In the early 2000s, sexting hit the scene. The combo of sex and texting become highly popular and sending photos become a core part. In 2023, around 77% of respondents aged 19 years and older have sent a sext, whilst around 88% received a sext. A little sexting in a relationship can keep things spicy, especially when it comes to long distance courtship. But, if you don’t play your cards right, those very same texts can backfire and bring your relationship down with it. There is, according to research, such thing as too much virtual dirty talk.
The Fresh Toast – More people do it than you can imagine, but too much sexting is bad for your relationship
“Hyper-sexters,” as they’re called, are the worst offenders. And while they may be the most sexually satisfied, according to a new study from the University of Alberta, the romantic relationships of these horny texters suffer in other ways.
Researchers surveyed 615 Canadian and American adults, all in relationships, about their sexting habits. The analyses revealed 4 distinct groups of sexters: non-sexters (71.5 percent), word-only sexters (14.5 percent), frequent sexters (8.5 percent), and hyper sexters (5.5 percent). Researchers then compared these groups on several factors that would indicate well-being and technology-related behaviors.
According to the study:
Frequent and hyper sexters reported greater sexual satisfaction but were not significantly different from non-sexters or word-only sexters in relationship satisfaction. Further, frequent and hyper sexters scored more poorly on other relationship variables (i.e., attachment security, commitment, ambivalence, and conflict) than non-sexters or word-only sexters and showed greater media and pornography viewing, technoference in face-to-face interactions with their partner, and infidelity-related behaviors on social media.
The study’s lead authoer, Adam Galovan, said sexting doesn’t seem to be a feature of a healthy relationship,” and that “My interpretation is that the sexters are focusing more on the sexual part of their relationship and may be neglecting other areas.”
In other words, using a removed form of communication to replace actual face-to-face interaction isn’t exactly a recipe for a healthy, nurturing relationship.
Said Galovan:
These folks want to get to the end goal — a good relationship — without doing the hard work of talking, listening, and spending quality time together. It’s the instant gratification culture — we want it now. But it’s what you do to get to that goal that actually defines a good relationship.
Previous research has found sexting is quite prolific in society, “with 58 percent of college students admitting they’ve sent at least one sext, and 62 percent saying they’ve received one.” And what could be a red flag for both partners, men were more likely to sext with a casual partner, while women preferred to do it with someone they were exclusive with.
If you’re in a healthy relationship where trust has been established, go forth and sext. But just make sure to give just as much attention to all the other aspects of your relationship. Sexting can’t replace the heartfelt stuff.
While it can be fun or playful to send titillating messages and photos to a partner, it’s important to have some guardrails. Here’s what you should never say while sexting.
“Good morning. You are scheduled to receive a picture of my junk. Please, reply 1 to confirm that you are horny. Reply 2 to reschedule.”
“Good morning. You are scheduled to receive a picture of my junk. Please, reply 1 to confirm that you are horny. Reply 2 to reschedule.”
It’s redundant. They already confirmed via email.
“Sorry, I’m all out of cum tonight. I have a fresh shipment arriving Wednesday, though, if you’re interested.”
“Sorry, I’m all out of cum tonight. I have a fresh shipment arriving Wednesday, though, if you’re interested.”
Wednesday isn’t soon enough. Your lover needs cum now!
“I give you scratchies behind the ear and rub your big belly.”
“I give you scratchies behind the ear and rub your big belly.”
Fine to say later on, but you need to pace yourself. Starting with something as hot and heavy as this right away will make them blow their load immediately.
“Are those nipples? What is that, a knee? Wait—am I supposed to look at this sideways?”
“Are those nipples? What is that, a knee? Wait—am I supposed to look at this sideways?”
All close-up mounds of flesh are equally sexy, so it shouldn’t matter what exactly you’re looking at.
“I’d probably ejaculate pretty quickly and then stand in front of the fridge nude while chugging blue Gatorade.”
“I’d probably ejaculate pretty quickly and then stand in front of the fridge nude while chugging blue Gatorade.”
You don’t have to be completely honest when they ask what you’d be doing if you two were together right now.
“I am excited to begin the holy act of Christian procreation between a man and a woman with you.”
“I am excited to begin the holy act of Christian procreation between a man and a woman with you.”
Please, for the love of God, don’t send this without a photo of a promise ring.
“I am an asexual sea sponge.”
“I am an asexual sea sponge.”
Then why are you sexting!?!
“I cut down on my phone bill substantially by sexting you with T-Mobile.”
“I cut down on my phone bill substantially by sexting you with T-Mobile.”
It’s hotter to build up slowly to a sales pitch instead of diving right in.
“I masturbate my elbows as you slowly lick the inside of your fingernail.”
“I masturbate my elbows as you slowly lick the inside of your fingernail.”
This is just going to give away that you don’t know what sex is.
“Siri, insert eggplant emoji. I said, Siri, insert eggplant emoji.”
“Siri, insert eggplant emoji. I said, Siri, insert eggplant emoji.”
This is not how you want to reveal to the woman you met online that you are actually 63 years old.
“HOMINA HOMINA HOMINA.”
“HOMINA HOMINA HOMINA.”
Once is fine, but resist the urge to copy and paste this response to everything the other person says.
“C: creative. U: understanding. M: magical!”
“C: creative. U: understanding. M: magical!”
Poetry is best shared face-to-face.
“Perhaps my penis should enter your vagina in a way that brings pleasure to us both?”
“Perhaps my penis should enter your vagina in a way that brings pleasure to us both?”
It’s important to check in with your lover first to make sure they enjoy pleasure.
“Please sign and return the attached PDF.”
“Please sign and return the attached PDF.”
Don’t send a nondisclosure agreement without first looping your attorney into the chat.
“*~*~*~ “I walk a lonely road / The only one that I have ever known. ~*~*~*”
“*~*~*~ “I walk a lonely road / The only one that I have ever known. ~*~*~*”
You are confusing sexts with AIM away messages again.
“Hey, I just got out of the shower, slipped, and cracked my head open on the bathroom sink. Want to see?”e
“Hey, I just got out of the shower, slipped, and cracked my head open on the bathroom sink. Want to see?”e
Don’t ask, just send that pic!
“Hey, just so we’re clear, remind me what cum is again?”
“Hey, just so we’re clear, remind me what cum is again?”
You need to do your research before you begin sexting.
“I’m going to lick you like a child licks an ice cream cone on a hot summer day. One of those halcyon days, back when everything was beautiful, everything was free. Before we started to grow older, and saw the world’s true nature: bleak, gray, and disappointing. Now here we sit, hoping to ignite something resembling joy, but what we know is just a pleasurable opiate, sedating ourselves against the abject horror of existence.”
“I’m going to lick you like a child licks an ice cream cone on a hot summer day. One of those halcyon days, back when everything was beautiful, everything was free. Before we started to grow older, and saw the world’s true nature: bleak, gray, and disappointing. Now here we sit, hoping to ignite something resembling joy, but what we know is just a pleasurable opiate, sedating ourselves against the abject horror of existence.”
Actually, this is super hot.
“I am 14 years old!”
You should tell your parents what this man who found you on Roblox has been saying.
“Not through speeches and majority decisions will the great questions of the day be decided, but by iron and blood.”
“Not through speeches and majority decisions will the great questions of the day be decided, but by iron and blood.”
It comes across as a little cheesy to quote Otto von Bismarck’s famous 1862 Blood and Iron speech
“Gimme just one sec, gotta finish doing CPR on this unconscious guy!”
“Gimme just one sec, gotta finish doing CPR on this unconscious guy!”
Typically, it’s considered unprofessional to sext at work.
“If for every time you cum, I cum four and a half times plus two times, then how many times did I cum if you came six times?”
“If for every time you cum, I cum four and a half times plus two times, then how many times did I cum if you came six times?”
It’s way too hard to do algebra while jerking off.
“Who is a horny baby? You are. You are! Coochie coochie coo!”
“Who is a horny baby? You are. You are! Coochie coochie coo!”
Not only is this wrong on so many levels, but if they are turned on by this, it’s probably illegal.
“I love you.”
You’re a liar, just like everyone else! You wouldn’t be saying that if you hadn’t met someone else you like more, you fucking cheating piece of shit. Well, just know there will be blood on your hands when they kill themselves.
“Mom, can you pick me up from soccer practice?”
“Mom, can you pick me up from soccer practice?”
Keep it in your pants, pervert! She’s your mother!
Scrolling and swiping on social media has become an integral part of modern relationships. Follow the latest trends, share funny reels, or flaunt your partner a little. But what if that double tap or status update reveals more than you hoped for? Are you questioning the authenticity of your partner’s online persona? Do you find yourself wondering if their behavior online aligns with their actions in real life? It’s time to know about the social media red flags in relationships to maintain a healthy and thriving connection with your partner.
If you are noticing secretive behaviors, excessive flirtation, or inappropriate interactions online, don’t underestimate their significance. This could be a big deal. Being aware of these signs is important when it comes to safeguarding the strength of your serious relationship. Here are 19 red flags on social media you must keep in mind to protect your bond and foster a loving and secure digital presence.
19 Glaring Social Media Red Flags In Relationships You Should Never Ignore
Uncovering signs of relationship insecurity on social media can be eye-opening. Establishing clear social media boundaries in relationships is the bare minimum. A couple of red flags for online dating can be discovering that your partner has secret social media accounts, or witnessing their interactions with exes.
It is natural to wonder, “Does social media affect relationships in a negative way?” Yes, it can. However, according to Jean M. Twenge, a popular American psychologist, social media is not real life. Remember, what you see online may not always reflect the reality of someone. However, every social media major red flag ahead can still affect relationships in real life.
1. Sharing inappropriate pictures and private relationship moments is one of the most glaring red flags on social media
It’s time to discuss one of the most blatant warning signs on social media. Uploading inappropriate pictures of you two together should not take place without your consent. Sharing their own inappropriate photos with somebody online indicates that your partner might be cheating on you, or that they are violating someone else’s boundaries.
Have an open conversation about what online behavior is appropriate and respectful
Be cautious if their picture-sharing habits seem to shift from fun moments to overly revealing content about your relationship and you in public
When your partner disregards your feelings and posts personal content that makes you uncomfortable, it’s time to express your concerns about your love life
2. Your partner posts flirty comments on other people’s posts, but not yours
Your partner readily engages in leaving flirty comments on other people’s posts too. This raises questions and doubts about their intentions and commitment for your relationship.
Pay attention to the signs of Instagram flirting. Is your partner constantly leaving flirty comments on other posts? Because this form of online flirting can jeopardize the trust and emotional security within your relationship
Engaging in flirting or sexual behavior with others through social media is considered unacceptable behavior in a relationship for many folks. Research suggests that these actions are considered similar to infidelity and can cause feelings of betrayal, hurt, and insecurity
Introspect on this: Are you okay with your partner harmlessly flirting with others as long as they also maintain the same dynamic with you in public?
3. They ignore you on social media completely even though you both follow each other
Lena, a dancer from Colorado, shares with us, “I was committed to someone, and everything seemed perfect. But I started noticing that he doesn’t engage with me on social media publicly. It made me wonder why my boyfriend doesn’t comment on my pictures/posts or even ‘like’ them but can always be found under other people’s public updates.”
Do they not want your friends and family to know about you two? Are they hiding your relationship from someone specific? If it’s not a new relationship, and if they are reasonably active on social media, these are fair questions to think about.
Keep an eye out for these social media red flags
4. There’s no picture of you on their social media even after though you’re in a serious relationship
Let’s talk about the modern-day puzzler: If he doesn’t post you on social media or if she refuses to post even one photo of you anywhere on her socials (but has plenty with her friends and family), what do you do? This could make you question your relationship’s health and feel left out. Such social media habits of your partner can even leave you with low self-esteem and bad mental health.
A high school counselor from New Orleans shares with us, “I often have students in my office and they’ll start their concerns like this: ‘I just want to know why my girlfriend or boyfriend doesn’t post me on social media?’ If someone posts photos with everyone else except their partners, I consider it one of the potential relationship red flags.”
When your partner constantly avoids sharing moments with you on social media, it indicates a lack of willingness to celebrate your relationship publicly
A Reddit user mentioned that a major red flag is when your partner acts single on social networks. If they keep their relationship status vague, it shows their reluctance to publicize their commitment or that they are keeping their options open
However, remember that your real-life relationship is one of a kind, and comparing it to the flashy posts of couples who post a lot on social media won’t do justice to its authenticity.
5. One of the red flags for online dating is that they are still hung up on their ex
You can’t help but notice that your lover seems to have their ex locked in their mind. They spend some part of their day talking to the same person online or constantly post photos of them together on social media.
Ryan, 28, an inventory manager, shares, “I would often think about why my boyfriend keeps looking at the same girl. He’s been excessively focused on his online life with her.” This is toxic behavior and is not a healthy relationship sign
6. Your partner hides their social media activity frequently
Is your partner frequently hiding their social media activity? Don’t brush it off as a mere coincidence. Trust your instincts because this behavior typically raises some very serious issues. Look more closely because, trust us, this is one of the biggest red flags on social media.
Notice those mysterious disappearing messages or unexplained long response times? It could be more than “just a technical glitch”
Your partner may not have much of a following online, yet they have turned off their comments. You’ve never seen anyone interact with them online ever since you’ve both started dating. Find out why
When your partner starts erasing their history, pay attention. Whether it’s old photos, comments, or entire conversations, there might be more to the story than meets the eye
7. A big warning sign: They engage in cyberbullying or online harassment
Avoid anyone, not just your partner, who engages in reprehensible actions such as cyberbullying or harassment. Toxic tendencies and such attention-seeking behavior should never be ignored if you want a healthy relationship, especially in the context of social media where the effects can be profound.
Make it crystal clear that cyberbullying is unacceptable, not only toward you but toward anyone else online. Set a standard of respect and kindness as a human
If they continue to display threatening or harassing behavior toward other online users, it’s time to deal with the problem directly
8. Your partner has secret social media accounts or fake profiles
Let’s be honest – All of us have had at least one fake account at some point in our lives. We’ve all been there, hiding behind the anonymity of a fake account just for kicks or for some heartbroken spying. But what if your partner has not just one secret account, but too many fake profiles up their sleeve? Things start to look suspicious at that point.
Keeping secrets of harmless nature is one thing, but when a little social media stalking turns into a double life situation, it’s time to cut through the lies. If your partner has secret social media accounts, some concerns around this behavior are: They might be trolling a few people or pages, they might be leading a double life of sorts that may not have anything to do with cheating, or they might even be a financial scammer.
Does your partner monitor your every move on social media, scrutinizing every like, comment, or share? This behavior might point to a rocky road ahead. Charles, a reader from Missouri, shares with us, “My ex used to say, ‘It’s not you, it’s social media addiction!’ But no, it was her — It was her decision to be controlling every single day. I couldn’t post anything on social media fearing her reaction.”
Constant checks on your online activity, from who you’re interacting with to what posts you are liking becomes less about love and more about control. This often reveals signs of relationship insecurity on social media – Signs a man has a fragile ego or of a woman being too possessive
Does your partner often get upset over harmless interactions that you indulge in online? If every friendly comment becomes a battlefield, that’s a strong sign of a controlling relationship
If they’re invading your digital privacy, asking for your social media passwords, or reading your private messages, it’s a clear-cut invasion of your boundaries
If they try to keep a tab on your every move on social media, it’s a sure-shot red flag
10. They won’t follow you back on social media
Ever wondered why they won’t hit that ‘Follow’ button? When a guy doesn’t add you on social media or your girl doesn’t follow you back after promising she will, it’s time to delve deeper into the underlying implications. It’s not about seeking their attention; this (lack of) action might hold the key to understanding their approach to love and relationships.
While everyone deserves their space, an unwillingness to connect on social media might raise eyebrows. Are they keeping you at arm’s length for legitimate reasons, or are they hiding something more?
The reluctance to follow you might indicate a deeper fear of commitment in real life too. Understanding their social media behavior can offer insight into their approach to relationships
11. They won’t follow your family members or close friends
Liam, a 25-year-old shopping assistant, shares with us, “Social networking is all about sharing memorable events from your life and interacting with your loved ones. So if your partner seems to avoid following individuals who are the most important to you, after many months of being in a serious relationship, it’s necessary to take a step back and evaluate the situation.
“That’s what I had to do with my ex. She and I didn’t last long after that.” Liam is right. Such behavior may be a huge warning that something is not right.
If they’re following every random account under the sun but neglecting your loved ones, it’s time to question their intentions. It might be more than just an innocent oversight
While privacy is essential, a partner unwilling to connect with your loved ones might be concealing something
Ask what makes them hesitant to follow your loved ones before you jump to conclusions, though
12. Your partner compares you to social media influencers constantly
If they keep measuring you against picture-perfect influencers, it’s essential to address the unrealistic standards they are imposing on your relationship. It’s time to decode what his social media says about him or how her portrayal of you through her Instagram affects your relationship. These could be signs of a very toxic relationship in the making.
Do they constantly seek validation and approval from influencers? This could indicate their underlying insecurities and a need for external validation, which might impact your personal connection
When social media takes precedence over enjoying real moments with you, it’s time to assess where their priorities lie
13. One of the red flags on social media is that their DMs are full of unknown people
This one is definitely an eyebrow-raiser. When their direct messages include a sea of strangers, it might be more than just innocent social networking. Step out of the dark and into the light because this is a flashing red signal on social media.
When their DMs are filled with people you’ve never heard of, it’s worth investigating. Transparency is key, so trust your instincts, and address any suspicions openly
If you notice your partner spending time with these unknown individuals, it’s time to question the nature of their interactions – Is it cheating, is it something illegal, or is it just some strange fixation or inappropriate hobby they’ve not told you about?
14. They speak against the human rights of some groups
Do you ever have a nagging feeling after your partner posts offensive images or content? Well, you’re definitely not overreacting. This is one of the most common Instagram red flags. Posting content is all good until it starts to stir discomfort in your romantic relationships due to the bigoted nature of the other person’s opinions.
Don’t bottle up your feelings. Talk to your partner about the political posts that make you uneasy
You’ll need to speak up if you want to be an ally to the causes you care about
Tell your partner to respect others and to follow social media etiquette in general. Tell them they can’t post content that encourages racism, sexism, queerphobia, ableism, etc. If they do, that’s a relationship deal-breaker
15. They engage in online stalking or snooping on others
While curiosity is natural, crossing boundaries in the digital realm can lead to serious issues. Online stalking, let’s face it, is a major warning sign that shouldn’t be disregarded. Have a heart-to-heart with your partner if they seem more like a creepy version of Sherlock Holmes than a supportive companion.
If your partner spends hours scrolling through others’ profiles, dissecting every post and interaction, it might be time to address their online stalking habits
Do they compulsively check your friends’ and acquaintances’ profiles or frequently look up your exes, as well as stalk their own? If yes, then it’s time to talk about the need for healthy boundaries for the sake of their own mental health
16. Your partner is jealous of what you post online – Whether it’s about your social life or career
We’re not talking about the occasional jealousy stab. In an era where social media is a considerable part of our lives, your partner’s jealousy over your posts can turn into a major strain on your love life.
If every post you make results in a barrage of questions about who, what, when, and why, then they are questioning your loyalty
They may be jealous of your career or work environment. So, despite seeing your achievements on social media, they remain noticeably silent, even when they’ve been active all day and you’ve shared your accomplishments with them directly
When your partner’s jealousy translates into negative comments or reactions to your posts, it’s a significant sign they’re not handling it well. Talk to them about this openly
17. One of the main signs of relationship trouble on social media is that their online persona is a lie
Why do people need social media rules for relationships? In case their partners lie on social media about who they are. In a healthy relationship, authenticity and connection go beyond the digital facade. Notice these signs if you want to build a love that thrives both online and offline:
On social media, they’re the epitome of affection, showering you with heart emojis and poetic captions. In real life, their actions are cold, and they rarely express their feelings
Your partner constantly shares lovey-dovey posts about you publicly. Offline, they rarely engage in meaningful conversations with you
They subscribe to certain ideals and beliefs online, but in reality, they do the opposite. E.g., they pretend to be vegan online while enjoying a bowl of chicken soup unironically
18. If they are purposely making you feel insecure, it is a deal-breaker
Don’t let this one slide. Let’s explore this social media red flag by watching out for their behavior on various platforms. There are some social media rules on relationships that you can decide between yourselves.
Are there any Facebook flirting signs? Are they following multiple social media accounts of attractive strangers? If you notice an overly friendly interest in the people they interact with, it’s time to address the discomfort
One of the main social media red flags in relationships is if he keeps adding female friends on Instagram or if she keeps following a large number of handsome gentlemen. It can raise concerns about their intentions and the potential impact on your relationship
If your partner continually makes you feel bad about their actions despite you explaining your feelings, it might be time to say goodbye
19. They mock your posts on social media a lot of times
Ever felt that your partner’s behavior on social media doesn’t quite align with how they treat you in person? It’s a puzzling situation many can probably relate to.
They confidently challenge your posts from behind a screen but avoid confrontation in person, leaving you questioning their true feelings
Those frequent laughter emojis seem like harmless teasing at first, but you start to wonder if there’s more to their laughter
Even though they are vocal online, you’ve never seen them support your views in your tweets or posts. They act more like a troll toward you
Do they happen to make fun of your social media content a lot?
What to do when you spot social media red flags in a relationship?
Even if you know the red flags for online dating, it’s still a complex journey, requiring thoughtful consideration. Now that you have identified at least one of them in your partner, what’s your next move? Is it toxic to ask your partner to block someone? Or to not post a certain type of content? Take a deep breath, we are here to guide you.
Approach the situation with care and communication. Remember, a healthy relationship is built on trust and respect. So, find the courage to address these issues, and don’t settle for anything less than the love and respect you deserve.
Be honest with your partner: When you spot their red flags on social media, initiate an open and calm conversation with your partner. Ask questions like, “I noticed some changes in your online behavior. Can we talk about it?”
Seek an outside perspective: Seek guidance from a trusted friend or a relationship counselor. They might offer a fresh perspective or ask questions you hadn’t considered
Take time to assess the situation: Avoid rushing to judgment without proper examination. Take a step back and reflect on your feelings, thoughts, and the evidence at hand. Ask yourself questions like “What triggered this concern related to her social media?” or “Should I care about whom my boyfriend follows on Instagram?”
Evaluate the state of your relationship: Evaluate where your partnership stands, asking questions like “Are we both committed to working through challenges together?” or “What aspects of our relationship and love life need attention?”
Discuss resolutions together: Treat red flags as opportunities to renovate and improve your relationship. Instead of pointing fingers, collaborate with your partner to identify solutions
Maintain constant communication: Beyond addressing red flags, have open conversations about your feelings, expectations, and boundaries concerning social media
Consider a social media break: Together, explore the beauty of quality time spent without online interference. Discuss your goals for the break. Going silent on social media can deepen your connection and rediscover each other without the virtual world
Spend quality time without phones: Give your partner your undivided attention. Create an atmosphere of presence and mindfulness, allowing yourselves to savor the moments shared. Think about the activities you both enjoy that can strengthen your bond
Take a break from each other (temporarily): A temporary relationship break can provide both partners with a chance to gain clarity and rediscover themselves. Use this break as an opportunity to evaluate your individual needs
Address personal anxieties: Seek professional help or engage in self-reflection. Consider the fears that might be influencing your thoughts and how you can build self-confidence. By nurturing your emotional well-being, you can become more resilient in navigating red flags like above
Key Pointers
Navigating the world of social media in relationships is crucial for maintaining a thriving connection. Paying attention to the warning signs in your partner’s internet use can have a significant impact on your relationship’s well-being
You might see social media red flags in your partner like secretive DMs with strangers, an obsession with stalking many accounts, lingering feelings for an ex, being a completely different person online and offline, etc.
Take the time to assess the situation before making any decisions. Approach concerns with honesty and seek an outside perspective for valuable insights
Keep communication alive, be each other’s support, and don’t shy away from addressing concerns
Take joint social media breaks or spend quality time without phones to reinforce your connection. Setting social media boundaries in relationships is critical right from the start
So, does social media affect relationships? Yes, it obviously does. Moving forward, remember that specific advice cannot replace genuine attention. Pay attention to your partner’s actions and navigate social media’s terrain with sensitivity. By incorporating these suggestions and through open conversations, you’ll foster a more balanced and connected relationship experience.
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You’re lying in bed, thinking about her. She’s been on your mind all day long, and you can’t wait to see her. But she’s not with you right now. She’s at work, or running errands, or taking care of the kids. So what can you do to get her in the mood?
There’s nothing quite like a hot, steamy sext session to get your blood pumping and your heart racing. And thanks to modern technology, there’s no reason you can’t have one even when you’re not together in person. Here are six sexting foreplay tips to help get her in the mood:
1. Start slow and easy
Don’t just jump into the dirty talk right away. Begin by sending a few flirty texts to let her know you’re thinking about her. Compliment her on something she’s done recently that you really liked, or tell her how much you’re looking forward to seeing her later.
2. Build up the heat gradually
Once you’ve got her attention, start ramping up the heat with some sexier texts. Describe what you want to do to her, or what you’d like her to do to you. Be as specific as possible. The more detailed your sexts are, the more likely it is that she’ll be able to picture it in her mind – and that’s half the fun!
3. Use emojis to add an extra dash of spice
A well-placed emoji can make all the difference when it comes to sexting. Use them sparingly, though – too many emojis can come across as try-hard or juvenile.
4. Don’t be afraid to get a bit naughty
If she responds well to your flirty texts, then it might be time to start pushing the envelope a little bit. Send her a text that describes something truly filthy that you want to do to her – but make sure she’s into it first!
5. Know when to back off
There’s a fine line between naughty and creepy, so make sure you don’t cross it. If she doesn’t seem interested in your sexts, or if she starts getting agitated, back off immediately and apologize if necessary.
6. Make sure you both enjoy yourselves
This is supposed to be fun, so make sure that’s what it is for both of you. If either of you isn’t enjoying it, stop immediately and try something else instead. However the best way to enjoy texting is on a perfect sexting site like Sextexting. Life is too short for bad sex – especially when there are so many other things you could be doing!
Sexting can be a great way to get her in the mood – but only if it’s done right! Follow these six tips and you’ll be well on your way to giving her the night (or day) of her life…whenever you finally see each other again!
