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When your mind is stuck on someone, like a song you can’t push out of your head, do you ever pause to ponder if they’re thinking of you, too? Have you ever looked up cosmic clues and psychic signs someone misses you? Like when thoughts of what could’ve, should’ve, might’ve been with someone toss and turn in your head at 3 AM, do you wish for some kind of sign or hint from the universe that they are secretly longing for you as well?
They say energy flows where attention goes. If thoughts can manifest our realities, surely someone else’s thoughts can wriggle their way into our awareness when they’re directed at us? Going by anecdotal (and even scientific and documentary) cues, they sure can. But how? Let’s delve into it.
21 Psychic Signs Someone Misses You
It’s been said that we are all connected. To each other, biologically. To the earth, chemically. And to the rest of the universe, atomically. But there’s another kind of connection that manifests every once in a while:
It’s when you ring up someone and find they were just about to call you
Or you know who is calling even before you pick up the phone (this study actually looked into this)
It’s when you wake up at night a nanosecond before they message you
And it’s when you serendipitously run into someone who’s been popping in and out your head for days on end
It’s inexplicable and irrational. And it feels supernatural, maybe a touch psychic. But it’s what reminds us that we are more than just bits of stardust steadily accumulating small realities. That we are connected by a kind of telepathy to the people we open up our hearts and souls to. The kind that doesn’t need psychic abilities to decrypt.
So how to tell if someone really misses you or if endless and intense thoughts of you are crossing someone’s mind? Well, here are some psychic signs someone is thinking about you:
1. A sudden overwhelm may grip you and knock the wind out of you
Perhaps it’s been an ordinary day that began in an ordinary way. But as you sip your coffee and watch the evening shadows dance on the sidewalk or grab a bite out with friends, your heart starts to feel heavy. And a strange, indescribable sadness or overwhelm descends on you. But you can’t really pinpoint why. This could be because thoughts of you have taken seed in someone’s mind, and bit by bit, they’ve grown and taken up all the space — to the point they can’t think of anyone else:
Maybe the feelings you’re feeling are nothing but subconscious signs he misses you, or that he wakes up every day thinking of you
Or they are lying awake at night, tracing lines around the stars and wondering if the constellations will line up and link your paths again
2. A jumble of feelings or mixed-up moods can be signs from the universe that someone is thinking of you
Sometimes, rather than overwhelming sadness finding your address, here’s what happens when their thoughts run interference in your mind:
You experience feelings that are all over the place – these can be telepathic clues or cosmic signs he secretly misses you
Perhaps you are unable to focus on anything
Maybe you feel sudden mood swings or unexpected emotions and there’s no concrete (or medical) reason for them
Researchers have found that electromagnetic signals produced by your heart can affect the brainwaves of people near you. So, isn’t there a possibility that someone’s feelings for you can cross the gulf between you two and run circles in your mind?
3. If you’re thinking of them, perhaps it’s because you’re on their mind
So when you think of someone, do they think of you, too? Can thoughts create some sort of psychic connection between you and someone else? Can it be strong enough to lead them to act on it?
Say you think of your parents, and your mom calls almost the very next instant. Or, you think of a friend living far away, and the next day, they call up and speak to you for hours. They may even say they remembered you and felt like talking. Such telepathy works only if two people think of each other at the same time, says a Quora user.
So if you’re wondering:
Why am I missing them all of a sudden?
Why am I thinking of my ex for no apparent reason?
Then there’s a good possibility that you’re in their thoughts, too. But if they are doing nothing about it, they probably have their reasons for it.
4. How to know if someone misses you without contact? Your dreams may just tell you that
Does dreaming about your ex mean they miss you? Is a recurring dream a sign of a soulmate connection? A message from a twin flame? Or a psychic sign someone is thinking about you sexually? Or are dreams simply memories? Lost hopes? Ghosts of unexpressed feelings? Or do we dream so that we can be with someone all the time, as author A.A. Milne suggests?
While much in dreams is open to interpretation, there are reams of personal experiences and accounts, online and offline, to suggest that dreams do have some power to connect or even bring people closer. But even if they didn’t, if your ex is in your dreams or someone you love or just met is showing up in vivid technicolor while you sleep, isn’t it far more interesting to believe it’s because they’re preoccupied with you?
At times, a dream is your subconscious mind giving you a nudge. Maybe you’re dreaming of them because you’re:
Dwelling on them
Thinking of reaching out to them
Have unresolved feelings
Trying to get closure and healing, as sleep researcher Rosalind Cartwright says
Whatever the case, it would do well to dwell on John Lennon’s advice: “A dream you dream alone is only a dream. But a dream you dream together is reality.”
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5. Sometimes you can ‘literally’ feel it if someone really misses you
You broke up a year ago, but you can still feel their energy. Maybe it feels like:
A sudden feeling of warmth
A tingling
A shiver
Energy vibrations
Electric sensations
Goosebumps for no apparent reason
And that’s making you wonder: “Can you feel if someone misses you and wants you back?” Or, instead of these physical sensations, you experience a non-physical caress or a phantom touch. But rather than spooking you or sending you panicking, it feels calm, comforting, or strangely reassuring. Like a hug. Perhaps “you can feel them so bad you almost think they were right there with you,” says a Quora user. These can all be spiritual signs she is thinking about you or telepathic signs he misses you deeply enough to send spiritual energy your way.
6. Hearing their voice or them calling out your name
You’re crossing a busy intersection when, for a heart-thumping second, you can swear you heard them call out your name. When you look around, no one’s there. Maybe every third voice you hear on the TV or radio sounds eerily like theirs. And it’s making your heart flip, flop, and flutter – and also making you worry if something’s wrong with your head.
But it’s possible that the reasons you’re hearing them are more spiritual than psychological. Maybe they really are psychic signs someone loves you and is waiting for you to come back.
7. Maybe you’re the one blurting out their name and you swear you don’t know why
Rather than hearing them call out your name, do you find that you can’t quite stop taking theirs, accidentally or inadvertently? Or perhaps their name is jumping out at you pretty much everywhere: at work, all the signs you read on your commute, and even the people you meet are mentioning that name.
These could be telepathic signs he misses you and regrets hurting you. It could mean they are trying to find a way back into your heart, or these signs could indicate that you’re subconsciously longing for her again.
8. If your ear rings or burns, it could mean they’re not only missing you, but talking about you
At times, signs from the universe that someone is thinking of you can be more physiological. For instance, a sudden ringing or burning sensation in the ears could indicate someone is not just missing you, but talking about you as well.
As per folklore research, if your right ear burns, someone is saying something good about you. But if it’s the left, it may be far from complimentary. When it comes to physical signs, it’s better to double-check, though. Sometimes, ringing ears may simply mean you have tinnitus and a burning of ears may point to a syndrome instead.
9. A case of hiccups
How to know if someone misses you without contact? You may need to crack a case of insistent or random hiccups for that. “An Indian old wives’ tale says that you get hiccups when somebody misses you. If you are able to name this person, the hiccups stop. Oh, the number of crushes we have named and renamed in the hope that they might be missing us!” recalls a Quora user.
Whether hiccups are an indication you ate or drank too quickly, a spiritual sign, or plain old superstition, isn’t it nice to think someone or maybe even your soulmate is thinking of you?
Instead of focusing on finding reasons, “I would be happy at least for those five minutes that somebody is missing me and thinking who the person would be,” says another Quora user.
10. Sudden sneezes could be clues that someone really misses you
In many ways, we are all hardwired to look for meanings. To see the “extra” in the ordinary. The signs and omens in the everyday. There are many who believe there are hidden meanings even in the humble sneeze:
In Japan, people believe that you sneeze if someone so much as mentions your name somewhere, says a Reddit user.
In some cultures, it is believed that two or five sneezes in a row mean someone is thinking of you
But if you sneeze thrice, then their thoughts of you could be more romantically inclined
So if you’re sneezing and none of the usual suspects like a cold, sinus infection, allergy, dust, or pollen can explain it, maybe keeping count of your sneezes could be an interesting exercise. Because it could be a sign she is interested in you or one of the signs he secretly misses you.
You’re not sleep-deprived. Nor have you strained your eyes. You haven’t had too many shots of coffee. Nor are you suffering from a bad case of allergies. Then if your eye twitches a lot without any warning or justification, it could be among the subconscious signs he misses you or she’s losing sleep over you. But this thought will bring cold comfort unless they get in touch with you and tell you that they like you.
12. How to know if someone misses you spiritually? You will feel it in your gut
Our brain and gut are connected, and not just physiologically. So if your mind can sense when they’re thinking about you, there’s a chance you will know it in the pit of your stomach, too. So, whether it’s a gut feeling/gut instinct, if you’ve been frequently feeling strongly that your partner or your ex is missing you, it could very well be true.
If someone is worried about you or spending a lot of their time reminiscing about what you had together, there’s a chance it could manifest as:
Mid-meal discomfort, like your food suddenly getting stuck in your throat
An upset stomach or a stomach ache
A sinking feeling in your gut for no obvious reason
13. Spotting a butterfly could mean someone is sending loving thoughts your way
Besides physical sensations, there are many other signs and symbols that could also indicate someone misses you. A butterfly, for instance. In many cultures, butterflies hold spiritual significance as symbols of hope and transformation. Some people believe they carry spiritual messages. So, if they perch upon you, it could be a sign that:
A loved one you lost recently or someone you are connected to is thinking of you fondly
It could mean that an ex still feels butterflies when thinking of you, or is even trying to manifest you back into their life
14. Finding white feathers may hold a clue to their feelings for you
In many cultures, birds are believed to be connected to the heavens and are, by extension, considered carriers of spiritual messages. And their feathers signify that guidance, love, and protection are at hand. So, finding a white feather in an unusual place or repeatedly could be a sign the universe is trying to tell you about someone’s feelings of love and longing for you. Or that a soulmate or a twin flame is nearer than you think.
15. If someone misses you, even the numbers you spot could line up and point to them
Numerologists associate numbers with:
Energy
Intentions
Vibrations
So if you look at your phone, a clock, a billboard, a receipt, a bank statement, a license plate – well, pretty much everywhere – and see the same patterns of numbers repeat, maybe you can put it down to providence or fate. The only confirmation for this interesting phenomenon, maybe even a telepathic connection, can come from the one whose attention is turned on you.
16. You hear the strains of an all-too-familiar tune
Maybe it’s a song you know they liked. Or one that held special meaning for the two of you. You woke up with it playing in your head or you’re hearing it after a while. But now, all its words seem to be calling out to you. And bringing a flood of old memories or long-buried feelings bubbling up to the surface.
You’re wondering if that person is aching for you
They might be listening to the song and it’s reminding them of you
Perhaps you’re asking the universe for some signs or symbols that this person wants to get back in touch with you
Well, that’s just what the universe may be up to. The song may really be a message about a cosmic connection for you.
17. They pop up on your social media or all the posts on your feed seem connected to them
So how to tell if your ex misses you? There may be actual signs like accidental likes on some of your older social media posts. Ruling out serial stalkers, if someone is interested in you and curious about how you’re doing, it’s quite likely that they may scroll through your feed and check up on you. Or maybe all the posts, memes, or GIFs you see on your feed are making you think of them lately.
This could lead to something more. You might receive a “hi” from them as soon as you pick up the phone and start typing a message to them. In that case, you probably won’t need to look up psychic signs someone loves you to figure out what’s going on in their head.
18. Seeing reminders of them everywhere can be a sign from the universe that someone is missing you
So have you been seeing signs of an ex everywhere? You sit down at a cafe and spot an old book that they loved or wanted. Maybe you post a review for the cafe and actually find their comment sitting just two posts beneath yours. And that’s not all. Lately, you’re seeing reminders of them everywhere you go and every place you look. And you can’t help but feel familiar stirrings of nostalgia and a deep sense of longing for them. Maybe you even wonder if your ex has moved on or is still hung up on you.
All these reminders could indeed be psychic signs someone misses you. But, researchers suggest, they could just as easily be frequency illusion – perhaps you are noticing all the signs and coincidences because you are looking for them. Maybe because you’re still in love with an ex.
Signs from the universe someone is missing you
19. You run into them – in the form of other people
Sometimes, these can be hints that the universe has taken notice of someone’s thoughts of you and is trying to remind you of them:
Many people that you meet nowadays are connected to an ex somehow
Even the strangers you meet at a yoga class or elsewhere connect back to an old flame or friend
Maybe even your LinkedIn feed is showing photos of them with an acquaintance you just made
20. You’re running into them at odd times and strange places
So instead of people connected to them, are you actually bumping into them? And that too just when you were thinking about them? Maybe at these chance meetings, you’ve noticed some lingering sexual tension. And you wonder if the twitch in your lip lately could be one of the psychic signs someone is thinking about you sexually. You wouldn’t be far off the mark here. Synchronistic encounters can often be a cosmic nudge. A sign the universe is trying to get you to think of love possibilities and second chances in relationships.
21. A strong urge to be with them could be a sign they feel the same way
What happens when two people’s thoughts are turned toward each other? They may feel a magnetic pull, a deep sense of connection, and a strong urge to be together. So if you’re seeing the signs and feeling that way, maybe it’s not too late. After all, aren’t some bonds forged in the fires of fate?
Key Pointers
Sometimes, if someone misses us, the universe may take notice and give us a hint
This hint can come as sudden or mixed-up feelings and emotions
Sometimes, someone’s feelings for us can be strong enough to touch us in various ways or make us dream of them
At times, cosmic clues may be hidden in numbers, feathers, or even burning ears and eye twitches
Or they may be more direct and take the form of synchronicities, serendipities, and chance meetings
At the end of the day, love is equal parts chance and choice. The universe can cause our paths to cross or nudge us together. It can even send hints and signs and second chances our way. But the signs will lead us back together only if we choose to walk on that path again.
The Planned Parenthood Federation of America told staff in June it would be pausing its Emergency Access Fund, which helped cover travel costs for people seeking an abortion. In some cases, these funds were even being used to help patients receiving care at clinics not affiliated with Planned Parenthood.
In an internal email shared with me by staff members from multiple Planned Parenthood affiliates, PPFA said it received $4.5 million to fund the emergency access program in fiscal year 2023, but that “we unfortunately expect significantly fewer resources for the program” in 2024.
PPFA, the national parent organization of regional Planned Parenthood affiliates, will pause the fund starting on August 1. The email directed affiliate staff to “put new processes into place that do not rely on PPFA EAF funding.”
The email suggests that more funding may become available for patient travel expenses once PPFA’s 2024 budget is finalized. However, even a brief pause in the availability of these funds could be devastating for people seeking an abortion.
Abortion funds and practical support organizations across the country are reporting a drop in donations after the “rage-giving” spike that followed the Supreme Court’s decision overturning Roe v. Wade last year.
One less source of funding for the many patients who need to leave their home states for an abortion could prevent some from accessing care. It also leaves already cash-strapped abortion funds to fill in the gaps.
One staff member said pausing the fund forced their affiliate to stop all funding of practical support for patients. A staff member at a different affiliate said they were directed to send patients to local abortion funds instead.
Some sources questioned whether money was really the issue. A recent wave of layoffs at PPFA left many of the organization’s programs understaffed, including PPFA’s Patient Navigator program, they said.
A PPFA spokesperson gave the following statement:
Planned Parenthood’s Emergency Access Fund (EAF) is one among many funding streams that PPFA and Planned Parenthood affiliates offer to provide financial assistance to abortion-seeking patients in need. Our highest priority is ensuring we are supporting patients with the greatest need in a rapidly changing abortion access landscape. PPFA is currently evaluating the EAF and plans to implement a new system for distributing patient travel support funds equitably across the country.
In the year since the Supreme Court struck down Roe v. Wade, emboldened anti-abortion extremists in statehouses and courtrooms have worked tirelessly to restrict access. Fortunately, reproductive justice advocates are not sitting idly by. In states where abortion remains legal and fiercely protected, we are going further by doubling down on our efforts to expand abortion access and make it more equitable wherever we can.
Here in Rhode Island, we got it done. Our little state has not only codified the right to an abortion, we also recently passed a law allowing Medicaid recipients and state employees to use their insurance to get abortions. The Equality in Abortion Coverage Act (EACA) expands coverage to about 32,000 Rhode Islanders, including health professionals, college professors, students, and their families—not to mention the 25 percent of residents covered by Medicaid, about 77,000 of whom are people of childbearing age. Before our state legislature passed the EACA, none of these people had health insurance that provided abortion coverage. We brought down a critical barrier for low-income Rhode Islanders and made sure people can afford their abortions.
While we may be the smallest state in the country, we’ve scored some of the biggest wins in this fight—and our work can serve as a roadmap for other states. Now more than ever, it is critical to continue expanding equitable access for all and ensure abortion is safe, legal, and available to all who want it.
We were able to reinforce that abortion is a Rhode Island value, and through our collective power, elected and supported lawmakers who are committed to enshrining abortion protections into law.
Winning this latest fight to expand access was not easy. Even in a state where abortion was fully protected in 2019, we had to organize, activate, and educate our community about the stakes of this bill. Despite our reputation as a liberal New England stronghold, certain communities in our state are sometimes at odds with the goals of our movement. Navigating those concerns was critical in securing the support to make these laws possible.
It took a full-court press from abortion supporters running phone banks, community events, lobby days, briefings, and ARTivist actions. We provided projections and helped organize hearings on the issue to educate our neighbors and community members. We partnered with like-minded organizations like the Rhode Island American College of Physicians, Women and Infants Hospital, and Rhode Island Medical Society to write letters to our leaders urging them to support expanding abortion coverage.
We were not certain our leaders would follow through, and ultimately we believe this concerted effort to hold an open dialogue was critical in achieving this win. We were able to reinforce that abortion is a Rhode Island value, and through our collective power, elected and supported lawmakers who are committed to enshrining abortion protections into law.
While we applaud the lawmakers who made this possible, we know there are still plenty of anti-abortion politicians in Rhode Island—and across the country—who want to block folks from accessing the reproductive care they deserve. These attacks disproportionately impact Black communities, young people, low-income families and individuals, and those living in rural areas.
On a statewide level, we want our lawmakers to go deeper in their commitment to increasing health equity, especially reproductive health, for the Rhode Island community. There is still work to be done to protect bodily autonomy for Rhode Islanders, particularly trans and nonbinary Rhode Islanders and people of color.
We also must be sure that people who want an abortion do not have to navigate onerous barriers to access. Nationally, our movement has more to do as well. We cannot disregard states in the South or Midwest as being hopeless in the fight against anti-abortion politicians. We know that coastal elitism has no place in the reproductive justice movement. This fight won’t be over until we see bold, federal protections that make abortion access available and compassionate for every single person in the country.
Having quality abortion care strengthens our communities. As anti-abortion extremists seize on the fall of Roe to make abortion inaccessible, we must show everyone that there is a better way. We can show them a community that loves and supports all its residents, that provides compassionate care, and gives them the freedom to make their own choices about their reproductive health without judgment. We can show them the power of community organizing and activists in making necessary changes—and give strength to our allies in this fight by showing them a way forward. We can galvanize our movement to keep fighting and secure victories wherever they are possible.
Common wisdom suggests that a parent should encourage independence in their child from 11 up. But what if the parent and child get emotionally glued instead? Then, the child may develop codependency, meaning they may learn to derive their sense of self from others, believe their needs aren’t important, and become compulsive over-givers who depend on being depended on. Even when the other person in the equation is not their parent. Often, their adult romantic attachments will bear all the signs of a codependent relationship.
Codependency is among the most toxic and dysfunctional relationship dynamics you can share with someone. That’s why learning how to spot and tackle codependent behaviors and relationship patterns is not only wise but also vital for your well-being. To delve into the psychology of codependency, understand its facets, and learn about codependent relationship signs and markers, we’ve consulted relationship and intimacy coach Shivanya Yogmayaa (internationally certified in the therapeutic modalities of EFT, NLP, CBT, REBT, etc.) who specializes in different forms of couples counseling.
What Does A Codependent Relationship Feel Like?
So what does a codependent relationship look like and feel like? According to Shivanya, people involved in codependent relationships slide into two roles — one partner becomes a caretaker/giver and the other a victim/taker:
The taker needs constant support, attention, and help. They struggle with basic tasks, require perpetual hand-holding, can’t make decisions, feel completely dependent on their partner, and are willing to surrender their autonomy to them
The giver is focused on meeting their partner’s needs — to the exclusion of everything else. They feel responsible for their partner’s feelings and actions and have a compulsive need to do everything for them. So much so, the relationship feels like a full-time job that takes up most of their time, energy, and mental space
Researchers initially associated these codependent behaviors and roles with the spouses and families of people suffering from addiction or substance abuse. But they have since detected codependent relationship traits outside of this group, too.
Letting someone know they can lean on you. Worrying about them. Prioritizing their needs. Isn’t it natural to do this for the people you care about? Sure. So how do you know: Are you codependent or just caring? And where does the boundary between healthy love vs codependency lie? Here’s what makes codependence different from healthy relationship dependence or interdependence:
Healthy dependence is based on mutual give and take, where both partners rely on each other and feel safe to express their needs. But codependent partners tend to form selfish and one-sided relationships. The giver only gives, and the taker only takes. Thus, there’s a huge imbalance of needs being met, which only stokes dissatisfaction and resentment
People who build interdependent relationships grow together and give each other space to grow as individuals. However, codependents tend to form highly enmeshed relationships with no room to breathe, let alone grow
15 Indisputable Signs Of A Codependent Relationship
Codependency is a circular relationship that feeds into and is fed by a mutually reinforcing cycle. The giver, who usually has low self-esteem, tries to derive their self-worth from taking care of their partner and loses their sense of self in the process. Meanwhile, the taker’s instinct is to extract as much as possible from their partner while they continue to under-function and shirk all responsibility in the relationship.
Need we say why this is neither healthy nor sustainable? Studies have shown that such dysfunctional relationships can scrape away at life satisfaction, too. That’s why it’s important to look out for these top signs of a codependent relationship and take remedial action:
Stacy and Mark have been together for six months. Mark is a recovering addict with a history of substance abuse. Stacy is intensely worried about his sobriety. So much so, she has become his housekeeper, manager, and cook, and does all the heavy lifting for him so he can focus on his recovery. Even if that means putting her job and well-being on the back burner.
This is among the classic codependent behavior examples. People with codependent personalities take excessive care of their partner and are given to self-negation. According to Shivanya:
The caretaker tries to be a mother/father figure in their partner’s life
They feel responsible for the dependent and try to monitor or manage their schedule
Despite their best intentions, the caretaker ends up crippling the dependent, increasing their sense of victimhood
Excessive care and concern are signs of a codependent relationship
2. If you’re okay, I’m okay
Codependency is a learned behavior in which people learn to tune out their own thoughts and feelings and base their emotional temperature on what others around them think and feel. In romantic relationships, they try to constantly read and manage (or even, control) their partner’s moods and emotions. That’s because they only feel okay if their partner is okay. This emotional dependence is one of the early signs of codependent relationships.
And often, it is dual, which makes for a highly explosive equation:
Emotionally codependent partners hold each other responsible for how they feel, so they wind up blaming each other for any and all negative feelings or bad moods
At times, if one partner tries to share their emotional needs, the other gets super defensive or upset
The end result? Both partners rarely ever feel okay.
3. Overarching guilt
This is one of the telltale signs of codependency in a relationship. Caretakers take on all the responsibility for how their partners feel and act. So, they spend an inordinate amount of time anticipating their partner’s needs and feel guilty about saying “no” to their partner’s requests or carving any time out for themselves.
They also feel responsible for everything that happens to their partner – even things they didn’t cause, and have no control over or power to change. The takers take advantage of this sense of responsibility to tack all the blame on the caregivers and extricate themselves from all accountability whenever things go wrong, something the caretakers rarely counter. By shielding their partners in this way, caretakers become codependent enablers and end up encouraging their partner’s poor behaviors.
Here is among the most common signs of an unhealthy codependent relationship: “One partner is constantly Mr./Miss Fix It. They want to troubleshoot and do everything for their dependent partner,” says Shivanya. That’s because caretakers often have trouble recognizing and expressing emotions. They find it easier and less anxiety-inducing to act. So, they love to be needed and can’t step back and do less. They also can’t stop trying to fix a problem as soon as they spot it or hear about it. In fact, they’re itching to put on their cape and come to their partner’s “rescue” and take care of them.
This only reinforces the taker’s dependency. Over time, the caretakers get tired of having to fix everything and shouldering more than the fair share of responsibility for their “lazy” husband or wife, or partner. But when they call it out, the takers accuse them of “nagging”. And the relationship starts to sour.
5. Communication troubles
Poor communication is among the top signs of a codependent relationship. Healthy relationships are built not just on acceptance but also on the ability to call out our partner’s poor behavior. Especially if it’s something that could hurt them or others around them. That involves having difficult conversations and holding each other accountable.
“If you don’t identify their tendencies, who will? But most people involved in dysfunctional relationships like codependency have trouble communicating with honesty. The caretaker does not express what the victim needs to work on. The victim also doesn’t stop the monitoring or stand up for themselves,” Shivanya explains.
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6. Conflict avoidance
Because of their people pleasers personality, codependents are afraid of hurting others’ feelings. They hate the discomfort of a fight, so they go to great lengths to ignore their true feelings just to sidestep or avoid conflict. To understand this, let’s take a look at some codependent relationship examples:
Peter has been offered a dream assignment in another city. He wants to go, but he knows his wife Penelope would hate to move. To avoid conflict, he refuses the job without even discussing it with her
Sally feels Dan has been spending too much time golfing on the weekends. But as soon as she mentions this, Dan starts to get irritated. So, she changes the topic and doesn’t bring it up again, though it continues to bother her
These are among the surefire signs of a codependent relationship. Codependents are deeply uncomfortable stating and negotiating their needs. So, they sweep problems under the carpet. That only causes them to accumulate and fester till the relationship implodes.
You can’t talk about the warning signs of codependent relationships without addressing the lack of individuality within such relationships. Shivanya says, “One of the key codependent relationship traits is that the caretaker or benefactor devotes everything to their partner. Most of their time is occupied doing tasks for their partner. The victim, meanwhile, has surrendered their power to make decisions; they are happy to exist in a limited way of life.”
In fact, codependents make for a rather clingy couple that finds it difficult to function independently or have a life outside the relationship. They have no friends or hobbies or tend to latch on to their partner’s interests, without stopping to think about what they want. And that’s far from healthy.
A romantic bond, while important, cannot be life itself. Calibrating your choices based on your partner’s compass will only leave you discontented and lost. That’s why, knowing how to balance independence in a relationship is important.
8. Also lacking: Real intimacy
Still wondering what does a codependent relationship look like? Let’s look at another codependent behavior example: Mark struck up a conversation with Rachel in a grocery line and that led to one date. Now, Mark is:
Acting and feeling like they are in a relationship
Imagining a life with Rachel
Codependents suffer from instant relationship syndrome. They rarely take the time to know someone well before committing to them. They are relationship chameleons, who mold themselves to fit their partner’s life and views. Why? Because of low self-esteem and abandonment issues. They want to be liked and don’t think putting their authentic selves forward is the best way to do that.
But real intimacy cannot be built on smokescreens. That’s why, after the initial rush wears off, codependents often find themselves with partners they don’t feel close to, comfortable with, or trust. Their relationship feels like a house of cards: always shaky and never quite solid.
9. Blurred boundaries
According to Shivanya, a codependent connection is essentially dysfunctional. This is because persons in enmeshed relationships tend to lack the ability to set boundaries:
They invade each other’s space often, and this has harmful repercussions. The dependent, for instance, completely relies on the caretaker to take care of all their emotional needs. The caretaker, meanwhile, says “yes” where most people no longer would. This gets exhausting and they eventually experience burnout
In some cases, codependency leads to a breach of financial and sexual boundaries as well. This usually occurs when the caretaker gives the victim complete access to their finances or sets no ground rules in the bedroom
If, at any point, one of them tries to assert themselves or set boundaries, the relationship starts to get rocky. People who value their relationships respect their own and their partner’s boundaries. Blurred boundaries only lead to blurred identities and are one of the early signs of codependent relationships.
One of the most evident signs of a toxic codependent relationship is that it is a constant source of worry and stress for one or both partners:
The caretaker experiences anxiety and stress because they are in charge of their partner at all times. The emotional and physical responsibility takes a toll on them and leaves them unhappy and bitter if it goes unnoticed or underappreciated
The victim may experience comfort in giving up their autonomy initially, but after a point, they may also get stressed and come to resent the caretaker’s micro-managing
Being with your partner should bring you joy, comfort, and security. If it doesn’t, then it’s best to take stock and rethink why you need to stay put, if at all.
11. Missing: Self-esteem
The signs of a toxic codependent relationship are also invariably indicative of low self-esteem. Shivanya observes, “It’s a question of self-worth and self-image for both codependents. The caretaker has a compulsive need for approval and recognition.”
So, they may not even try to break the circular relationship pattern or help their partner become self-sufficient. That’s because they’re worried they will lose their sense of purpose if they do. They fear that once empowered, their partner will abandon them. “The victim is also not willing to take ownership of their life (since they need to feel cared for to feel worthy). They, too, are running on low self-esteem,” Shivanya adds.
If we aren’t tethered and secure in ourselves, we will seek completion or meaning through a partner. But determining our self-worth based on how useful we are to our partner will only lead to constant pain in the relationship.
12. S for sacrifice
Everything has an opportunity cost. The caretaker doesn’t just look after their partner; they do so at their own expense. “One of the signs of a codependent relationship is that the caretaker makes self-sacrifices with a sense of glory of service and they take pride in the choices they make for their partner. This could be anything – turning down a promotion, paying off debts, moving cities, etc.,” says Shivanya.
Though these sacrifices are made of the codependent’s own volition and in the spirit of selfless love, they corrode their sense of self and come back as resentments and chronic anger later. When it comes to self-sacrifice, we agree with what Ayn Rand says in The Fountainhead, “Self-sacrifice? But it is precisely the self that cannot and must not be sacrificed.”
Since they reinforce problematic and codependent behaviors, most people who show signs of codependency in marriage or romantic relationships also find themselves trapped in patterns of abuse and toxicity. These usually play out in two ways:
The victim (who often has a history of addiction) starts to feel entitled to their partner’s time and attention and becomes convinced their partner is incapable of leaving. So they begin to push boundaries, and this escalates into physical, emotional, or financial abuse
Or, the caretaker begins to keep score of everything they have done, becomes bitter, and turns abusive. Their overarching need for control could also drive them to cross the line from caring to manipulating their partner to direct their behavior
Abuse, in any form, is a clear red flag and among the warning signs of codependent relationships that must never be ignored.
14. The past is prologue
Nobody wakes up one morning and decides to take charge of their partner’s life. Or, develops signs of a taker for that matter. So, if you’re wondering, “Why am I codependent in relationships?”, know that there are deeper factors at play. Codependent behaviors are learned behaviors.
In one study, participants traced their codependency and anxious attachment style to excessive parental rigidity, control, criticism, or perfectionism, along with a lack of support. According to Shivanya, early experiences form the template for many codependent behaviors:
Maybe the caretaker learned to take care of people (perhaps an ailing family member) early on in life
Similarly, the victim may have a history of helplessness and reasons underlying their surrender of selfhood
This tumultuous history exercises control over both since they haven’t made peace with the past, and this leads to their developing signs of codependency in a relationship.
15. Destination: nowhere
“No one can possibly spend a lifetime taking care of all their partner’s needs or letting their partner do everything for them. At some point, the caretaker will reach a breaking point, and the victim will try and break free,” says Shivanya.
One of the codependent relationship red flags is that it has no long-term direction. It fizzles quickly into a stagnant relationship or one that feels like a karmic relationship, where both partners feel trapped and wonder, “How do I leave?” But getting out of toxic relationships is hard.
Often, codependent couples keep drawing each other back in, till one of them has had enough. At any rate, “The end is quite painful for both parties involved,” adds Shivanya. That’s why recognizing codependency, especially toxic codependency, for what it is and learning how to stop being codependent and how to fix a codependent relationship is important.
“Why am I codependent in relationships?” That’s not something people ask themselves, their friends, therapists, or a support group early on. That’s because many behaviors linked to codependency, like putting others first, are encouraged in social settings and collectivistic cultures. This makes it hard for people to connect the dots between codependency and the anxiety, anger, or distress they feel or the problems they face in a relationship.
Also, codependent roles aren’t always clear-cut. At times, the same partner may display both sides of codependency, meaning they may be both a giver (say emotionally/financially) and a taker (sexually). So, spotting codependent relationship signs and learning how to break a codependent relationship cycle can be difficult. But it can be done. Codependency is a learned behavior, and like anything that is learned, it can be unlearned.
So how to fix a codependent relationship? Here’s how to stop being codependent, overcome dependency, and form healthy relationships:
Acknowledge your patterns: Understand the difference between responsibility for yourself and responsibility to your partner. Learn to talk about boundaries and respect them. That will mean saying and taking no for an answer. Doing this without returning to old patterns is a process and will take time
A conscious effort to break patterns: Identifycodependent behaviors, record them in a journal if you need to, and replace them with healthier ones. For instance, instead of rushing to rescue the taker, the caretaker will need to learn to step back, be less than they can be, and put up with the resultant anxiety
Focus on yourself: Learn how to be more independent in relationships and take charge of your own life. Turn your attention inward, spend time with yourself, and try and make decisions for yourself. Separate your goals and interests from your partner’s. For the people-pleasing caretaker, this would mean prioritizing self-care and learning not to feel guilty about it
Communicate: Negotiate and communicate so you can stop walking on eggshells around each other. Build a safe space where you both can talk things through openly and honestly
Tune into your emotions: Learn to sit with and deal with your own emotions. Be your own happy.Don’t count on someone or something outside of yourself to make you feel good
Get professional help: Many people have emerged stronger from codependent relationships and broken the unhealthy cycle of codependency and emotional abuse with the help of therapy. So don’t be afraid to reach out for help. Our counselors from Bonobology’s panel are just a click away
Key Pointers
When one of you slips into the role of a caretaker/giver/supporter and the other becomes a victim/taker, you’ve got yourself a codependent relationship
Codependency stems from early environments and experiences
Its signs include a lack of individuality, healthy boundaries, self-esteem, and open communication
Abuse, self-sacrifice, conflict avoidance, constant stress, and excessive TLC also point to codependency
Coping strategies for codependency include setting healthy boundaries, prioritizing self-care, replacing problem behaviors, rebuilding communication, emotional regulation, and seeking professional help
And just like that, we’ve covered some signs of an unhealthy codependent relationship, codependent relationship examples, and ways how to fix such relationships. Hopefully, these will help you spot potential red flags and address them. Remember, there is no such thing as healthy codependency.
Join Coleman Hughes and Jayson as they discuss the multifaceted aspects of the anti-racist movement, evaluating its progress and identifying areas of improvement. Coleman Hughes is a writer, musician, opinion columnist, and host of the popular podcast Conversations with Coleman. His work focuses on race, public policy, and applied ethics. Through this engaging discussion, they strive to foster meaningful conversations, challenge assumptions, and pave the way for a more inclusive and harmonious society. You won’t want to miss this episode, so tune in now.
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4:19 – Who is Coleman Hughes?
5:46 – Jayson’s past exploring different viewpoints
8:48 – How does Coleman think about race?
12:29 – Anti-racist thought leaders, past and present
16:09 – The impact of social media
21:25 – Has the modern anti-racist movement made progress?
Whether you are dating, in a committed relationship, or married, there comes a point where you wonder how you and your partner would define loving relationships in general. Today, we’ll look at the many delicate details of what makes a relationship successful and loving.
Figuring out how to create and maintain a healthy relationship goes beyond ensuring mental peace. According to Dr Robert Waldinger (psychiatrist and director of Harvard Study of Adult Development), good relationships play a major role in our overall health and happiness too. That is also why being ‘lovesick’ in case of unrequited love can actually end up making you physically ill.
Getting advice from experts in the field of marriage, family, and relationship counseling is a great starting point. So, we got in touch with Shravya Kumar, a practicing relationship counselor. She shares that you can’t always predict how a relationship will progress, but you can definitely consider a few things to see if they’re a good match for you. Keep reading to know her exclusive tips and tricks on how to cultivate and maintain romantic relationships.
9 Beautiful Signs Of Loving Relationships
Kumar says, “A loving relationship is when two people accept each other wholeheartedly, with all their flaws, where there’s no judgment whatsoever, the utmost respect for each other, and nothing but love.”
But no relationship is perfect and there is nothing wrong in looking for signs to remind yourself how much your partner means to you. Some of the many signs of a beautiful and truly loving relationship are:
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1. Mutual and unending respect
Having and showing unconditional mutual respect is the first sign of being in a healthy and loving relationship. There should be no doubt in your mind about your partner’s courtesy toward you.
An excerpt from a detailed Reddit answer reads, “You respect them as a person. There are things you admire about them and you find some of their ‘flaws’ endearing and it’s okay that there are things about them you don’t like because they’re a whole complicated person and you appreciate them for the whole package of who they are.”
You and your partner appreciate and express gratitude for each other, recognizing the positive impact you have on each other’s lives. Expressing and receiving acts of appreciation and gratitude that are sincere is often one of the most obvious signs of being in a healthy and loving relationship. A study published by the University of North Carolina backs up this fact. To summarize the findings, “Feelings of gratitude motivate couples to maintain valuable relationships.”
3. Compromise and flexibility
When both partners are willing to compromise and be flexible in order to meet each other’s needs, a long-term healthy relationship can be created. This doesn’t mean people should squash their life goals or values. Simply compromising in a relationship often means becoming flexible with your day-to-day life.
It’s relatively easier to cooperate when couples agree to work around their schedules and accommodate each other’s requests. Reconsidering your options and having flexibility for your partner are the hidden keys to loving relationships.
4. Shared values and interests
If you feel attracted to someone while sharing deep conversations, and if you value their insights, then such a person can become a long-term partner. If both of you have similar values, interests, and beliefs, it helps to build a strong foundation for the relationship. Some habits of loving relationship examples where a couple shares many hobbies, interests, and values are:
They have a similar lifestyles
They are raising children in a way that their parenting styles align with one another
Or they are on the same page about wanting or not wanting to have children
Their long-term relationship goals are in sync
They share same/similar social or political outlooks
Having the same opinions on most, if not all, of these is a positive sign of being on the same page in your relationship.
Are both you and your partner able to resolve conflicts in a healthy and respectful way, without resorting to hurtful or destructive behaviors? Having successful conflict resolution strategies is a major part of cultivating a loving, lasting relationship with your partner, and decreasing the stress between you both.
A Reddit user shares how resolving conflict in their relationship helps them feel comfortable expressing themselves. An excerpt from their answer goes, “… it keeps everything calm and nobody gets mad, and we both get a chance to talk about how we feel.”
6. Open and honest communication
Communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Kumar says, “A healthy and loving relationship can be formed only when partners communicate honestly, openly, and clearly, while expressing their thoughts and feelings in a healthy way.” She gives a few pointers:
Speak your heart out and listen actively when your partner does the same
Open and non-judgmental listening is an important part of wholesome communication
Keep other digital communications to a minimum when you’re with your partner and ask them to do the same when having important discussions
Maintain eye contact and approach the conversation with kindness and empathy for your significant other. There is such a thing as eye contact attraction; it greatly helps in building a healthy relationship
7. Trust and honesty
Here are some signs of a truly loving relationship:
When both partners trust each other and are honest with each other, even in difficult or challenging situations
When they bring out a secure feeling within you
When vulnerability doesn’t feel like a burden or a stressor with your partner
When you don’t worry about your thoughts or your body language in front of your partner
When you know you will automatically be perceived as endearing to your partner even with your quirks
One of the early signs of a good relationship is being comfortable with intimacy. This isn’t just restricted to sexual intimacy, but also PDA. Kumar mentions that the way someone shows you intimacy should not be limited just to fulfilling sexual desires. It should also be consistent with how your partner treats you in front of their friends and family.
That being said, both partners should sit and talk about how comfortable they are with PDA and to what extent. Come to an agreement on ways to express affection and intimacy that feel comfortable and fulfilling for both parties.
9. Support and encouragement
Both partners should support and encourage each other’s goals, dreams, and personal growth. Extending emotional support to the person you love means being there for their happy days, sad days, and the days in between. Signs of strong emotional support and encouragement in a loving relationship, the fundamentals of support, can be:
Acknowledging and respecting each other’s emotions
Making each other feel loved
Comforting each other
Showing empathy for your partner
5 Steps To Building A Loving Relationship
Kumar says, “It is difficult to foretell if the relationship will be a happy and loving one or not, but you should consider the following:
How comfortable you’re with them
How they treat you in bed
How they treat you when their friends are around
How easily you communicate about anything and everything
How you speak about sex, intimacy, and boundaries”
Apart from that, there are certain steps everyone can take to build healthy relationships. Here’s what Kumar suggests:
1. Have time for yourself
Does taking time apart in a relationship really work? Kumar insists on both partners to have their ‘me time’ as a rule for all loving relationships. She suggests doing anything purely for your own self, that puts focus on your happiness, can be very flourishing. Not only for you, but also for your relationship. It can be as small as listening to music or as big as going on a trip without your partner.
That’s how you take control of your own emotions and not depend on your partner for constant validation. Practicing self-love and having alone time contributes a lot to a healthy relationship with your partner. This is one of the many surprising hidden keys to loving relationships that many people don’t consider or are aware of.
2. Respect each other’s boundaries
Everyone has boundaries that need to be respected. It doesn’t mean loving without attachment but rather helps a couple develop a deep affection toward each other. There are different types of boundaries in relationships, and both partners need to learn to have and respect them.
Listen to your partner’s needs and communicate your own boundaries in a respectful way
Kumar suggests that both partners should make a list of their non-negotiables and read it out to each other
If you both don’t agree on something, find a middle ground
Once your partner makes the changes as expressed by your boundary, acknowledge their efforts
Setting and respecting each other’s boundaries early in a relationship is one of the many psychologically healthy habits to develop for a couple.
3. Figure out each other’s love languages
We asked Kumar to help us with a more detailed way to build a healthy relationship. She shares, “The best way to do that is by reading the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman together. Notice, right from the beginning of the relationship, how your partner expresses their love to you, by using words of affirmation/physical touch/quality time/gifting you something/doing something for you or helping you with something.” According to Gary Chapman, there are 5 types of love languages. Understanding which are yours and which are your partner’s will help you love each other better.
4. Practice active listening
Listening is just as important as speaking in a relationship. Practice active listening by paying attention to your partner, asking questions, and reflecting back on what you hear to ensure you understand their perspective. Ignoring each other’s bids at communication can have a negative impact on your bond. According to Kumar, both partners should evaluate if they can communicate about topics such as:
Finally, no one is perfect; everyone makes mistakes and healthy relationships are not made overnight. Practice forgiveness by letting go of grudges and working through conflicts together. People like to be reminded of the fact that they matter to you greatly, especially when times are tough. Being open to forgiveness means being willing to work out your differences, being willing to find common ground, and making concessions to ensure you and your partner are happy.
Key Pointers
Building a strong, beautiful, and healthy relationship takes time and effort, but the payoff is worth it. Follow the guidance of our relationship expert and improve the quality of your committed relationship
Overall, a loving relationship is characterized by mutual respect, open communication, trust and honesty, encouragement, intimacy, shared values, healthy conflict resolution, flexibility, and appreciation
It’s important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner, but make sure you express strong feelings in a respectful way
You can keep your relationship strong by striving to continuously work on it with your partner by being forgiving, learning each other’s love languages, respecting each other’s boundaries, listening actively, and also having lots ‘me time’
In a nutshell, there are many things you can do together with your partner as a part of developing healthy habits in a relationship. All romantic bonds require work but couples should prioritize working on themselves as well as the relationship. There is no shame in admitting if your dynamic needs guidance to solve issues and heal quicker. Getting help from a professional to improve the quality of your relationship is a great way to handle any intense feelings you and your partner have been experiencing. Bonobology’s panel of experienced experts are well-equipped to guide you.
Every bride dreams of a perfect wedding day, and the wedding venue plays a pivotal role in turning that dream into reality. As a business catering to the wedding industry, understanding what brides desire in a venue and how to create an enchanting atmosphere that exceeds their expectations is crucial. In this article, we’ll discuss the key elements that make a wedding venue irresistible to brides. To ensure the successful implementation of these components, outline these strategies in your wedding venue business plan.
Understand the Bride’s Vision
To create a wedding venue that brides will adore, understand and embrace their unique visions. The first step in achieving this is effective communication. Engage in open discussions with the bride and groom, attentively considering their preferences, ideas, and themes. By truly understanding their vision, your venue can curate an atmosphere and experience customized to commemorate their special day.
Offer Versatile Spaces for Ceremonies and Receptions
A truly remarkable wedding venue offers a high level of versatility in terms of space. Brides greatly value venues that can easily accommodate both the wedding ceremony and reception. Ensure that your venue provides distinct areas that can be transformed to perfectly suit the couple’s preferences. Whether they envision an enchanting outdoor garden for a romantic ceremony or a spacious hall for a lavish reception, having flexible spaces allows brides to bring their envisioned day to life.
Incorporate Exceptional Aesthetics and Décor
The next aspect to consider is the aesthetics and décor of the wedding venue. Brides are often attracted to venues that exude elegance and charm. Elements, such as beautiful lighting, exquisite flower arrangements, and tasteful furniture can enhance the visual appeal. Select a color palette that complements the bride’s chosen theme and creates a captivating atmosphere. Whether it’s a rustic barn or a grand ballroom, ensuring that the venue evokes a sense of enchantment will leave every guest captivated.
Provide Impeccable Amenities and Services
Another vital consideration is the availability of impeccable amenities and services. Brides desire a seamless and stress-free wedding day experience, and the venue plays a significant role in achieving this. Offer a range of services, such as professional event planning assistance, catering options, and audiovisual support. Exceptional customer service should be at the forefront, ensuring that every detail is meticulously taken care of to create a flawless celebration.
Offer Exquisite Culinary Experiences
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An additional key element that makes a wedding venue irresistible to brides is the provision of exquisite culinary experiences. By collaborating with renowned chefs or reputable catering services, the couple can curate a menu that reflects their preferences and delights their guests’ taste buds. From appetizers to main courses and desserts, a diverse range of delectable options ensures that every guest’s palate is satisfied. Moreover, providing customizable menus that cater to dietary restrictions and preferences adds a personal touch that brides genuinely appreciate.
Incorporate Picture-Perfect Surroundings and Photo Opportunities
Incorporating picture-perfect surroundings and a plethora of photo opportunities is another key element that makes a wedding venue irresistible to brides. Brides long for awe-inspiring backdrops that enhance the beauty of their special day and capture stunning wedding photographs. Whether it’s an enchanting garden, a serene lake, or a grand architectural marvel, a visually captivating venue elevates the overall experience for both the couple and their guests. Offering an array of charming and Instagram-worthy spots for photography ensures that brides can capture cherished moments that will be cherished for a lifetime.
Provide Exclusive Privacy and Exclusivity
Many brides yearn for an intimate and exclusive wedding experience. Provide privacy by offering secluded spaces within your venue, such as private gardens or cozy corners. Brides appreciate the opportunity to celebrate their special day without distractions from the outside world. Additionally, consider offering exclusive use of the venue, allowing the couple to have undivided attention and full control over their celebration.
Integrate Technology
Finally, seamlessly integrating technology into the wedding venue can greatly enhance the bride’s experience. Consider offering amenities, such as Wi-Fi connectivity, audiovisual equipment for speeches and presentations, and digital photo booths for capturing unforgettable memories. By embracing technology, your venue can cater to modern brides who value convenience and the ability to share their joyous occasion with loved ones in real-time.
Creating a wedding venue that brides will adore requires careful attention to their unique visions and desires. By implementing these strategies, your venue will continue to captivate brides and make their dream weddings a reality. Remember that the key to success lies in understanding what brides desire, and delivering a wedding experience that exceeds their expectations.
For in the realm of godly friendships, hearts are united by a common devotion to the Almighty, fostering love, accountability, and mutual support so that together, you may withstand the trials of life and shine as beacons of divine fellowship.
It is essential for us, as followers of Christ, to cultivate friendships that are deeply rooted in faith. Faith-based friendships are more than just casual acquaintances or mere social connections. They go beyond shared interests or similar backgrounds. These friendships are grounded in a shared belief in the power of God’s love, the teachings of Jesus Christ, and the evidence of the Holy Spirit in our lives. In the book of Proverbs 27:17, it is written,
Christ-based friendships provide an environment where we can grow and mature spiritually. They offer opportunities for mutual encouragement, accountability, and the gentle challenge to become more Christlike in our attitudes, words, and actions. Faith is the bedrock of these relationships, giving them a firm foundation. This shared faith becomes the glue that binds us together, creating a bond that transcends worldly concerns and temporal interests. In the book ofEcclesiastes 4:9–10, it is written,
“ Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.”
Godly friendships provide a support system rooted in the love of Christ. In times of joy, these friends celebrate with you; in times of sorrow, they walk alongside us, offering comfort and solace. They uplift us when we stumble and help us find our footing when we are lost.
The importance of Godliness in building these meaningful relationships cannot be overstated. It instills in us a sense of purpose and direction. It shapes our values, attitudes, and perspectives, providing a shared framework for understanding the world and our place in it. When friendships are rooted in faith, we find ourselves united by a common vision and a shared commitment to living out our faith in tangible ways.
Christians are called to be ambassadors of Christ’s love, grace, and truth. Faith-based friendships offer us a platform to manifest these qualities in our relationships. By nurturing these friendships, we create spaces where genuine love, compassion, forgiveness, and understanding can flourish. We become conduits of God’s love, reaching out to others and reflecting His goodness in our interactions.
What Godly Friendships Entail
As Christians, we are called to surround ourselves with friends who reflect Christ’s love and embody the principles of the Word of God. Let us delve into the critical aspects of these Godly friendships and discover the blessings they bring.
Shared beliefs and values as the foundation: In the book of Amos 3:3, it is written, “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” (NLT) Godly friendships are built on a solid foundation of shared beliefs and values. When we find friends who are united with us in faith, who share a similar understanding of Scripture, and who strive to live according to God’s Word, we experience a deep bond that strengthens and encourages us. These shared beliefs and values provide a framework for mutual trust, integrity, and accountability in our friendship.
Godly friendships involve companionship with individuals who share our passions, dreams, and aspirations. When we have friends who share our purpose of glorifying God in all areas of life, we can spur one another on toward righteousness and strive together to fulfill God’s calling on our lives. In Romans 12:15, we are exhorted to:
“Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.”(NLT)
Godly friendships provide a safe and supportive environment where we can share our joys and sorrows without fear of judgment or rejection. These friendships offer understanding and empathy, allowing us to be vulnerable and authentic with one another. They provide shoulders to lean on, ears to listen to, and hearts to care for. Our friends cheer us on in times of celebration, and in times of distress, they offer comfort, encouragement, and prayers. Hebrews 10:24 encourages us to
“Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works.” NLT
Godly friendships play a crucial role in our spiritual growth. They provide opportunities for mutual edification where we can share insights, testimonies, and experiences that inspire and challenge one another in our walk with Christ. These friendships help us grow in wisdom, knowledge, and understanding of God’s Word as we discuss and study together, holding each other accountable for living out the teachings of Christ. 1 Peter 4:8 reminds us,
“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.” NLT
A godly friendship is marked by a deep, sacrificial love that reflects the love of Christ. In these friendships, we extend grace, forgive one another, and offer second chances. We recognize that we are all imperfect and in need of God’s mercy.
Building Godly Friendships
Regularly attending religious services opens doors for us to connect with fellow believers. By participating in worship and hearing the Word of God together, we create a sense of unity and shared purpose. Within these gatherings, we can meet like-minded individuals who share our devotion to God and desire to grow in faith. Therefore, we must seize opportunities to engage in conversations, extend warm greetings, and express genuine interest in others. By doing so, we pave the way for meaningful connections and potential godly friendships.
Small groups or study circles of believers offer an intimate setting for deeper connections. These gatherings often focus on specific topics or areas of interest, such as Bible studies, prayer groups, or discipleship programs. By actively participating in these groups, we engage in conversations centered around our faith, share personal insights, and learn from one another’s experiences. Such groups provide a supportive environment where friendships can flourish as we journey together in spiritual growth.
Deepening Faith-Based Friendships
Consistent communication is vital for deepening faith-based friendships. Regularly engaging in meaningful conversations through phone calls, texts, video chats, or in-person meetings helps maintain a strong bond. We should strive to discuss our spiritual journeys, share insights from Scripture, and encourage one another in our walk with Christ. By prioritizing communication, we foster trust, understanding, and vulnerability within our circle of friends.
In addition to consistent communication, regular check-ins and reflection enhance the depth of our faith-based friendships. Taking time to ask meaningful questions, such as “How is your spiritual life?” or “What has God been teaching you lately?” demonstrates our genuine interest in one another’s spiritual well-being. It also allows us to reflect on our spiritual growth, encouraging accountability and inspiring each other to seek a deeper relationship with God.
Prayer is a powerful tool for strengthening faith-based friendships. Therefore, setting aside time to pray together, whether in person or virtually, enables us to lift one another in prayer, share burdens, and intercede on behalf of each other’s needs. Also, sharing spiritual practices, such as devotional readings, Bible studies, or worship sessions, allows us to grow closer to God and each other, fostering a deeper spiritual connection among our friends.
Believers’ retreats and workshops offer valuable opportunities to deepen faith-based friendships. These events provide dedicated time for reflection, worship, and learning in a communal setting. By attending such gatherings together, we create shared experiences, gain fresh insights, and encourage one another in our spiritual journeys. The retreat or workshop environment fosters a deeper level of connection and provides a space for renewal, divine encounters, and transformation.
Serving others together also strengthens the fabric of our faith-based friendships. Engaging in service projects within our faith communities or the broader community allows us to live out our faith in action. We embody Christ’s love and compassion by working side by side to help those in need. These shared experiences deepen our friendships and create lasting memories of serving together for the sake of God’s kingdom.
May the Holy Spirit guide us as we deepen our faith-based friendships, bringing glory to God and drawing us closer to one another in love and faith.
Emmanuel Abimbola is a creative freelance writer, blogger, and web designer. He is a devout Christian with an uncompromising faith who hails from Ondo State in Nigeria, West Africa. As a lover of kids, Emmanuel runs a small elementary school in Arigidi, Nigeria.
In a world where love and acceptance should be the guiding principles, hate letters can inflict deep wounds and challenge the very fabric of human connection. However, amidst the darkness, some individuals rise above such adversity, defying the corrosive power of hate with unwavering strength and boundless love. Leslie Uggams, a celebrated actress, and her husband embody this remarkable resilience as they navigate the treacherous path of hate letters while steadfastly holding onto their bond.
Leslie Uggams’ name resonates with the glamour of the entertainment industry, where her immense talent and undeniable charisma have captivated audiences for decades. From her early days as a child prodigy, Uggams has graced stages and screens, leaving an indelible mark on the hearts of many. However, despite her well-deserved success, she and her husband have faced a disheartening challenge that threatens to overshadow their love and tarnish their joy.
The emergence of hate letters in their lives has cast a dark shadow, injecting poison into moments that should be filled with celebration and togetherness. In a world that champions unity and inclusivity, these hateful messages represent a painful reminder of the work that still lies ahead. Yet, against the odds, Leslie Uggams and her husband have chosen a different path—one of resilience, strength, and love.
Their story is a testament to the extraordinary power of the human spirit as they navigate the treacherous waters of hatred, buoyed by their unbreakable bond. In the face of adversity, Leslie Uggams and her husband have become beacons of hope, showing us that love, when fiercely protected, can withstand even the most vicious attacks. Together, they have chosen to rise above the hate, inspiring others to do the same and fostering a message of compassion and understanding that reverberates far beyond the confines of their personal lives.
A Glance into Leslie Uggams’ Life
To truly appreciate the resilience and strength demonstrated by Leslie Uggams and her husband in the face of hate letters, it is essential to delve into Uggams’ remarkable life journey and her significant contributions to the entertainment industry. From her early beginnings as a child prodigy to her status as a Tony and Emmy Award-winning actress. Uggams has marked her career with immense talent, versatility, and an unwavering commitment to her craft.
Leslie Uggams’ love for performing manifested at a young age. Born on May 25, 1943, in New York City, Uggams’ prodigious talent was evident from the moment she stepped onto a stage. As a child, she made her first appearance on “The Lawrence Welk Show,” captivating audiences with her vocal prowess and magnetic presence. This early exposure opened doors to opportunities that would shape her future in the entertainment industry.
Uggams’ breakthrough came in 1962 when she became the first African-American woman to host her own variety show, “The Leslie Uggams Show.” This groundbreaking achievement not only showcased her singing and acting abilities but also served as a beacon of representation and diversity during a time when racial barriers were prevalent in the media.
Her success on television propelled her career to new heights, leading to iconic stage performances on Broadway. In 1968, Uggams astounded audiences with her portrayal of Georgina in the hit musical “Hallelujah, Baby!” Her breathtaking performance earned her a Tony Award for Best Actress in a Musical, making her the youngest actress to receive the prestigious accolade at that time.
The Emergence of Hate Letters
The emergence of hate letters in the lives of Leslie Uggams and her husband represents a distressing chapter in their journey. These profoundly hurtful and offensive messages were targeted directly at them, unleashing a wave of pain, confusion, and distress. Exploring the specific incidents and underlying motivations behind such vitriolic expressions is essential.
The hate letters that Leslie Uggams and her husband received were rooted in a toxic combination of racial prejudice, jealousy, and perhaps even a sense of entitlement. As an African-American woman who succeeded significantly in the entertainment industry, Uggams became a symbol of breaking barriers and challenging systemic racism. Unfortunately, this achievement attracted the attention of individuals who harboured prejudiced beliefs and sought to tear her down.
Motivated by racial bias, these hate letters aimed to denigrate Uggams’ accomplishments, belittle her talent, and undermine her presence in the public eye. The writers of these letters likely felt threatened by her success, perceiving it as a challenge to their own perceived superiority. Jealousy can breed resentment; in this case, it manifests as hate-filled messages that seek to dehumanize Uggams and her husband.
The hate letters impacted Leslie Uggams and her husband’s emotional well-being in a significant way. Each letter was a painful reminder of the pervasive racism in society, subjecting the couple to a relentless onslaught of hateful words targeting their race, relationship, and personal lives. The emotional toll of such relentless harassment is immeasurable as it chips away at one’s sense of self-worth, security, and peace of mind.
Rising Above Hate
Leslie Uggams and her husband exemplified remarkable resilience and strength in the face of hate letters and the emotional turmoil they brought. Rather than allowing themselves to be consumed by the negativity, they developed strategies to overcome and transcend the hate, nurturing their well-being and preserving their unbreakable bond.
One of the crucial elements of Uggams and her husband’s journey towards rising above hate was the unwavering support they received from their loved ones. Family, friends, and close confidants became vital pillars of strength, offering a safe space to express their emotions, seek guidance, and find solace. This support network played a pivotal role in bolstering their spirits and reminding them of their intrinsic worth, providing a much-needed counterbalance to the hateful words they received.
Recognizing the importance of mental and emotional well-being, Uggams and her husband proactively engaged in therapy and counselling. By seeking professional help, they were able to navigate the complex emotions triggered by the hate letters and develop effective coping mechanisms. Therapy provided a safe and non-judgmental environment where they could process their pain, confront their fears, and gain valuable insights into their resilience and capacity for growth.
Rising Above Hate
Leslie Uggams and her husband exemplified remarkable resilience and strength in the face of hate letters and the emotional turmoil they brought. Instead of allowing themselves to be consumed by the negativity. They actively developed strategies to overcome and transcend the hate, nurturing their well-being and preserving their unbreakable bond.
One of the crucial elements of Uggams and her husband’s journey towards rising above hate was the unwavering support they received from their loved ones. Family, friends, and close confidants became vital pillars of strength, offering a safe space to express their emotions, seek guidance, and find solace. This support network played a pivotal role in bolstering their spirits and reminding them of their intrinsic worth, providing a much-needed counterbalance to the hateful words they received.
Recognizing the importance of mental and emotional well-being, Uggams and her husband proactively engaged in therapy and counselling. By seeking professional help, they were able to navigate the complex emotions triggered by the hate letters and develop effective coping mechanisms. Therapy provided a safe and non-judgmental environment where they could process their pain, confront their fears, and gain valuable insights into their resilience and capacity for growth.
Understanding your partner requires the capacity to listen. Really listen. Couples are advised to hear each other’s complaints without feeling attacked, and as great as this sounds, it’s often unrealistic.
When something you said (or didn’t say) hurts your partner’s feelings, there’s a strong impulse to interrupt with, “That wasn’t my intention. You’re misunderstanding me,” even before your partner is done talking.
Unfortunately, when the listener reacts to what the speaker is saying before the speaker gets the chance to fully explain themselves, both partners are left feeling misunderstood.
This is why the “N” in Dr. Gottman’s ATTUNE model stands for Non-defensive listening.
The defensive reaction
For most of us, listening without getting defensive is a hard skill to master. This is especially true when our partner is talking about a trigger of ours. A trigger is an issue that is sensitive to our heart—typically something from our childhood or a previous relationship.
While the phrase “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” may have some truth, it doesn’t acknowledge the fact that trauma and regrettable incidents can leave us with scars.
This could be a result of a number of things. Maybe you’ve been repeatedly hurt or you experienced injustice in your relationships. These moments from our past can escalate interactions in the present.
Maybe you feel controlled like Braden does.
When his wife, Suzanne, tells him, “You have to make sure the kids have dinner cooked before you go to the gym,” he responds with, “Stop acting like my mother!”
After a few more defensive statements, Braden shuts down.
Braden’s heart races at the thought of Suzanne bringing up a complaint during their State of the Union meeting. Any complaint she expresses that includes a wish for him to change some part of his schedule around, he feels controlled.
Self-soothe to listen
While it’s important for the speaker to complain without blame and state a positive need to prevent the listener from flooding or responding defensively, it’s also vital for the listener to learn to self-soothe.
If you’re unable to self-soothe, your emotional brain will overpower your rational brain, the part that is designed to self-regulate and communicate, and you’ll “flip your lid” and say or do things you don’t mean.
As Dr. David Schnarch puts it, “Emotionally committed relationships respond better when each partner controls, confronts, soothes, and mobilizes himself/herself.” This is because the more partners can regulate their own emotions, the more stable the relationship becomes.
Self-soothing improves the stability of your relationship by allowing you to maintain yourself and your connection with your partner during a tough conversation.
Here is how Braden did it.
During their State of the Union Meeting, Suzanne started off as the speaker, protecting his triggers by stating her complaint without trying to control him. “When I asked about making sure the kids were taken care of and you responded by telling me I was acting like your mother,” he says, “I felt hurt because it felt like our kids are not a priority for you. I want to make sure our kids are loved. I need some help.”
He wants to defend himself and tell her how she is so bossy and demanding. However, he understands that he isn’t supposed to mention any of these feelings until it’s his turn to be the speaker. And when that happens, he has to be sensitive to her triggers.
Below are some tools that helped Braden self-soothe during his State of the Union meeting.
Write down what your partner says and any defensiveness you’re feeling
Dr. Gottman suggests using a notepad to write down everything your partner says, which is especially helpful when you’re feeling defensive. This also helps you remember what was said when you reflect back what you hear or it’s your turn to speak. Remind yourself that you’re listening to your partner because you care about their pain. Lastly, it’s helpful to say to yourself, I’ll get my turn to talk and express my feelings about this.
Be mindful of love and respect
During tough conversations it’s helpful to focus on your affection and respect for your partner. Recall fond memories and remember the ways your partner has demonstrated their love. Think about how they support you and make you laugh. Consider how the joy you bring each other is more important than this conflict and working through this together will lead to more of those.
I’ve found it helpful to write a quote or a happy memory in the top right corner of my notepad reminding me that I love my partner and that this conflict has the potential to bring us closer. In “What Makes Love Last?,” Dr. Gottman suggests saying to yourself, In this relationship, we do not ignore one another’s pain. I have to understand this hurt. When you self-soothe, you learn to separate your relationship from the anger and hurt you’re feeling over this particular issue.
Slow down and breathe
Slowing down and taking deep breaths is a great way to self-soothe. Focus on relaxing your body. Sometimes doodling helps. When you do this, don’t get lost in the activity or stop listening. If your partner notices you soothing, just say, “I am trying to stay present as I listen, and stuff is coming up for me so I am trying to calm myself so I can truly hear you.” Remember to postpone your agenda and focus on understanding your partner.
Hold on to yourself
Dr. Schnarch advises partners to create a strong relationship with themselves as individuals by learning how to self-soothe and embrace their own emotions. Oftentimes when you feel flooded, it is not because you are reacting to your partner’s words or behavior. It’s because you are interpreting what they are saying and assigning personal meaning to their statements. Maybe their anger makes you feel like they’re going to leave you. Or maybe it makes you feel like you’re not being a good enough partner.
Look inward and see what you are telling yourself about what this conflict means and how it may impact you. Holding onto yourself also means considering that your partner’s complaint may have truth to it. Sometimes we hold onto a distorted self-portrait. I know I have.
Don’t take your partner’s complaint personally
This sounds impossible, especially if the complaint is about something you did or didn’t do. If you feel yourself getting defensive, seek to understand why. Ask yourself, Why am I getting defensive? What am I trying to protect? Your partner’s complaint is about their needs, not yours, so soothe your defensiveness so you can be there for them.
Ask for a reframe
If your partner is saying something that is triggering, ask them to say it in a different way. I’m feeling defensive by what you’re saying. Can you please reword your complaint so I can understand your need and explore ways we can meet it?
Push the pause button
If you notice you’re having trouble focusing as the listener, ask your partner to take a break from the conversation. This is a proactive way to self-soothe and prevents your emotional brain from flipping its lid. You can say, I’m trying to listen but I’m starting to take things personally. Can we take a break and restart this in 20 minutes? Your feelings are important to me and I want to make sure I understand you. During this time, focus on the positives of your relationship and do something that is productive. I prefer to go for a walk.
Once you’ve learned to self-soothe, it becomes a lot easier to ask your partner to help you calm down. If you find yourself struggling, tell your partner what’s on your mind. For example, “Hun, I’m feeling flooded. Can you tell me how much you love me? I need it right now.” vs. “You’re the one with the problems. Fix yourself!” The latter reaction comes from a place of fear and often creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. The former gives your relationship a fighting chance and the possibility to create a more secure bond.
Conflict is not only a catalyst for understanding, it’s also a vehicle for personal growth. I like to think of relationship conflict like an oyster. Oysters don’t intend to make beautiful pearls. Instead, pearls are a byproduct of the oyster reducing irritation created by grains of sand. In the same way, conflict can inadvertently create connection and closeness.
After listening to Suzanne, Braden takes a deep breath and says, “I hear you saying that my reaction to your request for help with the kids made you feel like family doesn’t matter to me. I can see why you’d be so upset with me.” A tear rolls down Suzanne’s cheek. This is a major breakthrough for their marriage.
Long-lasting love requires courage. The courage to be vulnerable and to listen non-defensively, even in the heat of conflict. Especially when we are hurt and angry.
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Aren’t relationships all about compromises? Isn’t that what we have always known? When you find yourself in a heated conversation with your SO, torn between standing your ground or letting go of what you want, what should you actually do? Do you find a middle ground or stand up for yourself? An awareness of non-negotiables in relationships can help you out of this quandary and find a balance between fighting and letting go.
After all, that’s what successful relationships are — fun and beautiful, but also an exercise in finding balance. They are a fine dance between celebrating togetherness while preserving your individuality; compromising while having some unshakeable boundaries; loving your partner but also loving yourself.
For a better understanding of what that healthy balance looks like, we spoke to counseling psychologist Shivangi Anil (Master’s in Clinical Psychology), who specializes in premarital, compatibility, and boundary counseling. She talked to us about the importance of recognizing your boundaries, what these boundaries may look like, and tips on creating this list of non-negotiables in a relationship. Let us take it one by one.
What Are Relationship Non-Negotiables?
Imagine this: A few months into a new relationship, you decide to move in together. You are excited. You trust this person. Then, one fine morning, you wake up to the sound of a loud but stifled hum. You walk down the stairs and find your partner sitting on the floor in a circle with ten other people, in what you imagine is a cult but may have been a morning mantra chanting session. No can do, sir! – you think to yourself. It’s in that instance, you realize one of yournon-negotiables. “Must. Not. Be. Religious”
And that’s it! That’s what non-negotiables are. Shivangi says, “A non-negotiable is a line between something acceptable or not acceptable in a relationship; non-negotiables are unique to every relationship and are influenced by personal circumstances and societal norms.”
So, once you have figured out your deal-breakers, are you set for life? Umm. No. “As you grow, these relationship boundaries do too. They change with time,” says Shivangi. Your list of non-negotiables is as dynamic as you are. Similarly, your list may also change as the relationship progresses. What may be non-negotiable to you today in your relationship, you may be more flexible about tomorrow as you begin to trust your partner more. And that’s okay!
Why are relationship non-negotiables so important?
“It is crucial to have non-negotiable boundaries in a serious relationship because they are the line between what is acceptable and what is unacceptable. Boundaries are integral in a healthy relationship because they provide stability. They are what make the relationship sustainable,” says Shivangi. How exactly? She helped us with a few examples and laid down the following ways having non-negotiables in relationships can help you.
Power & agency: A boundary like “I will continue to work post marriage & childbirth” allows a woman agency over her identity & professional life
Respect: A boundary like “We will not fight in front of others” or “You will not counter me in front of your parents” makes sure your partner respects you
A sense of safety: Something like “I feel uncomfortable with kissing in public, can we please limit it to the bedroom” allows both partners to feel safe. Or “We will never go to bed angry” allows couples to not be afraid of abandonment and feel supported when navigating conflict
A way to fulfill your individual needs: A boundary like “We will meet our individual friends alone at least once a month” allows both partners to maintain individual friendships and fulfill their need for social connection.
Overall, non-negotiables allow for both you and your partner respect, safety, and an amenable space for growth.
17 Non-Negotiables In Relationships You Must Never Compromise On
Some of the non-negotiable things in a relationship will always be unique to you. You will find them as you go along falling in love, forming bonds, falling on your face, and understanding yourself better. While many other non-negotiables are common between most couples, sort of like the cornerstones of a healthy relationship — a list of qualities of a conscious relationship.
So, what are some examples of non-negotiables in a relationship? Here is a list. Feel free to discard whatever doesn’t align with you or seems like something you don’t mind compromising over, and take what you can. We hope this list will help you figure out your deal-breakers and protect yourself from disappointments and trampled boundaries.
1. There has to be mutual respect
If you asked me, what do you look for in a relationship, my number one answer would be respect. If you find yourself in a relationship where you’re at the receiving end of your partner’s anger, your opinions are constantly disregarded, your feelings dismissed, and your boundaries violated, how long do you think the relationship would last? If it does, it is not going to be a happy relationship for sure.
You cannot foster a healthy relationship if there is a lack of respect for the person your partner is, their likes, and their life choices. Some, like myself, would even go on to say that respect for your partner is more important than love for them. Liking them for who they are, valuing their presence in your life, and feeling grateful to call them your own is what love is, isn’t it? That is what respect means and it should be the bare minimum you need in your relationship.
The strongest bonds can crumble under the weight of uncertainty and doubt. You want your partner to be a pillar of strength. Someone you can rely on with closed eyes. You don’t want to be worrying about whether they will keep their promise, whether they have your back, whether they will not hurt you. That is why, trust is an absolute must-have in any relationship, and understanding the components of trust can help a couple go a long way.
One interesting thing to note here is that all of these points, especially the foundational non-negotiables, work in tandem with each other. Chances are if you miss 2-3 in your relationship, you actually might be missing out on much more. For example, if you found that your partner lied to you, you would not just feel hurt, you would feel disrespected. Or if you respect your partner, you wouldn’t want to lie to them. You would trust them to understand what you are going through.
3. You must feel safe in your relationship
If you asked us about 3 non-negotiables in a relationship, they would be – respect, trust, and safety. It is a person’s primary right to feel safe, secure, and free from harm whether it is physical, emotional, or psychological. Both partners should be protective of each other’s well-being. Make sure that your relationship is free from the following:
Nothing would ever work in any relationship, not just a romantic relationship, if people didn’t communicate things. In fact, in the case of relationships that have a lot riding on them working out, we devise elaborate plans to ascertain effective communication. Think of the professional space. Such methodical routines to communicate things — regular meetings, issuing of memos, a fixed well-thought-out language, “official communication” from the boss. Only if we paid this kind of attention to our romantic partnerships!
But it’s never too late. If you find yourself struggling on any one of the following fronts, take active steps to fix it:
Prioritize keeping your partner informed of things so that you are both on the same page
Update each other on what’s happening in your lives
Talk regularly about your changing needs, desires, and boundaries
Honesty is an absolute must for sustaining a relationship. Trust is built through a regular display of honest behavior. Lost trust is rebuilt through a relentless, often difficult display of honesty. In fact, one wouldn’t feel safe in a relationship if one couldn’t rest assured that their partner will not lie to them or cheat them.
This is a good space to bring up the question of infidelity, especially emotional infidelity. Do you know, in a survey of 1,600 British adults, 44% said that forming an emotional relationship with someone else also constituted cheating? That is how much people want to be on the same page as their partners. Ethically non-monogamous relationships work beautifully on this very principle. “If I was in the know, if I didn’t feel cheated or lied to, if he was just honest, I would not feel stupid,” my friend who broke up with a cheating partner once told me, “I might have even been okay with it.”
6. You need personal boundaries
You cannot become one with your partner by losing yourself. That is not what “two bodies, one soul” refers to. Some people around you may make you feel that it is selfish to think about your needs, your likes, your personal space, and your time. But, having the space to nurture your personality, allows you to bring your best to the relationship, positively affecting your relationship.
You especially need this kind of non-negotiable in marriage where your boundaries can easily be infringed upon. Shivangi too says, “You must have boundaries about who gets access to your personal zone, how you like your physical space, or the everyday choices you make.” Here are some examples:
Physical space: “Clutter makes me anxious. Can we please clean up at the end of the day?”
Personal time: “I would like to take my evening walks alone”
Personal hobby: “I need my hour for knitting. It relaxes me”
Personal choice: “I don’t feel like ordering from the same place. You go ahead. I will find out what I want to eat”
7. Being in a relationship of equals is your right
Your relationship has to be a relationship of equals for most of these things to work. If your partner’s needs happen to be more important than yours, how do you expect to focus on your personal growth? If you’re forever picking up behind your partner, instead of on yourself, where would you find the me-time?
The same with your opinions and your choices. Consider this a non-negotiable in marriage — “We will share equal responsibility, we will have equal say.” After all, feeling valued in a relationship should be a bare minimum standard. A partnership that focusses on fostering equality is a strong partnership in the long run.
8. Decide how you like to be touched
Boundaries around physical touch, physical intimacy, and sex are crucial. Shivangi says, “Non-negotiables around touch are about where, when, and how you choose to be touched by your partner. Similarly, sexual boundaries are about when, where, and what kind of sexual activities you are consenting to. A sexual non-negotiable could be insisting on the use of protection or refusing anal sex.”
Think of this long and hard as one of your non-negotiables in dating. How do you like being touched? And where? Are you okay with physical affection in public? Practice consent around sexual intimacy, inside and outside the bedroom. It is non-negotiable. Period.
9. Emotional support – An inherent need in intimate relationships
We are all fighting individual battles, no matter how many people we may be surrounded with. In one way or the other we end up looking for emotional support from our partners. In moments when we are tired of our struggles, we expect them to understand, to lend an ear, to help when help is needed, to offer a shoulder to cry on, to cheer us up, to share the load, to offer advice when advice is needed, etc. These are some basic expectations.
It is okay to prioritize what you need from your partner in distressing times. Think about what the words “emotional support” mean to you, and make sure that you are getting it in your relationship.
10. Having matching values is an important quality
Yes, opposites attract. But you need commonalities on foundational values. Values are what an individual considers important and meaningful in life. They serve as a moral compass and help guide your decisions. This is why your core values need to align. In a good relationship, couples connect over these values, so that they can make compromises on the small issues.
For example, if your and your partner’s definition of cheating is the same, you wouldn’t be left with scope for misunderstandings. On the other hand, if you both feel differently about questions like, “Is it okay to lie to spare someone their feelings?”, one of you might end up hurting the other.
This brings us to the next point. Beliefs! Beliefs are thoughts, ideas, and convictions we hold dear. They are formed by our personal experiences, cultural background, upbringing, etc. These could be political, religious, or moral beliefs. Beliefs are influenced by values, and therefore, like values, if your beliefs differ too much from your partner’s, they can become a source of friction throughout your life.
This can be a pretty strong non-negotiable in a relationship. For example, “No matter what happens, I cannot be with a gun owner.” You could think of your boundaries surrounding beliefs, and what you can or cannot compromise with. Shivangi says, “You may not have the same religious beliefs as your partner, but you can be okay with different spiritual beliefs around you, without being forced to follow them. Or it’s okay if this is too much for you.” The thing with boundaries is, you decide what’s your relationship deal-breaker.
12. Sharing common long-term goals can make life easier
You don’t have to be “goal-oriented”, as they say, to think about goals. Goals don’t have to be about success, a house, a car, or a job. What comes to your mind when you think of your long-term goals? I think of things like:
Do I want kids? Maybe not
Where do I want to live? Maybe in a city that’s close to the hills
Do I want to prioritize professional development over being with my family? If needed
How important is my fitness going to be for me? A lot
Do I imagine taking care of my parents in their old age? Yes
It is answers to questions like these that can be your deal-breakers. Although, I feel, that the answers to these can change over time. Our long-term relationship goals and life goals change, or we become more flexible with them. If everything else is working out well with your partner, it is not a great idea to go separate ways just because you want to retire in a city while your partner wants to go back to their childhood farm. You don’t know how either of you will feel a few years from now, let alone your retirement years.
13. How you spend your money can be an important non-negotiable
With coupledom comes the inevitable merging of the finances. Now, there is a huge difference between saying, “My money is your money”, and actually seeing your savings being spent on something that doesn’t agree with you. Misaligned financial values and the money trauma arising from it can be a deeply unsettling issue. All of us need to feel comfortable with the way our money is spent.
When it comes to finding financial stability, what are some examples of non-negotiables in a relationship? Shivangi says, “It is about how people manage their money and whom they choose to share it with.” For the sake of clarity, let’s look at some examples of financial boundaries. These examples may help a couple avoid financial conflict in marriage.
I would like to continue having an independent savings account
Supporting my parents financially is my responsibility and I will continue to do that after marriage
I feel comfortable saving at least 20% of my earning in an emergency fund
I don’t feel comfortable investing in cryptocurrency
I have a traumatic relationship with gambling. I cannot tolerate casual gambling and occasional betting
14. Partners must support each other’s growth
I rewrote “should support” to “must support”. And that’s what a non-negotiable is. A step up from “should” to “must”. Your ideas around what this support looks like can change, but there is no beating around the bush with this one. Partners in a relationship must look beyond their interests and help each other shine to their full potential. Here are some ways partners can do that:
Recognize each other’s contributions, strengths, and achievements
Offer words of encouragement and praise
Show belief in their abilities
Help partner access resources – financial, physical, or logistical. For example, holding the fort when they are gone or are keeping busy
Celebrate milestones with them
Set goals for yourself and lead by example
Take care of each other’s physical, emotional, and mental health
A long-term relationship works when two people commit to making each other their priority. This demonstrates your love, respect, and commitment to the relationship. You build a strong emotional bond with them, making dealing with the ups and downs of the relationship much easier. For example, if you are in a marriage where your partner is particularly close to their family, this might not resonate with you. For you, leave and cleave boundaries can be an important non-negotiable.
16. Everybody needs privacy!
If you were raised in a big family, you might have craved privacy all your life. Or you may enjoy sharing space with other people. Regardless of how you view the line between love and privacy, it’s vital to have a conversation about it with your significant other and arrive at a middle ground about what respecting each other’s privacy would mean in your relationship.
Shivangi says, “Non-negotiables around privacy can also be about who has access to your physical things. A common privacy boundary is no checking phones or asking for email or social media passwords.” Other questions that can help you find out what kind of privacy you absolutely need are:
Do you need a room of your own?
Do you hate it when someone looks through your closet?
You don’t mind sharing a bed, but do you hate it when someone stretches out your slip-ons or shares your towel?
How do you feel about keeping a journal? Does it stress you out that someone may read it?
17. What’s a personal value you cannot do without?
Is it humor, kindness, passion, charity, or something else? For me, personally, nothing beats sensitivity and kindness. This is what makes me value my partner the most. That he is kind, not just toward me, but also to other people he comes across in his life.
Then there is also a bit of humor. He makes up jokes all day that crack me up. (Although he tells me I am the only one who laughs.) I also appreciate that he believes in charity. That comes from kindness. On top of that, his passion for his work… Before this becomes a love letter to my husband, allow me to summarize this point.
These are examples of standards in a relationship. What is something that will make you fall in love again with your partner every morning? What will you most appreciate them for? What makes you respect them for who they are? It’s clear this value is important to you! Keep this on the top of your list of non-negotiables to never feel that you are in a relationship of compromises. Every sacrifice is worth it when your non-negotiables are taken care of.
Tips For Figuring Out Your Non-Negotiables
Some of this advice you can follow to the T, and some you may have to figure out on your own. But is the only way to learn about your musts a trial-and-error method? Does it always have to come down to receiving a blow in your face to figure out what you can never compromise on? Not necessarily. Shivangi helps us with invaluable tips to ascertain what our non-negotiables in relationship are going to be like.
1. Know your authentic self
“From a judgment-free space try to find out who you are. Understand what you value the most and what are some things you are willing to compromise with. You could list out the values you want to live by in the future, the actions required for that, and the limits you need to set. These limits are your non-negotiables,” says Shivangi.
Engage in some TLC, some self-love. This will help you be in tune with your emotional response system and your intuition.
2. Identify your core values
What qualities, principles, or behaviors do you consider essential in a partner? These are your core values and things you cannot compromise with. A person’s values can be made clear and brought to the front through introspection. Shivangi gives some prompts that may help:
What values did I get from my primary caregivers?
What values would I like to live by?
Which of these am I living by today?
What according to me are some important values in a relationship?
“All the boys you’ve loved before” and the “ghosts of girlfriends past” are there for a reason! Spend time thinking about the dates you have been on, the previous relationships that worked, and the ones that failed. Think about the questions that follow. These work great at figuring out your non-negotiables in a relationship.
What were the things that made you dissatisfied, uncomfortable, or conflicted?
Look around! There are relationships all around you. The great ones, the boring ones, the miserable ones, the disasters, the ones you feel pity for, the ones that make you jealous. There is something to learn from all of these. What are the qualities that contribute to the success of good relationships? Do these align with your values? That’s your cue to find out what do you want in a relationship and create the list of non-negotiables in relationship.
5. Trust your gut
If you don’t like something and find it hard to let go, chances are that something about it is in huge conflict with something very important to you. That is your non-negotiable. This is often not apparent and can be difficult to dig up from a mess of tangled emotions. But if you do the work — self-awareness, mindfulness, self-reflection, journaling, patience, and if needed, therapy, you may just locate that value. Once you do, you can avoid the unnecessary pressure of finding a compromise where you should be putting your foot down.
Key Pointers
Non-negotiables in dating, love, and marriage are things that are absolutely important to you
Respect, trust, and security are 3 non-negotiables in a relationship that are of utmost importance, along with having similar interests, values, and beliefs
Some of these bare minimum standards are foundational in nature. Others are unique to the couple
Figuring out your non-negotiables in a relationship is not difficult. With some introspection, reflecting on past experiences, and observing other people, you can find the qualities in a relationship that resonate the most with you
Prioritizing yourself and spending time in self-reflection will help you find your values and guide your non-negotiables
Only you decide which core needs in a relationship are your top priority! Is respecting each other’s family important to you? Are you a vegan and can’t be with a meat-eater? Does jealousy make you extremely uncomfortable? Go ahead, make your list. And then stand your ground, stick to it! That is the secret to a successful relationship.
In today’s digital age, online editors have become indispensable tools for a wide range of creative professionals, writers, students, and hobbyists alike. These versatile platforms offer a host of features and benefits that enable users to enhance their productivity, streamline their workflow, and unleash their creativity. In this blog post, we will explore the power of online editors, like Vista Create, and how they can revolutionize your creative process.
Seamless Collaboration and Accessibility
One of the standout advantages of online editors is their ability to facilitate seamless collaboration. Whether you are working on a group project, co-authoring a document, or seeking feedback from peers, editors make it easy to collaborate in real time. Multiple users can work on a document simultaneously, eliminating the need for back-and-forth emails or the hassle of merging different versions of the same file.
Moreover, online platforms break down geographical barriers. With a stable internet connection, you can access your work from anywhere in the world. This accessibility is particularly beneficial for remote teams, students on the go, or professionals who frequently travel. The ability to edit and review documents online ensures that everyone involved is always up to date, fostering smoother and more efficient collaboration.
Versatile Formatting and Editing Options
Online editors offer a plethora of formatting and editing options that cater to a wide range of needs. From basic text formatting to more advanced features like tables, images, and hyperlinks, these platforms provide users with the tools they need to create visually appealing and interactive content.
In addition, many online platforms come equipped with spell checkers, grammar checkers, and even plagiarism detectors. These features can be incredibly helpful, especially for writers and students who want to ensure their work is error-free and original. With these tools readily available, users can focus on the content itself rather than getting caught up in minor errors or technicalities.
Cloud Storage and Version Control
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Gone are the days of worrying about losing your work due to a computer crash or misplaced files. Online editors often come with cloud storage capabilities, allowing you to save your documents securely in the cloud. This means that even if your computer malfunctions, your files remain safe and accessible from any device.
Furthermore, online tools typically offer version control, which allows you to track changes made to a document and revert to previous versions if needed. This feature is particularly useful when collaborating with others or when you want to revisit an earlier draft. Version control ensures that you never lose your progress and gives you the freedom to experiment and iterate without fear.
Enhanced Productivity with Automation
Online editors are designed to boost productivity by automating certain tasks. For example, you can create templates to save time on repetitive formatting or layout work. Templates allow you to apply consistent styles across multiple documents, whether you’re creating reports, resumes, or presentations.
Additionally, online tools often integrate with other productivity tools, such as project management software or note-taking applications. This integration enables users to streamline their workflow by seamlessly transferring information between platforms. By eliminating the need to switch between multiple tools, editors help you stay focused and work more efficiently.
Enhanced Security and Data Protection
In an era where cybersecurity threats are prevalent, online editors prioritize the security and protection of your valuable data. These platforms employ robust security measures to safeguard your documents and ensure that your information remains confidential.
Firstly, editors often use encryption protocols to secure your files during transmission and storage. This encryption makes it extremely difficult for unauthorized individuals to access your data. Additionally, reputable online editors implement authentication mechanisms, such as two-factor authentication, to prevent unauthorized access to your account.
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Additionally, editors frequently back up their cloud-based storage, adding another layer of security against data loss. This backup feature ensures that even in the event of a technical glitch or server failure, your documents are safe and can be restored.
Conclusion
Online editors have revolutionized the way we create, collaborate, and work with digital content. From seamless collaboration and versatile formatting options to cloud storage and automation, these tools empower users to streamline their workflow and unleash their creativity. Whether you’re a writer, a student, or a professional, incorporating an editor into your toolkit can significantly enhance your productivity and make the creative process a breeze.
So, why wait? Explore the wide range of editors available today and experience the power and convenience they bring to your work. Embrace the possibilities and unlock your true creative potential!
It’s baaaaaack!! Your absolute FAVORITE bundle of the year is back and better than ever! We’ve gathered all of the best marriage courses, ebooks, and printables together so that you can create a happier and more connected relationship with your spouse!
We believe that marriage matters.
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Imagine, with just one click of a button, all of the top marriage courses, ebooks, printables, and date nights will be in your hands! Each resource has been selected to help you have a whole lot more fun, and much fewer issues in your relationship.
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What is included?
This Marriage Bundle is FILLED with practical tools, tips, workshops, and resources to improve your marriage. One of the best parts of the bundle is that all of the resources cover different aspects of a relationship! You can use each one of them and totally enhance every single part of your marriage, or you can pick and choose the resources that will be most useful to you. (The crazy part is that even if you only use a couple of these resources, you will still be SAVING money!)
Take a look at what is included in this bundle:
A Year of Date Nights
Bedroom Games
18 Day Study Challenge for Husbands AND Wives
31 Nights of Intimacy eBook
Touched Out to Turned On Workshop
10-Day Relationship Makeover
6-Day Intimacy Breakthrough Course
Marriage Affirmations & Journal Prompts
The Seduce Your Spouse Course
AND MORE! (check out all the details below if you want to see everything first!)
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$20 for 20 products! That’s just $1 each!
This bundle is such a STEAL! If you want to get every single detail that you can before purchasing, we’ve listed out each product and description below. This way, you will feel MORE than confident that paying just $20 to get every single resource mentioned below is exactly what your marriage needs!
1. A Year of Date Nights by The Dating Divas– Tired of dinner & a movie or Netflix & chill? Time for some fun & creative date nights! Create your own date kit for each month of the whole year! These printables will help you create a romantic and meaningful gift for your spouse. They also make the best wedding, bridal shower, or anniversary gift for any couple.
2. 31 Nights of Intimacy eBook by Kingdom Sexuality– Not sure how to get out of the rut of doing the same things every week for date night? Look no further! This is a unique ebook filled with wholesome and sensual ‘enticements’ for married couples to indulge themselves in together. All 39 pages were prayerfully created to bring closeness and connection between you and your spouse, taking your date nights to the next level.
3. Productivity Power Packby A Purpose Driven Mom– Struggling to find time for your marriage? Life is busy! Our days are constantly changing. Our schedules are affected by other people. Unexpected things pop up. As a result, it can be so tough to figure out what to-do’s to tackle, and in what order, to maximize our time. And speaking of time, where do we find more of it? Well, I have good news… I’ve got a proven 3-step process for you to make sure you can feel on top of your time.
4. 18 Day Wife Study Challenge & 18 Day Husband Study Challenge by Awesome Marriage– This challenge is all about studying and cherishing your spouse. Dr. Kim says that one of the keys to an awesome marriage is being a student of your spouse. When you were first dating I bet you studied your husband or wife intensely. You wanted to know everything about him or her. You couldn’t get enough of them. All that studying connected you two. It can connect you again!
5. Beatitudes in the Bedroom: Embracing the Blessings for Your Marriage Bed by Hot, Holy, & Humorous– What are the Beatitudes? A series of “Blessed are” sayings that some have instead translated to “Happy are.” What if they applied to helping you feel more blessed and happier about your sex life? In fact, they do! In this short book, bestselling Christian sex author and speaker, J. Parker, walks you through each separate blessing from Matthew 5:3-10 and shows how Jesus’ Beatitudes are relevant to sexuality and marriage.
6. Living Your Relationship Values by Cameron Staley Ph.D.– Are you ready to be the partner you’ve always wanted to be in your relationship but are unsure where to start? Join Dr. Cameron Staley in this workshop as he shares over 30 relationship values you can begin living now in your relationship! Along with this video workshop, you will receive a digital copy of each relationship value to explore with your partner to begin living your relationship to its fullest!
7. Seven Biblical Insights for Healthy, Joyful, Christ-Centered Marriages: And Accompanying Discussion Questions to Apply Them by Pastor Scott LaPierre– Do you want a healthy, joyful, Christ centered relationship? Then you must embrace the principles in God’s Word. God intended marriage to be one of the greatest gifts on this side of Heaven. Whether you are preparing for your wedding, newlyweds, or marriage veterans, this book from pastor, author, and speaker, Scott LaPierre, will bless you!
8. Marriage Bundle: Affirmations and Journal Promptsby Dr. Julie Hanks– Embrace your sexuality and strengthen your relationship. Your marriage will thank you for this all-in-one solution for building a strong and passionate partnership. Experience deeper connection through our Partnership Marriage Affirmation Cards, fostering love and understanding, and embrace your authentic self with our Body and Sexuality Affirmation Cards and Journal Prompts.
9. Bedroom Game Pack 3by Love Hope Adventure– The Bedroom Game Pack 3 features 12 sexy printable bedroom games from Love Hope Adventure and conversation starters for your next date night. This pack is full of sexy and romantic prompts that will help you create a stronger intimate relationship.
10. The Enneagram Bundle for Marriage by Enneagram + Marriage– The Enneagram is a wonderful tool to help you to find the best ways to live with health, but not only personal health- relationship health as well! So many folks can get lost in the weeds of the Enneagram, instead of finding actual practical marriage hacks they can bring home right away. Our Enneagram Bundle for Marriage is exactly that – we shared pointed, fun, and strategic ways for each and every Enneagram type in marriage to thrive together! We walk you through clarifying tips for life, marriage, sexual intimacy, parenting, and more!
11. Making Your Marriage a Fortress, Chapter 1by Gary Thomas– It’s not a matter of when a storm hits your marriage; it’s a matter of when. If you’re properly prepared as a couple, such storms can actually increase your marital connection rather than threaten it. We’re offering a full chapter from Making Your Marriage a Fortress: Strengthening Your Marriage to Withstand Life’s Storm. This chapter focuses on the life of Stacey and Darell. Stacey married an extremely fit and strong athlete who was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis just three years into their marriage. How do couples navigate a lifelong challenge when expectations and hopes are dashed? Their story will inspire you and encourage you about the power of faith to overcome disappointment.
12. Touched Out to Turned On Workshop by Love After Baby– Missing the intimacy of your relationship before your baby arrived? Wishing you could get back to wanting intimacy with your partner and feeling as desirable as you did before? This workshop from Love After Baby will help rekindle your physical affection for one another. The workshop includes about an hour of content broken up into small, digestible videos and a digital workbook.
13. 10-Day Relationship Makeover by Dr. Matt Townsend– Have you found yourself saying any of the following statements?
I’m tired of having the same fights with my partner.
I feel so alone in my relationship.
We have little to no chemistry anymore.
I feel like my partner just doesn’t understand me.
I’m not able to connect to my partner.
I feel like I can’t do anything right in their eyes.
I don’t trust my partner anymore.
I’m sick of not feeling like a priority.
I feel like we’re strangers.
I get little to no fulfillment in the relationship these days.
I feel like l’ve fallen out of love with my partner.
If so, this is the program for you! You will get 10 value packed videos, plus a workbook and a marriage assessment!
14. What Does Sex Mean To My Spouse? eCourseby Intimate Covenant– Understanding what motivates your spouse to enjoy or avoid sex is critical to building a meaningful and intimate sexual relationship. In this eCourse, Matt & Jenn Schmidt will discuss the meanings that we attach to sex and how husbands and wives often view sex differently. The five short lessons are supplemented by a printable worksheet to facilitate a transformative conversation with your spouse.
15. 6-Day Intimacy Breakthrough Courseby ONE Extraordinary Marriage– Build back the intimacy in your marriage that will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse. The 6-Day Intimacy Breakthrough is a digital video course (6 lessons) and interactive worksheets designed to help you and your spouse identify cracks in your marriage paired with simple, yet effective daily exercises to improve your connection.
16. Spark Workshopby Amanda Louder– This 5-part virtual workshop by Amanda Louder will help you learn how to create more space in your life for sex, more passion, more intimacy and more connection and give you specific ideas of HOW to build new patterns and habits to keep it going.
17. Starting Strong: 7 Things Every Newlywed Should Know by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife– During this 25-minute e-course Dr. Finlayson-Fife walks couples through 7 important principles that will help ensure that their marriage gets started off on the right foot! Whether you’ve been married for decades or haven’t yet tied the knot, this course will give you ideas for both creating and maintaining a strong connection with your partner.
18. Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself: 5 Steps to Banish Guilt and Beat Burnout When You Already Have Too Much To Do Exclusive Previewby My Love Thinks– You want to be a great mother. You also want to be a great wife, friend, businesswoman, a person with her own thoughts… How do you honor your whole self without ignoring your kids or feeling guilty half the time? Psychotherapist and relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip has helped over 100,000 moms regain their identity and prevent burnout. Learn a proven 5-step plan that you can start today. You don’t have to choose between neglecting yourself or neglecting your kids.
19. The Ultimate Guide to Pleasing Your Husband & The Ultimate Guide to Pleasing Your Wifeby Get Your Marriage On!– When you said “I do,” your spouse didn’t come with a manual. Many of us are puzzled with actually HOW to give intimate pleasure. We’ve created the ultimate guide for husbands and wives to give each other sexual pleasure in a tastefully written in-depth guide. With this bundle you can choose either the guide written for wives to please their husbands or husbands to please their wives, or upgrade to get both guides.
20. The Seduce Your Spouse Courseby Secrets of Happily Ever After-Attention couples who are tired of going through the motions in your marriage! It’s time to reignite the passion and start having fun again! The Seduce Your Spouse Course includes 5 modules and a workbook that walks you through how to break out of the roommate rut without spending endless hours talking, reading boring marriage books or trying to change your partner.
Grab your bundle of all 20 products for just $1 each!
REMEMBER:
#1- It’s only available for a LIMITED TIME!
#2- After midnight MDT on July 31st, this deal is gone FOREVER!
What are you waiting for?!
BUY THE MARRIAGE BUNDLE NOW
NORMAL PRICE = Over $400!
Bundled for a limited time only for $35
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BONUS ALERT!!!
Not only do we have the discount code for this steal-of-a-deal marriage bundle, we are also throwing in an EARLY BIRD BONUS!
If you purchase this bundle BEFORE midnight MDT on July 24th, you will receive our amazing Love Email Club FOR FREE!
Your spouse will look forward to checking their inbox like they never have before!
THIS DIGITAL KIT INCLUDES:
Tips and Tricks – We’ll help you set up your email “club” and give you ideas for writing the best emails!
Enrollment Kick Off Note – The first graphic to email to your spouse explains the email club and what to expect from it!
52 Email Prompts– Funny, silly, heartfelt and romantic prompts to get the wheels turning for your electronic love letter writing.
The Love Email Club is the perfect way to start a fun correspondence with your spouse and send them your words of affirmation.
But you have to act FAST! All purchases made BEFORE midnight MDT on July 24th will receive this pack in their inbox on the 25th!
NORMAL PRICE = Over $400!
Bundled for a limited time only for $35
TODAY ONLY $20 (That’s over 95% OFF!)
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