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Growing up, most of us weren’t taught much about men and what makes them tick.
I know I wasn’t and in the past, I made huge mistakes and ended up emasculating men like it was my job.
Yet, I had no clue I was doing it until 2 men said to me these fateful words . . . “Lisa, you don’t know how to let a man be a man.”
Those words shocked me because I’d always gotten along great with men.
But truthfully, they were right and it’s what led me to a huge part of what I do today, helping women understand the male mind and what makes him tick so she can attract a good man who loves, adores and cherishes her, into her life.
I’m going to share 8 tips with you that have made a huge difference in both my life and the lives of my clients when it comes to men. (BTW . . . when I write tips about men, men write me thanking me for understanding them and wishing more women got them.)
Ok, so let’s get started so you can go out and use these tips in your life to help you find love after 50.
Tip #1 – Appreciate a man for who he is.
Men are wonderful but they aren’t women.
They don’t think like women nor do they communicate like women.
This means, don’t expect a man to act like a woman or you’re guaranteed to be disappointed.
Tip #2 – Men over 50 are very masculine and they love when you bring this trait out in them.
Men have no interest in competing with you and that’s exactly how they see it as when you approach them as an Alpha Female.
For a man, this is like dating another man and he isn’t interested in dating someone like himself.
The key is learning to come into your true feminine power . . . one that compliments a man’s masculine power.
When you do, he’ll jump through hoops to make you happy.
Tip #3 – Men show you love with their actions.
Hollywood has messed with our heads on this one.
On the big screen, they show us men like Tom Cruise’s character in the movie, Jerry McGuire.
Think back to when he professed his love with the romantic words, “You complete me.”
Real men show you their love by cutting your grass and giving you their coat when you’re cold.
If you expect love to come in the form of words only . . . it’s likely you’re dating a bad boy who will say the right words but never follow up.
If you want a long term relationship, you want a man whose actions ALWAYS follow his words.
Tip #4 – Men want to give to you.
Let them open the door for you or change that light bulb you can’t reach.
It makes them happy to please you and make your life easier.
All they want in return is to be appreciated and thanked.
If you do this, they’ll do anything you want, which leads us to Tip #5.
Tip #5 – Don’t criticize the job a man is doing for you.
He’s doing his best and yes, you may be able to do it better or faster than he can but don’t… It makes him feel emasculated.
If he’s offered to do something for you, allow him to do it his way.
Otherwise, the next time you ask for help, he’ll tell you to hire a handyman.
He doesn’t want the aggravation of not being able to do anything right for you.
Tip #6 – When you’re dating an over 50’s man, don’t place demands on how he must be or what he has to do in order to date you.
Men tell me again and again how much they dislike profiles of women who demand nothing less than the best restaurant or a certain salary to date them.
Men have had enough demands put on them at work and from their exes.
The last thing they want to do is meet yours before you’ve even met.
Tip #7 – Don’t try and remodel a man by making him your pet project.
Either accept him for who he is or let him go and move on.
Tip #8 – A lot of men over 50 are pretty insecure when it comes to asking you out.
Having been rejected time and time again by so many women, they aren’t too quick about putting themselves back in a vulnerable position unless it feels safe for them to do so.
If you like a man, encourage him with eye contact, a warm smile or a flirt online to let him know you’re interested.
Remember, men weren’t given a Dating Rulebook with their divorce papers either.
So be kind to them and understand that as scared as you feel about dating, most of them are too.
I struggled with the fear of not being good enough, especially when I experience joy in a relationship. Lisa knew this about me. I grew a lot with Lisa and her Group Program. And, I continue to work on myself. I have learned to set boundaries and let go of relationships that are not good for me for I am worthy of the love I desire. I am in a new relationship now. I am being real! If it works out, he will fall in love with the real Martha who is enough! Thank you, Lisa!!
Is your heart ready to find love with the right man this year?
If so, I’d love to be your coach and support your love journey for making this dream come true.
Just click here to get started.
Believing in you!
Big hugs ~
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