Over my 10+ years of writing and coaching I’ve seen every kind of struggle in finding love there is: the pain of being ghosted. The frustration of dating flakey people. The agony of trying to decide if this is the right relationship for you.
And the truth is clear: love isn’t simple.
I can’t offer one simple formula or catchy aphorism that sums up all the secrets of the human heart and solves your entire romantic life.
But there are some invaluable lessons I’ve learned along the way.
So if you want to return to some hard-won wisdom at any time, here are 5 of the biggest truths about love and relationships that are worth keeping:
1. Be open about who you meet, but very selective about who you invest in
Most people in their love life are too picky at the wrong time. They are incredibly dismissive when it comes to who they might meet, and then when they find the one person they actually like, they give them their heart immediately.
The smart way to date is the opposite: meet many people, and then get picky about who you give your time and emotion to.
2.Value character as much as you value chemistry
Hollywood and romantic fiction has taught us that if love isn’t making your heart do back flips and leaving you breathless with every encounter, then you’re not doing it right.
I’m all for passionate, even lust-fuelled excitement in the honeymoon phase of a relationship. But too often we place this heady excitement above any assessment of the long-term virtues of the person in front of us.
Are they good at doing what they say? Can they be loyal? Do they encourage you and bring kindness to your world, or do they bring complaints and put their needs above you?
The more we realise character and chemistry belong on the same pedestal, the happier we’ll be in the relationships that we choose.
3. If it’s a choice between being respected and being liked, choose being respected.
Of course, it’s possible to do both.
You can be respected and liked at the same time. But other times, there is a choice: do I follow my people-pleaser instincts and say what this person wants to hear? Or do I respect myself and express my true needs/opinions even if it might irk them in the moment?
It could be expressing a boundary, stating a need we have, or calling someone out on bad behaviour: whichever it is, if you do it in a kind and respectful way, you’ll only be respected more for it.
4. Disinterest is a turn-off. When someone gives you less, you should be less interested
Too often we get told that great love requires challenge.
And challenge can be fun: if it’s in the form of someone who inspires us to be our better selves.
But if someone is actively showing disinterest (or ignoring us entirely), that should always be a turn-off!
If there is one lesson I would give to save a million lives wasted pining for the wrong person, it would be this: someone not wanting you should actively make you lose interest.
Why? Because this person, however wonderful on paper, CANNOT fulfil your needs by definition. They have failed one of the essential conditions of loving you: the desire to actually be there and show it.
5. Choose a partner you can have a 50+ year conversation with
I have to credit the New York Times writer David Brooks with this one. He once said: “Marriage is a 50 year conversation”.
Once you see it that way, you start to make very different choices about who to spend your life with. You realise the folly of choosing someone simply for their status, their looks, their job, their perceived glamorous lifestyle.
This isn’t to disparage wanting a partner who makes you happy in all kinds of ways, but it is a reminder that in between all the glossy brochure Instagram highlights of trips to Italy and ice cream on the beach, there’s the actual experience of living together. Talking over dinner. Hanging out after work. Taking a lazy stroll together on a Sunday. Dealing with children together. Spending time with each other’s friends and family.
And that leads us to the real question: is this someone I can spend THAT much free time with? Am I in love with their soul? Do I love hearing what they have to say? Can they speak to my mind? Do they “get” me and make me feel like home?
If you start there, you’ll find it’s much harder to go wrong.
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Over my 10+ years of writing and coaching I’ve seen every kind of struggle in finding love there is: the pain of being ghosted. The frustration of dating flakey people. The agony of trying to decide if this is the right relationship for you.
And the truth is clear: love isn’t simple.
I can’t offer one simple formula or catchy aphorism that sums up all the secrets of the human heart and solves your entire romantic life.
But there are some invaluable lessons I’ve learned along the way.
So if you want to return to some hard-won wisdom at any time, here are 5 of the biggest truths about love and relationships that are worth keeping:
1. Be open about who you meet, but very selective about who you invest in –
Most people in their love life are too picky at the wrong time. They are incredibly dismissive when it comes to who they might meet, and then when they find the one person they actually like, they give them their heart immediately.
The smart way to date is the opposite: meet many people, and then get picky about who you give your time and emotion to.
2.Value character as much as you value chemistry
Hollywood and romantic fiction has taught us that if love isn’t making your heart do back flips and leaving you breathless with every encounter, then you’re not doing it right.
I’m all for passionate, even lust-fuelled excitement in the honeymoon phase of a relationship. But too often we place this heady excitement above any assessment of the long-term virtues of the person in front of us.
Are they good at doing what they say? Can they be loyal? Do they encourage you and bring kindness to your world, or do they bring complaints and put their needs above you?
The more we realise character and chemistry belong on the same pedestal, the happier we’ll be in the relationships that we choose.
3. If it’s a choice between being respected and being liked, choose being respected.
Of course, it’s possible to do both.
You can be respected and liked at the same time. But other times, there is a choice: do I follow my people-pleaser instincts and say what this person wants to hear? Or do I respect myself and express my true needs/opinions even if it might irk them in the moment?
It could be expressing a boundary, stating a need we have, or calling someone out on bad behaviour: whichever it is, if you do it in a kind and respectful way, you’ll only be respected more for it.
4. Disinterest is a turn-off. When someone gives you less, you should be less interested
Too often we get told that great love requires challenge.
And challenge can be fun: if it’s in the form of someone who inspires us to be our better selves.
But if someone is actively showing disinterest (or ignoring us entirely), that should always be a turn-off!
If there is one lesson I would give to save a million lives wasted pining for the wrong person, it would be this: someone not wanting you should actively make you lose interest.
Why? Because this person, however wonderful on paper, CANNOT fulfil your needs by definition. They have failed one of the essential conditions of loving you: the desire to actually be there and show it.
5. Choose a partner you can have a 50+ year conversation with
I have to credit the New York Times writer David Brooks with this one. He once said: “Marriage is a 50 year conversation”.
Once you see it that way, you start to make very different choices about who to spend your life with. You realise the folly of choosing someone simply for their status, their looks, their job, their perceived glamorous lifestyle.
This isn’t to disparage wanting a partner who makes you happy in all kinds of ways, but it is a reminder that in between all the glossy brochure Instagram highlights of trips to Italy and ice cream on the beach, there’s the actual experience of living together. Talking over dinner. Hanging out after work. Taking a lazy stroll together on a Sunday. Dealing with children together. Spending time with each other’s friends and family.
And that leads us to the real question: is this someone I can spend THAT much free time with? Am I in love with their soul? Do I love hearing what they have to say? Can they speak to my mind? Do they “get” me and make me feel like home?
If you start there, you’ll find it’s much harder to go wrong.
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A popular subject in the modern day within Christian culture is the topic of saving marriage at all costs. What this means is that many people believe you have to save your marriage — no matter what.
Whether your spouse is unfaithful to you, abuses you, or hurts you, you still must stay in your marriage and “save it.” As someone who grew up in a home where my parents had a bad relationship, sometimes the best thing to do is for the marriage to end rather than to stick it out.
Reasons for Divorce
Before anyone shames you for considering getting a divorce, know that divorce is biblical under certain circumstances. The first circumstance that it is permissible to get a divorce is if your spouse is unfaithful to you.
If they are unfaithful to you, you are under no obligation to remain married. It is true you can work through couples therapy and try to work to repair your relationship; however, leaving the marriage is also a biblical option.
The second circumstance that it is biblical to get a divorce is if your spouse abuses you physically, emotionally, or verbally. This goes against Paul’s teaching of marriage in Ephesians 5:22-33.
If your spouse is abusing you in any way, you are permitted to get a divorce and leave the marriage. Nowhere in the Bible are we told to save our marriage when it is beyond repair.
If your spouse has become abusive, you are under no obligation to stay. In fact, you need to get out as fast as possible because if they are physically abusive toward you, they could badly hurt you or cause you to go to the hospital.
Never feel it is unwarranted to leave your marriage in these circumstances. God doesn’t want you to stay in a relationship where you are being hurt in any shape or form. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God and both the man and woman made vows to love their spouse.
Your spouse is breaking their vow if they are unfaithful to you or abuse you. You are not required to stay or try to “save” your marriage when it is in this condition. Sometimes the bravest thing to do is to leave.
Identity in Christ
Oftentimes many people view they have lost their identity as a wife once they are divorced. While this can be a painful reality, they need to know that their worth is not tied together with being a wife.
Within Christian culture, it is often taught that a woman’s purpose is to get married and have a family. If she does this, she is “living within the will of God.”
This couldn’t be more inaccurate because single women who never get married and never have children can equally be living within the will of God.
Due to the unbiblical principles that have been placed upon women within Christian culture, women often feel they lose their identity once they are divorced, or they feel they will lose their identity as soon as they start thinking about divorce.
If you are worried about losing your entire identity if you don’t “save” your marriage, know that your worth and value don’t change based on whether or not you are married. If you are single, married, or divorced, your value never changes.
Moreover, your identity in Christ is your utmost identity — not your relationship identity. Nobody has a superior identity based on their relationship identity because the only identity that matters for eternity is our identity in Christ.
Marriage as an Idol
Sadly, many individuals treat marriage as an idol, and this can cause them to have even more difficulty stepping away from a marriage when things go bad.
This can cause the woman or man to continue to stick it out because they have turned marriage into an idol. The Bible is clear that we should not have any idols as this is idolatry.
The Prophet Jonah spoke these wise words as he was inside the belly of a huge fish, “Those who cling to worthless idols turn away from God’s love for them” (Jonah 2:8). As Jonah says in this verse, those who turn to idols are turning away from God’s love.
In the same way, many people turn away from God’s love for them because of their idol — marriage.
Although they could leave the marriage and experience the life of love God wants for them, they choose to stay in the marriage because it has become their idol, their utmost top priority, and the thing they want more than anything.
It is as though they are holding onto their marriage for dear life when it is only a bomb that could go off in their hands.
God wants to take away this bomb, but they won’t let Him because they have an infatuation for marriage — even to the point when it becomes detrimental to their own well-being.
If you are in a situation such as this, know that marriage does not need to be an idol in your life. Marriage is a beautiful thing; however, it is only beautiful if both the husband and wife are treating each other correctly.
What Does This Mean?
If your spouse has hurt you, abused you, or was unfaithful to you, know that there is great bravery and great freedom in leaving the marriage.
Christian culture might tell you otherwise, but we need to turn to the Bible rather than our friends at church who have been drenched in Christian culture since the time they were children.
What the Bible tells us is the most important, and what it says is that a person can get divorced if their spouse is unfaithful to them or abuses them in any way. The Bible also tells us that our identity is in Christ; therefore, if we leave our marriage, it does change our worth in God’s eyes.
Our biggest identity is found in the Lord, and this should be the identity we place above everything else. Never should we place marriage as being more important than God.
This leads us to the truth that we don’t need to idolize anything, including marriage. Christian culture idolizes marriage to an unhealthy level, which can make it difficult for spouses to leave marriages when things go wrong.
Don’t stay silent on these issues, and don’t try to stick it out. It is not good to claim that it is biblical to save the marriage at all costs.
For the Bible to say that you must save marriage at all costs, it would be saying that marriage is the most important thing in our lives, and it’s not.
The most important thing in our lives is our relationship with Jesus Christ. Our identity is found in Him, and salvation is found in no one else.
The Lord doesn’t want us to stay in unhealthy marriages because it will only cause us problems and impair our relationship with Him. He wants us to have an abundant life, and sometimes this might mean ending a marriage when your spouse is unfaithful to you or hurts you.
Never does God say you have to stay in these relationships, nor does He tell you to try to save your marriage. Your most important relationship is the relationship you have with God — not your spouse.
Vivian Bricker loves Jesus, studying the Word of God, and helping others in their walk with Christ. She has earned a Bachelor of Arts and Master’s degree in Christian Ministry with a deep academic emphasis in theology. Her favorite things to do are spending time with her family and friends, reading, and spending time outside. When she is not writing, she is embarking on other adventures.
This article originally appeared on Christianity.com. For more faith-building resources, visit Christianity.com.
An emotionally abusive relationship is one where there is consistent abuse and controlling behavior. The abuser continues to wield control over their victim and uses shame, guilt, fear, sarcasm, and criticism to get their way. This can happen through actions or words and often worsens with time. Ultimately, the abuser succeeds in wearing down the mental health of their victim.
A survey conducted by the United States Center for Disease Control and Prevention put forth some startling statistics: 48.4% of women and 48.8% of men have experienced at least some form of emotional/psychological abuse by their partner during their lifetime.
According to psychologist Nandita Rambhia (M.Sc. Psychology), a psychotherapist and student counselor, the emotional abuse checklist includes feelings of low self-worth, isolation, and no self-confidence. This can lead to a host of mental health problems like anxiety, depression, and others. Let’s talk more about this rampant issue.
What Is Emotional Abuse?
The question you have to ask yourself is, how does this person make you feel? Experiencing any form of emotional abuse can lead to feelings of frustration, worthlessness, depression, anxiety, hurt, and confusion. Since emotionally abusive behavior can often be subtle and manipulative, how your interactions make you feel is what can help you watch out for the red flags, so be aware. It’s sometimes easier to brush off traumatic experiences as “not that bad” and make excuses for your abuser.
Nandita states, “The insidious nature of emotional abuse is that it is, more often than not, rarely a physical form of abuse. The repercussions are all emotional and internal, hence hard to see or quantify for others. While emotional abuse often occurs with other types of abuse, it can also occur independently in a relationship.” You can check against the emotional abuse checklist in this article, or find others online, to determine whether your relationship is emotionally abusive or not.
Why does emotional abuse occur?
There are several expert-backed reasons for a person to resort to abusive behavior patterns. Also, there is a slight possibility that the person who hurts you is unaware of the impact of their words or actions. The motivation to hurt you emotionally could arise from personality disorders or their own history of mental abuse or physical abuse. The need for controlling behavior and psychological games could be complicated, but it is essential to understand that there is no excuse whatsoever for being emotionally abusive.
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Emotional Abuse Checklist – 18 Devastating Signs
Nandita states, “It is essential that as soon as it occurs, you take a step back and recognize the triggers and patterns of such abusive behaviors. Having an emotional abuse checklist and facing reality is a big step. Yes, the process of facing reality is hard but it needs to happen. You deserve to have healthy boundaries with your partner.”
An emotional abuse checklist can help you (or your friends and family) determine if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship. Please remember that you don’t need ‘all’ signs to be present to call it emotional abuse. Even a few positive answers to the questions below can indicate a problem and a potentially abusive relationship. Everyone has the right to happiness, companionship, trust, and love; no one should make you feel less entitled to these fundamental rights.
Ask yourself the following questions in the emotional abuse checklist below to find out if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship:
Does your partner insult, constantly tease, or ridicule you?
Are they jealous of your friends, family, and even your pet?
Do you have fewer friends and colleagues you interact with as your new relationship progresses?
Let’s dive deep into this emotional abuse checklist and understand the signs. Remember, you could be experiencing just one or two or many, but all signify a reason to believe this could turn into a toxic relationship, if not intervened with.
1. You are constantly judged or criticized in an emotionally abusive relationship
You might face verbal emotional abuse at the hands of the one you love, and not take it seriously until it’s taken a huge toll on you. A recent study on emotionally abusive relationships concluded that criticism is one of the most common displays of psychological abuse. Top on the list of areas of critique are intelligence (17.9%), finances (17.6%), and physical appearances (14.6%).
Elements of such emotional abuse include the following:
Being put down in front of others
Jokes at your expense
Sarcastic remarks
Being excessively opinionated about what you do, say, or think
Judging your life choices
2. Your boundaries are routinely invaded or ignored
Everyone has a right to privacy. In a new relationship, in the first flush of love and sexual attraction, it may be tricky to draw those lines. However, if your space feels consistently violated, you feel trapped in the relationship, or you feel like things are moving too fast, trust your instincts and speak up or slow down.
You should leave if the situation is beyond repair. However, Nandita adds, “Unfortunately, for many folks, trying to make their relationship healthy becomes essential. This is attempted due to several reasons – because of societal expectations, because they have children, because of financial dependence, because of poor health or disability, because they love their partner, etc. The victim tries to mend the relationship in the hope that their partner will see what’s happening and try to correct it.”
3. You are treated like a possession
While the subtle forms of emotional abuse may not necessarily manifest as physical violence or sexual abuse, your partner may still restrict your behaviors and feelings. Bouts of excessive jealousy, constantly calling in and checking on your whereabouts, and feeling angry if you want to spend time alone or with your friends – all of this is done to isolate you and keep you under their control.
4. You feel manipulated
In a bid to control you, your abuser may withdraw affection, ignore you with the silent treatment, or lay on a guilt trip to make you doubt yourself and your choices. If you speak up, you are derided, made fun of, or made to feel worse. Emotionally abusive relationships thrive on feelings of low self-esteem and low self-confidence of the victim. This creates a self-perpetuating issue where the victim cannot escape this vicious cycle.
Is your partner too trying to manipulate you emotionally?
5. You are dismissed and ignored
If you feel ignored, underappreciated, or blamed for any and every little reason, these are all tick marks on the emotional abuse checklist. When your partner belittles your achievements or refuses to take responsibility for their actions, it’s time to take note.
An emotional abuse example is when the abuser asks too much of you. They expect you to put aside all else and tend to their needs. No matter how much you do, it is never enough in the eyes of your abuser.
7. The tables are often turned on you
When you simply express yourself or request certain things, you are accused of being too clingy and demanding. Emotionally abusive relationships can lead you to believe you are a materialistic person whose thoughts and actions are disproportionate to your abuser’s reality.
8. Life is chaotic if you’re emotionally abused by your partner
Life with an abusive partner can be very chaotic. This is in part due to the abuser’s argumentative and manipulative nature. It can also be due to sudden mood swings and mercurial temper tantrums. While there may not be domestic violence or physical harm, living in an emotionally abusive relationship can make you feel guilty and afraid of doing anything to displease your partner.
Nandita says, “If it’s reached this point, ask yourself: Do you want to stay in the abusive phase; do you want to make the relationship better through support, professional help, and hard conversations; or do you want to leave the relationship?”
9. Emotional blackmail is a way of life
If someone is consistently using emotional blackmail as a way of controlling you, this is a sign of emotional abuse. Some examples of emotional abuse include:
Guilt tripping you every time you do something ‘wrong’
Making fun of you and pointing out your mistakes in public
Manipulating the situation and using your weak spots against you
Deflecting mistakes and twisting the situation to blame you
If your partner constantly brags about their achievements or intelligence and puts you down, chances are it’s an emotionally abusive relationship. Abusers tend to believe they are superior to others and can see things you can’t. They go out of their way to prove you wrong and insist that your thoughts and feelings are illogical and unsupported.
11. You feel all alone
When emotional abuse has taken over your life, you feel entirely alone and isolated. This could result from:
A jealous streak that rears its head anytime you are out with friends or a family member
Demanding that you spend all your time together
Controlling all financial matters and handling all the money in your relationship, thereby taking away your financial freedom
12. You face gaslighting
If your partner constantly denies your version of events or insists that things did not happen according to what you say, they are gaslighting you. Spending time with someone who makes you question your memories and mental health is a slippery slope toward psychological trauma.
Nandita says, “Here, the abused person begins to doubt themselves and lose their confidence by constantly dealing with a gaslighting partner. Sometimes, they feel as if they deserve to be treated badly, which can result in deep-seated trauma. Moving out of such a toxic relationship takes a lot of courage, social support, critical thinking, and honesty.”
13. The abuser withholds affection
It takes a toll on one’s mental health when denied love from someone they are in a relationship with. These are the different ways an emotionally abusive person can withhold affection:
They refuse to be affectionate and might continue to refuse sex whenever you initiate it
They call you clingy and demanding for wanting hugs and quality time
They insist that they are too busy to listen to your ‘demands’
They control your physical appearance and whom you meet under the guise of ‘looking out for you’
14. You have to deal with their nasty sense of humor
Your abuser often has an unpleasant sense of humor. Their ‘jokes’ are insulting and derisive, and their treatment of you in public can be offensive. This makes you dread meeting others and forces you to walk on eggshells around them.
Nandita says, “Another thing to realize is that your partner, while “joking around,” may not emotionally abuse you intentionally. So, it’s important to communicate with your partner how you feel about it, whether it’s in a face-to-face conversation or text or a letter. Standing up for yourself must be the first step when it comes to experiencing emotional abuse.”
15. You are made to feel less worthy
No matter how much you do and put into the relationship, you are made to doubt your intrinsic human value. Whether it’s money spent on your needs or even medical care for your health, you are deemed not worthy of even the basic necessities.
In an emotionally abusive relationship, your physical appearance may remain untouched, but mentally, you are a mess. Threats of violence and mind games all wreak havoc on your health. This can slowly lead to unwanted sex acts and sexual abuse.
17. You feel helpless
By withholding your finances and control over money matters, your abuser indulges in a form of economic abuse. Your controlling partner makes all the decisions in the relationship, leaving you feeling financially and emotionally helpless and disempowered.
18. The abuse is causing problems between you and your loved ones
In a typically emotionally abusive relationship, your partner pretends to be the better person. They create problems (imagined or otherwise) between you and your loved ones, deepening your feelings of isolation and helplessness. You stop feeling loved.
Why does someone stay in an abusive relationship?
This is the first question most people ask. Nandita has this to say, “Any kind of relationship starts off with feelings of hope, love, and care toward your partner. As the relationship progresses, signs of emotional abuse may pop up. Most of the time, emotional abuse tends to be cyclical. A period of normalcy is followed by a bout of abuse.
“When it is a cyclical experience, the victim goes through feelings of confusion, hope, depression, anger, and regret. What makes people stay is the feeling of hope. Whenever you feel that ray of hope, you want to stay in the relationship, thinking things will get better. Another reason people stay is gaslighting, as discussed earlier.”
Other factors that make one stay in an abusive relationship are:
The victim believes they are in love and that their abuser truly loves them
They may not recognize emotionally abusive behavior
Low self-esteem and no self-worth can lead to the perpetuation of the abusive cycle
They believe that they understand their partner and can see their good side
They are too afraid to leave due to financial dependence or threats of violence
They may fear for the safety of their family members
As time goes by, their ability to tolerate abuse increases
How To Deal With Emotional Abuse?
If you find yourself in an emotionally abusive relationship (or have ticked off a significant number of positive replies to the emotional abuse checklist mentioned above), here are some of the steps you can take to deal with the abuse or leave the relationship:
1. Accept the fact that it is abuse
The first step toward dealing with an emotionally abusive relationship is to accept that you’re being abused. Denial of your abuse can lead to further perpetuation of this vicious cycle. Once the abuse is recognized for what it is, you can begin to reclaim your life again.
2. Put yourself first
It can be very difficult, but you must put your needs above those of your abuser. Once you stop thinking of yourself as unworthy, self-care can kick in, and you can become stronger to fight the long, painful battle ahead. Find more ways to love yourself, eat well, sleep, talk to people, and get all the help you need to build your strength.
3. Remove the self-blame
If you have spent time in a long-term emotionally abusive relationship, believing that nothing is inherently wrong with you may be very difficult. But be assured, YOU are not the problem here. Check the habit of blaming yourself for someone else’s abusive behavior and start making the changes that enable you to leave immediately.
4. Draw your boundaries
The key here is to decide on what boundaries are necessary for a healthy relationship and see them through. For example, if you decide to avoid arguments with your abuser because you know they will degenerate into mockery and insults, promise yourself that you’ll walk away from any potentially aggravating situation. This reinforces to your abuser that their behavior is unacceptable.
5. Accept that you can’t fix people
Nandita says, “The abuse might give rise to a trauma bond where people in a relationship get attached through instances of trauma. With low self-esteem and low confidence, the victim finds it more and more difficult to break this bond.”
But it is not your responsibility to change or ‘cure’ a person. Every individual is responsible for their own thoughts and actions. An abusive partner voluntarily decides to indulge in such harmful, abusive behaviors. They cannot be ‘loved back into normalcy.’
6. Remove yourself from the situation
When an abusive episode begins, remove yourself from that space at the earliest. If an argument begins, leave the room without apologizing or making them understand your point of view. If your partner makes fun of you or insults you in public, do not engage with them. Remember, no matter what you say or do, the situation will escalate. So, it’s safer to not engage.
Nandita adds, “If you have decided to stay put for any reason, safeguard yourself. Here’s how: gathering your thoughts and controlling your emotions during an abusive episode is essential. If your partner is name-calling, making fun of you, or arguing with you, don’t react. When the abuser downplays your confidence, they will feed off your reactions. The best thing to do is to remain quiet even though it might hurt you emotionally. Not showing any response is one of the better ways to handle abuse in real time.”
7. Surround yourself with support
Build your own network of support. This is the only way to get over and out of an abusive relationship. You ‘do’ need help, so please take it. Talk about what you are going through with a friend or family member, or a counselor. Spend time with people you love to lessen the impact of the abuse. This can also help you feel less lonely and depressed and may help you put things into perspective.
8. Plan your escape
You could call the national domestic violence hotline or NGOs or get professional help for coping tips for emotional abuse or to escape a worse abusive situation. Eventually, the abuse will take a toll on your mental health, and the situation could degenerate into physical violence. To safeguard yourself and your family, plan an escape route that will get you far away from your abuser and prepare you to be yourself again.
You don’t have to sit there and take the torture. Find an escape route
What you should not try with an emotional abuser
When you are dealing with an abuser, caution must be taken. The situation could worsen if handled poorly, resulting in more abuse and even violence. Some actions to avoid when dealing with an emotional abuser include:
Arguing with your partner: There is no point in arguing with a partner who refuses to hear you out. They will always find other ways to insult and shame you by saying hurtful things
Making excuses for their abusive behavior: On the flip side, the other weapon often wielded by victims is that of absolving the abuser of any fault. Making excuses about why they behave in a certain way and downplaying the consequences of their actions can do more harm than good.
Appealing to the abuser’s ‘good’ side: Apologizing and appeasing your partner only increases future abuse. As more and more boundaries are crossed, both parties enter a cycle of pain and punishment that becomes impossible to get out of.
Apart from the steps mentioned to deal with an abusive relationship, it is as important to heal from one. According to a study by the University of Texas Health Center, being emotionally abused was “a life journey, encompassing multiple culminations, secondary physical and mental health symptoms, and quality of life issues that extended well beyond the immediate abuse experience.” As a result, healing from emotional abuse can also take a lifetime to recover from.
If you are or have been a victim of an emotionally abusive relationship, here are a few steps you can take to make the journey to recovery easier:
Accept that you are/were abused: Minimizing the damage done to you will prevent the healing, so you must accept that you’ve been a victim of abuse
Commit to your recovery: Make a promise that the cycle of abuse stops with you. Generational trauma is real, people, and you do not want this psychological abuse and its impact to continue with your children
Be kind: Practice the same kindness to yourself that you gave to your abuser. Understand the gravity of your situation and be patient as you recover and heal
Build a support system: Opt for professional support if you cannot confide in friends and family. Hotlines and support groups are available to provide you with a community while you overcome the impact of the abuse
Help others: Talking to other victims and sharing stories can go a long way toward bearing each other’s burdens. This also provides you with healing strategies and recovery tools
Nandita says, “It’s good to have a support system in place – people who empathize and understand you – to help you work through these internal conflicts. Speaking to professionals can help remove yourself and your family from any potentially dangerous situations. Remember, help is always available – you just need to ask the right people.” Just so you know, skilled and licensed counselors on Bonobology’s panel are always here for you.
Key Pointers
Emotional abuse is a more subtle, secretive form of abuse. The effects are not seen visibly, making it more difficult to spot and address
The abuser controls, manipulates, and gaslights their partner and makes them feel less worthy and unloved
Victims of emotional abuse find it tougher and tougher to break the abusive cycle as time goes by, and their mental health deteriorates
The best way to deal with emotional abuse is to get professional help and support from loved ones
There is conflict, and then there is emotional abuse. A normal, healthy relationship will always have its fair share of conflict, and it’s ultimately up to either or both partners to reach a mutually acceptable agreement. Regularly expressing your emotions and working through problems can also strengthen your relationship in case of conflicts.
Emotional abuse, on the other hand, is detrimental and can cause serious mental health issues. The victim in such an unhealthy relationship can feel overwhelmed, misunderstood, gaslit, ashamed, and afraid. If your romantic partner consistently makes you feel bad about yourself and your circumstances, it’s time to realize that all is not right in the partnership. Seek support to break free and start your life again. It is possible, and it can be done, just know whom to ask for help and that you are not alone.
Betrayal is something that is difficult for any of us to deal with. Often, it is those who are closest to us who betray us, and it can feel terrible. If you have been betrayed, you know the pain, hurt, and distrust that now has filled your heart.
It is hard to let go and move on after a betrayal, but if we don’t move past the betrayal, it will only hurt us. It is at times such as these when we need to know how to biblically deal with betrayal.
Being Betrayed
“Sometimes before it gets better, the darkness gets bigger. The person that you’d take a bullet for is behind the trigger” (“Miss Missing You,” Fall Out Boy).
Being betrayed hurts us, and it can permanently affect how we see the person who betrayed us. If you are reading this article, it is likely that you have been betrayed, and you want to know how to deal with it in a biblically correct way.
First, you need to recognize that all of your feelings and emotions are valid. All of the pain, hurt, and distrust you are feeling are valid. Never beat yourself up over feeling these emotions because they are normal emotions to feel after being betrayed by someone.
Being betrayed by someone close to you can also give you trust issues in the future, and it can significantly impact your relationships with others in the future.
After you have validated your feelings, turn to God in prayer. Tell Him how you are feeling after the betrayal, and ask Him to give you the peace that only He can provide. Jesus knows exactly what it is like to be betrayed.
The Lord was betrayed by Judas, who was one of His 12 disciples. Jesus knew Judas was going to betray Him, yet Jesus always treated Judas kindly. After Judas betrayed Jesus, we notice that Jesus doesn’t retaliate.
Since Jesus is God in the flesh, He could have done anything. He could have struck Judas dead at that moment or made him fall down in unbearable agony, but He didn’t.
In fact, never are we told that Jesus pronounces anything negative against Judas. Judas later feels remorse over what he has done, and he hangs himself (Matthew 27).
Just as Jesus didn’t try to “get even” or hurt Judas, neither should we. Instead, we need to repay cursing with blessing. Rather than trying to hurt the person who betrayed us, we should pray for them.
When praying for them, it is okay to tell God again about the pain they caused us, but we shouldn’t pray for anything negative to happen to them. God won’t answer prayers such as these.
We need to pray for them and ask God to help them not do these things again in the future. While they have permanently broken our trust, we should pray that they can build more lasting relationships with others by stopping the bad habit of betrayal.
Betrayal can tear down an entire relationship in a matter of minutes, and it is something that someone needs to stay away from throughout their life. Just as it is not good to be betrayed, we should never betray others.
Avoiding Betrayal
Part of being a good friend, partner, or spouse is not betraying those close to us. If a person betrays someone, their trust is broken, and that trust may never be repaired.
As a not-too-serious example, my grandma used to feel betrayed by her parents because they told her Santa Claus was real when she was little, only to be told when she was a bit older that he wasn’t real.
For many people, this might not seem like a big deal, but for my grandma, it was a huge deal. She felt betrayed by her parents because they had lied to her. Due to the betrayal that she felt, she never told my mom Santa was real in order not to betray her.
While this is a more lighthearted example of betrayal, there are more heavy examples of betrayal that could be shown. Betrayal in the sense that a friend broke your trust when you trusted them with something important or a partner betrays you by being unfaithful to you.
All of these things can break our trust and change our relationship with the person who betrayed us. This can be extremely devastating and traumatic because this person was someone close to us, someone we trusted, and someone we thought we could count on.
Even though being betrayed is something terrible and something I hope nobody would have to go through, we have to prepare ourselves in the event that betrayal will happen. If we get betrayed, we need to respond in a biblical manner by following Jesus’ example when Judas betrayed him.
Rather than seeking out revenge or getting even with Judas, the Lord turned the other cheek and trusted all judgment to the Father. In the same way, we need to forgive the person that betrayed us and not seek out any harm to them.
When we forgive them, it doesn’t mean what they did is okay. Rather, what it means is that we are giving the situation over to God. We are choosing not to allow the situation to eat us alive — we are choosing to trust God with the outcome.
It can be hard to do this; however, this is the first step to moving past the betrayal. If this step takes you some time, know that it is okay. It is okay to grieve and to take your time as you are recovering from the betrayal.
Your relationship with the person who betrayed you may never be repaired; however, you don’t have to spend your life hating the person. God doesn’t want us to hate anyone, including those who hurt us.
We are to love all people because this is what the Lord commands (John 15:12-13). You can love this person and still not like them for what they did to you. Choose to forgive and give the situation over to God. It does you no good to allow betrayal to ruin your entire life.
If you allow betrayal to fill your entire heart and soul, it will only consume you. It will take up your entire life, and you will never be able to move past the hurt. It is best to forgive and move forward in your life.
Granted, you may never have the same relationship with the person who betrayed you as you did before, but you don’t need to hold yourself back from making new friends or building new relationships.
What Does This Mean?
Staying in a state of betrayal will only lead you to depression and a state of mistrust for all people. The person who betrayed you broke your trust, but not everyone will do this. There will be people who value your trust and won’t break it with you.
If you are walking through a season of betrayal today, give it over to God. True healing cannot be found apart from giving it over to the Lord.
It can be hard, and it will be a long process, yet you can always count on God. As you heal and move forward, God will be walking beside you every step of the way (Psalm 23). Some days might be better than others but try your best to focus on the Lord in this season.
Vivian Bricker loves Jesus, studying the Word of God, and helping others in their walk with Christ. She has earned a Bachelor of Arts and Master’s degree in Christian Ministry with a deep academic emphasis in theology. Her favorite things to do are spending time with her family and friends, reading, and spending time outside. When she is not writing, she is embarking on other adventures.
This article originally appeared on Christianity.com. For more faith-building resources, visit Christianity.com.
Marriage problems are common in the modern day. Sadly, no marriage is perfect, which is why problems are bound to happen. Marriage is supposed to be a reflection of Jesus and the Church to the world, and this shows us how important marriage is in the eyes of God. With this in mind, it is important to know what the Bible says about marriage problems.
Many of our friends and family members might try to give us advice about marriage problems, but the best person to go to is God.
He knows all things, and since He created marriage, we can trust Him to give us the best advice. Even if you feel like your marriage is ending and you don’t want it to, God can give you hope.
Problems in Marriage
Ephesians 4:26 tells us, “In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” While this can apply to any relationship, it can also apply to a marriage.
When a man and a woman are married, it is important that they do not go to sleep while still being upset with each other. This will only cause problems and strife within the marriage. Rather than allowing the sun to go down when you are angry, address the problem.
Communication is crucial in marriage because it is the only way you will be able to fully know your spouse. If things are going wrong and you have an argument, don’t remain angry. Even if it is late, talk about the issue with your spouse. Your spouse loves you and wants the best for you.
Never be afraid to share your feelings with your spouse — even the hard feelings, such as anger, frustration, or bitterness. God has made you and your spouse one from the moment of marriage, and you now have a responsibility to be there for each other even in times of anger.
Instead of going to sleep angry at your spouse, tell them your feelings. Once you have openly talked about the issue and why you are upset, you can work forward to a solution. Maybe you were angry because your spouse didn’t clean the dishes or take out the garbage.
Vocalize this concern to them. Maybe it’s a more major issue, such as you are afraid your spouse is cheating on you. Whatever the reason for your anger and frustration, talk about it with your spouse and work toward a solution.
You Are on the Same Team
As mentioned, from the time you are married to each other, you become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). Since you are now one flesh, each spouse should deeply care, cherish, and love each other. With this in mind, you need to remember that you and your spouse are on the same team.
The only one who is trying to upset your marriage is Satan. The enemy wants to destroy your marriage, but you don’t have to let him. Rather, be a team with your spouse and give the devil no opportunity to break into your marriage.
Marriage problems are going to happen because there is sin in the world. All of us are sinners, and we all fall short (Romans 3:23). Since we are all sinners, we can all be tempted at one point or another.
As either the wife or the husband, you can be tempted by a coworker, a website, or someone from your past. You are married to your spouse, and you must stay faithful to them.
When you made your vows, you made them before your spouse and God. These are weighty vows because they should never be broken.
The only times a marriage should end in divorce is because of sexual immorality or an abusive relationship. If the problems in your marriage are that your spouse cheated on you or they are abusing you, know that it is biblical to leave the relationship.
God doesn’t command you to stay in a relationship like this. Rather, He wants you to be loved, cherished, and feel cared for.
When you are having difficulties in your marriage, don’t forget you are on the same team. You have been made one flesh with your spouse, and you are forever bound to one another. Don’t allow arguments to cause rifts in your relationship.
Just as you forgive others in your life, you also have to learn to forgive your spouse. The Bible tells us we are to forgive others just as in Christ God forgave us (Ephesians 4:32). There will be times of difficulties and hardships because nobody says marriage is easy.
Marriage is a journey and an opportunity for growth. It’s not always going to be a walk in the park, just as no relationship is always easy. You work through the hard parts with your spouse in order for your relationship to grow stronger and for you to grow closer to your spouse.
The more you are able to work through your problems in a biblical way, the stronger your bond with your spouse will become. Your bond with God will also grow stronger because you will be leaning on Him.
Turning to God
This might sound basic; however, it is often overlooked. We must never forget to turn to God when we are having marriage problems. Marriage problems will happen in your relationship, but you can work through them.
Pray to God about them and pour your heart out to Him. He cares about all of your feelings, and He doesn’t want to see your marriage end. God created marriage, and He created it to be long-lasting.
Through turning to God, He will be able to give you comfort, direction, and guidance. As you turn to Him, don’t forget to read the Bible and hear what He is trying to tell you. Your marriage difficulty might be ongoing, but God wants to help you resolve the issue.
He doesn’t want you and your spouse to constantly be at odds with each other. God wants you and your spouse to love each other just as He loves the church. There shouldn’t be any bad feelings between the husband and the wife.
When you feel as though nothing is helping you get past your marriage difficulties, it is okay to seek out Christian marriage counseling. There is nothing wrong with seeking out help from a therapist.
A Christian therapist will be able to help you rebuild your relationship with your spouse and work through your issues.
With a Christian therapist, he or she will be able to involve God in the process as well when you are working through your marriage difficulties. Never be afraid to ask for professional help because we all need it sometimes.
You might be surprised as to how much marriage counseling could benefit your marriage. By being equipped with the Word of God, applying what it says, going to God in prayer, and seeking marriage counseling, you will be able to work through your issues.
This is of course including the fact that your spouse also wants to work on the issues. If your spouse has treated you poorly or hurt you, know that it is also okay to leave the relationship. Bring all of these matters before the Lord, and He will give you guidance and support.
Vivian Bricker loves Jesus, studying the Word of God, and helping others in their walk with Christ. She has earned a Bachelor of Arts and Master’s degree in Christian Ministry with a deep academic emphasis in theology. Her favorite things to do are spending time with her family and friends, reading, and spending time outside. When she is not writing, she is embarking on other adventures.
This article originally appeared on Christianity.com. For more faith-building resources, visit Christianity.com.
Depression is not something to be taken lightly, especially when it affects the elderly. As people age, they may face various life situations that can leave them feeling overwhelmed and emotionally burdened.
In some cases, this emotional distress could develop into depression if left unaddressed or untreated. For this reason, it’s important to be aware of the different types of depression in older people and potential ways to combat them.
This blog post provides an overview of the major types of depression in seniors as well as possible treatments for each one so you can better understand how best to approach and manage them.
An Overview of Depression in Older Adults
Depression is a serious health concern that affects individuals of all ages and backgrounds. However, the risk of developing depression increases as one ages, particularly in individuals over the age of 65. In fact, it is estimated that up to 5% of older adults experience significant symptoms of depression.
Depression in older adults can be caused by numerous factors, including chronic health conditions, changes in social and family dynamics, and the loss of loved ones. It is important for loved ones and caregivers to be aware of the signs of depression in older adults so that they can receive proper support and treatment.
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With compassion and understanding, we can help our older loved ones overcome the challenges of depression and enjoy their golden years with a positive outlook on life.
Major Types of Depression in Older People
Depression affects people of all ages, but it can be especially prevalent in older adults. As we age, various life changes such as retirement, health problems, and social isolation can take a toll on our mental health.
There are several different types of depression that older people may experience. Major depression is the most common type and is characterized by persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and fatigue.
Persistent depressive disorder, or dysthymia, is a milder form of depression that lasts for at least two years. Bipolar disorder, which causes extreme shifts in mood and energy, can also occur in older adults. It’s important to recognize the signs of depression and seek treatment, as it can greatly impact our daily well-being and overall quality of life.
Major Depressive Disorder
Major depressive disorder is a mental illness that affects millions of people across the world. This disorder can cause intense feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and despair, which can significantly impact an individual’s quality of life.
It is not just a temporary feeling of sadness, but rather an ongoing and persistent condition that requires proper diagnosis and treatment. People who suffer from major depressive disorder may also experience changes in appetite and sleep patterns, as well as difficulty concentrating.
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It’s essential to seek help if you’re experiencing any of these symptoms, as major depressive disorder can be treated effectively with therapy, medication, or a combination of both. Remember, mental health is just as important as physical health, and seeking help should be a priority if you’re dealing with this condition.
Persistent Depressive Disorder
Chronic depression that lasts for at least two years is referred to as persistent depressive disorder, also known as dysthymia. It is crippling and can have a considerable influence on a person’s everyday life, even if it is not as severe as major depression.
Symptoms of persistent depressive disorder can include low self-esteem, feelings of hopelessness, poor concentration, and changes in sleep and appetite. It’s important to seek help from a mental health professional if you suspect you may be experiencing persistent depressive disorder.
With the right treatment, it is possible to manage the symptoms and improve your quality of life.
Bipolar Disorder
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Bipolar disorder, commonly referred to as manic-depressive disease, is a significant brain condition that can impair a person’s mood, level of activity, and capacity for daily living. Emotional highs, or manic periods, and emotional lows, or depressive episodes, are common in people with bipolar illness.
These mood swings can be intense, disruptive, and often life-altering. The exact cause of bipolar disorder is unknown, but it is believed to be a combination of genetic, environmental, and biological factors.
Despite the challenges it presents, individuals with bipolar disorder can lead successful and fulfilling lives with proper treatment and support.
Symptoms of Depression in Older People
As we age, our bodies and minds undergo numerous changes, and it’s important to be mindful of our mental health during this time. Depression is a common condition that can affect anyone, but older people are particularly at risk.
Symptoms of depression in older individuals can be difficult to detect, as they may be attributed to other age-related issues such as chronic pain or physical limitations. Some signs to look out for include excessive sadness or anxiety, changes in appetite or sleep patterns, and loss of interest in activities that were once enjoyed.
It’s crucial to seek help if you or a loved one is experiencing any of these symptoms, as depression can have serious consequences if left untreated. Remember, it’s never too late to prioritize your mental health.
Causes and Risk Factors for Depression in Older People
Depression is a common mental disorder that affects millions of people worldwide. Older adults are not immune to this condition, and in fact, they are at a higher risk of developing depression due to a combination of factors.
Some of the most common causes of depression in older people include loss of loved ones, chronic illness, and physical limitations. Additionally, social isolation and loneliness can also contribute to the development of depression. It is important to address these risk factors and provide older adults with the necessary support to prevent or manage depression.
As a society, we must work towards increasing awareness and understanding of this condition, so that older adults can receive the help they need to live healthy and fulfilling lives.
Possible Treatments for Depression in Older People
Depression is not limited to any age group, and elderly individuals are just as vulnerable to this mental disorder as anyone else. Finding the right treatment for depression in seniors can be challenging, with traditional medications having potential side effects that can complicate matters.
One medication that has proven successful in treating depression in older people is Cymbalta. This medication is known to work by balancing levels of serotonin and norepinephrine in the brain. The good news is, there are ways to get Cymbalta at a discounted price.
With a Cymbalta discount coupon, older adults can save on their medication costs and receive the treatment they need to help manage their depression. It’s essential to talk to a healthcare provider about all potential treatment options to find what works best for you or your loved one.
Medications
Finding affordable medication can be a daunting task, especially when you have a chronic condition that requires ongoing treatment. Fortunately, there are resources available to help alleviate the financial burden, such as discount coupons for prescription medications like Cymbalta.
These coupons can drastically reduce the cost of your medication, making it more accessible to those who need it most. With a Cymbalta discount coupon, you can potentially save hundreds of dollars each year on your prescription costs, allowing you to focus on your health and well-being without the added stress of financial strain.
Don’t let the cost of medication stand in the way of your health – explore your options and see if a discount coupon could be the solution for you.
Psychotherapy
Psychotherapy is an incredibly useful tool for those who are experiencing mental health challenges or simply seeking personal growth. Through a series of sessions with a trained therapist, individuals can gain a deeper understanding of their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and work towards making positive changes in their lives.
Psychotherapy encompasses a wide variety of approaches, from cognitive-behavioral therapy to psychodynamic therapy, and each approach is tailored to meet the unique needs of the client.
With the help of a skilled therapist, individuals can build coping skills, improve their relationships, and find a greater sense of fulfillment and wellbeing. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, depression, trauma, or simply seeking personal growth, psychotherapy could be the key to unlocking your full potential.
Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT)
Electroconvulsive Therapy, or ECT, is a form of treatment that is often associated with negative connotations. However, ECT has come a long way since its inception in the 1930s, and is now a safe and effective option for those who suffer from severe depression or other mental illness.
ECT uses electrical currents to briefly stimulate the brain and trigger a seizure, which can improve mood and decrease symptoms of mental illness. While it may sound intense, the procedure is performed under anesthesia and the patient is closely monitored throughout the treatment.
ECT may not be the first choice for treatment, but for those who have not found relief through medication or therapy, it can be a life-changing option.
Prevention Strategies for Depression in Older People
As we age, we often face a variety of challenges that can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and despair. Depression is a common mental health issue among older people, but it doesn’t have to be an inevitable part of getting older.
By implementing prevention strategies early on, we can help seniors maintain their mental well-being and live a more fulfilling life. Exercise, socializing with loved ones, and participating in activities that bring joy and meaning are just a few examples of effective prevention strategies.
By making these habits a priority, we can help older adults stay mentally healthy and enjoy their golden years to the fullest.
Conclusion
Depression in older people can be rare, yet very serious. In this post, major types of depression in older people have been discussed, along with the signs and symptoms of depression in this age group.
The causes and risk factors may vary but all result in mental health issues that need to be addressed. There are various treatment options available such as medications, psychotherapy, or electroconvulsive therapy (ECT).
Prevention strategies like exercising regularly, reducing stress levels through lifestyle changes and building supportive social networks are beneficial for maintaining healthy emotional well-being.
Depression can be managed with diligence and support from family and friends. With the right type of treatment, those experiencing this disorder can lead more fulfilling lives.
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What to Expect From Marijuana Legalization?
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The Most Popular Marijuana Legalization
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You may choose to prevent marijuana when you have schizophrenia, as it might make symptoms worse. Actually, many used marijuana for a substitute for heroin. Unlike alcohol, marijuana still lets you’ve got a very clear head. Marijuana is a pure plant that’s unprocessed. Medical marijuana has numerous therapeutic effects which will need to be dealt with and not only the so-called addictive qualities. Regardless, you can acquire medical marijuana in many states of the United States.
The use of health marijuana is an alternate approach to help alleviate the pain from arthritis. Marijuana usage is likewise not authorized in any kind of transportation or in any public location. In light of these information, it is going to test.com become clear that it isn’t vital to prohibit marijuana usage, but instead to regulate it. The usage of marijuana for medical needs has been an issue of debate.
The Pain of Medical Marijuana
A good deal of patients independently go to dispensaries to acquire their healthcare marijuana (an out-of-pocket expense) and not entirely government-controlled. Lastly, they have to apply for a medical marijuana identification card. They also have to anonymously submit data about their therapy and provide evidence that other conventional methods have not been effective. The patients would need to visit with an approved doctor who’d then suggest the edibles, oils, patches or other types of marijuana apart from smoking. As such, in spite of several states approving the use of cannabis in medical treatments, they have to pay for it out-of-pocket. Still, in the US, they have to pay for their medical cannabis out of pocket because medical cannabis is not covered by health insurances. Licensed patients would continue to be able to grow marijuana in their houses and smoke that.
The Pain of Medical Marijuana
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What Is So Fascinating About Medical Marijuana?
Cannabis has quite powerful anti-inflammatory properties. It has been shown to create an acid with a very potent anti-inflammatory action. In fact, in most of the medical programs offered in Germany, it is not even mentioned as a treatment option. It has been shown to effectively help the pain resulting from arthritis and enhances the efficacy of many painkillers. There are also study that it is being used to reduce the nausea and vomiting during the time of chemotherapy, to improve the appetite of the people who are suffering from HIV or AIDS, to treat the chronic pain and the muscle spasms. For instance, smoking cannabis carries a smell which may cause you to be a target for a search.
The Hidden Secret of Medical Marijuana
Marijuana is just allowed if you’ve got your healthcare marijuana card identity. Marijuana is also called cannabis. Marijuana isn’t the exact same as heroin. Although medical marijuana was approved for use under certain conditions, it’s very difficult, maybe impossible, to attain cannabis for treatment purposes in Ontario. Before you receive any medical marijuana make certain that the Michigan medical marijuana dispensary employs the maximum quality of health cannabis.
Marijuana isn’t test.com physically addicting. Most individuals know, however, that marijuana is an exception. Thus marijuana is currently the most popular illegal drug in the usa, and the users of which are rising at an alarming speed. Medical marijuana has numerous therapeutic effects which will need to be dealt with and not only the so-called addictive qualities.
Even in case you don’t utilize Marijuana, you ought to be supporting getting it decriminalized. It’s well-known that a lot of people utilize marijuana for medicinal purposes. Yes marijuana is beneficial for your well-being. Due to its identity as marijuana found component, it appears to have falsely been given a poor reputation. Naturally, in regards to wondering how long does marijuana remain in your system, the reality is that too much very good thing has its price. Marijuana is a pure plant that’s unprocessed. Medicinal marijuana was found to assist with a lot of health issues like chronic pain, glaucoma, epilepsy, arthritic pains and a lot more, all which could be treated or benefit from use of the drug.
Marijuana is among the simplest drugs to access in nearly all cities and towns across the USA. Marijuana permits you to cheat that growth. Marijuana is the most frequently used illicit drug in the united states. Marijuana is easily the most common illegal drug on earth, and it has demonstrated no symptoms of slowing down. It’s entirely possible that marijuana has one or even several of the advantages which are often attributed to it. In addition, medical marijuana cannot be transported between states. When medical marijuana is employed as an ingredient in edibles, the suitable dosage may get cloudy.
Hearsay, Lies and Marijuana
The period of detection of marijuana is based on specific things. Upon further investigation it was revealed that every patient was using marijuana multiple times each day for no less than a calendar year before the beginning of symptoms. Nonetheless, knowing about the opposing side of weed is highly recommended.
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Cannabis is a high-quality cost-effective remedy to a great deal of healthcare issues that otherwise require heavy investment which the Indian middle class can’t afford. Despite the fact that it has many prospective advantages, you’ll also find out that marijuana-use has significant prospective adverse health results, and also you need to be careful not to abuse it. Marijuana is very readily available near many schools around the nation. Utilize marijuana initiates many processes within the body, mind and maybe even soul, depending on the intent with which it is used. Legalization by the states has demonstrated the immense financial opportunity of a marijuana market, particularly for smaller businesses.
Escape rooms are so much fun but can be costly or challenging if you don’t have a babysitter lined up. Have you ever considered a DIY escape room?
Staying in and creating your own DIY escape room is just as fun! Just like a traditional escape room, you work together with your spouse {and friends} to solve a whole bunch of puzzles and riddles and try to “break out” of the room you’re locked in. It’s such a fun exercise in teamwork and logic – plus a gigantic sense of accomplishment when you actually “escape.”
We’ve put our own Diva-twist on the idea of an escape room and turned it into a romantic group date night that you can DIY at home for free! Lovers, it’s time to work together to open the locked box and find the “key to my heart!”
A DIY escape room themed for couples and group dates.
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These puzzles were pretty tricky to create, but our friend Dawn did such an amazing job helping us make sure that everything worked smoothly. Thanks Dawn!
Set of printables for a DIY Escape Room: Lovers theme.
Now, let’s get into all the details of your DIY escape room!
Escape Room Logistics
Putting together an escape room can be slightly complicated, but it is worth it for the final experience!
For starters, in order to adequately set up an escape room, one person has to hide the clues and know the final lock combination. This means that they cannot participate in solving the clues with the group, but are instead the Escape Room Guide. (This is such a fun job to have though!)
Secondly, we have provided a full set of printable clues and instructions for solving the escape room puzzles based on a PRE-DETERMINED LOCK COMBO. This means that if you have a 3 digit lock already, it can only be used for this version if you can adjust the combination to our suggested lock combination.
If you do not already have a 3-digit lock, we highly recommend grabbing this affordable lock! It will work perfectly for this game and you can set the combination to the numbers we provide.
Lastly, we also have provided alternate printables to use if you wish to use your own combination. The instructions and details are in the SECOND printable download below.
diy escape room PRINTABLES
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With such a fun experience comes fun printables and all of the instructions you need to pull off this amazing group date. Here’s what this printable set comes with!
Date Night Invitation – Print out as many invites as you need OR text a photo to your guests to invite them to a night of puzzle solving and fun!
Background Story – This helpful explanation will give the puzzle solvers some context for what they are trying to do.
Materials List – We have got you covered with everything you need to set up the escape room and solve the puzzles. Most items you likely already have! For convenience, feel free to grab everything you need from the helpful links below:
Tips for Setting Up – If you’re new to escape rooms, you will quickly see that these tips will help make the experience go that much smoother.
3 Exciting Puzzles – To solve the “key to my heart”, follow the instructions for setting up and hiding each of the 3 puzzles.
Answers & Puzzle Instructions – A one-page summary of the 3 puzzles and how to set them up! This will be your best friend during the escape room experience!
Printable Key – In case you don’t have an antique key to work with, we have provided a stylish printable key for you to hide in the locked box.
Hosting a DIY Escape Room
If you’re going to host this date night, you will want to read up on all the details in the answer key so you have a good understanding of all the puzzles and how they work.
The first step is to hide all of the clues – and there are quite a few of them! Hide them in clever locations, but don’t forget to put a few in more obvious locations, too. It’s no fun if your guests get super frustrated.
Invitation for an at-home and DIY escape room, themed for couples.
Now it’s time for your group date night to begin! Start off by reading the backstory, then have the couples work together to solve the puzzles. Keep in mind that you and your spouse could host together or you could host alone and let your spouse participate. Alternatively, you could create two rooms and let the men and women compete to see who can find the key the fastest. It might be fun to time your guests. You could even just set up one room and let different groups take turns, setting a timer to see who finds the key more quickly.
As your guests are playing, feel free to give hints. Try to come up with creative ways to hint about where the missing clues are hidden without giving away too much. You could even set a rule that each group gets to ask for three hints and then they’re on their own.
Instructions and details for a DIY escape room.
Make sure you’re familiar with the puzzles and riddles as well as where you’ve hidden the clues! Ultimately, your guests’ goal is to find three numbers which will unlock your box and give them the key. If you want the game to go faster or be a little easier, you could tell them this ahead of time.
**SPOILER ALERT!**
If you keep reading, you’ll start hearing about and seeing the solutions to the puzzles. If you are wanting to use this fun idea but NOT play host, stop reading here! If you’re ready to play host, then keep on reading…
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Still with us? Yay! So excited for you to set up the game!
Escape Room Puzzles
Puzzle #1
To figure out the first number of the lock, the guests will be searching for the “Love Clues” {first comes love…} aka the foldable cubes and glue. They will need to find the two cubes and assemble them with the glue stick. The first number of the combination is provided on the printable, but to get that number, your guests will need to add the two sets of dots on the cubes together.
*REPLACE WITH PICTURE OF CUBES*
“First comes love” puzzle clues for a DIY escape room.
Puzzle #2
In order to determine the second number in the combination, your guests will be looking for the “Marriage Clues” {then comes marriage…}. These come in the form of 2 printable rings that when found, will reveal 2 numbers that should be added together to get the 2nd digit of the lock combo. Your guests will need to find the rings and consult the rings display page to learn the values of the rings.
“Then comes marriage” puzzle for a DIY escape room.
Puzzle #3
And to find the final number of the lock combination, your guests will be on the hunt for the “Baby Clues” {then comes the baby in the baby carriage!}. The baby clues exist within an intense baby-themed crossword puzzle that highlights certain letters once completed. These letters then point to the deck of cards (hidden in the room) that should be MISSING one card specifically. That card value is the final digit of the lock combination.
Of note, this may be the most challenging part of the escape room if your guests are unfamiliar with baby trivia. It’s up to you if you want to allow them to consult Google or not! 😉
“Then comes a baby” puzzle for a DIY escape room.
Pre-Set Lock Puzzle Adjustments
We made a second set of printables for puzzles 1 and 2 that can be adjusted to any combination you already have. If your lock is not capable of being reset to a different combination, follow the instructions on the 2 puzzles provided in the second printable set (labeled “Puzzles for Pre-Set Lock”). Puzzle 3’s adjustment is only to remove the heart that belongs to the value of the 3rd digit from the deck of face cards.
An Unforgettable DIY Escape Room
This experience takes a bit of work, but will make for an unforgettable night!
If you’re worried you won’t have that much time, or that your guests will want things a little easier – no problem! You can easily modify these puzzles to be a bit more simple by doing things like assembling the cubes in advance (puzzle #1), putting the locked box in the center of the room, or helping them with different clues on the crossword puzzle.
Find the “key to my heart” with the free printable DIY escape room.
Well, are you ready to find the key to love? Create this DIY escape room for your friends now!
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With over 25 years helping singles, divorcees and widows with dating while they use my dating consulting services, I’ve identified several traits that your date will definitely find unattractive. Are you aware of these potential characteristics you may have? For most people, no. Maybe this will help and give you a good, long think.
Yes, no one is perfect nor should you strive to be. You be you. But maybe you can do away with a couple items that are a turn-off to others. We are always looking for self-improvement, and if you are wondering why first dates are not turning into second dates, this may be helpful.
1. You act as if you know everything.
No one likes Mr./Ms. Google. There is no possibility you know everything, and that is where curiosity is a lovely trait. The other day I had a client on a Zoom call who wrote down something I’d never heard of—and I asked her point blank what it was. French food being my favorite cuisine, she totally stumped me on this one. Why pretend to be a know-it-all? Vulnerability and curiosity are assets. Plus, I learned something!
2. Bad posture
Oh wow! I notice this constantly. So does your date. It shows a lack of self-confidence. I know personally this one being taller than all boys and girls in my 8th grade class and slumping to appear shorter. Thank goodness my mom had the foresight to take me to a good chiropractor at a young age and correct my posture. Shoulders back, stand tall, watch that neck as we constantly are scrolling through our phones. Exude confidence with your body language.
3. Interrupting
Ok, we all know someone like this. Could it be you? Instead of active listening and being in the present, are you thinking about what you want to say next? Let the other person finish, take a breath, then say what was on your mind.
4. Talking only about yourself on a first date
As a dating counselor, I wish I had a dollar for every time someone told me this after a date. Well, I have a simple solution. Since they rarely give you a chance to speak, wait until the end of their sentence and say “Wow, I feel like I know so much about you now. What would you like to know about me? Fire away with the questions”. This usually stops them in their tracks and quite often a one-sided conversation suddenly becomes much more of an even dialogue.
5. Eye Contact
A huge part of body language. I’m not talking about a stare down, just looking at the person while they talk. Not fidgeting and looking around the room, not reaching for your phone, not looking down at your food the entire time. Eye contact is connection.
6. Arrogance
I don’t know a single client who reports back to me and says “Wow, was he/she arrogant and it was a turn on. You know what arrogance is? It’s someone who behaves in a proud, unpleasant way toward other people because they believe they are more important than others. Really, it’s an insecurity.
7. Rude
Perhaps a relation to arrogance. Being 15 minutes late. Demanding with the wait staff. Making negative comments about online dating. (Hey, you’re both on it, right?). Dismissive about your career, likes, hobbies, music.
8. That phone
Put it away. Or at the very least, turn off the ringer/vibration and place it face down on the table. If an important call is coming in, tell your date upfront and that’s the only reason you have your phone out. Perhaps it’s making sure your son got picked up from soccer practice. Or you are a doctor waiting for news on a patient that cannot wait an hour. But let them know upfront why your phone is on. It’s just politeness and showing them that their time is valuable.
9. Lack of Empathy
An inability to understand others. Impatience. Excessive criticism. Poor listening skills. Self-centeredness. They joke about someone’s emotions or circumstances. To me, this is a huge red flag and I’d recommend ending this date and never accepting another. This is one for a therapist, not for you. No matter how attractive they may be.
10. Talk Loudly
Maybe no one has ever taught them to use their “inside voice”. I’ve actually seen this when I’ve been out to lunch/dinner when the adjacent tables are parties to the conversation at your table. It’s embarrassing to your date and inappropriate. If your friends have told you that you are a loud talker, I’d think hard about this and practice downing the decibels.
Ok, maybe you’ve read through this list and see yourself in one, two, maybe three of them. Just be aware.
Oh, as a dating coach, let me mention one more thing that drives me crazy and is ineffectual. Stop texting/messaging a potential date 3-5 times in a row before they’ve even answered one. They will think you are crazy of desperate! Be patient, wait for their response, then send a message back no loner that 2-3 sentences and ask them a question.
Last, here’s a stat that may take you aback! An ongoing Stanford study on dating tell us this: From the time you reach out with a message online, to the time of your first date, no more than 5 days should pass or statistically there’s a 75% chance the date will never occur. Pretty enlightening, huh? Why? Online dating moves fast; you need to as well.
Need help with online dating? Well, here I am! I do have a lot of fun with my clients, but more importantly success. Over 60% are in relationships, living together, dating seriously or married/remarried. Use this link to sign up for a 15-minute chat with me to see if I can be of help and we are a good fit: Https://www.33000Dates.com or text me directly at 702-494-7344 and I can find a time that works for both of us. I’m on the East Coast.
Happy dating! Never give up. It only takes one. We all need a little encouragement and someone to show us the way and make online dating more efficient and effective. And fun. Yes, I said fun. Remember, when you started golf, you had help. Pickleball—you took a clinic or two. No pro tennis player did it on her own.
Warmly,
Andrea McGinty
Founder, 33000Dates.com
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Micro-cheating, like tiny needles poking at your heart, can cause pain and strain in a relationship. It is a slippery slope that involves subtle actions like winking at a stranger, flirting with exes, or even hiding the cell phone at the dinner table for no apparent reason (well, there might be a reason). These seemingly harmless behaviors can escalate, leading to relationship arguments and in some cases, the end of a relationship.
Therefore, it is crucial to recognize the early signs of micro-cheating and how to deal with them. It may start innocently with an online conversation, but if left unchecked, it could snowball into an extramarital affair. Unlike traditional infidelity, where a husband is sleeping with another woman for instance, this type of emotional cheating is harder to spot, making it trickier for those involved.
What Is Micro-cheating In A Relationship?
What is micro-cheating in a relationship? Research by the University of Baguio states, “Micro-cheating is described as trivial behaviors or a small act of infidelity. It also involves the use of technology or the Internet, specifically social media like Facebook, Instagram, and online dating applications (e.g., Bumble and Tinder). The result also shows that micro-cheating can be a warning sign that such trivial behaviors can lead to full-blown infidelity. Moreover, micro-cheating can be observed as crossing the boundaries of friendship, having hidden or implicit desires, and using technology as a medium. Finally, in the actual goal of establishing the concept definition, the researchers were able to particularly present a description of micro-cheating which are the actions that come close to the mutually established boundaries of a relationship.”
Now, imagine you’re out on a lovely dinner date. Your boyfriend is constantly staring at someone else lustfully, yet refraining from crossing certain boundaries like kissing. This is an example of micro-cheating – the subtle dance on the fine line between fidelity and infidelity. It involves those tiny acts that might not be considered full-blown cheating but can still raise eyebrows.
It’s like a warning sign in a relationship that one partner might not be as committed as the other. They might keep their options open, fueled by a desire to explore what’s out there. It’s like they’re “almost” cheating, but not quite. However, it can slowly chip away at the foundation of trust, leaving room for doubt and insecurity in a relationship.
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A Reddit user explains this micro-cheating meaning, “Let’s say you’re in a relationship with A. Dating for years, in a real relationship. You go out with friends and someone approaches you named B. You and B hit it off, talk all night and then exchange numbers. You didn’t make out, you didn’t hook up but you guys keep in contact. Text every morning, all day, etc. You’re also hiding this new “whatever” from A. It’s like the internet’s way of saying emotional cheating without any physical touching.”
Another user says, “Cheating rarely is an action one time. Usually, there are little steps that progress toward the event of cheating. If you have taken these steps but haven’t crossed the threshold of what you consider actually cheating (physical contact or emotional intimacy), then it falls into this definition. It’s boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed without realizing this could aid the progression to cheating.”
As we said earlier, unlike blatant cheating, micro-cheating is not always easy to identify. These small yet significant actions can include flirtatious interactions, emotional intimacy with someone outside the relationship, or keeping certain communications hidden from a partner. To shed light on this slippery slope, here are some micro-cheating examples that can potentially create an unhealthy relationship:
You hide your ex or close friend: You maintain secret conversations with your ex or a close friend without telling your partner about it. You may also regularly meet up with them for coffee or lunch, hiding these encounters from your current partner
You flirt online with strangers: Emotional cheating texting examples or signs he is micro-cheating might include flirty conversations with strangers on social media, liking and commenting on their posts in a way that goes beyond friendly interaction
You’re way too intimate with someone else emotionally: You share intimate details and personal feelings (you know we don’t mean sharing what happened to your dog at the vet clinic or talking about your California trip) with someone other than your partner, creating a scope for emotional cheating
You lie about your interactions: You save contacts with fake names (for example, your ex Sandra is apparently the plumber who calls you every night?) and you lie to your partner to hide your communication with certain individuals
You’re swiping on dating apps: Despite being in a committed monogamous relationship, you’re active on dating apps. These are micro-cheating texting examples and yet you keep swiping and chatting with others on dating websites and apps
You make extra efforts for someone: You go out of your way and cross the line to impress a friend, especially while keeping secrets from your partner
You seek emotional support from others and hide it from your partner: You turn to someone outside your shared group or old friends to discuss private relationship issues. In some cases, you also contact your ex for comfort during challenging times in your current relationship and your partner is not at all aware of this
Your profile is deceptive: You have a profile picture that makes people feel safe accepting friend requests from you and they also do not get the idea that you are in a committed relationship
You flirt at parties: You flirt with different people and cross the boundary, perhaps even when your partner is present, and this doesn’t come across as playful banter
You are easily tempted: When you find others attractive in a relationship, you want a selfie with them or wish to meet them later. This happens often and you also end up taking their contact details and planning a meet-up (read: “friendly” date)
You share kinky private jokes with others: You have inside jokes with another person, mostly flirty jokes, that your partner is unaware of. You create these inside jokes or a unique emotional bond with someone other than your partner, fostering a sense of sexual intimacy
You hide your relationship from the world: You don’t share social media posts or interactions with your partner and you’re acting single while in a relationship. You avoid mentioning your partner or relationship status in certain social settings or with certain people, and sometimes even to your loved ones, indicating a desire to appear single and of course ready to mingle
Getting overly defensive about certain friendships: You become defensive or evasive when your partner questions your relationships with certain individuals
Constantly fantasizing about someone other than your partner: You always daydream about being with someone else romantically or intimately. You spend time replaying past romantic experiences with your exes in your mind
Sending late-night messages to someone: You engage in borderline flirting via late-night conversations with someone outside your relationship
You compare your partner: You make comparisons between your partner and others, whether it’s their looks, achievements, or personality traits. This may make your partner feel inadequate, suffer from low self-esteem in the relationship, and indicate that you desire someone else as your special one
Excessive interest in your single friends’ dating lives: You are overly curious about the dating lives of your single friends, hinting at a desire for a different romantic experience
Regularly checking someone’s online presence: You spend extra time obsessively monitoring the online activities of someone you find attractive on social media
Denying the impact of your actions: You dismiss your micro-cheating behavior as harmless fun, try to justify it and downplay its significance, refusing to acknowledge its impact on the relationship and your partner’s mental health
Understanding the signs of micro-cheating in a relationship can be incredibly helpful for healing the bond you share with your partner and for your own emotional safety. Micro-cheating involves subtle actions and behaviors that, when overlooked, can lead to significant trust issues, breakups, and divorces. Recognizing these signs early on allows you to address any potential issues, set clear boundaries, reinforce trust, and take necessary decisions. Here are 7 common signs of micro-cheating:
1. They are suspiciously protective of their phone
Have you noticed something really fishy with your partner’s phone habits? If that’s the case, there might be something going on because this is how cheaters hide their tracks. Yes, your partner may find others attractive in a relationship and is indulging in micro-cheating behavior. So here are a few micro-cheating texting examples to look out for when your husband hides phones:
When you’re hanging out with your significant other, their eyes are glued to their phone like it’s their new BFF. They can’t seem to put it down, even for a moment
And it doesn’t end there – they carry their phone everywhere, even to the bathroom! It’s like they’re guarding a precious secret, and you’re left feeling a bit suspicious
They snatch their phone away or hide the screen whenever a notification pops up
2. They follow their ex on social media (and there’s more to the story)
What are the signs of micro-cheating? A Reddit user says, “My boyfriend (m26) and I (f23) have been together for almost a year now. I found out that he has been searching for and looking up his ex and other girls on Google and on all kinds of social media a lot, almost every day. Especially his ex-girlfriend. This makes me very uncomfortable and worried about our relationship. He tells me he loves me and is generally very affectionate and often talks about us moving in together and having a future together but I’ve kind of lost my trust in him because of this, so I doubt everything he says. He and his ex broke up a couple of years ago simply because they fell out of love and grew apart and they had been together for about six years, so it was a “good” breakup according to him. I can understand being curious and looking up your ex now and then but this is a very frequent behavior of his. I feel like I’m not enough for him and that he’s not satisfied in our relationship. I really don’t know how I should deal with this or what to think about it.”
Sure, having an understanding and being on good terms with exes is one thing, but when your partner hides their social media interactions from you, it’s time to be cautious. While some may not believe in blocking their exes, it becomes a whole different story when your partner seems a little too invested in their ex’s social life. This type of social media micro-cheating is a real thing and it can wreak havoc on a relationship. Here are the red flags to watch out for:
Your partner is constantly keeping tabs on their ex’s life updates – vacations, selfies, dating life
They’re leaving lovey-dovey comments on their ex’s pictures as if they’re still single
Your partner shows heightened emotional reactions, such as jealousy or anger, when their ex posts something on social media with a potential date. This could indicate lingering feelings or unresolved issues between them
They are engaging in frequent chats with their ex and trying to hide it from you by deleting messages or using encrypted messaging apps to keep their interactions private
3. They bring up their ex-partner in every conversation
When your partner brings up their ex in conversations more than what seems normal, it can create doubt in your mind. While staying friends with an ex is absolutely fine in many cases, knowing every intimate detail months after a breakup can be a cause for concern. It’s essential to have an honest conversation if your partner’s behavior seems overly attached to their past. Watch out for this sign, as it could be a subtle form of micro-cheating.
4. Their profiles on dating apps still exist
“Checking what’s out there” on dating sites is not harmless; it can be a hurtful form of micro-cheating on social media. A Reddit user shares, “I never suspected my partner would cheat, he was always very reassuring, loving and caring towards me. He put in effort, organized massive events for special days (birthday, anniversary, christmas). He NEVER made me feel neglected. The weirdest part? We are together every day. It’s actually a coincidence that my cousin told me of an app that lets you check whether your partner is on Tinder or not – she caught her gf on there, and I JOKINGLY used it as well not expecting to find my partner on there.”
She adds, “However, I did and when I confronted him, his excuse was that all men go on it here and there just to browse, but he never spoke to anyone and wasn’t interested in doing so. I am very lost between letting this slip or ending the relationship as he’s always been amazing to me and in the relationship, and this has been our only hiccup. However I’m wondering whether it’s a value difference as I wouldn’t just browse for fun.”
Well, people generally don’t “just browse for fun” on dating websites while being in a happy and committed relationship. However, if you discover your partner’s dating profile is still active, it could be an inappropriate behavior or one of the early signs of cheating in a relationship. It suggests they might still be open to new emotional connections, and your relationship might not be as solid as you thought.
5. They will do anything to avoid attending social events with you
Attending events as a couple is a natural part of many relationships. If you notice your partner always wants to attend them alone, it might raise some concerns. While there are genuine reasons for solo outings, be wary if they consistently decline your company with dubious excuses like “It’s a boring party” or “I’ll only be there for 15 minutes.” They might be hoping to run into someone specific and keep it hidden from you. If they insist on going alone even after you express interest in joining, there could be something suspicious going on. It’s not certain they’re trying to woo someone else, but the need for secrecy hints at a desire to flirt or explore other emotional connections. This could be a telltale sign of micro-cheating in a relationship.
6. They are always smiling at their phones – and no, it’s not a dog meme
What are the signs of micro-cheating? When your partner is constantly smiling at their phone in a secretive way, it might be worth paying attention to. If you notice this pattern, observe their response when they smile at their phone. A cute or flirty message could be the reason behind that smile. Wait a few times before asking what they’re smiling at to understand the situation. If they openly show you the text or image, there’s likely nothing to worry about. However, if they repeatedly respond with “nothing” and seem hesitant to share, it might be a sign of micro-cheating on social media.
Olivia (29) from Miami says, “Cheating scenarios can vary widely, and cheating isn’t always as overt as it seems. For example, what is micro-flirting? It involves subtle interactions that might not cross the line into physical cheating. But, is seeking attention from others while in a relationship cheating as well? The thing is, according to my past dating experiences, such soft cheating starts with sneaky conversations and your partner seems to always smile at their phones while receiving special attention from someone else. These micro transgressions might seem innocent but trust me, they erode relationship trust over time.”
7. They get defensive and try to gaslight you when you bring up their micro-cheating behavior
One of the most important signs of micro-cheating is intuition. In a healthy relationship, there should be open communication between partners, especially if something repeatedly bothers one of them. So when your partner’s behavior keeps nagging at the back of your mind, it’s only natural to bring it up. A genuine partner, who is not at fault, will be open to sitting down and discussing your concerns, seeking to understand and clarify any suspicions. However, if you notice a shift in their energy and behavior, along with some guilt or hesitation, it might be a sign of unfaithfulness in a relationship.
During this discussion or confrontation, your partner may become overly defensive and fly into a rage. To invalidate your feelings and make you doubt your intuition, they may also use gaslighting statements such as:
“You’re just being paranoid, there’s nothing going on.”
“Why are you always trying to find problems where there aren’t any?”
“I can’t believe you’re making such a big deal out of nothing.”
“I’m not micro-cheating. You’re just being too sensitive and overreacting.”
“You must be insecure to even think I would do something like that.”
“It’s all in your head, I haven’t done anything wrong.”
“You’re just trying to start a fight for no reason.”
“You’re just trying to control me by bringing up these baseless accusations.”
“Stop being so jealous and accusing me of emotional cheating, it’s not attractive.”
“You’re making up these micro-cheating stories to cause drama in our relationship.”
How To Deal With Micro-Cheating
Dealing with micro-cheating in a relationship can be a challenging and emotionally draining process. It’s crucial to approach this sensitive topic with empathy and open communication. By addressing the issue head-on and working together, it can be easier to navigate this situation. Here are some ways to deal with micro-cheating and strengthen your relationship (and yes, if needed, be brave and make that decision you’ve been dreading):
1. Figure out what’s bothering you in the first place
Before you dive into that heart-to-heart conversation about micro-cheating with your partner, take a step back and figure out what’s bothering you. With so many examples of micro-cheating floating around on the internet, it’s easy to get influenced and overthink things without a solid reason. For instance, your partner might just enjoy scrolling through social media while drinking their morning coffee, and that’s normal. But suddenly, you may start seeing it as a sign of micro-cheating in marriages. To avoid such unnecessary worry and suspicion, here are the first steps to follow:
Take a moment to reflect on the behavioral changes you’ve noticed that relate to micro-cheating
Ask yourself why these behaviors bother you and whether they are genuine red flags. It’s crucial to separate real concerns from insecurities
Before discussing the issue with your partner, ensure it’s not your feelings or biases at play instead of their actions. This way, you’ll have a clearer perspective when discussing the matter and can work towards a more productive resolution
2. Have an honest conversation about your feelings
If your partner’s actions are unintentional, there’s a better chance to work things out. Take the plunge and tell your partner about the signs you’ve been observing and how deeply it’s been bothering you. They might not even realize the impact of their actions or that it’s considered micro-cheating. In such a situation, a sensible partner will:
Understand the gravity of the situation
Be willing to make changes to stop the micro-cheating
Value your relationship more than meaningless interactions with strangers on social media
Be respectful of your feelings
Try couples therapy or reach out to professional relationship experts
Sophia (36) from Colorado shares, “I once found myself caught in an emotional affair with my ex-boyfriend, and in hindsight, those micro transgressions played a significant role. The micro-cheating psychology behind deleting text messages seemed innocent at first – just a mere attempt to declutter my phone, you know. Yet, it concealed our unintentional flirting and the actual sexting conversation that gradually unfolded. Even seemingly harmless stuff like a flirty Snapchat exchange didn’t ring alarms. One day, I found myself wondering, “Is micro-cheating forgivable?” Looking back, I feel like I cheated but I didn’t indulge in real cheating on a physical intimacy level. Maybe it was soft cheating as people call it, but whatever it was, I decided to be honest with my boyfriend and delve into my own emotional needs.”
Micro-cheating can mean different things to different people. For instance, a harmless compliment from your partner to someone else might be seen as micro-cheating by one person, while someone else might not mind it at all. Understanding these differences and distinguishing between signs of cheating and micro-cheating is crucial.
So, take the time to sit down with your partner and discuss what micro-cheating means to both of you. Share your thoughts and feelings openly, and encourage your partner to do the same. This dialogue will help establish clear boundaries and expectations, ensuring that you’re both on the same page moving forward. Whether it’s avoiding flirty compliments or respecting each other’s comfort levels, understanding what counts as micro-cheating for you as a couple is vital for a strong and trusting relationship.
David (27) from Washington shares, “What is micro-cheating in a relationship and what are some micro-cheating examples? Things considered cheating can range from emotional connections to physical acts. For instance, Instagram cheating signs might include secret likes and comments. Flirtatiously texting other guys while in a relationship can also be a form of micro-cheating, or say, planning secret meet-ups with girls you find attractive online. It’s a gray area, I agree, but these seemingly small actions can have significant repercussions. Now, is micro-cheating forgivable? That depends on the couple’s values and willingness to rebuild trust. I feel this is why it’s important to discuss these things early on in the relationship.”
4. Address the hindrances, and yes, the dating sites
A study published in Psychological Reports found that a lack of trust in a relationship can lead to emotional instability, conflicts, and even the possibility of a breakup. People who aren’t able to trust their partners (for instance, in cases of micro-cheating) are more likely to snoop through their partner’s cell phones, worsening the trust issues in a relationship.
Therefore, instead of taking this approach, have an honest conversation about those dating profiles lingering on your partner’s phone. Let your partner understand how their micro-cheating psychology and daily interactions with their exes bother you. Then come up with possible solutions together. While doing this, it’s important to strike a balance between riddance and control. You can eliminate these little triggers in a relationship without controlling your partner. So give your partner the space they need while ensuring open communication.
5. Set healthy relationships boundaries
Wondering how to stop micro-cheating in marriages? It’s crucial to be on the same page and have open discussions about what behaviors are acceptable and what are not, keeping each partner’s needs in mind. But don’t forget to set boundaries for yourself too. If you wouldn’t want your partner complimenting someone flirtatiously, make sure you also refrain from doing the same when you come across an attractive picture on social media. Setting such healthy boundaries is vital to safeguard your relationship from micro-cheating. Here are a few examples of boundaries in a relationship after cheating or micro-cheating that you can set depending on your situation:
No exchanging flirty messages with others
Avoid excessive secrecy about online interactions or phone usage
Limit communication with ex-partners to necessary conversations only
Agree not to use dating sites while in a committed relationship
Be transparent about social media activity, including likes, comments, and follows
No hiding or saving contacts with fake names to conceal communication with others
Limit interactions with people who have a deep romantic interest in either partner
Avoid comparing current partners with past relationships
6. Rebuild trust together
Having an extramarital affair where you are sleeping with someone else is not the only thing that can hurt a partner. Sometimes, micro cheating may sound very trivial, but it can take a long time to heal the wounds and build trust again. Here are some special ways to rebuild trust after cheating or micro-cheating:
Create a shared vision board for the future, outlining relationship goals and aspirations together
Take a break from social media for a designated period, focusing on building trust and emotional connection offline
Try couples therapy or online counseling, speak to relationship experts, and attend relationship workshops or seminars together to learn how to build trust in a relationship after cheating
7. Know when to let go
Knowing when to let go can be tough, especially when dealing with micro-cheating. While it may not seem as severe as physical cheating, the emotional impact can be just as hurtful. It should not be brushed aside as insignificant because these small breaches of trust can snowball into bigger relationship problems in the long run.
Having open conversations about your feelings and setting boundaries is crucial, but if your partner repeatedly disregards them, it can sow seeds of distrust and resentment. When you find yourself stuck in a pattern where your partner apologizes but continues the same actions, hiding them better each time, there is a lack of commitment to change. So, if you’ve expressed your worries and they persist, consider reevaluating the relationship.
Staying in such a toxic relationship can lead to more pain. Have faith in your intuition and be kind to yourself by letting go if needed. Instead of crying every night about your partner who is micro-cheating on you, remember that you deserve a relationship where both partners are committed to mutual respect and emotional safety.
Key Pointers
Micro-cheating involves subtle actions like flirting with exes, secret phone usage, or hiding your relationship in social events
If you recognize the early signs of micro-cheating, you may address potential issues and initiate an honest conversation with your partner about your concerns and feelings regarding their behavior, encouraging them to understand the gravity of the situation
If you’re wondering how to stop micro-cheating, have a transparent conversation with your partner about micro-cheating meaning according to both of you
Address the hindrances, such as dating sites causing emotional infidelity, and set healthy boundaries to feel safe and avoid micro-cheating behaviors
Rebuild trust together through shared experiences, couples therapy, and open communication, but also know when to let go if your partner continues micro-cheating despite repeated discussions
While it might not carry the same weight as traditional infidelity, micro-cheating can have a powerful impact, eroding the bedrock of trust in a relationship. Whether you’re on the receiving end of those tiny pricks or inflicting them, the crux lies in fostering understanding, empathy, and mutual respect while both partners navigate the delicate balance between what’s acceptable and what’s not.
Got a crush that’s been keeping you up at night, wondering how to catch their attention, make their heart skip a beat the same way that yours does at the mere sight of them, and take things to the next level? Humor could be the secret weapon that propels your romantic journey in the direction you want it to. Some flirty jokes can get the chemistry between you two sizzling.
As always, we’re here to help with this rundown on the 121 flirty jokes that are sure to make your crush blush. Silly flirty jokes – check. Funny flirty jokes for texts – check. Subtle flirty jokes – check. Flirty dad jokes – check. Flirty knock-knock jokes – check. Whatever your brand of humor, we’ve got you covered. So, let’s get started, shall we?
Flirty Knock-Knock Jokes For Your Crush
Flirty knock-knock jokes are bound to make them laugh!
Not everybody gets the humor and satire disguised within flirty knock-knock jokes. If you think your crush will appreciate these, make the most of these corny flirty jokes to get your crush to like you:
A good knock-knock joke can really help break the ice, provided the person at the other end appreciates the humor in them. So, use them wisely, use them well.
Flirty Jokes To Make Him Laugh
Try these naughty jokes on him and be sure he will love your sense of humor
When you’re looking for flirty jokes to tell your crush, it can be a real quandary figuring out how far you can take the flirtatious game without coming on too strong. Fret not, we’ve got you covered with these flirty jokes to make him laugh:
27. Were you talking to me? (No) Well then, please start!
28. Do I know you? You look an awful lot like the guy from my dreams
29. Are you the square root of -1? Cause you can’t be real
30. It’s okay if you’re busy today! You could add me to your to-do list
31. Are you related to Willy Wonka? You sure look delicious!
32. I bet you just smiled with my name on your notifications
33. I’m researching important dates in history. Would you be mine?
These jokes can easily double as flirty pick-up lines, which is to say they’re pretty safe to use. Go ahead, spin them out without worrying about how they make you look.
Flirty Jokes To Make Her Laugh
Make her laugh, she will like you a little more every day
Making a girl laugh can open the pathway to her heart. Considering how humor can make or break a potential romantic connection, it’s important to play your cards right. You gotta mix it up and try your hand at flirty puns and hilarious jokes, peppered with the best dad jokes flirty. Sounds complicated? We assure you it’s not. For inspiration, look at these flirty jokes to make her laugh:
34. Hey! My name is Microsoft. Can I crash at your place tonight?
35. Are you in love yet, or should I pour some more vodka?
36. I believe in following my dreams. Can I have your number?
37. Hello! You need to leave this party immediately. You make everyone else look bad.
39. You’re cuter than a puppy, I’d just love to take you home!
39. Why did the skeleton not ask out his crush? Because he didn’t have the guts!
40. If you’d be Burger King, I’d be McDonald’s. You can have it your way and I’ll be lovin’ it!
41. Girl, do you play soccer? You’re surely a keeper!
57. Ma’am please step away from the bar…you’re melting all the ice here!
58. Hello ma’am, is your dad a boxer? Cause you’re a knockout!
Funny Flirty Jokes For Texts
Take your texting game to the next level with these funny jokes
Your text conversations with your crush hold the key to the future of your connection. If you spend an inordinate amount of time texting back and forth throughout the day, it’s safe to assume that your crush, too, has feelings for you. Why not push the envelope and test the waters with these funny flirty jokes for text:
59. Hello! Are you Wi-Fi? Cuz I feel a connection
60. Are you a blessing? Because you seem to be the answer to all my prayers!
61. Oh no! If you’re here, who’s up there running Heaven?
62. Are you Google? You have everything I look for!
63. What does it feel like to be the most gorgeous girl you know?
64. Wanna make a bet? If I win, you take me out. If you do, I’d take you home. What do you say?
Try some flirty jokes that are as cute as your crush!
Flirty jokes to tell your crush become even more effective when you stir in an element of cuteness to them. Especially if it’s a cute girl or guy who has caught your fancy. Go ahead, give these cute flirty jokes a try:
84. I’d say God bless you but looks like he already did!
85. Yes, I have an unlit cigarette. Seems like I just found my match!
86. I’m great at mathematics! Give me your number and watch what I can do
111. Sorry, I’m a little short on cash. Mind if we shared a cab home?
112. My mom told me strangers could be dangerous! Looking at you, I understand what she meant
113. You must be peanut butter cuz you turn me into jelly
114. Can I borrow a quarter? I need to call home to tell my mother I’ve met the man of my dreams!
115. If you were a web browser, I’d call you FireFoxy
116. I think I’m looking at the reason for global warming
117. I want to exchange places with your handbag so I never have to leave your side
119. Hey, I’ve been dying to ask! How was heaven when you left?
120. Do you know how much polar bears weigh? Just enough to break the ice. Hi, I’m (insert name)
121. Hello, do you have a bandage? I think I might have accidentally scraped my knee, falling for you
With these 121 cute flirty jokes to make your crush blush, you are all locked and loaded to impress. Do not choose light or subtle flirty jokes if you think the moment asks for you to bring the big guns out. Be careful when you use humor and make sure you never hurt your sweetheart’s emotions. Allow these funny flirty jokes to become a part of your everyday conversations and watch the magic of laughter unfold. We wish you luck as you woo your love!
Confirming Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun’s relationship sent the entertainment world abuzz. This unexpected union united beloved figures from K-pop and K-drama realms. Fans and media worldwide were captivated by the news. In this article, we embark on a thrilling journey into their love story. We delve into the fascinating events that brought them together. From chance encounters to shared interests, sparks ignited their romance.
However, this newfound love came with its share of challenges. As high-profile celebrities, they found themselves at the center of a media frenzy, with rumors and speculations swirling around their relationship. Together, we explore how Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun navigated the spotlight while maintaining the privacy of their personal lives. Finally, we celebrate the moment their love became official—a heartwarming declaration that touched the hearts of their fans worldwide. Join us as we unravel the captivating love story of Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun, discovering the depth of their affection and the impact they have on their adoring admirers.
The Beginnings: A Chance Encounter
Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun’s love story traces back to a serendipitous encounter that fate orchestrated. Their paths first crossed at a social event organized by mutual friends from the entertainment industry. Jisoo, a radiant member of the global sensation BLACKPINK, and Ahn Bo Hyun, a talented rising star in K-drama, were invited to the gathering, setting the stage for a meeting that would change their lives.
Amidst the event’s buzz, Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun were drawn to each other, naturally gravitating towards shared interests and conversations that flowed effortlessly. Their initial connection was marked by a sense of ease and genuine admiration for one another’s work. As they laughed and conversed, the sparks of attraction began to flicker, igniting the early embers of a passionate romance.
Beyond the event, their paths continued to cross, often finding themselves at industry functions, awards ceremonies, and charity events. These encounters deepened their bond, leading to a burgeoning friendship that laid the groundwork for something more profound.
As they discovered common interests and aspirations, their connection grew stronger, creating a unique and solid foundation for their relationship. Their shared passion for their respective crafts, dedication to their careers, and commitment to positively impacting the world forged an unbreakable bond between them.
The Confirmation: Making it Official
After months of speculation and media frenzy, Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun decided to share the truth about their relationship with the world. The long-awaited confirmation was a pleasant surprise to their fans and the entertainment industry alike. The couple made their love official on a sunny day in Seoul, and the world rejoiced.
Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun took to their social media accounts to share heartfelt messages, confirming their romantic involvement. Jisoo’s post featured a candid photo of the couple, radiating with happiness and genuine affection. In her caption, she expressed gratitude for the unwavering support from their fans and asked for their continued love as they embarked on this journey together.
Ahn Bo Hyun’s post mirrored Jisoo’s sentiment, accompanied by a sweet snapshot of them sharing a tender moment. He praised Jisoo’s kindness, talent, and beauty, acknowledging the joy she brought into his life. His words resonated deeply with their fans, who eagerly embraced the new celebrity couple.
The confirmation sent the internet into a frenzy, with social media platforms buzzing with reactions from fans and fellow celebrities. “Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun” quickly became a top trending topic worldwide, as fans expressed their excitement and joy for the couple. Many fans shared heartwarming messages, showering the pair with love and well-wishes for their future together.
Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun’s Journey as a Couple
As Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun embarked on their journey as a couple, they embraced their newfound love with enthusiasm and devotion. The early days of their relationship were filled with shared experiences, creating cherished memories that solidified their bond.
Despite their busy schedules as high-profile celebrities, Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun consciously tried to spend quality time together. They often attended events, enjoyed meals at their favorite restaurants, and explored the city hand in hand. These shared experiences allowed them to learn more about each other, deepening their connection and understanding of their passions and interests.
One of the joys of their journey as a couple was supporting each other’s careers. Jisoo attended Ahn Bo Hyun’s drama premieres and celebrated his successes, while Ahn Bo Hyun showed up at BLACKPINK’s concerts, proudly cheering for Jisoo. Their unwavering support for each other’s professional endeavors became a pillar of their relationship, fostering a sense of mutual respect and admiration.
Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun faced challenges unique to celebrity status as two individuals in the limelight. The intense media attention and public scrutiny put pressure on their relationship, demanding strength and resilience. However, they remained grounded, often leaning on each other for support during trying times.
Navigating the Rumors: A Media Frenzy
News of Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun’s romance created a media frenzy. Rumors and speculations spread rapidly, intensifying the frenzy. Paparazzi were eager to capture any moments of the couple together. As prominent figures, their love lives piqued the public’s interest. The constant spotlight posed challenges for Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun. Keeping their romance private became their priority. They cherished moments of intimacy and sought solace from the media attention. Despite valuing fans’ support, they guarded their personal lives.
As speculation grew, the couple decided to address the rumors head-on but with discretion. They maintained a measured and strategic approach, neither confirming nor denying the rumors outright. Instead, they allowed their actions and interactions to speak for themselves, refraining from making official statements until they were ready to do so on their terms.
Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun leaned on their close-knit circle of friends and trusted confidants for support during this media storm. They sought advice from fellow celebrities who had experienced similar scrutiny, learning to navigate the complex terrain of being public figures in a relationship. Their friends’ guidance gave them the tools to handle the attention with grace and poise.
Conclusion
Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun’s love story has captivated millions, showcasing the enduring power of love in the entertainment world. From navigating the media frenzy to confirming their relationship with grace, they have inspired fans with their authenticity and resilience. As high-profile celebrities, they continue to cherish their love while overcoming challenges. Their deep bond and unwavering commitment to each other have left an indelible mark on their fans worldwide. As they move forward on their journey together, Jisoo and Ahn Bo Hyun’s love story will remain a cherished and celebrated chapter in the history of K-pop and K-drama.
Some Bible versions simply say, “God hates divorce!” While other translations do a better job explaining what God was meaning. “‘The man who hates and divorces his wife,’ says the Lord, the God of Israel, ‘does violence to the one he should protect,’ says the Lord Almighty” (NIV; Emphasis mine).
God hates divorce is not the end of this divorce discussion. It doesn’t give us enough information or any context behind why God is saying this. And it certainly doesn’t tell us when it’s time for a person to divorce, so it should not be the only verse that is looked at when considering a divorce.
When a Christian is contemplating a divorce, what are we to do with such a message? Many times there is no clear answer about when you should stay married and when you should file for divorce.
But we can allow several other verses to show us the life God wants us to live, plus allow the Holy Spirit to guide us in making the right direction given our circumstances.
Biblical Reasons to Get a Divorce
Let’s get the obvious signs out of the way of adultery and/or abandonment. As stated in the verses below, these are times that have clear signs that it’s time for divorce–especially if a spouse refuses to come back and/or won’t leave the affair partner.
“But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.” –1 Corinthians 7:15
“But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” –Matthew 5:32
But…what if your situation doesn’t fit into these categories?
What if I’m not married to an unbelieving spouse who has abandoned me?
What if there has been no adultery?
What if the affair was years ago and church elders suggested forgiveness, grace, and mercy instead of talking about or allowing either party to think about divorce? Can I divorce, now, if I just can’t let go of that pain?
We are all fallible human beings with a heart that wants to see marriages survive. But sometimes, that’s just not possible.
Lives are messy. And our lives don’t fit into these nice little definitions of what to do when this or that happens.
Divorce has to be an option in other circumstances because not allowing divorce as an option, we keep a person trapped in an unsafe and abusive marriage. So let’s look into reasons that are still biblical, but just not laid out as cleary.
Physical abuse is another sign that most people would agree should be an option if the abuser refuses to get help for the abuse problem and stop the abusive behavior. But what about emotional abuse?
Emotional abuse is harder to spot than physical abuse, but is just as legitimate and harmful.
Here are some ways emotional or psychological abuse can manifest, which may mean it’s time for the couple to divorce. Here are 4 signs of emotional abuse in marriage.
1. Every Conversation Turns to Anger
If you feel like any conversation about change, about your feelings, or what would improve the marriage turns angry, rage-filled, and you walk away feeling to blame for even opening your mouth, you could be married to an emotionally immature person or an emotional abuser.
A counselor or coach who specializes in domestic abuse and abuse recovery or a domestic violence shelter can help you understand if you are in an abusive marriage.
Although marriage counseling might help you recognize this pattern, if all you’re learning in marriage counseling is how to not “set this person off” then it isn’t really helping.
This is not your doing; it’s not normal. Non-abusive people assert themselves and ask questions to understand another person’s perspective even during conflict. Your counselor or coach can help you find the words to set boundaries and invite your spouse into getting help for themselves to figure out why they often react angrily in conversations with you.
If they refuse, then you can work on figuring out your next steps, so you can live a life of peace.
“Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.” —Proverbs 22:24-25
2. Your Spouse Always Leaving You Feeling Confused and Blamed
Confusion is not from God; peace is (1 Corinthians 14:33). God wants us all to live a life of peace, not confusion and chaos all the time.
Peace and marriage go hand in hand; you can’t have one without the other. When there is so much confusion in your life about your marriage, the relationship you have with your spouse, and how you’re being treated, you don’t have a peaceful marriage.
Of course you’d be confused all of the time. Any normal person would be. One minute everything is fine and the next they’re exploding, rageful, and threatening a divorce because you asked them to take out the trash or to come to the table for dinner.
You can’t be expected to change someone else or lower your self-worth to fit into everything they need you to be. It might be time to consider your next steps.
Again, invite them into healing for their own life and then do what you need to do to live a peaceful life without all this stress and confusion.
“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” –Romans 12:18
3. You’re Constantly Left Feeling Lonely, and Your Spouse Isolates Your Relationships
There are people in this world that are just not emotionally available to other people at their stage in life. Some may be able to have a great marriage because they understand this about themselves and allow the other person to find an emotional connection with other people.
But if your spouse expects you to be their everything but refuses to be emotionally available for you or worse forbids you from connecting with others for emotional support, then divorce might need to be considered.
This person is robbing you of the connection and emotional intimacy we all need. To be seen, heard, and understood.
Yes, we should get everything from God first and people second, but humans were created for emotional connection with other humans–physical intimacy is just not enough.
When it’s not safe to ask your spouse for quality time and emotional connection, you may need to get out to feel less alone in this world. Many divorced people feel more connection, more peace, and less alone after their divorce because of the lack of those things in their marriage.
4. You Feel Trapped and Utterly Helpless
I often get emails from ladies who tell me all the medications they are on just to stay married to their angry and controlling spouse. They ask what others should they try, what programs or therapy I’d suggest for them to go through, and prayers to pray, so they don’t have to divorce their unresponsive husbands.
That’s not what God intended marriage to look like! And you’re kids are watching.
(Side note: This also goes for both sexes. Also, needing medication for your mental health is one thing; needing it to “keep yourself sane” in a hostile environment is another).
Of course, there is nothing wrong with praying and having hope for change in another person. We know that God can do anything.
At the same time, we have to be realistic and set up our own lives in a healthy way. If change doesn’t happen what are the options?
How long do you wait? What if you’ve been married for 10 or 20 years, and every year is just another year like that last? After you’ve invited your spouse into healing and they reject that and blame you, separation and divorce should be the next option.
“When the sentence for a crime is not quickly carried out, people’s hearts are filled with schemes to do wrong.” –Ecclesiastes 8:11
I believe when we put too much hope in saving a marriage that is not salvageable it’s like watching someone in Hospice fighting for their life but not letting them go. Yes, we can hope and pray for a miracle but that doesn’t mean we keep them alive once they are gone. Marriages get to that point as well.
Many Christians might say there is always hope for a marriage to survive; it’s a promise “for life” as long as you’re both still breathing. But as was my case, sometimes it gets to the point that you’re beating a dead horse that was long dead.
I just couldn’t be the only one always doing the work on myself and the marriage, praying and hoping while walking on eggshells, and watching the cycles repeat over and over again. If I kept holding onto hope that something was going to change, that’s the definition of insanity right? It does drive you crazy to spend decades hoping for change when there has never been any and no responsibility has been taken.
Instead, I just continued to take the blame and sacrificing myself, even my walk with God, to save a dead marriage.
Now, for the most part, my life is peaceful; when I don’t have to speak to people who enjoy being angry, blaming me, and causing chaos without feeling guilty about it.
I can honestly say I’m thankful I let go and accepted the divorce option. I love a thriving life with God in the center.
Who Gets to Decide If You Divorce?
The decision to divorce is a personal decision. No one can make that decision for you unless your spouse is forcing it.
Seek help from educated people helpers like counselors, abuse experts, Christian mentors, and pastors, as long as they are not telling you exactly what you need to do.
They should help you make the best decision for your life and future.
God’s Grace for the Divorced
God cares for people; for souls. God wants all humans to live a life of peace.
He wants us to thrive, not merely survive or suffer. God hates what divorce does to the person who’s experiencing physical or emotional violence, the spouse who’s being cheated on, or the one who was abandoned by their partner. He hates that another human would put their spouse in this kind of position; instead of protecting them from that environment.
But when He sees His children suffering so deeply, He allows for divorce to protect that person from future harm.
“Do not take advantage of the widow or the fatherless. If you do and they cry out to me, I will certainly hear their cry. My anger will be aroused, and I will kill you with the sword; your wives will become widows and your children fatherless.” –Exodus 22:23
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Jen Grice is a divorce coach and author of the books, You Can Survive Divorce and Your Restoration Journeyabout recovery and redemption after divorce.After her own unwanted divorce in 2013, Jen started a ministry to encourage and empower Christian women to not only survive but thrive after divorce caused by adultery, abuse, or abandonment. You can learn more about her ministry at JenGrice.com. Jen can also be found on YouTube talking about preparing for and divorcing a narcissist. And her books can be found at B&N or on Amazon.
