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Qualities To Look For In A Man

The Top 3 Qualities To Look For In A Man If You Want a Good Relationship After 50

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#1 . . . Look for a Nice Guy versus a Bad Boy

Most women think they want a nice guy but what they really want is a nice guy who is a little like the Bad Boy.

That’s because Bad Boys can make your heart sing.

The thing is Bad Boys are all talk and few follow that talk up with action so that leaves you with a guy who isn’t really there for you.

A nice man is usually commitment oriented.

He wants a good woman to love, cherish and adore.

And he’s the man who will always follow his words up with an action that makes your life a little easier for you.

So many nice men are on the dating sites waiting for a good woman to give them a chance.

Will you?

#2 . . . Look for a man who wants to make it all about you

From the day I met my friend Ron, he always told me that the most important thing to look for in a man is that he wants to make it all about you.

What does this mean?

He really wants to make you happy and will do everything in his power to put that smile on your face.

The problem is, women often criticize men for not doing things the way they might do it.

When you do this to a man, you are literally cutting him off at the knees, making him feel like he can never do anything to please you and this is when men stop trying to make you happy.

Learn to receive from men even when it’s not quite the way you expected.

My friend Ron sometimes rolls his eyes when he thinks of all the times he’s made an effort and women haven’t appreciated him for doing it.

Be sure to always thank a man and appreciate him for trying to make you happy.

#3…Choose a man based on values versus activities you share.

Part of figuring out the right man for you comes from designing a Quality Man Template.

It’s something every one of my clients creates so they can identify who a good man is for them at this time in their life.

In the Quality Man Template, I ask my clients to list 50 qualities and 10-15 values they want in a man.

Qualities are things like bike riding or enjoying fine dining.

The issue with qualities is someone can wine and dine you, and yet treat you horribly.

And you don’t want that.

It’s why values are so important for you to identify.

Honesty, integrity, monogamy, and loyalty are examples of values.

Values are what hold a relationship together…they are the glue.

I can almost guarantee that values that are important to you were missing from past relationships and that’s why it didn’t work out.

Take the time to make a list of at least 10 values that a man must have to date you.

Then let these be your guide versus chemistry when you are looking for the right man to share your heart and life with.

I’d have MISSED my guy if I’d used this quality trying to decide if he’s the one

Lisa, if I hadn’t memorized your advice to wait a few dates and NOT look for an immediate spark, (he’s 5’9” to my 6′, bald, overweight- as am I), I would not have had the opportunity to be walked to my car, asked politely to be kissed (the man has seriously good skills), and the fun and excitement of making out like teenagers for a few dates.

Thanks to what I learned from you, I have found the love of my life. He calls me his Nordic Goddess. I feel so cherished and feel so lucky we found each other. Oh, and he’s been so there for me as I’ve gone through a rough knee replacement. He rose to the occasion, impressing me and my kids. They are now all team Mark! Just can’t thank you enough for all your support. Ginny, Massachusetts

Would you love having a good man in your life like Ginny now has?

Imagine . . . no more searching for Mr. Right.

No more wondering where can I find him?

And waking up every morning with that love and sweetness in your life.

If this sounds amazing, just click here and let’s set up a time to talk and see how we can make this happen for you.

Believing in you!

Believing in You!

P.S. Whenever you are ready, here are four ways I can help you find love after 50

#1: Get a copy of my book The Winning Dating Formula on Amazon  

Where I will walk you through a step-by-step breakdown of the exact tools and strategies you need for attracting the right man into your life — Click here

#2: Join the Finding Love after 50 Facebook group

It’s our Facebook community where you can connect with me and a community of women ready to support you on your journey for finding love after 50 — Click here

#3: Work with me 1-on-1 or in my Group Program

I would love to learn more about your dating journey, understand where you might be stuck, and give you a personalized step-by-step blueprint to attract the right man. And maybe even talk about how we can work together.

If you are interested in learning more about how I can help, you can Click here to answer a few quick questions and schedule a call.

#4: Subscribe to my YouTube Channel

Click here to explore my YouTube channel for valuable tips on dating and relationships after 50! Discover insights that will empower you to attract the right partner with confidence.

Copyright© 2024 Lisa Copeland. All rights reserved.

On October 30, 2024 / Dating Advice Over 50, Dating After 50, Dating after 60, Dating after 70, Meeting Men Over 50, Relationships after 50, Relationships after 60, Relationships after 70

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October 30, 2024
Love yourself

What I Learned About Love That Can HELP YOU Too!

You can read the blog below or watch it on YouTube by clicking here.

When I first started dating, I’d go crazy worrying about whether or not a man would like me.

I was forgetting how amazing I was . . . probably because in those days I wasn’t sure I was.

And even worse, I was giving my power away to someone I didn’t even know worrying about what he thought about me.

It’s so easy to do, especially when you read men’s profiles that say things like . . . “I want a professional woman who is petite and thin with blonde hair.”

After reading something like this, it’s so easy to critically start assessing yourself.

Maybe your body is curvy now because things have shifted, courtesy of menopause.

You know you have a great job but you’re not sure it’s what this guy would want and your hair is brown . . . but you could add blonde highlights if that’s what he’d like.

If you read enough profiles where men are describing specific types of women they’re looking for, you can end up feeling like you aren’t enough.

BTW . . . Reading women’s magazines can make you feel this way as well with all the unrealistic photoshopping that is done.

TODAY . . . I’m here to tell you that YOU ARE ENOUGH!

You’ve just forgotten and I want you to be able to bring your greatness back to you.

Recently, I heard this short poem that touched my heart and I wanted to share it with you because it’s so easy to forget how AMAZING you really are . . . AND YOU ARE AMAZING.

(And if this poem resonates with you, I hope you’ll pass it along to the women you treasure in your life to remind them how special they are too.)

Who Are YOU?

You are . . . WOMAN

You are . . . Beautiful

You are . . . Powerful

You are . . . Sensitive

You are . . . Loving

You are a unique GEM

You are worthy of LOVE and AFFECTION

You are . . . never too much and you are always ENOUGH!

You are . . . AMAZING

Just the way you ARE

You are . . . the most stunning of all God’s creations

You are . . . worth more than you could ever imagine

You ARE . . . Worth more than the number on the scale, the size of your jeans, more than the price tags on your clothes or the shoes you wear.

YOU are . . . Worth more than the amount in your bank account, or the car you drive, or even the number of friends you have on social media.

Your WORTH surpasses ALL things on this planet and beyond Because in the eyes of your creator YOU ARE LOVED!

So today to all our sisters, mothers, aunts, daughters, grandmothers, grand-daughters, cousins and friends across the GLOBE . . .

Remember today and every day.

You are . . . perfect and whole exactly the way you are.

You are . . . WOMAN

You are . . . Beautiful

You are . . . Powerful

You are . . .Sensitive

And You are . . . LOVED!

Poem by Mary Morrisey and Jennifer Jimenez

A great exercise to do is to record this on your phone and listen to it every day.

It will help you continue to remember just how awesome you really are.

Have a wonderful week and be sure to look in the mirror and really appreciate the woman you see looking back at you.

Believing in you!

Believing in You!

P.S. Whenever you are ready, here are four ways I can help you find love after 50

#1: Get a copy of my book The Winning Dating Formula on Amazon  

Where I will walk you through a step-by-step breakdown of the exact tools and strategies you need for attracting the right man into your life — Click here

#2: Join the Finding Love after 50 Facebook group

It’s our Facebook community where you can connect with me and a community of women ready to support you on your journey for finding love after 50 — Click here

#3: Work with me 1-on-1 or in my Group Program

I would love to learn more about your dating journey, understand where you might be stuck, and give you a personalized step-by-step blueprint to attract the right man. And maybe even talk about how we can work together.

If you are interested in learning more about how I can help, you can Click here to answer a few quick questions and schedule a call.

#4: Subscribe to my YouTube Channel

Click here to explore my YouTube channel for valuable tips on dating and relationships after 50! Discover insights that will empower you to attract the right partner with confidence.

Copyright© 2024 Lisa Copeland. All rights reserved.

On October 9, 2024 / Confidence after 50, Dating Advice Over 50, Dating After 50, Dating after 60, Dating after 70, Mindset after 50, Relationships after 50, Relationships after 60, Relationships after 70

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October 9, 2024
Steps to Find Love After 50
5 Steps I Followed To Find Love After 50

You can read the blog below or watch it on YouTube by clicking here.

Back in your teens or early 20’s, you probably didn’t date all that much.

Chances are, you hung out together, playing, talking and really getting to know each other before you fell in love and chose to marry.

Fast forward to today where 1 out of 4 over 50’s marriages is ending in divorce.

The judge bangs the gavel declaring you officially divorced, and your friends want to make you feel better by telling you what a great catch you are and that it won’t be long before another man comes into your life.

What they can’t do is tell you exactly how to attract, date and keep a man at this time in your life.

And that’s why I’d like to share these 5 steps I followed to find love in my own life after 50.

Whether you’re a newbie at dating or you just need a push to get you out of a dating rut, I know these 5 steps can help you too!

Step 1 – Rediscover Your Inner Glow

The Law of Attraction states that we can only attract someone based on who we are and where we are right now in our life.

In dating, this means you’ll attract a man who will love you only as much as you love yourself.

Sometimes we don’t feel so lovable anymore.

That’s why it’s important to take the time to get back in touch with how incredible you are . . . And YES you are even as a woman in her 50’s, 60’s and 70’s!!!!!

You can do this by finding your inner glow.

It’s there and you can start to find it by making a list of all the things you love in these 4 areas of your life.
1. Your body
2. Your personality
3. What you love to do or what are you interested in
4. And last but not least, your greatest passion in life.
I think you’ll be pretty amazed at how special you really are once you do this exercise.

Step 2 – Rediscover the Art of Flirting

Whether you are meeting men online or in the real world, flirting is the best way to get a man’s attention.

Online, you can flirt by favoring men.

In real life, smile and make eye contact for at least 5 seconds.

If you’re on a date, lightly touch his arm.

These are all signals that let a man know you’re interested in him.

Step 3 – Have 3 “Go To” Dating Outfits In Your Closet that you LOVE

When I first started dating, I had absolutely no sense of style.

I’d go rummaging through my closet minutes before I had to leave looking for ‘the perfect outfit’.

Nothing felt right because everything in my closet consisted of jeans and black t-shirts or tops.

Over time, with help, I developed a sense of style and I bought clothes that brought out my feminine side and made me feel good and look good.

I created 3 dating outfits that reflected the inner glow I was feeling inside – I could put together in a moment’s notice when I had a date.

Now it’s your turn….you’ll want to create 3 outfits you love to wear.

Check out your closet and see what you love then head to the store and fill in the missing pieces with clothes that make you feel amazing.

Because when you feel amazing, you glow . . . and men are very drawn to a woman who feels confident in who she is.

Step 4 – Date To Date

A man may not be your next mate, but he can be a great date.

He could even turn out to be a great friend who might be perfect for that wedding or party you don’t want to attend alone.

Or he can be fun male companionship on a Saturday night where he buys the tickets and you pick up the popcorn.

Go on dates to have fun meeting someone new and interesting.

Then decide how a man can fit into your life whether he’s going to be a friend, a date or a potential mate.

Step 5 – Use The 4 Magic Words Men Love To Hear

Ever see men stepping over themselves to help a woman?

The reason is she knows how to make a man feel both important and needed.

When you do this, men want nothing more than to make you happy.

To make this happen in your life, consider using these 4 magic words, “I need your help,” then watch how this changes your life with men.

Just be sure to thank and appreciate all he does for you.

Now for some inspiration that you too can find love with a good man after 50 . . .

Lisa – just wanted to let you know, I am really having a good time online. There are so many nice men out there! I am going out of town next week but when I return I have coffee plans with 5 men and I am walking tomorrow with the fellow I met at the coffee shop. Met another guy tonight and we are having so much fun bantering. I feel so, so lucky. Thanks for all the guidance and encouragement – I’d be so lost without your training and advice! P.S. Found my guy and we are so happy! Thank you Lisa. Debbie, California

If you’re looking for guidance on how to attract the partner of your dreams and are interested in achieving results like Debbie got, then why don’t we set a complimentary time to talk about how to make this dream happen for you.

Click here to get started.

Believing in you!

Believing in You!

P.S. Whenever you are ready, here are four ways I can help you find love after 50

#1: Get a copy of my book The Winning Dating Formula on Amazon  

Where I will walk you through a step-by-step breakdown of the exact tools and strategies you need for attracting the right man into your life — Click here

#2: Join the Finding Love after 50 Facebook group

It’s our Facebook community where you can connect with me and a community of women ready to support you on your journey for finding love after 50 — Click here

#3: Find the Right Dating Site for you

Check out some of my favorites — Click here

#4: Work with me 1-on-1 or in my Group Program  

If you are interested in learning more about how I can help, you can click here to answer a few quick questions and schedule a call.

I would love to learn more about your dating journey, understand where you might be stuck, and give you a personalized step-by-step blueprint to attract the right man. And maybe even talk about how we can work together.

Copyright© 2024 Lisa Copeland. All rights reserved.

On July 24, 2024 / Dating Advice Over 50, Dating After 50, Dating after 60, Dating after 70, Successful Single Women over 50
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July 24, 2024
How Carol Found Her Perfect Match

How Carol Found Her Perfect Match: A Love Story of Hope and Surprise

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Today, I want to share a good Love Story with you.

My client Carol’s journey from dating disappointments to finding true love is a heartwarming tale of patience, personal growth, and unexpected joy.

Carol met a guy who, at first glance, seemed like just another forgettable encounter—one more “dud” in the dating world.

As they spent more time together, Carol began to notice wonderful qualities in him that she hadn’t initially seen—his genuine kindness, delightful sense of humor, and an unassuming depth of deep character.

Their relationship blossomed in the most surprising ways, proving that sometimes the best connections are hidden beneath the surface, waiting to be discovered.

Fast forward to today where Carol and her partner are now joyfully planning their wedding, ready to embark on a new chapter of their lives together.

Carol’s story is a good reminder that love often finds us when we least expect it, and that the right person can transform an unordinary date into a lifetime of happiness and companionship.

It’s a testament to the power of giving nice guys a chance, keeping an open heart, and embracing the magic that can unfold when we look beyond first impressions.

You can check out her story here: Carol’s Journey: From Dud to Fiancé

If you’re ready to find your own unexpected journey to happiness, I’d love to help. Click here to begin your path to finding true love.

Believing in You!

Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .

💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.

If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:

1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.

2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, “The Winning Dating Formula.” It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.

3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.

4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.

Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹

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Copyright© 2024 Lisa Copeland. All rights reserved.

On July 10, 2024 / Companionship after 50, Confidence after 50, Dating Advice Over 50, Dating After 50, Dating Challenges after 50, Dating Mindset after 50, Married after 50, Meeting Men Over 50, Senior Dating, Successful Single Women over 50

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July 10, 2024
Dear Jane Texts

Why ‘Dear Jane’ Texts even when your over 50 are so hurtful and what to do if you get one!

You can read the blog below or watch it on YouTube by clicking here.

Technology has made life easier in so many ways.

Whatever you need, can be taken care of in minutes making it a quick and efficient way to deal with life.

Unfortunately, technology has a downside and that is texting has become the modern way of ending relationships in the 21^st century.

It’s the new Dear John/ Dear Jane say of ending the connection with someone you’ve been dating.

Instead of a letter, it’s now done with a text.

I know because it happened to me when I was dating.

I met a man named Matt online.

He and I really hit it off.

It’s embarrassing to admit but he was the first guy I ever dated where my knees nearly buckled when I’d see him . . . he was one handsome man to look at.

Our dating relationship was easy and fun.

We could talk for hours about anything and everything.

He was one of those guys that knew when something was wrong just from hearing the sound of your voice.

That was a huge check on my ‘What I’d like in a man checklist.’

We were in the beginning stages of a relationship when I had to travel to California for a conference.

During the week apart, we kept in touch with long conversations on the phone.

Two days before I was heading home, he told me how much he missed me and how he couldn’t wait until I got home.

So imagine my surprise when I arrived home and received this text:

“Hi, Lisa- I’ve enjoyed our time together but I feel we got too close too fast. I really like you but I need some space. I’ll call you in a few weeks. Matt”

I was stunned.

I had no clue why he was blowing me off when only days earlier, he had professed such care and concern for my well being.

If we had only dated once or twice, I would have understood.

But we were supposedly in a relationship and he ended it in the most impersonal way possible.

I remember feeling so hurt and emotionally devastated because I had no idea why this had happened.

I texted him hoping he would have an answer for why he decided to end our relationship.

He didn’t answer and he never called again.

Sadly, texting has become the new way to break up.

For the person who wants to split, it’s easy and drama free not having to answer the BIG question of Why?

And they don’t have to experience how the breakup may have hurt someone’s feelings.

Just a quick goodbye via text and the relationship is done.

For the person on the receiving end, it’s tough because there’s no closure.

If this happens to you, the best thing you can do is close the book on this chapter of your dating life.

Don’t stalk him on Facebook. (I did – I wasn’t a dating coach then – and found out an old girlfriend had come back into his life. I now had the answer but it didn’t make it easier.)

If this happens to you, take some time to heal.

Don’t sit around waiting for him to call.

You want a man in your life who respects you enough to do the honorable thing.

When you’re ready, get back out into the dating world and look for someone who’s a better fit for you.

As hard as it is to get a Dear Jane text, keep in mind that when one door closes a much better one can open.

I know it opened for me and so many of my clients and I know it can for you too!

Your Coaching Program is PRICELESS!

Lisa, the valuable insight you shared has opened my eyes to staying empowered dating at this time in my life. From your vast knowledge, I learned about “me” and why my relationships failed. Each day reminding myself how to connect to the right man making him my “hero” for a long-lasting relationship. I am so thankful I worked with you. What you & your coaching program has done for me is priceless. Thank you! Christine, North Carolina

I love teaching women how to make these simple shifts because I see the profound difference these tools make in their ability to find love.

So if you feel like you’ve tried everything and still haven’t found your Mr. Right, but you’re ready to commit to making your dream of finding love come true this time, then, click here and share what’s been going on in your love life.

Let’s explore your path to love together. Your next chapter begins now!

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Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .

💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.

If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:

1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.

2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, “The Winning Dating Formula.” It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.

3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.

4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.

Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹

Love this article? Sign up by clicking here to receive my weekly blog.

Copyright© 2024 Lisa Copeland. All rights reserved.

On June 26, 2024 / Companionship after 50, Dating After 50, Dating after 60, Dating after 70, Dating Challenges after 50, Ghosting, Meeting Men Over 50, Relationships after 50

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June 26, 2024
Listening to Your Heart vs. Your Mind

Love after 50: Navigating the Heart and Mind Connection

You can read the blog below or watch it on YouTube by clicking here.

My friend Suzanne experienced a profound heartache in her 40s that few can truly understand—she endured the devastating loss of her soulmate.

In those dark moments, she shared with me how it felt as though her heart had shattered into a million pieces.

It was a crushing blow that turned her whole world upside down.

The wound was so deep that it took her almost 10 years before she was willing to dip her toe into the dating pool.

She eventually did and ended up meeting a very wealthy businessman.

I can remember her being so drawn to his mind and intelligence.

Well, they ended up marrying; had a beautiful wedding, white dress and all and lived a lifestyle many would envy.

They traveled first class around the world.

They dined at the finest restaurants.

They bought a gorgeous old home and a lot of money renovating it.

They had tickets to the symphony and the ballet and travelled all the time to see the latest Broadway plays appearing in New York.

About 5 years into their marriage, she decided to retire from her high power corporate job just as her husband decided to expand his business.

The money was flowing and on the outside, they looked like the perfect couple with the perfect life.

It wasn’t until after they divorced that Suzanne told me the truth about how lonely she felt being married to someone whose mistress was work.

She’d been missing an intimacy you can only get on a soul level when your hearts connect.

Notice I said connection comes from your heart not your mind – it was her ex’s mind that Suzanne was so attracted to from the get go.

Fast forward a few years later and Suzanne meets another wealthy businessman.

And guess what the first words out of her mouth were . . . if you guessed I loved his intelligence than you would be right.

When she used intelligence to decide if a man was right for her, she was sending up a red flag that kept her in the pattern of dating the wrong men who at the end of the day left her feeling lonely in a relationship.

I asked my Suzanne if I could share an observation with her both as her friend and as a dating coach.

She said, “of course!”

I told her that even though she was thrilled by this man’s intelligence, it was going to keep her from getting to that place of intimacy she had so craved in her 2^nd marriage.

Then I asked her the MOST IMPORTANT question . . .

“Suzanne, Are you protecting your heart?”

Like many of my clients, she, was afraid of getting her heart crushed again.

She’d go on a date and instead of looking for the good qualities in a man, she’d quickly find his faults so she could protect her heart.

And she chose a quality she desired in a man that would keep her heart safe . . . an attraction to his intelligence; a quality that keeps someone at arms length and at a distance.

I gave her my Secret Attraction Formula, which I want to share with you too.

A man’s personality + His appearance = Attraction.

When I asked if she liked a man’s personality, the only thing she could say was the dating world is messy.

Yes it can be messy and scary because it makes you so vulnerable.

Men love your accomplishments, they love your intelligence but what they love most about you is your heart, your passions in life and your vulnerability.

When you’re able to trust a man, you are triggering his hero response that wants to always keep you safe, protected and happy.

Like my friend, many women block their hearts because they are afraid of getting hurt again.

But if you block your heart, you can’t get the closeness and deep connection you want with a man.

So here’s my question for you . . . Is YOUR HEART open to love?

If it is, great!

But if its not, here’s what you can do about it.

I’ve created a Free Love Gift from my heart to yours to help you start the process of opening your heart to the perfect man for you. Click here to access it now.

One more thing . . . If you’ve been waiting for a sign that its time to jumpstart your journey to love, consider this is it.

Let’s dive into the heart of your dating life and unlock the patterns and possibilities that await.

It’s just a click away — share a bit about your dating adventures here and let’s schedule a session to map out your next chapter.

Your love story is waiting to happen, so let’s start crafting it together.

Believing in You!

Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .

💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.

If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:

1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.

2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, “The Winning Dating Formula.” It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.

3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.

4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.

Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹

Love this article? Sign up by clicking here to receive my weekly blog.

Copyright© 2024 Lisa Copeland. All rights reserved.

On March 27, 2024 / Dating Advice Over 50, Dating Challenges after 50, Dating Mindset after 50

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March 27, 2024
7 Profile Mistakes Preventing You From Meeting Mr. Right
Finding Love After 50: 7 Profile Mistakes Preventing You From Meeting Mr. Right

Navigating the world of online dating after 50 can feel like a daunting task, especially when you’re looking for a heart connection that goes beyond the superficial swipes on dating sites.

So today, I want to share a comforting embrace around the mistakes you might be making and how to bring warmth and genuineness into your profile, capturing not just the eye but the heart of Mr. Right.

Mistake #1 . . . Not Reflecting the Real, Radiant You in Photos

Men are visual and what gets their attention first is your face.

Over the years, I’ve looked at a lot of profile pictures and I’m always amazed when women post pictures that could be mug shots.

I kid you not.

All they need are a clipboard with numbers across their chest.

That’s how unhappy they look.

The thing is, men are naturally drawn to pictures of you smiling.

Choose photos where you’re wearing makeup and clothes that highlight your best features complemented by your radiant smile.

You’ll come across as fun and positive and as the kind of woman, a good man wants to meet.

BTW . . . Not sure what clothes light you up? Think about the outfits you wear that get you the most compliments.

Mistake # 2 . . . Not answering the questions Dating Sites ask you

No one enjoys spending time answering all the essay questions on dating sites.

But, it’s worth your while to get a bit creative when you do, especially if you add a short scenario that draws him in.

Here’s what I mean. The site asks you . . .What’s Your Idea of a Great Date?

Instead of just saying riding bikes in the mountains, try this instead.

Riding bicycles in the park together on a beautiful summer day would be a great date. We’d stop by a stream, open a bottle of wine, and enjoy a wonderful picnic sharing our food as well as our thoughts.

Mistake #3 . . . Making this romantic faux pas in your profile

When I first started dating in my 40’s I was CLUELESS when it came to writing a good profile.

I wrote stuff like I want to make love on a beach.

What did I know back then? To me that sounded romantic.

I wanted a relationship but that one sentence didn’t draw in the types of men who wanted the same thing.

They saw it as a booty call.

Sexual references-even innocent one’s like the one I wrote- give men the wrong impression and encourages those you probably aren’t interested in to write to you.

Mistake #4 . . . Not embracing your UNIQUENESS

Over the years, male friends have shared their ideas about profiles they’ve read.

They all say the same thing about these 3 overused lines that turn them off.
1. I’m looking for my soul mate (Scammers latch onto soul mate thinking your lonely and perfect prey for them)
2. I want to walk hand in hand on the beach
3. I want a man who makes me laugh (men think they have to be a comedian to date you)
You want to be unique online.

Opt for short little stories over statements.

Instead of something generic, consider creating a story about walking on the beach or a situation where you’re laughing that draws a man in.

This will illuminate your individuality.

Mistake #5 . . . Not following the “WIFM Rule” in your profile

Anyone who reads a profile, is reading it from the perspective of “WIFM-What’s in it for me?”

Think of your profile as a virtual party where you’re meeting people you’ve never met before.

Weave in questions and invitations that entice a man to imagine his place in your life.

For Example, You can say something like . . . Love getting dressed up and dining out but also enjoy a great burger at one of the dives around town. What’s your favorite spot to hang out? or Want to join me? or We can share our french fries.

Remember your profile isn’t just about you; it’s a bridge to someone else’s dreams too and how you might fit into that picture.

Mistake #6 . . . Expressing Your Desires as Demands

Nothing irritates a man more than a woman who makes salary or entertainment demands in her profile.

Even financially successful men have told me this is a huge turn-off.

What pops in their heads when they read a profile like this are the thoughts . . .

High Maintenance and Very Demanding

And . . . “I’ll never be able to please her!” so he moves on.

This was happening to a client of mine who thought a Quality Man should take her out every Saturday night to an upscale expensive restaurant.

She told me she’d met a guy who had everything she wanted except this one thing.

And she let him go because he had no interest in supporting her expensive culinary tastes.

After dating other men, she decided she wanted him back because she realized there was more to a good man than just fine dining.

Unfortunately for her, he’d moved on to a woman who appreciated him for who he was not just for his wallet.

You can ask for what you want.

Just do it using the soft language of self-respect and mutual respect.

Mistake # 7 . . . Not presenting the truth

How many times have you gone on a date and met a man who looked nothing like his picture or wasn’t telling the truth about his age or his height?

Did you feel a little angry that he wasn’t honest with you?

Men feel that way too when you fudge the facts.

It’s important to be real about what you look like and how old you are.

Sometimes you might think, “oh if he just gets to know me and see’s how great I am, it won’t matter that I fudged the facts.”

This mindset rarely works.

I knew a man who fell in what I call ‘ a strong like’ with a woman’s picture.

As he drove up to the restaurant, he saw her going in.

She was about 200 pounds heavier and about 10 years older than the picture displayed on the dating site.

He left without even meeting her.

Stepping into a date only to find that expectations don’t match reality can be disappointing.

That feeling of frustration comes from both sides when profiles don’t mirror the person behind them.

Embracing and presenting your authentic self, including recent photos and honest details about your life, is not only fair but also inviting.

Remember, true connection thrives on honesty.

By being genuine in your profile, you’re more likely to attract a man who appreciates the real you—the depth, stories, and experiences that have shaped you that allow the two of you to create a lasting bond that is built on trust.

Now to inspire you that love is possible in your life.

You helped me make my DREAM COME TRUE!

Lisa, I’m so glad I worked with you. Your program made me focus on this dream. Helped me become more confident as well as get my QMT done so I could identify my guy. Your support through the process of dating and being in a relationship with my guy has been so helpful. Seriously, your coaching program is a great investment. You are a Godsend to us women over 50. Thanks again! Karen, Washington

If you’re ready to embrace a new chapter of love in your life that fills you with hope and excitement, I invite you to take the first step by replying YES to this email and we can arrange a conversation to explore how we can bring your vision of love after 50 to life for you.

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Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .

💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.

If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:

1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.

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3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.

4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.

Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹

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On March 6, 2024 / Online Dating, Online Dating after 50
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3 Effective Strategies for Finding Love after 50!

3 Effective Strategies for Finding Love after 50!

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Last night I started working on a 1,000-piece puzzle with a gorgeous view of an Italian coastal community. (Stay with me, this does have to do with finding love in your 50’s, 60’s and 70’s)

I chose it for two reasons.

Being a Scorpio, I love anything that has to do with water. (If you’ve ever spoken to me on the phone about your dating life, you may have heard my little water fountain trickling away in the background.)

The second reason is that going to the coast of Italy is on my bucket list. (By the way, creating a bucket list, whether you are single or in a relationship, makes life far more fun and gives you something to always look forward to.)

Ok . . . back to the puzzle and what this has to do with finding love after 50.

I was so excited to get this puzzle started.

I grabbed my favorite cup of Matcha Latte and began looking for the puzzle edges.

This turned out to be a lot harder than I originally thought it would be.

In fact, after an half or so of getting no where, I started feeling frustrated and overwhelmed.

Doing the puzzle and getting nowhere stopped feeling like fun.

That’s when an AHA moment happened.

I realized I needed a plan that would make putting this puzzle together enjoyable and would keep the level of frustration and overwhelm down.

Dating like a puzzle can become overwhelming and frustrating.

Starting out, you’re really excited, as you look at some of the more interesting men online.

You share emails with a couple of them and even meet a few.

But you quickly get frustrated because the men you want to meet aren’t contacting you.

Or the men you do meet aren’t who they say they are. Right?

After this happens a couple of times, you want to quit and give up on your dream of finding love after 50.

This happened to me too.

What kept me going was a 3-step plan I created that motivated me to move forward whenever frustration and overwhelm threatened to take over.

I know it can work for you too.

Step #1…Take a break

When you’re feeling either overwhelmed or frustrated, hide your profile and focus on you.

Nurture yourself.

Hang out with those male friends you’ve made along the way.

It’s nice being around male energy especially when there’s no pressure other than having fun.

Enjoy yourself and don’t go back online until you’ve recharged.

You’ll know when you’re ready.

Step #2…. When you’re ready to go back online, try a new dating site

When you’re seeing the same faces over and over again, its time to try a new dating site.

When joining a new site, sign up for the least amount of time you can.

Simply put, if the site doesn’t have enough paid members who can contact you, you’re going to want to move on.

When your subscription ends, paid sites will try and lure you back by offering you a great deal at a huge discount.

Good men are on both free and paid sites.

Try them both and while you’re at it, here are some of my favorites for you to check out… Lisa’s Favorite Dating Sites.

Step #3…. Make a list of 26 places where you can meet single men

Men are everywhere, yet most women don’t know where to look for them.

So here’s a tip for how you can find 26 places to potentially meet your guy.

Make a list from A-Z, then write down a local spot that starts with each letter.

Next, commit to visiting at least one of these places weekly.

Have a strategy in place for flirting and speaking to men everywhere you go.

Here’s why…

Lisa taught me how to flirt, something I’d forgotten or maybe never knew how to do. I’m telling you, LADIES, the strategies she suggested really WORK! I now feel confident and safe having casual conversations with men whenever I am. – Yaz, Kansas

And that’s what dating over 50 in the real world and online is all about.

It’s your turn now.

Put this 3-step plan in place and watch how taking breaks gets you excited again about dating.

Next, try a new dating site.

Create your list and make sure you’re going to one of the 26 places you discovered in your local area to flirt and meet new men every week.

Your new 3 step plan is going to give you exposure to more men and the more men you meet, the closer you are to finding the right one for you.

Big hugs ~

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On February 21, 2024 / Dating Advice Over 50, Dating After 50

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Finding Love after 50: Unveiling the Ultimate Secret in Over 50’s Dating

Finding Love after 50: Unveiling the Ultimate Secret in Over 50’s Dating

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Can we get real here for a second about your over 50’s dating life?

Here’s the deal… When I talk to any single woman over 50, I always ask how their dating life is going.

The answer I get most often is that things really aren’t happening in their dating life.

Left to their own devices, most women aren’t being contacted by the men they’d like to date.

There were times I got frustrated over the course of my own dating journey because dating and men seemed more difficult than I thought it would be.

Maybe for you too???

If dating has made you feel like you’re driving with one foot on the brake and one foot on the gas, wondering why you’re not meeting great guys to spend time with, I’d like to share something with you.

Yes, we both know that things like a great profile, knowing how to flirt and where to meet men are very important steps on the dating journey you’re taking.

But if I’m being honest with you, the REAL reason for your level of success or failure has to do with what’s going on internally.

Most women believe if they just had the right body or lived in a particular city or had more men to choose from, the relationship would come.

I know, because I’ve been closely observing, teaching and championing unhappy single women over 50 for quite a while.

And because I’ve been there too, here’s what I’ve discovered:

Your level of dating success isn’t really about your looks and your weight as much as it is about how you approach dating.

If you want to know the truth, it actually stems from your mindset… the fears and limiting beliefs you may have about yourself and the men you want to date.

And most importantly… that you might not feel ‘good enough’ to get the type of man you want.

I know, it’s not something most dating mentors talk about openly, but I have discovered that your mindset is the ONE single thing that determines your level of success or failure in dating.

When you have a healthy dating mindset, your results get transformed, often overnight, and this translates to big breakthroughs in the quality of men who contact you and how many dates you go on.

And that’s why I want to give you 2 simple tips you can start doing right away to give your dating mindset and confidence a major jumpstart.

The first is… you want to develop a knowing from your deepest core that you are a GREAT CATCH.

I do an exercise with coaching clients in our first session together.

The purpose is to remind them of the awesome qualities they are bringing to the relationship table.

With no one continually reflecting your value to you on a daily basis, this is so easy to forget.

We create lists together of what they love about their physical body, their personality, and their greatest passions in life.

I’ve been writing everything down and when they are done, I ask if I can tell them about a friend of mine.

I read the lists we’ve just created and I can hear them giggling when they realize I am talking about them and not a friend.

As they listen, tears come to their eyes because for the first time in a very long time, they realize how amazing they truly are.

This is a powerful exercise.

It gives my clients the confidence boost they’ve needed.

And they feel hope again in their love life as they realize they’re worthy of having the man they truly desire.

Here’s the second tip… don’t do what I use to do one hour before a date.

When I first started dating in my 40’s I wore a lot of jeans and black tops, as in stylish t-shirts.

My mindset was still in suburban mom mode where I’d wear these types of outfits to go and watch my kid’s softball and basketball games.

On date night, I’d try every t-shirt on in my closet and felt…. well pretty yucky.

Not girly or attractive like you want to feel on a date.

Don’t suffer like I did.

Go out and invest in 2-3 dating outfits (they don’t have to be expensive) that make you feel like the amazing catch you are.

So, the point of all of this?

When you shift the level of confidence you project into the world, it can make a huge difference in the quality of men you start attracting.

And that would feel pretty good wouldn’t it?

Believing in you!

Big hugs ~

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On February 14, 2024 / Dating Advice Over 50, Dating After 50

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February 14, 2024