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Finding Love After 50: 7 Profile Mistakes Preventing You From Meeting Mr. Right

 

Navigating the world of online dating after 50 can feel like a daunting task, especially when you’re looking for a heart connection that goes beyond the superficial swipes on dating sites.

So today, I want to share a comforting embrace around the mistakes you might be making and how to bring warmth and genuineness into your profile, capturing not just the eye but the heart of Mr. Right.

Mistake #1 . . . Not Reflecting the Real, Radiant You in Photos

Men are visual and what gets their attention first is your face.

Over the years, I’ve looked at a lot of profile pictures and I’m always amazed when women post pictures that could be mug shots.

I kid you not.

All they need are a clipboard with numbers across their chest.

That’s how unhappy they look.

The thing is, men are naturally drawn to pictures of you smiling.

Choose photos where you’re wearing makeup and clothes that highlight your best features complemented by your radiant smile.

You’ll come across as fun and positive and as the kind of woman, a good man wants to meet.

BTW . . . Not sure what clothes light you up? Think about the outfits you wear that get you the most compliments.

Mistake # 2 . . .  Not answering the questions Dating Sites ask you

No one enjoys spending time answering all the essay questions on dating sites.

But, it’s worth your while to get a bit creative when you do, especially if you add a short scenario that draws him in.

Here’s what I mean. The site asks you . . .What’s Your Idea of a Great Date?

Instead of just saying riding bikes in the mountains, try this instead.

Riding bicycles in the park together on a beautiful summer day would be a great date. We’d stop by a stream, open a bottle of wine, and enjoy a wonderful picnic sharing our food as well as our thoughts.

Mistake #3 . . . Making this romantic faux pas in your profile

When I first started dating in my 40’s I was CLUELESS when it came to writing a good profile.

I wrote stuff like I want to make love on a beach.

What did I know back then? To me that sounded romantic.

I wanted a relationship but that one sentence didn’t draw in the types of men who wanted the same thing.

They saw it as a booty call.

Sexual references-even innocent one’s like the one I wrote- give men the wrong impression and encourages those you probably aren’t interested in to write to you.

Mistake #4 . . . Not embracing your UNIQUENESS

Over the years, male friends have shared their ideas about profiles they’ve read.

They all say the same thing about these 3 overused lines that turn them off.

1.  I’m looking for my soul mate (Scammers latch onto soul mate thinking your lonely and perfect prey for them)
2. I want to walk hand in hand on the beach
3. I want a man who makes me laugh (men think they have to be a comedian to date you)

You want to be unique online.

Opt for short little stories over statements.

Instead of something generic, consider creating a story about walking on the beach or a situation where you’re laughing that draws a man in.

This will illuminate your individuality.

Mistake #5 . . . Not following the “WIFM Rule” in your profile

Anyone who reads a profile, is reading it from the perspective of “WIFM-What’s in it for me?”

Think of your profile as a virtual party where you’re meeting people you’ve never met before.

Weave in questions and invitations that entice a man to imagine his place in your life.

For Example, You can say something like . . . Love getting dressed up and dining out but also enjoy a great burger at one of the dives around town. What’s your favorite spot to hang out? or Want to join me? or We can share our french fries.

Remember your profile isn’t just about you; it’s a bridge to someone else’s dreams too and how you might fit into that picture.

Mistake #6 . . .  Expressing Your Desires as Demands 

Nothing irritates a man more than a woman who makes salary or entertainment demands in her profile.

Even financially successful men have told me this is a huge turn-off.

What pops in their heads when they read a profile like this are the thoughts . . .

High Maintenance and Very Demanding

And . . .  “I’ll never be able to please her!”  so he moves on.

This was happening to a client of mine who thought a Quality Man should take her out every Saturday night to an upscale expensive restaurant.

She told me she’d met a guy who had everything she wanted except this one thing.

And she let him go because he had no interest in supporting her expensive culinary tastes.

After dating other men, she decided she wanted him back because she realized there was more to a good man than just fine dining.

Unfortunately for her, he’d moved on to a woman who appreciated him for who he was not just for his wallet.

You can ask for what you want.

Just do it using the soft language of self-respect and mutual respect.

Mistake # 7 . . . Not presenting the truth

How many times have you gone on a date and met a man who looked nothing like his picture or wasn’t telling the truth about his age or his height?

Did you feel a little angry that he wasn’t honest with you?

Men feel that way too when you fudge the facts.

It’s important to be real about what you look like and how old you are.

Sometimes you might think, “oh if he just gets to know me and see’s how great I am, it won’t matter that I fudged the facts.”

This mindset rarely works.

I knew a man who fell in what I call ‘ a strong like’ with a woman’s picture.

As he drove up to the restaurant, he saw her going in.

She was about 200 pounds heavier and about 10 years older than the picture displayed on the dating site.

He left without even meeting her.

Stepping into a date only to find that expectations don’t match reality can be disappointing.

That feeling of frustration comes from both sides when profiles don’t mirror the person behind them.

Embracing and presenting your authentic self, including recent photos and honest details about your life, is not only fair but also inviting.

Remember, true connection thrives on honesty.

By being genuine in your profile, you’re more likely to attract a man who appreciates the real you—the depth, stories, and experiences that have shaped you that allow the two of you to create a lasting bond that is built on trust.

Now to inspire you that love is possible in your life.

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If you’re ready to embrace a new chapter of love in your life that fills you with hope and excitement, I invite you to take the first step by replying YES to this email and we can arrange a conversation to explore how we can bring your vision of love after 50 to life for you.

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Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .

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On March 6, 2024   /   Online Dating, Online Dating after 50