Denver prosecutors on Tuesday opened their long-awaited criminal case against former business owner Jay Bianchi, who is accused of drugging and sexually assaulting three women at his Grateful Dead-themed bars between 2020 and 2024, as well as drugging another man and a woman during that time period.
“This is not about character or lifestyles or choices the victims may have made,” said chief deputy DA Chris Curtis in his opening statements. “It’s not a memory test … (and) it’s absolutely not some kind of gigantic conspiracy against Jay Bianchi. So don’t get distracted. Focus on the evidence.”
Bianchi, 56, was arrested in April 2024 and charged with three counts of sexual assault dating to Oct. 31, 2020, in the 700 block of East Colfax Avenue; one count of unlawful sexual contact, a misdemeanor, on Nov. 1, 2020, in the 900 block of West First Avenue; and three counts of felony sexual assault on April 7, 2024, in the same block of West First Avenue.
He has pleaded not guilty on all counts.
The first sexual assault, alleged by Bonnie Utter, took place following a Halloween party at Sancho’s Broken Arrow, formerly at 741 E. Colfax Ave., in 2020. Utter’s friend Kylie Heringer, who worked as a sound engineer for Bianchi, also alleged that Bianchi groped her the next day in his office at So Many Roads Brewery, formerly at 918 W. First Ave., and that Bianchi attempted to discredit the women with character assassination and coercion. Both of his businesseshave since closed.
The Denver Post is identifying Utter and Heringer because they previously agreed to speak to the newspaper about their experiences.
Another woman identified during the proceedings alleged she was sexually assaulted by Bianchi in March 2024, and a man and a woman separately said that Bianchi drugged them — in the man’s case, for attempting to intervene in a conflict at Sancho’s. All will testify as part of the case, Curtis said.
Bianchi, dressed in a black jacket with a maroon tie, sat expressionless most of Tuesday as he watched each witness and speaker, occasionally taking notes. His case has been delayed multiple times as more people have come forward to make claims against him. Bianchi, who has several past arrests and convictions for drug charges and assault, has denied those allegations in multiple interviews with The Denver Post. His past convictions and arrests were not mentioned on Tuesday.
The trial, which could potentially last through mid-November, began Friday with a jury and evidence review that ran through Monday. On Tuesday, the first witnesses were called: a pair of police detectives and a former nurse from Denver Health who conducted a sexual-assault examination of Utter after she reported it on Nov. 1, 2020.
Bianchi’s defense team on Tuesday vigorously maintained his innocence. In her opening statements, deputy state public defender Megan Jungsun Lee previewed a strategy that will cast the prosecutor’s witnesses and experts as tainted by misinformation and rumors on social media, as well as news reports in The Denver Post and Westword.
“You will hear that during this time … that gossip, speculation assumptions were repeated again and again,” Lee said during opening statements. She also cast doubt on the years-long, on-and-off Denver Police Department investigation into the assaults, which she said had been compromised by the gossip-driven narrative and by news reports.
“Ms. Utter was alert,” Lee said of the events before the alleged assault on Nov. 1, 2020, noting that defense witnesses saw Bianchi and Utter “cuddled up.” The pair was laughing and holding hands as they went downstairs to the basement at Sancho’s that night, Lee said.
That’s where Utter said the assault took place. However, there was no evidence she was unable to make her own choices despite consuming alcohol, cocaine and cannabis that night, Lee said.
“(Bianchi) did not hand her a drink, touch her drink, offer her food or offer her drugs,” Lee added. “There is no evidence he caused her any kind of fear or made any threat. She was fully capable of exercising her own free will.”
The District Attorney’s Office spent much of Tuesday afternoon establishing the physical layout of So Many Roads with dozens of on-site photos, which included an unidentified substance in a baggie in Bianchi’s office, where Heringer’s assault allegedly took place.
In March 2024, a woman alleged she was raped by Bianchi, also at So Many Roads Brewery, which was co-owned by Tyler Bishop. That bar closed the next month, having been the subject of Denver Police Department stings for underage drinking and drug sales. Bianchi had also been the subject of protests outside the brewery in June 2021, after Utter and Heringer came forward to discuss their experiences, first on social media and later with The Denver Post. Local musicians who felt they had been mistreated by Bianchi rallied during the protest.
“We will sit here as long as it takes,” Curtis said, noting that the DA’s office will call a mix of eyewitnesses, detectives and experts who can comment on toxicology and crime lab results, sexual assault, consent, how memory works, and various firsthand details of the investigation.
Bianchi has been a fixture of Colorado’s jam-band scene for more than two decades, previously owning and booking bands at “Don Quixote”-inspired venues including Quixote’s True Blue, Dulcinea’s 100th Monkey, Be on Key Psychedelic Ripple, and Cervantes’ Masterpiece Ballroom.
CLEVELAND, Ohio-Women’s March Cleveland organizers will speak at the “No Kings” rally in Cleveland on Sat., Oct 18, 2025, a reboot of “No Kings” events held in June in cities across the country and nationwide in opposition to the policies of President Donald Trump and his administration. The event is from 1pm-3pm at the Free Stamp at Willard Park next to Cleveland City Hall.
Women’s March Cleveland head organizer Kathy Wray Coleman, also a Black digital media journalist, said her group appreciates the invitation.
“We appreciate the inclusiveness by the “No Kings” organizers here in Cleveland and we believe that inclusiveness is always important in any thriving movement, whether for Civil or women’s rights or against tyranny coming out of Washington, D.C.” said Coleman. ” Our organizers at Women’s March Cleveland are Black and we live and breathe in the majority Black city of Cleveland.”
Coleman said that her group will speak briefly at Saturday’s Cleveland rally on issues such as the attack on education, DEI, and reproductive rights, and the impact on Black women of Cleveland and greater Cleveland.
“No Kings” protests are scheduled in all 50 states on Saturday, with some 15 rallies and marches in Northeast Ohio alone.
Ongoing workplace and political policy trends are disrupting, or even eliminating millions of U.S. jobs. But recent data suggests those changes penalize two historically disadvantaged groups of people more severely: women and Black workers. The mix of private and public policies is again widening the gender wage gap and driving unemployment rates for Black workers at a higher rate than the national average.
The trend among employers to tighten return to office (RTO) mandates by requiring increased or full-week in-person workplace timepresence is a major factor in this disruption, which hits women especially hard. Other reasons for this distorted effect include the Trump administration’s mass layoffs of federal employees, and its accompanying drive to eradicate diversity, equality, and inclusion (DEI) practices by government agencies, contractors they work with, and even private sector businesses.
Those pressures have coincided with — or perhaps directly caused — a widening of the gender pay gap that had been narrowing since the 1960s, and a sharp increase in unemployment among Black Americans.
Return to office, return to pay inequality?
“Are RTO mandates reversing decades of progress on gender pay equity?” asked a recent post by Flex Index, which tracks changes in remote work rules at 9,000 companies. “The timing is striking: the wage gap has widened two years running; women now earn 81 cents on the dollar, down from 84 cents in 2022, the lowest since 2016.”
That broadening of gender pay disparity came as Fortune 100 companies requiring full week in-office presence rose from 16 percent to 29 percent in the past two years, according to Flex Index. It also cited a recent Baylor University study of 3 million employees that found “women are nearly three times as likely to quit when RTO mandates hit.”
But leaving a job over lost flexibile work arrangements — usually a response from working mothers who can’t find or afford childcare for the additional hours they’d be spending away from home — isn’t the only way tightening RTO rules appear to be setting women back.
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The Baylor study found that 46 percent of women employees ordered to spend more time in the office had negotiated taking on lower-level positions that allowed them to maintain their flexible working arrangements. Just over 40 percent more opted lateral job transfers with the same goal.
Those moves often involved women employees accepting pay cuts, with one executive participating telling Baylor researchers she took a $30,000 a year pay cut to avoid going to the office five days a week.
Those responses to tighter RTO mandates have coincided with the median income of U.S. men rising by 3.7 percent from 2023 to 2024, according to a recent Washington Post report. During the same period, that pay metric remained mostly unchanged for women. The paper also cited data for the first six months of 2025 showing women aged 25 to 44 who have young children dropped by 3 percent as a proportion of the total workforce.
“These results suggest that the cause for leaving a firm after RTO are not the usual reasons for promotion or mobility,” a summary of the Baylor study said. “Instead, they highlight that employees are willing to sacrifice career advancement for remote work options.”
Anti-DEI efforts hit Black workers twice as hard
Many employees taking pay cuts or quitting in the face of new RTO restrictions are Black women, who also facing increasing employment challenges arising from shifting political policies.
The current trend of most companies to limit hiring only to replacing departing workers has hit Black employees harder than most, and may well make bouncing back even harder. In a recent New York Times article, the unemployment rate among Black Americans has risen from 6 percent to 7.5 percent in the last four months, while the rate among white workers dipped slightly to 3.7 percent.
The jobless increase among Black workers has come as the Trump administration slashed over 250,000 positions from the federal workforce, whose composition has more closely reflected the racial makeup of U.S. society than private companies — especially in entry-level positions. The Pew Research Center said 48.3 million people self-identified as Black in 2023. That’s about 14.4% of the U.S. population. Bureau of Labor Statistics data from 2022 said Black employees made up about 12 percent of the national workforce, and noted that 18 percent of Black and Hispanic men worked in lower-paying service occupations, compared with 12 percent of White men.
Meantime, companies working as federal contractors quickly and meticulously applied new White House bans on DEI policies in order to avoid losing government business. For decades, those same employers carefully complied with federally imposed equal opportunity requirements, including in their recruitment and hiring Black applicants and other minority job candidates.
But with those policies now banned and drawing retribution from the White House when they are applied, those same companies may no longer be as available an option for the rising number of unemployed Black people looking for work. Meaning that as the wider labor market grinds to a near stop, Black job applicants may be facing an even tougher road back to employment than other candidates for the foreseeable future.
“I think the speed at which things have changed, in such a dramatic fashion, is out of the ordinary,” Valerie Wilson, director of the race, ethnicity and the economy program at the Economic Policy Institute, told the Times. “There’s been such a rapid shift in policy, rather than something cyclical or structural about the economy.”
Mattel, Inc. recently announced that Barbie is celebrating International Day of the Girl by introducing Team Barbie, a coalition of four powerful role models and professional rugby players from across the globe to encourage girls to own their confidence proudly. The brand is honouring these incredible athletes who recognize and harness their own power with one-of-a-kind dolls made in their likeness because Barbie knows if you can see it, you can be it.
Knowing how crucial sports can be in helping build communication skills, confidence, and teamwork, Barbie is committed to empowering the next generation to get their head in the game (and stay there) by sharing the powerful stories of this year’s role models:
Ilona Maher (US): Olympic medalist, social media star, and body positivity advocate challenging stereotypes by embracing the strength of femininity.
Ellie Kildunne (UK): Key member of England Rugby’s Red Roses team, World Champion, 2024 World Rugby Player of the Year and trailblazer in the rise in interest in women’s rugby.
Portia Woodman-Wickliffe (NZ): Two-time Olympic & World Champion, known for redefining the game with record-breaking performances.
Nassira Konde (France): Dynamic rugby star and Olympic medalist known for uplifting the next generation by embracing inclusion, skill, and fearless ambition.
“At Barbie, we believe that girls can be, and do, anything,” said Krista Berger, Senior Vice President of Barbie, Mattel, in a press release. “We’re committed to breaking down the barriers – from gender stereotypes to self-doubt – that hold girls back from realizing their limitless potential. By showcasing the stories of incredible role models whose confidence has fueled groundbreaking success, we’re showing girls that the future of sports, or wherever their passion takes them, is theirs to claim, with Team Barbie cheering them on.”
Economist and Wharton professor Corinne Low joins “CBS Mornings” to discuss “Having It All,” where she examines the data behind women’s lives, gender expectations, and how to build a happier future.
CLEVELAND, Ohio-Women’s March Cleveland and other activist groups rallied for the “Cleveland, Oh Make Billionaires Pay & Fight For Women’s Rights Rally & March” from the steps of City Hall in downtown Cleveland on Saturday afternoon. The event was part of a national day of action in cities across the country, commissioned by Women’s March National.
The crowd was small, but intimate, bringing out the grassroots sector of the community.
Speakers included Cleveland Councilwoman Deborah Gray, activist and Ohio State School Board Member Delores Gray, Cuyahoga County Democratic Party Chairperson David Brock, Mayosha Baybach Vales of the Black Women’s Army, Cindy Demsey of the Cuyahoga Democratic Women’s Caucus, and members of Refuse Fascism and Rise Up for Abortion Rights CLE.
Organizers said the event was a rally for reproductive and Civil Rights and an effort to continue the fight for choice for women in Cleveland and Northeast Ohio, including Black women.
Women’s March Cleveland activists Kathy Wray Coleman, Alysa Cooper Moskey, Sierra Mason and Alfred Porter Jr. of Black on Black Crime Inc. organized the event.
Councilwoman Deborah Gray, one of two Black women on council, talked about the importance of having Black women in office and the city’s Black Women Commission that she is a part of, and Ohio State School Board Member Delores Gray discussed anti-education efforts by Ohio Gov. Mike DeWine, and new state legislation that gives him the authority to appoint members to the state School Board, adding that “the governor wants to dismantle public education.”
David Brock said Republicans, nationally and otherwise, are hellbent on instituting policies that benefit White men and the nation’s wealthy and that people should vote the Democratic ticket up and down relative to the upcoming Nov. 4 general election.
Speaker after speaker took on President Donald Trump, and what they said is an attempt to roll back Civil Rights gains like the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and the Voting Rights Act of 1965, what’s left of it since the U.S. Supreme Court began chipping at it when Barack Obama was president.
Other activist groups supporting the event include Cuyahoga Democratic Women’s Caucus, Black on Black Crime Inc., Black Man’s Army, Black Women’s Army, Carl Stokes Brigade, Refuse Fascism, and Rise Up For Abortion Rights CLE.
Women’s March Cleveland’s next march will not be until the third week in January of 2026, the 8th Anniversary of its first march in 2017.
Above picture: Women’s March Cleveland at a march from Market Square Park in Cleveland in 2021. Photo by David Petkiewicz of Cleveland.com.
CLEVELAND, Ohio-Women’s March Cleveland and other activist groups rallied for the “Cleveland, Oh Make Billionaires Pay & Women’s Rights Rally & March” from the steps of City Hall in downtown Cleveland on Saturday afternoon. The event was part of a national day of action in cities across the country, commissioned by Women’s March National.
The crowd was small, but intimate, bringing out the grassroots sector of the community.
Speakers included Cleveland Councilwoman Deborah Gray, activist and Ohio State School Board Member Delores Gray, Cuyahoga County Democratic Party Chairperson David Brock, Mayosha Baybach Vales of the Black Women’s Army, Cindy Demsey of the Cuyahoga Democratic Women’s Caucus, and members of Refuse Fascism and Rise Up for Abortion Rights CLE.
Organizers said the event was a rally for reproductive and Civil Rights and an effort to continue the fight for choice for women in Cleveland and Northeast Ohio, including Black women.
Women’s March Cleveland activists Kathy Wray Coleman, Alysa Cooper Moskey, Sierra Mason and Alfred Porter Jr. of Black on Black Crime Inc. organized the event.
Councilwoman Deborah Gray, one of two Black women on council, talked about the importance of having Black women in office and the city’s Black Women’s Commission that she is a part of, and Ohio State School Board Member Delores Gray discussed anti-education efforts by Ohio Gov. Mike DeWine, and new state legislation that gives him the authority to appoint members to the state School Board, adding that “the governor wants to dismantle public education.”
David Brock said Republicans, nationally and otherwise, are hellbent on instituting policies that benefit White men and the nation’s wealthy and that people should vote the Democratic ticket up and down relative to the upcoming Nov. 4 general election.
Speaker after speaker took on President Donald Trump, and what they said is an attempt to roll back Civil Rights gains like the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and the Voting Rights Act of 1965, what’s left of it since the U.S. Supreme Court began chipping at it when Barack Obama was president.
Other activist groups supporting the event include Cuyahoga Democratic Women’s Caucus, Black on Black Crime Inc., Black Man’s Army, Black Women’s Army, Carl Stokes Brigade, Refuse Fascism, and Rise Up For Abortion Rights CLE.
Women’s March Cleveland’s next march will not be until the third week in January of 2026, the 8th Anniversary of its first march in 2017.
The formula is simple: Combine the best-loved traits of J.R.R. Tolkien’s high fantasy and of modern romance novels, make the characters’ sex lives explicit and very detailed, and include a lot of descriptions of beautiful gowns and luxurious bathtubs. Put a lushly illustrated cover on the front. Back it up with authors who have very active social media presences, and get the ever-growing world of fans on BookTok (the book-focused corner of TikTok) and Goodreads to read and review. Call it romantasy or faerie smut—the new genre is everywhere.
Of course, it’s not really a new genre. I say that not because romantasy combines strands of several previously existing genres—romance, fantasy, and (often) horror. A new kind of pastiche still counts as something new. But literature that combines fantasy and sex is at least as old as the 12th century lais of Marie de France. In one such lai, Lanval, a knight in King Arthur’s court is wooed and seduced by a beautiful barely clad fairy maiden he meets in an ornate golden tent in a meadow. Yonec tells of an unhappily married young woman whose lover transforms himself into a bird to fly in her window. Bisclavret is the story of a werewolf baron who is betrayed by his human wife. Shakespeare’s A Midsummer Night’s Dream shows the audience Titania, the fairy queen, and the very human weaver Nick Bottom in love and in bed. And Christina Rossetti’s poem Goblin Market is a Victorian fever dream about the pleasures and consequences of sucking on goblin fruit.
The world of faerie is the world of the other, the mysterious, the forbidden. And all of that is sexy and dangerous in ways that have appealed to humans for a very long time. It’s really only with the rise of sharp genre distinctions—evidenced by bookstore section headings that cloister romance, fantasy, and science fiction from one another—that this kind of erotic, adventurous, magical melange became uncategorizable and thus unmarketable. (I’m inclined to think that the way Amazon and other online bookstores break down the distinction between genres and sections of a traditional bookstore might be a small technical driver for the return of romantasy.)
Technical questions aside, there may be something uniquely 2025 about the way romantasy has come roaring back to life. The overturning of Roe v. Wade and the rise of the hard right have put questions of women’s autonomy and power at the center of American political and cultural discussions. Though it may surprise those who haven’t read much in the genre, romantasy puts those questions right in the center of its texts.
The classic plotline of a generic romantasy novel runs something like this: A young woman who is overlooked and undervalued in her normal life enters a different, magical world where she is a being of extraordinary abilities. She attracts a passionate and highly desirable partner who introduces her to sexual heights she has never before experienced while also drawing her into political and military intrigues that allow her to utilize her newly valuable abilities. Over the course of the story, there will be heartbreak and separation, but an eventual happily ever after is nearly certain.
There is nothing revolutionary about the standard romantasy plotline. Its basic steps align precisely with Joseph Campbell’s idea of the “hero’s journey,” marked by separation from a familiar environment, initiation into a new one, and a return to the old world once the hero has been transformed by experience. Swap in hungry hobbits for horny heroines and you have Tolkien. Subtract the magic and you have the plot of Jane Eyre. Subtract the sex and you have The Chronicles of Narnia. But fantasy novels that focus on an adult female lead character and her journey and desires, while far more common than they were when I began reading them in the ’70s and ’80s, still feel a bit radical, just by virtue of taking a woman’s point of view.
It is the genre’s focus on transformation, stepping into power, and recognition that seems to me to be its most compelling aspect for readers right now. While traditional fairy tales often focus on a magical transformation that comes from outside the main character—think of Cinderella’s gown and coach, or the frog who is changed into a prince—romantasy often deals with a character whose strong sense of self remains unchanged, but whose importance, skills, and even physical beauty change in value as she enters a new world.
This moment where the undervalued becomes valued may be the defining dream of fiction produced for a largely female audience. The best-selling series A Court of Thorns and Roses features a protagonist, Feyre, who begins the series as a neglected and overworked middle sister, hunting game to feed her impoverished and unappreciative family. By the end of the first three books in the series, she is the high lady of the Night Court. She has used her hunting skills to vanquish terrifying monsters, her intellect to outsmart several enemies, and a physical attractiveness that no one has ever noticed before to win the love of two faerie high lords. She has also died and been resurrected, brought her family into the faerie world with her, fought in several military campaigns, and (in a classic fairy-tale trope) seen her small kindnesses to magical creatures repaid with assistance at crucial moments. She says of herself, by the end of the second installment of the series, “No one was my master—but I might be master of everything, if I wished. If I dared.”
Rebecca Yarros’ The Empyrean series presents us with a heroine with a similar trajectory. Violet Sorrengail, who has studied her whole life to be a scribe, is thrust by her mother into a military college that trains cadets to partner with dragons for battle. Suffering from a mysterious ailment that causes her constant pain and frequent joint dislocations (based on the author’s own experience with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome), Violet seems like the least likely survivor of the war college’s vicious training. Not only does she survive, but she also bonds with the rarest and most powerful type of dragon. And then she bonds with a second dragon, of a type no one has ever bonded with before, and is told, “I waited six hundred and fifty years to hatch. Waited until your eighteenth summer, when I heard our elders talk about the weakling daughter of their general, the girl forecasted to become the head of the scribes, and I knew. You would have the mind of a scribe and the heart of a rider. You would be mine.” Violet develops a series of increasingly impressive magical powers, attracts the love of a (nearly equally powered) fellow soldier who turns out to be a duke, restores the protective wards around her country, battles vicious enemies, and becomes an impressive military strategist, often using her formerly undervalued scribal skills to find creative and unexpected solutions to political and military problems.
That both these series place their heroines into positions where they must be politically and militarily savvy is, I think, no accident. Readers of this fiction grew up on epic fantasy novels with complex world-building and political wrangling, and they want the same attention to detail from romantasy. This means that romantasy heroines must, in general, be prepared to tangle with warring fairy courts, espionage, maintaining magical defenses and supply lines for troops, and diplomacy in cultures and languages that are wildly alien to their own. Romantasy heroines have personal problems to solve that matter intensely to them, but they are equally involved in the world-altering problems that surround them. Just as in the real world, the personal and the political both demand the heroine’s attention and talents. In the world of romantasy, it is possible to triumph simultaneously at both. Romantasy heroines can have it all and a dragon, too.
As I read through both series and a selection of other romantasy novels while researching for this article, I kept thinking of economist Claudia Goldin and her lecture, “The Quiet Revolution That Transformed Women’s Employment, Education, and Family.” Goldin observes that women’s gradual move into the labor force “was a change from agents who work because they and their families ‘need the money’ to those who are employed, at least in part, because occupation and employment define one’s fundamental identity and societal worth.”
In romantasy, the work of the hero and heroine often intertwines as they try to save the world, protect their communities, discover hidden knowledge, or generally engage in a quest. Importantly, it gives them a project that they are working on together. Work has always played an underappreciated role in romantic fiction. But as contemporary politics mean that male and female spheres of interest and influence feel increasingly separate, the appeal of reading about that kind of shared project only increases. Istvhan, the berserker knight, and Clara, the nun and werebear, from T. Kingfisher’s Paladin’s Strength have unique capacities for destruction that often go unappreciated by the rest of the world. As a team, they are a well-matched delight, wreaking mayhem when necessary and fighting together with élan.
“Protect the nun!” roared Istvhan, yanking his sword free.
“Protect your own damn self!” Clara roared back.
Romantasy heroines are not sidelined in politics or in battle. They are equal, even superior partners.
It’s not all violence, either. There is an entire subgenre of romantasy dedicated to heroines who are busy building small businesses. Legends and Lattes by Travis Baldree, for example, tells the story of an orc who is retired from mercenary work and just wants to open a coffee shop. A sequel explores the same orc’s stint of working in a bookshop while recuperating from battle injuries. That novel’s best-known tagline, “Things don’t have to stay what they started out as,” is a fairly good shorthand for Goldin’s quiet revolution.
Even now that we are well-established in the labor force, women obviously still find stories about women finding identity and worth through occupation and employment enormously compelling. Women who long to achieve that kind of satisfaction are inspired by reading stories of others doing the same. It is this longing that makes stories of entrepreneurs so important and popular. It is this longing that drives the success of dubious multilevel marketing companies that persuade aspiring girlbosses that they can become millionaires by selling leggings. And it is this longing that fuels romantasy, where the jobs may be slightly less plausible but the quest for identity and desire for worth are the same.
That same longing for recognition fuels the romantic and erotic relationships in romantasy. While traditional fantasy may sometimes contain romantic elements, romantasy treats the romantic and erotic desires of its characters as equally important to their quest to resolve the magical and political tumult that surrounds them. A friend of mine who is a devoted romantasy fan noted that the love interests of these books are often mysterious and emotionally remote “damaged” characters who open up to only one person—the previously overlooked heroine. His attention, given to no one else, is another indication of her unique value. And his ability to see how remarkable she is marks him out as unusual and worthy of love as well.
The intense romantic bonds between the heroes and heroines of romantasy are often depicted not just in emotional terms, but also as part of their magic. Frequently, they are able to read one another’s minds, telepathically communicate over long distances, and strengthen one another’s individual magical gifts. It is not far from Cathy’s insistence in Wuthering Heights that, “I am Heathcliff! He’s always, always in my mind: not as a pleasure, any more than I am always a pleasure to myself, but as my own being. So don’t talk of our separation again: it is impracticable.” The subgenre of romantasy that focuses on shape-shifters like werewolves and other human/beast hybrids makes much of a mysticized version of animal pair-bonding when it explores its characters’ romantic connections. There can be no more intimate connection imaginable than to have a partner who is destined to you by both fate and pheromones, who can read your mind, and who can communicate with you when no one else can.
The erotic scenes between these characters are often extremely explicit, and they often explore kinky and alternative sexualities. Romantasy is a genre where erotic and emotional combinations of all genders, species, and magical races are embraced with enthusiasm and delight. Many discussions of the genre express feminist qualms over the way that the male heroes are supportive of their high-powered partners outside the bedroom, but inclined to dominate them in bed. It’s a reasonable point. But these books revel in the sexiness of explicit consent. That erotic dynamic of exploring and experimenting with the taboo aligns with the way the genre as a whole plays with questions of what it means to have power and to be powerless. In the same way romantasy heroines shift from powerless to powerful as they enter the world of magic, their erotic life enables them, and the reader, to explore those changes in a physical context.
Those explorations can be very dark indeed. The vampire romances that seemed so edgy in Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Twilight are weak tea for romantasy readers. Laura Thalassa’s The Four Horsemen series takes the incarnations of Pestilence, War, Famine, and Death as its romantic heroes. Kingdom of the Wicked has a prince of hell as the romantic lead. The darker the hero, the more likely one is to run into the recurring romantasy trope of a woman who can take endless damage, often at the hands of a sexual partner, and bounce back physically and emotionally. It will be a long time before I recover from reading Lindsay Straube’s Kiss of the Basilisk, where a woman is so violently mated by her shape-shifting partner that her pelvis breaks. A recent conversation with some horror writers, however, makes me wonder whether writers who eroticize this kind of violence are using it as a way to cope with increasingly threatening sexual politics. Getting the monster to fall in love with you is one way to solve the problem of a culture that sees you as prey.
Read too much romantasy in too little time, and all the dark faerie lords and maladroit human women with special gifts begin to melt together. You’ll begin to notice the sometimes awkward juxtaposition of Instagram-inspired fantasies of a magical good life marked by glamorous gowns, palaces, jewels—all those bathtubs!—and the rugged woman warrior tropes borrowed from dystopian fiction. These books are fantasies of infinite luxury and of rugged survival against all odds at the same time. Part of the appeal, I suspect, is that these heroines are simultaneously ready for a Vogue cover shoot and drenched in the blood of their enemies.
Like other kinds of romance, romantasy is escapist fiction, and that’s always easy to mock. But the interesting thing about romantasy is that its readers know that. Their TikTok videos and commentary on Goodreads and elsewhere make it clear that the readers love these books—often passionately—but they also read them with a critical mindset and very little patience for authors they don’t respect. Yarros, in particular, has come under fire online for a ludicrously overpowered heroine and a plot that, readers argue, has been stitched together from elements of previous successful series.
But that sharply critical eye doesn’t prevent romantasy readers from defending the genre against all outside detractors. Those who write articles with titles like “The Porn-Brained Women of Monster Smut” that criticize the “spice level” of romantasy or moralize about it as just “pornography for women” are likely to be reminded that the multibillion-dollar pornography industry caters almost exclusively to men. Readers will point out that the romantasy industry’s estimated value of $610 million is nothing in comparison. Is it targeted because it’s largely written by women, for women, with women’s desires at the forefront? Surely, even the most explicit faerie sex scenes one can imagine have analogs in porn films or in the fantasy novels of George R.R. Martin. I was pointed to the pelvis-shattering violence of Kiss of the Basilisk, in fact, because it had inspired such a vigorous online discussion on exactly these lines.
Readers don’t just consume these books. They debate and discuss them, trace the fairy tales and myths that lie behind them, speculate about future series installments, and put that discussion up online. That community is at least as important to the readers as the books are. Readers have countless stories of making friends in online chats and in the aisles of bookstores as they find others who are browsing the same sections. And the upcoming release of a romantasy novel that began as a darkly explicit work of Harry Potter fan fiction reminds readers that their favorite genre belongs to its fans in a way that most other genres do not.
Popular culture—art, music, television, film, and yes, romantasy—can tell us a lot about what we value enough to spend time and money on. It can tell us even more about our wishful thinking. Mysterious magical beings will always be sexy. But right now, romantasy might be telling us how much we wish for a world where the things that make us weird turn out to be the things that make us special and lovable. And maybe also for a dragon.
This article originally appeared in print under the headline “Like Tolkien, but the Elves Have More Sex.”
Bumble founder Whitney Wolfe Herd is facing a situation that few tech executives ever encounter: watching her own life story dramatized on screen — without her involvement.
Hulu’s new biopic about the 35-year-old entrepreneur premiered on Sept. 8. Swiped stars Lily James as Wolfe Herd and traces her dramatic rise from Tinder cofounder to Bumble CEO and youngest woman to take a company public. But Wolfe Herd herself says the project has left her deeply uneasy.
In an interview with CNBC’s Julia Boorstin, Wolfe Herd admitted she only learned of the film once it was already “off to the races,” with a script in hand and production underway. Her discomfort ran so deep that she asked her lawyer to intervene.
“I even was asking my lawyer two years ago, ‘What do I do? I don’t want a movie made about me. Shut it down!’” Herd recalled.
As she acknowledged, public figures often have little legal recourse to stop projects based on publicly known stories.
The experience has been unsettling. Wolfe Herd said she finds the idea of a movie about her life “too weird,” confessing she hasn’t been able to watch the trailer all the way through. At the same time, she expressed some appreciation for the casting choice, calling it an “honor” to be portrayed by James. Still, the mix of emotions has left her conflicted.
“I’m obviously both terrified and maybe slightly flattered,” she said. “But the strangeness and the fear of it outweighs any flattery.”
The film arrives at a moment when Hollywood has increasingly turned to Silicon Valley for inspiration. Hulu’s The Dropout chronicled Elizabeth Holmes and Theranos, Apple TV+’s WeCrasheddramatized Adam Neumann and WeWork, while older films put the lives of Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg on screen.
These projects try to infuse the adrenaline of Silicon Valley invention with the staidness of business reality. And Wolfe Herd’s career—with its combination of early success, controversy, and ultimately a billion-dollar IPO—fits neatly into the genre.
Indeed, Wolfe Herd’s story is, in many ways, cinematic. Born in Salt Lake City, Utah, to a family invested in both philanthropy and property development, she launched her first business before 21, which was a bamboo tote bag project to raise funds for those affected by the BP oil spill of 2010. She was instrumental in Tinder’s meteoric rise but left following a high-profile lawsuit, only to cofound Bumble in 2014—a dating app premised on women making the first move.
In 2021, Wolfe Herd became the youngest woman in history to take a company public, ringing the Nasdaq bell with her son on her hip. Today, Bumble boasts millions of users and a reputation for promoting safer, more empowering online interactions.
But success doesn’t always mean control over your own story. Hulu’s film, directed by Rachel Lee Goldenberg and drawing extensively from public records, lawsuits, and media accounts, bypassed Wolfe Herd’s participation from the start. Some critics have described the movie as entertaining but “thin,” relying on the broader narrative of girlboss ascent while acknowledging the lack of deep input from its subject.
For Wolfe Herd, the challenge is less about accuracy than about the loss of agency. As someone who built her career by upending traditional dynamics and giving women more control over their interactions online, having no say in how her own story is told feels dissonant.
She admits she may eventually watch the film, but not without hesitation.
“I guess I gotta get some popcorn and stay tuned,” she said with a wry resignation.
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PORTLAND, Ore. — A former MMA fighter has been sentenced to 50 years in prison after being convicted of violently sexually assaulting three houseless women in separate attacks across Portland.
Zachary Lee Andrews, 33 — also known by the street name “Cadillac” — was sentenced Friday by Multnomah County Circuit Court Judge Celia Howes. Andrews was found guilty of 16 charges, including first-degree rape, sodomy, sexual abuse, kidnapping, and strangulation.
Senior Deputy District Attorney Robin Skarstad prosecuted the case.
Brutal Pattern of Violence
According to court records, Andrews targeted vulnerable women living in tents between 2021 and 2022. All three victims reported being raped, strangled, and assaulted over extended periods of time. In one instance, a woman was held against her will for 12 hours.
Andrews reportedly admitted to several of the attacks but claimed the victims had “force fantasies,” a claim prosecutors dismissed as a justification for non-consensual violence.
The victims suffered visible injuries, including bruising, abrasions, and signs of strangulation, according to police reports and medical examinations.
Charges and Conviction
Andrews was convicted on the following charges:
3 counts of Rape in the First Degree
2 counts of Sodomy in the First Degree
3 counts of Sexual Abuse in the First Degree
3 counts of Strangulation
1 count of Kidnapping in the First Degree
1 count of Unlawful Penetration in the First Degree
3 counts of Assault in the Fourth Degree
DA: “A Serial Predator Held Accountable”
Multnomah County District Attorney Nathan Vasquez praised the victims and the team behind the case.
“Today’s sentencing of 50 years brings long-awaited accountability for Zachary Andrews, a serial predator who inflicted profound harm on multiple victims,” Vasquez said in a statement. “While no prison term can undo the trauma he caused, this outcome ensures he can no longer hurt others.”
Vasquez also thanked the Portland Police Bureau, specifically Detective Nathan Wollstein, DA Investigator Heather Hughes, and victim advocate Amina Dureti for their roles in supporting the victims and building the case.
Case Timeline
October 24, 2021: First victim reported being raped and strangled in her tent.
March 29, 2022: Second victim attacked in a similar manner.
October 1, 2022: Third victim assaulted and held against her will for 12 hours.
All three women reported knowing Andrews from the street and identified him by his alias, “Cadillac.”
For whatever reason, we men are often afraid to ask the ladies certain questions. Maybe we’re afraid of judgement, maybe we’re scared to look stupid, or maybe we just don’t want to know the answer.
That said, these fellas have bucked up at shared the questions that they’ve been afraid to ask before.
Above: Women’s March Cleveland on Oct. 2, 2021 at a march from Market Square Park in Cleveland that drew some 2,500 people. Photo by David Petkiewicz of Cleveland.com. The next march is Sat, Sept 20 2005. Read more below.
CLEVELAND, Ohio-Women’s March Cleveland will host a “Cleveland, Oh Make Billionaires Pay & Fight For Women’s Rights Rally & March” on Sat., June 21, 2025 with a noon rally and 1 pm march from the steps of City Hall in downtown Cleveland. The event is part of a national day of action.
Organizers say the event is a rally and mass march for reproductive and Civil Rights and an effort to continue the fight for choice for women in Cleveland and Northeast Ohio, including Black women.
“We must keep up the fight for Civil Rights for women and the fight for Black and other women to have a choice to decide what to do with their bodies,” said Women’s March Cleveland head organizer Kathy Wray Coleman, a seasoned Black Cleveland activist and community organizer who leads Women’s March Cleveland.
Women’s March Cleveland activists Alysa Cooper Moskey, Sierra Mason and Alfred Porter Jr. of Black on Black Crime Inc. are also helping to organize the event, Coleman said.
Speakers for the event are forthcoming.
In addition to reproductive rights, the issues addressed at the rally and march will include the attacks by Washington, D.C. operatives against DEI, immigrants, public and higher education, federal workers, and a host of others, and the actions of D.C. billionaires and policy-makers in subordinating poor people and the underprivileged, organizers said.
Data show that since the attack on DEI and federal workers, the unemployment rate for Blacks in America has increased, and the Black community remains at risk.
“This is deplorable and unacceptable, and the data are real,” Coleman said, adding that “we are grassroots activists of Cleveland and we will continue to fight in the trenches on these issues.”
Other activist groups supporting the event include, Cuyahoga Democratic Women’s Caucus, Black on Black Crime Inc., Black Man’s Army, Black Women’s Army, Carl Stokes Brigade, Refuse Fascism, Rise Up For Abortion Rights CLE.
Roe v. Wade, a landmark 1973 U.S. Supreme Court decision that made abortion legal nationwide, was reversed by the Supreme Court on June 24, 2022 via its Dobbs decision. It stripped women of federal protection for abortion access and gave states the authority to legislate abortion and reproductive rights.
Abortion in Ohio, however, is legal after Ohio voters, in 2023, passed an Issue 1 referendum to enshrine the constitutional right to abortion in the Ohio Constitution. But activists who pushed for Issue 1 fear a national abortion ban is looming by conservatives and that state measures are underway in Ohio to try to undermine their victory in getting Issue 1 passed. And they have vowed to fight to the end.
“Women cannot afford to sit idly by while our opponents trample on our civil and constitutional rights and slip in a national abortion ban, and we will not go away quietly,” Coleman said. “A choice is a terrible thing to lose, whether at the voting box or with respect to a woman’s body.”
Above: Women’s March Cleveland on Oct. 2, 2021 at a march from Market Square Park in Cleveland that drew some 2,500 people. Photo by David Petkiewicz of Cleveland.com. The next march is Sat, Sept 20 2005. Read more below.
CLEVELAND, Ohio-Women’s March Cleveland will host a “Cleveland, Oh Make Billionaires Pay & Fight For Women’s Rights Rally & March” on Sat., June 21, 2025 with a noon rally and 1 pm march from the steps of City Hall in downtown Cleveland. The event is part of a national day of action.
Organizers say the event is a rally and mass march for reproductive and Civil Rights and an effort to continue the fight for choice for women in Cleveland and Northeast Ohio, including Black women.
“We must keep up the fight for Civil Rights for women and the fight for Black and other women to have a choice to decide what to do with their bodies,” said Women’s March Cleveland head organizer Kathy Wray Coleman, a seasoned Black Cleveland activist and community organizer who leads Women’s March Cleveland.
Women’s March Cleveland activists Alysa Cooper Moskey, Sierra Mason and Alfred Porter Jr. of Black on Black Crime Inc. are also helping to organize the event, Coleman said.
Speakers for the event are forthcoming.
In addition to reproductive rights, the issues addressed at the rally and march will include the attacks by Washington, D.C. operatives against DEI, immigrants, public and higher education, federal workers, and a host of others, and the actions of D.C. Billionaires in subordinating poor people and the underprivileged, organizers said.
Other activist groups supporting the event include, Cuyahoga Democratic Women’s Caucus, Black on Black Crime Inc., Black Man’s Army, Black Women’s Army, Carl Stokes Brigade, Refuse Fascism, Rise Up For Abortion Rights CLE.
Roe v. Wade, a landmark 1973 U.S. Supreme Court decision that made abortion legal nationwide, was reversed by the Supreme Court on June 24, 2022 via its Dobbs decision. It stripped women of federal protection for abortion access and gave states the authority to legislate abortion and reproductive rights.
Abortion in Ohio, however, is legal after Ohio voters, in 2023, passed an Issue 1 referendum to enshrine the constitutional right to abortion in the Ohio Constitution. But activists who pushed for Issue 1 fear a national abortion ban is looming by conservatives and that state measures are underway in Ohio to try to undermine their victory in getting Issue 1 passed. And they have vowed to fight to the end.
“Women cannot afford to sit idly by while our opponents trample on our constitutional rights and slip in a national abortion ban, and we will not go away quietly,” Coleman said. “A choice is a terrible thing to lose, whether at the voting box or with respect to a woman’s body.”
The police chief for the Colorado Mental Health Hospital in Pueblo used road-rage-like tactics to confront speeding drivers while he was off-duty, outside of his jurisdiction and in an unmarked state vehicle, prompting drivers to call 911 at least three times last year, an internal investigation found.
Chief Richard McMorran was reinstated to his position Aug. 15 with a 5% pay cut after a 10-month investigation into his actions. He was on paid administrative leave during that investigation, which included a review by the Colorado Bureau of Investigation and a referral to prosecutors for potential criminal charges.
In an email Thursday, 10th Judicial District Attorney Kala Beauvais said her office is still considering whether criminal charges are warranted.
“We are nearing a decision,” she said.
McMorran did not return a request for comment Thursday.
On at least six occasions between January and September 2024, McMorran confronted drivers on Interstate 25 who he believed were speeding, the investigation found. The chief tailgated, raced and pulled up beside drivers. He yelled, gestured, swerved into the other drivers’ lanes, refused to let them pass, and “paced” them to gauge their speed, investigators found.
He was in the unmarked vehicle, outside of hospital grounds, off-duty and sometimes wearing plain clothes during the confrontations, the investigation found. It was not immediately clear Thursday whether the unmarked vehicle was equipped with police lights and sirens.
Two of the incidents, in January 2024 and September 2024, ended in actual traffic stops, the internal investigation found.
“You had multiple interactions with members of the public that caused them to fear for their safety and call 911. These interactions were repeatedly inappropriate, unprofessional, demonstrated poor judgment and exhibited a lack of understanding about the impact you have on members of the public when behaving this way,” Chris Frenz, deputy director of operations and legal affairs at the Office of Civil and Forensic Mental Health, the agency that operates the state’s mental health hospitals, wrote in an Aug. 13 disciplinary letter.
Drivers called 911 during three of the confrontations. At least one of the drivers was concerned that the chief “had ulterior motives other than traffic enforcement,” Frenz wrote.
The investigation considered whether the chief was specifically targeting women in the confrontations, spokeswoman Stephanie Fredrickson confirmed. She said the targeted drivers were both men and women but declined to give an exact breakdown of their genders “to protect their privacy.”
Frenz concluded that the chief was not specifically stopping women.
“I do not believe you were targeting (name redacted) or anyone specifically, as you admitted that it was common practice for you to identify people speeding and use various techniques to get them to slow down,” he wrote. “However, your practices very clearly gave an initial appearance of some type of targeting or harassing behavior from the viewpoint of any specific person subject to this behavior.”
During the internal investigation, McMorran denied swerving or tailgating, but generally acknowledged the incidents and told internal investigators that he feels he has “an obligation to intervene when people are driving too fast.” He said he pulled alongside drivers to monitor their speeds because his vehicle is not equipped with radar, and that the “perceived yelling and gesturing” was his way of telling the drivers to slow down.
“You were shocked that anyone thought you were trying to run off the road. You’ve never done anything like that before,” Frenz wrote in the letter, summarizing the chief’s positions during the investigation. “…If you had known so many people had been calling in, you would have approached things differently.”
The chief noted during the internal investigation that he is allowed to make traffic stops. He is a POST-certified police officer, state records show. Frenz wrote in his letter that “current policy” gives the chief the authority to conduct traffic stops.
Frenz wrote that he was reducing the chief’s salary by $498 a month, not because he made traffic stops, but because of the way he did so.
“You should have known that pacing people in an unmarked vehicle, with no uniform, without pulling them over, would cause confusion and fear,” Frenz wrote. “Moreover, your repeated conduct on the freeway reflected poorly on the department.”
In addition to the pay cut, McMorran, for the next year, is prohibited from driving his state vehicle outside of the hospital’s sprawling 300-acre campus, is prohibited from conducting traffic stops unless there is an immediate health or safety concern, and cannot drive his state vehicle to his home or use it for personal reasons, according to the letter.
The state mental health hospital’s small police department handles criminal matters at the 516-bed campus in Pueblo. The department includes a handful of certified police officers, as well as a number of security guards.
McMorran was appointed chief in 2018 when his predecessor was abruptly removed from his position, placed on administrative leave and escorted from the premises. The reason for the previous chief’s departure was not clear, but he did not return from leave.
I am the creator of a girl empowerment business. We created curriculum kits that use the stories of notable women in history to teach girls about their worth and potential. I am the writer and researcher, and B, my business partner (and one of my favorite guy feminists), is the creative and marketing guru.
We work well together. When there is a disagreement, we listen, find common ground and solve problems together. Sometimes finding a solution feels impossible. Sometimes the solution turns out perfect.
Before the pandemic, we partnered with schools to deliver our curriculum. When the shutdown occurred, we lost those partnerships, but we found the homeschool crowd. This community accepted us wholeheartedly.
For the past three years, we’ve traveled to more than 20 homeschool conferences. Our company has a lot of supportive and excited customers. We even get return customers whom we love reconnecting with at these events.
However, there is a faction that prickles at our presence. B and I try to brush it off, but even the smallest splinter, when not addressed, can cause an infection.
A mom enters our booth in the exhibitor hall in Missouri. “OK, my daughter loves Harriet Tubman. Tell me what you got!” she says.
I explain our product, how we use historical women to teach girls about their worth and potential. The mother says: “But is it woke? I mean, I don’t want to teach my daughter about woke.”
I look around at our curriculum kits. They are all women who fought for equality. I think to myself, Hell yes, it’s woke. The irony is lost on this potential customer.
I pause and take a different approach.
In my head, I hear Inigo Montoya from “The Princess Bride”: You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.
I understand what she thinks she is asking. She doesn’t want anything liberal, progressive, or written by “snowflakes.” But does she know that “woke” is not a bad thing?
“What do you mean, ‘woke’?” I ask.
She opens her mouth. Half-words and phrases stumble and tumble around. A few talking points from news sources fall out. Finally, she sighs. “I don’t know. Just tell me again what you write.”
In Ohio, a mom breezes into our booth.
“Oh my goodness, I love this. I am going to have to buy this for my girl!” she tells me. “I do have one question, though ― do you teach feminism? I mean, I believe in equality, but I am not a feminist, and I don’t want to teach it to my daughter.”
I take the approach I used in Missouri.
“What do you mean?” I ask her.
“Well, do you teach that women are better than men?”
“No, I teach all genders are equal and should be treated as such.”
I am in Texas, my home state. A mom wanders in, picks up a journal, and reads about Kate Warne, the first woman detective.
“Where do you do your research?” she asks. I give her several sites. “That’s good, that’s good,” she says.
“Now then,” she begins again, “what is your slant?”
“Which way do you lean?”
“Just historical facts,” I tell her.
“OK. But listen, I need you to do something for me.”
She reaches out and takes my hand. Apparently we are best friends now.
“Write about Biblical characters,” she says. “We need that. Especially the men.”
I tilt my head to the side.
“Well, we focus on actual women from history,” I say.
“Well, I will have to think about this.”
She drops my hand. The friendship is over.
“Our company banner draws most customers into our booth,” the author writes. “Unfortunately, it also gets the most sarcastic remarks.”
Courtesy of Heather Stark
I am sitting in my booth in South Carolina. It’s been a long morning. Suddenly I feel a presence. I turn around, and slowly, into my sights, the face of an older man scrolls down. Chin, nose, glasses.
“You gonna do more?” he asks.
I hold off a grimace caused by his coffee breath.
He glances up at an illustration that highlights our historical women. I stand up and take two steps back, putting the chair between us.
“Yes, we hope to add two more women. In the fall, we will add the first Asian American woman accepted into the Army. Then we are working on a Latina in 2024.”
“Well, hopefully not Frida Kahlo,” he says.
“You never know,” I reply.
“No, she’s no good, a communist,” he tells me.
“She did a lot of good.”
“Not all women are good,” he explains.
“Not all men are good,” I respond.
He walks away and I exhale. I didn’t realize I had been holding my breath.
I’m still in South Carolina. A couple comes to the booth. They were here yesterday, and I talked to the wife. Yesterday, her husband stayed silent. Today he sees B and gets excited.
“Here’s a guy,” he says. “He is ready to answer all of my questions.”
I side-eye B while welcoming the couple back. I talk to the wife, and they wander over to look at our product.
A few minutes later, the husband walks over to B.
“My wife doesn’t know the story of Rosie the Riveter,” he says. “I’m gonna tell her, but I need you to fact-check me.”
“Actually, Heather is the one who wrote the biographies.”
“Yeah, I know, but check me,” he tells B.
No one else is in the booth, so the husband stands in the middle. Center stage. He spreads his legs wide, slightly bending his knees, and his wife preps for the show.
“OK, he and I…” he begins. With both arms, he dramatically gestures to B and himself, a platoon of two. “We are off fighting the war. You and her —” he indicates us girls — “stay home and support us by making airplanes. We —” another swing of the arms to indicate the platoon — “use the airplanes to win the war and come home.”
He looks triumphantly at B. “Is that right?”
I am baffled by this 10-second World War II reenactment. An awkward giggle escapes me. B looks at me and I shrug my shoulders. B’s on his own with this guy.
He clears his throat and says, “Well, there’s more to it than that, but yeah, I guess.”
The couple buy the curriculum and tell us they are opening a co-op school.
Back in Texas, a woman walks by. She stares at the booth and looks at me. There are tears in her eyes.
“This is amazing. Please give me one of everything,” she tells me.
She does indeed buy one of everything. She thanks me for the diversity and representation. She whispers: “You don’t see this type of curriculum at homeschool conferences. Instead, you see those types of things.”
B and I look at where she is pointing. At the next booth, a company is selling books with rhyming Bible stories. Their banner sports a cartoon version of white Jesus with six-pack abs, biceps for days, and nail holes in his hands. Around him are brown-skinned people with large, crooked noses.
We are stunned into silence. Later, B and I wonder what rhymes with Jerusalem.
Another city in Texas. A woman and her older mother walk into the booth. They pick up products and make comments, but neither acknowledges me.
One picks up a journal that tells the story of Sarah Grimké. On the cover, it says “Follow Your Heart.”
The younger woman turns to her mother and says, rather loudly: “You know what (insert daughter’s name) said to me the other day?”
“What?” her mother asks.
“She said in Sunday school she learned you can’t listen to your heart, only to the Lord, because your heart lies to you.”
The younger woman finally looks at me and says: “Even my daughter gets it. She is only 9.”
She puts the journal back, and they leave. I don’t tell her a girl’s heart is the only thing that speaks truth.
The author discussing the stories of historical women with an intrigued customer at a homeschool conference in Texas.
Courtesy of Heather Stark
We’re in Florida. I walk down an aisle and notice a red glare, a tinge that no other aisle has. It takes me a moment, and then it hits me: This whole aisle is political organizations. None of it has to do with education — just politics — and every booth has some red in it.
I pass some signs that read “Ron DeSantis World.” B says it looks like they’re mimicking the Disney font. Several booths are conducting podcast interviews. I look up the podcasts on my phone and see that each one spreads conspiracy theories.
I pass another booth where a man and a woman are talking about gun rights… at a homeschool conference. Then I pass a Moms for Liberty booth. My stomach drops.
We’re in Missouri again. We are selling a lot of product — in fact, we had our first mother and son make a purchase so he could learn about Sacagawea. It made me happy.
A voice comes on the intercom: “All boys are welcomed to the _____ booth for a push-up contest.”
Boys of all ages go to the booth and form a circle. Their heads are in the middle, feet on the outside. The contest starts. There is a lot of yelling and grunting. Girls stand around the circle watching. I wonder what they are thinking as they watch the boys. There isn’t a contest for girls.
I’m in California. It’s our last conference for the season. I threw up again from the anxiety of anticipating more offhand remarks and rude questions. This morning I am presenting to a full room. I am discussing ways to build confidence in girls. I am 20 minutes into the presentation when a woman interrupts me.
“When are you going to talk about God in all of this?” she asks.
Her rudeness throws me off. I take a breath and smile.
“God is wherever you want God to be. I can’t tell you that,” I reply.
Two other women get up and leave.
Later, one lady comes back to apologize. She admits that walking out of my presentation wasn’t very Christian-like. Sometimes I forget I am around Christians — “Do unto others” doesn’t get universally applied at these conferences.
That evening, I finally tell B that I am throwing up before the conferences. He asks if we need to stop going. I want to say yes, but I don’t.
Although throwing up is new, this conversation isn’t. One thing about B — he will follow my lead. He gets the double standard without me needing to verbalize it. Deep down, neither of us is ready to be forced out. So once more, over drinks, we hammer out reasons why we want to be in places that cause strife.
“We make a lot of money at these events,” I say. It feels dirty coming out of my mouth. B nods and orders another round.
“Your thing is changing the conversation,” he says. “Changing the conversation on beauty culture. Changing the conversation on how we raise empowered girls. How about we change the conversation about feminism at these events?”
He gets that look in his eye, the one that signifies he has a wildly genius thought.
“What if we actually start talking about feminism instead of avoiding the conversation? Maybe the workshops you give could be why feminism is good. You could be the woman that blatantly teaches about feminism… at a conservative homeschool convention. It’s brilliant!”
I laugh out loud, partly intrigued, partly because I think he is insane.
“We will get canceled,” I tell him.
“For all the right reasons,” he replies.
The bartender brings over two dirty martinis.
This piece was originally published in October 2023 and we are rerunning it now as part of HuffPost Personal’s “Best Of” series.
Heather Stark is a business owner, podcast host, public speaker and feminist writer. Grace & Grit, her girl empowerment company, helps girls discover their worth and potential through the stories of historical women. She is the author of “Her Story: A Hilarious & Heartfelt Conversation About Why Beauty Milestones Should Be Options, Not Expectations.” She lives on Padre Island, Texas, with her family.
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Mother’s Day is right around the corner, and while mom might say she loves her “world’s greatest mom” mug, she’d secretly prefer something a tad more useful, indulgent, or fun. So, here are a few Mother’s Day gifts mom will actually love.
A book she can read with her littles. Nothing is more special than spending time curled up with a great story. Consider the new title Mama’s Shoes, a heartwarming story from bestselling illustrator Vanessa Brantley-Newton and award-winning author Caron Levis. It’s a celebration of hard-working moms everywhere, and the children who love them.
Mom will love curling up in this organic Turkish cotton robe from Crate & Barrel. It’s unbelievably plush and incredibly soft, and has sophisticated Herringbone detailing for a touch of chic.
Give mom a good reason for some self care with this Hair Care Bundle from Hello Joyous. It has everything she’ll need to nourish her scalp and strands with cold-pressed organic botanicals and clean, effective essentials designed to revitalize, strengthen, and refresh.
Skip the sad bouquet and get mom what she really wants for Mother’s Day: cookware that comes with a lifetime warranty. No wilt, no guilt because mom deserves better. The HexClad Hybrid Deep Saute Pan can do it all – she’ll want to keep this one-pot meal workhorse on the closest burner for searing, braising, frying and simmering, and its high sides will help keep the kitchen spatter-free. And their Hybrid Wok is ideal for when she’s cooking for a crowd or wants to make sure there are leftovers – she can prepare a whole meal in one pan: stir-fries, pasta dishes, soups, and more.
What’s better than a yummy breakfast in bed? From shakes to smoothie bowls (and even frozen cocktails – cue Jimmy Buffett’s “It’s 5 o’clock Somewhere”), Hamilton Beach’s 10 Speed Blender serves up perfectly smooth results every time. Packed with power, the blender’s blades can turn anything into a healthy, tasty treat. Surprise Mom or Dad with this Pineapple Mango Smoothie Bowl this Mother’s Day/Father’s Day!
Busy moms appreciate (and look forward to) a great cup of coffee. Nespresso Canada has several new spring launches that mom would love to add to her coffee arsenal. From the Vertuo line, Vivida integrates taste and wellness with a coffee enriched with Vitamin B12. Also, the new Active+ is part of the Nespresso Coffee+ range, a coffee blend with added Vitamin B6, a vitamin that reduces tiredness and fatigue when consumed daily. From the Original line, Vienna is a balanced blend of smooth and silky South American Arabicas, while the Vienna Linizio Lungo Decaffeinato recreates this balanced and pleasant Viennese taste by pairing sweet Brazilian and Colombian Arabicas, lightly roasted by their experts. And the Arpeggio & Decaf Arpeggio are new dense and creamy coffees with a bold roast and notes of cocoa. Its creamy, velvety texture is irresistible. It’s also a great capsule for Nespresso Martinis!
Fund Will Support Initiatives That Provide Skills, Training, Opportunities
NEW YORK, February 26, 2025 (Newswire.com)
– The Hadassah Foundation is pleased to announce that philanthropist Jacquie Bayley has made a $500,000 contribution to the Hadassah Foundation to create the Fund for Leadership, Opportunity, and Sisterhood.
The Bayley Fund will support initiatives that offer women and girls in Israel and the American Jewish community the skills and training needed to obtain and excel in leadership roles across all spheres of life. Priority will be given to organizations and programs that support girls and young women ranging from adolescence to young adulthood. Special consideration will be given to organizations that are reaching those who are less likely to have access to opportunities due to their background, race, ability or other factors.
“Women and girls are powerful agents of change, yet too little funding goes toward supporting them, and men remain the majority of leaders in important decision-making positions,” said Hadassah Foundation Chair Ellen Soffar Steinberg. “By helping the Hadassah Foundation to underwrite one of the Core grants we award annually, this fund will enable us to provide additional and potentially larger grants moving forward.”
Ms. Bayley, who lives in Bellevue, Washington, has been an active supporter of the Hadassah Foundation for many years. She served as a board member from 2017-2022, helping to shape its grantmaking strategies and spearheading fundraising efforts, which more than doubled the Hadassah Foundation’s annual contributions. She continues to guide ongoing programming and engage a network of more than 70 former board members. Among Ms. Bayley’s numerous involvements, she is a board member of the Shalom Hartman Institute of North America and is a past region president of the Pacific Northwest region of Hadassah, The Women’s Zionist Organization of America.
“The Hadassah Foundation shares both my feminist and Jewish values, and the network of gender-equity organizations it has nurtured are leading the way to a better future for women and girls,” Ms. Bayley said. “I feel very fortunate to be able to help the foundation deepen its impact, and I hope my gift inspires more people to make serious commitments to gender equity in both Israel and the United States.”
The Hadassah Foundation leads the movement to revolutionize the role, perception, and impact of all who identify as women and girls in Israel and the American Jewish community. Learn more at hadassahfoundation.org.
The tightly contested 2024 presidential election could be defined by the gender gap with Vice President Kamala Harris polling better among women, according to a CBS News poll from late October.
Recent CBS News polling shows the race between Harris and former President Donald Trump is a toss-up in seven battleground states as more than 78 million Americans have already voted ahead of Election Day on Tuesday.
Harris is counting on suburban women to help her win the presidential election. She received unexpected help from some longtime Republicans with the Women4U.S. group, an organization aimed at outreach to conservative women.
Stephanie Sharp, a co-founder of the organization, is a self-proclaimed lifelong conservative. This year though, Sharp is urging fellow Republican women to vote for Harris.
“We’ll send Donald Trump packing, and then we can begin to have conversations again that are productive and have compromise on issues that are important to all of us,” Sharp said.
Her message is for women turned off by the former president’s rhetoric toward women and his role in reversing the landmark Supreme Court decision Roe v. Wade.
Trump recently said at a campaign stop in Wisconsin, “I want to protect the women of our country… Whether the women like it or not, I’m going to protect them.”
In Pennsylvania, the organization is targeting voters in the Philadelphia suburbs who helped President Biden win the state four years ago.
“There are, again, hundreds of thousands of Republican women out there who are ready to vote outside their party, but they don’t want to talk about it,” Jennifer Horn, chief strategist for Women4U.S., said.
Across battleground states, Post-it notes are popping up in women’s bathroom stalls, aimed at the so-called silent Harris supporters.
Campaign ads, including one narrated by actress Julia Roberts, remind voters that their vote is private.
Some Trump supporters are skeptical of polling that shows Harris with a big lead among women. They say it’s about policy, not personality.
“We’re not going home with him. We are not sitting and eating at the dining room table with him every night, but his actions speak louder than words and his actions are more aligned with my faith, with my family and the values that we hold dear,” Beth Scolis, a Trump supporter, said.
A senior Trump campaign official told CBS News that even if Harris performs better with women, they think Trump’s popularity among men is more impactful.
On the final day of the campaign, Trump will campaign in North Carolina and Pennsylvania, before holding his last rally in Michigan. Harris will crisscross Pennsylvania, a key battleground with 19 electoral votes. She has planned events in Allentown, Reading and Pittsburgh, before her final rally in Philadelphia.
Weijia Jiang is the senior White House correspondent for CBS News based in Washington, D.C. Jiang has covered the White House beat since 2018, including the transition between the Trump and Biden administrations. In 2023, Jiang won an Emmy Award for her contributions to “CBS Mornings.”
The new monochrome collection provides women in culinary with a stylish, long-awaited alternative to male-centric uniforms, offering sizes from XXS to 3XL.
VIRGINIA BEACH, Va., October 31, 2024 (Newswire.com)
– Funky Chef, the first culinary workwear brand by a female chef for female chefs, introduces its Black & White Collection. Building on the success of its original Colorful designs, this monochrome line offers women a stylish, fitted, and practical alternative to male-centric uniforms, with sizes ranging from XXS to 3XL.
Funky Chef jackets have become a go-to choice for chefs and influencers due to their fit, style, and functionality. Celebrity chefs from shows like Choppedand Below Deck proudly wear Funky Chef, endorsing the much-needed change these jackets bring to the industry. Influencer Hanalei Souza (@theladylinecook), with over 65,000 followers, ignited social media with a viral post highlighting the lack of well-fitting apparel for female chefs. The video, now reaching 165,000 views, praised Funky Chef’s jackets as a “game-changer” and sparked conversations about inclusivity.
“Our Black & White Collection isn’t just about aesthetics—it’s about creating a uniform that works with a woman’s body, not against it. These jackets are practical enough for the busiest kitchens but flattering enough to boost confidence,” says Hannah Staddon, Founder and CEO of Funky Chef, and a yacht chef for over 10 years.
With women making up over 50% of culinary school graduates in the U.S., the need for professional kitchen wear that fits and empowers them has never been greater. Traditional chef jackets, historically designed for men, left women grappling with bulky and ill-fitting uniforms. Funky Chef addresses this need by offering:
A fitted, adjustable cut for comfort across all body types.
Sizes ranging from XXS to 3XL to ensure inclusivity.
Easy zip closures replacing cumbersome buttons.
Side seam splits for mobility and a flattering silhouette.
Ample pockets, with Staddon adding, “No woman ever has enough pockets.”
Priced at $139, the collection combines timeless monochrome designs with practicality, making it an essential staple for women chefs. The jackets are crafted from eco-friendly, breathable cotton, printed with non-toxic dyes, and designed with sustainability in mind. Committed to supporting women beyond the kitchen, the brand donates 1% of its profits to the Endometriosis Foundation of America.
For more information or to shop the Black & White Collection, visit www.FunkyChef.co or follow @funkychefco on Instagram.
About Funky Chef: Funky Chef is the world’s first collection of fitted, fashion-forward chef’s jackets exclusively for women. It breaks the mold of shapeless traditional uniforms by introducing innovative designs blending style, comfort, and functionality.
While some financial advisors recommend the 50-30-20 rule, where 50% of your pay goes to fixed expenses, 30% to discretionary and 20% to savings, putting aside just 10% of your take-home pay for savings is OK, too. “We can be as efficient with that 10% as we can possibly be… meaning we could put your savings in a diversified portfolio where the expected returns are going to be higher and over a longer period of time.”
Ayana Forward, a financial advisor and founder of Retirement in View in Ottawa, acknowledges how hard it can be for single women—and all women—to create a plan to invest, particularly early in their careers. “You have all kinds of competing priorities,” she says, including possible childcare expenses, a mortgage, car payments and school debts. However, Forward encourages women to begin saving anything they can as soon as possible to build habits and benefit from compound interest, which is when your money’s interest starts earning interest of its own.
Here’s how that can look: Let’s say you take $100 a week from your miscellaneous allotment and invest it at an interest rate of 5% and watch it grow. After 30 years, if you had put that $100 in a savings account with no or a low interest rate, you’d only have $156,100—but because you invested it, you’d have $345,914. (Calculate your savings with our compound interest calculator.)
Prioritize what you love
What are your absolute must-haves in life? Your non-negotiables? You don’t have to give those up—you may just have to find an alternative way to make them work while meeting your savings goals. “My client, who is a college instructor, loves to travel, and her trips are usually tax deductible,” says Hughes. But to be able to afford her trips while continuing to save, she picked up a part-time job. “It gave her some extra income since she was determined to meet her goal, which was to own a place of her own,” says Hughes.
Whether you pick up a side hustle or not, chances are there will still be a few sacrifices you’ll need to make. It comes down to looking at your budget and deciding what you want to prioritize in the immediate time period, says Cornelissen, and deciding what you can let go of for a while.
Or it can relieve you from doing the opposite, over-saving for fear of not having enough money. Knowing how much money is going in and going out of your account is key to making a plan for your money.
Revisit your employee contract
If you’re employed full-time, find out if your company offers a pension or an employer-sponsored plan, such as RRSP matching (where an employer contributes the same amount as an employee to a registered retirement savings plan). This will help you determine how much you need to save for retirement. “If you don’t have a pension, you’ll need to save more than someone who has a pension,” says Forward.
Also, when planning for your retirement explore government income sources that may be available, like the Canada Pension Plan (CPP) and Old Age Security (OAS). “You can go into your My Service Canada account to get those benefit statements so you know what you’ll be receiving from those programs,” says Forward. (You can log into your My Service Canada account using a unique password or use your bank account log in.)