Category: Dating & Love

Author’s note

This topic has a very deep meaning to me as I myself have a mother who is approaching this phase of menopause, and I have interviewed women who have overcome this challenging journey by re-discovering their resilience in them. However, it is still treated as a stigma in our society that urgently needs eradication. This existing stigma is preventing women from discovering their feminine nature. I hope this article helps you to become more aware of the symptoms and consequences of menopause. 

Wishing you a great perusal 🙂

Here is the link for your reference 

Perimenopause 

Perimenopause is the early phase of menopause and is around when your body begins to transition to adjust to the new phase. Common recorded symptoms of menopause are but not limited to period variations, night sweats, hot flashes, insomnia and vaginal dryness. 

The Diagnosis 

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Tests are often not vital for diagnosing menopause; however, in some cases, doctors suggest blood tests check the level of Follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and estrogen, as they generally suffer alterations during menopause. Thyroid-stimulating hormone (TSH) is also checked, as hypothyroidism can result from symptoms resembling the signs of menopause.

How does menopause affect your heart?

Estrogen is a very important hormone that protects different parts of your body like the heart, blood vessels, veins, skin and vagina. These parts of the body could all be affected by decrease in the levels of estrogen due to menopause. Moreover, estrogen safeguards the arteries in the heart, and subsequently, after the diagnosis, women are at an increased risk of circulatory or heart diseases. Therefore, menopause causes heart palpitation due to changing hormone levels in the body. 

The Menopause Talk & Quiz

During the conversation, Oprah revealed that she suffered from heart palpitations and dullness while trying to navigate menopause. She discussed her issues with multiple doctors, but nobody ever suggested once that this could be menopause. Oprah stated in the conversation on ‘The Menopause Talk’ that menopause has always been shrouded in stigma and shame. 

“The menopause train is coming no matter what,” Winfrey said, emphasizing that no one can “outfox the ‘Big M.’

The conversation was also joined by Drew Barrymore, Sharon Malone, MD, Heather Hirsch and Maria Shriver. Oprah Daily also launched a menopause guide; check it out here. The menopause quiz is also available here. Share it with your loved ones and help them to embrace the big M. 

Conclusion

Our mothers were there for us when we reached menstruation; now it’s time for us to help them embrace the big M. 

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Together, let’s thrive!!

Str8Curious: What Gay Men Could Teach Straight Men About Sexual Health

Str8Curious is a monthly AskMen column where out and proud lifestyle expert Joey Skladany answers burning questions from heterosexual men about sex, dating, and the LGBTQ+ community. No topic is off limits as he candidly lends advice, debunks stereotypes, and gives it to you straight — err — gay. Should you be interested in submitting a question for editorial consideration (and we will respect anonymity), feel free to ping Joey directly on Instagram or email him at [email protected]).

The Question

My gay friends seem to get tested quite frequently for STIs and I’m wondering if this is a common practice within the LGTBQ+ community. Are gay men still paranoid about contracting something like HIV or are they just really good about being proactive about their health? Should I be just as diligent as a straight man? – Paul, Orlando, FL

The Answer

It’s no secret that most people don’t enjoy going to the doctor. Unless you have some sort of medical fetish (and I’m not here to kink shame!), a gloved finger up the ass followed by a urine test and blood work is never a good time. That said, it does seem like gay men are particularly proactive when it comes to their sexual health. In my own analysis, this can be attributed to three reasons:

1) Recognition of Risk

Gay men like sex. And they like to have a lot of it. While this certainly doesn’t apply to every member of the community, it’s broadly accepted as fact (and has the data to back it up).

Generally, it’s easier to prevent an STI than treat one, so it’s better to take all of the necessary precautions than suffer from a case of chlamydia or gonorrhea that will have you out of the saddle for a couple of weeks. Using your hand is never as fun, or so I’m told. (I’m one of the weird ones who doesn’t have tons of sex.)

2) Caring for Their Bodies

Homos put a lot of time and effort into their appearance. Just think about what they do to their bodies in the gym, the expensive clothes they put on these chiseled bodies, and the skincare regimens that keep them looking at least five years younger than their actual age.

Call it vanity or call it being body-conscious, but an STI doesn’t pair well with a perfectly manicured ball sac. And something like herpes has the potential to scar if the sores break open while healing. If a typical gay compares a pesky forehead pimple to Armageddon, you can only imagine what an STIs physical symptoms will do to the psyche.

3) A Community-Driven Approach to Personal Health

Medical professionals have made unbelievable advancements in the treatment of HIV and AIDS, but it would be a disservice to those we lost in the ‘80s to not put sexual health at the forefront of our minds.

While HIV is preventable through medications like PReP and managed through ART, it is still important to be consistently tested, especially if you partake in unprotected or risky sex.

This is likely why the monkeypox outbreak was essentially stopped in its tracks before it became a full-fledged national crisis. Gay men don’t want to take any chances in a country that notoriously stigmatizes infections and diseases, so they take the appropriate steps to protect themselves and those around them.

In fact, it’s almost like an unspoken promise to each other that we’re up to date on vaccines, pills, and testing — though it never hurts to ask and confirm before engaging in a night of romping.

RELATED: Your Go-To Guide for Safer Sex

So what’s the takeaway? The best thing you can do, as a straight man, is talk to your primary care physician about how often you should draw blood, pee in a cup, or get swabbed to look for common STIs. This is where you can divulge that laundry list of sexual activities, history, and whether or not you’ve been using protection so that you can come up with an appropriate plan of action.

If you harbor any sense of reluctancy, I promise you that doctors have heard (and probably seen) everything. Now is not the time to pretend you were Mother Teresa last weekend, when the reality is that you went down on three chicks at a bar and then banged a fourth in the back of your Ford Mustang (do str8s do this?).

RELATED: Here’s What It’s Really Like to Get an STI

Doctors are not here to judge — they’re here to help, discuss when you should make that trip to the clinic, and prescribe Xanax. They’re also here to explain the risks you may be imposing on current and future partners if you don’t take certain measures in advance. Take full advantage of their expertise and, if you feel like your needs aren’t being met, look for someone else you can trust.

But, no matter what, always remember that you only get one life to live. It’s better to be safe than sorry. Preventative healthcare is self-care and gives you the peace of mind so you can finger bang, motorboat, eat out, bang and everything else you hetero dudes do without worry.

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Dry texting has become increasingly talked about in recent years. The phrase refers to someone who typically responds to text messages with brief one or two-word answers. You know the type of conversation. One in which it feels like you’re carrying the whole thing entirely on your own.

These days, we’re long past the time when texting is optional. Nearly everyone texts — and at a fast pace. According to SMS Marketing Statistics, 95% of texts are read and responded to within three minutes, leaving very little room for any slow, dry texting!

So, if you’re worried that you might be a bit of a dry texter, don’t worry! Lucky for you, we’ve got some ideas. To help you learn and understand how not to be a dry texter, we’ve put together some top tips to help you lift your game.

What is Dry Texting?

According to Mel Magazine, a dry texter is, “the type of person who responds to messages with one-word answers — or, worse, single letters.”  Online daters who engage in dry texting often do so because of a lack of interest in the person they’re communicating with.

While this may not always be the case, the perception of dry texting is, more often than not, negative. Therefore, if you’ve connected with someone that you’re genuinely interested in, and you’re worried that you might be a bit of a dry texter, it’s important to know how to tackle this to make sure that the person can see how genuinely interested you are in getting to know them!

10 Top Tips on How Not to Be a Dry Texter

We’ve all sent a few dry texts before. It’s often unavoidable. But, for online daters looking to make meaningful connections, taking the time to craft more thoughtful responses can be a big help when it comes to finding a good relationship. Want to know more about how not to be a dry texter? Check out our top 10 tips below!

1. Say more than one thing

Don’t just text one word unless you’re genuinely in a rush! Everyone deserves a little more of a response than “okay,” or even worse “k.” Use your words wisely and at least try to ensure you’re putting more thought into your communication. Some people insist on verbose, long chunks of text and, even if that’s not your style, you gotta compromise.

2. Put a spin on the usual

Oftentimes, it’s hard to avoid asking the usual “How are you?” But leading with this and nothing else doesn’t really set the foundations for good conversation. Instead, try to put your personality into it.

For instance, going for something like, “How was that big work presentation today? Are you feeling good about it?” will be a lot more meaningful. You’re asking how they are, but with details that show you listen and that you genuinely care.

3. Don’t be boring

When it comes to understanding how to not be dry when texting, avoiding boring texts is key. If you’re looking to break the ice with her or get to know a guy more deeply, lead with your exciting stories and ask engaging questions.

If you’re texting someone you already know pretty well, you can still veer away from the boring territory. Instead of every detail about your work project, tell a funny anecdote about something that happened while you were there. Mixing it up will help to keep things interesting and avoid those dry texts.

4. Don’t use texting shorthand

Everyone’s got their own texting style, but it’s fair to say almost no one wants to respond to a text that simply reads “wyd?” Somehow, this is worse than a single-word text message. Be clear! Avoid being a dry texter by using full sentences or at least one full word.

5. Avoid the obvious small talk

Sometimes it’s difficult to avoid talking about the weather. But, if you scroll through your recent conversation and realize you’ve talked about the weather a lot, you might be sliding into dry texting territory.

Okay, sometimes the weather matters, like when you’re planning a picnic for a first date idea. But often it doesn’t, so be creative in your subjects and if you’re going to talk about the weather, at least make it fun. “This rain reminds me of that time I got lost hiking the PCT!”

6. Don’t respond sporadically

Knowing how to not dry text doesn’t just involve thinking about the content of the text. Often, it’s about your etiquette too. If you want to avoid dry texting, make sure you respond in a respectful timeframe and don’t only engage on your terms.

7. Reach out first

There should be a good balance between you and your partner over who’s reaching out and when. If they’re always the one saying hello or asking you how you are, try switching it up and reaching out first more often.

8. Use emojis

Okay, you don’t have to use emojis, but sometimes they do express a feeling well. Sometimes, there’s just nothing better to say than the crying emoji face. If you aren’t really an emoji person, that’s okay, but no one will accuse an emoji user of being a dry texter.

9. Don’t overthink it

Sometimes people tend to fall into dry texting because they’re afraid of saying the wrong thing. Take a deep breath and just be yourself! Your texting style will feel good when you do what feels natural.

10. Ask questions

When it comes to how to not be a dry texter, this one might sound obvious. But, if someone has shared something with you, ask a follow-up question. Instead of responding with, “Oh, weird!” or “Cool,” you’ll come across much more engaging if you ask something instead. Plus, it’ll help to keep the conversation flowing.

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Knowing how to not be a dry texter can feel a bit stressful at times. But, by following our top tips above, you’re sure to up your texting game and increase your chances of making real, meaningful connections online!

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Have you ever wished for a portal or a doorway into his soul so you could know exactly how he feels? You keep searching online for the “signs he likes you but is playing it cool” or you wonder if you’ve been reading the room wrong. A study published in Psychological Science finds that a woman is more attracted to a man when she is uncertain about how much he likes her. So, him playing it cool could actually work in his favor. 

But the truth is, many men struggle to communicate effectively. This is because much of the media and upbringing they are exposed to encourages men to be the stoic, silent types who keep their feelings to themselves — even in front of the person they romantically like.

We get it, it is not always simple to tell if a guy is excited to see you or if he’s into you but try to notice things like these: when he brightens up in your presence or when a guy notices you changed your hairstyle. If you’re watchful enough, you can even spot the signs he likes you over a text!

17 Sureshot Signs He Likes You But Is Playing It Cool

According to a Reddit user, who currently likes someone but is playing it cool, “I try to give her compliments whenever I can, but nothing too out of context. Whenever we’re out late with friends, I make sure she gets home safely, I try to make her laugh, and I choose the correct timing and situation for my jokes while also taking into consideration her humor and taste in jokes. There may be more stuff, but these are the major ones. We also usually try to act tougher in front of the women we are attracted to, like keeping a nice posture, having a relaxed but at the same time powerful stance.”

Sometimes, you don’t have to read between the lines and determine where you two stands, as there are pretty clear signs of a guy’s interest in you. Therefore, pay attention to these 17 Sureshot signs he likes you but is playing it cool. 

Related Reading: Expert-Backed Signs Of Male Body Language Attraction

1. He’ll give his feelings away through his body language

If he often stares at you, it’s one of the signs of a guy’s interest in you. You might think it is difficult to decode what is going in a guy’s head when you catch him staring at you. Lingering eye contact is always a clear sign that a man likes you. You will find him staring at you and when you look in his direction, he’ll look away so that you won’t catch him red-handed. 

• He gets (evidently) conscious about his looks and words around you. His eye contact with you is usually more intense than with anyone else
• He’ll direct his chest and feet toward you and will constantly check to see if you notice him
• He’ll start blushing when you look at or talk to him directly

According to research, one of the factors of attraction is Proximity Effect. Proximity Effect is the positive correlation between the amount of time spent together and the attraction between people. People seek closeness with the people they like. 

Whenever you’re together, you can notice his changing body language. Sometimes you catch him reaching out his hand to touch you, but he hesitates and withdraws it. He might not speak to you, but he will find a way to sit next to you or be near you.

2. He loves sending you cryptic signals

Do you both text each other often? He probably also checks in on you a lot because “we are friends”. But you don’t need us to tell you that things are rapidly approaching intensity if you start receiving good night and good morning texts from him. 

It is his way of letting you know that you are the first person who comes to his mind after waking up and going to bed. It is quite easy to differentiate between how guys text when they like you and how they do it when they are just considering you as a friend. This is one of the signs he likes you over text. 

He’ll tell you “You are such a great person, I love being around you every day,” but then at the same time, he’ll invite you to a dinner party as his plus one only because “I don’t want to be the only one there who’s single”. In his mind, it’s a date, but he is trying to play it cool.

3. He remembers the smallest details about you

A guy who likes you will remember everything he gets to know about you. Just because he is playing it cool does not mean he will not even try to make you think about him. Even if he does not make grand gestures to express his feelings, he may occasionally buy you your favorite flower, invite you to your favorite restaurant, give you a thoughtful gift, buy your favorite candy at the grocery store, and do anything that makes you wonder: “How come he remembers such a tiny detail about me?”

When asked how to tell if a guy is excited to see you, Sakshi Sasane (straksxy), a social media manager from Mumbai, said, “You can see his excitement. In his voice, the way he behaves around you, the way he always makes plans with you in advance, and not only that, but he also even remembers small details like my favorite sauce combination for my subway.” 

So, if a guy remembers such stuff about you or notices you a lot but then shrugs it off by saying, “I’m just observant” or “I just have a good memory”, he is into you but is playing it cool.

Related Reading: 27 Ways To Tell Someone You Love Them Without Saying It

4. He is all ears for you

A guy who likes you will subconsciously want to tell you that he is interested in you. So, if you talk to him, he’ll give you his undivided attention. He would put his phone down or leave whatever he was doing when you talk. He asks you questions, too that show his interest in you and your life.

He’ll tease you for your silly ideas and will beg you to not repeat them but will listen to you anyway. So, if you are experiencing something similar, let us tell you that this is one of the signs he likes you but is playing it cool.

5. He always wants to be your hero

A guy who secretly likes you doesn’t know how to say “no” to you. So, whenever you’re in trouble, he’s the first person to offer help. If he likes you and you mention a problem, he’ll probably start scouring his head for solutions.

This is the only way he feels that he has earned your love. Therefore, the guy who likes you might do favors for you that you ask for or perhaps don’t ask for – so that he can feel close to you. If you are still wondering if he loves you or not, trust us this is one of the psychological indicators of interest from a guy.  

If a guy says things like “Oh, I was just nearby so I came by” or “I saw your favorite chocolates in the shop right at the counter, so I grabbed them for you”, he is into you but is playing it cool.

6. He compliments you in a unique way

Everyone tells you that you have lovely hair or are one of the most beautiful people they know. It is normal when a guy notices you change your hair color or style or if you wear a stylish outfit, but this guy’s observations go beyond the prominent aspects of your beauty. Here’s what he might say to you:

• Your ability to recall random factoids at just the right times is impressive
• You have such a deep understanding of Greek literature, I can learn so much from you
• You have such a great personality. I enjoy talking to you
• Somehow, you make time to stop and fly all at the same time
• Your sense of humor is as unique as you

If a guy notices stuff about you that is more than just on-the-surface information, it is because he is interested in you. You can say that he is trying to be as subtle as he can by complimenting you on aspects other than your looks. It is one of the signs he likes you but is playing it cool.

7. He is your #1 cheerleader

If a guy likes you, he will encourage you to achieve your greatest potential. He’ll undoubtedly go out of his way to make you feel good about yourself and motivate you to achieve your goals. This is his way of showing you his love.

This kind of guy may appreciate your performance or work, but you will find it strange that he does not praise you openly. It could be because he doesn’t want his feelings and thoughts to be evident to others. So, if you’re running a business, he will like every Instagram post you put up about it (he might even buy a product or two), but he might have yet to talk to you about it personally. 

8. Signs he likes you but is playing it cool – You sense the spark

Romance can be perplexing. People can give mixed signals (unintentionally), which makes us very uneasy and uncertain of their true feelings. But if you can feel a spark when you’re together, that guy probably likes you.

You can fear that you’re mistaken and wonder if you’re dreaming. But you can feel it in your gut. He looks at you like he’s smitten. You feel the chemistry between you. He’s not confirmed his feelings, but you’ll connect when you’re together, and your conversations will continue beyond the clock if given a chance. 

Related Reading: Can You Sense When Someone Likes You? 9 Things You May Feel

9. He teases you

He uses teasing to get your attention. Teasing someone is a very flirty move. When trying to impress someone, he can transform from a grown-up man to a jittery pre-pubescent teen in a fraction of a second. It’s endearing when a guy acts silly around you to make you smile. Remember, though, there is a clear difference between teasing and being unpleasant or mean-spirited. 

You two might have a dynamic where you exchange humorous banter back and forth. He loves to make you laugh, but he is also good at keeping his cover. He doesn’t show a direct interest in you, but if he’s the clown in the office every time you’re around, chances are he likes you. Research suggests that playful people are more connected to their loved ones. 

10. He strikes up conversations

If a guy likes you, he will try to communicate with you as communication is important in any relationship. What may begin as an awkward conversation may develop into an excellent opportunity to get to know one another. It can be anything from a simple question about your day to your life goals. He won’t miss a single chance if he can learn more about you, like:

• Do you have anything planned for the weekend?
• What genre of music do you like?
• Which quality do you find attractive in a guy?
• What inspired you to enter this field?

If his voice trails off or if he doesn’t seem interested in the conversation you are having, he’s probably not interested in you. However, if his voice is deep and present, and he is actively interested in what you are saying, he is most likely crushing on you. This is one of the signs that a man is into you.

11. He introduces you to his loved ones

A guy who asks you to meet his pals is clearly into you. He wants to brag about you to his friends because he feels lucky you are hanging out with him. This is a definite sign that this man is in love with you. But he might not invite you to his house to meet his parents because he needs to play it cool, remember? 

Do his friends get excited when they see you two conversing or walking together? You’ve probably noticed how they try to hold back their smiles as they slyly glance at one another. They always give you two some space. Although they have never openly told you, they are shipping the two of you. He’s not telling you how he feels, either. He’s either shy, not ready, or just playing it cool.

Related Reading: 7 Signs He Wants To Make You His Girlfriend

12. He shares a lot of details of his life with you

He may like you for who you are if he discusses his future ambitions with you rather than just talking about getting a raise. Why? Because he’s trying to gauge whether you fit into his plans as he might see you in his future.

This is one of the signs he likes you but is playing it cool. He likely wants to be with you if he tells you everything that’s happening in his life and if you also know a lot about his past. He shares intimate details of his life with you. He’ll tell you a sensitive story about his family dynamics, deep secrets, his likes, and dislikes, or even what he’s having for dinner if it makes him feel a little closer to you. He overshares because he subconsciously wants you to be a part of his life.

13. He wants to know more about you

A classic sign that a guy is trying to impress you is that he will suddenly be curious about your hobbies and interests, from your favorite cartoon character to your views on world politics. Even if he’s too shy to tell you, a guy who likes you will try to get to know you through your friends, family, and even the receptionist at the coffee shop you regularly visit (he’ll do this secretly though, he can’t be too open about his feelings). 

Aside from your future, he will casually ask you about your past relationships too. This is because he wants to be more than a friend to you. He’ll let you talk about where your ex-partners went wrong so he can work on being better than them. If he does this, he probably likes you but keeps his feelings hidden. 

14. Time spent with you is never enough for him

This is what happens when a guy likes a girl/boy. He wants to spend time with you. This is one of the signs that he is emotionally attracted to you. If he puts a little more effort into creating a daily schedule that involves you, it’s safe to assume it is one of the signs he likes you but is playing it cool. Even if he has plans, he may ditch them for you. He’ll say the plan wasn’t important, or that he would have gotten bored with the people there, or he’ll lie that your friends canceled at the last moment – just to spend more time with you.

15. He finds excuses to touch you (not creepily)

A guy who likes you will find opportunities to touch you. So, if a guy is always ready to hug you, frequently touches your arm or shoulder, or looks for amusing reasons to be physically close to you, he may like you. Intimacy is an important part of any relationship afterall. He may try to move your hair out of your face, saying there was a small insect that he was trying to brush away. Silliness like this is one of the signs that this man is into you.

But if a guy makes you feel uneasy by touching you or pressing you too close, tell him to stop and take a step back. Please don’t be worried about hurting his feelings. He’ll apologize and promise not to do it again if he’s a decent person. Stay away from him or report him if this continues.

16. He will show off his strengths

When men want to impress someone, they seize opportunities to show off their physical strength. This is because men have been socialized to believe that the sight of a bulging and defined muscle will instantly melt hearts. 

According to research, toxic masculinity affects men by creating a deceitful image of what a physical body of a man must look like to be considered masculine or attractive. Nothing screams testosterone like helping you pick up the heaviest box or having an arm-wrestling match among pals. Keep an eye out for such signs he likes you but is playing it cool. Here’s how he’ll showcase his other strengths:

• Showing off his smart side
• Making sure you notice his unique sense of humor
• Showing his interest and knowledge in your favorite activities
• Showing that he’s financially stable

Related Reading: 21 Undeniable Signs That He Likes You

17. He will dress to impress (you)

A sure sign that you enamor him is the sudden and subtle changes in his smell, appearance, and clothing. This typically happens when a guy likes a girl/boy and wants them to notice him or impress them. 

According to a study, men communicate more effectively through actions than words. Even if those actions are camouflaged in excuses. So, expect a “Oh, you like my shirt? Thank you. It was on sale” instead of “Thank you, I wanted to look nice for you”.

If you are wondering why a guy acts silly around you and looks at you the way a man looks at a woman he likes, then you might also be wondering: Why isn’t he confessing already? Well, it could be one of the signs he likes you but is playing it cool. If only it were that easy for men to express exactly what’s going through their heads

FAQs

As a part of the Morning Lazziness series about empowering women who are encouraging and doing incredible things with their ideas in society, I had the pleasure of interviewing Julia Bao.

Dr. Julia Bao is the founder of BAO Laboratory, a natural skincare company that utilizes small molecule formulations to deliver nourishing and restorative benefits to the skin. With a background in analytical biochemistry, Julia is passionate about using science to create innovative and effective skincare products that align with her values of environmental stewardship and social responsibility. 

Many thanks for doing this for us; how would your best friend describe you?

If you ask my best friend, they would likely describe me as an entrepreneur driven by a passion for creating new opportunities and solving problems. They would probably say that I am always looking for ways to improve and innovate in my industry and am committed to staying humble and open to feedback to achieve growth and success. My best friend might also mention that I have a strong work ethic, a willingness to learn, and a commitment to excellence in everything I do. While I am proud of my accomplishments, I know there is always more to learn and ways to improve, and I am constantly striving to do so. 

How did the idea for your business come about? 

The idea for my business came about due to my passion for skincare and a desire to create effective, safe, and environmentally friendly products. After years of struggling with my own skin issues and being disappointed by the products available on the market, I decided to take matters into my own hands and develop my skincare formulations using natural, non-toxic ingredients. Through extensive research and experimentation, I discovered the benefits of small molecule formulation and the use of natural ingredients that are gentle yet effective on the skin. I wanted to create a skincare line that would improve the skin’s health and appearance and contribute to a more sustainable future for our planet. This led to the creation of my business, which is dedicated to providing high-quality skincare products formulated with natural ingredients, small molecules, and sustainable practices. Our mission is to help our customers achieve healthy, radiant skin while minimizing environmental impact.

Can you tell us the most interesting story that happened to you since you began your career?   

There was once an eye serum oil product launched in the North American market with very little attention from customers. Despite its unique formula and benefits, it failed to gain traction, and the company was considering discontinuing the product. However, the story took a surprising turn when the same product was launched in the Asian market. To the company’s surprise, the product became an instant hit, and sales skyrocketed. Customers raved about the product’s effectiveness, and it quickly gained a cult following. This story highlights the significant cultural differences in skincare preferences and routines between regions of the world. What may be popular or effective in one market may not necessarily translate to another. It also highlights the importance of market research and understanding the unique needs and preferences of customers in different regions when launching new skincare products. This story also emphasizes the potential for success in expanding businesses to new markets and the value of considering cultural and regional differences in product development and marketing strategies.

If you had a magic stick, which are the three things you would change in the world?

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Ensure everyone has access to basic needs: My first priority would be to ensure that every individual has access to basic needs such as clean water, food, shelter, and healthcare. This would help improve the quality of life for millions of people worldwide and provide them with the foundation they need to thrive. 

Promote global environmental sustainability: My second priority would be to promote global environmental sustainability. This would involve creating policies and initiatives that reduce carbon emissions, protect natural resources, and encourage conservation efforts. By protecting our planet, we can ensure that future generations have access to a healthy and thriving world. 

Increase access to education: My third priority would be increasing access to education for everyone, regardless of socioeconomic status. This would involve investing in educational programs, resources, and infrastructure that make it easier for people to access knowledge and learn new skills. By empowering people through education, we can help create a more equitable world where everyone has the opportunity to succeed.

What part of your life experience would you alter if you had the chance to?

My sincere belief is that every experience, both positive and negative, has played a role in shaping who I am today. While there may have been challenging moments or difficult decisions along the way, these experiences are opportunities for growth and learning. Without them, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. Rather than dwelling on past mistakes or missed opportunities, I prefer to focus on the lessons and skills I have gained from my experiences. This mindset allows me to move forward with confidence and continue to grow as a person. Therefore, if given a chance, I would not alter any part of my life experience. Each step I took, good and bad, has played a crucial role in shaping me into the person I am today, and I am grateful for every experience that has brought me to this point.

What is the definition of “beauty according to you.”

I believe beauty is not limited to physical appearance or aesthetic features. True beauty comes from within and reflects one’s health, confidence, and inner qualities. When people feel healthy, confident, and at peace with themselves, they radiate a unique beauty that cannot be replicated by physical features alone. While physical beauty can be pleasing to the eye, it is essential to recognize that it does not define a person’s worth or value. I believe true beauty comes from being comfortable in one’s own skin and embracing one’s unique qualities and characteristics. Ultimately, the definition of beauty is a personal and subjective experience, and it can vary greatly between individuals. However, I believe that beauty is best defined by qualities such as health, confidence, and inner peace.

What challenges did you face at the start of your entrepreneurial journey, and how did you overcome those?

At the start of my entrepreneurial journey, I faced several challenges due to my lack of overall business operation and sales marketing experience. Starting a business requires a diverse skill set that includes marketing, finance, and management, among other areas. As a first-time entrepreneur, I had to learn these skills on the go and figure out how to navigate the complexities of running a successful business. To overcome these challenges, I sought out successful role models who could provide guidance and mentorship. I read books and articles about entrepreneurship, attended conferences, and networked with other business owners to gain insights and advice. I also worked hard to acquire new skills and knowledge in areas I needed to improve. This involved taking courses and workshops, hiring consultants or mentors with specific expertise, and practicing my skills through trial and error. While there were obstacles and setbacks along the way, I overcame these challenges by staying focused, committed, and adaptable. By learning from successful role models and working hard to develop the necessary skills and knowledge, I was able to build a successful business and achieve my goals as an entrepreneur.

In moments of self-doubt or adversity, how do you build yourself back up?

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In moments of self-doubt or adversity, I find it helpful to focus on the present moment and remind myself to look forward, not backward. Rather than dwelling on past mistakes or missed opportunities, I try to channel my energy into productive activities that can help me move forward. I also find it helpful to work hard and stay committed to my goals, even when facing setbacks or obstacles. This involves setting achievable goals and taking action to accomplish them rather than letting self-doubt or fear hold me back. In addition, I try to surround myself with positive influences, whether it’s through connecting with supportive friends and family, seeking out mentors or advisors, or engaging in activities that bring me joy and fulfillment. Ultimately, building myself back up in moments of self-doubt or adversity requires a combination of self-reflection, hard work, and a positive mindset. By staying focused on my goals and maintaining a sense of purpose, I can overcome challenges and continue to grow and succeed as a person.

How have you used your success to make the world a better place?

As a company, we have always been committed to improving the world through our products and actions. Our focus on creating healthy skincare products with natural ingredients has helped many people with skin problems improve their skin health and feel more confident. In addition, we also support charity and research initiatives that align with our values and mission. We have contributed to various organizations that support environmental sustainability, social justice, and healthcare initiatives, among other causes. As a responsible and successful company, we believe it is our duty to give back to our community and help create a positive impact in the world. Using our success to support important causes and initiatives, we hope to inspire others to do the same and make a difference in their communities.

What valuable advice would you give new entrepreneurs starting?

As a seasoned entrepreneur, I would offer three valuable pieces of advice to new entrepreneurs starting out: 

Meet intelligent people: Building relationships and networking with smart, successful people is crucial to success in any industry. Seek mentors, advisors, and peers who can offer insights and guidance, and take advantage of opportunities to learn from those who have already succeeded in your field. 

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Work hard: Starting a new business requires a lot of hard work and dedication. Be prepared to put in the time and effort needed to achieve your goals, even if it means sacrificing some personal time or leisure activities. Staying focused and committed to your vision is essential to achieving success. 

Trust yourself: Believe in yourself and your abilities as an entrepreneur. Have confidence in your ideas and your ability to execute them, and don’t be afraid to take calculated risks and try new things. Trusting yourself and your vision is key to overcoming obstacles and achieving your goals. 

By following these three pieces of advice, new entrepreneurs can position themselves for success and achieve their goals in the competitive business world.

What are your plans for the future? How do you plan to grow your company?

As a health-focused company, our plan for the future is to continue expanding our business in the skincare and healthcare products industries. We are committed to creating products that use natural and organic ingredients to promote health and wellness, and we believe there is a significant market opportunity in this area. We plan to introduce new products that address specific health concerns, such as eczema, psoriasis, and other skin conditions, while also expanding our product line to include healthcare products such as supplements and vitamins. In addition, we plan to leverage technology to improve our products and services, using innovative tools such as machine learning and artificial intelligence to optimize our formulations and improve customer experiences. We also plan to continue partnering with like-minded organizations to support environmental sustainability, social justice, and healthcare initiatives, among other causes. Overall, our goal is to become a leading brand in the skincare and healthcare industries, known for our commitment to natural and organic ingredients, innovative technology, and dedication to creating products that promote health and wellness.

What are the top 3 skills needed to be a successful entrepreneur, and why?

Adaptability: Entrepreneurship involves navigating a constantly changing landscape, and successful entrepreneurs must be able to adapt quickly to new challenges and opportunities. This requires a willingness to take risks, make difficult decisions, and pivot when necessary. 

Resilience: Building a successful business takes time, effort, and persistence. Successful entrepreneurs must be able to weather setbacks and failures along the way, staying motivated and focused on their goals in the face of adversity. 

Creativity: Successful entrepreneurs must be able to think creatively and innovatively, finding new solutions to old problems and identifying opportunities that others may overlook. This requires a willingness to challenge conventional thinking and take calculated risks to pursue their vision. 

Overall, successful entrepreneurs must be adaptable, resilient, and creative. These skills allow entrepreneurs to overcome challenges and seize opportunities to build successful businesses.

What role do you think social media plays in the business world today?

Social media has become an essential tool for businesses of all sizes in today’s marketplace. With billions of users across various platforms, social media offers a unique opportunity for businesses to connect with customers, promote their brand, and drive sales. Social media allows companies to reach customers in a targeted and cost-effective way, with the ability to tailor messages and content to specific demographics and interests. It also allows businesses to engage with customers directly, responding to feedback and inquiries in real-time. In addition, social media has become an important channel for brand building and reputation management. By creating compelling content and engaging with customers on social media, businesses can build a strong and loyal following, leading to increased brand awareness and customer loyalty. Looking to the future, social media will likely continue to play an increasingly important role in the business world. As connectivity becomes more transparent, businesses will need to stay on top of emerging trends and adapt their social media strategies to remain competitive and engage with customers effectively.

What would you want to be if you were not a businesswoman today?

As an entrepreneur, I do not define myself as a ‘businesswoman’ or limit myself to any particular title or role. Instead, I see myself as a person who is driven to pursue my passions and make a positive impact in the world. If I were not an entrepreneur, I would still strive to make a difference in my community and in the world at large. Whether it be through volunteering, supporting charitable causes, or pursuing other creative endeavors, I would seek to use my skills and talents to create positive change and make a meaningful contribution to society. Ultimately, I believe that success and fulfillment come from pursuing one’s passions and positively impacting the world, regardless of the specific title or role one may have.

Lastly, where do you see yourself in the next 10 years?

In the next 10 years, I plan to continue to pursue my passions and work hard to build upon the successes of my current project. Whether it be expanding into new markets, developing new products or technologies, or pursuing new creative endeavors, I am committed to continually growing and evolving as an entrepreneur and as a person. I also see myself using my success to make a positive impact in the world, whether it be through supporting charitable causes, promoting environmental sustainability, or pursuing other initiatives that align with my values and beliefs. Ultimately, I believe that the key to success and fulfillment is to continue pursuing one’s passions while also striving to make a positive impact in the world. I am confident I can achieve great things in the next 10 years and beyond by staying focused on my goals and remaining committed to my vision.

What is your favorite quote?

“Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do.” – Pele

A first date is an exciting and nerve-wracking experience. But fear not, with a little preparation and the right mindset, you can conquer those jitters and make a good impression. Here’s how…

Acknowledge and Accept Your Nerves

It’s perfectly normal to feel nervous before a first date. Instead of trying to suppress your nerves, acknowledge them and accept them as a natural part of the dating process. Remember that everyone feels nervous before a first date, and it’s okay to be anxious.

Be Prepared

Preparation can help ease your nerves. Plan ahead and have a clear idea of the date details, such as the time and location. Make If you’re meeting in person, research the venue so you know what to expect. Being prepared can help you feel more confident and in control.

Dress Comfortably

Choose an outfit that makes you feel comfortable and confident. Avoid wearing something that you’re not used to or that makes you feel self-conscious. Dressing comfortably can help you feel more at ease during the date and allow you to focus on getting to know your date rather than worrying about your appearance.

Be Yourself

Authenticity is key on a first date. Be yourself and let your personality shine. Trying to be someone you’re not can be exhausting and lead to disappointment later on. Embrace your quirks and imperfections, and show your date the real you. If your date doesn’t appreciate your genuine self, then they aren’t the right match for you.

Manage Expectations

It’s essential to manage your expectations and not put too much pressure on the first date. Remember that it’s just a meeting to get to know each other better, and it may not necessarily lead to a long-term relationship. Be open to the possibilities, but also be realistic. Try to approach the date with a positive mindset and enjoy the experience for what it is, without putting too much pressure on the outcome.

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Your self-esteem is what makes you feel good or bad about yourself. Thus, it is crucial to have high self-esteem so that you do well in different aspects of life, be it relationships or work life. While people with low esteem may feel insecure about themselves, you can always choose to build your self-esteem. 

There are different natural ways you can boost your self-confidence. 

In this blog post, we’ve compiled a list of five ways you can build your confidence and live a better life. Go on reading! 

List Your Achievements 

To ignite the confidence within you, start by listing down your accomplishments. Take a pause, reflect, and think of your past achievements and note them down. 

This will remind you of your strengths and motivate you to believe in yourself so that you can work towards your goals. You can do this practice every now and then whenever you feel demotivated. 

Learn a New Skill

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You gain confidence by learning something new. If there’s any art or skill that you have always wanted to learn, the right time is now. When you learn a new skill and are good at it, it boosts your confidence and hence increases your self-esteem. 

Moreover, when you excel in something that corresponds with your talents, you automatically enhance your sense of competency. 

Work On Your Body 

How you feel about your body can also be a driving factor in boosting your self-confidence. If you are too skinny and feel insecure about it, work hard to put on some weight. Similarly, if you think you’re overweight, hit the gym to shed some pounds. 

Many people also indulge in self-pleasure to learn more about their bodies and feel good about themselves. By using toys like real whizzinator XXX, they feel relaxed and relieved, which eventually helps them boost their self-esteem. They get a more positive self-image, which encourages them to feel better about themselves. 

Work On Your Personality

Personality has a lot to contribute when it comes to developing self-confidence. If you like who you are, who you’re dressed up to every day, and how you greet others, you probably will have high self-esteem.

 If you are insecure about your own self, be it your physical appearance or just your behavior, you are likely to suffer from low self-esteem. Thus, work each and every day to build an attractive personality. 

Stop Worrying About Others Think

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What others think of you is none of your business. When you don’t affect your decisions by the thought of what others would think of you, you push your boundaries and strive for great things. And when you attain great things, you feel proud and good about yourself. 

Thus, do not let others’ opinions of you change who you are and who you want to be!  

Final Thoughts 

Self-doubt can be a challenging issue that can negatively impact one’s mental health and overall well-being. However, there are natural ways to boost self-esteem. By incorporating these practices into daily life, individuals can improve their self-esteem and build a more positive self-image. 

Remember to be kind to yourself and seek professional help if self-doubt persists. With these natural remedies, saying goodbye to self-doubt is possible.

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“I don’t care about looks when the person is good at heart.” This statement does not hold much weight in today’s online dating world, where looks, pickup lines, and Tinder icebreakers hold the key to a romantic connection. A study by Antonio Olivera-La Rosa from the Department of Psychology and Social Sciences, Colombia, shows that most of the users swipe right based on the other person’s appearance. This is, to be honest, quite justified with the Tinder user interface. I mean how are you supposed to look at people’s hearts right through their profiles?

Even if you nail your dating profile and get tons of matches, the question of what next may stare you in the face. After all, starting a conversation with a stranger can be just as daunting as deciding whom to swipe right on based on a virtual profile, if not more.
Not everybody is good at striking up a conversation and keeping it flowing can be even more arduous. So, a lot of users search for icebreakers online.

If you are on Tinder and do not know how to initiate a conversation with the people you match with, fret not. We’re here to help with some of the best icebreakers for Tinder. Good Tinder icebreakers, funny Tinder icebreakers, cheeky icebreakers for Tinder, creative conversation starters – you name it, and we’ve got it.

When To Use Ice-Breakers For Tinder?

According to a study, most users spend at least 12 hours a week finding a potential partner on dating websites. Yes, that’s true. That’s how much our generation yearns to have someone they can vibe with. Well, well! We cannot blame them given how fulfilling it can be to have a significant other you have a wholesome connection with.

However, the road from matching with someone to building that connection is rarely easy or straightforward. You could be left riddled with texting anxiety, especially on getting swiped right on dating apps. The harder you think of all the interesting ways to start the conversation, the tougher it can seem to come up with something interactive and flirty. In situations like this, Tinder icebreakers can help conversations lead somewhere.

• The technique of breaking the ice is usually used when two are trying to get to know each other
• It is also used when people are trying to find common ground
• A lot of times, a normal ‘hey’ seems too bland, and that is when good Tinder icebreakers can come to your rescue

Your first swipe might have taught you how challenging it can be to get that first few messages right. You can go with some cheesy lines but that’s not necessarily the best idea when you are talking for the first time. Instead, you can start with the funny icebreakers because humor is certainly the key. Later on, bring some interesting questions into the conversation to make it look like you are not just all about humor.

Where humor can help you make that favorable first impression whether on a first date or that first conversation on a dating app, do not try too hard to be funny. I mean, you would not want the other person to think you are desperate. Online dating can be quite tricky and you never know what the other person is thinking. It might be challenging to comprehend a person’s emotional flow, especially over initial online communication. So make an effort to speak subtly.

Related Reading: Tinder Etiquette: 25 Dos And Don’ts When Dating On Tinder

69 Tinder Icebreakers That Are Sure To Yield A Response

Tinder icebreakers can save you a lot of time in thinking about the best way to start the conversation. You can lead with a humorous Tinder opener and compliment your Tinder match to build a rapport with them. The best icebreakers for Tinder are those that are bound to yield a response from your match.

A few interesting questions can also do wonders. I mean, let’s be honest, don’t we love it when someone shows interest in us and asks questions? Here, we are going to tell you about some of the best Tinder icebreakers that are sure to get a conversation rolling.

1. Use some good openers

Starting the conversation can be a little difficult. This is the part where we get most confused about how to start. Well then, here are some conversation starters that can help:

1. Hello there! What brings you here?

2. What do you like to do in your free time?

3. Are you a tea or a coffee person?

4. What do you prefer – cats or dogs?

5. How would you rate me on a scale of 1-10?

6. What made you swipe right on my profile?

7. How do you usually initiate a conversation?

8. What attracts you most to a person – looks or personality?

9. What’s your idea of an ideal partner?

10. Would you rather go out or stay home?

2. Use humor

Your conversation can go in a terrific direction if you pepper it with some humor. You might be surprised to learn that girls are frequently drawn to funny men rather than attractive men. In Sexual Selection and Humor in Courtship, Jeffrey Hall, Ph.D., associate professor of communication studies at the University of Kansas, concluded that when strangers meet, the more times a man tries to be funny and the more times a woman laughs at these attempts, the more likely the woman is interested in dating.

Catching your Tinder match off-guard using humor can give you an advantage on your first date, but you need to know how to not have a dry sense of humor. Speaking of humor, the list below includes some excellent pickup lines and funny Tinder icebreakers that you can use as needed in your interactions with your matches:

11. What do you call a factory that makes okay products? A satisfactory

12. You must be a banana because you make me go bananas!

13. Are you a broom? ‘Cause you just swept me off my feet

14. Is your name Starbucks? Because I like you a latte

15. Life without you would be like a broken pencil – pointless

16. Are you a campfire? ‘Cause you are hot and I want to be near you

17. Is your last name Campbell’s Soup? ‘Cause you’re Mmmm, Mmmm Good

18. If I could rearrange the alphabet, I’d put my U and I together

19. Are you a fortune cookie? ‘Cause you make me feel lucky

20. Are you a dictionary? ‘Cause you add meaning to my life

Related Reading: 37 Funny Tinder Questions Your Matches Will Love

3. Get creative

Pickup lines are fantastic if you don’t come up with something strange that makes your Tinder match uncomfortable. That is the last thing you would want, I assure you. In light of this, you should use creativity when writing your messages. Make sure not to seem overly cheesy, unless they are cheesy too. With the aid of some of the best Tinder icebreakers, you can take the conversation forward.

21. Hey, do you know karate? Cause your smile gives me a kick

22. Hey, are you busy? Can you please spare me a few minutes so that I can hit on you?

23. If I were to ask you out on a date, would your answer be the same as the answer to this question?

24. You don’t know how many times I had to swipe left to find you

25. Are you French? Because ma-damn, you’re fine

26. Hey! Sorry, I guess I deleted your last message. What did you say?

27. Do you have any raisins? How about a date?

28. Can I follow you home? My parents always told me to follow my dreams

29. Do you know how much a polar bear weighs? Enough to break the ice

30. Are you French? Because Eiffel for you.

Related Reading: 50 Corny Pick Up Lines To Take Your Dating Game Up A Notch

4. Compliment them

People may underplay the effect of compliments, but almost everyone secretly loves them. Try to compliment your Tinder match; they will certainly appreciate it. Be mindful that too many compliments could make you seem disingenuous. Here are some tips on how to use compliments the right way.

31. Are you related to Jean-Claude Van Damme? Because Jean-Claude Van Damme you’re sexy!

32. Did your license get suspended for driving all these guys crazy?

33. Did you just come out of the oven? Because you’re hot

34. I was blinded by your beauty; I’m going to need your name and phone number for insurance purposes

35. Are you Harry Potter? ‘Cause you’re casting a spell on me

36. Something’s wrong with my eyes because I can’t take them off you

37. Do you know CPR? Because you are taking my breath away!

38. You’re so pretty that I just forgot my pickup line

39. I must be in a museum because you truly are a work of art

40. Are you from Tennessee? Because you’re the only 10 I see!

5. Ask their opinions

Everybody likes to be heard and express their opinions and beliefs. If the conversation dies and you actually want to keep it going for a long time, ask their opinions on things! It could be anything, any topic that you might want to talk about. Here’s how you can do that.

41. What’s one thing that would make you want to wake up every day?

42. What is an ideal day for you?

43. How did your last Tinder date go?

44. What is your opinion about online dating?

45. What are your thoughts on global warming?

46. If you could be anyone for one day, who would you be?

47. Would you rather be the most intelligent person in the world or the most beautiful?

48. Do you prefer texting or calling?

49. What trait in a guy is the biggest turn-off for you?

50. What is your comfort food?

Related Reading: 85 Get To Know Me Questions To Connect – New 2022 List

6. Play a little game

If you’re running low on conversation topics, you can mix things up by playing a classic game – truth or dare, for example. C’mon! It’s not too bad, at least not worse than someone ghosting you because you’re boring, right? These are the questions you can ask them to make it better.

51. If I kissed you, would you kiss me back?

52. What’s one thing that makes you the most uncomfortable?

53. Tell me something you don’t want me to know

54. Do you have any regrets about your life choices?

55. What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever done, or that someone has done for you?

56. What is the one you are most passionate about?

57. Tell me one misconception people have about you

58. If someone annoys or irritates you, how do you treat them?

59. What kind of music do you love listening to all time?

60. What is the most valuable thing for you in a friendship?

7. Use their profile to think of conversation topics

Nothing is more attractive than a person who can recall specifics. Try to pick up on minor things in their dating profile and bring them up in conversation; this will encourage them to chat with you more. Here are some examples:

61. Where is the second picture in your profile from?

62. (Color) suits you really well

63. Your shoes (or anything) in the last post looked amazing. Where’d you get that from?

64. Are you a (name) fan? I assumed from your bio

65. Your name is quite unique. What does it mean?

66. Is it your best friend in the third picture on your profile?

67. Your bio is witty. Made me wanna rethink my own

68. That’s a really great background in your fourth post

69. How did you like (place’s name)? I saw you’ve been there

Related Reading: How To Respond To Pick-Up Lines On Tinder – 11 Tips

A study by Juan Ramón Barrada and Ángel Castro published in the National Library of Medicine shows that around 40% of people are dependent on dating apps to get a partner. A sizable majority of them turn to the internet to look for Tinder icebreakers and other online dating tips to get the ball rolling. If you’re one of them, we’ve got your back. While building a deep, meaningful connection with someone you meet online is a challenge in a league of its own, rest assured these icebreakers are sure to get your conversation flowing. That’s the very first step in the quest of finding a partner online. Let us know which ones worked the best for you.

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I will uncover lesser-known, yet highly effective psychological principles to establish authentic relationships.

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Recognise and Validate Her Individuality

Acknowledging a woman’s unique qualities and experiences is paramount to fostering genuine connections.

Make an effort to understand her perspective, validate her feelings, and demonstrate your appreciation for her individuality.

• Actively listen and offer your own insights to show you’re engaged in the conversation.

• Dismiss her opinions or make her feel unimportant.

This approach will enhance trust and make her feel valued in the relationship.

Develop a Growth Mindset

A growth mindset, as opposed to a fixed mindset, encourages continuous improvement and learning.

Embrace this mentality in your relationships by remaining open to feedback and change.

• Share personal goals and encourage her to do the same, supporting each other’s growth.

• Become defensive or resistant to change.

This mindset will allow both of you to evolve and grow together, nurturing the bond between you.

Understand Attachment Styles

Attachment styles, developed during our formative years, play a critical role in how we form and maintain relationships.

By familiarising yourself with these styles, you can better comprehend the dynamics at play and adapt your approach accordingly.

• Implement strategies tailored to her attachment style to meet her emotional needs effectively.

• Fail to consider her emotional needs when making decisions or addressing conflicts.

Recognising the nuances of her attachment style will enable you to support her emotional needs effectively.

Cultivate a Sense of Humor

Humor can act as a powerful bonding agent, fostering closeness and creating shared experiences.

• Engage in fun activities that encourage laughter and playfulness.

• Don’t overuse humor as a defense mechanism to avoid addressing serious issues.

By integrating humor into your interactions, you can build rapport, alleviate tension, and demonstrate your ability to appreciate the lighter side of life.

Create Shared Experiences and Memories

Engage in activities, hobbies, and adventures together that not only facilitate conversation but also allow for the creation of shared memories.

• Plan outings, trips, or activities that both of you enjoy and can participate in together.
• Document your shared experiences through photos, videos, or a journal to look back on.

• Being overly controlling or inflexible about plans and activities.
• Focusing solely on your own interests and neglecting her preferences.

These experiences will deepen your bond and create a solid foundation for your relationship.

Be a Reliable Support System

Providing consistent, reliable support demonstrates your commitment to the relationship and reassures her that she can rely on you in times of need.

• Be present and engaged during both the highs and lows of her life.

• Disappear or be emotionally unavailable when she needs support.

Offer encouragement, assistance, and a listening ear to build trust and strengthen your bond.

Summary

• Build lasting connections by validating individuality, embracing a growth mindset, and understanding attachment styles.
• Strengthen bonds through shared experiences, humor, and reliable support while avoiding negative behaviors.
• Prioritise open communication and you will be able to create lasting relationships with women.

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Resources

1. Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert. Harmony Books. John Gottman, a renowned psychologist and relationship expert, shares evidence-based strategies for building successful relationships. His book covers essential principles like fostering trust, appreciating individuality, and maintaining a strong friendship, all of which are key to lasting connections with women.

2. Levine, A., & Heller, R. (2010). Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love. TarcherPerigee. This book delves into the world of attachment theory, explaining how different attachment styles impact our adult relationships. Levine and Heller provide practical tools and advice for navigating relationships based on each individual’s unique attachment style.

3. Brown, B. (2012). Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Gotham Books. In this groundbreaking book, Brené Brown explores the power of vulnerability and its significance in building authentic relationships. Brown shares research-based insights on how embracing vulnerability can lead to deeper connections, increased empathy, and more fulfilling relationships.

As a part of the Morning Lazziness series about empowering women who are encouraging and doing incredible things with their ideas in society, I had the pleasure of interviewing Sonia Kahlon Founder, EverBlume

Many thanks for doing this for us; how would your besties describe you?

They would describe me as energetic, excitable, funny, super reliable, and…full of opinions. 

How did the idea for your business come about? 

I was sober for 5 years when I was blindsided by the breakup of my relationship of 18 years and had no idea how I would be able to maintain my sobriety and mental health.

For years I had been a lurker at recovery meetings, but now I found they were either too large for me to feel comfortable sharing or the feedback and conversation I wanted were discouraged. I needed a small group of people maintaining their sobriety through a life transition to listen, give advice, and encouragement. 

So I created EverBlume, which provides online small group recovery meetings with a recovery coach facilitator where each group is matched based on the characteristics of its members. The goal is conversation and connection. We are building a community that leverages peer support.  

Can you tell us the most interesting story that happened to you since you began your career?   

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One of the most eye-opening experiences I had was selling my business to a private-equity group. I had heard about corporate bros but hadn’t had any real interactions with them. I knew there was a gap in investing in women minority founders, but it was the process of selling my business that really illuminated the culture behind startup funding. I felt out of place with these white, privileged, ivy league educated men and found myself saying and doing these that were so contrary to my belief system just to fit in. 

If you had a magic stick, which are the three things you would change in the world?

I think the ease with which we fracture relationships in Western culture is staggering. I see the dangers of the opposite extreme, as seen in Eastern cultures where family is preserved at any cost. But in my life, I’ve had people sever the relationship when it gets a little tough. 

The stigma of addiction and mental health – I think that if we reduced the stigma, we would see a huge shift of mindset and people seeking treatment who were otherwise suffering in silence.

Mass incareration – this is one of the most detrimental things to our communities, and the effects ripple throughout generations. 

What part of your life experience would you alter if you had the chance to?

I try to look at almost everything that has happened ‘to’ me as something that happened ‘for’ me. Some days that is extremely difficult and doesn’t feel authentic. I wouldn’t necessarily alter anything, but I wish I were less sensitive to certain experiences. For example – my divorce, I wouldn’t change the outcome since so much good has come out of it, but if there were a way to change the damage it did to me and the pain it caused me, I would. 

5 pieces of Jewelry that are essential for every woman.

• Chandelier earrings
• Diamond stud earrings
• A giant cocktail ring
• Something in rose gold
• A personalized necklace

According to you, what is the definition of “beauty according to you.”

Beauty, for me is about embracing the features that both make you uniquely you and also tie you to your ancestors. I used to see Indian brides wearing makeup that lightened their skin tone like 5 shades. And I understand culturally where that standard of beauty comes from, but it’s just incorrect. I also have a beauty mark under my eye that is pretty easily covered up with makeup, but I go in with q-tip and wipe makeup off it so it is visible. 

What challenges did you face at the start of your entrepreneurial journey, and how did you overcome those?

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Even though I launched, scaled, and sold a business in 2016, I have always suffered from imposter syndrome. I still think I still struggle with it, but I try to pause, take a deep breath, and focus on what is true and not the story I am telling myself. 

In moments of self-doubt or adversity, how do you build yourself back up?

Self-care and self-compassion are my greatest tools in times of doubt or adversity. Sometimes those feelings of doubt come from pushing against a brick wall, and self-care and compassion give us a moment to step back, reflect and redirect while also giving ourselves the space and love we need to be our best selves.

How do movies potentially affect our culture and our youth growing up today?

There is so much content out there, but I find there are so many good movies and bingeable shows, and it’s just up to us to make good decisions about what to consume.  So many movies make powerful social statements and shift mindsets. Some of my most profound reflections have come from watching movies. 

How have you used your success to make the world a better place?

I am active with several non-profit organizations. One that provides entrepreneurship training to the incarcerated and formerly incarcerated. As well as job skill training to victims of sex trafficking.

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But mostly, I share my story of mental illness, addiction, and recovery with as many people as I can in hopes that someone will resonate and feel inspired to make a change.

What valuable advice would you give new entrepreneurs starting?

Set up a sustainable lifestyle that maintains and improves your physical and mental health. Make working a part of that lifestyle but not let it take over, which is easy to do. Setting up a workable schedule from the beginning is important to healthy habits. 

What are your plans for the future? How do you plan to grow this company?

My plans are to continue to scale our membership and use data to hone in on what people need and respond to and adapt to these needs.  The business changes every day, and my goal is to see, reflect and act on these changes. 

What are the top 3 skills needed to be a successful entrepreneur, and why?

• The ability to self-reflect – and see your skills and weaknesses
• The ability to delegate – you need to be able to focus on growth and systems
• Relentless Passion – otherwise, you won’t be able to sustain the level of commitment and work it takes to build a successful business

What role do you think social media plays in the business world today?

I’m in that shoulder generation of the internet. When I started college, the internet was just coming out, I didn’t have a cell phone until I was 21 years old. So for me, social media is just a little less a part of my DNA and always feels a little strange, but I think it’s important for any company to be active on social media and engage with their customers.

What would you want to be if you were not a businesswoman today?

A journalist. As a child of immigrant parents, my career options felt limited to – a doctor, dentist, or pharmacist, and I picked the one in the middle. I’m not sure I ever had a burning passion for dentistry, and certainly not in the way I do for being a recovery coach. I have an unrelenting curiosity and get such joy from writing that I think would be well suited for journalism. 

Lastly, where do you see yourself in the next 10 years?

That is so tough because if I’ve learned anything in the last year, it’s that you never know where your life will take you. Given that, I think I will be making a positive social impact in a community with struggles I can resonate with. 

What is your favorite quote?

“Between your greatest pain and your passion lies your purpose.”