We’re big fans of Carly Rae Jepsen at THP! This talented Canadian songstress first rocketed to fame with her iconic hit, ‘Call Me Maybe.’ Since then, Carly has cemented herself as a cult icon, gaining the adoration of fans worldwide. From being a strong LGBTQ+ ally to releasing seven studio albums, it’s clear that she is a prolific and thoughtful artist. While there are countless reasons to stan Carly, here are five we think stand out!
Her Consistent Allyship
Carly’s 2015 album E•MO•TION was initially considered a commercial flop. However, the album’s catchy production and lyrics resonated with the LGBTQ+ community, turning it into a cult classic. Carly has embraced her queer fan base, supporting charities and performing at various Pride festivals. Her support for LGBTQ+ rights began young, when her close friend was rejected by his family, simply for being gay.
Her Unmistakable Vocals
Carly’s vocals are clear and unmistakable. Whether she’s belting the euphoric chorus of ‘Run Away With Me’ or delivering the tender intimacy of ‘Heartbeat,’ she proves herself an adaptable vocalist. Instead of overpowering a track, she blends seamlessly with its tone and melody while still sounding distinctively Carly. It’s a balance she handles with ease: that alone is a reason worth stanning!
Her Songwriting
Our girl knows how to craft a pop hook, and boy, can she prove it! With 74 writing credits across her albums, it’s clear that she knows her stuff. An earnest writer, Carly is never scared to explore love and infatuation, evident through tracks like ‘Julien’ and ‘Window.’ She also has writing credits for other artists, including the renowned K-pop girl group f(x), who reworked Carly’s song ‘When I’m Alone’ in 2015.
Her Inspiring Background
Carly didn’t become a pop icon without a lot of hard work! Before fame, she was sleeping on a pull-out sofa in Vancouver and working different part-time jobs to support her dreams of making it big. In 2007, she auditioned for Canadian Idol, coming in third place. Despite her loss, the show brought her brief fame, allowing her to make industry connections. It took four more years of dedication for Carly’s efforts to pay off, thanks to the 2011 smash hit ‘Call Me Maybe.’ A rare rags-to-riches tale, Carly has truly earned her success!
Her Generosity
Carly is a giving artist, always aiming to please her fans. While some artists ignore their unreleased material, Carly is always ready to open the vault. Inspired by the cult following around her 2015 album E•MO•TION, she treated fans to E•MO•TION: Side B in 2016. Now, for its 10th anniversary, Carly will release even more fresh material with four brand-new songs and two remixes. What more could we ask for?
What do you think about Carly Rae Jepsen? Do you have a favorite song? Be sure to let us know by tweeting us at @thehoneypop or visiting us on Instagram!
What in the world are attachment styles? And why should we care? Many people have attachment wounds that hinder the way they approach relationships and survive them. According to psychiatrist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby, the relationship with parents during childhood influences an individual’s social, intimate, and even working relationships. The behavior of the primary caregivers contributes to and forms the way a child perceives close relationships. Now there are four adult attachment styles:
Anxious (Preoccupied)
Avoidant (Dismissive)
Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant)
Secure
Let’s break it all down and how to get a secure attachment:
Anxious Attachment
An anxious attachment style is a type of insecure attachment. It is characterized by the fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, and codependent tendencies. This attachment style stems from inconsistent parenting that isn’t attuned to a child’s needs. As a child, you could have been often confused within your parental relationships and felt unstable.
People with an anxious attachment style often grow up thinking they are supposed to take care of other people’s feelings and often can become codependent. People with anxious attachment styles usually feel unworthy of love and need reassurance from their partners. They typically blame themselves for challenges in the relationship and can exhibit frequent and intense jealousy or distrust due to poor self-esteem. Ultimately, there’s a deep-rooted fear of being abandoned, rejected, or alone.
Avoidant/dismissive is another insecure attachment style. It is typically defined as a failure to build long-term relationships with others due to an inability to engage in physical and emotional intimacy. In childhood, you may have had strict, emotionally distant, or absent caregivers. As a result, you may have learned to adopt a strong sense of independence, so you don’t have to rely on anyone else for care or support.
These adults may tend to navigate relationships with people at arm’s length. The need for emotional intimacy is lacking, so romantic relationships are not able to reach any level of depth. While they allow romantic partners to engage with them, they avoid getting emotionally close.
Signs of Avoidant/Dismissive:
persistently avoid emotional or physical intimacy
feel a strong sense of independence
uncomfortable expressing your feelings
dismissive of others
have a hard time trusting people
feel threatened by anyone who tries to get close to you
spend more time alone than interacting with others
believe you don’t need others in your life
“commitment issues“
Disorganized/fearful
Disorganized/fearful attachment is defined as having extremely inconsistent behavior and difficulty trusting others. The most common causes of a disorganized attachment style are childhood trauma, neglect, or abuse. Fear of their parents and their sense of safety. Children with this attachment style may often seem confused. People with disorganized attachment styles tend to have unpredictable and confusing behavior.
While they may desperately seek love, they also push partners away because of the fear of love. They believe that they’ll always be rejected, but they don’t avoid emotional intimacy. They fear it, and they also consistently seek it out, only to reject it again.
Signs of Disorganized/Fearful:
fear of rejection
inability to regulate emotions
contradictory behaviors
high levels of anxiety
difficulty trusting others
signs of both avoidant and anxious attachment styles
Secure attachment
Secure attachment is defined by the ability to build healthy, long-lasting relationships. It develops from feeling secure with your caregivers from childhood and being able to ask for reassurance or validation without punishment. Your caregivers were probably emotionally available and aware of their own emotions and behaviors. Securely attached people can engage in the world with others in a healthy way.
People with secure attachment styles tend to navigate relationships well. They’re generally positive, trusting, and loving to their partners. Securely attached people feel that they’re worthy of love and don’t need external reassurance.
Even if you didn’t have an upbringing that fostered a secure attachment style it is still possible to develop a secure one as an adult. It all starts with emotional awareness of how you feel about yourself, your ability to be loved, and your ability to be safe in a relationship.
Actively working on your relationship with yourself is key. Purging toxic relationships, building your self-esteem, and healthily expressing your emotions are all additional ways you can work to develop a secure attachment style. Additionally, make sure to lean on the support of friends and family and work on healing from past negative experiences in therapy.
Working on developing a secure attachment style is hard work but it is doable. So good luck to you all out there who are doing the work every day to be a more secure version of yourself.
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If you think you’re insecurely attached, and it’s having a negative impact on your love life, here are a few common sense steps you can take to make the transition to secure attachment:
Seek a relationship with someone who is securely attached
Relationships with friends, romantic partners, a caring teacher, mentor, or therapist can all help instill a secure attachment. A positive experience with a securely attached person can override your insecurity. It can challenge you to develop yourself and grow in that relationship, ultimately healing patterns from the past.
Heal your shame and raise your self-compassion
This enables you to not take things personally, to resolve conflicts in relationships openly, and to seek a securely attached partner. Learning acceptance of yourself and others can improve all areas of your life and help you resolve conflict from a “we” perspective. Healing shame can help increase your sense of connection and belonging with others.
Learn to identify and express your needs
Learning to identify, honor, and assertively express your emotional needs can help you have a voice in your relationships and avoid co-dependency. You may also need to learn to be more assertive so that you can express your emotional needs. Taking the risk to be authentic can deepen your connection with others and reduce your shame and reactivity.
Seek Individual Therapy
Therapy can be very helpful for changing maladaptive attachment patterns. Therapy is a safe relationship where you can learn to identify and express your needs, practice communication skills, heal shame, and learn self-compassion. The experience of the therapeutic relationship itself can heal early attachment wounds and help you develop a more secure attachment style. In therapy, you can test out beliefs and assumptions with your therapist and learn to feel and react differently, which can translate to your romantic relationships. For more information, contact us, or read about our relationship counseling services or counseling for low self-esteem.
Seek Couples Therapy
In couples’ therapy, both partners can identify and challenge beliefs that promote expectations of rejection and that fuel their feelings of anger. Both partners come to understand the source of their destructive thoughts and attitudes in the context of their earliest attachments and learn emotional skills to stay connected in the moment. This emotionally focused approach provides the impetus for exploring new, more positive ways of relating, and frees people to experience genuine loving feelings and real security in their intimate relationships. For more information, read about our couples therapy or marriage counseling services.
Vanessa Clairjeune holds a Master’s in Social Work from the University of Houston and dual bachelor’s degrees in Forensic Psychology and Human Services and Community Justice from John Jay College. She integrates somatic and mindfulness techniques like DBT, Internal Family Systems, bibliotherapy, and trauma-conscious yoga into her practice. With experience in substance abuse clinics, MD Anderson Cancer Center, and student outreach, Vanessa is committed to holistic well-being, addressing issues like trauma, chronic illness, and maternal mental health, while fostering resilience and growth.
Newswise — Data from a representative sample of the Austrian population suggests that the relationship between nature contact and well-being is consistently stronger for people on lower than higher incomes. However, this pattern was only found when people actively visited nature and not when they merely lived near greenspaces. Findings suggest the availability, accessibility and use of green and blue spaces can play an important role in reducing income-related health inequalities. The study was led by researchers of the University of Vienna in collaboration with the University of Natural Resources and Life Sciences Vienna and was recently published in the journal Health & Place.
People on low incomes are at a particularly high risk of suffering from mental health problems such as depression or anxiety. One way to promote good mental and physical health is through nature contact. Time spent in nature is associated with reduced stress levels, better immune functioning, improved cognitive functioning, better sleep and greater life satisfaction. However, these associations do not seem to be the same for everyone.
As part of a study funded by Austrian and European funding agencies, researchers surveyed 2.300 individuals across Austria representative on age, gender and region. The findings suggest that while people with higher incomes generally reported higher well-being, regardless of how often they visited nature, well-being among the poorest in society was much higher among those who visited nature often. In fact, poorer individuals who visited several times a week had well-being levels nearly as high as the richest respondents. This pattern was clearly shown for both Austria as a whole and for those living in urban Vienna.
“What the results show is that the well-being benefits from visiting nature at least once a week across the whole year are similar to those from an increase in 1.000 Euros of income per year,” summarises doctoral student and lead author Leonie Fian from the University of Vienna.
What you do is more important than where you live
Interestingly, these associations were only found for actively visiting nature, but not for the amount of greenness around people’s homes. In other words, what people did, appeared more important than where they lived. From a public health perspective, it is therefore important to both create greener neighbourhoods and natural recreation areas, and to ensure that they are accessible and used, especially by socio-economically disadvantaged groups.
“Especially for people on lower incomes, information about attractive natural recreation areas nearby and their accessibility by public transport plays an important role. They should therefore also be easily accessible by public transport at weekends,” says Arne Arnberger from the University of Natural Resources and Life Sciences Vienna.
A study that played the sounds of human and other ape babies crying out over a speaker found that crocodiles were drawn to the noises, in particular to the shrieks that sounded the most distressed. What do you think?
“Sounds like they’d make awesome therapy animals.”
Marty Friedland, Freelance Executive
Flat-Earthers Explain Why The Earth Is Flat
“It’s a good thing my distressed cries are so manly.”
David Barnes, Cracker Perforator
“This is just natural selection doing its part to weed out annoying kids.”
