Category: Family & Parenting

Do you sometimes say “yes” to avoid your child’s negative reaction? You’re definitely not alone! None of us wants to upset our kids, and when faced with that option, we tend to second guess our boundaries: Should I keep playing this game even though I’m busy, tired, or not in the mood? This week, Janet explores the reasons we doubt ourselves, particularly when it comes to personal boundaries, how to overcome our hesitancy, and why our kids really need us to.  

 

Transcript of “We Don’t Like Upsetting Our Kids”

Hi, this is Janet Lansbury. Welcome to Unruffled.

I love this topic I’m going to get into today because it very much relates to my personal struggles as a parent and the perspective shift that I needed to eventually work on to be able to overcome them and why that mattered. It’s the difficulty that many of us have with setting a boundary that our child resists or gets upset about. With my people-pleasing tendencies, this has been a big one for me. And while I can’t say that I’m completely cured of this, I’ve come a very long way, and I’m going to share how I’ve done that.

First, here’s an exchange with a parent who I very much relate to and appreciate. We had this exchange in Instagram messages, actually. Which I’m unfortunately not always able to respond to, but in this case, the timing worked out for me and I got on the hook. Here’s the first message I got:

Hi, Janet. I hope you’re well. I was wondering if you could help. At parents’ evening, I was told that my daughter (who started school six months ago) is emotionally dysregulated, that she cries over small things such as not being able to finish her work for the next activity or wanting to explain her ideas during focus time when she should be writing.

At home she is not displaying this. We have always let her let out her feelings, and she has become good at doing this. I usually have been calm and held her emotions. I have struggled with boundaries. Not the usual ones, such as lifestyle expectations, crossing the road safely. These are all fine. It’s been the boundary of demand that she puts on me, such as wanting me to play characters for extended amounts of time, so much that I had to say no characters at the dinner table or out of the house. And when she’s tired, she’s been controlling and wanted things a certain way. At times, I’ve adhered to that controlling behavior.

I wrote back:

This reflection you’re doing about boundaries may be the key. Why do you think it is that you cave to her demands? What do you fear about disappointing her in those situations?

And she wrote back:

Thanks, Janet. That’s a great question. Two things which I’ve never put into words before: When I cave into those demands, it’s not always obvious to me. Especially with playing characters, it’s how we entertained ourselves in the pandemic. I might get a sense of irritation, like, She’s asking too much, but I’m not always aware enough to see it for what it is, which is her calling out for a boundary, I guess. I think I’m a people-pleaser and avoid conflict. I think I fear hurting her feelings? I can happily say no to buying her things in a shop, though. Also, I don’t always feel I have the capacity to deal with the fallout when caring for her one-year-old sister.

Funnily enough, today she wanted to play characters before we entered the house. I said, “No, that’s the rule, no characters outside.” She didn’t want to come in, so I gently picked her up and took her inside. That went well. She had a little cry, but it felt like the right decision not to cave in. I think it reassured her. Where I struggle is the alarm bell that tells me that a boundary is needed now. I don’t always hear it, or if I do, I’m good at ignoring it.

So I wrote back:

Well explained! Yes, it sounds like you aren’t accustomed to sticking up for yourself with loved ones if you fear it might upset them and they might reject you. If that rings true, I can totally relate. And I would try to consider this an important step to figure out in your journey, gradually. Maybe consider what it’s like to have someone play with you or do anything that they’re not really into. It’s not a great, clear feeling, right? It’s not satisfying or truly enjoyable.

And she said:

Yes, it’s the rejection. I think I was probably brought up with conditional love, which is why it’s been so refreshing to allow my daughter all her feelings and so helpful to have you out there guiding parents through this different way. But I’ve never reflected about it so specifically like this, Janet. Never been brave enough to have the conversation. When you write about it like this, I can see how healthy it is to try to get those boundaries in because they matter to my daughter and will benefit her more in the long run, and even the short run. Thank you so much for sharing that with me. I think my goals are: Have a sheet up on the wall at home, a script for me to say if she’s being particular and what to look out for. Set a limit for character play. If I know the parameters, it will mean I can implement them. So I’ve set myself homework.

And I said:

Sounds great. And keep in mind that any amount of character play is not your job. It’s not our job to entertain our kids and, as you’ve noticed, it can create a kind of dependency. Also, without us meaning to, our ideas tend to take over our child’s, so they’re not getting the opportunity to freely and thoroughly explore their own imagination. I’m only sharing this to hopefully encourage you to give yourself permission to say a loving no. And you don’t need perfect words, just conviction in yourself as a fair and loving leader who isn’t afraid of your girl. We are teaching kids how to get along with others and how to take care of ourselves and emotional intelligence. When we’re honest about our feelings and say no when we feel no, it’s far from selfish. It’s heroic, truly.

And she wrote back:

Oh, that’s interesting. The character play is very much led by her. It’s almost in the realm of drama therapy, where I feel that her fears and feelings come out. However I agree that a sort of dependency is occurring and it hadn’t occurred to me that this type of play wasn’t really what she needed. In the past couple of days, I’ve already been saying no more and it feels good. I’m working towards reducing it down to once a day—which might sound a lot, still, it’s progress for us. I’ve just been reading your article How Our Boundaries Free Children to Play, Create, and Explore, and it’s sort of blown my mind a little bit. My daughter also enjoys the laptop. She’s not on it every day, but what will she be freed up to do if I say no to characters and no, sometimes, to laptop? It’ll be nice to see what’s inside of her, not just what she does when she’s stuck.

And I’ll just add that that article she refers to, How Our Boundaries Free Children to Play, Create, and Explore, that’s actually a transcript from another podcast episode. And it is about how these boundaries that we can perceive as negative in some way are actually so freeing for our children.

So then I wrote back to her and asked if I could please use this exchange in a podcast. And several days later she wrote back and said:

Yes, of course, especially if it can help other parents or carers who’ve been stuck in a similar cycle. Two days ago I said no characters, and we did none all day, and there wasn’t the major fallout I’d imagined. She was tearful and cross a couple of times and tried to encourage me in, but I explained that it was too much for her to be in control and that I’m her mummy. So she can just relax and play now.

It has been like the scales have fallen from my eyes. My daughter looks different to me somehow. I think because the power balance has shifted, she seems younger and calmer. I was told that she was often tearful at school and I saw her being particular at home, wanting things a certain way. It was giving me concerns. My daughter is five, and I was worried that I’d messed things up and it was too late, that the path was set. I knew something wasn’t right, but I didn’t have a clue about what needed to change. It took some reflection with your support and the courage and understanding to make the change. It’s a hard thing for me to accept that I was the problem, as I see my errors as a rejection as opposed to being part and parcel of being a human.

Boundaries are so clear to me when they’re physical things like brushing teeth, it’s not okay to hit, cross the road safely, but this boundary was an emotional one and I just couldn’t see it. I can’t thank you enough. The impact of our conversation will last long into the future, and this girl has a more confident mummy now, and she can go back to being little again. Thank you.

Wow, thank you to this mummy and she really articulates her whole process so beautifully. I can’t say how much I appreciate this.

I want to touch a little more on what gets in our way. Often it’s old feelings, worries, fears that we’ll get rejected if we assert ourselves too much. Maybe we felt that significant others’ feelings were our fault and that our behavior—meaning us, in the way a child thinks of that. When we scold a child for being bad, they take this as that they are bad. So as the child, we might believe that we’re making people feel a certain way, and that’s scary and guilt-inducing, and we have to be careful, right? Whenever we’re stuck and concerned and it feels like maybe there’s a cycle that’s continuing that we don’t know how to stop, looking into our feelings around boundaries is often the key.

And here’s another parent who wrote a comment on a post that I put up on Instagram about being stern and how setting boundaries with confidence is not the same as sternness. Sternness doesn’t really project confidence. It’s overkill. If we think about the feelings behind when we’re stern, we’re usually not feeling on top of it but under it. So we force it a bit. And that’s why it doesn’t work as well as really projecting confidence as a leader. Children are sensing what we’re feeling, that we’re not comfortable. So I put up a post about that and this wonderful parent who often comments on my posts, and I love that, she wrote:

This is something I’ve been having to work on. And in most situations, it honestly feels uncomfortable to me to set boundaries. I overthink the perfect words and then get so confused about what to say or do whenever I know my child is stuck and needs my help.

And I replied:

Great that you’re getting to this. “It honestly feels uncomfortable to me to set boundaries.” That’s the key right there—exploring why you are so uncomfortable, what you’re afraid will happen, what you might lose by upsetting your child and sticking up for yourself. Figuring that out and making peace with it is the answer. Realizing that our children need us to walk through those fears for them. This is far from selfish. I would dig deep on this with yourself, ideally with a counselor or therapist. Because the words we say matter very, very little. It’s all about how we feel when setting and holding the boundary. When we are stern, it usually means we’re uncomfortable or unsure of ourselves and trying to compensate. That’s why it doesn’t work as well.

This parent, as I said, often leaves comments and they are very focused on words. So I felt like this was such a gift that she’s gotten to this place of recognizing that really she could say any perfect word in the world and her child would still sense her discomfort, because it’s there.

Of course, none of us want to upset our children. We never want to upset them, right? But here’s what helped me, focusing on these things that I do want and that most of us do want.

One, we do want to teach them about self-care and boundaries in relationships. This is the most profound way that they learn that: through their relationship with us and our self-care and boundaries. So it’s not just respecting their personal boundaries that teaches them that, not handing them over to the adult who wishes to hug them, but it’s ours also that instill this.

Two, we do want them to succeed with peers and other adults, to be liked. Because they know how to respect and not overstep other people’s boundaries. We’re teaching them that.

Three, we do want to avoid unwittingly adultifying our kids. Giving them unsettling responsibility and power over us, making them responsible for choices that are really ours to make. So I don’t mean this to the extent of adultifying a child that’s seriously harmful or abusive. That happens, but that’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about our children deserving the freedom and the messy emotional fluidity of childhood. And when we’re tentative around that, their feelings, and maybe afraid of them, it interferes with that. As that first parent shared about her daughter, she said, “My daughter looks different to me somehow. I think because the power balance has shifted, she seems younger and calmer.” That’s big, right? And don’t we all want that for our children? The way to get there isn’t always what we think. It’s doing this hard thing. Standing up for ourselves, being personally honest with them. And not loving it when they’re upset, but not fearing that either. Facing that music.

Four, we do want a free and clear, honest relationship, rather than one where there’s resentment or annoyance on our end. That means sticking up for ourselves, not giving into demands that we aren’t really into.

Five, we do want emotional health and resiliency for our kids. They need to vent these emotional roller coasters they’re often riding, particularly in the early years and in adolescence. Getting upset about our reasonable, honest boundaries is the organic, therapeutic way children do that. And they learn that the feelings are normal and healthy and that they pass and then they feel better. And that starts with us knowing that and showing them that, because that’s what we believe. And these feelings are not really about their need for us to play characters or do that specific thing. It’s a bigger theme that they’re expressing. Reminding ourselves of that is how we’ll be able to do this.

And knowing that this is a priceless message that we can give our kids that will help them function in their world. They’ll know that they won’t always get things their way and that they can be disappointed for a time, but soon they’re going to feel better. And they can live with it. It’s not a scary, strange, overwhelming situation for them. It’s life. Sometimes things go my way, sometimes they don’t. And I can handle both. I prefer them going my way, but I’m not tied to that, because I know I can make it through the other situation as well.

And the last point, we do want the profound bonding effects of welcoming our children to share uncomfortable emotions. You’ve heard me talk about that a lot, and many of you have experienced it and you’ve shared that with me. The safety we can provide another person by accepting and allowing them to feel however they do, even if we are the cause of their disappointment or their anger.

So for all those reasons—and there’s six there, and there’s probably more if I think about it—we might be encouraged to work on processing our own discomfort. Which can indeed be a lifelong, continuous process. But any step we can make towards that will make the day-to-day of our job as parents easier and set every relationship in our life in a more positive, authentic, trusting direction. We’re worthy.

And now I thought it might be helpful to share what’s actually a follow-up question that I received in regard to a podcast I did a few weeks ago, Coping With Your Child’s Possessiveness. Because this also relates to the idea of upsetting our children by setting limits. And sometimes it can cause us to be tentative, which doesn’t help our child as much as when we can proceed with confidence. Knowing that yes, they may get upset, but that can be a natural—and even I would say a healthy—reaction to our boundaries.

Here’s the message. It was on Facebook, actually, where I posted Coping With Your Child’s Possessiveness. And the parent said:

The day after listening to this podcast, my three-year-old got very upset about his new baby brother wearing the same diapers that he wears. My husband picked them out without thinking. He tried pulling it off of him. So I tried to remember what you said and replied, “Oh man, I know that’s so hard seeing him wear the same diapers. I can’t let you take those off him, though,” while as gently as I could trying to release his grip. I hope that was the right way of going about that.

I also know you said it’s okay to allow them to take a few toys, but if it seems they’re stuck to kindly stop them. However, what if it’s a teething item in the baby’s hand and they shout, “I want that! It’s mine!”?

And here’s what I responded:

Yes to this, well done!

Where she says, “‘Oh man, I know that’s so hard seeing him wear the same diapers. I can’t let you take those off of him, though,’ while as gently as I could trying to release his grip.”

I added:

You can be firm, though. With that wonderful empathizing you’re doing, removing his hand as easily as possible will come off as love and care. Too gentle can come off as tentative, which won’t be as helpful to him. And regarding the teether, no, I wouldn’t allow him to take that away from the baby. So do the same: acknowledge and firmly, kindly block or remove the teether from your older child’s hand.

So yes, sometimes we can feel, Aah, I want to do this so carefully, and that projects our own discomfort in a way, or our lack of conviction in what we’re doing. And it kind of prolongs the interaction for our child, instead of doing the kind thing and just taking it out of their hand. And again, that idea of empathizing is what makes this a loving interaction rather than an overly strict, harsh interaction.

For more about boundaries and our children’s feelings and responses, for more encouragement, more examples, more demonstrations, please take a look at my No Bad Kids Master Course, because I’m able to offer some video demonstrations, some of them are with children. Many people have told me that this has been a game-changer for them, so have a look. And my books (No Bad Kids and Elevating Child Care) of course are available on Amazon. We’ll put the links in the liner notes and in the transcript of this podcast. Thank you to these parents for allowing me to share their comments and our exchanges.

And please know: every one of us, we can do this.

Published: February 28, 2024 | Last Updated on: February 28, 2024
| by Hema

Greetings, fellow parents and caregivers! Today, I want to dive into a topic that often sparks curiosity and debate among us: sugarcane juice for babies. As we navigate the world of infant nutrition, it’s natural to wonder about the suitability of certain foods and beverages for our little ones. Sugarcane juice, with its sweet taste and refreshing qualities, is a beverage many of us enjoy. But when it comes to our babies, questions arise: Is it safe? Is it beneficial? Should we introduce it into their diets?

In this blog post, we’ll explore if we can offer sugarcane juice to babies, diving into the nutritional aspects, potential risks, and practical considerations. I’ll share insights from experts in pediatric nutrition and offer guidance based on research and recommendations from trusted sources.

But this isn’t just a one-sided conversation—I want to hear from you, too! Whether you’re a parent curious about sugarcane juice for your baby or you have firsthand experience to share, your input is invaluable. Together, let’s delve into this topic with an open mind and a commitment to making informed decisions about our babies’ health and well-being.

Health Benefits of Sugarcane Juice

While sugarcane juice is a tasty and refreshing beverage enjoyed by many, it’s essential to consider its suitability for babies with caution. While there are potential benefits, it’s crucial to be mindful of the risks and limitations, especially when introducing new foods or beverages to infants. Here are some potential health benefits of sugarcane juice for babies:

1. Hydration: It is primarily composed of water and can help keep babies hydrated, especially in hot weather or during periods of increased activity.
2. Source of Energy: The natural sugars present in this can provide a quick energy boost for babies, which may be beneficial during times of low energy or after physical activity.
3. Nutrient Content: It contains small amounts of essential nutrients such as calcium, iron, magnesium, and potassium, which can contribute to a baby’s overall nutrient intake. However, these amounts may be relatively low compared to other nutrient-rich foods.
4. Rich in Antioxidants: It contains antioxidants like flavonoids and phenolic compounds, which can help protect cells from damage caused by free radicals and oxidative stress.
5. Boosts Immunity: Some studies suggest that sugarcane juice may have immune-boosting properties due to its antioxidant content, potentially helping babies fight off infections and illnesses.
6. Improves Digestion: It contains natural enzymes that may aid in digestion, promoting better gut health for babies. However, excessive consumption may lead to digestive issues due to its high sugar content.
7. Potential for Electrolyte Balance: It contains electrolytes like potassium and sodium, which are essential for maintaining proper fluid balance in the body. This may be particularly beneficial for babies who are experiencing dehydration or electrolyte imbalances due to illness.

Despite these potential benefits, it’s crucial to exercise caution when offering sugarcane juice to babies. The high sugar content can be harmful, leading to tooth decay, spikes in blood sugar levels, and potential weight gain if consumed excessively. Additionally, this juice may be contaminated with bacteria or other pathogens if not prepared and stored properly, posing a risk of foodborne illness, especially in infants with weaker immune systems.

As with any new food or beverage, it’s essential to consult with a pediatrician before introducing sugarcane juice to your baby’s diet. They can provide personalized guidance based on your baby’s age, health status, and nutritional needs, ensuring their safety and well-being.

When and How to Introduce Sugarcane Juice for Babies

Introducing sugarcane juice to babies requires careful consideration and should be approached with caution due to its high sugar content. Here are some guidelines on when and how to introduce sugarcane juice for babies:

1. Age Consideration: Sugarcane juice is not recommended for infants under the age of 12 months. At this stage, babies’ digestive systems are still developing, and their kidneys may not be able to efficiently process the sugars found in sugarcane juice. It’s best to wait until after their first birthday to introduce sugarcane juice.
2. Start with Small Amounts: When introducing sugarcane juice, start with very small amounts to gauge your baby’s reaction. Offer just a teaspoon or two diluted with water and observe for any adverse effects such as diarrhea, stomach upset, or allergic reactions.
3. Dilute with Water: To reduce the concentration of sugar, always dilute sugarcane juice with water before offering it to your baby. Start with a 1:1 ratio of juice to water and adjust according to your baby’s taste preferences.
4. Limit Frequency and Quantity: Even diluted, sugarcane juice should be given in moderation to babies. Limit the frequency to occasional treats rather than daily consumption, and avoid offering large quantities in one sitting. Excessive sugar intake can lead to tooth decay, spikes in blood sugar levels, and potential weight gain.
5. Choose Fresh and Safe Sources: If you decide to offer sugarcane juice to your baby, ensure that it’s freshly prepared from clean, hygienic sources. Avoid purchasing bottled or packaged sugarcane juice, as these may contain additives, preservatives, or contaminants that are not suitable for infants.
6. Monitor for Reactions: After introducing sugarcane juice, monitor your baby closely for any adverse reactions. Pay attention to changes in bowel habits, behavior, or signs of discomfort. If you notice any negative effects, discontinue offering sugarcane juice and consult with your pediatrician.
7. Maintain Good Oral Hygiene: Sugarcane juice, like other sugary beverages, can increase the risk of tooth decay in babies. To minimize this risk, always offer sugarcane juice with a meal rather than allowing your baby to sip on it throughout the day. Afterward, ensure proper oral hygiene by gently wiping your baby’s gums and teeth with a clean, damp cloth or using a soft baby toothbrush.

Remember that while sugarcane juice may offer some potential health benefits, it should not replace breast milk or formula as the primary source of nutrition for babies. Always prioritize a balanced diet consisting of age-appropriate foods and consult with your pediatrician before introducing any new foods or beverages to your baby’s diet.

Recipe of Sugarcane Juice for Babies

Ingredients:

• 2-3 stalks of fresh sugarcane
• 1 cup of cold water
• 1 tablespoon of honey or maple syrup (optional)
• Juice of 1/2 lime or lemon
• Ice cubes
• Fresh mint leaves for garnish (optional)

Method

• Prepare the sugarcane by removing the tough outer layer to reveal the juicy inside. Cut it into small pieces.
• Use a juicer or blender to squeeze out the juice. If using a blender, blend the sugarcane with water until smooth, then strain the mixture to separate the juice from the pulp.
• Pour the sugarcane juice into a blender. Add cold water, honey or maple syrup (if you want), and lime or lemon juice.
• Put some ice cubes in the blender to make it slushy. Blend until smooth.
• Taste the slushie and adjust the sweetness or sourness by adding more honey, maple syrup, or lime/lemon juice if needed.
• Pour the slushie into glasses and add fresh mint leaves for extra flavor.
• Serve right away and enjoy your homemade sugarcane juice!

Note: Feel free to get creative with this recipe by adding other fruits such as strawberries, pineapple, or mango for added flavor and nutrition.

Frequently Asked Questions

Entering college is a big life transition with many new challenges and learning opportunities academically and personally. In my life, during transition or growth, I turn to books to help me. Most college students already have a hefty reading list for classes, so reading for pleasure is often put on the back burner. However, reading for pleasure in college can be rewarding and worth making time for.

This list includes fiction and nonfiction books, all of which have helped me, or I wish I had read before college.

I think college freshman should read these 10 books

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1. Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice from Dear Sugar by Cheryl Strayed

Genre: Non-Fiction

Cheryl Strayed is absolutely my favorite author, and this collection of essays is my favorite book of all time. Tiny Beautiful Things is a collection of responses to “Dear Sugar,” an advice column on “The Rumpus” blog that Strayed wrote for. Strayed gives advice drawing from her own life experiences and hardships.

Her advice comes from learned and lived experiences, and many of the essays center around feeling lost in your 20s or beginning college and living on your own. She speaks on reflecting on making mistakes, overcoming jealousy, or loving yourself.

The title essay “Tiny Beautiful Things” is advice “Sugar” would give her younger self. I have this piece framed in my room, and I read it frequently because I find it inspiring.

2. Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson

Genre: Non-Fiction

I read this book later in my college career, and I wish I had read it sooner because not giving a f*ck is not one of my strong suits. The book advocates for focusing on the things in life that matter and not wasting time and energy on being upset about silly things that do not matter.

Going into college, you are suddenly given a hundred things you “should” care about. It’s challenging to decide what to focus on because it is impossible to pay attention to everything. The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck teaches students how to live in a way that you can be in charge of what to “give a F*ck about and what to let go of, which is an invaluable tool.

3. To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee

Genre: Fiction

A literary classic published during the civil rights era is just as impactful today. Lee can capture racism, innocence, youth, and coming of age, making this book an essential read for anyone, especially young people entering a new era. The novel describes bursting the bubble of childhood innocence and learning about the world from the lens of being a young adult discovering the nuances of the world.

I first read this book in middle school and read it every couple of years because it is so impactful. As students are getting older and becoming more independent, in a world full of hate this novel works as sort of a guide and makes young adults feel that they are not alone in feeling conflicted, disheartened and overwhelmed.

4. Before the Coffee Gets Cold by Toshikazu Kawaguchi

Genre: Fiction

This book has a similar storyline to the popular trope in many books or movies; the idea that there are multiple timelines based on different choices we make in our lives. Before the Coffee Gets Cold is based on the idea that in this one coffee shop, at this particular table, you can go back in time to talk to someone in the past. There are a couple of caveats: the person must have gone to this coffee shop at some point, you may only speak to them, sitting in one particular chair and you can only speak to them during the time it takes for your coffee to get cold.

The book features different stories of people speaking to people from their pasts, for example, to see the daughter they never got to meet, to receive a letter from their husband whose memory is lost due to early onset Alzheimer’s, or to confront a man who has left them.

The book emphasizes the importance of living in the moment and not focusing on the past or what could have been, a crucial lesson going into a time in your life when it seems that everyone is focusing on the next steps.

5. Know My Name by Chanel Miller

Genre: Non-Fiction

 

This is one of my favorite books of all time, and I think Chanel Miller is one of the best writers I have ever read. While not necessarily uplifting, Know My Name is a memoir written by Miller, sharing her story of being assaulted by Stanford swimmer Brock Turner and her viral victim impact statement that was read at the hearing.

Miller’s New York Times bestselling book is inspiring and honest; it shares the familiar story of many women and sheds light on the feelings and complex process Miller went through to find her identity after her awful experience. It is beautifully written and a great story to read in the transition to college, finding yourself, and figuring out what you want your story to be.

6. Educated by Tara Westover

Genre: Non-Fiction

This book was required reading for my grade before I started my first year of college, and it was enlightening to read before beginning my journey into higher education. Westover writes about her fight to become “educated” and what that means.

Westover grew up in rural Idaho to a mother who was a midwife/healer and a father who made a living salvaging scrap metal. Westover’s father was very concerned about government interference, so as a result, he forbade his children from attending formal schooling, receiving formal medical care, and even obtaining birth certificates.

At 17, Westover moves to Utah to begin her college education and describes her transition from living remotely with only her close family to attending college. This New York Times bestselling book is an inspiring read pre-college because it emphasizes that everyone comes from a different place and we must be open-minded and non-judgmental. No one knows anyone else’s story.

7. Everything I Know About Love: A Memoir by Dolly Alderton

Genre: Non-Fiction

Dolly Alderton is a fabulous writer, and this book has become a global phenomenon. Everything I Know About Love is an ode to your twenties and figuring out love and who you are. Alderton recounts many failed attempts at love, what she has learned, and how she has grown. She discusses her love experiences through friendships and hilariously captures the experience of growing up, getting older, and navigating all kinds of unknowns and new life experiences.

This book is hilarious but also deeply moving and one of the most beautiful pieces of literature I have ever read. It has recently been turned into a TV series which I haven’t seen but have heard fantastic things about.

8. The People We Keep by Allison Larkin

Genre: Fiction

The People We Keep is a relatively new book set in Little River, New York, in 1994. It follows April Sawicki, a young adult living in a motorless motorhome. April fails out of school and lives in a town she never felt at home in. After an exceptional open mic night, April finds a life she believes can be hers.

Her journey references songs and music she has written; it is poetic and captures the experience of where you come from, which doesn’t automatically dictate who you will become. The People We Keep shows us we need to trust those who genuinely care about us and help us select the people we keep in times of change or growth; entering college is undoubtedly one of those times, making this book very inspiring for young adults.

9. How to Be a Person in the World by Heather Havrilesky

Genre: Non-Fiction

Based on the Ask Polly column in The Cut, Havrilesky’s advice in How to Be a Person in the World is perfect for young people entering college; she honors feelings that may seem frivolous, too complicated, or burdensome to others. Havrilesky discusses solving problems, having autonomy over your life, and building who you are.

Havrilesky’s tone is understanding, and she gives fantastic advice on how to truly transition into being a person in the world and making your own choices. She discusses topics that entering college first years frequently face.

10. A Secret History by Donna Tarte

Genre: Fiction

A Secret History is a classic book that college students read in student book clubs or school-sanctioned events to capture the experience of being a college student in America. While it may seem cliche, as many do, this cliche has some truth to it. The novel takes place in New England in 1992 and centers around five students in one classics class who murder their classmate Bunny.

It is narrated by a classmate Julian who is a member of this class, and the beauty of the book is how it inspires empathy for even the most unlikeable characters, something I find incredibly impressive when an author can accomplish this. It’s a dark academia-style story that also tells the awkward parts of college life that many can relate to, such as talking to strangers in bathrooms, stressing about plans, and balancing work and social life.

It is dystopian and dark, but it is written so well and with such complexity that I believe reading it before college would be very beneficial, especially in liberal arts colleges. The story is very well written, and Donna Tarte is a fabulous author.

All of these books were helpful to me as an undergrad. The transition from high school to college can be incredibly tough, and having advice from others or stories of those who have persevered can be comforting.

Books are magical, and I wholeheartedly believe they have helped guide me through my college years and the turmoil that comes with them.

Happy Reading!

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Whether your little ones are already fans of these mushroom recipes or you’re looking to introduce them to something new, this collection of 30+ kid-friendly mushroom recipes is designed to inspire. Mushrooms, with their earthy flavor and versatile texture, are a wonderful ingredient to incorporate into family meals. From sneaking mushrooms into familiar favorites to making them the star of the dish, you’ll find a variety of recipes that cater to different tastes and dietary needs. Each recipe is crafted with simplicity and nutrition in mind, ensuring that busy parents can prepare wholesome meals without too much fuss.

Health Benefits of Mushroom

• Source of Vitamin D: Some mushrooms, when exposed to sunlight, are high in Vitamin D, essential for bone health and immune system support.
• B Vitamins: Mushrooms are rich in B vitamins like riboflavin (B2), niacin (B3), and pantothenic acid (B5), crucial for energy production and red blood cell formation.
• Selenium: This antioxidant found in mushrooms supports the immune system and helps prevent cell and tissue damage.
• Potassium: Important for nerve function and muscle contraction, potassium in mushrooms also helps maintain healthy blood pressure levels.
• Fiber: Mushrooms contain dietary fiber, which aids digestion and promotes a healthy gut, contributing to overall well-being.
• Immune System Support: The antioxidants and other bioactive compounds in mushrooms can help strengthen the immune system.
• Anti-inflammatory Properties: Some compounds in mushrooms have anti-inflammatory benefits, which can support overall health.
• Supports Cognitive Function: Nutrients in mushrooms may contribute to cognitive health and support brain function.
• Heart Health: The fiber, potassium, and vitamin content in mushrooms can contribute to cardiovascular health by helping to regulate blood pressure and circulation.
• Versatile Ingredient: Easy to incorporate into a variety of dishes, mushrooms can help enhance the nutritional profile of a child’s diet without compromising taste, making them a practical and beneficial addition to meals.

30+ kid Friendly Mushroom Recipes

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Mushroom puree recipe from gourmandize, is a versatile and nutritious option that can be a great addition to your child’s diet. Rich in vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants, mushrooms offer numerous health benefits, including boosting the immune system and supporting healthy growth and development.

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Mushroom soup recipe from veg recipes of India, is a creamy, delicious meal that’s perfect for introducing kids to the wonderful world of mushrooms. With its smooth texture and comforting taste, it’s a kid-friendly dish that’s packed with nutrients essential for growing bodies

Mushroom Pepper Fry recipe from my food story, is a delicious and nutritious dish that can be a hit with kids, especially if you’re looking to introduce them to the rich flavors of spices while keeping their meals healthy and appealing.

Sauteed baby bella mushroom recipe from food with feeling, is a fantastic way to introduce kids to the rich and earthy flavors of mushrooms. Please avoid salt for babies below 1 year.

Spinach and Mushroom Egg Muffins recipe from blw for busy moms, is a delightful, nutritious, and fun way to incorporate veggies and protein into your child’s diet. These little bites of goodness combine the earthy flavor of mushrooms with the freshness of spinach, all held together with the wholesome goodness of eggs.

One pot creamy mushroom orzo recipe from the flavors of kitchen, is a wonderfully comforting and nutritious dish that’s perfect for kids and the whole family. This recipe combines the creamy texture of orzo pasta with the savory flavor of mushrooms, all cooked together in a single pot for ease and convenience.

Mushroom Omelette recipe from organix, is a fantastic way to start their day with a nutritious, protein-rich meal that also sneaks in some veggies. Mushrooms, with their mild flavor and soft texture, blend beautifully into the fluffy eggs, making this dish not only healthy but also kid-friendly.

Sauteed mushrooms recipe from golden bear mama, is a simple yet delicious dish that can be a great way to introduce kids to the earthy flavors of mushrooms, making them a versatile side dish.

Mushroom Potato Puree recipe from firstcry, is a wonderfully smooth and creamy dish that combines the earthy flavors of mushrooms with the comforting taste of potatoes. This puree can be a nutritious and delicious option for kids, offering them the goodness of vegetables in a form that’s easy to eat and digest.

Mushroom, Zucchini, and Sweet Potato Puree recipe from buona pappa, is a nutritious and vibrant dish perfect for kids, especially as a way to introduce them to a variety of vegetables early on. This combination not only offers a delightful blend of flavors and textures but also packs a nutritional punch.

Barley Mushroom Mash recipe from baby center, is a hearty, nutritious dish that combines the chewy texture of barley with the earthy flavors of mushrooms, creating a comforting and satisfying meal. This dish is a fantastic way to introduce whole grains and vegetables into your diet, offering a rich source of dietary fiber, vitamins, and minerals.

Mushroom Broccoli Risotto recipe from zainab Jagot Ahmed, is a creamy, delicious, and nutritious meal that combines the earthy flavors of mushrooms with the fresh, slightly crunchy texture of broccoli. This dish is not only packed with vitamins, minerals, and fiber but also designed with a creamy texture and mild flavors that children tend to love.

Baby corn and mushroom salad recipe from tarla dalal, is a heartwarming, nutritious dish that combines the earthy taste of mushrooms with baby corn. This dish is a fantastic way to pack in the proteins, fibers, and vitamins essential for a healthy diet for kids.

Mushroom Spinach Puree from weaning world, is a nutrient-packed, delicious option for kids, offering a smooth and palatable way to introduce these healthful vegetables. Mushrooms provide a good source of vitamins and minerals, including B vitamins and selenium, which are important for immune function and overall health.

Mushroom and Barley Soup from firstcry ,is a hearty, comforting dish that’s perfect for kids, especially on a chilly day. This soup combines the earthy flavors of mushrooms with the chewy, satisfying texture of barley, making it not only delicious but also packed with nutrients.

Broccoli Mushroom Soup for kids is a creamy, delicious, and nutritious meal that combines two powerhouse vegetables. Broccoli, known for its wealth of vitamins C, K, and fiber, and mushrooms, packed with antioxidants, B vitamins, and minerals, come together in a dish that’s both comforting and beneficial for growing bodies.

Mushroom Sweet Corn Soup recipe from vegan planet kitchen, is a delightful, kid-friendly dish that combines the earthiness of mushrooms with the natural sweetness of corn, resulting in a comforting and nutritious meal. This soup is not only easy to prepare but also packed with vitamins, minerals, and fiber.

Stuffed Cheese Mushroom recipe from dassana’s recipes, is a delightful creation transforms ordinary mushrooms into treasure troves of melted cheese, making each bite a journey through creamy, savory flavors.

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Creamy Mushroom Rice recipe from simply delicious food, is a comforting, flavorful dish for kids that combines the earthy taste of mushrooms with the soft, absorbing nature of rice, all enveloped in a creamy sauce.

Button Mushrooms with Garlic recipe from sharmis passions, is a simple, yet delicious dish that can easily become a favorite for kids. The mild flavor of button mushrooms combined with a hint of garlic creates a savory side dish that pairs well with almost any meal.

Vegan Creamy Mushroom Pasta recipe from mj hungry man, is a delightful dish that’s perfect for kids who love the comfort of creamy pasta . This dish combines the rich, earthy flavors of mushrooms.

Grilled Mushroom Sandwich recipe from first cry, is a delicious, savory option that brings the meaty texture of mushrooms to the forefront, paired with the delightful crunch of grilled bread.

Tasty Mushroom Fry recipe from from sharmis passions, is a tasty, kid-friendly dish that turns mushrooms into a crispy, delightful treat. This recipe focuses on making the mushrooms mild and palatable for young taste buds, using simple seasonings.

Mushroom Tikka for kids is a flavorful, colorful, and nutritious dish that introduces children to the rich flavors of Indian cuisine in a mild and approachable way.Mushroom Tikka can be a healthy, delicious snack or a side dish that provides a good source of protein, fiber, and vitamins.

Mushroom Pulao for kids is a delightful, nutritious one-pot meal that combines the wholesome goodness of rice with the earthy flavors of mushrooms, made mild and appealing for young taste buds. It’s a fantastic way to introduce children to more complex flavors while ensuring they get a meal that’s both satisfying and packed with essential nutrients.

Garlic mushroom toast recipe from sauce pan kids an excellent way to introduce kids to the earthy taste of mushrooms, with garlic adding a mild flavor that’s not too overpowering.

Easy Mushroom Gravy recipe from Natasha’s kitchen, is a rich, flavorful, and versatile sauce that can transform any meal into something special for you little ones.

Cheesy Mushroom Veggie Cups recipe from kidskintha for kids, is a fun, nutritious, and delicious way to get your little ones excited about eating their vegetables. These bite-sized cups are filled with a mixture of mushrooms, cheese, and other vegetables.

Veggie stuffed mushrooms from super healthy kids ,transforms simple mushrooms into a fun, bite-sized treat filled with a colorful mix of vegetables, making it an appealing way to encourage kids to eat more veggies.

Mushroom Scrambled Eggs from tots and moms for kids, is a quick, nutritious breakfast option that combines the gentle, earthy flavors of mushrooms with the fluffy, comforting texture of scrambled eggs.

31. Mushroom Stuffed Dosa

Mushroom Masala Dosa from Shravs Kitchen is a delightful recipe, which transforms the humble dosa into a savory marvel, just by generously stuffing with a flavorful mushroom masala filling. The combination of earthy mushrooms, aromatic spices, and the crispiness of the dosa creates a symphony of flavors that will undoubtedly tantalize your taste buds!

Mushroom recipes, with their versatility and health benefits, can play a crucial role in a balanced diet, providing essential nutrients like B vitamins, selenium, potassium, and fiber. By presenting them in forms that are both tasty and visually appealing, such as in purees, soups, or as part of a main dish, parents can help foster a love for vegetables and a healthy eating habit from a young age. These mushroom recipes are just the beginning of exploring the vast culinary possibilities that can contribute to a healthy, balanced diet for children.

Frequently Asked Questions

As a chronic pain sufferer, as well as someone with anxiety, I know how much cannabis products can be helpful. I was lucky enough to get a medical marijuana license but many are not. However, even if you don’t have a license… there are THC products that can be made with hemp (Yes! It surprised me too!), that are legal even without a cannabis license in many places. Read on to learn more about this.

Navigating the complex terrain of hemp-derived THC products requires a solid grasp of the essentials. What once was a niche market has blossomed into a diverse ecosystem, offering a broad array of options to consumers.

But how do you discern between choice and quality? What legal landscapes must one navigate? These questions aren’t just idle curiosity; they’re integral to making informed decisions in this evolving industry.

Understanding these products goes beyond mere familiarity with cannabis culture. It’s about being savvy with what goes into your cart – both virtually and physically. So let’s buckle down and explore five critical facets every consumer should consider before stepping foot – or clicking their way – into the world of hemp-derived THC offerings.

Legal Tape and Gray Areas: The Status of Hemp-Derived THC

Navigating the legal terrain of hemp-derived THC is like charting a map where the lines have been drawn, erased, and redrawn. With the passage of the 2018 Farm Bill, hemp – defined as Cannabis sativa L. with a delta-9 tetrahydrocannabinol (THC) concentration of no more than 0.3 percent on a dry weight basis – was removed from the Controlled Substances Act. This effectively legalized hemp and its derivatives at a federal level, creating what seemed like clear skies for hemp-based products.

However, THC from marijuana – a plant virtually identical to hemp but with higher levels of psychoactive THC – remains federally illegal under U.S. law due to its classification as a Schedule I drug. As you peel back layers, state laws introduce their own interpretations and regulations, often blurring these seemingly distinct definitions.

This divergence has brewed a concoction of confusion for consumers and producers alike. If we look closer at extraction methods and resulting cannabinoids, nuances emerge that impact legality.

Cannabinoid Chemistry: Decoding Hemp’s Molecular Maze

As you stand before the vast array of hemp-derived THC products, it’s imperative to understand the molecular craftsmanship behind them. The chemistry of cannabinoids – compounds found naturally in the cannabis plant – is intricate, yet grasping its basics unlocks a deeper appreciation for what sets these products apart.

THC, famously known for its psychoactive properties, is just one member of a broad family of cannabinoids. Products labeled as ‘hemp-derived’ boast THC extracted from legal hemp plants, identifying with that critical 0.3 percent threshold that separates it from its high-inducing cousin.

Yet this THC is identical on a molecular level whether sourced from hemp or marijuana. What differentiates them isn’t in their chemical structure but in their provenance and legality. Delving into this facet means not just buying a product – you’re navigating a labyrinthine world shaped by both nature and legislation.

Navigating the Edible Landscape: Selecting Legal Hemp-Derived Treats

The edible arena within the hemp market is flourishing, with tastes and preferences as varied as the consumers themselves. Among these, hemp-derived Delta-9 THC edibles stand out for their legality and widespread availability. Yet, discernment is key in this saturated market.

In your pursuit of edibles that align with both your palate and legal parameters, it’s essential to recognize that while hemp-Derived Delta-9 THC edibles have made a name for themselves under federal law – permissible in every state – Delta-8 infused products walk a finer line. Some states have embraced them; others balk at their legality.

Penetrating this marketplace requires a sharp eye for compliance labels and an understanding of state-specific regulations to ensure what you’re indulging in isn’t just delectable but also entirely legitimate.

Quality Quest: Sourcing Superior Hemp THC Products

As you wade through the bustling current of hemp THC products, the quest for quality should be your guiding star. With a marketplace saturated with options, pinpointing top-notch goods transcends mere chance – it’s about methodical selection.

Commit to brands that are transparent in their processes, from cultivation to extraction. Seek out those that provide comprehensive third-party lab results. This isn’t simply due diligence; it’s an act of ensuring what you consume is as pure as the intentions behind its creation.

Additionally, consider the source – literally. The quality of hemp used can greatly influence the caliber of the finished product. Superior hemp is often cultivated under stringent standards, free from harmful pesticides and rich in beneficial cannabinoids and terpenes which contribute to the entourage effect – a theory suggesting these compounds work synergistically.

Remember, excellence in this realm isn’t just a label; it’s a promise backed by evidence and reputability.

By Louise Kinross

Di Huang (above left) was intrigued by an art group at Holland Bloorview that connects parents of children with disabilities with nature.

“We made our own paint, and the ingredients we used were spirulina powder for green, beet root powder for pink, and cocoa powder for brown,” Di says. “The instructor brought in some leaves from the garden and we used tree sticks instead of brushes to paint. That was so fun and out of the box.”

Di, whose four-year-old son has autism, found the activity “peaceful. When you have a child with a disability, life is very busy. It’s always go, go, go. I can’t even go to sleep peacefully at night because I’m always worried about something.”

Coming to the free Wellness through the Arts for Caregivers workshops gave her a 90-minute refuge where she could sit in a light-filled studio with other parents who understand her and make art. “It’s calming, and even though my problems may still be there, for a couple of hours I can take a break.”

The small, hands-on art groups for parents “foster a sense of belonging and allow caregivers to nurture their artistic curiosity and do something for themselves,” says Shannon Crossman (above right), the artist who leads the sessions with a family mentor who has experience parenting a child with a disability. “We hope to create a safe space where they can shift their nervous system from that of ‘fight or flight’ to that of ‘rest and digest,’ and we hear parents say things like ‘This is the first time I’ve exhaled in six years.'”

Participants may work with clay or make paper or paint. “Some participants may have some hesitation about painting, so I’m always trying to find ways that people feel it’s accessible, doable and they feel safe,” Shannon says.

Di has done art in other settings, including art therapy, but “it was more organized, and you had to follow the instructor step by step. This one is open and you can draw whatever you want. We also did an intuitive exercise where you draw with your eyes closed, and let your hand go wherever it wants to.”

Shannon says the group begins with short introductions and a ringing of the chimes “to bring us together and focused in the moment. We might do some simple deep-pressure exercises that are relaxing and grounding, and give participants a sense of where their bodies are in space.” 

Wellness through the Arts ran before the pandemic, but is a pilot in its current iteration, funded by donors through the Sparks program. 

“The way Shannon leads the group is really unique,” Di says. “First, she’s a very calm person. Some art instructors I’ve been with are not very calm. Being around Shannon helps me feel peaceful. Second, the concepts she introduces are good techniques that you might not find elsewhere—like using the tree branches to draw and using natural materials. Looking back, it makes me think that when we think we are limited, we are not limited.”

A family mentor acts as a sounding board for parents and can connect them with other hospital resources.

“I hope I can learn from the experiences of other parents and that maybe I can prepare for things so that they’re easier for my child,” Di says. “The program shows that the hospital cares about the wellbeing of parents and that improved my impression of the hospital.”

The next Wellness through the Arts workshop for inpatient parents is March 21 from 10:30-11:30 a.m. in the large art studio on the first floor. The program is seeking long-term funding. Like this story? Sign up for our monthly BLOOM e-letter, follow @LouiseKinross on Twitter, or watch our A Family Like Mine video series.

By Louise Kinross

Di Huang (above left) was intrigued by an art group at Holland Bloorview that connects parents of children with disabilities with nature.

“We made our own paint, and the ingredients we used were spirulina powder for green, beet root powder for pink, and cocoa powder for brown,” Di says. “The instructor brought in some leaves from the garden and we used tree sticks instead of brushes to paint. That was so fun and out of the box.”

Di, whose four-year-old son has autism, found the activity “peaceful. When you have a child with a disability, life is very busy. It’s always go, go, go. I can’t even go to sleep peacefully at night because I’m always worried about something.”

Coming to the free Wellness through the Arts for Caregivers workshops gave her a 90-minute refuge where she could sit in a light-filled studio with other parents who understand her and make art. “It’s calming, and even though my problems may still be there, for a couple of hours I can take a break.”

The small, hands-on art groups for parents “foster a sense of belonging and allow caregivers to nurture their artistic curiosity and do something for themselves,” says Shannon Crossman (above right), the artist who leads the sessions with a family mentor who has experience parenting a child with a disability. “We hope to create a safe space where they can shift their nervous system from that of ‘fight or flight’ to that of ‘rest and digest,’ and we hear parents say things like ‘This is the first time I’ve exhaled in six years.'”

Participants may work with clay or make paper or paint. “Some participants may have some hesitation about painting, so I’m always trying to find ways that people feel it’s accessible, doable and they feel safe,” Shannon says.

Di has done art in other settings, including art therapy, but “it was more organized, and you had to follow the instructor step by step. This one is open and you can draw whatever you want. We also did an intuitive exercise where you draw with your eyes closed, and let your hand go wherever it wants to.”

Shannon says the group begins with short introductions and a ringing of the chimes “to bring us together and focused in the moment. We might do some simple deep-pressure exercises that are relaxing and grounding, and give participants a sense of where their bodies are in space.” 

Wellness through the Arts ran before the pandemic, but is a pilot in its current iteration, funded by donors through the Sparks program. 

“The way Shannon leads the group is really unique,” Di says. “First, she’s a very calm person. Some art instructors I’ve been with are not very calm. Being around Shannon helps me feel peaceful. Second, the concepts she introduces are good techniques that you might not find elsewhere—like using the tree branches to draw and using natural materials. Looking back, it makes me think that when we think we are limited, we are not limited.”

A family mentor acts as a sounding board for parents and can connect them with other hospital resources.

“I hope I can learn from the experiences of other parents and that maybe I can prepare for things so that they’re easier for my child,” Di says. “The program shows that the hospital cares about the wellbeing of parents and that improved my impression of the hospital.”

The next Wellness through the Arts workshop for inpatient parents is March 21 from 10:30-11:30 a.m. in the large art studio on the first floor. The program is seeking long-term funding. Like this story? Sign up for our monthly BLOOM e-letter, follow @LouiseKinross on Twitter, or watch our A Family Like Mine video series.

The unfortunate reality of today’s world is that drugs are everywhere. Their effects on individual drug users and American culture more broadly vary, but all of them have negative impacts. This article will look at nine commonly abused substances and how they affect people’s bodies, in particular.

1. Alcohol

Many people think that using prescription drugs is the only way someone can develop a substance use disorder. Alcohol is the most commonly abused substance in America, and also one of the most physically damaging.

Alcohol abuse interferes with not just the brain but also all major bodily systems. Heavy drinkers are at greater risk of heart disease, liver failure, pancreatitis, and even cancer. They are also less able to fend off infections.

2. Tobacco

The effects of tobacco on the body are also incredibly deleterious. Most people know that prolonged tobacco use can cause lung cancer. They don’t always realize it also increases the risk of heart disease, stroke, diabetes, COPD, and other types of cancer.

3. Prescription Painkillers

When used responsibly as prescribed, opioid painkillers can help people stay active while managing complex pain from surgeries and other causes. When used in excess, the substances negatively impact the liver, immune system, and heart. Prescription painkiller abuse can cause life-threatening cardiovascular events.

4. Heroin

Heroin is another form of opiate that does not have legal uses in the United States. The drug can cause similar physical issues to prescription painkillers, including liver disease, pulmonary infections, rheumatologic problems, kidney disease, skin abscesses, infections of the heart valves, and chronic constipation.

5. Benzodiazepines

Benzodiazepines like Ativan and Xanax work by altering the release of gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA), which slows the activity of the nervous system. They slow people’s reflexes, making it difficult to safely perform certain tasks. Severe benzodiazepine abuse can also lead to overdose.

6. Cocaine

Cocaine is a potent central nervous system stimulant, so most users notice a rush of energy. The drug can also cause nausea and vomiting, headaches, confusion, insomnia, seizures, and even heart attack or stroke due to increased blood pressure and heart rate. When people use cocaine over prolonged periods, they can experience hallucinations and confusion due to damage to the nervous system, organ damage from elevated blood pressure, damage to the respiratory system, and malnutrition.

7. Prescription Stimulants

Prescription stimulants like Adderall and Ritalin are perceived as being safer than street drugs like cocaine and methamphetamines. They have similar effects, producing extended wakefulness, loss of appetite, and increased energy. Prolonged use can cause dizziness, headaches, tremors, chest pain or palpitations, abdominal pain, vomiting, flushed skin, and excessive sweating.

8. Methamphetamine

Methamphetamine is one of the most common illegal stimulants. People who take it often become hyperexcitable. They may go for prolonged periods without sleep, lose their appetite, and lose weight. Methamphetamine use also causes increased body temperature and erratic heartbeat in the short term.

In the long term, meth users can experience extreme weight loss, severe dental problems, decreased motor skills, skin sores, and other serious physical issues in addition to dramatic mental health problems.

9. Hallucinogenic Drugs

Hallucinogens include natural substances like peyote, mescaline, and psilocybin mushrooms as well as lab-synthesized drugs such as LSD, PCP, and MDMA. Depending on the drug being abused, the physical effects of hallucinogens can include elevated heart rate and blood pressure, nausea, vomiting, and dilated pupils.

All Drugs Can Negatively Impact Health

Drug abuse can have a dramatic negative impact on people’s health, and that impact tends to scale with the level of use. Poly-drug use can also increase the risk of certain physical risks and side effects. Anyone who is using street drugs or abusing prescription drugs should seek help as soon as possible to minimize the damage to their systems.

A recent theme in social media these days is the tagline….”you never know the last time you’ll carry your child” or “the last time you’ll give them a bath or read the bedtime story.” All of a sudden you just don’t. You might not even realize these “last times” until months or perhaps even years later. Well, this “last time” I’m facing will not go undetected for months or years. It has a date.

My daughter, my bonus baby, the big surprise addition to our seemingly complete family will be 18 in a month. 30 days. All this time to prepare, but I still find myself in disbelief. I know most moms feel breathless as the birthdays fly by. This is a universal phenomenon. What’s unusual is what seems to be bothering me the most.

Can you believe it’s the dang permission slips?

I’ve filled out forms for the last 35 years

You see I have been someone’s parent, guardian, legal adult for 35 years. I can barely remember a time I wasn’t legally responsible for another human being. All those years of medical forms, school paperwork, field trip forms are coming to a close. I have filled out forms in every format since 1988. From carbon copies to online patient portals, from faxes to scanning, I’ve done it. 

But all this obsession with forms seems like such an odd thing to focus on in the rush up to Spring Break, Prom, Graduation and College in the fall. Those are the real milestones. Not being anyone’s legal “parent,” why in the world would this hit me so hard? 

Let’s face it, the field trips have been over for a while now, but it still has been up to me to sign off on what my baby did. I filled out the forms at the doctor, dentist, summer camp. As parents do, I’ve encouraged my teen to take these responsibilities on herself and she has. Yet at the end of the day, I sat smug in the knowledge she technically still needed my permission. Now she won’t.

My daughter still needs me but not legally

I mean, I know she will still need me. That I am not concerned about based on experience. Any new parent who is under the impression their parenting is done and dusted at 18 is in for quite the surprise, (in many ways the emotional heavy lifting is just getting started, but that is another topic for another time!).

I have 4 official adult children who enjoy their lives in their very official grown-up world. They still reach out for advice and I’m part of their lives, but it’s different, of course. I’m a sounding board. I don’t call the shots. After so many years of calling the shots, maybe that’s why still having one that still needed me in such a “legal” way kept me feeling relevant! 

I shouldn’t have sighed so heavily every time a clipboard with endless forms was shoved at me. I shouldn’t have rolled my eyes when the summer package from school arrived with countless emergency forms; phone numbers to track down, insurance information to scan.

When she turns 18 the clipboard officially becomes hers

In 30 days, I will officially stand in the wings of her decisions. I will need her permission to talk to any school, any dentist or doctor. She will handle the clipboard and endure the cramps in her hand. OK, that I will not miss.

I’ll tell you what realization did sneak up on me. All those years of triplicate forms and paper clipped pages I begrudgingly filled out for one child, then the next and the next, it wasn’t actually a burden. It was a privilege to represent my children for all those years. Yet, as it goes with so much in life, you just can’t imagine the day will ever come when that chapter closes. And then it does. 

So come her 18th birthday, I will encourage my daughter to fill out all the forms as she embarks on this next chapter. I think that will be the easy part.

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Published: February 22, 2024 | Last Updated on: February 26, 2024
| by Hema

Are you looking for a yummy and healthy recipe for your kids? Yes, we are going to share a Yummy & Healthy Treat: Strawberry Chia Jam for Kids. This easy-to-make jam is a fantastic way to encourage kids to enjoy the goodness of fruits while providing them with essential nutrients for their growth and development. Let’s dive into how you can make this delightful treat at home.

Health Benefits of Strawberry and Chia Seeds for Kids

Strawberry:

• Rich in Vitamins and Minerals: Strawberries are an excellent source of vitamin C, which is essential for the immune system, helping children fight off infections. They also contain manganese, folate, and potassium, supporting overall health and development.
• High in Antioxidants: These berries are loaded with antioxidants, including anthocyanins, ellagic acid, and quercetin. Antioxidants protect the body’s cells from damage and support a healthy heart.
• Supports Digestive Health: With a good amount of dietary fiber, strawberries help maintain regular bowel movements, preventing constipation—a common issue in children.
• Promotes Heart Health: The antioxidants and potassium in strawberries can contribute to heart health by managing blood pressure and reducing oxidative stress.

Chia Seeds:

• Rich in Omega-3 Fatty Acids: Chia seeds are one of the best plant sources of omega-3 fatty acids, particularly alpha-linolenic acid (ALA), crucial for brain health and development. Omega-3s are vital for cognitive functions and may improve attention and learning in children.
• High in Dietary Fiber: They are an excellent source of fiber, which promotes digestive health, helping to prevent constipation and maintain a healthy gut.
• Packed with Essential Nutrients: Chia seeds are rich in minerals such as calcium, magnesium, and phosphorus, which are essential for bone growth and development in children. They also contain significant amounts of zinc, important for immune function.
• Protein-Rich: Being high in quality protein, chia seeds can contribute to growth and muscle repair, making them an excellent nutrient for growing children.

Combined Benefits:

When strawberries and chia seeds are combined, such as in a Strawberry Chia Jam, they not only make a deliciously sweet and tart spread but also offer a synergistic blend of nutrients. This combination enhances dietary fiber intake, boosts heart and brain health, and provides a wealth of vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants. Making this jam a part of your child’s diet can be a tasty way to contribute to their daily nutritional needs, supporting their overall health and development in a deliciously sweet manner.

Recipe

Ingredients:

• 2 cups fresh strawberries
• 1/2 cup jaggery
• 2 tablespoons chia seeds
• 1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract (optional)
• A squeeze of lemon juice (optional, for a bit of tang)

Instructions:

• Wash, hull, and cut the strawberries into halves or quarters.
• Place the strawberries in a medium saucepan over medium heat. Cook, stirring occasionally, until the strawberries begin to soften and release their juices, about 5-10 minutes.
  For a smoother jam, you can use a potato masher or fork to mash the strawberries to your desired consistency while they cook.
• Add the jaggery, adjusting the amount based on how sweet you like your jam. Remember, the sweetness of the strawberries can vary, so you might want to start with less sweetener and add more if needed.
• Add the chia seeds to the saucepan and stir well to combine. The chia seeds will start to absorb the liquid and thicken the jam as it cools.
  Cook the mixture for another 5 minutes, stirring frequently to prevent the jam from sticking to the bottom of the pan.
• Remove the pan from heat and stir in the vanilla extract and a squeeze of lemon juice, if using. These add depth to the jam’s flavor but are optional.
• Transfer the jam to a clean jar or container and let it cool to room temperature. The jam will continue to thicken as it cools. Once cool, cover and refrigerate. The jam can be stored in the refrigerator for up to two weeks.

Strawberry Chia Jam presents an excellent alternative to traditional jams, offering a delightful blend of natural sweetness, nutritional benefits, and a simple preparation process that makes it an ideal choice for kids. By combining the antioxidant-rich strawberries with fiber-packed chia seeds, this jam not only tantalizes the taste buds but also contributes to a healthier diet, supporting overall well-being. Its versatility allows it to be a perfect complement to various foods, from breakfast toast to yogurts and desserts, ensuring that children enjoy both its taste and health advantages. Furthermore, involving children in the making of this jam can foster a love for cooking and an appreciation for wholesome, homemade food.

Frequently Added Questions

Our two children grew up in a dual income family watching us balance our careers, our marriage, and parenting them as a team. My mantra as they grew and advanced from one stage to the next was: I just need to get them through college. I thought that once the stress of the college years were over for all of us, we could rest easy as they graduated and landed their first jobs.

Like most, we worked to make sure their focus was on their classes and devoting themselves to doing well and enjoying the college social scene. We worked hard to remove any obstacles or distractions that interfered with that focus.

We balanced sharing any negative news and kept financial discussions to the bare minimum always considering where they were on the continuum of studying for exams, working on projects, volunteering, and all of the things they had going on. We were so proud of them and of ourselves as we watched them at their commencement ceremonies and as each decided to pursue advanced degrees in their field.

As parents, we left out some very teachable life skills

We have since learned that we left out some vital information and teachable life skills. We masked how hard it is to go work each day. How the workplace is and can be extremely competitive and a harsh place at times. How a toxic environment or manager can whittle away at your self-esteem leaving you to doubt your competency and performance.

How it is when co-workers fail to show up and you are left with a mountainous workload. How it feels when your conscientiousness and work ethic is rewarded by the continuous dump of more to do and less time to do it in. How workplace stress can result in sleepless nights, ‘what if’ scenarios, and down-the-rabbit-hole thinking.

We assumed our college grads knew life is full of tough days

All of this sounds like common sense – they should have known there would be tough days. They should have the tools to navigate a bad day or a bad week like they did in school and come out the other side.

But what if you are a healthcare worker fresh out of school excited to embark on your new career as a therapist and suddenly the world has shut down due to a pandemic leaving you to treat patients and manage a clinic alone?

What if you are a professional working in the financial market and the Silicon Valley bank collapse leaves you to respond to phones ringing off the hook trying to salvage customers’ investments while your own fate looms?

Never in our wildest dreams would we have imagined either of those scenarios for our grown and flown kids but they happened. Both scenarios came on without warning and dragged on for considerable time. In our supportive role as parents, we watched their mental health take a nose dive with severe anxiety and panic attacks.

We learned from many of our own friends and coworkers that their grown children were also suffering with mental health issues, many attributable to the effects of the pandemic. Many of us questioned, what did we miss and what could we have done better? As with every life experience, good or bad, there are always opportunities to learn.

What we learned as we helped our adult children navigate their workplace crises

1. Don’t sugarcoat reality

As parents and role models we never meant to sugarcoat reality. Showing up to work every day, doing your best, and getting ahead is hard. We tried to leave the really bad times at the door to show up for our family but maybe we could have shared more stories or experiences of the challenges we faced and how we handled them.

2. This too shall pass

Reassurance and reminders that today is a bad day, a bad week or even a bad month but better times lay ahead are important. We pointed to past challenges they faced in school, in team sports or with friends that worked themselves out. All of us feel like the bad times will consume us so being reminded that they will pass and to look to the brighter days ahead is encouraging and can even bring light to the situation.

3. Believe in yourself and your resiliency

This works hand in hand with “This too shall pass.” Reminding our adult children that they are resilient and strong and citing examples is so important when they are feeling consumed or helpless. Being reminded of who you are at your core is critical to promoting the belief that you can weather the storm.

4. Communicate and ask for help

Most importantly our family has leaned into communicating and mental health check-ins. Pointedly saying, “I am checking in on you- how are you doing today?” is something we learned to do to open the door to communication and to let them know we are as concerned with their mental health as we are with their physical well-being.

Removing the stigma and obstacles to seeking professional counseling has been something else we learned to do like many families. It’s okay not to be okay is universal. It’s not okay to ignore it, look the other way, or sweep it under the rug. Reaching out to others for referrals to access affordable and accessible resources helps to lift us all to a better place.

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