Daniel Waterman, 22, was involved in a serious crash that police say was intentionally caused by his girlfriend, 24-year-old Leigha Mumby, eight months before his death.
Screengrab from Tiffany Waterman’s Facebook post
New charges have been filed against a woman accused of intentionally crashing her car while driving with her boyfriend, leaving him critically injured for months before his death, Florida officials said.
Leigha Mumby, 24, was driving on Interstate 95 in Flagler County with Daniel Waterman, 22, in the front passenger seat on Feb. 9, the night of the Super Bowl, when the car veered off the road and hit a tree, according to an arrest affidavit from the Flagler County Circuit Court.
Emergency services responded and had to extract Mumby and Waterman from the car, with both suffering significant injuries, according to the report.
Mumby was released from the hospital a few days later and told law enforcement she did “not know what had happened prior to the crash and only remembers waking up in agonizing pain,” the report said.
Waterman was in critical condition and was unable to speak with officers until May, when he said the two had been arguing in the car before the crash after Mumby told him that she was pregnant, according to the report. Waterman had also received a message from a woman in New York, and Mumby started to drive recklessly as their argument unfolded, the report said.
Waterman told police Mumby slowed down before speeding to upward of 80 mph and telling him, “I don’t care what happens, you’ll get what you deserve,” and she intentionally drove off the road and into the tree, the report said.
Mumby was charged with aggravated battery with a deadly weapon, and reckless driving causing serious bodily injury in July, and Mumby was taken into custody, according to arrest reports. Mumby was released on a $30,000 bail.
McClatchy News reached out to Mumby’s attorney Oct. 27 and was waiting for a response.
Waterman’s family said he had been fighting for his life with broken bones, injuries to his spine and collapsed lungs since the crash, according to a GoFundMe post.
Waterman contracted pneumonia in the hospital, his family told WJXT, and he died on Oct. 8 having been transported back home to Syracuse, New York, according to FlaglerLive.
On Oct. 27, an additional charge of vehicular homicide for “operating a motor vehicle in a reckless manner, likely to cause the death of, or great bodily harm to another, kill Daniel Waterman” was filed against Mumby, according to court records.
Waterman played basketball and football, his family told WJXT, and he was excited to become a father, according to the GoFundMe.
“It’s just so sad. He had his whole life ahead of him,” a family member told the outlet. “I’m never going to see him be a dad. I’m never going to see him be who he was supposed to be.”
Mumby is set to make her next appearance in court on Nov. 19, records show.
Irene Wright is a McClatchy Real-Time reporter. She earned a B.A. in ecology and an M.A. in health and medical journalism from the University of Georgia and is now based in Atlanta. Irene previously worked as a business reporter at The Dallas Morning News.
Daniel Waterman, 22, was involved in a serious crash that police say was intentionally caused by his girlfriend, 24-year-old Leigha Mumby, eight months before his death.
Screengrab from Tiffany Waterman’s Facebook post
New charges have been filed against a woman accused of intentionally crashing her car while driving with her boyfriend, leaving him critically injured for months before his death, Florida officials said.
Leigha Mumby, 24, was driving on Interstate 95 in Flagler County with Daniel Waterman, 22, in the front passenger seat on Feb. 9, the night of the Super Bowl, when the car veered off the road and hit a tree, according to an arrest affidavit from the Flagler County Circuit Court.
Emergency services responded and had to extract Mumby and Waterman from the car, with both suffering significant injuries, according to the report.
Mumby was released from the hospital a few days later and told law enforcement she did “not know what had happened prior to the crash and only remembers waking up in agonizing pain,” the report said.
Waterman was in critical condition and was unable to speak with officers until May, when he said the two had been arguing in the car before the crash after Mumby told him that she was pregnant, according to the report. Waterman had also received a message from a woman in New York, and Mumby started to drive recklessly as their argument unfolded, the report said.
Waterman told police Mumby slowed down before speeding to upward of 80 mph and telling him, “I don’t care what happens, you’ll get what you deserve,” and she intentionally drove off the road and into the tree, the report said.
Mumby was charged with aggravated battery with a deadly weapon, and reckless driving causing serious bodily injury in July, and Mumby was taken into custody, according to arrest reports. Mumby was released on a $30,000 bail.
McClatchy News reached out to Mumby’s attorney Oct. 27 and was waiting for a response.
Waterman’s family said he had been fighting for his life with broken bones, injuries to his spine and collapsed lungs since the crash, according to a GoFundMe post.
Waterman contracted pneumonia in the hospital, his family told WJXT, and he died on Oct. 8 having been transported back home to Syracuse, New York, according to FlaglerLive.
On Oct. 27, an additional charge of vehicular homicide for “operating a motor vehicle in a reckless manner, likely to cause the death of, or great bodily harm to another, kill Daniel Waterman” was filed against Mumby, according to court records.
Waterman played basketball and football, his family told WJXT, and he was excited to become a father, according to the GoFundMe.
“It’s just so sad. He had his whole life ahead of him,” a family member told the outlet. “I’m never going to see him be a dad. I’m never going to see him be who he was supposed to be.”
Mumby is set to make her next appearance in court on Nov. 19, records show.
Irene Wright is a McClatchy Real-Time reporter. She earned a B.A. in ecology and an M.A. in health and medical journalism from the University of Georgia and is now based in Atlanta. Irene previously worked as a business reporter at The Dallas Morning News.
A man has been convicted of killing his girlfriend in Pensacola, Florida, prosecutors said.
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A jury found a man guilty of second-degree murder in the death of his girlfriend, who died from what a Florida deputy described as a “lengthy beating,” based on her injuries, according to prosecutors.
Prosecutors said Davarius James, 38, of Pensacola, killed Claudette Robinson at her Pensacola home, then tried contacting family and friends for help instead of calling 911 on Feb. 3.
One of James’ family members called 911 later that afternoon, according to prosecutors. When Pensacola police officers got to the home, they found Robinson unresponsive on the floor, with bruises to her face and body as well as what looked like “rug-burn” across her face, an arrest report said. They also noticed blood on a pillow, according to the report.
James, who was taken into custody about two hours later, told officers Robinson was injured from falling twice that morning, prosecutors said.
But her cause of death was found to be “multiple blunt force trauma” and she had been strangled, a medical examiner testified at trial, the State’s Attorney’s Office for the First Judicial Circuit of Florida said in an Oct. 23 news release.
She had injuries similar to if she had been injured in a car crash, the jury heard, according to prosecutors.
James was convicted on Oct. 23, court records show. Now he faces up to life in prison.
His defense attorney, Jeremy Early, did not immediately return McClatchy News’ request for comment Oct. 26.
During the trial, Early said James “lost it” and that “he killed her,” the Pensacola News Journal reported.
However, Early argued that James was not guilty of murder, telling jurors that the crime of manslaughter was more indicative of what happened, according to the newspaper. Prosecutors disagreed.
“A manslaughter is where a person does an act, they lose it, and the person is dead and they didn’t mean to kill them, and it’s done in the heat of passion,” Early said, the newspaper reported.
When Robinson died, she had broken ribs, a broken breastbone and bruises covering her body, according to prosecutors.
A detective with the Pensacola Police Department testified that Google searches related to her death, including “how to determine if someone was dead, how long someone can live off CPR, and searches about how to tell if someone had been choked by the neck,” were found on her phone.
When James was interviewed by law enforcement following his arrest, he said he had been dating Robinson for two years and had been living with her for around a year, according to the arrest report.
He also mentioned they had been fighting “over family issues that arose because of Robinson’s diminished mental acuity” and that he was angry with Robinson, accusing her of giving away his personal belongings to family members, the arrest report says.
Before Feb. 3, James had been arrested in connection with domestic violence against Robinson, the report says.
Robinson told “law enforcement that she was afraid that James would kill her,” an Escambia County deputy wrote in the report.
Disagreeing with Early’s assertion that James did not mean to kill Robinson, prosecutor Andrew McGraw said her injuries were intentional, according to the Pensacola News Journal.
“Those are severe injuries and those are injuries that took a lot of force and a lot of determination to inflict,” McGraw said, the newspaper reported.
James’ sentencing hearing is set for Nov. 5, according to prosecutors.
If you are experiencing domestic violence and need someone to talk to, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for support at 1-800-799-7233 or text “START” to 88788.
Julia Marnin covers courts for McClatchy News, writing about criminal and civil affairs, including cases involving policing, corrections, civil liberties, fraud, and abuses of power. As a reporter on McClatchy’s National Real-Time Team, she’s also covered the COVID-19 pandemic and a variety of other topics since joining in 2021, following a fellowship with Newsweek. Born in Biloxi, Mississippi, she was raised in South Jersey and is now based in New York State.
Bored on a lazy weekend? Tired of the same Friday movie-night routine? Dry texting throwing you off your game? Just started dating and want to know your guy better but not a fan of the usual getting to know you questions? Or simply want to have some fun with your bae? Different scenarios, one solution: funny questions to ask your boyfriend.
You can never go wrong with some light-hearted banter in a relationship. This eclectic mix of weird, silly, fun questions to ask your partner will have you both in splits, and in the process, create memories to last a lifetime.
250 Funny Questions To Ask Your Boyfriend
A sense of humor ranks pretty high on the qualities to look for in a partner. And with good reason. When life throws its many curveballs your way, getting through them becomes a little easier if you have by your side someone you can laugh with. Want to harness this humorous side of your bond with your partner to its full potential? We’re here to help you get started with not 10 or 20 or even 100, but a whopping 250 funny questions to ask your boyfriend.
50 questions to ask your boyfriend to make him laugh
Like we’ve been saying, laughter is the secret sauce of any relationship. And who doesn’t love a good giggle with their boyfriend? If you’re looking to bring out those hearty chuckles, here are some playful questions to ask your boyfriend that’ll have him laughing in no time:
If your life were a movie, what would be the title of the sequel
If you could only communicate through animal noises for a day, which animal would you be?
What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever Googled?
If you were a superhero, but your only power was to make things awkward, how would you do it?
50 silly get to know you questions to ask your boyfriend
Intimacy in a relationship doesn’t always stem from deep, meaningful conversations. Sometimes, the best way to know your bae better is through some fun and playfulness. These silly get to know you questions will not only have peeling layers of his personality that you didn’t even know existed but also leave you both wondering how you even got here. So, what are you waiting for? Dive into these funny questions to ask your boyfriend:
What’s your spirit junk food?
If you were a vegetable, what kind would you be, and why?
Would you rather fight 10 duck-sized horses or one horse-sized duck?
If you could only eat one type of cheese for the rest of your life, what would it be?
What’s your favorite dinosaur, and how would it fare in modern society?
If you were a kitchen appliance, which one would you be and why?
Would you rather have popcorn for teeth or jelly beans for fingernails?
If you were a professional wrestler, what would your entrance music be?
What’s your go-to karaoke song, and how much conviction do you sing it with?
If animals could talk, which one do you think would be the rudest?
What’s your spirit junk food?
Would you rather have an extra arm or an extra leg?
If you could only use one flirty emoji for the rest of your life, which one would it be?
If you had to name your autobiography after a fast food slogan, which one would it be?
Would you rather have the ability to speak to animals or be able to understand babies?
If you could swap lives with any fictional character for a day, who would it be and how fast would you ruin their life?
If your socks could talk, what would they say about your feet?
Would you rather live in a house made entirely of glass or one made entirely of Legos?
If you could combine two animals to make a new species, what would they be and what would you name it?
If you could swap your nose with any animal’s nose, which one would you choose?
If you were in charge of naming new colors for Crayola, what would your signature shade be called?
If you could only wear clothes made out of one material, what would it be?
Would you rather have a third arm or a second head that thinks for itself?
What’s the most absurd thing you’ve ever lost and never found?
If you were a fruit, which one would you be and why?
What’s the most ridiculous ringtone you’ve ever had?
If you had to replace your legs with something from nature, what would you pick?
If your life had a laugh track, when would it play the most?
50 fun questions to ask your partner to lighten up the mood
Whether you’re trying to establish rapport with your new boyfriend, trying to cut through boredom, or looking for ways to reconnect after a fight, a few fun, offbeat questions are just what you need to break the ice and lighten up the mood. If you’re looking to add some laughter to your relationship, these fun questions to ask your partner are just what you need!
strangest dream you’ve ever had
What’s the silliest thing you’ve ever done in public?
If you could swap lives with any fictional character for a day, who would it be and why?
What’s your go-to karaoke song, and how much would you embarrass yourself to sing it?
If you could have any animal as a pet, regardless of practicality, which one would you choose?
If you could instantly become an expert in any skill or hobby, what would it be?
What’s the most ridiculous thing you believed as a child?
If you were a kitchen utensil, which one would you be and why?
What’s the funniest way you’ve ever hurt yourself?
If you had to eat only one type of cuisine for the rest of your life, what would it be?
What’s your most unusual talent or party trick?
In what fictional world would you want to live if you could choose any?
What’s the strangest dream you’ve ever had?
If you could make any one of your favorite foods calorie-free, which one would you choose?
What’s your ultimate comfort movie or TV show that you could watch on repeat?
If you had to pick a theme song that plays every time you enter a room, what would it be?
What’s the weirdest food combination you actually enjoy?
If you could time travel to any era, past or future, where would you go and why?
If you had to live in a movie or TV show for a month, which one would you choose?
What’s your favorite joke or pun that always makes you laugh?
If you could be any cartoon character for a day, who would you choose?
What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
What’s one superpower you’d absolutely not want to have?
If you could have dinner with any three people, dead or alive, who would they be?
What’s the weirdest fashion trend you secretly wish would make a comeback?
If you had to live in a world where every day was a holiday, which holiday would you choose to celebrate every day?
What’s the most absurd conspiracy theory you’ve heard that you kind of want to believe?
If you could create your own national holiday, what would it be called and how would we celebrate it?
What’s the funniest or most bizarre nickname you’ve ever had?
If you could invent a new flavor of ice cream, what would it be and what would you name it?
We’re all weird and quirky in our own way. Why not draw out these sides of your boyfriend’s personality with these weird questions to ask him? They’re perfect for spicing up your conversations and getting your boyfriend thinking outside the box. For added fun, make it a two-way street and take turns answering these questions.
weirdest talent you wish you had
If you could only eat one color of food for the rest of your life, what color would it be and why?
Would you rather have a pet made entirely of fire or one made entirely of ice?
If you had to live in a world where everyone had to wear the same outfit every day, what would you choose?
What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever believed as a child?
If you could turn any everyday object into a weapon, what would you choose and how would you use it?
If you were a character in a video game, what would your special power be?
What’s the most bizarre food combination you’ve ever tried or would be willing to try?
If you had to choose an unusual animal to be your personal assistant, what would it be and what would it do?
Would you rather have to sing everything you say or dance everywhere you go?
If you could only speak in movie quotes for a day, which quotes would you choose?
What’s the funniest thing you’ve seen someone do while on public transport?
If you could switch lives with any fictional character for a week, who would it be and what’s the first thing you’d do in their world?
What’s the most ridiculous outfit you’ve ever worn or would wear?
If you could have any job, but it had to be completely absurd, what would it be?
What’s the weirdest talent you wish you had?
If you had to live in a house made entirely of food, what food would it be and why?
If you could be any household item for a day, which one would you choose and why?
What’s the strangest dream you’ve ever had?
If you had to take on the persona of a cartoon character for a day, who would it be and what would you do?
What’s the most unusual prank you’ve ever pulled or seen?
If you could have a mythical creature as a roommate, which one would it be and why?
Would you rather be able to read minds but only in reverse or have the ability to make anyone laugh uncontrollably?
If you could have any fictional gadget from movies or TV shows, what would it be and how would you use it?
What’s the most bizarre or unconventional way you’ve ever celebrated a special occasion?
If you could instantly become an expert in any totally random field, what would it be?
If you had to live in a world where everyone could only speak in rhyme, how would you handle it?
If you could create a new holiday that everyone had to celebrate, what would it be and how would it be celebrated?
If you had to wear a costume every day for a year, what costume would you choose?
If you could have a personal theme song that played whenever you entered a room, what would it be?
What’s the strangest thing you’ve ever bought on impulse?
If you could instantly master any one skill, but it had to be completely useless, what would it be?
What’s the weirdest place you’ve ever fallen asleep?
If you could choose any animal to be your life coach, which one would you pick and why?
What’s the most bizarre trend you’ve ever followed?
If you could have any fictional character as a neighbor, who would it be and what kind of neighbor would they be?
What’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever done to impress someone?
If you could live in any fictional universe, but had to pick an occupation from that world, what would it be?
What’s the weirdest compliment you’ve ever received?
If you had to eat a meal made entirely out of candy, what would your menu look like?
What’s the most unusual thing you’ve ever seen at a party?
If you could instantly be fluent in any made-up language from a movie or book, which one would it be?
What’s the most absurd thing you’ve ever done to try and win a game or competition?
If you could create a new emoji that doesn’t already exist, what would it look like and what would it mean?
What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever done on a dare?
If you had to live in a world where everyone had to sing their responses, how would you handle it?
What’s the funniest or most random thing that’s ever happened to you while shopping?
If you could have any fictional gadget as your everyday item, what would it be and how would you use it?
What’s the most ridiculous conspiracy theory you’ve heard and secretly think might be true?
If you could create a bizarre new sport, what would it be and how would it be played?
What’s the most unexpected place you’ve ever met someone famous or important?
50 this or that questions funny — make him chuckle
When it comes to getting a good laugh, nothing beats a round of this or that questions funny style. These curious funny questions to ask your boyfriend will have him in splits. You can even make a date night game of it.
curious funny questions
Would you rather have a pet dinosaur or a pet dragon?
Would you prefer to have a personal chef or a personal comedian?
Would you rather always have to wear socks with sandals or have a permanent wedgie?
Would you choose to have the ability to speak every language but only in song, or be able to speak only one language but in perfect Shakespearean English?
Would you rather fight one hundred duck-sized horses or one horse-sized duck?
Would you rather be a master of every dance style but only on a trampoline, or an expert chef but only with a microwave?
Would you choose to live in a world where everyone suddenly has to wear clown shoes or where everyone has to wear superhero capes?
Would you prefer to have to sing everything you say or dance everywhere you go?
Would you rather always have to eat food that’s way too spicy or food that’s way too bland?
Would you choose to have a pet that constantly follows you around or one that only appears when you don’t need it?
Would you rather have the ability to teleport but only to places you’ve never been or be able to fly but only at walking speed?
Would you prefer to live in a house made of marshmallows or a house made of cheese?
Would you rather always have to wear a tutu or a full-body onesie in public?
Would you choose to have the ability to always find lost items but only at the most inconvenient times or to always have perfect weather but only when you’re indoors?
Would you prefer to have a magic wand that can only perform ridiculous spells or a jetpack that only works for ten seconds at a time?
Would you rather have a laugh that sounds like a duck’s quack or a sneeze that sounds like a foghorn?
Would you choose to have a pet rock that can’t move or a pet fish that’s always trying to escape?
Would you rather be able to turn invisible but only when no one is looking or to be able to read minds but only when everyone is thinking about food?
Would you prefer to have a never-ending supply of socks with odd patterns or a never-ending supply of mismatched shoes?
Would you choose to live in a world where everyone has to speak in puns or one where everyone has to speak in riddles?
Would you rather have the ability to turn anything you touch into gold but it can only be something you’ve already touched or to turn anything you touch into ice cream but it melts immediately?
Would you prefer to have a rewind button for embarrassing moments or a pause button for moments you want to savor forever?
Would you choose to always wear shoes that are too big or a hat that’s too small?
Would you rather be the world champion of competitive napping or of extreme pillow fort building?
Would you rather have a rewind button for your life or a pause button for your life?
Would you prefer to be able to talk to animals but they only gossip about each other, or have the ability to talk to plants but they’re really boring?
Would you choose to have a pet that can only talk in riddles or a pet that can only speak in movie quotes?
Would you rather always have to hop on one foot or always have to do the cha-cha when you walk?
Would you prefer to live in a world where every meal is dessert or every meal is breakfast food?
Would you choose to have a voice that sounds like a robot or a voice that sounds like a cartoon character?
Would you rather be stuck in an elevator with a mime or with a person who can’t stop talking about conspiracy theories?
Would you prefer to have a personal DJ who plays only polka music or a personal chef who only makes dishes with marshmallows?
Would you choose to have a permanent clown nose or always have to wear oversized glasses?
Would you rather have a bed that’s always too soft or one that’s always too hard?
Would you prefer to only be able to eat foods that are purple or only be able to eat foods that are green?
Would you choose to have a laugh that echoes or a sneeze that reverberates like a trumpet?
Would you rather be able to dance like a professional but only in your living room or sing like a star but only in the shower?
Would you prefer to always have to wear socks with holes or always have to wear shirts with stains?
Would you choose to have your own private island but it’s always raining or live in a bustling city but always have perfect weather?
Would you rather have to do karaoke every time you want to make a phone call or have to perform a magic trick every time you enter a room?
Would you prefer to have a remote control that can pause time or one that can fast-forward time?
Would you choose to have a hair that changes color every day or a beard that grows a foot every week?
Would you rather live in a house with walls that are always moving or in a house with furniture that constantly rearranges itself?
Would you prefer to have a shoe closet that’s always full of mismatched shoes or a wardrobe that’s always full of clothing you’ll never wear?
Would you choose to always have to wear a swimsuit or always have to wear a full suit and tie, regardless of the occasion?
Would you rather have to eat a meal made entirely of cheese or one made entirely of chocolate?
Would you prefer to be stuck in a time loop where you repeat the same day forever or in a dimension where everything is upside down?
Would you choose to have a phone that only works when you sing into it or a computer that only works when you dance around it?
Would you rather always have to speak in rhymes or always have to speak in alliteration?
Would you prefer to live in a world where everyone is always in costume or where everyone must always wear pajamas?
Final Thoughts
Armed with these funny questions to ask your boyfriend, you can be sure to beat every dull moment in your relationship and create new opportunities to deepen your connection with hearty bouts of laughter. A partner you can double over with laughter with. A relationship bustling with fun and playfulness. What more can you ask for?
Are you unnerved if a stranger on the subway stares at you but like the soft stare of the male barista at your local cafe? Well, you’re not alone. All women have, at some point, been stared at and not all stares evoke the same reaction. Some scare you, others flatter you. While that is par for the course, it can be a different conundrum altogether when you find yourself wondering, “Why do guys stare at me but never smile at me?” Well, there could be many reasons for that.
In this article, we will give you a detailed overview of the various reasons men stare at women. We will also tell you a bit about the psychology behind men staring at women and the various ways you can handle such a situation.
Psychology Of Staring At A Woman
Before addressing the question, “Why do guys stare at me but never smile?”, let’s try and understand the psychology of staring at a woman. Hypnotherapist Phil Taylor’s blog Body Language Matters states that men stare at women because they scour for “cues for fertility and reproductive potential, which have been important factors in the survival of our species.”
And it’s a known fact that not just men, but even women stare at other beautiful women, not just for competition but also because they admire what they see in front of them. Scientifically, this is what is known as local processing, that is, breaking down something into its parts and looking at the parts to admire the object.
Now, interestingly, a study has proven that men and women are stared at differently. The study stated that men’s images are perceived as a whole, whereas women’s images are seen as an assemblage of various body parts. As male chauvinistic as it may seem, men are seen as people and women as body parts.
While men staring at women is just an evolutionary factor, men can stare at women inadvertently or even without having any sexual thoughts. We’ll see how in the next section.
Why Do Guys Stare At Me But Never Smile? 15 Possible Reasons
If you’re often found asking yourself, “Why do guys stare at me but never smile?”, well, here’s a similar example that came in from one of our readers. Sally, an accountant from Boston, says she has been noticing a coworker staring at her. One day, as she saw from the corner of her eye that he was looking at her, she decided to hold his stare and see what it led to. But he kept looking at her expressionless. She wondered, “Why do guys stare at me but never smile?”
But why do men who stare but never smile at us women perplex us so much? And how do we know if it’s a predatory stare, a friendly stare, or a flirtatious stare? Can it be just a blank stare where the man is not even looking at us but is preoccupied with something else? Here’s a detailed look at 15 such reasons that can make a man stare at you but not smile:
This is the obvious answer to why a guy stares at you but doesn’t smile. Here’s what a male user said about the same on Reddit: “It is not usually something we do consciously for the most part. Our eyes are drawn to things we will find attractive/suitable in a mate.”
The man might consider you physically and intellectually attractive. While this may make him stare, he probably doesn’t smile because:
He isn’t interested in anything beyond staring at you and admiring your beauty and grace
2. He may just be zoning out
At times, it’s possible for men to stare at you without even realizing that they are doing so. For all you know, they could be daydreaming about the next big promotion or be preoccupied with thoughts related to something that’s going on in their lives.
Have you ever fancied dating your crush from high school? That crush who was unattainable? Have you ever had a fantasy of living or being with a celebrity who doesn’t know you exist? Have you ever been curious about what a certain influencer does on their average day?
Imagine the following scenario:
A man sitting across at a café keeps staring at you as you sit there and read a book. This could be due to his curiosity about what sort of a person you are, or he could just be amazed at the title of the book you’ve been reading.
Well, curiosity could be a good reason he stares at you but doesn’t smile (because he probably doesn’t see himself working on those fantasies).
He may just be curious about you
4. He’s experiencing déjà vu
If you’re asking yourself, “Why do guys stare at me but never smile?”, consider this: they could be going through déjà vu.
Often, men may stare at you trying to place you somewhere in the past. They may have a feeling that they have seen or heard you somewhere or that they have known you in the past. But they probably can’t recall how they know you or where they have seen you. This could be a clear case of déjà vu and nothing to be alarmed at.
It could very well be a case of inspiration. Now, this is what Sasha, a friend of mine, experienced. A regular at her local gym, she felt a man kept staring at her continuously from the moment she entered the gym every single day.
This is what she told me: “I didn’t know what to do, initially. The man stared point blank but would look away the moment I looked at him. One fine day, he came up to me and said, “I hope I am not making you uncomfortable. You’re a strong woman and I admire your determination. Women usually don’t go for such tough workouts.” So, that day, I felt relieved and also happy that someone was inspired by my workouts.”
6. He may be judging you
In both personal and professional settings, men might stare at women when they judge them for their hair, dress sense, or their overall demeanor (meaning, the way you walk or the way you converse in public).
So, they may not smile at you because they probably don’t approve of the way you present yourself in public. Here are some examples:
Your male coworker judges you because of how you fumble at presentations
A male passerby stares at you when you’re just being your socially awkward self when getting into a cab
Your male best friend stares at you when you eat more than you should’ve (because, girl, you’re on a diet)
Such stares are almost always accompanied by frowns or negative body language, such as crossed arms.
7. He may be socially awkward or may fear rejection
For all you know, the man staring at you may just be socially awkward. So, this often happens at parties or events. Men, at times, wish to be 100% sure that the woman they wish to speak to or approach is interested in speaking to them or at least wouldn’t reject them at the outset.
So, whether you call this social awkwardness or the fear of rejection, some men may just be at peace with staring at you rather than approaching you. We hope this answers your question, “What does it mean when a guy stares at you?”
8. He’s evaluating you
Cathy, my cousin, often told me how her male swimming instructor stared at her often. Though his stares weren’t creepy, she felt a little unnerved when he stared at her and often made silly mistakes at her swimming class. “I get so nervous when he does that! Oh my god! How do I tell him to stop?,” she once confided in me.
Now, this sort of staring could just be a routine stare wherein the instructor, guide, or teacher is evaluating you. There’s nothing wrong about this one, though you can go ahead and communicate how you feel.
So, what does it mean when a guy stares at you without smiling? A man might stare at you just because he wishes to talk to you. So, this happened to Candice, an arts major at Rice University. She found a fellow male student staring at her at random places – at the library, at the hall, and even at the canteen.
She got a little creeped out initially. This is what she wrote to us: “This senior at my university stares at me but acts uninterested. But why does he stare at me so intensely without smiling? Why doesn’t he approach me?” After a few days, another senior scholar at the same university suggested that this guy may just be wanting to initiate a conversation with her. And she was right. The guy eventually approached Candice at a university seminar and told her he would like to start an online book club with her. And if I go by Candice’s reaction, she was convinced that he was a decent chap after all.
He probably wants to talk to you
10. He just likes to stare
When a guy stares at you, what is he thinking? Well, it’s possible he may have no thoughts or intentions. Some men just like to stare. They may not even like you or disapprove of you. But they seem to stare at you for no reason. There is no cure nor any explanation for this one.
You’ll often find this trait in men above a certain age who sit in parks to just stare at people, especially women. Maybe they’re just into people watching.
Often, especially in professional situations, men like to stare at women to show their dominance. Now, you could see them staring the same way at fellow men too, but when it comes to women, the stares get more dominating. Consider the following situations:
Your male professor stares at you in an intimidating manner when you ask him a question in class
Your male boss stares at you for a second before answering a question you ask him in a meeting
12. He’s trying to figure out if you like him
Now, this is obvious. If you’re left asking yourself, “Why does he stare at me so intensely without smiling?”, well, he may just be interested in you but unsure about how you’d react.
In other words, a guy might try and stare at you because he may be waiting for you to make a move and see if you stare back at him. In other words, he could just be testing if you like him.
So, this could be a random man at a metro station or at work. Now, he may not be smiling at you because he doesn’t wish to make things obvious. There’s no harm with such stares, unless he makes you feel uncomfortable with a lingering gaze.
So, when a guy stares at you, what is he thinking? Often, men may just stare at women who remind them of someone from their past. Now, this could appear as a prolonged eye-contact but no smile.
You may resemble a high-school teacher he had a crush on or a former girlfriend. Now, this sort of stare may not really be sexual. But that also means he wouldn’t be smiling at you while he stares.
14. He is trying to catch your attention
Now, shy people do this quite often. Imagine a man who boards the same bus as yours every day and stares at you till you get off at your destination. The stare may not be very creepy but may be intermittent.
Now, this could mean he’s trying to catch your attention, without being too obvious.
He may just be comparing you with a friend, his girlfriend, or his wife. Men don’t often talk about this, but a lot of them actually gauge women by their looks and the way they carry themselves.
So, in all probability, he’s staring at you because he likes something in you that he doesn’t see in women around him or in his family.
7 Ways To Respond When A Guy Stares At You
“Why do guys stare at me but never smile?”, you keep asking. Trust me, tons of women have the same question. But what happens when a guy stares at you and you hate it? Should you confront him directly or stay away from him so that he can’t stare at you?
And what happens when a man you like stares at you? Should you be initiating a conversation to let him know you fancy him too? Well, we have answers to all such questions. So, just sit back and read out list of 7 ways to respond when a guy stares at you:
When a guy stares at you, it may be because of one of the reasons mentioned above. So, everyone who stares at you may not be a predator out to get you. Likewise, you may have actually been targeted by a creep. So, how do you go about it? Here’s how:
Trust your gut: Go with your gut when it comes to the kind of stare you’re receiving. Find out if you’re just feeling uncomfortable or are scared of the person’s glare
Check their body language: Open body language can indicate positive intentions, such as casual flirting. Close body language indicates negative intentions, such as intimidation
Focus especially on eye-contact: A person’s eyes can tell almost everything. So, check whether there’s prolonged eye-contact but no smile, or if they look away when you look at them. A person trying to flirt will stare back at your eyes, while a person with malicious intentions will look away in guilt
2. Ignore if you aren’t comfortable
The best way to counter a stare that you wish to avoid is to ignore it. Nonchalance takes away the power of anything that’s out to destroy your peace.
Here’s what a Reddit user advised another user who was in a dilemma whether to react or ignore stares: “Smile at friendly people. Ignore the weirdos.”
3. Smile, if you like him
If you get the hint that the person who’s staring at you may be trying to flirt with you subtly, and if you like the person enough, you may be asking yourself, “Why does my crush stare at me without smiling?”
If you wish to confront someone whose stares you aren’t comfortable with, communicate openly. Ask them why they’re staring at you, directly. You can ask them questions such as:
“Hey! Don’t mind me asking, but why do I find you staring at me often? Do you have any questions?”
“Hey, dude, is something bothering you? Why are you staring like that?”
“I’m sorry, but I am kinda uncomfortable with you staring at me like that! It would be great if you could just let me know what the issue is.”
This is bound to startle a potential predator right away.
5. Ask him to help you out
If you would like to take the next step and find out why a man is staring at you (and this is only when you like the man or are enjoying the attention), initiate a conversation by asking him to help you out with something (instead of asking yourself, “Why does my crush stare at me without smiling?”)
For instance:
If you catch a man staring at you in the library, ask him to help you look for a book
If you find a male coworker staring at you, ask him to help you with the office printer or your laptop
This way, you will know if the guy’s actually interested in knowing you or was just casually staring at you.
If you think you are gravely uncomfortable with a man’s stare, set some visible boundaries, such as:
Moving away or out of his sight when he stares at you, to make it obvious you aren’t liking it
Starting a conversation with another coworker/a friend (to make it seem like you’re discussing this person and his stare)
Calling up someone in front of the person and talking about how some people make you feel awkward with their stares
7. Involve a third party
When all else fails and you are still the target of unwelcome stares, try speaking to a third party at the place where you’re being stared at, to let others know you’re uncomfortable. This will save you from further complications if the situation worsens in the future. So, for instance:
You can speak to the gym owner if you’re being stared at by the gym trainer too much. You can let them know you’re not comfortable with it.
At work, you can let your boss know you aren’t liking being stared at by your male coworker
Infographic On Reasons Why A Man Stares At Women
Well, let’s get a brief look at the various reasons a man stares at women:
Reasons why a man stares at women
Key Pointers
The psychology of staring at a woman has been scientifically studied, and it’s been proven that women are stared at as objects
If you’re wondering, “Why do guys stare at me but never smile?”, well, there are many reasons why men stare at women without smiling, some of them being: attraction, intimidation, the urge to talk, flirtation, etc
How can women deal with men staring at them? Well, they need to assess the situation, draw boundaries for men they don’t like, initiate conversations with those they do like, etc
Final Thoughts
Yes, stares can be weird, flirtatious, and even predatory. Eventually, it’s all about how you feel about being stared at. So, if you like that cute guy who keeps staring at you at work, why don’t you go ahead and strike up a conversation? You can do the same if you keep asking yourself, “Wonder why he stares at me but acts uninterested?”
Remember, it’s up to a woman to draw boundaries around her to let men know she isn’t liking being ogled. It’s also a woman’s choice whether she wishes to take things forward with someone who’s sending her signals through stares.
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That nagging suspicion, the pit in your stomach – the fear that your boyfriend might be seeing someone behind your back can leave you restless. Trust, once broken, is hard to rebuild, and navigating the emotional turmoil of infidelity can be overwhelming.
This quiz, designed by a relationship counselor with extensive experience helping couples navigate the aftermath of infidelity knows all the signs that your boyfriend is cheating. Have you been plagued by thoughts like “I think my boyfriend is cheating” or “Did my boyfriend cheat on me?”? Ignoring your gut instinct is not a good idea.
This quiz will guide you to explore common behaviors associated with cheating, helping you identify potential red flags you might have missed. Remember, a healthy relationship is built on trust and transparency. While this quiz can’t definitively answer the question “did my boyfriend cheat on me?”, it can tell you whether there is substantial evidence to doubt your boyfriend’s loyalty.
So, are you going around telling everyone about this amazing guy you just met? Given that you mentioned him as the ‘boyfriend’, it’s fair to guess the first few dates went really well to lead you both to label this relationship as a serious one. You must be relieved that the tricky part is over! But trust us, it takes just as much effort, if not more, to keep a romantic bond alive. And given that you are trying to find out how to impress your boyfriend, we are convinced you are ready to go that extra mile for him.
We just hope that you don’t lose yourself trying to showcase a completely different persona that might be more appealing to your man. To help you balance the act and create a lasting impression, we are here with a bunch of ‘how to amaze your boyfriend’ ideas. So, read on…
21 Incredibly Simple Ways To Impress Your Boyfriend
Let’s give you a little how to woo your man 101: always remember being yourself is the key. Of course, we encourage you to be more curious and invested in your partner’s interests and do things that make your boyfriend happy. But you cannot pretend to like comic books or start nerdy conventions if you are not really that person. So, restrain yourself from creating a false impression in the process of impressing your boyfriend.
Knowing how to be romantic with boyfriend is no rocket science. Simply, pour in a generous amount of affection in a mix of small gestures and thoughtful actions, stir it well, and you’ve got yourself a fulfilling love life. All kidding aside, from a candlelight dinner to a surprise trip, the choices are plenty if you are in search of something romantic to do for your bae. And being the stunner that you are, dazzling his mind with your beauty will be a breeze.
However, when it comes to creating a lasting impression, we would rely more on meaningful actions than a pretty face. To make this journey easier for you, we have curated this list of 21 incredibly simple ‘how to impress your boyfriend’ ideas:
Ah, this works like a charm! Smile has a healing power to fix any trouble and build strong connections between two people. So, just follow our lead here:
Greet him with your thousand-watt smile every time you see him
When you don’t know how to date a guy, make him laugh – tell jokes, show him fun memes, and do whatever it takes
Wake him up with an ‘I love you’ text every morning. This is among the cute things to do for your boyfriend
Most importantly, laugh at his jokes. Even if it’s a pity laugh, mask it well
2. Don’t be shy to assert your opinion on things
You know what really attracts a high-value man? A strong sense of self-esteem. There is nothing more fascinating than a woman who exudes confidence in every step of life and won’t cave when it comes to offering her opinion on important matters. It simply portrays you in a powerful individualistic light that’s not easy to outshine. Your thoughts and opinions might be threatening to an insecure person, but a guy confident in his own skin and abilities would proudly call himself your boyfriend. And that’s the man you want to impress!
If you truly want to impress your guy, don’t back off from expressing your opinion
3. Be nice to your boyfriend’s friends and folks
When we start dating, somewhere deep down, we all hope for our partners to get along with our loved ones. The very best you can do for your man is to make this transition easier for him. Let us tell you how:
After he introduces you to his folks, make a conscious effort to get to know them and stay in touch
Try to find common grounds to bond with your boyfriend’s friends
Even better, you could throw a surprise party for your boyfriend or plan a surprise trip and invite his friends to join you. He will be thrilled for sure!
Just don’t try too hard to fit in. Be yourself. We are confident they will love you for you
4. Cook for him
If you’re wondering how to amaze your boyfriend, well, of all the romantic things to do for your guy, let’s take the shortcut to his heart. Yes, we are talking about the road through his tummy. There’s nothing more a guy appreciates than a home-cooked meal prepared by his sweetheart. So, get your apron and chef hat out because we have a boyfriend to impress, and here’s how:
You could always make his favorite dish
If it’s the holiday season, call his grandma and get her secret cookie recipe that your boyfriend loves more than anything
Plan a full-blown candlelight dinner at home. This makes for one of the nicest surprise date ideas for him
This doesn’t sound like something romantic to do for your boyfriend, does it? Well, if you pick up the phone and ask him right now, you will see that he would settle for a game night over dinner dates any day. So, don’t think twice. Make a list of the video games your boyfriend loves and start practicing, because we want to see you ace this challenge!
6. Pay attention to your appearance
So, how to impress your boyfriend? Let’s turn to the most cliched yet highly effective page of the playbook – kill him with your looks! Tuck these suave moves up your sleeve to ensure his eyes are always on you:
Invest a little bit more time in a seven-step skincare routine
Maintain good hygiene
Eat healthy and work out on a regular basis
Do something different with your hair so he would notice the extra effort
Note that confidence is the new sexy. If you are confident in carrying your look and outfit, it will accentuate your true beauty and personality
7. Spend quality time with him
If you want a thriving love life, you have to spend a substantial amount of time building and nurturing it – and by that, we suggest spending time with your boyfriend. To give you a guy’s perspective on this, a Reddit user says, “I personally like it when my SO enjoys participating in all the activities I like to do. It’s kind of a turn-on, to be honest, and makes me feel like they care and enjoy doing things that I love.”
Now, if you are not sure how to choose the perfect activities for your time together or need more ideas for romantic things to do for your boyfriend at home, we have a whole list prepared for you:
Arrange a romantic bubble bath
Bake something together from scratch
Pick a hobby for couples or a new skill to learn together
Plan a surprise trip for the weekend to the nearest bed and breakfast
Go for a long solitary walk, hand in hand, and watch the sunset
Share household chores or give your living room a makeover. After all, spending time together doesn’t require you to come up with new ideas every week
Have you ever noticed how you tend to think about a person, especially a romantic partner, when you smell their signature scent somewhere around? It’s because studies show that body odor plays a pivotal role in the perception of attractiveness and mate selection.
So, we suggest you make it a point to smell impeccable around your guy. Find out what his favorite fragrance is and try it on, so he just can’t resist you. The goal is to draw him in with your magnetic fragrance, which leaves a lingering effect in his mind. We must admit this is a unique one of all the romantic things to do for your man.
9. Split the bills
It’s 2024 for crying out loud! Let chivalry take a backseat. Step up and share the expenses equally with your man. Our men may not always speak up about the very thing, at least not in an obvious manner. But they do lean toward financially independent women who are confident enough to take care of themselves. Remember how Ted Mosby (from How I Met Your Mother) never called back a girl because she didn’t do the ‘cheque dance’ on a date? That’s what we are talking about. Go Dutch!
10. Don’t be that needy girlfriend
If you are wondering how to woo your man, being clingy is not going to break your case. I was just on the phone with my friend Roger the other day, and he whined for an hour about his partner’s constant intervention in his personal space. This is what he said, “Amanda is being impossible with each passing day. She is insecure, always suspicious, and would keep texting and calling all day long, and if I miss any of it, I would never hear the end of it. She has no life of her own and it’s suffocating me.” Now you know what doesn’t count as part of romantic things to do for your partner.
When you are dating guys and trying to figure out how to impress your boyfriend, you have to get into a man’s mindset. Just think, won’t you be super pleased right now if he booked you a spa weekend with your girlies or took you on a shopping spree? Do the same for him.
If you want him to be happy in this relationship, don’t be grumpy when his friends ask him to come over for some beer and pool. Even better, invite his friends, arrange some video games they like, make his favorite dish for dinner, and gift your boyfriend the perfect boys’ night at home. Believe it or not, these little things matter a lot in keeping a romantic relationship alive.
12. Listening can make all the difference
Here’s a relationship mistake you don’t want to repeat. An ex-partner of mine would always complain that I was busy in my own world and didn’t pay enough attention to him. In my version, I knew that we were living together. So, we practically spent most of our waking hours in each other’s presence. How much more attention could one need? However, what I didn’t realize at that point was that I was either on my phone or the laptop, and our conversations went with him staring at the back of an electronic device. To rectify that, we suggest the following tips:
Non-verbal gestures, like nodding, smiling, leaning forward, touching his arm or shoulder, can go a long way in making the conversation more engaging
Try these to impress your boyfriend
13. Keep dropping compliments
When in doubt about how to impress your boyfriend, express your admiration for this fantastic human being! Nothing conveys your love and affection for your man like a sweet dose of compliment every now and then. If you want something romantic to do for him, try this:
Tell him more often how sexy he looks in an outfit
Let him know how proud you are of all his achievements, big or small
Yes, a guy would fall in love with a confident, sexy, independent girl in a heartbeat, but at the same time, men do love to feel needed. In a romantic relationship, the man would like to be an integral part of your life with a significant role to play in your well-being and safety.
Listen to what this Quora user has to say about it: “Put your head on his shoulder. And maybe take a nap. This makes me feel more special than anything else. It tells the guy that you feel safe with him.” So, if you’re wondering how to date a guy in a way so he feels important, follow these tips:
Ask for his opinion on your personal matters
If he’s willing to offer help in troubled times, don’t reject it
Let him know how you always find peace in his arms
Share your emotional state of mind with your boyfriend
Your actions should reflect that he’s your priority
Check-in with him, ask about his day, and share your routine too
15. Shower him with hugs and cuddles
Looking for cute things to do for your boyfriend? Go all out with physical affection. A long, lingering hug after a day of toiling at work – any guy would kill for this kind of love and warmth. Kiss him for no reason, as you cross paths in the hallway, or meet in the kitchen for a snack. Or plan a movie night at home with cozy blankets, popcorn, and lots of cuddles. There goes one of the bonus surprise date ideas for him.
In their lifelong endeavor of appearing rough and tough, men often forget to unveil their vulnerable side. But deep down, every man is a sucker for affection and would want to depend on someone with all their heart — someone who would understand his business ideas even though others think it’s crazy, who would support him through the days when he pays off his college loan, or at the least, who would wrap him in her arms and ask what’s wrong on a bad day. We believe that’s your cue to how to impress your boyfriend and make him yours forever.
17. Don’t say hurtful things
It would be unnatural for a couple to be together and not fight, we get that big time. But even in your arguments about whose turn it is to do the laundry or why he hugged that female colleague for almost five Mississippi, there should be some lines of decency to maintain. Being extremely rude or blurting out whatever comes to your mind without thinking about the consequences will slowly and steadily drift you apart. Particularly when you are trying to impress your man hoping for a long-term relationship, these little things prove to be highly impactful in the bigger picture.
18. Flirt with him
Let’s get down to the point of how to be romantic with boyfriend. Try unleashing your inner tease and see the changes for yourself! Mark my words, he will be obsessed with you. Here are some tips and tricks for dating guys:
Brush your body against his, talk dirty to him, playfully kiss his ears, or touch him when he least expects it – always leave him wanting more
In bed, don’t be shy to voice your satisfaction. Tell him how he just rocked your world! It might boost him enough for the next round
When you both are in the mood, dance for him to spice things up a bit, or maybe even perform a striptease
Gift him some naughty coupons with tempting benefits, like a sensual massage, sex in the balcony, or you acting out his fantasy role-play idea
19. Respect his boundaries
No matter at what stage of the relationship you are, there are certain lines you should never cross. This is all the more important if your partner has spoken to you about the things that are non-negotiable for them. Always conform to those boundaries as a sign of respect. For instance:
Don’t force him to open up about a sensitive issue that he is not ready to talk about yet
If he says “no” to something, to anything, don’t take it as a personal attack
If you want to give some more thought to cute things to do for your boyfriend, pick a bunch of yellow tulips on your way back from the market. It will make his day! And not just flowers, bring a little something for him every once in a while. The gifts don’t have to be expensive or elaborate – they could be really simple things, such as a mixtape of all the songs your boyfriend loves. But make sure they are meaningful. These are small gestures, but if you are genuinely interested to know how to amaze your boyfriend, they are indispensable.
21. Express your feelings for him
Of all the tips we shared, this one is, hands down, our favorite. A relationship flourishes only when there is pure transparency between the partners about their feelings and intentions for each other. It contributes to everything, starting with building trust, commitment, and emotional investment.
We, for one thing, have always encouraged our readers to be vocal about their tender emotions for their partners. Say “I love you” as often as you can, be explicit about all the reasons why you love him, and don’t look for special occasions to do so. Amalgamate this with the most mundane activities of daily life. There lies the beauty of romance.
Key Pointers
Don’t lose your genuine personality in the process of impressing your boyfriend
Try to take an interest in his life and interests and spend more time with him
Practice active listening and be more empathetic
Support him in all his endeavors and show him that he is an integral part of your life
Tease him a little, plan romantic date nights, and get him thoughtful gifts
Do you now know how to impress your boyfriend so much so that he would fall madly in love with you? We are pretty confident when we promise you a healthy romantic relationship because you just can’t go wrong with our tried-and-tested ideas. However, here’s a word of advice from Bonobology: make sure you are doing it for the right reasons, and more importantly, that this man is worth all the effort you are making. If these two parameters are set right and you borrow our ideas on how to amaze your boyfriend, your love story will be smooth sailing!
My boyfriend of 5 years cheated on me. He was away on a trip with his friends and met some girl while they were out. He told me as soon as they came back and I’ve been having a difficult time ever since. I’ve been lonely and I don’t know how to trust him again. Why do I still love him after he hurt me like this? He says it was a mistake and that he regrets it and would never do it. He says he still loves me but is that even possible? Can someone cheat and still love you? I hope so. Part of me feels ashamed because he cheated on me and I still want to stay with him. I’m not sure how to explain this to my friends and family. Please give me advice on how to deal with a cheating boyfriend that I love.
Being cheated on is a painful and emotionally turbulent experience. It is a violation of your trust, and it often leaves you feeling worse about yourself – as a person and as a partner. The most important thing to keep in mind here is that there really is no “right” or “wrong” way of how you choose to deal with infidelity in your relationship. Here are a few things to keep in mind going forward:
Speaking on how you still love him despite the infidelity, it is perfectly natural. The hurt you feel right now, does not undo the love you have been feeling for so long. These two things can be true at the same time. All that love doesn’t just disappear. In fact, under the right conditions, the love you feel can become a protective factor for your relationship which can help you overcome infidelity.
Cheating doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship. It is possible that your partner does love you, and it is possible for him to continue doing so. Infidelity does not always mean the absence of love. In fact, it can happen in relationships where there is love. Sometimes, it is due to some lack in the relationship, or some needs which aren’t being met.
Your emotions are perfectly valid, so there is no need for you to shame yourself over what you are experiencing. This entire thing is painful and difficult enough already, without internalized shame added on top.
The first priority should be your well-being. Take some time to think about what you need right now – whether that is space, or reassurance from your partner. It’s okay for you to ask for whatever you may need in order to heal from this.
Reach out for support. This could be in the form of loved ones, the people you trust, or even a support group of people who have been cheated on. It would also be helpful to speak to a counselor or therapist about the problems you’re facing, so they can help you navigate this in a healthy manner.
Try not to pressurize yourself into making a particular decision if you don’t feel ready to, just yet.
FAQs
1. What to do when your boyfriend cheated but you want to stay with him?
1. Communicate about your needs, concerns and fears to your partner. Make sure you are also receptive to what he has to say. You will both need to create empathy and understand for each other in order to make this work 2. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you navigate the complex emotions that pop up 3. Consider seeking professional help from a couples therapist 4. Establish clear boundaries and expectations going forward 5. Both of you will need to take accountability for any issues in your relationship. Maintaining the relationship is a shared responsibility. 6. Focus on rebuilding trust and being receptive to your partner’s efforts. Ensure you’re also allowing yourself time to heal.
2. Can I stay with my boyfriend after he cheated?
The decision to stay with your boyfriend or not after he cheated is one you get to make. However, there are a few things you can consider to help you decide: – is your partner remorseful for their actions and genuine in their apologies? – is your partner able to take accountability for their actions? – do you feel that you have it in you to trust them again? there is no shame in either answer – what will it take in order for you to recover? – can your partner provide what you need to get back into the relationship?
-Men, like people of any gender, can experience a wide range of emotions after cheating, and guilt is certainly one of them. However, the extent to which they feel guilty can vary based on individual factors such as personality, values, and the circumstances surrounding the infidelity. -Some men may feel deeply remorseful and guilty for their actions, especially if they recognize the hurt and betrayal they’ve caused their partner. They may feel genuine regret for violating the trust of someone they care about and may be motivated to make amends and work on rebuilding the relationship. -On the other hand, some men may experience less guilt or attempt to rationalize their actions, particularly if they justify the infidelity to themselves or if they don’t fully empathize with the emotional impact on their partner.
Factors such as relationship dynamics, personal beliefs, and previous experiences can influence how individuals process and respond to feelings of guilt. Ultimately, how someone responds to their guilt and whether they take responsibility for their actions can play a significant role in the healing process and the future of the relationship.
This is a sticky topic for sure. You don’t want to go around looking for signs your boyfriend is not sexually attracted to you. We get it. That’s why we’ll help you look. However, sexual attraction can mean different things to different people, so it’s important for both of you to lay all your cards on the table before making any hasty decisions.
As one Quora user sums up, “It can be difficult to determine whether your partner is not attracted to you, as attraction can be influenced by a variety of factors and can fluctuate over time.” We asked expert Dhriti Bhavsar, counselor, M.Sc in Clinical Psychology, to weigh in with the signs and the path ahead.
19 Heartbreaking Signs Your Boyfriend Is Not Sexually Attracted To You
If you’re starting to see the signs he doesn’t want you sexually, then maybe what he’s going through is a natural dissolution of limerence. The theory of limerence was coined by psychologist and philosopher Dorothy Tennov in her book Love and Limerence. Limerence, in the early stages of falling in love, is characterized by a period of intense emotion and arousal. Dhriti says, “This is not a sustainable state. Eventually, it will fade. However, if the relationship lasts after this state of lowered sexual interest, it will give way to deeper emotional intimacy.
“When you see the signs your man is not sexually attracted to you, apart from the end of limerence, it could also be due to the following factors: work stress, conflicts, and resentment, pregnancy, loss or grief, sickness, financial problems, or even just wear and tear of time. But through it all, the hope is that the two of you are together, working as a team through whatever life throws at you.” Now that we know about some of the possible causes of his disinterest in you, let’s look at the definitive signs your boyfriend is not sexually attracted to you:
Not surprisingly, one of the most telling signs that a guy is not attracted to you is the lack of physical contact. If the sexual attraction is on the wane, or he doesn’t find you sexually attractive anymore, all forms of physical intimacy disappear. And it’s not only about sexual activity.
When you start to date a guy, you get to know what he’s sexually attracted to. But there are also simple gestures of physical affection between two partners. If these, too, are reduced, there may be a problem. So, tell us, does he do any of the following anymore?
Playfully pats you on the bottom
Holds you around your waist
Pecks you on the cheek
Holds your hand
Hugs you
Ruffles your hair
Wants to sit close to you
Wants to fall asleep next to you
According to Dhriti, when these gestures leave the relationship, “It is one of the saddest signs your boyfriend is not sexually attracted to you. He’s creating physical distance between the two of you to prevent even a whisper of an emotional connection. And why would he do this? The harsh truth is it’s because he’s lost sexual interest.”
2. There is no sex anymore
Several Reddit threads on this topic have a whole lot of conflicting advice. For example, for women asking, “Why won’t my boyfriend have sex with me, or why do I have to beg my boyfriend to sleep with me?”, the consensus is that when a guy is not sexually attracted to you, he won’t initiate sex. In fact, he might go out of his way to avoid sex altogether. He is no longer interested in flirting or foreplay, and the sexual attraction is zero.
There’s also a school of thought that believes, “Some people just don’t have high sex drives. Some people are asexual and have no desire to have sex at all. It is normal for people to feel this way.” So what do you do when the sex has disappeared? One Reddit user suggests digging deeper if you want to: “It sounds like he’s not sexually interested in you. There could be several reasons. Asexual? Low libido, homosexual but hasn’t come to terms with it?” You might need to get to the root of the problem and care for your needs.
Sex has just disappeared from your relationship
3. One of the signs a guy is not attracted to you: The sex is not good!
The question “Why won’t my boyfriend have sex with me?” has changed into “Why is the sex so bad?” It’s because when the sex does happen, it’s either disconnected, awkward or just unpleasant. When he doesn’t want to sleep with you, but you both get intimate anyway, the odds are that he is no longer interested in satisfying you in bed or catering to your sexual desires. When sexual acts become routine and forced, they are the clearest signs your boyfriend is not sexually attracted to you. Things have certainly reached a low point in your relationship.
4. He avoids spending time with you
Before physical intimacy occurs, it is completely normal for two people to want to spend time with each other. As Dhriti explains, “In the early days of your relationship, it must have been easy to see the signs he is sexually attracted to you. Spending time with each other would have been high on each other’s priority lists. But now, you find your boyfriend making all sorts of excuses to avoid being alone with you.” If he’s no longer attracted to you, he might:
Spend more time by himself
Make excuses to avoid date nights and quality time with you
We don’t mean this in a positive way. When sexual desire is non-existent, he will likely distance himself from you. A friend of mine often complained, “My boyfriend loves me but is not sexually attracted to me. He keeps giving me advice on how to improve myself and change. Why is he even with me?” If this resonates with you, let’s see the top signs your boyfriend is not sexually attracted to you:
He does not compliment you anymore and you don’t remember the last time he told you how good you look
His body language indicates his disinterest in your looks
You regularly make excuses like, “My boyfriend is not attracted to me because of my weight, and can you really blame him?” or “He still loves me but doesn’t seem like he’s sexually attracted to me.”
6. He’s silent about sex in general
A few signs a guy is not attracted to you: Maybe he doesn’t like your body. Maybe he’s going through something. Maybe he’s losing romantic feelings for you. Whatever it is, he probably won’t indulge in any sexy talk or risque double entendres. Even the neighbor’s sex life is off-limits in your gossip sessions now.
Sadly, when he’s no longer sexually attracted to you, he wouldn’t want to spend time talking about your (or anyone’s) sex life. He may even avoid referring to anything vaguely sexual in case it leads to a difficult conversation. Because let’s face it, he knows, and you know, there are relationship problems. But both of you are doing everything you can to avoid an open and honest conversation about it.
7. He starts treating you like a buddy
Instead of his romantic partner or love interest, you notice he has started calling you names like “dude” or “pal.” It’s understandable that in a long-term relationship, it is not possible to keep up the cutesy names and love language every day, but being referred to as “bro” out of the blue and then consistently called such things is a clear sign that he’s just not sexually attracted anymore. Also, if you find yourself asking others, “Why do I have to beg my boyfriend to sleep with me?”, things look dire already.
8. He’s ignoring his appearance
According to a report by the CDC, “If you have noticed your partner putting on the pounds and not caring about it, it may be one reason why your sex life is stalling.” What are the other top signs that a man is into you? Let’s see:
He looks his best around you
He puts an effort into his grooming
He dresses up when he’s with you
He pays attention to what you like him to wear and how you like him to look
“But if he no longer tries to be clean, groomed, and well-dressed when he’s with you, it’s a sign he’s losing interest and does not find you attractive anymore,” says Dhriti. If you want to give him the benefit of doubt, poor hygiene can also be a sign of other issues, such as poor mental health. So, it’s up to you to read the signs right and tackle these relationship problems at the root.
9. One of the signs he doesn’t want you sexually: He’s always picking a fight
When a guy is not sexually attracted to you anymore, it may seem like he’s constantly irritated with you. Suddenly, every little thing annoys him, and the negative comments keep coming. His patience is at an all-time low; he’s ready to argue about anything, and he uses sarcasm and snide comments to push you away.
Yes, it is normal to feel hurt about this and want to fight back. However, it’s high time you both have that much-needed open and honest conversation about the real cause of conflicts — one of them being his lack of sexual desire.
10. He’s going out of his way to put distance between you both
If he wants to avoid all forms of physical intimacy, he’s probably making every effort to stay as far away from you as possible. It could look like this:
He goes to bed at a different time than you
He leaves for work early or comes back very late
He makes excuses and begs off plans with friends
He sits far away from you while watching television or at the table
He avoids sex or any type of sexual encounters
These are all pretty clear signs your boyfriend is not sexually attracted to you.
When it comes to the sensitive topic of sexual interest and your dwindling sex life, try to recall this: Has your boyfriend initiated sex even though he has trouble maintaining his erection? Does he complain of a disappearing sex drive? If yes, then it might be a physiological problem.
A study indicates that almost 150 million men globally have ED or erectile dysfunction. It is also attributed as one of the main causes of lack of sexual interest. It is a big deal for men, no matter how much you try to convince them otherwise. It is important to understand how to handle the strong feelings associated with erectile dysfunction. An in-depth study on the impact of ED on men shows an increase in:
“It’s no surprise, then, that a man’s sexual prowess and drive will suffer as a result. That said, if he is physically healthy and has no mental health issues, the lack of erections could be an indicator of low sexual attraction,” adds Dhriti.
12. He prefers masturbation over sex
In a study on the impact of masturbation on relationships, a connection between masturbation and pornography use was discovered. A higher frequency of self-pleasuring in heterosexual males often led to low relationship intimacy. “Why do I have to beg my boyfriend to sleep with me, especially when I know he still masturbates? He clearly has the required desire, just not for me,” Marion, a 26-year-old bartender, writes to us in despair.
One of the signs a guy is not attracted to you is when he ‘always’ prefers to pleasure himself over spending sexy time with you. It’s a definite indicator that all is not right. And if he’s rejecting your advances of physical intimacy and choosing to masturbate, there’s no hiding from the harsh truth that he’s just not sexually attracted to you anymore.
If your partner regularly abuses alcohol or drugs or uses these intoxicants as fuel to initiate sex with you, it’s time to take note. Don’t just feel bad; rather, ask yourself the hard questions:
Does he need to be “out of himself” to be with me?
Does the sex make me happy?
This checklist can offer you valuable insights. And then, take the necessary steps, whether it’s reaching out to a mental health practitioner or doctor, or asking a loved one for support and guidance.
14. Signs your man is not sexually attracted to you: He flirts with other women
This might be a controversial opinion, but if a man is truly into you, he won’t spend his time looking at other women at all. And we are not talking about some innocent, admiring glances here. If your man openly flirts with other women (in front of you or otherwise), it’s a sign to stand up — and walk out. This is one of the most infuriating signs your boyfriend is not sexually attracted to you and it should be addressed at the earliest.
15. He constantly talks about other women
In much the same way, if he constantly talks about other women and is vocal about how they turn him on, how good they look, or how different they are from you — it’s pretty evident that he’s not happy with what he has. This, in turn, translates into a lack of physical intimacy and sexual interest for you. Clearly, he has no regard for your feelings either.
You find yourself proclaiming quite often, “My boyfriend doesn’t seem interested in me sexually anymore.” In that case, he might already be telling the world he’s not into you, especially if he does any of the following:
These are some of the basic signs your man is not sexually attracted to you. He’s indicating that he’d rather be anywhere else and with anyone else but you.
He tries to avoid being in your presence let alone having physical intimacy
17. You suspect he’s cheating on you
“What to do if my boyfriend doesn’t seem interested in me sexually anymore?” — We ask Dhriti to address this query. First, tell us: Have you experienced any of the following during this sexless relationship phase?
He spends too much time with another person
He mentions them all the time
He’s always on the phone and keeps his phone away from you
He works late or on the weekends
He’s suddenly paying attention to his appearance but doesn’t care for your compliments
He’s dressing differently
He’s lying about his actions
He’s into pornography
These might point to the signs he doesn’t want you sexually. “Please know that it’s not about you but all about him. Whether you suspect infidelity or have the proof, just remember his lack of sexual attraction has nothing to do with the person you are. Rather, it’s all about him and his new sexual interest,” our expert advises.
Let’s discuss some of the signs your boyfriend is not sexually attracted to you: He may have been passing subtle hints or not-so-subtle negative comments about your physical appearance, behavior, habits, and lifestyle. As a result, you have done everything to change. You are bending over backward to please this man and it has not resulted in any change on his part. It’s probably too late to save the relationship, so please take some proactive steps to regain self-confidence.
19. One of the most important signs he doesn’t want you sexually: You just feel things are off
Never underestimate your instinct. Gut feelings are more often than not accurate when it comes to “just knowing” that things are not ok. Take a long, hard look at your relationship and be brutally honest with yourself before taking the next step toward reconciliation or walking out.
Eliza, a medical intern from Philadelphia, says, “My boyfriend doesn’t seem interested in me sexually anymore. He’s starting to show signs of disinterest and even seems disgusted around me. When I ask him about it, he denies it all. But I just know the truth. I’m in hell.” If you can relate to her, take stock of your situation immediately.
It’s time to stop living in denial. If any (or all) of the above signs are occurring in your relationship, we urge you to take the necessary steps to either remedy the issues or move on.
What To Do When A Guy Is Not Sexually Attracted To You
If your common refrain is “My boyfriend doesn’t seem sexually interested in me anymore,” and you recognize a majority of the signs mentioned above, it’s time to process the problems and work through them — one way or the other. Some of the ways you can do this include:
Sit down and have a brutally honest conversation with him
Make an effort to try something new
Try and bring back the spark with sexy lingerie, date nights, or even adventure-filled erotic roleplays to get those hormones pumping again
Look into any legitimate reasons behind his sexual disinterest, like a lingering conflict or disrespectful attitude on your end
Depression, anxiety, impotence, drug or alcohol abuse, past trauma, and even medicines can affect a person’s sex drive. Find out what’s going on
Couple’s counseling is always a good option
When your self-esteem and mental health are affected, it’s time to weigh the pros and cons and protect your happiness. Seek support and don’t isolate yourself
Decide when it’s time to cut your losses and leave
Dhriti also suggests:
Redefining sex and relationships, and what they mean to both of you
Using alternatives to meet your sexual needs such as intimate gadgets
Looking outside the traditional ideas of what sex is and how one gets pleasure
Communicating your needs openly, no matter how awkward it gets
Meeting each other halfway and compromising on expectations
Empathizing versus judging
Scheduling sex and alone time
Reaching out to an expert to help you through any blocks
Key Pointers
If “my boyfriend loves me but is not sexually attracted to me” is a common complaint in your life, you need to read the signs closely before you take any step
Signs he doesn’t want you sexually: Lack of physical touch, no conversation around sex, he treats you more like a friend than lover, and he is more interested in other women
If this sounds familiar, there are remedial steps you can take — such as having an honest discussion, opting for therapy or, if all else fails, leaving the relationship
While every long-term relationship goes through ups and downs, a complete avoidance of intimacy is not normal
Sometimes, relationships may need extra help getting back on track. It’s up to you to decide whether it’s worth the effort or not
Dhriti reminds us, “Not everyone experiences sexual attraction in the same way. You may need to look out for subtle signs he IS sexually attracted to you if he’s just different from most of the people you’ve dated before. But also, please take into consideration factors such as current stressors, emotional and mental well-being, age, substance abuse, feelings of anger, resentment, depression, or anxiety. All of these can affect and cause phases of sexual attraction.”
If your relationship is meant to survive, your only recourse is to face the problem head-on by communicating with each other and then dealing with the situation at hand. It doesn’t pay to imagine reasons or make excuses for behaviors that are not fulfilling for either of you.
FAQs
1. Can a man be in love with you but not sexually attracted to you?
According to Dhriti, the simple answer is yes. Sexuality is a flexible spectrum. Not every relationship starts off with all guns a-blazing. Forsexual attraction to build, other factors, such as emotional intimacy and time, need to be in place as well. Dhriti urges couples to give things time. Remember that every person has different needs and past romantic relationships may affect the present. It is best not to give undue importance to only sexual attraction.
2. How can I make my boyfriend sexually attracted to me again?
First, decide whether it’s worth the effort. If the relationship is still worth saving, there are steps you can take — such as making an effort to be more ‘attractive,’ buying sexy lingerie, learning new tricks in bed, and making couple time and date nights non-negotiable. But at the end of the day, we also urge you to take care of your needs. If your man is making you feel badabout yourself and you spend all your time questioning his motives and actions, it may be better just to move on.
Authorities have released the identity of a 3-year-old boy who was killed in his Lancaster home on Tuesday night and described his mother’s boyfriend as a person of interest in the brutal slaying.
The toddler, David Hernandez, was found with his throat cut in the 43400 block of 57th Street W when deputies arrived around 10:55 p.m., officials said. He was pronounced dead at a local hospital.
The Sheriff’s Department said in a news release that Rena Naulls, 39, of Lancaster, was transported to the hospital after allegedly attempting to take his own life at the scene.
Investigators said Naulls is the live-in boyfriend of the victim’s mother and named him “a person of interest” in the case. Naulls was admitted to the hospital and listed in stable condition, police said.
The Times previously reported that a source with knowledge of the investigation who was not authorized to speak publicly said a family friend went to the house at the behest of one of the boy’s relatives, found the child with his throat slit in a bathtub and called 911.
Three of the child’s older siblings, ages 9, 11 and 14, were unharmed and taken into protective custody by the Department of Children and Family Services, according to the source and the Sheriff’s Department. The Times reported that the family had no prior contacts with the Department of Children and Family Services.
A lifeguard found the body of a woman on the sand in Manhattan Beach on Friday morning, three hours after her boyfriend reported her missing.
The woman was identified by the Los Angeles County medical examiner’s office as Jennifer Hanie, 31, according to City News Service. The cause of death has not been determined.
Manhattan Beach police said the woman’s boyfriend and friends searched for Hanie before reporting her missing early Friday morning. “The reporting party stated he last saw his girlfriend near the water line,” the police said.
County lifeguards and the U.S. Coast Guard helped search for the woman on the beach and in the water.
Police are continuing to investigate. Anyone with information should call Manhattan Beach Police Detective Sgt. Taylor Klosowski at (310) 802-5123.
Butterflies have become crickets. Laughter replaced by long silences. The sparkle in your eyes whenever you looked at him? Dimmed, like a forgotten Christmas light. It’s an unnerving, isolating feeling to wonder why you don’t feel the same way you did.
Before you get lost in the labyrinth of “why am I losing feelings for my boyfriend” and “is this just overthinking?”, take a deep breath. Because, sweetheart, you’re not alone. Millions have taken this emotional roller coaster, and guess what? They found their way back to clarity, to joy, and to love.
The “Am I Losing Feelings For My Boyfriend Quiz” has been especially crafted by a relationship counsellor that has helped many women through the ups and downs in their relationship. Just 11 questions, 10 minutes – that’s all it takes to shed light on those red flags fluttering in your gut.
I’m 28 and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 6 years. I want to get married but my boyfriend doesn’t. He just avoids the topic when I try to bring it up. Even though our relationship is very serious and we are in love, my boyfriend never wants to get married. He says he doesn’t think it’s needed and that we are happy the way that we are. My relatives and even friends taunt me by saying ‘he will never marry you’. It is starting to bother me. If everything is going well and he really loves me then why doesn’t he want to marry me?
Answer
Marriage is a long term commitment that some feel ready for and some don’t. What seems like a natural next step to you, could seem completely unnecessary to your partner. However, if there is a fundamental disagreement about such a core value, it puts the relationship in jeopardy. A few things to be considered here are:
You want marriage, while for your boyfriend marriage isn’t even on the cards at all. The possibility of reaching a middle ground is slim to none. What’s more, your boyfriend seems to be taking a dismissive or avoidant approach to this topic, which hinders healthy communication between the two of you.
The societal pressure of getting married is greater on women than on men and this also becomes an added source of stress in your relationship.
What does marriage mean to the both of you? To you, it could mean a signifier of love and commitment that is socially sanctioned, a form of security, etc. To your boyfriend it could signify loss of autonomy, a social constraint, etc. Understanding the meaning you attach to marriage can help you understand why the two of you have chosen your respective stances
What are your needs here? Neither partner should feel forced to give up on their needs as this leads to resentment towards each other later on. If marriage for you is a need, and this is something your partner is not able to provide, you do not have to give up on that need just to stay with him
In continuation of the previous point, what are your expectations from your boyfriend and vice versa. Are these expectations realistic? In other words, is your partner capable of meeting those expectations? When considering this, I urge you to look at the situation as realistically as possible and see your partner for who they are instead of who you want them to be
When communicating about this, be open to his perspective as well. Try to understand his fears. This does not mean that you let go of your own perspective in order to adhere to his point of view. It is possible to hold space for two opposing perspectives
Cater to and process your own feelings. Ensure that you are not ignoring or dismissing your own emotions in this situation, no matter how unpleasant those emotions may be to deal with. Reach out to your support system as when and when you need to. Speaking to a professional can also help you manage your emotions in a healthy manner, while making sense of the situation and deciding what to do next.
There are several reasons why people who are in love choose not to get married. A few of them could be:
They have not seen healthy or successful marriages around them and thus, have little or no faith in the institution of marriage
Trauma from past relationships, or past experiences which leaves them unable or unwilling to commit beyond a certain point
Some people see marriage as a constraint and fear losing their independence after marriage. After all, marriage is a responsibility and a huge undertaking. This independence is not just limited to their daily living but also their career choices, financial freedom and other long term life goals they may have for themselves.
Simply not thinking marriage is necessary to prove commitment.
Fear of disapproval from family members.
They’re not sure of a future together or have difficulty picturing such a future.
At the end of the day, know when you’re reaching a dead end with your relationship. If your partner is unable or unwilling to see why marriage is so important to you, or if there is no middle ground left for you to reach, there’s nothing you can do for your relationship. There is a high possibility you might need to walk away from this relationship.
This can be an emotionally and mentally draining experience so do ensure that you’re taking care of yourself and remember to stay kind to yourself.
FAQs
1. Can a man love you and not want to marry you?
Yes, it is possible. People can have several different reasons for not wanting to get married, including but not limited to: independence and autonomy, financial freedom, past relationship trauma, family problems and disapproval or simply not wanting marriage.
It can be difficult to come to terms with the reality of the situation. Most importantly, validate your emotions and allow yourself to feel things thoroughly, instead of trying to control or suppress your emotions. Secondly, communicate openly and honestly with your partner and try to figure out where you can go from here. You don’t need to bear these burdens alone. Thirdly, consult a professional who can guide you as to how to go about this situation. Continue to look after yourself and indulge in self-care, and the activities and company which recharges and nourishes you.
3. How can we explore the possibility of counseling if my boyfriend is opposed to marriage? Couples counseling can help with the following:
1. Communicating in a healthy and effective manner with each other and being able to understand the other’s point of view 2. Finding the possibility of a middle ground, working through any problems or disagreements that may arise while doing so. 3. Understanding the future of the relationship and what that will mean for both parties. 4. Deciding whether to split or to continue and if the couple decides to split, how to do so in a manner that provides closure to both.
There are several reasons why people who are in love choose not to get married. A few of them could be: 1. They have not seen healthy or successful marriages around them and thus, have little or no faith in the institution of marriage 2. Trauma from past relationships, or past experiences which leaves them unable or unwilling to commit beyond a certain point 3. Simply not thinking marriage is necessary to prove commitment. 4. Fear of disapproval from family members. 5. They’re not sure of a future together or have difficulty picturing such a future.
Hello. I’ve been in a relationship for 4.5 years with my boyfriend. I have a better job and make more money than him. Right from the start, he has been borrowing money from me but he still has never paid me back. I feel like I pay for everything in relationshipI am always doing things for him but I never see him do anything for me. Even when we go on vacations, I pay for everything from flights to hotels to food. Recently he asked me if I would pay half the money for his bike. I am starting to feel like he is just using me but I don’t know. Am I overthinking this?
Having a higher salary than your boyfriend, does not mean that you need to cater to all of his financial needs, and you are not obligated to provide anything that makes you uncomfortable. It is very important to establish certain financial boundaries in relationships. There is a difference between giving your partner gifts, because it makes you happy to do so, and feeling pressured to bear financial burdens in your relationship.
Financial boundaries and why they are important
Boundaries are certain limits or rules that you place to protect your mental, emotional, physical and social well-being. Financial boundaries are rules that you establish around your finances in order to protect your financial well-being. These boundaries are not rigid, instead, they change based on your needs and circumstances.
Financial boundaries cover several areas such as personal financial details and information, lending and loaning finances, sharing financial burdens, etc. Setting boundaries ensures that you can continue to interact with people in a healthy manner, without giving more than you are able or willing to.
Here’s a short guide on how to go about setting financial boundaries:
Lay the ground-work. This includes asking yourself questions like: What is your current financial ability? In what ways would you prefer to use your finances? How much are you comfortable with sharing with others? What are your financial goals – both on a short and long term basis. This ensures that you have clarity regarding your boundaries.
Communicating your boundaries. Once you know what you are comfortable with doing for others financially, you also realize what you are not comfortable with doing. Then comes the harder part of saying no to requests or demands which extend you beyond a point you are comfortable with. This includes friends, family and even your partner.
Offer alternatives. Having financial limits does not mean that you need to remain excluded from things. Say for example, due to your financial boundaries, you are not able to go on a trip with your partner while bearing both of your costs. In that case, suggest an alternative that is more affordable to both of you.
Here are a few alternative ways you can still help and support your loved ones without involving finances:
Sharing certain opportunities which can improve their situation
Sharing and practicing financial advise which can help them improve their own financial state
Celebrating achievements which are not monetary
Despite communicating your boundaries clearly, if someone makes you feel guilty or pressured into violating your financial boundaries, that is not a healthy relationship.
It is very important for relationships to have balanced give and take. This imbalance becomes harder to spot in relationships where both partners have warm, positive feelings towards each other. In this situation, the person who gives less than the other might be thinking they are giving enough, and thus be frustrated and confused when their partner is upset about it. On the other hand, the person who gives and gives, will eventually grow tired and develop a deep resentment towards their partner.
This leads to frequent fights, feeling distant from each other, emotional and mental exhaustion. It is also important to consider how much each partner is able to give. A person could be giving the relationship their all and it might still not be enough for their partner. A realistic idea about what you and your partner are able to give is necessary.
The way to go about establishing this balance is through communicating your needs and boundaries. It is your responsibility to communicate both what you require and how much you are able to provide. It is important to remain mindful of when you are exceeding your own limits when it comes to giving in the relationship.
Trusting your experience and instinct
If you feel like you are being used, if the situation feels unfair to you, it is okay for you to believe in your experience. A partner who is all too comfortable with asking and not providing, is not a good partner. Many times the things that make you uncomfortable in your relationship might be normalized in your culture. That still does not make them acceptable. Your emotions and experiences are valid because they exist.
While there are no fixed “normals” in a relationship, bearing the entire financial burden can become tiring. If your partner is capable, they should be splitting expenses with you. If not, there are other ways the two of you can spend time together which would be less financially demanding for both. You get to decide your own financial boundaries. If you are comfortable with your current arrangement and it does not harm you, there’s nothing wrong with it. However, if this arrangement leaves you feeling used, tired and uncomfortable, it needs to change
2. My partner keeps borrowing money and never pays back. Should I worry?
Yes, that is cause for concern. This habit of your partner’s can become a financial burden on you eventually. Their behavior also speaks to how responsible they are when it comes to money.
3. We love each other, but his lack of financial commitment makes me doubt our future. What should I do?
Financial compatibility plays a huge role in determining the success of your relationship. First and foremost, try to communicate your doubts about the future with your partner. His financially irresponsible behavior can have negative consequences for the both of you. Secondly, remember that it is not your responsibility to fix your partner. If he does not see a problem in his behavior, or if he seems uninterested in bringing about that change, it is not your responsibility to force him to change. You deserve to be with someone who gives due importance to factors which impact your future together.
The Los Angeles County Sheriff’s Department released body camera footage Friday showing the moments leading up to a deputy fatally shooting a 27-year-old Black woman in Lancaster.
Niani Finlayson, who authorities said was armed with a kitchen knife, was shot in front of her 9-year-old daughter on Dec. 4. She had called the police for help during a domestic dispute with a man authorities described as her boyfriend.
The footage released Friday shows that the deputy who shot her was first handed a Taser, but he dropped it and fired a handgun instead.
Investigators are continuing to review the case, which is expected to be sent to the district attorney’s office to determine if any charges will be filed.
“Any time a life is lost, regardless of the circumstances, is a difficult time for everyone involved,” L.A. County Sheriff Robert Luna said in a statement. “The department released the body-worn camera footage ahead of the legal time frame to demonstrate our commitment to transparency and the visual representation of the facts in this case. As the comprehensive review process continues, the department will gain additional insight into the incident with the goal of improving public safety.”
Shortly after 6 p.m. on Dec. 4, Finlayson called 911 to report that her boyfriend wouldn’t leave her Lancaster apartment, authorities said. During a frantic call with a police dispatcher, audio of which was released along with the body camera footage, Finlayson said the man would not leave her house or “get his hands off of me.”
Three deputies heard screaming as they approached the apartment in the 2100 block of East Avenue J-8. Body camera video shows one of the deputies attempting to kick in the front door.
The door opens and Finlayson appears — holding what authorities say was an 8-inch kitchen knife.
“I’m going to stab him,” she can be heard telling the deputies before moving out of sight toward the living room.
The body camera video shows a deputy, identified by the department as Ty Shelton, entering the apartment closely behind another deputy. On his way in, Shelton asks the other deputy to give him a Taser.
After deputies moved into the apartment, Finlayson can be seen standing next to a man, with one hand on him and the other appearing to hold a knife. Shelton drops the Taser , raises his handgun and fires four shots at Finlayson.
The man then yells, “Why did you shoot?”
Finlayson was taken to a hospital where she later died. The man was arrested on suspicion of child abuse and assault on a peace officer but was later released, according to the sheriff’s department.
Shelton did not immediately respond to a request for comment.
“She was not engaging in any type of physically threatening behavior at all,” Bradley Gage, the family’s attorney, said at a news conference Dec. 21. “In fact, she was the victim.”
Shelton was involved in at least one other fatal shooting in Lancaster, according to county records. In 2020, Shelton killed 62-year-old Michael Thomas as he and another deputy tried to detain him during a domestic violence call.
The deputies said Thomas tried to grab one of their guns. His fiancee disputed that, telling a local TV station that Thomas had refused to let the deputies enter the house and was turning away from them when he was shot.
Prosecutors declined to file charges against Shelton in that case, county records show, though they acknowledged “there may have been other reasonable options available” to him instead of killing Thomas.
The union representing L.A. County sheriff’s deputies urged the public to allow for a thorough investigation before coming to any final conclusions.
“This was obviously a tragic outcome, an outcome attributable to a violent and highly volatile situation in that apartment that night,” Richard Pippin, president of the Assn. for Los Angeles Deputy Sheriffs said in an emailed statement Friday.
“Our deputy found himself faced with a woman who threatened to stab someone and was then poised, knife in hand, to carry out that threat. This video exemplifies the profound challenges and no-win situations our deputies frequently face. The true motives of groups or individuals who jumped out with outrageous assertions before even seeing the video should be apparent to everyone.”
Former NBA player Chance Comanche has admitted to working with his girlfriend to strangle a woman to death in Las Vegas earlier this month, according to authorities and court documents.
The former Beverly Hills High basketball star admitted to Las Vegas homicide detectives that he conspired with Sakari Harnden to kill Marayna Rodgers in the early hours of Dec. 6, a court filing said.
Comanche, 27, who played briefly for the Sacramento Kings in October and Portland Trail Blazers in April, was playing for the Stockton Kings of the NBA G League at the time of the killing. The team was in Las Vegas for a game the night of Dec. 5, and the court filing alleges that he and Harnden planned the killing days earlier through numerous text messages — some including emojis of a gun, a ghost and a coffin.
After they were unable to find someone to kill Rodgers for $3,000, Comanche and Harnden, 19, decided to carry out the killing themselves, the filing said. In a text message to Harnden on Dec. 4, Comanche wrote, “If you get a nice little thick piece of rope or sum sturdy I can do it from the back seat. Like how killers do it in the movies.”
According to the court filing, Harnden and Rodgers, 23, were prostitutes and acquaintances who had argued over a Rolex watch and the fact that Rodgers had revealed to others that Harnden had cooperated with police about a boyfriend’s involvement in a double homicide in Stockton earlier this year. The boyfriend, Iosua Sataua, was arrested in May along with a 16-year-old boy in the case.
The night of the killing in Las Vegas, Harnden told Rodgers that Comanche was a trick who was into kinky sex and wanted to tie them up and have sex with both of them, according to the court filing. Rodgers agreed, and while sitting in the front passenger seat of Harnden’s Mercedes-Benz willingly allowed Harnden to tie her hands together with zip ties, the filing said.
Comanche told detectives that he strangled Rodgers with an HDMI cord from the backseat and that Harnden strangled her with both hands around her neck, the filing said.
“Chance made reference to fluid coming out of Marayna’s mouth, which caused them to believe Marayna was dead,” the filing said.
Comanche and Harnden placed Rodgers’ body in a ditch and covered it with rocks, according to the court filing. The next morning Comanche boarded the team bus headed for the airport.
Las Vegas homicide detectives interviewed Comanche in Stockton on Friday. The court filing said he confessed to the killing and told detectives where Rodgers’ body was located.
A criminal complaint filed in Las Vegas court on Monday charged Comanche and Harnden with murder and conspiracy to commit murder. Comanche appeared in a Sacramento County court on Tuesday and waived his extradition, meaning Las Vegas police will have 30 days to take him to Nevada.
Comanche declared for the 2017 NBA draft, forgoing the remaining two years of his college eligibility, but was not selected. Since then he’s bounced around the G League and in 2021 played for a professional team in Turkey.
The Trail Blazers signed Comanche to a 10-day contract in April and he appeared in one game, scoring seven points. He wasn’t re-signed but landed with the Sacramento Kings on a 10-day contract in October. The Stockton Kings released him shortly after his arrest.
A friend recently asked me if I thought her toxic ex had male narcissist traits. I told her that being narcissistic is different from being diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), and there’s no way to know unless he gets a diagnosis through mental health professionals or a licensed therapist. But she was insistent.
She said she knew all his traits after a 5-year-long relationship. All she needed was someone to dig up some facts with her. So, here I am, with my new-found knowledge. As we know, narcissism is a personality trait that can be found in both men and women. But it often manifests differently across genders. As we discuss these personality traits ahead, remember that in men, they often form with distinct passive-aggressive behavior patterns.
Understanding these aspects of male and female narcissists is crucial not only for identifying potential narcissistic women and men in your life, but also for protecting yourself from emotional harm by creating boundaries. In this article, relationship coach Dhriti Bhavsar (MSc, Clinical Psychology), who specializes in LGBTQ and marital issues, addresses the traits of male narcissists and their subtle harmful tendencies. With her help, we will shed light on the specific attitudes of male narcissists that people around them (like my friend) have to deal with.
What Is A Narcissistic Man?
In The Good Men Projectarticle, titled ‘Confessions of a Recovering Narcissist—Or How I Learned to Be Unselfish,’ Lion Goodman wrote, “Relationships fail when partners focus too much on getting their own needs met, and not enough on the needs of the other. This results in arguments over whose needs are most important – which is almost always damaging.”
Well said. A narcissistic man demonstrates a pervasive and often problematic pattern of personality disorder characterized by a pronounced focus on his own needs, desires, and self-image. This focus is so intense that it can lead to a lack of consideration for other people’s feelings. While it’s essential to distinguish among mental disorders, narcissistic traits, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (which is a diagnosable mental health condition), a narcissistic man typically exhibits a self-centered approach to life.
Dealing with male narcissists can be challenging, especially if they have NPD. According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, “There are no FDA-approved medications for the treatment of NPD, but many patients may benefit from the treatment of symptoms, including anxiety, depression, mood lability, transient psychosis, and impulse control issues.” Addressing the problem is the first step, though. Keep reading to know more about narcissist traits in males.
11 Common Male Narcissist Traits In Relationships
Narcissistic traits in men can show up distinctly within the context of relationships, causing unique challenges for their partners. While not all men who exhibit these traits have Narcissistic Personality Disorder NPD, or antisocial personality disorder, or any kind of mental disorders, recognizing their narcissistic approach and common behaviors is crucial for those in relationships with them.
In the following sections, we will watch out for prominent traits of male narcissists, shedding light on their haughty behaviors that can help you navigate their narcissistic tendencies. Remember that while recognizing these traits is essential, diagnosing someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder should be left to mental health professionals or a licensed therapist.
Here are 11 prominent male narcissist traits in romantic relationships, explained in detail:
1. They have an excessive need for attention in relationships
This is one of the overt narcissist traits males show with their partners. While some level of self-focus and a desire for recognition are normal, narcissistic behavior becomes problematic when it disrupts an individual’s life and the lives of those around them. Here are some common traits:
The partner of a male narcissist may find themselves constantly needing to reassure and compliment the narcissist
This can be emotionally exhausting as your own needs for affirmation and support often take a back seat
2. They will manipulate you emotionally
Male narcissists use emotional manipulation tactics, such as guilt-tripping which can make the partner feel responsible for the narcissist’s happiness, even when it’s unreasonable. Gaslighting, a very common form of narcissistic abuse, can lead to confusion and self-doubt. Emotional detachment phases and other manipulative tactics can create a toxic atmosphere where the partner feels trapped in the relationship.
Dhriti says, “In relationships, narcissistic men often:
Play the victim card to avoid accountability
Engage in gaslighting to make you doubt your own reality
Use love bombing and ghosting to keep you on an emotional rollercoaster
Can be vengeful and hold onto grudges.”
This is how a male narcissist behaves like
3. A common trait among male narcissists: They struggle to show empathy to their partner
Are you dating a narcissist? Lack of empathy is one of the major narcissist traits in males, as you must know already. And because they lack empathy, it makes it challenging for them to connect with you on a deep, emotional level. The self-importance preoccupation of male narcissists makes it difficult for them to be genuine. Here’s how your intimate bond is affected:
Your emotions and experiences are often invalidated and dismissed
This can leave you feeling unseen, unheard, and unimportant
Over time, this lack of empathy erodes the emotional connection in the relationship
Narcissists tend to prioritize their own interests and self-care above all else. This pursuit of attention and affirmation can lead them to engage in behavior that manipulates or exploits those around them. This exploitation can take form in various ways:
Self-obsessed men may take advantage of your financial resources
They may use your social connections for their own agenda
They may rely on you for emotional support constantly without giving anything in return
This leaves you feeling used and unappreciated, which can damage your self-esteem and overall well-being.
5. Narcissistic men only care about their self-image and needs, even at the cost of yours
Male narcissists have a grandiose sense of their life; they can even create unrealistic expectations for their partner. Here’s what it looks like:
They may expect you to cater to their every need, disregarding your own desires and boundaries
This inflated sense of self can strain the romantic relationship, as it becomes one-sided
You will never find them being self-deprecating about themselves
Dhriti says, “Such men exhibit the same behavior and entitlement everywhere, including romantic relationships. They do this through sexual demands, financial control, and monopolizing their partner’s time and attention. These actions erode boundaries, stripping partners of their agency and leaving them feeling suffocated.”
6. They’re always playing the blame game in a relationship
This is one of the most overt narcissist traits males show. A man like this takes advantage of the situation at hand and deflects blame and responsibility, hence conflicts often remain unresolved. You may feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells. You fear any discussion that might lead to the blame being shifted on you. This avoidance of accountability by male narcissists can lead to an unhealthy and frustrating communication pattern between the couple.
7. The partnership can’t be equal as narcissistic males are always on a power trip
Male and female narcissists often view themselves as exceptional or unique, with an overarching belief in their superiority. Maintaining this inflated sense of control and dominance often results in imbalanced power dynamics within the relationship. Male narcissists may maintain power by:
Limiting your independence
Making decisions unilaterally
Undermining your self-esteem. This control can make you feel helpless and dependent on them
8. Male narcissists feel attacked a lot because of lack of self-esteem
The signs of low self-esteem hidden beneath the grandiose narcissism makes it difficult for such men to handle criticism or perceived threats to their self-worth. This emotional volatility can lead to a thick atmosphere of tension for you, as you fear triggering a defensive or angry response even in random conversations.
Dhriti explains, “Narcissist behavior in men is displayed by a fragile self-esteem that tends to be emotionally reactive, making you walk on eggshells. They retaliate fiercely to criticism, viewing it as a deep insult to their core. Their confidence masks a fragile ego, which leads to defensive behavior and an inability to handle jokes or critiques gracefully.”
9. They shuffle between idealizing and devaluing you
The cycle of idealization and devaluation can be emotionally confusing for partners. In the initial stages of the relationship, you may be showered with excessive admiration, affection, and praise, but as the relationship progresses, you might suddenly be devalued and criticized. This inconsistency by male narcissists can cause emotional turmoil.
Dhriti says, “Narcissists create a rollercoaster of emotions by initially making partners feel cherished and valued, only to withdraw affection later. This hooks the partners emotionally, making them crave the lost validation. This cycle taps into our brain’s reward system, similar to substance addiction, leaving you grappling with withdrawal-like emotions when the narcissistic love bombing ends.”
10. One of the most covert narcissist traits in males — They’re envious of you
The competitiveness and envy of a narcissistic person can lead to a hostile and unsupportive environment for their partner. Instead of celebrating your achievements, they may belittle or downplay them, making it challenging for you to thrive or feel secure in your accomplishments. You might eventually stop sharing what brings you joy and pride.
11. They can’t hold down the relationship with you for long
Due to their passive-aggressive behavior and possibly some personality disorders, maintaining a healthy, long-term relationship can be exceptionally challenging. There are repeated relationship formation attempts and failures. This turmoil can leave you emotionally drained, struggling to find stability and happiness in a relationship with a narcissistic man. It often takes therapy or a significant personal transformation for male narcissists to build and maintain lasting, healthy relationships.
Characteristics Of A Narcissist Man
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a complex and often challenging mental health condition characterized by a pervasive pattern of behaviors, thoughts, and emotions. When examining the characteristics of male narcissists, it’s essential to understand that not all individuals with narcissistic traits meet the criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder NPD. However, certain traits are commonly associated with such men and can significantly impact their romantic relationships and interactions. Here are some key traits:
1. One of the major characteristics of a narcissist man is grandiosity
Narcissistic men often have an over-inflated sense of self-importance. According to a study on NPD, “Often, persons with grandiose narcissism can present with heightened mood and more energy when excited by a new idea, which may initially point to a hypomanic/manic presentation.”
Narcissistic Personality Disorder NPD is characterized by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. This inflated sense of self can result in haughty behaviors such as bragging about achievements and expecting constant admiration.
2. Need for admiration
Narcissistic men tend to have a constant need for admiration and validation. This is because male narcissists seek praise and recognition from others to bolster their fragile self-esteem. This need for admiration can drive them to engage in attention-seeking behaviors, like stealing the spotlight from those around them.
Dhriti adds, “Narcissist behavior in men is indicated by craving the spotlight, often overshadowing your achievements by making it about them. To them, people are possessions and they use your success to boost their image. If you are living with a narcissist husband or boyfriend then you must already know how this self-centered behavior, combined with histrionic tendencies, leaves people feeling unimportant, overshadowed, and pressured to constantly please the narcissist.”
3. Lack of empathy
Male narcissists tend to lack empathy. They may struggle to recognize people’s feelings, and it’s hard for them to care about the emotions and needs of others. Their lack of genuine empathy can result in a depleting emotional connection and understanding in their relationships.
4. Male narcissists tend to have manipulative behavior
They are skilled manipulators. They may use love bombing, silent treatment, flattery, or manipulation to achieve their goals or to control and exploit others. This manipulation can take on various forms, such as guilt-tripping, gaslighting (making someone doubt their perceptions or feelings), or employing emotional manipulation tactics to get what they want.
5. Sense of entitlement
Male narcissists tend to demand privileges, regardless of their actual accomplishments. Entitlement is one of the most common characteristics of a narcissist man. After all, narcissists tend to believe they are exceptional, unique, and entitled to special treatment and recognition. When others don’t meet their expectations or cater to their desires, they may become resentful or angry, viewing any perceived slights as personal affronts.
6. Difficulty in maintaining relationships
Narcissistic behavior can strain relationships. Their self-centeredness, need for constant validation, and lack of compassion are some of the reasons why narcissists can’t sustain long-term, intimate relationships. Narcissists are generally unhappy in their personal relationships. Partners and friends may find it exhausting to continually meet the narcissist’s demands for praise.
7. A fragile self-esteem is among the common traits of narcissistic men
Dhriti adds another aspect, “Dealing with a narcissistic partner can shatter your self-esteem and confidence too, making you reliant on their validation. Your emotional boundaries blur, tying your well-being to their approval, similar to living in a world where Barbie has a good day every day, while Ken only does when Barbie looks at him.”
Some common traits of a male narcissist include lack of self-confidence and low self-esteem. Paradoxically, that’s what lies beneath their inflated sense of grandiosity. They are hypersensitive to criticism and often react with rage or defensiveness when their self-worth is challenged. This can create a volatile atmosphere in their relationships.
8. Exploitative behavior
They exploit others for personal gain, whether in the workplace, friendships, or romantic relationships. They may showcase their narcissistic behavior subtly and use people as a means to an end, without genuine concern for their limitations. The same behavior can result in emotional abuse, harming the trust and well-being of those around them.
Dhriti adds, “Narcissistic men often employ a charming facade to butter up those who can assist them, making you feel like their closest ally and inspiring you to help them willingly. They may also resort to using blackmail when it serves their personal interests.”
Some covert narcissist traits males have include fantasies of power. Narcissists tend to harbor grandiose fantasies about achieving power, unlimited success, or physical appearance beyond what is realistic. These narcissistic behaviors can drive their relentless pursuit of admiration, recognition, and validation. They see themselves as high-status people in every way.
10. Arrogance is commonly found in self-obsessed men
Arrogance and a sense of superiority are common traits in a male narcissist. Narcissists tend to have a distorted sense of self-importance, so they demean orbelittle their partners and other people as well to bolster their own ego, viewing themselves as better or more important. This arrogance can create a hostile and unpleasant atmosphere in their personal dynamics.
Dhriti suggests, “Handling a narcissistic partner calls for a strategic approach.” Here are some tips from our expert:
Start by crafting a solid exit plan
Deprive them of emotional reactions, and you’ve taken away their power
Maintaining emotional distance in every way is key
Remember, the best defense is limited contact — Preserve your peace by minimizing interactions
Arrogance and self-obsession are common narcissistic behaviors in men
11. Difficulty handling criticism
A male narcissist typically has a poor tolerance for even the slightest criticism they receive, even when it is constructive. They may showcase narcissistic behavior by reacting with anger, defensiveness, or hostility when their actions or abilities are questioned. This difficulty in receiving feedback can hinder personal growth and the resolution of conflicts.
12. Devaluation of others
This is one of the most common traits of narcissistic individuals. Their sense of self-importance cannot not be touched but they can freely play with the emotions of others. Male narcissists tend to initially idealize someone, placing them on a pedestal, but later devalue them when their perceived flaws become apparent. This pattern can be emotionally exhausting for those in their orbit, as they never know when they will be praised or criticized.
13. Competitiveness and envy are male narcissistic tendencies too
Competitiveness is one of the major signs of a narcissist man. They may engage in unhealthy competition with others and express envy when others achieve unlimited success or recognition. They may perceive any accomplishment by others as a threat to their own self-esteem, making it challenging for others to enjoy their achievements without facing resentment or competitiveness.
Key Pointers
A narcissistic man is someone who is preoccupied with his own needs, desires, and self-image, unaware of others’ feelings and well-being. These traits of self-centeredness frequently lead to a lack of empathy
Signs of a narcissist man include an excessive need for attention, exaggerated sense of self-importance, exploitative behavior, and difficulty maintaining long-term relationships
Narcissistic men typically exhibit traits such as grandiosity and a fragile self-esteem, at the same time
Because of their self-centeredness and emotional manipulation, relationships with narcissistic men can be difficult. Partners are frequently trapped in one-sided dynamics, leaving them emotionally drained, harmed, and invalidated
It’s important to note that narcissism exists on a spectrum, and not every individual displaying narcissistic tendencies will have Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Understanding the nature of narcissism is the first step in effectively managing these relationships, whether through setting emotional boundaries, seeking therapy, or making informed decisions about how to engage with such individuals while safeguarding your own emotional well-being. Recognizing these characteristics in a male narcissist, such as an exaggerated sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of concern, can be a valuable tool in protecting oneself from emotional manipulation.
It is critical to remember that narcissism is a spectrum disorder, and not all people who exhibit these traits have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Addressing the narcissism of a partner can help encourage personal growth and change, especially in those who are unaware of the impact their behavior has on others.
Being cheated on by a romantic partner is one of the most devastating experiences anyone can go through. The subsequent feelings of hurt, humiliation, sorrow, anger, and disbelief can be overwhelming. To work through these emotions, it can help to write them down in a letter or a text. You can either send a painful message to a cheating boyfriend or just use the exercise as an opportunity to vent.
Sometimes, the best therapy is accepting and acknowledging your feelings and giving them the necessary space. Recovery from cheating and a breakup is a long, tumultuous process, so be patient and treat yourself with the patience and compassion you require to move on. Reading a quote about a cheating boyfriend or sending a painful message to a cheating boyfriend can help you feel heard and not so alone. There is power in the written word, and we are here to help you find your voice and heal in the process.
What To Say To A Cheating Boyfriend? 50 Examples To Put Your Pain In Words
We are here to help during this difficult time with what to say to your boyfriend when he cheats on you. You can use these as a message to a cheating boyfriend as a guide on what to write and get those hurtful feelings off your chest.
Short, painful messages to a cheating boyfriend
When you list what to say to a cheating boyfriend, remember that the more succinct and direct, the greater the impact. Some ideal things to say to a cheating boyfriend could be:
1. Even though I gave you all of my heart, you still betrayed me. I sincerely hope you one day understand how much pain you have put me through
2. I thought we were forever, but our relationship was only a temporary happiness for you. A real man would value what he has
3. You didn’t just cheat on me — you cheated on us. You broke my heart, and you destroyed our future
4. No more heartbreaking messages. Even my tears have dried up. I would rather face the future alone than with a man who doesn’t value me
You got greedy and wanted it all, but now you have nothing. How does it feel to feel betrayed for a change?
Don’t think you were a hot stud for cheating on me for so long. You are the worst boyfriend, and I wish I never met you
When a girl asks for loyalty and trust, only a weak man would not fulfill her wishes and give her what she wants
You broke my heart in a million pieces, and I feel betrayed and lonely. I am a good person who can only take so much pain. Please let me go
Sometimes the people you love the most are the ones who treat you the worst. People cheat when they don’t understand what they can stand to lose
Once a glass breaks, it cannot be repaired. There is always the crack. Same with my heart. It will never be the same again
When you send such a breakup message to a cheating boyfriend, it brings to the fore what he is giving up without allowing for too many excuses and explanations. Protect your dignity and learn instead how to punish a cheating boyfriend emotionally.
“You got greedy and wanted it all, but now you have nothing. How does it feel to feel betrayed for a change?”
Savage quotes for a cheating boyfriend
If you want to know what to say to your boyfriend when he cheats on you to make him feel bad, use any of the following quotes to get your message across in no uncertain terms. You are angry, and you want him to know it!
The only woman I can still trust is Karma — she won’t disappoint me
I am too good for a toxic person like you. I will let karma take care of you
When a woman steals your man, there is no better revenge than letting her keep him
I would rather be single than be with a cheater. So goodbye and all the best
One day, when things go wrong for you — and they will — you will realize what you gave up when you gave up on me
All the evidence and red flags, and I still chose to trust you. I refuse to make the same mistake again. You have lost a good woman today
A piece of advice — next time you cheat, remember — you gotta delete those text messages or pay the price
Lucky me! I found out about your multiple love interests just in time. I value my own self-esteem too much to give up any emotional power to a liar like you
I hope you meet someone who is just like you. A cheat. A liar. A person who doesn’t accept responsibility for their actions. This is my wish for you
Thank you for making it easier for me to leave you. Goodbye, your ex-girlfriend
We say, choose an apt quote about a cheating boyfriend to really open his eyes to his lying, devious ways. It’s time to put on the gloves and fight for your dignity!
Goodbye messages to a cheating boyfriend
If the anger has been spent and all that is left is hurt and disbelief, it can help to gain closure. A final goodbye to someone you love can be more effective than a long, painful message to a cheating boyfriend.
I sincerely hope you find what you are looking for, and when you do, I hope you finally value what you have
You promised me you would never cheat, and then you went and broke that sacred bond. You went from being a person I trusted to a despicable person
No more crying. No more promises. You are on your own now. I am no longer interested in saving you from yourself
I refuse to be part of this constant drama. Stop playing these mind games and act like a real man for once
A real man would never have betrayed me the way you did. You are the coldest person, and I deserve better
All the promises in the world cannot save our relationship. So, goodbye — the fairytale is over
Even if this hate disappears, I will never forget how small you made me feel with your lying, cheating ways
I don’t want to be your lover. I don’t want to be your friend. I want nothing more to do with you. My well-being is more important than your greedy ways
I loved you more than I loved myself, so I let things go so wrong. I have learned my lesson — I hope you have learned yours
My heart is too tired to love you anymore
These heartfelt messages can help guide you on how to punish a cheating boyfriend emotionally. Sometimes, just being so honest and vulnerable may help him see what he’s giving up on. And even if he persists with the infidelity, at least you were being truthful through it all.
Powerful messages for a lying boyfriend
What to say to a cheating boyfriend to make him feel bad? We got you. Here are 10 powerful and painful messages to a cheating boyfriend that will show him what you think of his devious, cowardly behavior!
Cheating never ‘just happens.’ You choose to cheat and don’t deserve anyone who treats you with love and respect
I hope your new lady friend is prepared for the tears that will come when you cheat on her, too
I have no regrets about meeting you. I have no regrets in loving you. I am a good woman who has learned her lesson and will now only look for a real man and not a loser who doesn’t value what he has
Good luck in finding what you are looking for. As for me, I am ready to start dating again and find myself a real man who will never value temporary happiness over a lifetime of love
I don’t just want you to feel guilty. I don’t need cheating boyfriend regret. I want your life to be destroyed like you destroyed mine. This hate feels satisfying, and I welcome it after all the tears
Did you honestly think I wouldn’t find out about your cheating? The truth always comes out. Remember that the next time, you hide your text messages and sneak behind a good woman
Never push a good woman to the point where she no longer cares
Most people cheat when they pay more attention to what they don’t have than what’s in front of them
I don’t know what’s worse — your lies or you thinking I will believe them
If you had to choose a quote about cheating boyfriend, this selection is sure to hit where it hurts. There’s no shame in looking for help when you are lost for words and mired in your sadness. Remember, countless people have gone through heartbreak before you and it is possible to make it through. Happiness is waiting — it will just take some time, we promise.
High on the list of things to say to a cheating boyfriend are these 10 hurtful messages that get to the crux of the matter — how he made you feel and what he has lost. Don’t hold back on your anger and disgust — you don’t owe the cheat any kindness.
“Never push a good woman to the point where she no longer cares”
I love it when a lying man gets a taste of his own medicine. The universe works in wonderful ways, doesn’t it?
People cheat. But when a boyfriend cheats, he will never be able to escape the consequences of his actions. Be prepared for what is to come
Cheaters are cowards. A loyal person is not afraid to be honest with his partner. A simple breakup would have been easier to deal with than this passing illusion of happiness. I hope you learn your lesson
You continue to hurt yourself and everyone around you every time you cheat
Thank you for being part of the story I use to warn others
Breakups are hard, and breakups because of infidelity are harder to cope with. Dealing with feelings of hurt, disbelief, and rage can overpower you and leave you helpless. Often, writing a breakup message to a cheating boyfriend can help work through these overwhelming emotions. Choosing from this collection of painful messages to a cheating boyfriend could help verbalize your thoughts and feelings and move on to healing.
If you are cheated on, the natural urge is to ask yourself, how could this happen to me? You tend to examine your past with a fine-tooth comb and review conversations and incidents that could have given you a hint about what your partner was up to. But the reality of the situation is that he cheated and got caught.
Now, the ball is in your court, and you get to decide how to move on. And no matter whether you opt to stay on in your relationship and work things out or break up and leave, healing is a must. We hope you find these guidelines useful in exploring your feelings, venting your emotions, and letting go. Remember, it’s not you, it’s him!
“Am I overthinking or is he losing interest?” “Is he being distant or am I overthinking the situation?” If these questions are weighing on your mind, chances are you’re still not confident that the guy you’re with is into you or not. One of the incredible challenges of navigating the complex dance of human relationships is wondering if someone has lost interest or if we are just overanalyzing the situation.
This happens when your significant other or romantic interest is not consistent in their behavior toward you. One day everything is cool, and the next day your guy suddenly distances himself. And you begin to wonder if it’s just a phase or if the spark is beginning to die. When you’re in a situation like this, insights into the implications of your partner’s behavior can help put your mind at ease.
That’s exactly what we’re here to offer. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or the middle of a budding romance, this detailed rundown on signs he’s losing interest and signs you’re overthinking the situation will be a valuable tool for navigating the whirlwind of emotions you may be experiencing and determining whether it’s time for a heartfelt or just momentary talk for your mind to adjust the overactive gears.
Is He Being Distant Or Am I Overthinking? 9 Signs You’re Overthinking
Wondering, “Is he losing interest or just busy?” It’s not uncommon for doubts and insecurities to creep into an intimate relationship, causing us to wonder if our partner is indeed distant or if we’re just overestimating the situation, triggering unnecessary anxiety. So, before concentrating all your energies on figuring out how to know if he’s losing interest, pay attention to these 9 common signs that indicate you may be overthinking and overanalyzing the situation:
Is he being distant or am I overthinking? Whenever you find yourself wrestling with this dilemma, take a step back and look for signs a man is going through something. Maybe that’s why he’s being a bit distant. Just jumping to conclusions can lead to misunderstandings and strained relationships.
For example, interpreting a delayed response to a text message as a sure sign of dissatisfaction without considering other factors may indicate overthinking. It is important to give your partner the benefit of the doubt and practice open communication to clarify any concerns.
2. Fixating on minor details
Still asking yourself, “Am I overthinking or is he losing interest?” Overthinkers exaggerate the importance of details or statements, making small things seem more important or painful than they really are. This behavior can fuel conflict and damage relationships.
For example, focusing on something your partner said during an argument can cause unnecessary stress. To prevent this tendency, learn to distinguish between the unnecessary and the important.
3. Comparison of past relationships
Do you often compare your current relationship with your past? If yes, then it could be a sign that you’re constantly overthinking. Comparison is the thief of joy. Don’t go around looking for signs he’s no longer in love with you. Drawing from past experiences is natural, but having regular thoughts about it is a clear indication that it’s all in your head.
4. Always seeking reassurance
While it’s normal to seek reassurance from time to time in the early stages of a relationship, needing it all the time can mean you’re prone to overthink things. If you find yourself asking for reassurance every now and then, then there’s a good chance that you’re overthinking about your relationship and may be spotting signs he’s losing interest when there are none.
Healthy relationships thrive on mutual trust and understanding, so it’s important to work toward building this foundation rather than spending your time agonizing over questions like, “Is he losing interest?”
5. Making assumptions about your partner’s thoughts
Assuming you know your partner’s thoughts and feelings without having an honest conversation about your concerns is a common pitfall of overthinking things. Trying to figure out what others are thinking is a common overthinking behavior.
If your overthinking mind is already trying to figure out how to know if he’s losing interest, chances are you may start interpreting even the most innocuous things as an indicator that he’s losing interest in you and your relationship is probably over. This tendency is frequently motivated by a desire to know or control how others perceive us, or to predict their reactions.
If you are making insane assumptions about your partner, you are probably overthinking
6. Infinite “what ifs”
“Is he being distant or am I overthinking my interactions with him?” Yes, maybe you are. What if he leaves me? What if we break up soon? What if he is not the one? Constantly asking these questions to yourself is a clear sign of overthinking in a relationship and coming up with worst-case scenarios. You are clearly dealing with uncertainty in your relationship. These thoughts can have a significant impact on your emotional well-being and the dynamics of your relationship if they become a recurring pattern.
7. Extreme text analysis
Do you find yourself reading too much into messages instead of opting for direct, face-to-face conversations to clarify thoughts and feelings? Scouring text messages or online communications for hidden meanings is a common sign of overthinking. Written communication lacks tone and context, and is therefore prone to misinterpretation. It can be challenging to pinpoint signs he lost interest over text.
Are you ignoring all the positive aspects of your relationship because of a couple of hiccups lately? Has this led you to wonder, “Am I overthinking or is he losing interest?” Well, there is a good chance you’re overthinking the situation. Overthinking can create a negative outlook, causing you to focus only on the negative aspects of your relationship while ignoring the positive aspects of love and connection with your partner.
9. Physical symptoms of stress
Has the thought, “Is he losing interest or just busy?”, left you reeling under stress and anxiety? If you find yourself being very anxious, having muscle tensions and even suffering from sleep depravity, all because of worrying about your relationship, then you’re overthinking the dynamics of your relationship way too much. Take a deep breath and relax. These physical signs act as a red flag that your mind is overworked.
What To Do If You’re Overthinking In A Relationship
When people overthink in a relationship, it can lead to unnecessary stress, misunderstanding, and strain on the connection with their partner. Fortunately, there are constructive steps one can take to address and mitigate this issue. These steps will help you explore helpful strategies for overthinking in your relationship, read on!
Acknowledgment: The first step to overcoming overthinking is to acknowledge its existence. Self-awareness is important. Reflect on your thoughts and actions to recognize when and how you are overthinking in your relationships
Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness involves being present in the moment and observing your thoughts without thinking. When you find your mind racing with worries or intrusive thoughts, take a deep breath, immerse yourself in the moment, and stop imagining things. This will help you stay focused and avoid overthinking
Clear and honest communication: Instead of dwelling on thoughts like how to know if he’s losing interest or what the signs he’s losing interest over text or in real life are, have an open and honest conversation with your partner. Talk things out, talk about your problems, feelings, and uncertainties. Clear communication can provide clarity, remove doubt, and strengthen your communication
Set boundaries for self-care: Set boundaries to prioritize self-care and mental well-being. This may require setting aside time for relaxation, a hobby, or an activity that helps with your grief. Self-care not only improves your emotional health but also reduces overwhelming mental chaos
Turn your attention to your thoughts: If you catch yourself overthinking, divert your mental energy to productive activities. Engaging in hobbies, exercise, or work-related activities can help distract you from any anxious thoughts, and push you to make more positive effort for yourself
Focus on the present: “Am I overthinking or is he losing interest?” If you find yourself asking this question often, know that thinking about past mistakes or worrying about an uncertain future can trigger overthinking. Instead, focus on the present moment. Embrace the experiences and joys you share with your partner in the here and now, rather than being consumed by fantasy situations
Be grateful: Have a sense of appreciation for your relationship and the good things in your life. Acknowledge and appreciate the qualities you look for in your partner regularly. A grateful attitude can prevent overthinking by emphasizing the positives
Accept imperfection: Don’t stress about the other women in his life. Remember, no relationship is flawless, and imperfection is natural in human relationships. Accept that you and your partner have strengths and weaknesses
There are certain signs to keep in mind when a partner loses interest in the relationship. Signs he is no longer interested in you may include decreased communication, emotional distance, and a lack of affection.
Early detection of these signs allows you to better navigate your relationship, giving you the chance to address issues, reignite the spark, or make decisions that are more in line with your emotional well-being. Read on if you’ve been wondering, “Am I overthinking or is he losing interest?”
If these are true, he might be losing interest
1. Communication is rare
One prominent sign of decreased interest is a significant decrease in communication. If your partner used to text, make phone calls, or message you frequently but now rarely initiates or responds to communication, it could be a sign that he is no longer emotionally investing in the relationship.
Similarly, paying attention to his texting habits and communication patterns can help you identify the signs he lost interest over text. Some are listed below:
Slow response times: If he used to reply right away but suddenly takes a while now, it can indicate a drop in interest
Brief texts: If his texts are brief, it may be a sign that he is losing interest in the conversation
No initiation: If he stops posing questions or rarely introduces new subjects, it can indicate that they are less interested in having a conversation with you
Boyfriend doesn’t initiate plans anymore? Has he started to cancel plans with you? Lack of quality time together can be one of the telltale signs of losing interest in a relationship. If he frequently cancels plans, avoids future commitments, keeps making excuses, or seems unhappy in your company, it means he is no longer excited about the relationship.
3. Emotional distance
Emotional intimacy is the stepping stone to a healthy relationship. If he no longer pays attention to you emotionally, stops sharing his thoughts and feelings, or seems unconcerned about your emotional well-being, this could indicate a lack of interest in the relationship.
4. Changes in communication style
If you’ve been trying to figure out how to know if he’s losing interest, watch for any changes in communication style. If he used to be open and expressive but now evades or avoids talking about the future of the relationship, it could be a sign that he is not as invested as he used to be.
A simple, intimate eye contact goes a long way. Lack of physical intimacy or affection, such as hugging, kissing, or holding hands, can indicate a lack of emotional connection. If he was previously in love and is now withdrawn, this could indicate that he is not genuinely interested and is avoiding physical contact.
6. Being less involved in your life
Lack of involvement is one of the major signs of losing interest in a relationship. When someone loses interest, they are less involved in your life. If you feel like your partner no longer knows what’s going on in your life and your mind, it could mean that he quietly taking a step back and the relationship is falling apart.
7. Increased anger or frustration
Thinking about how to know if he’s losing interest? One of the most obvious signs he is losing interest is when he is moody and angry all the time for no apparent reason. A dissatisfied partner can easily become angry or frustrated with you. Minor disputes that were previously resolved amicably can escalate into more significant conflicts. This can bring you to a point where all you do is fight, bicker, and argue. These are all telltale indicators that the way your partner feels about you has changed.
If he not only does not initiate contact and dodges questions about his lack of availability but also chooses to prioritize other activities, friends, or other commitments over spending time with you, it could be a sign that no longer he values the relationship as much as he used to.
9. Avoiding planning for the future
No longer making plans for the long haul? Avoiding planning for the future or discussing long-term goals together is one of the most obvious signs the spark is gone. Often, a partner who is invested in the relationship will want to make plans for the future and include you in those plans.
What To Do When He Is No Longer Interested In You
Wondering about what to do when he is no longer interested? The pain of realizing that someone you care about so much doesn’t like you can be an emotionally taxing experience. This is when it feels like your world is falling apart, leaving you with outpourings of emotion and deep denial. Whether you were in a long-term relationship or dating in the beginning, feeling unwanted or unwanted can be incredibly painful. Here are some tips to help you:
Process emotions: Allow yourself to feel your own emotions. It’s entirely normal to feel hurt, confused, and even angry when you realize your partner is losing interest
Avoid making assumptions: “Am I overthinking or is he losing interest?”, you may ask yourself often. While it may seem obvious that your partner is losing interest, it’s crucial to avoid jumping to conclusions without discussing the situation with him
Active listening: Allowing your partner to share their perspective and feelings without interruption is vital for making sense of the situation. Keep your ears open, maintain eye contact, and let them speak their heart out to you
Seek clarity: During the conversation, seek clarity on why your partner is losing interest. Avoid becoming defensive or argumentative. The goal is to gain a better idea of what is going on
Evaluate the relationship: Take time to reflect on the overall health of the relationship. Consider whether it has met your needs and whether it has been mutually supportive and respectful. After all, there’s a difference between busy and not interested
Respect their decision: If your partner confirms their disinterest and expresses a desire to end the relationship, it’s essential to respect their decision, even if it’s painful. Avoid trying to convince him to stay or begging for love
Self-care and support: Don’t just start dating right away, prioritize self-care during this challenging time. Engage in activities that bring you comfort and joy, whether it’s spending time with friends and family, practicing a hobby, or engaging in relaxation techniques. Seek emotional support from a trusted best friend or consider speaking with a therapist or counselor to help you navigate your emotions
Time and healing: Spend time alone. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to grieve. It’s normal to have a waking moment of sadness, anger, or confusion but these feelings will gradually subside with time
Future reflection: Be cautious about rushing into a new committed relationship until you feel emotionally ready. Take time to focus on your personal growth and well-being
Closure and Moving Forward: Still confused about what to do when he is no longer interested? Seek closure and try to be on the same page with your partner, whether through a final conversation with your ex-partner or through personal reflection and acceptance. Eventually, when you’re ready, open yourself to the possibility of a new, deeper relationship
Key Pointers
Comprehending complicated emotions and vulnerabilities in relationships can be difficult, leaving you wondering whether your partner is losing interest or you’re reading too much into the situation
If you’re jumping to conclusions, fixating on minor details, or making assumptions, chances are you’re simply overthinking things
However, if your partner acts distant, does not want to engage with you, and you feel like you’re no longer in sync, it could mean they’re, in fact, losing interest
In either situation, practicing self-care, focusing on your own emotions, and seeking the right help and support can help you deal with reality more effectively
We hope these 18 signs have offered you clarity and an answer to “Am I overthinking or is he losing interest?” If you’re overthinking things, inculcating self-awareness can go a long way in preventing you from ruining a perfectly good relationship on account of your latent fears and insecurities. On the other hand, if your partner is, in fact, losing interest, focusing on self-discovery, self-care, and healing is the best way of dealing with this painful experience.
