one you love.
The love of a husband for his wife leads to acceptance. As he exercises “agape” love for her, he intentionally turns from other priorities, accepting her, and joining himself to her. This decision to attach comes from a divinely created design to develop a best friendship. With the full acceptance of an intimately known friend, a husband and wife experience certain acceptance.
Acceptance doesn’t come with a guarantee of constant delight, cooperation, or satisfaction. Instead, matrimony purposing to get to the best friend level assures both partner that when the going gets tough, the friend won’t get going. The decision to gut it out through ups and downs demonstrates that the relationship is more than good company; it’s committed to stretch through the seasons.
Honest married people will admit to having had head shaking moments of frustration with their spouse. They may even think back to a “different option” who had best friend potential but didn’t embark on the journey of seasons and years, of highs and lows, to get to the kind of knowing you only know in marriage. But being married to your best friend allows for the benefit of full acceptance across the landscape of feelings.
Being married to your best friend means, “the two will become one flesh,” (Ephesians 5:31). Husband and wife accept one another into one another so that they join their separate lives into a single life. We know they maintain their uniqueness as God created them, but in a mysterious way, being known in one flesh overflows into being accepted in that oneness.
3. TRUST
Believe in the best friend next to you.
When you’re deeply known and totally accepted by the best friend you’re married to, you get to a level of safety you didn’t know you could reach with another, imperfect human being. You find yourself there at the table, in the pew, in bed, and online. You trust.
Experiencing trust with a marriage partner doesn’t exclude having a BFF of your same gender. Husbands benefit from someone to hang out with on a guy’s night. Wives find it helpful to have a girlfriend to share with. In fact, closer friendship with your spouse usually results in further freedom to have a dear friend of your own kind.
Confident belief in the trustworthy reliability of our mate leads to a stronger bond.
Remember the early days of your relationship? Maybe you wondered if you were really both serious. Maybe you wondered if someone else was moving in on your territory. Maybe you questioned if your mate enjoyed flirting with others. Maybe you wanted to see who was texting. There’s no substitute for time and testing to develop trust between friends and, even more, between married partners.
Friendships fall apart without trust, and so do marriages. But trust has a way of forging strong bonds taking friendships and marriages to “best friend” levels.
4. ENJOYMENT
Love being with the one you love.
God gave Adam all of creation to enjoy, but He made a husband and wife to enjoy other exclusively. Eve was no animal! And despite what wives may think at times, a husband is no animal either. While neither mate is created to provide all the other would need, the Creator makes it clear His carefully matched design is intended to bring joy.
After God acknowledged man’s state of being alone was “not good,” He responded to the need by making a woman. Instead of being perpetually separated from anyone who would “get” him, God prepared a matching mate to be the kind of partner who would be known, accepted, and trusted. In a garden of first-born created creatures, God brought the first one flesh union together with an invitation to, “Enjoy each other like no other.”
The invitation to know, receive, trust and enjoy each other was in a class of its own. It’s as if God forged marriage and friendship together in a relational category all its own. So few go there when they settle for companionship or even relationship. To build marriage on best friendship is to go to a sacred place.
“Adam, my friend, this is the best friend you’re hoping for.”
“Eve, my daughter, this is the best friend you’ll be dreaming of.”
I don’t have to be my husband’s hiking buddy, just like he doesn’t have to be my pottery class partner. Having our own interests makes us more interesting! But actively pursuing shared experiences and mutual interests moves us one step closer to being married to our best friend.
When we live in a veiled version of harmony, less than best friends, we miss out on God’s invitation to fully enjoy the other half of our one flesh union. Without pursuing depth of friendship, husbands and wives risk hovering in shallow layers of life together without taking the plunge into the purest streams intended for their oneness. No one wants to stay in murky, standing water; it tends to stagnate.
5. SECURITY
Hold fast to your friend and mate.
A deep, clear quality of married life to a best friend is a place we want to stay. Are you suddenly feeling like your marriage is a thin substitute for what could and should be a rich life married to your best friend in life? If you want the confidence and security that comes with being one flesh this way, you’re not alone.
If you want more for your marriage, you’re wanting exactly what God wants. He planned for this amazing potential to move in powerful ways in our marriages. No one can pray for a husband like a wife or husband for a wife. No one can be such a completely safe relationship as a wife for a husband and a husband for a wife. Marriage can be a safe, powerful, inspiring place to be when you’re there with your closest friend. When a marriage bond also becomes a best friend bond, it’s a powerful place to be.
Rather than fear you’ve married the wrong person or lost the chance to go deeper, be encouraged that it’s not too late. Best friends aren’t born, they’re developed. Your marriage and your friendship hasn’t become all it can be yet. There’s so much more to develop and discover together.
Genesis 2:24 explains that when a man and woman get together, it’s the beginning of learning to “hold fast” to each other. Marriage is created to be a safe place to find a sacred quality of security.
God wants you to get to genuine #bestfriend status in your #marriedlife. These are just five of the best things about marrying your best friend. Put the power of prayer and the Holy Spirit to work to get to know, accept, trust, enjoy, and keep the best friend you married.
Summer is right around the corner which means we are getting a jump on our 4th of July decorations! We couldn’t help but round up some of our favorites for you to enjoy too!
Our list of 4th of July decorations includes DIY ideas, 4th of July outdoor decorations, and even budget-friendly patriotic decor! So if you’re searching for something red, white, and blue … this list is for YOU!
Perfectly patriotic 4th of July decorations for your home
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Decorating a home can be expensive, and it can be hard to want to spend money on making your home festive for a holiday that is only celebrated once a year. This is why we wanted to include beautiful budget-friendly patriotic decor. No one will know how much you didn’t spend!
1. Patriotic Box Sign – This cute sign would look great on a themed mantle, as part of your dining room table decor, or even on its own!
Patriotic decor box sign
2. Patriotic Stars – We love how you can switch up the look of these stars!
We found some ready-to-assemble DIY kits that you can purchase and put together on your own as well as some completely DIY projects from some of our favorite bloggers!
12. Patriotic Hearts String Kit – This string art looks so easy, and it would perfectly complement the rest of your Fourth of July decorations!
String art DIY 4th of July decorations
13. Firecracker DIY Kit – These wooden firecrackers would make a great centerpiece!
DIY firecracker patriotic decor
14. Patriotic Display Box Kit – Feeling crafty? The finished project would look so cute on your mantle!
16. DIY Stars Kit for Kids – July 4th is mid-summer vacation, so we’re sure you’ll be needing some projects to keep your kids busy! These are fun, easy, and super kid-friendly!
DIY stars kit for kids to use as 4th of July decor
17. Patriotic Printables (Somewhat Simple) – These printables are darling! Just print, cut, and glue onto a stick and BOOM. You’ve got something to keep you cool during all the 4th of July parades!
Patriotic printables to use as fourth of July decorations
23. 4th of July Pinwheels (Kiki & Company) – These would look so cute stuck inside flower pots or even to help keep the kids entertained during a barbecue!
4th of July Outdoor Decorations
Festive decor doesn’t need to stay indoors! Dressing up the outside of your home can be just as fun. We think you’ll love these 4th of July outdoor decorations!
27. 4th of July Wooden Door Hanger – This door hanger would look so cute on any front door, but it would look even cuter hanging on a themed porch with other 4th of July decor!
If you’re one of those people who love to change up the decor on your walls for the holidays, these are for you! These Fourth of July decorations are a little on the splurgy side, but we wanted to include them because they’re all absolutely beautiful!
36. National Anthem Wall Art – We could not love this more! It’s perfect 4th of July decor, but we feel like you could keep this hanging year round!
37. God Bless America Wall Art – This shop is constantly selling out of this beautiful piece, but don’t worry! They always come back with another restock. If this piece is sold out when you go shopping, check out their other beautiful patriotic pieces.
38. Betsy Ross Wall Art – This beautiful piece is printed on metal so it can be used indoors or outdoors, and it’s another piece that can be displayed year round!
Patriotic Decor for Parties
You are going to love these 4th of July decorations for parties! Seriously, we want it all! Even better, they’re all fairly inexpensive, and they all have awesome reviews.
40. Fourth of July Party Pack – We love how this comes with so many different decorations! You can use them all in one room or spread them throughout the house and yard!
41. 4th of July Balloon Garland Kit – Balloon kits are so trendy right now, and look! This one pairs nicely with the star garland that we linked above.
42. Patriotic Balloon Arch Kit – We love how the colors of this balloon kit are a bit muted and metallic. So pretty!
43. Fireworks Confetti – This confetti is so fun, and you can use it anywhere!
44. 4th of July Party Cups – How fun are these cups?! We know they aren’t necessarily party decor, but you can’t throw a party without cups!
45. Patriotic Straws – And you definitely can’t have themed cups without festive straws!
We hope you’ve found some fun 4th of July decor that you love! Happy Independence Day from the Divas!
Reproduction is a natural order of progression but sometimes can be impeded by fertility issues, affecting either one or both of the parents. This can create intense stress and cause a decline in physical and mental well-being. Gonadorelin research is aimed at exploring its potential in fertility and determining if it may positively impact reproductive ability. Gonadorelin has been widely studied for its potential to impact fertility in animal test models. While the peptide is still in the animal research phases, it has been a subject of interest for clinical studies.
Synthetic Gonadorelin consists of a chain of ten amino acids. It is structurally similar to natural GnRH, with only one or two amino acid substitutions. Research suggests that Gonadorelin, a peptide that acts as a GnRH agonist and controls gonadotropin levels, is chemically identical to the GnRH hormones in the body. In test subjects, this may aid in fertility management, studies suggest.
How Does Gonadorelin Function?
Researchers speculate that increased production and secretion of the gonadotropins follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH) may result from the anterior pituitary gland being stimulated by the Gonadorelin peptide.
Studies suggest it mimics the action of GnRH, so it is often referred to by that name. However, given at large and prolonged concentrations, Gonadorelin peptide may also downregulate the GnRH receptors in the pituitary region, as per clinical speculative trial results. As suggested by studies, the binding of this peptide hormone to its receptors may trigger the release of gonadotropins. The receptors’ sensitivity to this peptide may decline over time, leading to the downregulation of the receptors and an eventual reversal of the inhibition of LH and FSH production.
The Potential of Gonadorelin Peptide
Research suggests the chance of developing breast cancer may decrease by as much as 70% when the Gonadorelin peptide is present in the organism for over 15 years. Additional findings speculate that Gonadorelin peptide may counteract the impact of the mitogens estrogen and progesterone and decrease breast cell sensitivity to these mitogens.
Available clinical data suggests that Gonadorelin peptides might also inhibit the growth of prostate cancer cells. Lower levels of testosterone and dihydrotestosterone may result from using GnRH analogs like Gonadorelin peptide, which seem to reduce the sensitivity of the GnRH receptors and thus block their ability to stimulate luteinizing hormone synthesis.
Licensed professionals speculate the Gonadorelin peptide may prevent spermatogenesis and reduce gonadotropin production. Gonadorelin peptide, a GnRH derivative, has been suggested in five studies to decrease sperm concentration and cause azoospermia in male test subjects. Overall, it seemingly decreased the number of sperm by 93%, and three of the seven male subjects in the research developed azoospermia. Azoospermia is characterized by a total lack of sperm in the discharge.
Luteinizing hormone, a reproductive hormone, has been suggested to have a dysregulating action on the hippocampus, the memory core of the brain. Research speculates that dementia could be avoided by using GnRH analogs like Gonadorelin peptide, which may inhibit the body from producing or secreting the luteinizing hormone (LH).
Further studies suggest that Gonadorelin peptide has the potential as an adjunct diagnostic tool for assessing gonadal axis function. Additional investigations speculate that Gonadorelin peptide may stimulate the release of follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH) from the pituitary gland. Still, researchers suggest its effects are not dependent on the levels of these hormones. The higher the degree of the hypothalamus and pituitary system dysfunction, the larger the release of gonadotropins.
Potential functions for Gonadorelin peptide in ovarian cancer and osteoporosis in female test subjects are also being researched. Licensed professionals also suggest that the distribution half-life for the Gonadorelin peptide is only 2-10 minutes, so its impacts may be noticeable quickly. The peptide is thought to be hydrolyzed by some naturally occurring enzymes and degraded into smaller, inert peptides, as speculated by experts. Studies suggest there may be a peptide breakdown within 40 minutes of delivery.
According to speculative clinical data, Gonadorelin may be a possible GnRH agonist and is a decapeptide. As a result, follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH) levels may be balanced. Studies suggest that Gonadorelin may act on pituitary GnRH receptors, controlling the rate of LH and FSH production and secretion.
Only academic and scientific institutions are permitted to use Gonadorelin peptides. If you are a researcher interested in purchasing Gonadorelin peptides for your clinical studies, visit Biotech Peptides. Please note that none of the items listed are approved for human or animal consumption. Laboratory research chemicals are only for in-vitro and in-lab use. Any kind of physical introduction is illegal. Only authorized academics and working professionals may make purchases. The content of this article is intended only for instructional purposes.
Reproduction is a natural order of progression but sometimes can be impeded by fertility issues, affecting either one or both of the parents. This can create intense stress and cause a decline in physical and mental well-being. Gonadorelin research is aimed at exploring its potential in fertility and determining if it may positively impact reproductive ability. Gonadorelin has been widely studied for its potential to impact fertility in animal test models. While the peptide is still in the animal research phases, it has been a subject of interest for clinical studies.
Synthetic Gonadorelin consists of a chain of ten amino acids. It is structurally similar to natural GnRH, with only one or two amino acid substitutions. Research suggests that Gonadorelin, a peptide that acts as a GnRH agonist and controls gonadotropin levels, is chemically identical to the GnRH hormones in the body. In test subjects, this may aid in fertility management, studies suggest.
How Does Gonadorelin Function?
Researchers speculate that increased production and secretion of the gonadotropins follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH) may result from the anterior pituitary gland being stimulated by the Gonadorelin peptide.
Studies suggest it mimics the action of GnRH, so it is often referred to by that name. However, given at large and prolonged concentrations, Gonadorelin peptide may also downregulate the GnRH receptors in the pituitary region, as per clinical speculative trial results. As suggested by studies, the binding of this peptide hormone to its receptors may trigger the release of gonadotropins. The receptors’ sensitivity to this peptide may decline over time, leading to the downregulation of the receptors and an eventual reversal of the inhibition of LH and FSH production.
The Potential of Gonadorelin Peptide
Research suggests the chance of developing breast cancer may decrease by as much as 70% when the Gonadorelin peptide is present in the organism for over 15 years. Additional findings speculate that Gonadorelin peptide may counteract the impact of the mitogens estrogen and progesterone and decrease breast cell sensitivity to these mitogens.
Available clinical data suggests that Gonadorelin peptides might also inhibit the growth of prostate cancer cells. Lower levels of testosterone and dihydrotestosterone may result from using GnRH analogs like Gonadorelin peptide, which seem to reduce the sensitivity of the GnRH receptors and thus block their ability to stimulate luteinizing hormone synthesis.
Licensed professionals speculate the Gonadorelin peptide may prevent spermatogenesis and reduce gonadotropin production. Gonadorelin peptide, a GnRH derivative, has been suggested in five studies to decrease sperm concentration and cause azoospermia in male test subjects. Overall, it seemingly decreased the number of sperm by 93%, and three of the seven male subjects in the research developed azoospermia. Azoospermia is characterized by a total lack of sperm in the discharge.
Luteinizing hormone, a reproductive hormone, has been suggested to have a dysregulating action on the hippocampus, the memory core of the brain. Research speculates that dementia could be avoided by using GnRH analogs like Gonadorelin peptide, which may inhibit the body from producing or secreting the luteinizing hormone (LH).
Further studies suggest that Gonadorelin peptide has the potential as an adjunct diagnostic tool for assessing gonadal axis function. Additional investigations speculate that Gonadorelin peptide may stimulate the release of follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH) from the pituitary gland. Still, researchers suggest its effects are not dependent on the levels of these hormones. The higher the degree of the hypothalamus and pituitary system dysfunction, the larger the release of gonadotropins.
Potential functions for Gonadorelin peptide in ovarian cancer and osteoporosis in female test subjects are also being researched. Licensed professionals also suggest that the distribution half-life for the Gonadorelin peptide is only 2-10 minutes, so its impacts may be noticeable quickly. The peptide is thought to be hydrolyzed by some naturally occurring enzymes and degraded into smaller, inert peptides, as speculated by experts. Studies suggest there may be a peptide breakdown within 40 minutes of delivery.
According to speculative clinical data, Gonadorelin may be a possible GnRH agonist and is a decapeptide. As a result, follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH) levels may be balanced. Studies suggest that Gonadorelin may act on pituitary GnRH receptors, controlling the rate of LH and FSH production and secretion.
Only academic and scientific institutions are permitted to use Gonadorelin peptides. If you are a researcher interested in purchasing Gonadorelin peptides for your clinical studies, visit Biotech Peptides. Please note that none of the items listed are approved for human or animal consumption. Laboratory research chemicals are only for in-vitro and in-lab use. Any kind of physical introduction is illegal. Only authorized academics and working professionals may make purchases. The content of this article is intended only for instructional purposes.
Infidelity is a deal-breaker for a lot of people in relationships. For many, it is enough to burn a happy relationship to the ground. Yes, it is an insensitive and cold act but there’s no denying the fact that there’s more to cheating than meets the eye. However, many couples are able to move past the affair and start afresh. But how? You might wonder. Can a relationship survive cheating? Is recovery from an affair possible?
Well, cheating in a relationship can be devastating but it doesn’t always mean that it is the end of the road. It is possible to rebuild your relationship despite your partner having cheated on you. However, several factors play a role in determining whether a relationship can survive infidelity. In this article, we shed some light on the common causes of cheating, why some couples move past it while others don’t, and how to fix a relationship after cheating.
What Are The Common Causes Of Cheating In A Relationship?
Let’s face it – Affairs happen. People cheat. Infidelity is common in relationships, whether one likes it or not. A recent study claimed that 40% to 45% of American marriages have been hit by infidelity. But why? Why do people cheat on their partners? What is the motivation or the reason behind partners cheating in a relationship? The answers to these questions can help you figure out the answer to: Can a relationship survive after cheating?
Well, there could be several factors that persuade a person to have an affair. We list 8 reasons:
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1. A feeling of anger or revenge
One of the most common reasons behind people cheating on their partners is their anger toward them and a desire to get revenge. Maybe you were having an affair and your betrayed partner found out about it and now they’re mad at you and want revenge. They want to see you go through the same hurt that you caused them. Other reasons for anger and revenge-motivated infidelity could be:
Lack of understanding between partners
Not giving your partner enough time
Unmet physical and emotional needs
Constant fights and arguments
Resentment, too, is powerful enough motivator for partners to engage in infidelity
2. They’re no longer in love with their partner
Falling out of love with their partner is a strong enough reason for people to cheat. The feeling of falling in love or being in love does not always last forever. It does make you feel passionate, excited, and over the moon when you first fall in love with someone. But, as time passes, the intensity fades and just sometimes results in one or both partners falling out of love with each other.
When the passion and intensity fade, people realize that they’re stuck in a relationship that is devoid of love. This realization often leads them to cheat because they wish to experience true love again and often see infidelity as the only way to do it. It is also possible that they realize they’re in love with someone else but find it hard to walk out of a relationship that continues to make them feel safe, secure, and stable, which is why they end up cheating. In such cases, recovery from an affair can be hard for the couple.
Not every act of infidelity or extramarital affair is driven by dissatisfaction, frustration, or sadness in the current relationship. Sometimes, circumstance, opportunity, or situational factors play a huge role. They might have been thrown into a situation they didn’t anticipate and things happened. Maybe your partner:
Got too drunk and slept with someone
Was extremely upset about a fight they had with you, a friend comforted them, and one thing led to another
Not every act of cheating is premeditated or planned. Sometimes, it just happens. We’re not saying it is the right thing to do. But it is what it is.
4. Commitment issues
Fear of commitment is one of the major reasons why people cheat in a relationship. Infidelity is their way of avoiding committing to the partner they are with. It’s a way of ending things between their current partner and them. For many, lack of commitment or love might make the cheating partner feel dissatisfied in the relationship due to which they end up committing the act of infidelity. It’s also possible that they do not want a long-term relationship and are looking for something more casual.
5. Sexual desire
A high sex drive is an extremely strong motivator for people to cheat even if they are in sexually fulfilling relationships. They do not necessarily have to be in an unhappy marriage or relationship to seek sexual gratification with someone other than their primary partner.
On the other hand, of course, they might have intimacy issues in their current relationship due to which their sexual needs aren’t met, leading to infidelity. Partners could have different sex drives or maybe one partner is not interested in or can’t have sex. Your partner might be in a situation where they see an opportunity or they just might want to have more sex.
Emotional intimacy with someone else outside of the relationship is trickier and, for many betrayed partners, more hurtful than physical or sexual infidelity. This usually happens when the cheating partner feels unappreciated in their current relationship. If they feel neglected by their partner or sense a lack of attention from them, it can motivate them to look for the same elsewhere. Not being appreciated for their efforts or not feeling heard in the relationship are strong infidelity motivators.
7. They want variety
Boredom in a relationship is one of the most common reasons behind infidelity. There might not be any issue or problem as such in the current relationship but the monotony of everyday life may push either partner to betray the vows of fidelity. The desire for variety usually leads partners to cheat. Variety is often related to sex but can mean other things as well like:
Activities or acts that are not sexual in nature
Variety in terms of conversation or communication
Being attracted to or infatuated with other people
It is normal to feel attracted to other people while in a relationship with someone. It’s human nature. However, some people find it difficult to not act upon those feelings, which is why they end up cheating on their partner.
8. A boost to their low self-esteem
For some people, the act of having an affair or cheating in a relationship is a huge boost to their ego and self-esteem. They feel empowered and confident after having sex with a new person. Such feelings build self-esteem. Additionally, the idea of receiving appreciation, admiration, and approval from someone new comes across as exciting and probably genuine to someone who struggles with low self-esteem issues. After all, why would this new person lie? They have no obligation as such.
Infidelity is not just about sex. We hope the above reasons help you understand that there’s more to the act than the fulfillment of pure, carnal needs. It’s more often than not a combination of several factors. However, once discovered, cheating can be detrimental to a relationship but it doesn’t always mean the end of it. Some survive while others don’t. Read on to know the factors that determine the future of a relationship following the affair.
Can A Relationship Survive Cheating – Why Some Couples Survive, And Some Don’t
Can a relationship survive cheating? Well, it depends on the efforts and the decisions made by both the people involved in the relationship. When one partner cheats, both parties are affected. It feels like their whole world has come crashing down. Whether it’s a casual relationship or a long-term affair that involves emotional intimacy or any other kind of infidelity or an extramarital affair, cheating in a relationship is often seen as the ultimate act of betrayal.
Having said that, infidelity does not necessarily have to be a deal breaker. If you love each other enough and are willing and motivated enough to give your relationship a second chance, then you can move past the scandal and forge a new, improved relationship. However, not every couple can survive the hit. So, what determines whether your relationship can survive cheating? The following 7 key factors:
1. The earnestness toward rebuilding trust
Trust between partners is crucial in a relationship. When either partner cheats on their better half, that trust takes a massive hit making it almost impossible to move past the infidelity. For a relationship to survive cheating, both partners need to take active steps to rebuild trust between them.
The cheating needs to stop. The cheating partner cannot see their affair partner again. There needs to be transparency and honesty between them even if it means sharing passwords, text messages, or emails for a while to regain lost faith and have some kind of reassurance. Loss of trust is one of the worst outcomes of an extramarital affair, which is why the person who cheated needs to be brutally honest with the betrayed partner even if the truth hurts.
2. You’re willing to talk about the affair with all honesty
Once it is established that the affair is over, it is time to address the elephant in the room. Both of you need to talk about the affair openly and honestly. The cheating partner needs to take full responsibility for their actions. The betrayed partner might want to know everything about the affair:
When it began
What happened
How far did it go
Whether it was emotional cheating or physical
Who the person was
How often did it happen
Was it just one affair partner or were there more
The cheating partner must address all these concerns. It is the first step of recovery from the affair. There is a lot that is unknown for the person who has been betrayed. Once that is out of the way, both partners will be able to start the process of venting their hurt, frustration, and feelings to each other, apologize, and forgive each other.
3. You’re addressing underlying issues
The importance of communication in a relationship cannot be stressed enough. Both partners need to sit down and address the underlying issues between them if they wish to survive cheating. As discussed before, resentment in a relationship, unmet needs, lack of appreciation, and falling out of love are some of the reasons why people cheat. While these do not justify the act of infidelity, they definitely highlight the fundamental problems in the relationship, which a couple needs to address if they wish to survive the betrayal.
4. Both of you are putting in the effort needed to heal
Can a relationship survive emotional cheating or sexual infidelity? Well, if both partners are willing to put in the effort needed to kickstart the healing process, then it is possible to repair the relationship and start afresh. The couple will need to:
Learn to deal with heartbreak
Let go of what wasn’t working
Practice forgiveness
Work toward creating a new relationship dynamic that includes trust and honesty
Let go of tropes such as “once a cheater, always a cheater”, which trigger insecurities
It is possible to recover from the affair and come back stronger and with a better sense of who you are and what you want from the relationship. The healing process may feel uncomfortable at the start but if both of you are willing to put in the time, commitment, and energy required to fix your bond, there’s a high chance the relationship will survive infidelity.
5. Your relationship is rooted in friendship
Can a relationship survive after cheating? If your relationship is rooted in a strong sense of friendship and camaraderie, it can. Friendship makes for a strong foundation for a relationship. It also plays a crucial role in deciding the future of your relationship post the affair. If you’ve been friends with your partner and your relationship has been solid from the start, there’s a good chance you’ll survive infidelity.
Friendship helps you see your partner as they are without labels or judgment because you’ve known them as your friend first and understand and connect with them on an emotional level. It is this friendship that will help you find your way back to each other.
More often than not, couples need professional help to sort out their differences after an affair. Dealing with heartbreak and betrayal on your own can often be difficult and it is during this time that seeking help from a licensed therapist trained in dealing with infidelity or going for individual therapy, couples counseling, or family therapy can prove to be beneficial.
A neutral third person, trained in equipping you with the tools for introspection and healthy conflict resolution, can help you see things from a different perspective. You might be able to strengthen your relationship, rebuild trust and mutual respect and avoid a breakup or divorce. It is also possible that in the course of therapy, you might realize that you wish to move on and go your separate ways without any bitter feelings. If you’re stuck in a similar situation and want help, Bonobology’spanel of licensed and experienced therapists is only a click away.
7. Decide what you want from the relationship
Can a relationship survive emotional cheating? Well, cheating in a relationship is devastating. Having an affair can shake the foundation of a partnership, whether it is a new marriage/relationship or you have been together for years. However, if you want to survive infidelity, it is crucial that you re-evaluate and re-negotiate your boundaries. Figure out what you want from the relationship:
Do you want to make your relationship work even after the affair?
Do you want to go your separate ways?
Reconsider the terms of your relationship. Have those difficult conversations about what went wrong between you and if it’s possible to move on from the infidelity. If yes, how? What are the non-negotiables? What do you want from yourself and each other? These are things both partners need to talk about and decide on.
Infidelity isn’t uncommon. However, it can be traumatizing to discover that your partner is cheating on you. It is common to react with outrage and get angry but one cannot deny that infidelity has been in the picture for as long as relationships have existed. The good thing, however, is that recovery after an affair is possible. Super hard but possible. Now that we’ve answered the question of “can a relationship survive cheating”, let’s figure out how to fix a relationship after cheating.
Moving on after the affair is possible if both partners still love each other, want to make their relationship work, and are willing to put in the work needed to fix things between them. It is a collaborative healing process in which both partners put in equal amounts of time, energy, patience, and effort. Infidelity or adultery doesn’t have to mean the end of a relationship. Here are a few tips on how to fix a relationship after cheating:
The cheating has to stop. You can’t be seeing your affair partner or remain connected to them in any way
Make sure that there is remorse and that the cheating partner takes responsibility and apologizes for their actions
Spend quality time with your partner and work on building physical and emotional intimacy
Be honest to your partner about your whereabouts, whom you talk to or whom you hang out with, and so on
Communicate with each other about why it happened and what is missing in your relationship. Listen to each other carefully
Seek help from a licensed marriage counselor
Practice compassion, empathy, and patience while you’re at it. Difficult conversations will take place. Keep your cool and try to think rationally. Consider each other’s point of view. Also, remember that the relationship can be fixed only if the cheating partner is truly apologetic about their actions and genuinely wants to save the relationship. The healing process takes time. Rebuilding trust takes time. So, just hang in there and have faith in the process.
Key Pointers
Being betrayed by the person you love is one of the worst things that can happen in a relationship
A few common causes of cheating include unmet needs, lack of appreciation, neglect, anger, and resentment, and an increased sexual desire
Several factors like rebuilding trust, addressing underlying issues, a strong friendship, and seeking therapy, determine whether a relationship can survive infidelity
The cheating needs to stop and partners need to communicate and be honest with each other if they want to fix their relationship after the affair
Recovering from an affair is one of the biggest challenges in a relationship because there is so much hurt, uncertainty, and betrayal attached to it. But, if your love is strong enough and you genuinely want to be together, you should take active steps to fix your relationship. The healing process is time-consuming but you can come out of it stronger and better and continue to live a happy life.
In the realm of business, showcasing your products effectively is crucial for capturing the attention and interest of potential customers. Product demos have emerged as a powerful marketing tool, allowing businesses to highlight the features, benefits, and value of their offerings.
With the advent of CapCut Online Editor, creating compelling product demos has never been easier. In this article, we’ll explore how you can leverage the capabilities of CapCut, the free online video editor, to craft impactful and persuasive product demonstrations that drive business success.
The Importance of Product Demos in Business
Product demos play a pivotal role in the sales process. They provide an opportunity for businesses to demonstrate the unique selling points of their products, address customer pain points, and build trust and credibility. By showcasing the functionality, usability, and value of your offerings through engaging visual content, you can effectively communicate your product’s value proposition and increase the likelihood of conversion.
CapCut: Your All-in-One Product Demo Solution
CapCut Online Editor offers a comprehensive set of features and tools specifically designed to enhance your product demos. Let’s explore how CapCut can elevate your product presentations:
Intuitive User Interface:
CapCut’s user-friendly interface makes it easy for both beginners and experienced users to navigate the editing process effortlessly. The clean and intuitive layout allows you to focus on crafting compelling product demos without being overwhelmed by complex features.
Clip Arrangement and Sequence:
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CapCut’s timeline feature enables you to arrange and sequence your video clips with precision. You can seamlessly integrate footage, add titles and captions, and control the pacing of your product demo. The ability to rearrange and fine-tune the order of your clips ensures a smooth and coherent narrative flow.
Editing Tools and Effects:
CapCut provides a range of editing tools and effects to enhance the visual appeal of your product demos. From trimming and cutting clips to applying filters, transitions, and animations, you have the creative freedom to customize your videos and make them visually engaging.
Tips for Creating Powerful Product Demos
Now that you’re familiar with CapCut’s capabilities, let’s dive into some tips to help you create impactful and persuasive product demos:
Clearly Define Your Objectives:
Before starting your product demo, identify your goals and what you want to achieve. Clarify the key features and benefits you want to showcase, and structure your demo accordingly. A well-defined objective will guide your content creation process and help you deliver a focused and compelling presentation.
Keep it Concise and Engaging:
In today’s fast-paced digital landscape, attention spans are short. Ensure your product demo is concise and to the point, highlighting the most important aspects of your product. Use visuals, animations, and captions effectively to engage your audience and maintain their interest throughout the demonstration.
Highlight Key Features and Benefits:
Focus on showcasing the unique features and benefits of your product that set it apart from competitors. Clearly communicate how your product solves customer problems, improves their lives, or fulfills their needs. Use CapCut’s editing tools to highlight these key aspects and capture your audience’s attention.
Personalization and Branding
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CapCut allows you to personalize your product demos to align with your brand identity. Here’s how you can leverage CapCut’s features for effective branding:
Customizable Templates:
CapCut offers a range of customizable templates that you can use as a starting point for your product demos. Tailor these templates to match your brand’s colors, fonts, and overall visual style. This consistency will help reinforce brand recognition and create a cohesive experience for your viewers.
Branding Elements:
Incorporate your logo, tagline, and brand imagery into your product demos. These branding elements reinforce your brand identity and create a professional and cohesive look for your videos. CapCut allows you to easily add these elements to your demos and position them strategically for maximum impact.
Optimizing Your Product Demos for Distribution
Once you’ve created your compelling product demos using CapCut, it’s time to optimize them for distribution. Consider the following strategies:
Multiple Platforms:
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Different platforms have different requirements and preferences when it comes to video formats, aspect ratios, and lengths. Adapt your product demos to suit the specific platforms you’re targeting, whether it’s your website, social media channels, or email campaigns. CapCut’s export settings, including the ability to customize parameters with the video background remover, allow you to tailor these aspects for optimal distribution.
Call-to-Action (CTA):
Include a clear and compelling call-to-action at the end of your product demos. Guide your viewers on the next steps they should take, such as visiting your website, making a purchase, or signing up for a free trial. A well-placed and persuasive CTA can significantly increase conversion rates.
Conclusion
CapCut Online Editor empowers businesses to create powerful and persuasive product demos that captivate their audience and drive business growth. With its intuitive interface, comprehensive editing tools, and customizable features, CapCut provides a versatile solution for crafting engaging and visually appealing product presentations.
By leveraging CapCut’s capabilities and following the tips outlined in this guide, you’ll be well-equipped to create compelling product demos that effectively showcase your offerings and generate meaningful results for your business. Harness the potential of CapCut to captivate your audie
