Virginia bluebells (Mertensia virginica) are a North American wildflower whose ephemeral blue beauty lights up forest floors in mid-spring. These bluebells are not the bell-adorned spires of English idylls. This is an important distinction for two reasons: Virginia bluebells are edible, whereas English (and Spanish) bluebells—species of Hyacinthoides—are toxic; and then there is simply their native status. Virginia bluebells are woodland denizens ideally suited to tre-filled gardens or to container gardens with afternoon shade. Their clear, breathtakingly blue presence is a tonic for the winter-weary, and their flavorful leaves are a treat for tired palates.
Here’s how (and where) to grow Virginia bluebells, and how to eat them. A little goes a long way.
Above: Virginia bluebells in peak bloom, with their distinctive, still-pink buds.
First, let’s talk flavor: Virginia bluebells have a fascinating culinary secret. Their soft, gentle-looking leaves pack a punch. And it is a surprise. A few seconds after you begin to chew a tender leaf, the surprise arrives: oysters. It’s uncanny. Sometimes it can be hard to identify—and harder to describe—the flavor of an unfamiliar ingredient, but when I first nibbled a raw leaf, there was no hesitation, despite the apparent weirdness. Absolute oyster, raw and briny. But in a leaf. It makes lettuce look very boring.
One of Mertensia virginica‘s relatives is M. maritima (and its subspecies). A high water-mark dweller on wind-swept, pebbled beaches, it grows natively in regions as geographically diverse as Northern Europe, Alaska, and New England; it is threatened and endangered in some regions. But one of its common names is…wait for it…oyster leaf. It is listed in Daniel Moerman’s fascinating ethnography Native American Food Plants: “Long, leafy stems boiled, cooked briefly, and eaten with seal oil.”
I don’t have seal oil, but I do have some ideas.
Above: A Virgina bluebell colony in Brooklyn in April.
Despite their botanical and common names, wild Virginia bluebells are not confined to that state. They have a broad Eastern range in North America, from Ontario through Alabama, and west to the Plains. They are hardy from USDA zones 3 to 8, making them very cold-tolerant, and even more appealing (I think) in terms of culinary application. They beat rhubarb to the table by a month.
Above: Early spring foliage is mesmerizingly blue.
In terms of soil, like any other forest dweller used to emerging from fallen deciduous leaves, Virginia bluebells appreciate humus or compost, and deep watering in times of drought. Otherwise, they are very low-maintenance. Emerging in early spring, they bloom for about two to three weeks in mid-spring, become taller and lankier as they mature, and by summer, slowly, discreetly, they have disappeared.
Above: At this early stage, tender leaves are easy to snip here and there, leaving plenty for photosynthesis. Above: Pink buds and blue flowers? Virginia bluebells are related to borage, which often does the same. Above: May apple and Virginia bluebells are woodland companions.
Bunches of fresh mint and piles of sugar snap peas are still weeks away from showing up at my local farmers market, but April’s lengthening days and warming temperatures already have me craving that classic spring pairing. Luckily, they can also be foraged right now at the supermarket down the street.
Usually, I toss my mint and sugar snaps into a big, ebullient salad, but I was more in the mood for something substantial that could be rounded out with a protein. So, I also picked up a package of ground turkey to turn everything into a satisfying and colorful skillet dinner.
Ground turkey is ideal for all manner of impromptu cooking. Not only is it economical and convenient, it’s also mild and adaptable, a chameleon-like ingredient that blends in wherever you use it. It can anchor almost any skillet meal when you sear it until golden and crisp, especially if you throw in enough vegetables and vivid seasonings to bring out its best.
Still, I wanted a pungent sauce to spark the sweetness of the peas and the easygoing turkey, blazing them out of their quiet complacency. For that, I borrowed some of the zesty, spicy flavors of larb.
Popular in Thailand and Laos, larb is at once crunchy and soft, fiery and cooling. It’s a dish of thrilling contrasts that shift from bite to bite — just the thing to perk up a turkey and snap pea meal.
As the turkey sputtered and crisped in the pan, I mixed together a simple larb-inspired sauce of lime juice, fish sauce and chile flakes, which I drizzled onto the meat once it was browned. Then I added the sugar snaps and covered the pan so they could steam in those savory juices.
Not wanting to add a step to my dinner, I skipped toasting and grinding rice into a powder (which is typical of most larb recipes), and finished the dish instead with some chopped roasted nuts to add richness and crunch. Then I folded in the mint.
In Thailand and Laos, larb is considered a hot-weather dish. But mint and sugar snap peas make this larb-inspired meal perfect for the chilly spring nights that herald their arrival.
Recipe: Spicy Skillet Ground Turkey and Snap Peas
By Melissa Clark
Inspired by the bold and zesty flavors of a Thai larb, this easy skillet meal pairs nuggets of golden ground turkey with sugar snap peas and a mound of fresh herbs. The sauce, a combination of fish sauce, lime juice and red-pepper flakes, makes everything taste both bright and deep, while an optional sprinkling of chopped nuts adds richness and crunch. Serve over rice or rice noodles, or with flatbread.
Yield: 4 servings
Total time: 35 minutes
Ingredients
3 tablespoons olive oil
1 red onion, halved and thinly sliced into half-moons
1 pound ground turkey
Salt, as needed
1/4 cup fresh lime juice (from 2 to 3 limes), more to taste
2 tablespoons fish sauce (or coconut aminos or soy sauce), more to taste
1/2 teaspoon red-pepper flakes
1/2 cup torn mint leaves, more for topping
1/2 cup chopped fresh cilantro or basil, more for topping
3 scallions, thinly sliced, dark green parts saved for topping
1 pound sugar snap peas, trimmed
2 tablespoons chopped roasted cashews or peanuts (optional)
Preparation
1. Heat a large skillet over medium-high. Add the oil and red onion slices to the skillet and cook until soft and deeply brown, 7 to 10 minutes. Crumble in the ground turkey and a pinch of salt, breaking up the meat. Cook until crisp and dark brown, about 8 minutes.
2. While the turkey is cooking, whisk together the lime juice, fish sauce, red-pepper flakes, torn mint leaves, cilantro and scallion whites and light green parts. Pour the sauce into the skillet and add the sugar snap peas. Toss until combined. Cover and let the snap peas steam until tender and cooked through, about 3 to 5 minutes.
3. Taste and add more fish sauce, salt and lime juice as needed to make everything bright and savory. Stir in the chopped cashews or peanuts, if using. Top with more torn mint leaves, chopped cilantro and dark green scallion slices.
“God hates divorce.” Every married Christian in the Western hemisphere is familiar with the Malachi 2:16 verse, likely used to respectively warn and encourage any Christian sister or brother pondering the subject of divorce. I believe most of us agree God prefers married people to stay married, and we should do everything possible to maintain the vows to our partner and the Lord. After all, marriage is a sacred act, the foundation for family, and divorce is a universally grievous experience.
But just as we live in a fallen world full of broken people and a myriad of circumstances beyond our control, sometimes our vows fail us. Sometimes, the one who swore to love and protect us pivots severely in spirit and behavior, instead bringing pain and harm. Sometimes a spouse turns from the Lord completely, or falls so deeply into sin they lose themselves, and their capacity to love. Unforeseen acts like physical abuse, manipulation, and infidelity occur, and we’re left in a pool of unfathomable heartache, staring at a seemingly bottomless chasm between what was promised and what is.
And aside from all the confusion and difficult questions we’re left struggling with, we’re often left with the uncomfortable, often polarizing question: Should Christians stay married no matter the cost? Is it ever against God’s will to remain in toxic, unhealthy marriages for the sake of keeping our vows? Some say yes. After all, Jesus turned the other cheek, suffered at length, and still loved those nailing him to the cross. And let’s remember, marriage is a sacrifice, not a vacation. Bad marriages may feel unbearable, but life isn’t about our happiness, and God is enough.
All that sounds biblically-informed enough, but what about when a marriage involves one spouse dishonoring God by harming the other? What does the Bible say about remaining in abusive relationships where behaviors like spiritual manipulation, financial abuse, infidelity, gaslighting, and physical intimidation exist? Can it even be considered a sin to stay married in such sad, extreme cases?
I believe the best place to begin is by examining God’s heart and purpose for marriage in the first place. In Ephesians 5:22, marriage is compared to the relationship between Christ and the church, teaching that Christian spouses reflect this mystery. As God willed for Christ and the church to become one body (Gal. 3:28, 1 Cor. 12:13), so He desires marriage to reflect this pattern—that the husband and wife become one flesh (Gen. 2:24).
In the Catholic faith, Christians believe that the sacrament of marriage is a public declaration of commitment to another person and a public statement about God. The loving union of a couple is seen as an example of God’s values and family values.
So what does God expect of those partaking in the holy sacrament of marriage? Naturally, I could regurgitate that 1 Corinthians 13 verse (love is patient, love is kind) and then, of course, pivot to the Ephesians 5:25 verse instructing husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church and wives to respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:22). But it really comes to this: the purpose of marriage is to exemplify the love of Christ to our spouse, daily. Not just for our own growth and joy but so that others (our kids, colleagues, neighbors, friends) might see God’s nature and give Him glory. By adopting a lifestyle of self-sacrifice and unconditional love towards our spouse, we both become more like Jesus and, hence, closer to God.
So when we’re talking about the potential of God desiring the obsoletion of these vows, we’re obviously not talking about leaving a marriage due to bad habits, character flaws, communication issues, loss of attraction, etc. We’re not talking about being “stuck” with a spouse who has proclivities to sin or remains spiritually complacent or “suffering” through extreme seasons of discontentment or discord. That’s just life. These (and so many others) are common challenges that take sacrifice, compromise, selflessness, patience and most likely some decent marriage counseling to work through, with God’s grace. But what about when a spouse begins mistreating the other and is unwilling to change?
Jesus only names infidelity (Matt. 19:9) as grounds for divorce. Does that mean God expects a spouse to stay married to a physical abuser? What about continued, purposeful verbal attacks? What about an unapologetically intentional habit of a husband or wife acting inappropriately with members of the opposite sex? What would Jesus say to us today if given the chance to counsel his sweet daughter or son living with a spouse who’s willfully and perpetually violating his or her vows with no signs of true repentance? Would he ever consider it a sin to stay married?
I believe the answer becomes clear as day when exploring the meaning of sin in the first place. Sin is anything that separates us from God. It can be foul language, idolatry, lying, pride, lust, etc. When we continue in these behaviors without repenting, the Holy Spirit living in us remains grieved, and we can’t enjoy close communion with Him. But how could something good and ordained by God, like marriage, be a sin? The same way all the other innately good, godly things like sex (when married), food, wine, work, and entertainment are misused every day (by millions) and turned into acts of gluttony, drunkenness, and idolatry.
I would venture to say some spouses remain in unhealthy, God-dishonoring marriages not out of duty to their vows but out of sin itself. Some would rather raise their children under the roof of a manipulating abuser than endure the “shame” and embarrassment of a divorce, hence making the marriage less of a sacrament and more of an idol or even a mockery that grieves the Lord. Marriage license or not, I believe when a spouse continually engages in any of the malicious, harmful behaviors mentioned above, their vows have already been broken. And by staying married to a destructive spouse – even in the legal sense- we’re not only enabling sinful behavior, we’re perpetuating a degraded, distorted version of God’s design for marriage in the first place. And everyone around us pays the price.
God certainly does not receive glory when children see their mother transmute into a verbally battered shell of herself by staying with an abusive husband and instituting a sick view of marriage for her children. The beauty of God’s ways is not reflected when friends witness a wife demeaning and brow-beating her husband for years without any sign of regret. The majesty of God’s nature is captivating friends who watch a husband financially manipulate his wife for years to control and possess her.
Notice that the key denominators here are unwillingness and repentance. The biblical meaning of repentance is turning away from self and to God. It involves a change of mind that leads to action. It’s never okay for a spouse to push another during a fit of anger. It’s never okay for a spouse to demean another to tears with their words. It’s never okay to watch porn or flirt with a co-worker. But I do believe any/all sins can be forgiven and behaviors changed when a spouse experiences true repentance, desires change, and gains trust through proven action.
In a harmful marriage where the spouse is unwilling or unable to change unhealthy habits, I believe Jesus would say it’s our job to forgive but not reconcile. Because on this side of heaven, there are still consequences, even after forgiveness. Galatians 6:8 says, “Those who live only to satisfy their own sinful desires will harvest the consequences of decay and death. But those who live to please the Spirit will harvest everlasting life from the Spirit.”
There is a way to forgive an abusive spouse without holding any bitterness in our hearts while choosing to go our separate ways. It’s the same exact concept we see enacted when a Christian pastor commits sexual immorality, adultery, or some other egregious act and is rightly removed from leadership. Should he be forgiven by the Lord, his church, and his victims? Absolutely. But forgiveness does not always equate to restoration. Just as the fallen pastor loses the privilege of shepherding God’s people, so should an abusing spouse lose the privilege of remaining united to any child of God.
I feel as much as we idolatrize the act of marriage in the Christian life, we also over-villainize divorce to an extent. We make divorce second only to the unpardonable sin. We’ve put divorce on a pedestal of evil, looking down from its throne of doctrinal villainhood upon all the lesser sins, with gluttony, malice, lying, complaining, coveting, envying, stealing, and cheating shouting upward, “At least we didn’t break our oath to Jesus! At least we didn’t break a family up!”
God always values life over law. It’s why Jesus healed a lame man on the Sabbath despite the Pharisees’ condemnation. Staying married to an unrepented spouse bringing continual harm for the sake of “upholding” a sacrament was never God’s intention. While evil exists in this world, so will divorce, and for some of us, Jesus remains our only true bridegroom. And thankfully, His love never fails, never harms, and always endures.
This Cheddar Ranch Pasta Salad is one you will make over and over. It’s absolutely delicious and the perfect addition to any gathering! So many wonderful additions to this salad.
If you love this salad you will also love our Amish Pasta Salad, it’s our most popular pasta salad recipe!
❤️WHY WE LOVE THIS RECIPE
This Cheddar Ranch Pasta Salad is great for a cookout or gathering. We love pasta salad and this one will not disappoint! My husband loves peas so anytime I can use them in a dish, he’s happy. The peas, cheddar cheese, and ranch add such a wonderful flavor to this salad. You can make this dish the night before and enjoy it for a few days. You could double the recipe or even cut it in half. It keeps well refrigerated. Make this for any holiday or event and you probably won’t bring any home.
🍴KEY INGREDIENTS
Elbow Macaroni
Red Onion
Frozen Peas
Hardboiled Eggs
Bacon, cooked
Shredded Cheddar Cheese
Mayonnaise
Greek Yogurt
Hidden Valley Original Ranch Salad Dressing Seasoning Mix
Dillweed
SWAPS
You can use white onion, switch out the cheese for another kind, use turkey bacon, replace the yogurt with sour cream.
🍽️HOW TO MAKE
This recipe is super easy, the most time consuming part is getting the ingredients ready, like making the pasta, cooking the bacon and boiling the eggs.
Step 1 Cook pasta according to directions on the box, rinse in cold water. Then add all ingredients and chill in the refrigerator for at least 2 hours.
⭐TIP
This salad can definitely be made in advance. It’s wonderful the next day, and if it is dry just add a little more mayonnaise.
OTHER PASTA SALADS
SERVE THESE SALADS WITH
Southern Tomato Pie – This summer classic is a must-make! One you must try if you are a fan of delicious summer tomatoes!
Best Classic Meatloaf – This recipe has been in our family for many years and it’s one we love and you will too!
Crispy Baked Chicken Thighs – This recipe has wonderful reviews, super easy to make and is a wonderful addition to this pasta salad.
STORING & SERVING SIZE
We store this in the refrigerator and makes about 8 servings.
A strong marriage is one with deep and abiding love between spouses. Selflessness, giving of oneself, and an unwavering dedication to the happiness and well-being of the other characterize this kind of love. Couples prioritize their relationship above all other human connections and make a conscious effort to nurture and strengthen their bond over time.
Communication is the lifeblood of any successful relationship, and in a strong marriage, couples prioritize open, honest, and respectful communication. They actively listen to each other, express their thoughts and feelings openly, and work together to resolve conflicts and misunderstandings healthily and constructively.
In a strong marriage, spouses respect each other’s individuality, opinions, and feelings. They support each other’s goals, dreams, and aspirations, cheering each other on through life’s triumphs and challenges. There is a deep sense of mutual admiration and appreciation for each other’s strengths and contributions to the relationship.
Couples in a strong marriage also share common values, beliefs, and goals that serve as the foundation for their relationship. They align on important issues such as faith, family, finances, and lifestyle choices and work together towards common objectives. This shared sense of purpose fosters unity and collaboration in the marriage.
Physical, emotional, and spiritual intimacy are also essential in a strong marriage. Couples prioritize quality time together, nurturing their emotional connection through meaningful conversations, shared experiences, and acts of affection.
They prioritize each other’s needs and desires, cultivating a deep and fulfilling bond that sustains them through the ups and downs of life.
Lastly, for Christian couples, a strong marriage is grounded in a shared faith in God and a commitment to spiritual growth both individually and as a couple. They rely on their faith to guide them through challenges, seek God’s wisdom and guidance in their decisions, and prioritize spiritual practices such as prayer, worship, and studying the Bible together.
Why You Must Build a Strong Marriage as Christian Parents
Building a strong marriage as Christian parents isn’t just about personal fulfillment; it’s about laying a firm foundation for the well-being and stability of your entire family.
Here’s why it’s so crucial:
Modeling Healthy Relationships: As parents, we are the primary influencers in our children’s lives. Our marriage serves as a model for their understanding of love, commitment, and relational dynamics. By nurturing a strong and loving marital bond, we provide our children with a blueprint for healthy relationships in their own lives.
Emotional Security for Children: A strong marriage creates a sense of security and stability for our children. When they witness their parents loving and supporting each other, they feel reassured and confident in their family environment. This emotional security lays the groundwork for their overall well-being and development.
Effective Parenting: When spouses are united and supportive of each other, they can make decisions together, establish consistent discipline, and provide a nurturing environment for their children to thrive. This unity strengthens the family unit and fosters a sense of cohesion and teamwork.
Resilience in Times of Crisis: When couples are deeply connected and committed to each other, they can weather storms together, leaning on their faith and each other for strength and guidance. This resilience not only benefits the couple but also sets a powerful example for their children on how to navigate adversity with grace and faith.
Fulfillment and Joy: A thriving marriage brings fulfillment and joy to our own lives. When we prioritize our relationship with our spouse, invest in communication and connection, and cultivate a loving partnership, we experience a deeper sense of satisfaction and purpose.
This fulfillment radiates throughout the family, creating a positive atmosphere of love and happiness.
Strong Marriage Through Foundation in Faith
Building a strong marriage on a foundation of faith is like constructing a sturdy house on a solid rock rather than shifting sand. It provides a steadfast anchor in the storms of life and a guiding light in times of darkness.
Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us to trust in the Lord wholeheartedly, surrendering our understanding and relying on His wisdom and guidance.
In marriage, trusting in God’s plan for our relationship is paramount.
Couples must also prioritize their relationship with God, both individually and as a unit. Individually, each spouse should cultivate their relationship with God through prayer, reading the Bible, and spiritual disciplines.
This personal growth strengthens their faith and equips them to contribute positively to the marriage. Additionally, setting aside time for shared spiritual practices such as praying together, attending church services, and studying the Bible as a family fosters unity and spiritual intimacy.
By building their marriage on Christ, couples can weather any storm and experience the abundant blessings of a union grounded in faith.
Strong Marriage Through Communication and Connection
Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turneth away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.”
Listening is more than just hearing; it’s about truly understanding and empathizing with your spouse’s thoughts, feelings, and perspective. Practice active listening by giving your full attention, maintaining eye contact, and reflecting on what you’ve heard to ensure understanding.
By listening attentively without interrupting or rushing to respond, couples demonstrate respect and validation for each other’s experiences and emotions. Emotions are also a natural part of being human, and learning to express them constructively is crucial for healthy communication in marriage.
Strive to openly share your feelings, needs, and concerns with your spouse, using “I” statements to express yourself without blaming or accusing your spouse.
Remember, conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but how you navigate and resolve conflicts determines the health and longevity of your marriage. Therefore, approach conflicts with humility, patience, and a willingness to seek compromise and understanding.
You must understand that conflicts can be opportunities for growth and deep connection when approached with love and respect.
Amidst the busyness of life, it’s important to prioritize quality time with your spouse to nurture your connection and intimacy. So, schedule regular date nights and engage in activities you both enjoy.
Whether going for a walk, cooking together, or simply cuddling on the couch, spending intentional time together strengthens the emotional bond and reinforces the foundation of your relationship.
Strong Marriage Through Shared Values and Goals
Aligning on core values and goals as a couple is vital for building a strong and enduring marriage. As Amos 3:3 wisely points out, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” This verse underscores the necessity of agreement and harmony in a relationship.
Firstly, let’s delve into the significance of shared values.
In any relationship, including marriage, having shared values forms the foundation upon which trust, respect, and understanding are built. These values encompass beliefs, principles, and priorities that guide your decisions and actions.
When spouses share similar values, it creates cohesion and unity within the marriage, fostering a sense of common purpose and direction.
Also, establishing common goals is essential for couples to progress and thrive.
These goals can encompass various aspects of life, including finances, parenting, career aspirations, and personal growth. By openly discussing and setting goals as a couple, you build a sense of partnership and collaboration.
When it comes to finances, for instance, being transparent and discussing budgeting, saving, and spending habits can prevent conflicts and promote financial stability. Similarly, discussing parenting styles and agreeing on approaches to discipline, education, and family dynamics can strengthen your co-parenting partnership.
Lastly, by working together towards common goals, you strengthen your bond as a couple and achieve greater fulfillment and success in your endeavors. Whether by pursuing career aspirations, building a family, or contributing to the community, shared goals provide a sense of purpose and unity.
Strong Marriage Through Prioritizing Each Other
Ephesians 5:25 provides a profound reminder of the sacrificial love husbands are to demonstrate towards their wives, mirroring Christ’s love for the Church. This verse reveals the importance of prioritizing one’s spouse above all earthly relationships, second only to our relationship with God.
Prioritizing each other in marriage involves intentional actions and attitudes that demonstrate love, respect, and appreciation on a daily basis. It requires recognizing the value and significance of your spouse in your life and making consistent efforts to nurture and strengthen the marital bond.
One practical way to prioritize your spouse is through acts of service. This involves actively seeking opportunities to serve and support your partner in their daily life. Whether by helping with household chores, running errands, or offering a listening ear after a long day, acts of service are how you demonstrate love and selflessness.
Also, note that words of affirmation play a crucial role in building up and encouraging your spouse. Taking the time to express appreciation, admiration, and affection through kind words and affirming gestures can uplift your partner’s spirits and strengthen the emotional connection between you.
Simple phrases like “I love you,” “I appreciate you,” and “I’m proud of you” can have a profound impact on your spouse’s sense of worth and belonging within the marriage.
Physical affection is another important aspect of prioritizing your spouse. Holding hands, hugging, kissing, and other forms of physical touch convey love, warmth, and intimacy in the relationship.
Making time for physical affection fosters emotional closeness and strengthens the bond between husband and wife.
Strong Marriage Through Setting an Example for Children
One of the most profound ways parents can influence their children is by demonstrating unity, love, and respect within their marriage. Children observe and absorb the dynamics of their parents’ relationship, and a harmonious and loving marriage is a powerful example for them to emulate in their future relationships.
Parental unity is particularly impactful, as it provides children with a sense of security and stability. When we prioritize our marriage and work together as a team, it creates an environment of trust and emotional safety for children to thrive. They learn the importance of cooperation, compromise, and communication in building strong and lasting relationships.
Moreover, the love and respect we show each other as a couple lay the foundation for healthy attitudes such as love and selflessness in our children’s lives. When children witness their parents treating each other with kindness, empathy, and affection, they internalize these values and carry them into their interactions with other people.
Also, involving our children in family discussions and activities further reinforces a sense of unity and belonging. This encourages children to feel valued and heard, strengthening their bond with their parents and siblings.
Emmanuel Abimbola is a creative freelance writer, blogger, and web designer. He is a devout Christian with an uncompromising faith who hails from Ondo State in Nigeria, West Africa. As a lover of kids, Emmanuel runs a small elementary school in Arigidi, Nigeria.
If there ever was a time to learn how to identify elm trees easily, it is in their brief, green samara season. Samara are winged seeds, and the wafer-like seed cases of elm trees are distinctive, as well as tenderly edible. They appear in mid-spring, with each seed wrapped neatly in a soft chartreuse package, which later dries and acts as a wing, to help carry the seed when it is mature and ready to be dispersed. Clusters of spring-green samara give elm branches a plush, ruffled appearance. When they are young, elm samara are a deliciously succulent treat, easy to collect, and often very abundant.
Like other fruit, nut, and winged seed trees (like maples), elms can have mast years, or a bumper crop, where branches appear to be bursting with samara. The seeds appear before the trees leaf out, so collecting a couple of handfuls is blissfully easy and does not impact developing foliage.
Above: Camperdown elms have a weeping form.
All elms produce edible samara. The trees I see most often in New York City are the long-time landscape favorites Siberian elm (Ulmus pumila) and Camperdown elm (the European native, U. glabra). While Siberian elms are widely planted in parks, they are also considered invasive in parts of North America. I’d say we’re doing wild areas a favor by collecting their seeds before they mature and are dispersed, but there is no forager capable of denuding a mighty, 80-foot tree. Native American elms (Ulmus americana) have slightly fuzzy winged seeds, and the trees are better-known for having been decimated by Dutch elm disease, a fungal infection spread by elm bark beetles. (For quick identification of four elm species by their samara, the linked iNaturalist post is very helpful.)
Above: Elm samara are juicy, sweetly nutty, and a little starchy.
Whether you have bagfuls or a handful (which you should nibble on the spot), elm samara can easily be included in a quick meal. At home, wrap or cover them before storing them in the fridge, where they will keep very well for at least a week. Wash them just before using them (or they spoil more quickly).
Above: A burrata island in a sea of samara—ust add balsamic vinegar, olive oil, pepper, and salt.
The samaras’ texture when raw is succulent, almost-but-not-quite-sweet, and delicately starchy (in a nut-like way). Use them in abundance as a pillowy filling for summer rolls, alongside crunchy vegetables and edible flowers in a salad, as a foil for a soft cheese, or scattered across gentle, spring-adjacent toast toppings.
Above: Atop chickpea and ramp leaf crackers with labneh and ramp leaf salt. Above: Ramp leaf oil, labneh, peas, ramp leaf salt and elm samara on seed bread toast.
As an adult, I crave alone time. The funny thing is, I didn’t really think that alone time was something I would struggle to find, until one day, I woke up, a married woman with two kids and three dogs, and realized that I am never ever alone. While some people are afraid to be alone, I’m actually more afraid of the thought of never getting to be alone again.
Months often go by when I don’t hang out with friends. It’s not really a planned or intentional thing; I just really enjoy my alone time and protect it a lot.
If you’re an introvert, I probably don’t even need to explain myself. You get it. There’s definitely a tug between spending quality time with the people you love and finding enough solitude that you are fully present when you are with them.
Over the years, I’ve learned to carefully navigate the boundaries of the soul care I need by making sure I get adequate alone time, giving just enough of myself so my family and friends don’t feel neglected. The one area that I’ve struggled to progress in is that of community. I’ve always had a take-it-or-leave-it mentality when it comes to anything that appears like community; that is until recently, when I had my first real, life-giving community experience.
Even Introverts Need Community
Even introverts need community, and let me tell you why. God made us for community. He tells us to gather with other believers to help and serve each other and to encourage each other. God created Eve so that Adam wouldn’t be alone. Jesus had His disciples. All throughout the Bible, we read story upon story of people with other people.
Think about it—if God didn’t intend for us to be in community with others, there would be no need to bring us together as one body (the Church), and all the passages in the New Testament that tell us how to treat others would be pointless. However, community is important to God, and, as an introvert, I must continually remind myself of all the reasons why I need community.
Find a Community That’s Life-Giving
If you’re an introvert, you might disagree that community is necessary. So let me rephrase it—introverts need the right community, one that is life-giving, not life-sucking. Just one year ago, I didn’t feel such a strong need for community, but last December, I traveled across the country to attend a retreat with over 100 other like-minded women. Not only am I an introvert, but I have always struggled to fit in with other women. So you can imagine the anxiety I felt as I walked into the room on the first day. I even woke up early that morning to mentally prepare myself.
However, during this two-day retreat, I felt a bond and comfort that I had never felt before with such a large group of women. For the first time in my life, I was able to just be myself and felt comfortable talking to strangers. Ever since then, I have craved more of this kind of experience. Until you have experienced the kind of community that feeds your soul, you can’t understand what it’s like to be part of a community where even the most introverted person can thrive.
If You Can’t Find Your Community, Cultivate One
After this experience, I found myself looking for a community that could replicate what I felt in those two days. In the days after the retreat, I realized that a community like that is rare and might be nearly impossible to find. I came to the conclusion that I would need to cultivate a community on my own. I would need to find like-minded people to do life with, who are rooted and grounded in love, who will sharpen each other, and who are committed to seeing each other thrive and grow in their faith and spiritual gifts.
Based on my experience in a life-giving community, I determined the qualities that my perfectly cultivated community should possess:
God’s Presence Should Be Felt
The best example of the feeling of God’s presence is a Sunday morning worship service. The feeling in a room full of people whose hearts are tuned into God is electric.
When you are fully engaged in a community of like-minded people, God’s presence is fully known, even when the worship music isn’t playing. A room full of Kingdom-minded people is a force to be reckoned with. There is absolutely nothing that can keep us from achieving our goals together in unity when we have God by our side.
“For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” Matthew 18:20 (ESV)
Each Person Can Fulfill Their Calling
The great thing about a community is that each member possesses unique skills and talents that benefit everyone else. Just like in a town where many people have different but necessary occupations (doctor, plumber, carpenter, teacher, etc.), a church has many different but necessary parts as well.
A life-giving community equips and empowers each individual to utilize their spiritual gifts. Each person should have the opportunity to contribute according to what God has called them to do. No one should ever feel left out or useless.
“For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.” Romans 12:4-5 (ESV)
Service Should Be Vital
Recently, my church put on a huge community service event where we took on multiple projects in the city. I was on the high school campus cleanup crew. It’s amazing how quickly 20 people can repaint the exterior walls of a classroom building when each one of us jumps in and takes on a specific task.
The desire for our church to serve our hometown community allowed us to be the hands and feet of Jesus and to show the students and teachers of that school what the love of Jesus is.
A life-giving community not only encourages and promotes service but actively engages in it as a whole. When we serve together, we get to experience the overflowing abundance of God’s love and see its full effect on those around us.
“For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Mark 10:45 (ESV)
Solitude Has Its Time and Place
While community is necessary to grow in our faith and to keep God’s commandments, take heart, my introverted friends! There is still a time and place to feed our solitude-loving souls.
Even though Jesus is known for His way with people—how He loved them, showed them compassion, and ministered to them—the Bible also emphasizes His need to be alone.
He spent most of His waking hours healing the sick, preaching, baptizing, and dining with sinners. The thought of this exhausts me. No wonder, after a long day, He could be found up in the mountains alone.
“And after he had dismissed the crowds, he went up on the mountain by himself to pray. When evening came, he was there alone.” Matthew 14:23 (ESV)
Not only did He find solitude at the end of a long day, but He would also wake up early for quiet time. This is another great practice that I can rarely function without. If I miss my early morning quiet time, I feel ill-equipped for the day.
“And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, he departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed.” Mark 1:35 (ESV)
Starting and ending each day in quiet, away from others, and in prayer provides us with the energy and refreshment needed to continue to engage in community.
Pro Tip for When You Can’t Get Away
If you feel overwhelmed and need to be alone but cannot get away, learn how to retreat inside of yourself by way of the Holy Spirit. If you can learn this one simple “trick,” you can find solitude in the loudest and most crowded places. Seek solace in God and He will give you the inner peace that you need.
“You are a hiding place for me; you preserve me from trouble; you surround me with shouts of deliverance. Selah.” Psalm 32:7 (ESV)
Sometimes, if the tension is high, and I really need to be alone, I can become irritable and easily agitated. The last thing that I want to do is act in a manner that is less than pleasant. Learning how to retreat into a safe, quiet place within my soul keeps me out of trouble. I have learned to take deep breaths, pray silently to God to help me be patient, and be silent so I don’t say something that I’ll later regret.
Be encouraged, my friend. Being introverted isn’t a curse. If anything, I see it as a blessing. I find just as much joy in being alone as I do in being part of a life-giving, Kingdom-minded community. I encourage you to give it a try and see how even introverts can thrive in the right kind of community.
Jennifer Jabbour resides in the scenic San Diego countryside with her husband, adult son, and teen daughter, and their hilarious English Bulldog. Jennifer has a B.A. in Integrated Business Communications, and is a Go + Tell Gals licensed life coach. Jennifer hopes to use her calling of writing, coaching, and speaking to equip and empower women to clarify their vision and to boldly step forward in response to God’s calling on their life, as well as educate and encourage others to experience the abundance of God’s goodness when they seek Him first in all that they do. Jennifer is also a brown belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, a photographer, and an avid outdoors-woman. She loves camping, hiking, running, and playing the piano in her free time.
As an adult, I crave alone time. The funny thing is, I didn’t really think that alone time was something I would struggle to find, until one day, I woke up, a married woman with two kids and three dogs, and realized that I am never ever alone. While some people are afraid to be alone, I’m actually more afraid of the thought of never getting to be alone again.
Months often go by when I don’t hang out with friends. It’s not really a planned or intentional thing; I just really enjoy my alone time and protect it a lot.
If you’re an introvert, I probably don’t even need to explain myself. You get it. There’s definitely a tug between spending quality time with the people you love and finding enough solitude that you are fully present when you are with them.
Over the years, I’ve learned to carefully navigate the boundaries of the soul care I need by making sure I get adequate alone time, giving just enough of myself so my family and friends don’t feel neglected. The one area that I’ve struggled to progress in is that of community. I’ve always had a take-it-or-leave-it mentality when it comes to anything that appears like community; that is until recently, when I had my first real, life-giving community experience.
Even Introverts Need Community
Even introverts need community, and let me tell you why. God made us for community. He tells us to gather with other believers to help and serve each other and to encourage each other. God created Eve so that Adam wouldn’t be alone. Jesus had His disciples. All throughout the Bible, we read story upon story of people with other people.
Think about it—if God didn’t intend for us to be in community with others, there would be no need to bring us together as one body (the Church), and all the passages in the New Testament that tell us how to treat others would be pointless. However, community is important to God, and, as an introvert, I must continually remind myself of all the reasons why I need community.
Find a Community That’s Life-Giving
If you’re an introvert, you might disagree that community is necessary. So let me rephrase it—introverts need the right community, one that is life-giving, not life-sucking. Just one year ago, I didn’t feel such a strong need for community, but last December, I traveled across the country to attend a retreat with over 100 other like-minded women. Not only am I an introvert, but I have always struggled to fit in with other women. So you can imagine the anxiety I felt as I walked into the room on the first day. I even woke up early that morning to mentally prepare myself.
However, during this two-day retreat, I felt a bond and comfort that I had never felt before with such a large group of women. For the first time in my life, I was able to just be myself and felt comfortable talking to strangers. Ever since then, I have craved more of this kind of experience. Until you have experienced the kind of community that feeds your soul, you can’t understand what it’s like to be part of a community where even the most introverted person can thrive.
If You Can’t Find Your Community, Cultivate One
After this experience, I found myself looking for a community that could replicate what I felt in those two days. In the days after the retreat, I realized that a community like that is rare and might be nearly impossible to find. I came to the conclusion that I would need to cultivate a community on my own. I would need to find like-minded people to do life with, who are rooted and grounded in love, who will sharpen each other, and who are committed to seeing each other thrive and grow in their faith and spiritual gifts.
Based on my experience in a life-giving community, I determined the qualities that my perfectly cultivated community should possess:
God’s Presence Should Be Felt
The best example of the feeling of God’s presence is a Sunday morning worship service. The feeling in a room full of people whose hearts are tuned into God is electric.
When you are fully engaged in a community of like-minded people, God’s presence is fully known, even when the worship music isn’t playing. A room full of Kingdom-minded people is a force to be reckoned with. There is absolutely nothing that can keep us from achieving our goals together in unity when we have God by our side.
“For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.” Matthew 18:20 (ESV)
Each Person Can Fulfill Their Calling
The great thing about a community is that each member possesses unique skills and talents that benefit everyone else. Just like in a town where many people have different but necessary occupations (doctor, plumber, carpenter, teacher, etc.), a church has many different but necessary parts as well.
A life-giving community equips and empowers each individual to utilize their spiritual gifts. Each person should have the opportunity to contribute according to what God has called them to do. No one should ever feel left out or useless.
“For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function, so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.” Romans 12:4-5 (ESV)
Service Should Be Vital
Recently, my church put on a huge community service event where we took on multiple projects in the city. I was on the high school campus cleanup crew. It’s amazing how quickly 20 people can repaint the exterior walls of a classroom building when each one of us jumps in and takes on a specific task.
The desire for our church to serve our hometown community allowed us to be the hands and feet of Jesus and to show the students and teachers of that school what the love of Jesus is.
A life-giving community not only encourages and promotes service but actively engages in it as a whole. When we serve together, we get to experience the overflowing abundance of God’s love and see its full effect on those around us.
“For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” Mark 10:45 (ESV)
Solitude Has Its Time and Place
While community is necessary to grow in our faith and to keep God’s commandments, take heart, my introverted friends! There is still a time and place to feed our solitude-loving souls.
Even though Jesus is known for His way with people—how He loved them, showed them compassion, and ministered to them—the Bible also emphasizes His need to be alone.
He spent most of His waking hours healing the sick, preaching, baptizing, and dining with sinners. The thought of this exhausts me. No wonder, after a long day, He could be found up in the mountains alone.
“And after he had dismissed the crowds, he went up on the mountain by himself to pray. When evening came, he was there alone.” Matthew 14:23 (ESV)
Not only did He find solitude at the end of a long day, but He would also wake up early for quiet time. This is another great practice that I can rarely function without. If I miss my early morning quiet time, I feel ill-equipped for the day.
“And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, he departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed.” Mark 1:35 (ESV)
Starting and ending each day in quiet, away from others, and in prayer provides us with the energy and refreshment needed to continue to engage in community.
Pro Tip for When You Can’t Get Away
If you feel overwhelmed and need to be alone but cannot get away, learn how to retreat inside of yourself by way of the Holy Spirit. If you can learn this one simple “trick,” you can find solitude in the loudest and most crowded places. Seek solace in God and He will give you the inner peace that you need.
“You are a hiding place for me; you preserve me from trouble; you surround me with shouts of deliverance. Selah.” Psalm 32:7 (ESV)
Sometimes, if the tension is high, and I really need to be alone, I can become irritable and easily agitated. The last thing that I want to do is act in a manner that is less than pleasant. Learning how to retreat into a safe, quiet place within my soul keeps me out of trouble. I have learned to take deep breaths, pray silently to God to help me be patient, and be silent so I don’t say something that I’ll later regret.
Be encouraged, my friend. Being introverted isn’t a curse. If anything, I see it as a blessing. I find just as much joy in being alone as I do in being part of a life-giving, Kingdom-minded community. I encourage you to give it a try and see how even introverts can thrive in the right kind of community.
Jennifer Jabbour resides in the scenic San Diego countryside with her husband, adult son, and teen daughter, and their hilarious English Bulldog. Jennifer has a B.A. in Integrated Business Communications, and is a Go + Tell Gals licensed life coach. Jennifer hopes to use her calling of writing, coaching, and speaking to equip and empower women to clarify their vision and to boldly step forward in response to God’s calling on their life, as well as educate and encourage others to experience the abundance of God’s goodness when they seek Him first in all that they do. Jennifer is also a brown belt in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, a photographer, and an avid outdoors-woman. She loves camping, hiking, running, and playing the piano in her free time.
If you love blackberry desserts you must give this delicious blackberry pie a try! It’s a wonderful summer staple and a great addition to any gathering.
If you have followed our site for any amount of time you know we love this Deep Dish Blackberry Cobbler. It’s been a family favorite and past down 2 generations.
❤️WHY WE LOVE THIS RECIPE
We love blackberry desserts and this pie is no exception! It’s a delicious summer favorite and one your family will love too. Not a lot of ingredients, made with two crusts and wonderful topped with ice cream.
🍴KEY INGREDIENTS
2 Pie Shells
Blackberries
Sugar
Vanilla Extract
Cinnamon
Flour
Butter
Brown Sugar
Milk
🍽️HOW TO MAKE
We made our own pie crust when we made this pie, but you can easily use store bought. We prefer Pillsbury and you can roll those out and would be fine for this pie.
Step 1 Place bottom crust in your pie place. (Tip: I spray my pie plate with cooking spray before I add the crust. I think this makes the pie come out of the pan easier). Prick bottom crust with fork.
Step 2 Mix all ingredients except butter, milk and brown sugar in a large bowl with a spoon. Pour into pie shell. Cut butter in pieces on top of filling. Place second pie shell on top and cut slits for steam to escape.
Step 3 Very lightly brush just a tiny bit of milk on top of the shell and sprinkle with 1 teaspoon of brown sugar.
Step 4 Bake in preheated 425 degree oven for 15 minutes. Reduce heat to 375 degrees and cook 20-25 more minutes until pie is brown on top. Let cool before cutting.
OTHER BLACKBERRY DESSERTS
We are a huge fan of blackberry desserts and have quite a few on our website. You can always use the search box to look for all of them, but here are a few of our favorites!
STORING, REHEATING & SERVING SIZE
We store this pie in the refrigerator, and reheat a slice in the microwave but it’s just as good cold! Makes one pie so about 6-8 slices depending on size.
This Blackberry Pie is a dessert your family will love. Perfect on a hot summer day topped with ice cream. Made with two pie crusts and so good!
Prep Time 10 minutesmins
Cook Time 15 minutesmins
Reduce Heat 20 minutesmins
Total Time 45 minutesmins
Course Dessert, Pie
Cuisine American, southern
29 inchpie shells, unbaked (You can make them yourself or use bought. I used Pillsbury frozen pie shells.)
4 1/2cupsfresh blackberries
3/4cupsugar
1teaspoonvanilla extract
1/2teaspooncinnamon
1/2cupall-purpose flour
3tablespoonsbutter or margarine
Milk and 1 teaspoon brown sugar for top of crustOptional
Place bottom crust in your pie place. (Tip: I spray my pie plate with cooking spray before I add the crust. I think this makes the pie come out of the pan easier). Prick bottom crust with fork. Mix all ingredients except butter, milk and brown sugar in a large bowl with a spoon. Pour into pie shell. Cut butter in pieces on top of filling.
Place second pie shell on top and cut slits for steam to escape. Very lightly brush just a tiny bit of milk on top of the shell and sprinkle with 1 teaspoon of brown sugar. Bake in preheated 425 degree oven for 15 minutes. Reduce heat to 375 degrees and cook 20-25 more minutes until pie is brown on top. Let cool before cutting.
I think you could use frozen blackberries in this recipe, too.
Weekends are made for indulgences – and what could be better than marijuana milk?
Weekends are made for indulgences – donughts, sleeping in, relaxing and maybe a bit of chilling. But what about marrying a childhood treat and relaxing with a little marijuana? Or having a little canna-focus when you get ready for the day? Around 42% of adults aged 19–70 years drink some form of milk – in coffee, in cereal, in a glass or in a variety of other ways. Marijuana milk is a creamy weekend treat.
Today there are 52 types of milk including the original – cow’s milk…the others include goat, soy, oat, white, coconut, almond and more. This recipe is perfect to use in coffee, in a dessert, in a cold glass, or dunking your favorite cookie…add honey or vanilla to give it a sweeter flavor and just has it as a treat.
Photos by Jessie Moore
Canna-Milk
Makes about ¾ cup (the milk reduces slightly during cooking)
1 cup milk (your choice of type of milk)
About 3 grams marijuana (see recipe notes, below)
* This recipe can be scaled up or down using the same ratios
1. Decarboxylate the marijuana. Scatter the marijuana on a lined, rimmed baking sheet; toast at 240 degrees F for 30-40 minutes, turning a few times throughout the baking. Remove from the oven, let cool completely, and then grind it finely. You can also grind it before, but I find that it’s easier to grind after this heating process as it is drier.
Photo by Jessie Moore
2. Pour the milk into a saucepan. Add the marijuana. It will float at first, but as it warms it will become more combined. Place the saucepan over medium heat, and bring the mixture to a simmer, stirring occasionally to discourage scorching on the bottom of the pot.
3. Once the mixture comes to a simmer (with bubbles around the edges and steam coming off the mixture, but not boiling), reduce the heat to the lowest setting. Cook, uncovered, for 30-45 minutes, stirring every few minutes and making sure that the mixture isn’t getting so hot that it scorches the bottom of the pan, and that it isn’t forming a “skin” on top (if it does, just break it up and stir it around) If it seems like the milk is reducing a lot, add ¼ cup more. The mixture will thicken slightly as it cooks; it will also begin to take on a slightly greenish-yellow tint.
Photo by Jessie Moore
4. Remove from heat and let the mixture cool completely (I let it cool with the marijuana still in the mixture; extra infusing couldn’t hurt, right?). Strain through a mesh strainer or cheesecloth into your storage container. Place in the fridge, and enjoy as you see fit.
Photo by Jessie Moore
Recipe notes:
Dosage: dosing your marijuana milk can be tricky because of the differing strengths of strains and your personal tolerance. I personally found that about 3 grams per cup of milk was a good amount. For me, each “serving” was about ¼ cup. So, each serving had about 1 gram of marijuana, which for me is a little more than the average joint. If the average joint is far larger or smaller for you, you can adjust this recipe accordingly.
Dilution: The milk will reduce during the cooking process. You can either add more milk during the cooking process if it is losing a lot of volume, or you can mix a little milk in after your batch of cannamilk has cooled, so that it will bring it back to the original amount of liquid.
Storage: Store your canna-milk as you would store regular milk, in a sealed container in the fridge. Keep in mind, the expiration date on your milk is still going to be the expiration date for your canna-milk, so consume with that in mind!
Serving suggestions
How should you use your canna-milk? Here are just a few ideas:
This simple recipe for baked chicken thighs is one you will make over and over. Super versatile and delicious.
If you are a fan of easy chicken recipes, you will also love our French Onion Chicken Thighs. It’s one of our most popular recipes and has wonderful reviews.
❤️WHY WE LOVE THIS RECIPE
This is a simple recipe, perfect for busy nights. The spices really bring out a great flavor and the thighs are so tender they fall off the bone! My family loves this recipe and it goes great with so many side dishes. You could also add these spices to chicken breasts too.
🍴KEY INGREDIENTS
Bone-in chicken thighs
Onion salt
Garlic salt
Chili pepper
Cumin
Black pepper
Paprika
SWAPS
You can switch out the spices and we often use smoked paprika! It’s one of our favorite spices. You can also use chicken legs, breasts or even use theses spices on a turkey breast. Great combination.
🍽️HOW TO MAKE
These crispy baked chicken thighs are so easy and takes no prep, which is always a plus with any recipe!
Step 1 Preheat oven to 350 degrees, line baking sheet with foil and spray with cooking spray.
Step 2 Add all spices to a small container with a lid and shake until thoroughly mixed together. Sprinkle mixture over chicken thighs.
Step 3 Bake until thighs are crispy, it took about 1 hour. You can always test it with a thermometer inserted near the bone, it should read 165 degrees.
⭐TIP
Let the chicken thighs rest at least 5 minutes after removing them from the oven to keep them nice and juicy.
SERVE THIS WITH
As the photo shows, we made our Bow-Tie Pasta Salad to serve with these delicious chicken thighs.
Amish Pasta Salad– This is our most popular pasta salad for a reason! If you haven’t tried it, you definitely need to!
Cowboy Caviar Pasta Salad – If you are a fan of the dip cowboy caviar you will love the taste of this delicious salad.
Macaroni Coleslaw Salad – This salad is amazing, it combines coleslaw and macaroni and it’s always a hit!
Bacon Ranch Chopped Salad – This salad has so many wonderful ingredients and would be great with these chicken thighs.
These Crispy Baked Chicken Thighs are so easy to make, only a few ingredients and are delicious! Great for a busy night and wonderful with a pasta salad.
Prep Time 5 minutesmins
Cook Time 1 hourhr
Total Time 1 hourhr5 minutesmins
Course Main Course
Cuisine American
8bone-in chicken thighs
1/4teaspoononion salt
1/4teaspoongarlic salt
1/4teaspoonchili pepper
1/4teaspooncumin
1/4teaspoonblack pepper
1/4teaspoonpaprika
Preheat oven to 350 degrees, line baking sheet with foil and spray with cooking spray.
Add all spices to a small container with a lid and shake until thoroughly mixed together. Sprinkle mixture over chicken thighs.
Bake until thighs are crispy, it took about 1 hour. You can always test it with a thermometer inserted near the bone, it should read 165 degrees.
One of the best things in an older person’s life is their grandchildren. I know so many people who are grandparents and are over the moon about their grandchildren. They like to spend as much time as possible with them and miss them if they live far away or aren’t around as much. Of course, they love spoiling them; what grandparent doesn’t? Still, there are some practical ways you can show your grands that you love them. Here are some ideas to show your love.
1. Spend Quality Time with Them
Spend some quality time with your grandchildren. By quality time, I mean doing something together where you interact and can have conversations. Make sure it’s something you both enjoy, like going on a hike, doing a craft, or making a favorite dessert.
2. Write a Letter from the Heart
In this world of technology, sending your grandchildren a quick email or text is easy. Still, it isn’t the most personal way to connect. Instead, sit down and take some time to write a heartfelt letter to your grandchildren. You can do this for a group and express your heartfelt love for all of them, or you can write each of them a letter individually to let them know how special they are and how much you love them. You can share your favorite memories with them, what you hope for them in the future, and your favorite qualities that they have. Your letter will become a cherished keepsake.
3. Make a Cookbook Together
Photo credit: GettyImages/jacoblund
Sit down and compile a cookbook together with your favorite family recipes. To make it even more special, hire someone to create a professional cover and format the interior. Then, upload it to Amazon and have it printed without publishing it. That way, you can print copies for friends and family without it being on sale to the public.
4. Make a Personalized Storybook
Sit down and write a story with your grandchildren about them and how special your bond is. Have them create the illustrations. Once again, to make it even more special, hire someone to create a professional cover for it and format the interior. Then, set up an Amazon KDP account and decide whether you want to publish it or not.
5. Plan a Special Date
Set up a day to go out, just you and your grandchildren. This could be a trip to the zoo, the children’s museum, or even an amusement park or shopping complex. This will show them how much you love spending quality time with them.
6. Pray for Them
There is nothing more powerful than praying for your grandkids. Ask the Lord to help them, guide them, and guard them.
7. Pray with Them
Praying with them about things that are bothering them is another priceless way that you can show them you love them.
8. Cook Their Favorite Meals
Making their favorite meals is also a great way to show your love. Many times, there are dishes our grandmothers make that are hard to duplicate. We try to, but it’s not quite the same. For me, it’s my grandmother’s buttermilk cookies. Food brings us together and is a great way to show your love.
9. Plan a Treasure Hunt
Design a treasure hunt according to your grandchildren’s interests. You can do this in your backyard or even in your home if it’s raining.
10. Send a Care Package
Do your grandchildren live far away, or are they at college or even in the military? Then, send them a care package with some of their favorite things and some handwritten notes. This will brighten their day and make them feel even more connected to you.
11. Make a Memory Book
Gather your favorite memories via photo and use a site like Shutterfly to make a book. My best friend did this for me and my husband after our wedding. Your grandkids will love being able to look back at all the memories they have made with you and will cherish the book forever.
12. Have a Movie Night
Have a movie night with your grandkids and snuggle up together with blankets and their favorite snacks. They will love spending time with you.
13. Actively Listen
When you are talking with your grandkids, actively listen to them and ask questions to let them know you hear them and are paying attention.
14. Teach Them How to Do Something
If you know a skill, trade, or have a favorite hobby, share that with your grandchildren. Teach them how to bake, change the oil in a car, and how to change a tire, or build something, for example. They will appreciate it later on in life.
Share something fun with your grandkids every day. Send them a funny meme, share an article about something they like, or tell them about your day.
16. Have a Grandparent/Grandkids Camp
Take a week in the summer and have your kids stay with you for “camp.” Plan the activities and other things you will do together ahead of time.
17. Spend Time with Them One-On-One
Take each of your grandkids out or have them over one at a time so you can spend some one-on-one time with them. This way, you can focus on them alone and not have to worry about the other children in your care. Your grandkids will feel special and loved by having this time with you.
18. Take Them to Practice and Activities
If you can still drive, as your grandkids get older, offer to take them to after-school practices and activities. Your grandkids will love being picked up at school, and their parents will be very grateful for the help.
19. Send Them Mail
Kids love getting mail, so send them something once a month. This could be a card, a letter, or even a special subscription box that correlates with one of their favorite interests.
20. Connect Weekly
Make sure you connect with your grandkids on a weekly basis. This can be via email, text, face timing, or a phone call. Let them know their importance to you by carving out time for them every week.
21. Fly Them Out to See You
If you have the means, monitor airfares and fly your grandchildren out to see you when you find a good price.
22. Share Cake on Everyone’s Birthday
If you live far away, celebrate your grandkid’s birthdays by baking a cake together via video chat. You can make a small cake while your grandchild and their parents can go whole hog on a two-tier, fully decorated cake. Make sure you bake and decorate your cake together via Facetime on your tablet or laptop if possible.
23. Record a Story
You can do this in several ways. Hallmark has recordable storybooks where you can read the story and it will record your voice. You can also record yourself reading it and send it to your grandkids on their phone. I read an article about a grandma who started her own YouTube channel, and she records herself reading storybooks to her grandchildren who live far away. I think this is very cool.
Once again, if you find cheap airfare, book a flight and visit your grandchildren. They will appreciate the time and effort it took to spend time with them.
25. Read a Book to Them
If you live close by, spend an afternoon reading their favorite books to them.
There are many practical ways you can spend time with your grandkids, both near and far, to show them you love them. Choose a few options from the list above and start planning how you are going to spend your time the next time you are together.
Recently, a lady in my church approached me and asked me what the Bible says about forgiving other people. I loved her honesty and told her I would think about it and let her know. After doing a little bit of research, I came up with a few verses that I sent her.
However, I could not send these Scriptures to her without being moved by them myself. Here are four lessons I am learning about forgiveness (and I expect I will always be learning them):
1. My forgiveness of others is evidence of God’s forgiveness at work within me.
When Jesus taught his disciples to pray with what we often call “The Lord’s Prayer,” he said to pray like this: “And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors” (Matthew 6:12). Then, just in case there were any questions about that, Jesus followed that up with this:
“For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” (Matthew 6:14-15, ESV).
Elsewhere in the Bible, Mark records this similar teaching of Jesus from a different time:
“And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.” (Mark 11:25, ESV).
What I am learning as I live my life is that the more I experience and appreciate God’s forgiveness of my sins, the more I am reminded and even compelled to forgive others. This has played out, especially in my closest relationships, such as with my wife and father.
2. When God forgives me, he cancels my debt and removes my guilt.
I have a bad memory. My memory is so bad that my wife often has to remind me how bad it is.
But even with my bad memory, it is difficult (or even impossible) to forget how someone has hurt me, lied to me, or mistreated me in my past. Those experiences of trauma can stay with us our whole life. We do not have the power to forget them completely. We can suppress them, but they are still there in the subconscious recesses of our mind, and (as I have heard many times) “our body keeps the score” of the trauma we have gone through.
God, on the other hand, is able to choose to forget the debt. I am not saying that he misplaces his notes or that his omniscience has an end. Instead, he has the supernatural ability to decide what he connects to us. While I believe God still knows what we as Christians have done against him, he lets go of and forgets the debt that we owe for our sins. That is justification. Paul explains it like this:
“And you, who were dead in your trespasses and the uncircumcision of your flesh, God made alive together with him, having forgiven us all our trespasses by canceling the record of debt that stood against us with its legal demands. This he set aside, nailing it to the cross.” (Colossians 2:13-14, ESV)
When we are in Christ (meaning we are essentially hidden behind Jesus in God’s sight), we are no longer living under condemnation for our sins. We will still have to deal with natural consequences, but there is no more guilt associated with our sin. Our judge has declared us unequivocally “not guilty.”
I love the picture the psalmist gives us about this when he writes in Psalm 103:12, “As far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us.”
3. Forgiving others is one way I express my love to them.
As tough as it is to admit, I have hurt others. There are times when I have hurt my parents, my spouse, my children, my friends, and the people I have tried to lead. There are times when it was totally accidental, and there are times when it was on purpose because I was angry or trying to be vindictive.
In the same way that I want others to not hold my sin against me after I have asked for their forgiveness, the way that I display my love to others is by forgiving them for their wrongdoing. Constantly bringing up someone’s sin against me or continuing to look at them through the filter of their mistakes is not loving.
The Apostle Paul (who knew a thing or two about being forgiven for much) wrote in Ephesians 4:32, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you” (ESV). He also wrote to the believers in Colossae, “If one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive” (Colossians 3:13, ESV).
If I do not forgive someone (as I have had to often do in my life), then I do not love them. For example, I do not hold the sins, mistakes, and failures of my children over them and treat them differently because I have an unconditional love for them (or at least as much as humanly possible). One of the understandings that I have realized that has really helped me do this is to recognize that we all have things we are dealing with and “hurt people hurt people.” In order to love and forgive others well, I often need to remember that they are just acting out in the best way they know.
4. I will never use up my forgiveness power.
One of the greatest abilities I have as a friend and family member of others is my power to forgive. Anyone can retaliate and hurt someone for their actions. It is so natural to do so that even animals can react and retaliate. But it takes great power and intentional love to forgive others after they hurt us. As Jesus taught Peter and his other disciples:
“Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.” (Matthew 18:21-22, ESV)
In the same way that God forgives me for my past, present, and future sins (for which I am incredibly thankful), I have the power to forgive others. While this doesn’t mean that I need to position myself in the same place I was before in order to get hurt in the same way, it does mean that when I love someone, I will continue to forgive them and move on instead of being stuck in bitterness and unforgiveness.
As I think back over my own life, I can honestly say that I have forgiven many people for how they hurt me. This forgiveness has given me a sense of closure and peace that has helped me live a better life. But this power to forgive did not come from me—it came from the Holy Spirit within me. Any unforgiveness I still have because of unsettled issues is still there because I have not allowed God to fill those bitter spots with love.
So, let’s allow God’s forgiveness to sprout in us. Let’s live in great appreciation for how he has canceled our debts and chooses not to hold our sins against us. Let’s live out our love by forgiving others. And let’s wield the greatest power we have at our disposal: forgiveness.
Robert Hampshire is a pastor, teacher, writer, and leader. He has been married to Rebecca since 2008 and has three children, Brooklyn, Bryson, and Abram. Robert attended North Greenville University in South Carolina for his undergraduate and Liberty University in Virginia for his Masters. He has served in a variety of roles as a worship pastor, youth pastor, family pastor, church planter, and now Pastor of Worship and Discipleship at Cheraw First Baptist Church in South Carolina. He furthers his ministry through his blog site, Faithful Thinking, and his YouTube channel. His life goal is to serve God and His Church by reaching the lost with the gospel, making devoted disciples, equipping and empowering others to go further in their faith and calling, and leading a culture of multiplication for the glory of God. Find out more about him here.
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Isolating has always been a temptation for me. Even in my faith, I’ve attempted to follow Jesus with minimal dependence on others while avoiding sharing my struggles and fears. But living the Christian life in isolation doesn’t work for long.
Why can’t I seek God on my own and please Him? Why is community essential to following Christ?
What Is Community?
Community can be defined as “A feeling of fellowship with others, as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.” For Christians, it’s sharing our sorrows and joys while living authentically by allowing others to see our weaknesses and our strengths. It’s confessing our sins to one another and praying for each other. Christian community involves seeking God and worshiping Him together.
Community Is a Reflection of God
We’ll never be able to fully comprehend God, but we know He is “three in one,” called the Trinity. When creating man, “God said, ‘Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness’…So God created mankind in his own image” (Genesis 1:26-27 NIV). God the Father, Jesus Christ the Son, and the Holy Spirit worked together in creation.
The Father, Son, and Holy Spirit have always been in community, united as one. When Jesus was on Earth, He cried out in prayer for us: “My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us” (John 17:20-21 NIV). God wants us to experience the joy of harmony as He does.
Paul, a New Testament missionary, wrote “May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all” (2 Corinthians 13:14 NIV). These three always operate as One. They are a picture of the unity God desires for all believers.
Jesus Christ Modeled Community
Jesus came to Earth to live perfectly, die as a sacrifice for all sin, and then rise again, conquering death forever. He was the only One who could save us: He had to do that alone. But He ministered in community. Many followed Him, but He called twelve special disciples to be His apostles. They were continually together as He taught them and prepared them for ministry after His return to heaven.
Jesus told His disciples, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (John 13:34-35 NIV). He gave this command multiple times.
When the disciples weren’t with Jesus, He sent them out in pairs to minister to people: “Calling the Twelve to Him, He began to send them out two by two…” (Mark 6:7a NIV). God does use us as individuals, and sometimes we serve alone, but He intends that we minister in community.
Community Provides a Place for Sharing Burdens and Finding Healing
King Solomon of Old Testament times wisely wrote, “Pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up” (Ecclesiastes 4:10b NIV). Everyone faces times of hardship, pain, and sorrow. Having to go through those times alone can magnify the pain and leave us feeling hopeless.
We need others to pick us up, hold our hands, or sit quietly with us in our pain. In the Christian community, it’s powerful to see people circling someone who has experienced loss or illness. When someone is there to help us carry our burdens, the weight is lifted from our shoulders. At those times, we can rest knowing we’re not alone.
I remember a time when a dear friend was in an explosion in her garage. After hurrying to the emergency room to check on her, I discovered at least a dozen people from our church there. We circled on the lawn to pray as a helicopter took her to a larger city for care. That is community.
When writing to encourage believers in Galatia, Paul exhorted, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2 NIV). Christians are called to help each other with our struggles and difficulties. God never intended for us to walk alone.
We’re encouraged by the Lord’s brother, James, to “confess our sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective” (James 5:16 NIV). Instead of feeling like we need to hide our sins and weaknesses in our Christian fellowship, we should be able to confess, pray for each other, and find freedom. Of course, this needs to take place with a group of believers we know and trust. But keeping our struggles and sins in the dark also keeps us bound to them.
King Solomon of Old Testament times, known for his wisdom, wrote this proverb: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity” (Proverbs 17:17 NIV). Our brothers and sisters in Christ are there to help us in hard times.
Community Provides Mutual Encouragement
Paul continually sent out letters of encouragement to New Testament believers. When writing to those in Rome, he expressed, “I long to see you so that I may impart to you some spiritual gift to make you strong—that is, that you and I may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith” (Romans 1:11-12 NIV). Sharing our faith gives comfort to others.
King Solomon also wrote, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another” (Proverbs 27:17 NIV). As much as our prideful selves believe we can operate alone, we need others to sharpen us or we become dull and discouraged.
Meeting regularly isn’t just a rule to follow. We come together not only to worship our Lord but also because we need each other. Scripture urges, “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching” (Hebrews 10:24-25 NIV).
Being part of a small group is emphasized in my church. These groups meet weekly to study, pray, and do life together. For some years I’d resisted joining one for various reasons. But God recently orchestrated events, and I was suddenly in a life group again. After a couple of weeks, I realized the gift He had given me. Mine is a group of women who are there for each other, praying, encouraging, caring, listening, and understanding. Community is a gift God wants to give.
Community Is More Effective Than Isolation
Paul labeled all believers as “the Body of Christ”. He compared us to a human body, saying, “For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others” (Romans 12:4-5 NIV). We need everyone’s gifts working together to fulfill God’s purpose for us on earth. God has given me spiritual gifts, but not every gift. Encouraging and serving others is the goal.
Speaking of believers as a body, Paul taught, “The eye cannot say to the hand, ‘I don’t need you!’ and the head cannot say to the feet, ‘I don’t need you!’…there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it” (1 Corinthians 12:21,25-26 NIV). We’re all part of the Body of Christ and are called to unity.
After Pentecost, when God sent the Holy Spirit as a gift to believers, the church enjoyed a time of great unity. Paul recorded, “All the believers were together and had everything in common…And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved” (Acts 2:44-47 NIV). Working together is the most effective way to serve God.
Community Glorifies God
Seeking to operate independently is the opposite of what God wants for His people. His call is for unity within community. Paul expressed this so beautifully: “May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ” (Romans 15:5-6 NIV). God desires that, as one, we would focus on glorifying Him.
Paul continues with this advice: “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God” (Romans 15:7 NIV). We must put aside our differences to love each other and work in unity for His glory.
How Do I Find Community?
-Seek a local church with strong Bible teaching where the gospel of Jesus Christ is taught.
-Go with an open heart and mind, willing to reach out to others.
-Look for small groups to participate in, such as Bible studies, life groups, or service-oriented groups.
-Pray and ask God to send at least one close friend.
-Share your real self with others.
-Be a friend.
-Remember that building relationships takes time.
-Join in with what the church has to offer.
-Invite someone to study the Bible with you, be a prayer partner, or meet weekly to encourage each other.
-Be open to service opportunities. Take meals to those in need. Help in a food pantry. Volunteer with kids or youth.
Overall, love others. One of my favorite Scriptures says, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8 NIV). When we love others, we accept, forgive, and offer grace. In humility, we seek what is good for those we love. Enjoy the gift of community.
Susan Aken writes devotions and articles for Wholly Loved Ministries, is an Oklahoma native who’s lived in Nebraska since 1987 and has been in public education for over thirty years. She and her husband have one son and a wonderful daughter-in-law. Besides writing she has a passion for special needs and prayer ministries. She enjoys time with family, reading, photography, movies, walking in nature, and a nice cup of tea. She believes life is a journey and we’re all in different places. Jesus is everything to her and it’s all about grace. Visit her at susanaken53.wordpress.com or on Facebook.
This Bow-Tie Pasta Salad is loaded with delicious vegetables and great seasonings. It’s a fantastic side dish that goes great with just about any meal!
If you love this salad you will also want to our Amish Pasta Salad, it is incredible and has wonderful reviews.
❤️WHY WE LOVE THIS RECIPE
We love the combination of the delicious vegetables and the dressing with this salad. Then you add in the bowtie pasta and it’s a hit. If you look at the ingredient list, you may think this takes a lot of time; chopping the vegetables is the most time-consuming part. You can also make this salad you own, its super versatile, if you see an ingredient you don’t like, simply leave it out.
🍴KEY INGREDIENTS
Bow-tie pasta, uncooked
Eggs
Cherry tomatoes
Radishes
Cucumber
Green onions
Green pepper
Shredded cheese (I use cheddar, can use what you like)
Fresh or frozen sweet peas, uncooked (can cook if you want)
Celery seeds
Salt
Dried or fresh basil
White granulated sugar
White vinegar
Mayonnaise or Miracle Whip
🍽️HOW TO MAKE
The hardest part of this salad is chopping up all the vegetables, so once that is done and you have made the pasta, you are set!
Step 1 Cook pasta according to package directions to al dente and drain well. Combine pasta, eggs, cherry tomatoes, radishes, cucumber, green onions, green pepper, cheese and peas.
Step 2 Toss well with spoon. Sprinkle on celery seeds, salt, basil, sugar and vinegar. Add mayonnaise and mix all ingredients well with spoon. Refrigerate at least 3 or 4 hours to let flavors marry. Makes 8 to 10 servings. This keeps well in the refrigerator and recipe could be cut in half.
OTHER PASTA SALAD RECIPES
SERVE THIS SALAD WITH
Crispy Baked Chicken Thighs– These are so easy to make and have such a wonderful flavor. They go great with this pasta salad.
BBQ Pork Chops – Get the grill out and enjoy these delicious pork chops with this pasta salad.
Stuffed Green Peppers – These are one of our most popular recipes and they go great with any salad, but this one is a great addition.
STORING, REHEATING & SERVING SIZE
We store this in the fridge, it makes about 8 servings. You can easily double this recipe for a larger crowd.
This refreshing bow-tie pasta salad is perfect to enjoy during the summer. You can add whatever vegetables you like! Very versatile and keeps well.
Prep Time 15 minutesmins
Cook Time 14 minutesmins
3 hourshrs
Total Time 3 hourshrs29 minutesmins
Course Salad
Cuisine American, southern
3cupsbow-tie pastauncooked
3eggsboiled, peeled and chopped
1(10 ouncbox cherry tomatoes or about 20 tomatoes sliced in half
4or 5 radishessliced
1small cucumberpeeled and chopped
1cupchopped green onions
1small green pepperchopped
1cupshredded cheeseI use cheddar, can use what you like
1cupfresh or frozen sweet peasuncooked (can cook if you want)
1teaspooncelery seeds
1/2teaspoonsalt
1teaspoondried basil or 1 tablespoon fresh basilchopped
2tablespoonswhite granulated sugar
2tablespoonswhite vinegar
1/2cupmayonnaise or Miracle Whip
Cook pasta according to package directions to al dente and drain well. Combine pasta, eggs, cherry tomatoes, radishes, cucumber, green onions, green pepper, cheese and peas.
Toss well with spoon. Sprinkle on celery seeds, salt, basil, sugar and vinegar. Add mayonnaise and mix all ingredients well with spoon. Refrigerate at least 3 or 4 hours to let flavors marry. Makes 8 to 10 servings. This keeps well in the refrigerator and recipe could be cut in half.
How much better our relationship with our spouse might be if we read and paid attention to that phrase every time we touched money. How much fewer arguments we might have. How less stressed we might be.
It’s been said that married couples argue the most about sex, raising children, and money. But money doesn’t have to be one of the triggers to tension in your relationship. It is, after all, just money.
My husband and I are convinced — and have been our whole married life — that our financial stability depends on how much we trust God rather than on how much we make.
It’s really not about the money. If it was God would just rain it down and solve our problems. Churches are in debt across the nation. Christians are in debt, personally. Ministry workers struggle to make ends meet. Yet God owns it all. He lacks no resources. So if He’s not providing what we think we need at the time, we either don’t need it, or there’s something else going on. For us it’s always a matter of trust. It’s a matter of where our hearts are. It’s a matter of character development. And it’s a matter of faith and teaching us to pray.
Here are three steps you and your spouse can take to start trusting God with your finances and lessening the stress and tension between the two of you:
1. Be obedient.
God expects us to give back to Him what is rightfully His. Actually, all of what we have is rightfully God’s but we have chosen to follow a command set forth in the Old Testament when God commanded the Israelites to give a tenth of what they made to God. We tithe – which literally means giving a tenth of our money to God – as a matter of discipline and as a guideline of a good starting point and then add to that as we can. Why? Because a tenth is, in our case, a huge financial stretch. Because to tithe is, in our case, to trust. We have found, time and again, that God is faithful in providing all our needs as we honor Him by giving to Him first above everything else. God has a way of multiplying what we give to Him and giving back to us when we fall short at the end of the month because we trusted Him with that tenth we didn’t think we could give, but gave anyway. We’ve come to see it’s how God blesses those who honor Him with what He’s given them.
2. Be responsible.
God expects us to be good stewards of all that we have – our material possessions, as well as our money. And the first way we do that is to acknowledge that everything we have has been given to us and therefore is His. We are simply managers of the money He has entrusted us with. We have found that this helps us have a proper perspective toward money, keeps us humble, and prevents us from living beyond our means or spending money on something God wouldn’t approve of.
Being a good steward means we heed the guidelines set forth in God’s Word about not getting into debt, not living beyond our means, and not going into business with someone we can’t trust. Most likely, there isn’t a couple on earth who hasn’t learned some of these guidelines the hard way. We’ve had our share of difficult situations too. But God is not looking for perfection, or expecting us to become financial investment experts. He’s looking for hearts that are submissive and teachable. When you acknowledge that all you have is His anyway, it helps you to remember that major purchases and investments should be a matter of prayer. After all, you’ll want to consult the Owner about how He would like you to manage His funds!
3. Be joyfully expectant.
The Bible says if we, being human and having limited resources, know how to give good gifts to our children, how much more does God know how to give good gifts to those He loves? (Matthew 7:9-11; James 1:17). We have had a great time throughout our marriage seeing God come through for us, financially, in incredible ways. In fact, each time He does, we write it down on a small piece of paper and put it in a jar and at the end of the year we review those blessings and are reminded of God’s faithfulness.
Money doesn’t have to be a stress factor between you and your spouse. Instead, make it a faith adventure.
Woodford Pudding is a very old-fashioned dessert that dates back to the late 1800’s. It has a light texture and is a wonderful addition to any holiday gathering.
If you love old-fashioned recipes like this one, you must try this vintage Water Pie. It’s a depression-era pie, and it’s really good.
❤️WHY WE LOVE THIS RECIPE
Woodford Pudding is a wonderful dish to serve during the holidays, a derby dinner or anytime you have guests and family. This recipe for Woodford Pudding dates back to 1875. The spongy, spiced pudding is named after Woodford County in Kentucky. John Egerton speaks about Woodford Pudding in his book, “Southern Food”. This pudding is so good, and you won’t be able to leave it alone.
🍴KEY INGREDIENTS
Butter
Sugar
Eggs
Blackberry Jam
All Purpose Flour
Cinnamon
Allspice
Buttermilk
Baking Soda
Sauce ingredients listed in the recipe card.
SWAPS
I have swapped out raspberry jam in place of the blackberry and it was just as good. People often ask if you have to use buttermilk and I believe you do. Buttermilk adds a level of fat to the recipe and without it, it will not be the correct consistency.
🍽️HOW TO MAKE
This is a super simple recipe to make, which is one of the reasons we love it! Plus the combination of spices makes this pudding wonderful.
Step 1 Cream butter and sugar. Add eggs and blackberry jam. Mix well. Add flour, cinnamon, and allspice and continue mixing.
Step 2 Pour in buttermilk with soda added to the milk. Mix well and pour into a sprayed 9 x 13 baking dish or a sprayed 10 inch bundt pan. Bake in preheated 325 degree oven for 45 to 50 minutes.
Step 3 – Making the Sauce Combine sugar and flour in saucepan. Add boiling water and salt. Mix well with spoon or whisk. Bring to a boil on stove. Cook to desired thickness, about five or six minutes. If too thick add more boiling water. Remove from heat, add butter, milk and vanilla and stir. Serve pudding warm with sauce on top.
⭐TIP
You can make this in a 9 x 13 or in a bundt pan. I have found the temperature to be the same, and I cook it for the same amount of time, checking the center after about 40 minutes. This is a pudding, so it doesn’t rise like a cake.
OTHER OLD FASHIONED RECIPES
Old Fashioned Prune Cake – This cake has been around a very long time and it’s always a hit. The sauce on it is a wonderful addition.
Old Fashioned Snowball Cake – This cake is perfect for the holidays and it is a beautiful addition to any dessert table.
Southern Jam Cake – This is our favorite holiday cake and it’s a tradition in our family. If you love classics, this one is at the top of the list!
Old Fashioned Tomato Soup Cake – This cake was on the back of a campbells soup can many many years ago. It’s a spice cake and so good!
STORING, REHEATING & SERVING SIZE
We store this in a cool place. We like it hot or cold but the sauce on it warmed up is amazing. This makes about 8 servings.
Woodford Pudding is a wonderful dish to serve during the holidays, a derby dinner or anytime you have guests and family. This recipe for Woodford Pudding dates back to 1875 and is definitely and old fashioned recipe.
Prep Time 10 minutesmins
Cook Time 45 minutesmins
Total Time 55 minutesmins
Course Dessert
Cuisine American
1stick butter or margarinesoftened
1cupsugar
3eggs
1cupblackberry jam
1cupall-purpose flour
1teaspooncinnamon
1teaspoonallspice
1/2cupbuttermilk
1teaspoonbaking soda
Butterscotch Sauce
1 1/2cupsbrown sugar
1/4teaspoonsalt
1/4cupall-purpose flour
1cupboiling water
1/2stick butter or margarine
2tablespoonscream or evaporated milkI use evaporated milk
1teaspoonvanilla
Cream butter and sugar. Add eggs and blackberry jam. Mix well. Add flour, cinnamon, and allspice and continue mixing. Pour in buttermilk and add soda. Mix well and pour into a sprayed 9 x 13 baking dish or a 10 inch bundt pan. Bake in preheated 325 degree oven for 45 to 50 minutes.
Butterscotch Sauce Instructions
Combine sugar and flour in saucepan. Add boiling water and salt. Mix well with spoon or whisk. Bring to a boil on stove. Cook to desired thickness, about five or six minutes. If too thick add more boiling water. Remove from heat, add butter, milk and vanilla and stir. Serve pudding warm with sauce on top.
Parents, especially those with small children, can have difficulty making time for their spouses. Children need a lot of our physical time when they are babies because we need to care for them. When they get older, that time shifts from physical care to taking them to activities, often after a long hard day’s work. Parents frequently come home exhausted after a long day, unable to spend the quality time they need. When parents go too long without time, they can find themselves exhausted, finding that they are emotionally and physically distant from each other.
But there’s hope. Parents can find time to invest in their relationship. Here are some ways how to do that:
Small Moments Matter
When people start dating, they often dedicate an evening or even a whole weekend to each other. However, that simply may not be possible with young (or even older) children. However, make the small moments count. Spend up to half an hour together eating dinner alone. Feed the kids, then send them off to do an age-appropriate activity. Have dinner alone and discuss your day. Debrief about how things are going. Don’t lose sight of emotions and little things that may be getting bottled up and need to be discussed. Often, idle chitchat such as, “How was your day?” leads to bigger discussions about important aspects of the relationship that need to be healed. If dinner is not an option, have dessert in bed or together on the couch after the kids go to bed. Turn the television off and seek to focus on each other. Because it’s easy to want to turn the TV on and vegetate, avoiding taking the time is easy. However, when we take the time to shut off our phones and screens, we will find we have more time than we once believed we did.
Although hiring a babysitter may financially strain a young parent’s budget, it’s vital to keep the marriage strong. Enlist the help of parents or grandparents if necessary to help watch the children. Seek to have a night out at least once a month. Even if spouses can’t afford a big night out, get ice cream, get your favorite take-out, or simply take a walk. The time spent together is more important than what the activity is.
Seek to designate a small portion of the paycheck each week (or month) toward hiring a sitter. Set that money aside in a jar or an envelope. Strive not to spend it. Use that money as an investment in the marriage and in the future. This will give parents something to look forward to and give their relationship the emotional investment it requires.
Put God First
For Christians, we seek to put God first. However, it’s easy to crowd God out in our overpacked world. We often see time together for simply doing an activity or something fun. While this may be true, the most essential thing that needs to happen is to pray together. A couple that prays together is more than likely to stay together. Don’t dismiss the power of prayer. Ask each other what they could be praying for each other. This will help keep the lines of communication open and let each spouse know they are important to the other. It is easy for one spouse to talk about their day but not take the time to invest in the other. Prayer becomes more about other people than it does about themselves. Ask God to be the center of their relationship and to make time for each other with God as often as possible.
Another aspect of being a parent is owning a home. Although it’s exciting to own a home, it is also important that they complete household chores. This may come at the end of an already over-packed week. Exhausted parents seek to prioritize these chores because they seem the most important. However, as kids get older and leave the home, it won’t be the amount of laundry folded or the number of dishes that got washed. The most important thing that will be remembered is how much time was spent together. Leave the dirty dishes in the sink and keep the laundry in the dryer for one more day. Invest the time to merely sit and talk and not be distracted by screens or other things that may take away from being present in the moment with your spouse.
Resolve Arguments
Sometimes, parents don’t want to invest time in each other because of conflict. Different personalities may clash when both parties handle conflict differently. Some people like to sweep it under the rug and pretend it doesn’t exist. Others explode, dealing with the conflict head-on. It is important to deal with the conflict directly and nip it in the bud. When anger and resentment go unchecked, it can be the nail in the coffin of a marriage. Make sure there is no residual anger or arguments between the two of you. If there is, sacrifice some time and seek to resolve the conflict. It is necessary not only for your health but also for the health of your marriage.
Speak the Love Language
Don’t discount your spouse’s love language. According to Doctor Gary Chapman, the five love languages are acts of service, quality time, gifts, physical affection, and words of affirmation. Be sure to discover which love language your spouse speaks the most. Seek to speak that language to them each day. Even if time is limited, take a few small moments out of the day to speak that love language. Perhaps it’s a text saying how much you love your spouse. Maybe it’s a bouquet of flowers purchased at the store before coming home from work. No matter how you choose to show this love language, be sure to speak it daily. Do so with no strings attached. No spouse likes to feel as if they need to reciprocate that love language. They want to feel loved and appreciated simply for being who they are, not for what they can do for you. When both parties seek to speak each other’s love language and carve out little moments throughout the day to show each other they love each other, it will be easier for them to carve out time to emotionally invest in their relationship.
For spouses with kids, balancing quality time with work is difficult. However, the years of being a loving couple are rewarding even if they sacrifice much of our time. Be sure to invest in your relationship in as many ways as possible while sacrificing time, money, and other resources. Spouses who emotionally invest in their relationship may find that as the kids grow up and move away, their relationship is stronger than ever. When they take the time to invest while the kids are still at home, they set a good example for the kids in understanding that their spouse and their relationship come first; a healthy marriage is the key to good parenting.
Michelle S. Lazurek is a multi-genre award-winning author, speaker, pastor’s wife, and mother. She is a literary agent for Wordwise Media Services and a certified writing coach. Her new children’s book Who God Wants Me to Be encourages girls to discover God’s plan for their careers. When not working, she enjoys sipping a Starbucks latte, collecting 80s memorabilia, and spending time with her family and her crazy dog. For more info, please visit her website www.michellelazurek.com.
“I’m sorry, you are simply not what we are looking for.” Another letter of rejection from an organization I was applying for. Day after day, letters of rejection came in from various jobs that I had applied for. Doubt, fear, and self-hate filled my heart as I read each email.
Dealing with rejection is hard. Most of us have had at least one rejection in our lifetime. Whether that be rejection from a job, a partner, or a friend, we have all been rejected at some point in time.
Recently, I have been facing rejection at every turn. Despite being told the job market is doing well right now, I have not been able to land a full-time position.
This, coupled with personal issues and bad reviews on my writing, has led me to go into a bout of depression. While not everyone deals with rejection the same way, everyone’s experience is valid.
Some people can bounce back more easily, and others cannot. If you are someone like me and it tends to take more time to bounce back, don’t give yourself a hard time.
All of us process rejection at different rates. Processing it fast is not bad, nor is it bad to process it slower. Give yourself grace during this time and allow yourself to feel your feelings.
Sadly, many Christian communities demonize feelings, especially sadness and sorrow. None of these emotions are sinful. Feel your feelings and process the rejection in your own time.
The Burn of Rejection
At the time we are rejected, it feels like someone is cauterizing our hearts. This is especially true if it was a job you really wanted or a person you truly wanted to be with. When we are rejected by a job employer, a partner, or a friend, it can make our self-worth suffer. Instead of feeling confident, we will feel we are not good enough or inadequate in some way.
If you are also someone seeking out full-time employment and have been receiving letters of rejection, it can make you feel discouraged. I know this has certainly been true for myself. Being rejected makes one feel like they are a failure, will never be good enough, and are not worthy. All of these things can hurt our self-esteem and self-image.
If you are dealing with rejection and feeling discouraged because of it, know that the right opportunity will show up. Be encouraged. Know that the Lord will work everything out in conformity with His will (Romans 8:28).
It would be nice to know the exact timing of when this will happen, but sadly, I do not have the answers. I share with you the same thing I have been telling myself: God is in control, and you can trust Him.
The Bible tells us, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6).
As this Bible verse tells us, we need to trust in the Lord. We don’t need to try to take matters into our own hands. Wait on the Lord and trust that deliverance will come. Whether you are waiting on a job offer or for the right person to come along, keep on trusting in the Lord.
Living with Rejection
After we have received the letter of rejection, our partner ended things with us, or we had a falling out with our friend, we have to begin the process of living with rejection. Living a life without rejection would be ideal, but sadly, this is not possible.
We live in a fallen world and part of living in a fallen world is having to live with rejection. There will be times that we will be rejected, discouraged, and hopeless. However, there will also be times of great joy, encouragement, and hope.
When you are crestfallen due to much rejection, reflect on God and all of the joyous times He has blessed you with. Take a few minutes to reflect on a few good things in your life. These things don’t have to be going on right now — rather it can be things in your past.
As an example, recently I have been reflecting on the beautiful blessings God has given me in the forms of a beautiful sunny day, the peaceful rain, and the comfort of a familiar book.
Although none of these things technically fix my feelings of rejection, they do help me distract myself from the pain. Sometimes, we have to distract ourselves until we are ready to deal with the pain.
There are stages to embracing rejection and not allowing it to affect you, but they do take time. Some days you might feel more ready to face the rejection head on and other days you might feel like distracting yourself. Whatever helps you best right now is the route you should take.
Accepting Rejection and Moving Forward
Once we are ready to accept the rejection and move forward, we can start taking the proper steps. Accepting the rejection might come faster than you think. Normalize not being praised or rewarded at every corner. Allow yourself to accept both the good and the bad.
Even though we may have been rejected does not mean we are not good enough. The Lord loves us as we are. We will face many rejections throughout our life, but God always accepts us. In other people’s eyes, we might be seen as rejected. However, in God’s eyes we are seen as loved, accepted, and chosen.
If we are not able to accept rejection and learn to let it go, it will make us suffer in many ways. We have to remember that most people do not care about our feelings. They are not going to be afraid to say hurtful comments to us. While we cannot control what they say or do, we can control how we respond.
The Bible tells us, “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone” (Colossians 4:6). And this is exactly what I chose to do.
We can accept negative feedback, rejection, and hurtful words while also remaining a light for Jesus. The Lord wants us to conduct ourselves in a holy and honorable way (1 Peter 1:16).
Even if others do not treat us kindly, God still wants us to be kind to them. Rejection can make us grow angry and hateful, but we must not feed into these feelings. We need to turn to the Lord and allow Him to help us accept the rejection and move forward.
Nothing is too difficult for God. He is our Father and desires to give us comfort. Rejection will never be pleasant, but it doesn’t give us an excuse to also be mean back.
We have to choose kindness even when nobody else does. Be kind to all people, even those who have rejected you. Don’t hold grudges against the people who have rejected you. Holding grudges against people will only hurt us.
Vivian Bricker loves Jesus, studying the Word of God, and helping others in their walk with Christ. She has earned a Bachelor of Arts and Master’s degree in Christian Ministry with a deep academic emphasis in theology. Her favorite things to do are spending time with her family and friends, reading, and spending time outside. When she is not writing, she is embarking on other adventures.
Mr. Harris, our friendly next-door neighbor, was a sunshine on our street. Always with a wave and a warm hello, he’d stop to chat about the weather or our weekend plans. Then tragedy struck.
One morning, news of a car accident spread through the neighborhood. It was his wife, a vibrant woman, who was so loving and caring. Her passing was a shock that left us all numb.
But for poor Mr. Harris, the world shattered. A familiar emptiness began to seep into our once lively street corner. We’d see him leave for work, his shoulders slumped, the twinkle gone from his eyes. The man who’d always been so active in the church, leading the choir with gusto, barely mustered a smile during services. The grief was palpable, a heavy cloak wrapped tightly around him.
Weeks turned into months, and the toll on Mr. Harris became evident. He lost weight, his attitude towards life changed, and the spring in his step dwindled. This was a far cry from the upbeat man we knew, and it hurt to see him like that.
Mr. Harris was drowning in grief, a man who had genuinely made people happy. This made me realize how unprepared we are for loss a lot of the time, especially when it comes to dealing with life on our own after decades of marriage.
May this piece serve as a lighthouse for people in similar dark places, a guide for finding purpose again, and a glimmer of hope even in the middle of suffering.
The Pain of Losing a Wife
Losing a spouse is one of life’s most profound and heart-wrenching experiences. As widowers, you are thrust into a journey of grief and loss that can feel overwhelming and all-encompassing.
The pain of losing a beloved wife leaves an indelible mark on your heart, challenging you to navigate a new reality without the person who was once your partner, confidante, and best friend.
In the words of C.S. Lewis, himself a widower: “No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” These words, I’m sure, would resonate deeply with anyone who has experienced the profound loss of a spouse. Grief can indeed feel like a constant companion, casting a shadow over even the brightest moments of your life.
Yet, amid our sorrow, there is hope. Despite the pain, there is a path forward—a path that leads to finding purpose and joy again, even amid your grief.
Understanding Grief through a Christian Lens
In your grief, it is essential to turn to the comfort offered by Scripture. The Bible offers profound insights into the nature of grief and loss, providing solace and hope to those mourning.
Psalm 34:18 says, “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” These words remind us that even in our darkest moments of despair, God is near. He sees our pain, hears our cries, and offers His unfailing love and compassion to sustain us. This verse also assures us that we are not alone in our grief; God walks beside us, offering comfort and healing to our broken hearts.
Jesus Himself experienced profound grief at the death of His friend Lazarus, even though He knew that He would raise him from the dead (John 11:35). Grief is not a sign of weakness but of the depth of our love and the reality of our loss.
Faith is also crucial in navigating the journey of grief; it sustains us during the darkest moments, reminding us of God’s promises and His presence with us. Through prayer, meditation on Scripture, and fellowship with other believers, you will find strength and comfort to face each day with hope and resilience.
Also, you can take comfort in knowing that your grief is not the end of the story. Through our faith in Christ, we have the assurance of eternal life and the promise of ultimate restoration.
While the pain of losing a wife may never completely disappear, you can find hope in the knowledge that, one day, we will be reunited with our loved ones in the presence of God, where there will be no more tears or sorrow (Revelation 21:4).
Dealing With Common Emotions Experienced by Widowers
Grief: Grief is a natural response to the loss of a spouse, encompassing feelings of sadness, longing, and emptiness. But turn to God in prayer and seek comfort in His promises.
Remember that God is close to the brokenhearted and offers solace to those who mourn. Matthew 5:4 says, “Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.”
The loss of a spouse often leaves one feeling profoundly alone. Suddenly, the companionship and intimacy that once defined your life are gone, leaving a void that can feel insurmountable. Loneliness can be particularly severe during moments of solitude or when faced with reminders of your wife’s absence.
However, it is best to find companionship and support in God’s presence and through the community of fellow believers. Lean on the promise that God will never leave us nor forsake us. Hebrews 13:5 reminds us: “I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”
Confusion: Losing a spouse can also leave one feeling disoriented and bewildered, unsure of how to navigate this new reality. We may even find ourselves grappling with existential questions about the meaning of life and the purpose of our suffering.
For someone who’s just lost his wife, confusion can arise from the practical challenges of adjusting to life without her, such as managing household responsibilities or making important decisions alone. In moments of confusion, it is helpful to seek clarity and guidance through prayer and meditation on the Word of God and His promise to direct our paths (Proverbs 3:5-6).
Anger: You may feel frustrated or resentful towards God, others, or yourself. You may also experience feelings of resentment towards your circumstances or your late wife for leaving you behind.
Acknowledge and process these feelings of anger in healthy ways rather than suppressing or denying them.
However, you should strive to express your emotions honestly and openly to God in prayer, knowing that He can handle your anger. Seek His peace and cultivate a heart of compassion and love.
Ephesians 4:31-32 reminds us: “Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice; and be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”
Fear: The loss of a spouse can evoke feelings of fear and anxiety about the future—the fear of being alone, facing life’s challenges without your partner, or of what the future holds for your kids.
However, trust in God’s providence and sovereignty because He is in control of all things. By surrendering your fears to God in prayer and seeking His guidance and protection, you can find courage and peace to face the unknown with confidence.
Rediscovering Joy in Everyday Moments
While happiness is often dependent on external circumstances and fleeting moments of pleasure, joy is deeper and more enduring. Joy is a spiritual sense of contentment and fulfillment that transcends the ups and downs of life. It is a state of being rooted in faith and gratitude rather than in temporary pleasures or material possessions.
In the context of grief, rediscovering joy does not mean that you will always feel happy or that your pain will disappear overnight. Instead, it means finding moments of peace, hope, and connection amidst the sorrow. It means recognizing the beauty and goodness that still exist in the world, even amid your grief.
One common misconception about joy after the loss of a spouse is that it is somehow disrespectful to the memory of our loved ones. Some may feel guilty for experiencing moments of joy, fearing that it diminishes the significance of their loss or implies that they have moved on too quickly.
However, joy and grief are not mutually exclusive. It is possible to honor the memory of our spouse while still finding moments of joy in our lives.
Another misconception is that joy can only be found in grand gestures or extraordinary experiences. In reality, joy often comes from the simplest of moments—a shared meal with loved ones, a walk in nature, or a quiet moment of reflection.
By embracing these everyday moments and finding gratitude in the small things, we can cultivate a deeper sense of joy that sustains us through the darkest times.
Ultimately, rediscovering joy after the loss of a spouse is a journey—one that requires patience, resilience, and faith. It means allowing yourself to feel a wide range of emotions, including sadness and grief, while also remaining open to moments of joy and hope.
As Psalm 30:5 reminds us, “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.” Even in your darkest moments, there is always the promise of joy on the horizon, waiting to be rediscovered in the everyday moments of life.
How to Rekindle Joy in Your Daily Life
1. Engage in Meaningful Activities: Finding joy in your daily life often involves engaging in activities that bring fulfillment and purpose. Whether by volunteering for a cause you’re passionate about, pursuing a hobby or creative outlet, or spending time in nature, investing your time and energy in meaningful activities can uplift your spirits and bring a sense of fulfillment.
These activities provide a welcome distraction from grief and offer opportunities for personal growth and connection with others.
2. Connect with Others in the Community and Fellowship: Community and fellowship play a crucial role in cultivating joy after the loss of a spouse. Surrounding yourself with supportive friends, family members, and fellow believers can provide a sense of belonging and companionship during these difficult times.
Whether by joining a support group for widowers, participating in church activities, or simply spending time with loved ones, connecting with others who understand your journey can bring comfort, laughter, and a renewed sense of hope.
3. Invest in Things You Love and Are Passionate About. Rediscovering joy also involves investing in activities and interests that bring you joy. Prioritizing self-care and self-expression is essential for maintaining emotional well-being.
By dedicating time and energy to things that bring you joy, you can nourish your soul and cultivate a sense of purpose and satisfaction in your daily life.
4. Be thankful: Take time each day to reflect on God’s blessings in your life, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant they can be. Keep a gratitude journal where you write down things you’re thankful for daily. This will help shift your focus from what you’ve lost to what you still have.
By adopting an attitude of gratitude, you can cultivate a sense of contentment and joy that transcends your circumstances.
5. Embrace Moments of Beauty and Wonder: In your moments of grief, remain open to moments of beauty and wonder in the world around you.
Whether by watching a sunrise, admiring a work of art, or savoring a delicious meal, allowing yourself to experience moments of joy and awe can uplift your spirits and remind you of the goodness that still exists in the world.
To every widower who may be struggling, I want you to know that you are not alone. Amid your pain and sorrow, there is hope. Though the road may seem long and the burden heavy, you have the strength through Christ to persevere.
Take comfort in knowing that God sees your tears, hears your prayers, and holds you close to His heart. Lean on God in your moments of weakness, for He is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).
May you find peace amid your pain, strength amid your weakness, and hope amid your despair. You are loved, you are valued, and you are not alone.
Emmanuel Abimbola is a creative freelance writer, blogger, and web designer. He is a devout Christian with an uncompromising faith who hails from Ondo State in Nigeria, West Africa. As a lover of kids, Emmanuel runs a small elementary school in Arigidi, Nigeria.
