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  • How He Treats You Is How He Feels About You — Is It True?

    How He Treats You Is How He Feels About You — Is It True?

    I once dated someone who gave me mixed signals. He would make plans but ditch me last minute. He would get me things, but not what I liked. I wondered if he even liked me or not. A wise friend noticed his inconsistent behavior and said, “How he treats you is how he feels about you. Period.” (Thank you, friend!)

    You, too, may have warned a friend against that toxic boyfriend who wasn’t treating her right. People treat you how they feel about you. We know that. But when faced with the possibility of rejection, we hope against hope and believe otherwise.

    That’s when you need a friend to remind you that you deserve to be treated with love. That when someone finally treats you right, you will feel like a queen. That you should dump the guy who’s making you doubt any of this. I am that friend today. Let’s begin by understanding the “how he treats you is how he feels about you” psychology.

    What Is “How He Treats You Is How He Feels About You” Psychology?

    Do you remember the 2009 multi-starrer hit romantic comedy He’s Just Not That Into You? The film, through several stories, conveys the same message that we are trying to tell you here. If he is not prioritizing you, you are not a priority for him. If he is being rude to you, he doesn’t care about your feelings. There are enough warning signs he treats you like an option. Basically, no, he is not playing hard to get; he is just not that into you.

    The ‘how he treats you is how he feels about you’ psychology means that no matter what he tells you, his actions will reflect what is inside his heart. It is impossible to fake one’s true feelings. This Reddit user says, “People don’t treat you the way you would want them to, they treat you by the way they feel about you. Be blind if you want to.” Well, I couldn’t have said it better.

    One more thing. You should not take his behavior personally. His behavior points to his poor self-worth and self-esteem. If this guy is breadcrumbing and ghosting you, his moral compass is skewed. He thinks it is okay to play with people’s feelings. Or maybe this pattern speaks to his emotional and mental health issues. In that case, as well, the way someone treats you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves, and is not really about you.

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    How Does Someone Treat You If They Love You?

    Figuring out how a boyfriend should treat his girlfriend is not rocket science. A healthy relationship between two people should be marked by a few things. These foundational principles are:

    • Love: This is not just about the display of love, but admiration for the person one is with
    • Respect: Respect is higher than love, ensuring that other non-negotiables in a relationship are taken care of. When someone says, “He treats me casually,” this is what might be amiss
    • Trust: If your guy trusts you, he will let you be. He will not override your decisions, question your intentions or capabilities, thus making you feel respected. When someone says, “He treats me like a child,” it is often trust that is missing
    • Kindness: A true lover will find it difficult to snap at you. Your pain will bother them. Your well-being will be their priority
    • Honest communication: A healthy relationship will be marked by mutual feelings of “being on the same page” more often than feelings of disconnect
    • Intimacy: In a bond of love, people would prioritize spending quality time to develop intimacies, be it physical intimacy, emotional intimacy, intellectual intimacy, or spiritual intimacy

    These are a few pillars of a healthy relationship. In fact, the rules of healthy love hold true even for platonic relationships. So, how does someone treat you if they love you? With respect, trust, and kindness. Let us look at a few signs a man respects you. The lack of these can be read as warning signs he treats you badly.

    15 Signs He Is Treating You The Way You Deserve

    Let me tell you something that you already know. You deserve to be treated with respect! Does he make you feel like he genuinely cares for you, or that he appreciates your qualities? Or have you been feeling hurt because he has been showing all the signs he treats you like an option? You find yourself frequently complaining, “He treats me like a child.” Or “He treats me casually.”

    Let me take you through this list of 15 signs he treats you like a queen, things that tell you he values your presence in his life.

    Related Reading: 15 Proven Ways To Show Someone You Love Them

    1. He gives you attention

    When a man gives you attention, it makes you feel seen. He’ll check on you. He’ll share glances with you at a busy party. Even if there isn’t time to be together, he’ll make you feel through his actions that not a minute passes by when he doesn’t think of you.

    Similarly, when having a conversation with you, he listens to you intently, especially with his body language. He reads between the words, he acknowledges things you said in gestures. His responses make you feel that he truly registered what you said.

    In contrast: Someone who is not treating you right will fail to make you feel seen, heard, or understood. They will look past you, forget you at parties, refuse to look up from their phone when you are speaking, and not remember to check on you when they are busy having a good time.

    When a man treats you right, he will give you his full attention

    2. He notices your needs

    I once needed the weekend to finish some long-pending work, while my boyfriend wanted to go to a club. I expressed to him that it was important for me to clear all my tasks. My boyfriend’s response, in this scenario, can be a red or a green flag.

    So, what did my partner do? He motivated me to check things off my list — exactly what I ‘needed.’ He stayed indoors with me, taking the opportunity to wrap up some of his work as well. He also made being at home more fun, reminding me of the rewards that lay ahead.

    Men, if you’re reading this too, we have a few tips on how to treat a woman you love. Check out these thoughtful acts:

    • Bring your partner a warm cup of tea when she’s not well
    • Leave a sweet note when you’re busy
    • Prioritize her sexual needs, like buying her favorite sex toy or kissing her the way she likes
    • Be attentive to her needs in general

    In contrast: Someone who is basically wasting your time will be selfish in bed, and outside. Whenever your needs don’t align with his wishes, he will persuade you to do things his way using emotional manipulation, and he will do this routinely.

    Related Reading: 12 Signs He Is Using You As a Trophy Girlfriend

    3. He makes an effort to spend time with you

    … and get to know you better. You know how actions speak louder than words. A man who values you will try to make the most of the time he gets with you. He will take you out, and plan dinners and vacations. If you are occupied, he will keep track of your commitments and reschedule, or offer other solutions.

    Your partner will take out quality time for you, to develop intimacy so that you not only connect at a physical level (by initiating physical touch), but also emotionally and intellectually (by engaging in deep, meaningful conversations).

    In contrast: Someone who is treating you casually will only spend time with you when he has nothing else to do. He won’t make time for you when you need him to, frequently canceling on you by making excuses. Because he wants to keep you on the hook, he might fake-apologize, but will repeat the same thing the next chance he gets.

    4. He tries to be a part of your life

    When a guy treats you with awe and admiration, he tries his hardest to be a part of your life. A guy can do this in many ways. Men, here are some tips on how to be a better boyfriend to your girlfriend:

    • Feel joy in her happiness and cry with her
    • Show interest in the book she is reading or the show she is watching
    • Ask for more details on that inside joke she has with your workmates
    • Look forward to the parties she invites you to while also respecting your own boundaries
    • Be excited to meet her public persona! (This is especially important in men and women relationships, in case the woman is more ‘popular’ or ‘successful’)

    In contrast: When a man doesn’t have much interest in you, he doesn’t try to get to know you or your likes and interests. He doesn’t want a peek into your inner life. He is satisfied with knowing just the small part of your entire personality that suits his needs.

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    5. He talks a lot about you

    When your partner wants people around him to know you, it’s a good sign! He is proud of being with you. When a man looks at you with admiration, he can’t help but share it with other people. He will end up repeatedly mentioning you in front of his friends. That’s how you know he is thinking about you even when you are not around.

    In contrast: When a man treats you in no special way, he doesn’t really talk about you. Some of his people might not even know about you. Of course, he could be taking his time to protect himself. But you know what’s a reasonable duration and what’s not. If it feels odd that he has still not mentioned you to his dear ones, he is likely keeping you a secret.

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    6. He makes sure to give you space

    When a man gives a woman space, it demonstrates his regard for her autonomy. This also means that he values personal boundaries and trusts her. Such a man finds it easy when his girlfriend takes her solo time for self-reflection. He respects her need for occasional solitude and supports her private pursuits and ambitions.

    In contrast: When a man treats you immaturely, he will try to micromanage your life or keep you on a leash. By hook or by crook, he will make sure that you don’t get to enjoy your me-time. If he thinks there is no reason for you to need time and space for yourself, he clearly doesn’t acknowledge your individuality. He is treating you casually and taking you for granted.

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    7. He tries to impress you

    A man who loves you will genuinely care what you think about him. He will share his ambitions and achievements with you. He will also try to be a better person for you and make you proud. E.g., he might try to forgive others so that you think of him as large-hearted and kind.

    We often see this in the little things of men and women relationships. He will fix that leaky faucet, book a nice restaurant, or shoot hoops. He will make sure he cleans up well for that weekend date. No matter how long you have been together, he still might do little cliché things like securing a difficult reservation or finding great seats, just to be able to impress you.

    In contrast: When he begins to take you so much for granted as his partner that there is no desire left to impress you, it clearly means that the spark in the relationship is gone. If your man never tries to impress you, it means he truly doesn’t care what you think of him. Because in this case, how he treats you is how he feels about you.

    8. He seeks your opinion

    A man who takes you seriously will ask you for your advice on things great and small. He will involve you in regular decision-making. He will ask your opinion on the current state of affairs, as well as a life crisis where he needs a second opinion.

    “Should I quit my job, or confront my boss?”, “How do I talk to my head-strong father about selling his business?”, or “I would like to know more about Palestine”. He not only discusses these with you, he actively listens to your opinions on these matters.

    In contrast: By now, we know that how he treats you is how he feels about you. So if he doesn’t care about what you think, well then — He does not care about what you think. He’ll do his own thing, and might even openly discard or mock your opinion.

    9. He learns to like the things that matter to you

    Actions speak louder than words. When a man truly likes a woman, he shows willingness to like the things that mean something to her. If his partner likes to pray or engage in charity, he will begin to see value in it. I don’t mean that he will become a believer. After all, he should be able to exercise his individual beliefs. But he would like to learn about the things he earlier didn’t pay attention to.

    In contrast: Someone who doesn’t value his partner will not care enough to change a little for them. He will be fixated in his own beliefs. It’s a clear warning sign that he doesn’t think you are important enough to get out of his comfort zone. This kind of natural discomfort often leads to a lot of learning and connection, if one lets it.

    Related Reading: 15 Warning Signs Your Partner Is Losing Interest In The Relationship

    10. He takes your feedback seriously

    He listens to your advice intently and follows up. You know he is treating you the way you deserve if he takes your feedback seriously. He also notices your disappointments and tries not to repeat his behavior if he has made a mistake. After all, he is always trying to be the reason behind your smile.

    In contrast: He either doesn’t ask you anything, or if he does, he merely uses you as a sounding board. He doesn’t care about keeping a check on the relationship quality, or if he has hurt you in any way.

    11. He cares about the people that are important to you

    Your partner will try his best to like your family. Even if you don’t get along with them, he knows that your family is important to you. So he will make the effort to gain their favor and mend things when required. He will try to get to know your friends. You will see him trying hard to win over everyone who is important to you.

    In contrast: When he is not treating you the way you deserve, you’ll see him acting like a jerk in front of your friends. He might even refuse to see them, because, well, who wants to make all that effort and be a little uncomfortable for just a girl!

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    He should make an effort to maintain a cordial relationship with the people you love

    12. He doesn’t shy away from compromise

    When two people are together, there are innumerable instances where there is a need for compromise. Be it coming up with a plan for date night, to what to order in, to being the first to apologize in a fight, note the willingness of your partner to compromise. It shows how interested they are in being happy with you over being right. This kind of pragmatic and loving behavior shows how one truly feels for the other.

    In contrast: A person who loves themselves more than anyone else will always want to have the last word. Such people surely get to win an argument but, sadly, they do not understand men and women relationships, and do not win at love.

    13. He shows up

    He will keep his word and show up for you. He will sense your needs and sincerely offer to be by your side. He will be there when you need him. Not only that, he will show that he regards your time by making sure that he doesn’t keep you waiting. If he’s unable to make it, he’ll keep you informed. He won’t stand you up.

    In contrast: A guy who is wasting your time doesn’t value it. Nor does he value his promise. After all, the way someone treats you is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. He is not a man of words, and he doesn’t care that it reflects very poorly on him.

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    14. He apologizes sincerely

    A good guy tells you the truth. He apologizes when he makes a mistake and communicates a complaint with sincerity. He trusts you to be able to handle the issue at hand. When a man communicates openly, it shows that he is willing to make the efforts needed in an honest relationship.

    In contrast: A man in a toxic relationship will shy away from admitting his mistakes. His ego will take over. This is not a man of high character. Plus, he is clearly not interested enough in you to compromise on his “I am always right” persona.

    15. He shows you love even in the little things

    There are many little acts of kindness and respect that your partner extends toward you that can’t be contained in one of these bigger points. He makes sure to show you respect on all fronts. For example:

    • He has your back during a quarrel with someone
    • He makes you feel like you are the most important person in this world
    • He respects your food choices
    • He does not compare you with other women
    • He says all the right things when you just want a friend
    • He covers you with a blanket and reminds you to stay hydrated

    In contrast: A guy who is wasting your time will give you many reasons to say, “He treated me like I was nothing.” A jerk consistently treats his woman poorly. Be it not listening to a word she says, mocking her in public, or not caring about her well-being.

    Key Pointers

    • How people treat you is a reflection of their feelings for you. Irrespective of how much one tries to fake it, the charade is difficult to hold for long
    • If you’re seeing a guy, some of the clearest signs he treats you badly are when he doesn’t care about your needs, doesn’t show interest in getting to know you, or often compares you with other women
    • On the other hand, if your partner appreciates you, he will try to be there for you, impress you, and take out time for you. He will try to learn more about you. He will be willing to compromise and apologize. These are some great tips on how to treat a woman you love
    • One of the signs a man respects you is that he will seek your opinion on the matters that concern him. He’ll take you seriously
    • When someone finally treats you right, you will feel loved. You will have a clear hunch that you’re admired, valued, and respected. Their actions will speak louder than words

    So, I hope that helped. How a boyfriend should treat his girlfriend is simple. He is either into you or not! There is no point pulling the wool over your eyes. However, don’t forget: While people treat you how they feel about you, their poor behavior is also a reflection of how they feel about themselves. It is your job to make sure no one is able to take you for a ride. That, too, is an act of self-love.

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  • Am I emo? Quiz

    Am I emo? Quiz

    Feeling misunderstood? Does the world seem a little too bright, a little too peppy for your brooding soul? Maybe you’ve even dipped your toes into eyeliner (or maybe you’re a full-on pro with the kohl pencil). If this sounds familiar, then you might just have some emo in your DNA!

    But hold on, friend. Before you dye your hair raven black and start practicing your scream-singing, have you ever wondered: am I actually emo? Fear not, fellow traveler of the dark path! We’re here with this emo quiz which will tell you if you are! Our emo personality quiz is only 8 questions long and should only take 10 minutes to complete.

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    We’ll take you on a journey through your music preferences, your fashion choices, and even your emotional landscape. By the end, you’ll have a clearer picture of where you fall on the emo spectrum. So, are you ready to uncover your true emo self? Let’s get started!

    Questions

    1. How would you describe your typical style of clothing?

    1. Dark and edgy
    2. Expressive and unique
    3. Casual and mainstream

    2. What kind of music do you enjoy listening to the most?

    1. Emo, punk, or alternative
    2. A mix of different genres
    3. Pop, hip-hop, or mainstream

    3. How do you usually express your emotions?

    1. Through writing, art, or music
    2. By talking with friends or family
    3. I tend to keep my emotions to myself

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    4. Do you often find yourself feeling deeply emotional or introspective?

    1. Yes, frequently
    2. Sometimes, but not excessively
    3. Rarely, if ever

    5. How do you prefer to spend your free time?

    1. Alone, listening to music or writing
    2. Hanging out with close friends
    3. Engaging in hobbies or activities

    6. Have you ever experienced periods of intense sadness or melancholy?

    1. Yes, quite often
    2. Occasionally, but not frequently
    3. Rarely, if ever

    7. Do you feel a sense of connection or resonance with emo culture or themes?

    1. Yes, I identify strongly with emo culture
    2. I can relate to some aspects, but not all
    3. Not really, I don’t feel a connection

    8. How do you view life and the world around you?

    1. With a sense of depth and complexity
    2. With optimism and positivity
    3. I don’t think about it much

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  • Why Can’t I Find Love? 15 Possible Reasons And How To Turn Things Around

    Why Can’t I Find Love? 15 Possible Reasons And How To Turn Things Around

    “You don’t find love, it finds you. It’s got a little bit to do with destiny, and what’s written in the stars,” said renowned philanthropist Ima Hogg. And while she wasn’t completely wrong, in this era of endless swiping on dating apps to find ‘the one’ amid a sea of options, this quote may seem a bit outdated. We’re all trying to ‘find love’, aren’t we? Or the perfect partner, who will complete us? After all, love is a truly magical feeling. Nonetheless, even with tons of tools and options to help one find love, some of us, ‘forever single’ souls, often ask ourselves, “Why can’t I find love?”

    In this article, we’ll delve deeper into the reasons behind this. We will also take a look at a few tips to help you find love, with the help from relationship counselor Dhriti Bhavsar (M.Sc, Clinical Psychology), who specializes in relationship, breakup, and LGBTQ counseling. So, if you’re often telling yourself, “I want to feel what love is” or are looking forward to getting into a healthy relationship or finding love again after a breakup, but don’t know where to begin, read on…

    Why Can’t I Find Love? 15 Possible Reasons

    In this fast-paced dating world of finding love through online matchmaking and dating apps and speed dating arrangements, falling in love has a new dimension. We don’t merely fall in love these days. We look for love and end up dating people endlessly in the hope of finding the perfect romantic partners. Finding love is a task and very much dependent on digital algorithms these days. So much so, that a Harvard Data Science Review study in fact explored how algorithms are matched on dating apps.

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    But is it all about the luck of ‘matching’ with a compatible partner that defines ‘finding love’? What about offline dating? Why can’t some people approach the people they fancy? What hinders them from finding love? Do you too belong to the ‘single forever’ group that’s often found complaining, “I’m feeling like I will never find love”? Let’s look at 15 possible reasons that could explain why you are finding it difficult to fall in love:

    1. Low self-esteem

    Often, the main hindrance to finding love is that we tend to go for people way below our league. Dhriti says, “This is because of self-doubt, low self-worth, and poor self-confidence. So, basically, you may choose to pursue people who are below the bar simply because you think anyone better than that is out of your league.” And then that backfires too because those people may avoid getting into a serious romantic relationship or long-term relationship with you, because they may:

    • Suspect you or your intentions
    • Fear being ditched later in the relationship
    • Be overwhelmed by you
    • Feel they can’t match up to you or your standards

    2. Fear of rejection

    If you often say to yourself, “Why can’t I find love?”, well, remember, at times, the fear of rejection may stop you from putting yourself out there. But Dhriti says, “Love doesn’t find you when you’re sitting at home and watching Netflix. Love needs to know you’re available!” So, you need to be a confident person, show that you’re ready for love, and stop fearing uncertainty.

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    3. Unrealistic expectations

    Dhriti believes, “Having an idea of what traits you want in a partner is good, but love isn’t a to-do list of things. Letting go of the notion of a ‘Mr./Ms. Right’ is important, and so is maintaining realistic expectations. Otherwise, you’ll end up looking for ‘the one’ your entire life.” It’s quite possible that the love of your life is buried somewhere beneath a pile of your high expectations regarding their looks, financial status, or other traits. They can be an amazing person in spite of not fitting into your definition of ‘the one’.

    For instance, a Reddit user shares what she feels about online dating: “Online dating allows people to always seek something better. It’s a mentality I think a lot of single people are adopting. Why settle when the grass is greener and I can get to it so easily?” So, basically, because the supply is endless, we’re always looking for someone better, someone perfect!

    4. Fear of intimacy

    If you often ask yourself, “Why can’t I find love?”, be aware that the fear of intimacy may become a hindrance in your path of falling in love. This is often closely related to the fear of rejection. Dhriti says, “Being scared of being vulnerable and genuine because you feel someone might take advantage of you or ridicule you can cause you to shrink into your own shell and avoid reaching out to potential partners.”

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    This may include the fear of:

    • Physical intimacy: You may be scared to initiate gestures of love such as touching and kissing, for the fear of being tagged ‘desperate’, leading to the relationship fizzling out
    • Emotional intimacy: You may shy away from sharing a deep emotional bond or intimate details, as you may fear being mocked or taken advantage of later
    • Intellectual intimacy: You may stop yourself from having healthy discussions on topics of your interest, for fear of being judged or branded ‘too clingy’
    The fear of intimacy can ruin your chances of finding love

    5. Pessimistic attitude

    Dhriti believes, “Harboring a pessimistic attitude is like throwing a wrench in the wheel of your own car!” And it’s true. Your pessimism can:

    • Repel others: People may avoid you for your cynicism and negativity
    • Damage your self-respect: Excessive negative self-talk can lead to low self-esteem
    • Ruin your prospects: You may end up talking yourself out of situations that could’ve led to you finding your love

    6. Unhealthy relationship patterns

    So, why is it hard to find love? A Reddit user says how she self-sabotages her love life every time she goes about seeking love, “It feels a bit like drowning with feelings of high pressure, nervousness, tightness in my chest. I tend to assume my partners lie to me, cheat, fake love. Feels quite awful and it’s definitely not fair.” Well, these are signs of unhealthy relationship patterns.

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    And often, such unhealthy relationship patterns may be responsible for you not being able to find love. Dhriti lists a few such patterns:

    • Being a control freak, such as stalking them or keeping tabs on their movements
    • A tendency to manipulate people
    • Being dishonest with your partner
    • Suspecting them of cheating on you

    7. Unresolved trauma

    If you’re wondering, “Why can’t I find love?”, remember that past relationship trauma or childhood trauma can, in many ways, hamper your prospects of finding love again. Dhriti believes, “Our past pain forces us to repeat dysfunctional patterns of behavior because at some point, this behavior kept us safe.” However, even when we seemingly recover from such traumatic situations, these behaviors persist and may manifest as:

    • Anger issues
    • Trust issues
    • Communication problems
    • Poor self-esteem

    8. Lack of self-awareness

    Are you still asking yourself, “Why is it hard to find love?” One possible reason for you not finding love could be your lack of self-awareness. Dhriti says, “One of my favorite quotes goes like, “You can only meet others as far as you have met yourself.” This means that you need to know and understand who you are, in order to understand someone else.”

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    Lack of self-awareness can feel like:

    • Inability to decide what you want from a partner — short-term relationship or long-term commitment
    • Indecisiveness about your own life goals
    • Being finicky about your own interests

    9. Unwillingness to compromise

    Dhriti believes, “In a loving relationship, two individuals come together to form a third entity — the committed relationship itself that both are responsible for ensuring the health of. This can only be achieved through compromises on both ends.” So, if you often wonder, “Why can’t I find a boyfriend or girlfriend?”, remember, finding love is not about “my way or the highway”, but about realizing that there are more important things to be taken care of.

    10. Inflated ideas about love

    Be it the constant supply of perfect couple selfies on Instagram or the portrayal of mushy love in romcoms, this generation has perhaps created a false notion of love. Love isn’t all roses and candle-lit dinners. And unrealistic expectations can hamper your chances of finding love.

    Dhriti agrees, “Love is not found, it is created. You work on it. And seeking perfection will only hinder your chances of finding the right person. There is no such thing as a perfect person for someone. There will be people you align with more than others, and whatever comes next will depend on how you interact with them.”

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    11. Limited social circle

    One big mistake that people who’re left wondering, “Why can’t I find love?”, make is not looking beyond their comfort zone. So, if you’re not meeting people beyond your domain – be it your social class, profession, or interests, you will limit yourself to the same set of friends and acquaintances. This will limit your interactions and prospects of meeting people and, hence, of seeking love and finding someone special too.

    Dhriti says, “Make sure you’re not mistaking the pond for the big, wide ocean and then wondering, “Why can’t I find a boyfriend or girlfriend?” You may yourself be limiting your chances.”

    12. Poor communication skills

    Another significant factor in seeking love and finding someone is your communication skills. Dhriti explains, “Not being able to convey yourself clearly or understand others will obviously hinder your ability to fall in love.” It’s not just important to know the answer to, “How do you want to be loved?”, but also equally important to let others know that.”

    Communication skills don’t just include the way you talk, but also non-verbal cues, such as body language, including gestures, postures, and eye contact. For instance, smiling a lot, hand movements while talking, and leaning toward your object of interest are all ways in which you can make a person feel you’re interested in them.

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    13. Difficulty trusting others

    Trust issues, stemming from past experiences, are completely normal but can contribute to major hurdles in finding love. Dhriti says, “Without taking that leap of faith, you can’t reach the love you seek.” One of my friends, Cathy, was so deeply affected by her ex, who had broken up with her over a text after dating her for 3 years that she stopped trusting people. Cathy once confided in me, saying though she was keen on finding love again, she hated the idea of placing her trust in the wrong people.

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    14. External factors

    If you’re often complaining, “I’m feeling like I will never find love”, well, remember, a lot of external factors can be probable hurdles on your way to finding love. Dhriti lists a few:

    • Economic factors: You may have just gotten laid or are financially unstable. So, that may prevent you from reaching out to potential partners
    • Geographical constraints: You may be posted in a remote location, where there aren’t enough places to socialize. You may also be interested in someone from a different city or town, and lack of face-to-face interaction may mar your chances of striking up a rapport with them
    • Family values: A lot of people are bound by rigid family values, where falling in love may be considered taboo unless your beau belongs to the same religion or shares the same values. This prevents you from finding true love to a great extent

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    15. Priorities in life

    Dhriti feels, “Many a time, it’s our priorities in life that prevent us from getting the love of our lives.” In fact, you may end up being too engrossed in your own world and too emotionally unavailable to find love. Here are a few such instances:

    • You may prioritize your career and work long hours, leaving you with no time to focus on your love life
    • Your friends take up most of your time, leaving you with little or no time to find love
    • You spend most of your leisure focusing on your interests and hobbies, instead of swiping for love on dating apps

    How To Turn Things Around If You Can’t Find Love

    We hope we have given you enough reasons in the section above to help you find answers to your burning question, “Why can’t I find love?” But, hey, now that you know why you probably can’t find love, if you still tell yourself, “I want to feel what love is”, we’ll give you a few tips to help you in your pursuit.

    Well, we don’t believe it’s an exhaustive list, as ‘finding love’ isn’t a set task that has set rules. Nonetheless, the following tried-and-tested tips on how to find love may work in most cases. So, if you’re stressed because you can’t find a girlfriend, or boyfriend, or are often wondering, “Will I ever find love?”, read on:

    1. Focus on self-improvement

    Instead of wondering, “Why can’t I find a boyfriend, or girlfriend?”, work on yourself and focus on self-love and self-development. Dhriti advises, “Remember to approach this with kindness and compassion. You can’t hate yourself into being better, and you don’t deserve to be hated either. So, treat yourself like a work-in-progress. Self-love is the secret to fulfilling your “I want to feel what love is” desire.”

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    Here are some tips on how you can grow:

    • Take up a hobby that you’ve always wanted to pursue, be it painting or dance
    • Identify your flaws and fix them, whether it’s your communication skills or your habits
    • Groom yourself and invest in self-care

    2. Expand your social circle

    Do you often ask yourself, “Will I ever meet someone?” Well, to meet someone special, make sure you’re in the right circle. Your social circle can make or break your chances of finding love. Dhriti feels, “The best way to find love is to expand your social or friend circle. You need to step out of your comfort zone and interact with new people. A stagnant life never gets you anywhere.” Here are some tips on how to do it:

    • Attend new social events, such as drama or music fests
    • Ask your friends to introduce you to new circles or friends
    • Join clubs, workshops, or hobby classes

    3. Be open to new experiences

    Instead of asking your friends, “Will I ever find love?”, focus on new experiences. Dhriti lays stress on “being open-minded to accept new experiences.” You see, just attending new social events isn’t enough. You need to clear all mental blocks and inhibitions. You also need to stop being judgmental, start accepting different points of view, and spend time knowing people of different points of view.

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    While it’s understood that you’ll be looking for someone your interests match with, you also need to realize that no two people are exactly alike and that it’s the differences that make people more attractive and interesting.” Dhriti adds, “Not only will this increase your chances of meeting interesting people but will also boost your self-worth, a large part of which we derive from meeting challenges and overcoming them.”

    4. Practice being authentic and genuine

    Finding an answer to, “Will I ever find love?”, may involve some introspection. Ask yourself if you’re being genuine enough and not living a life that looks good on social media. After all, your made-up persona could be one of the reasons why you can’t find love.

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    Being open to new experiences and hobbies and being genuine can get you a lot of opportunities to find love

    You may also be rushing into things for all the wrong reasons. We agree you need to put your best foot forward when you’re getting into a new relationship, but make sure you’re not catfishing your prospective romantic partner in the hope of finding a good match. At least, let them know who you really are, your quirks, your negatives, etc.

    Dhriti feels, “It’s crucial to be your authentic self and showcase your true likes and dislikes while trying to get people to love you.” You need not put up a fake persona to make someone like or love you. So, stop telling yourself that you cannot be loved for who you are.”

    5. Opt for clear communication

    One sure-shot way of finding love is to ask yourself, “How do you want to be loved?”, and then communicate the answers to the right people. Yes, you deserve love, my friend, but how will your potential partners know what you’re looking for, if you don’t tell them?

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    Dhriti advises, “Instead of going around telling your friends, “I want to feel what love is”, focus on communicating clearly and honestly to the person you fancy. This can be intimidating. So, it’s a good idea to start around people who you are comfortable with.” To improve communication, you can:

    • Let people know you like them, through subtle hints
    • Set clear boundaries. Let them know what you tolerate and what you don’t. Communicate what offends you
    • You can also communicate your expectations, once you set the ball rolling

    6. Seek support

    If you often find yourself dejected because you can’t find love or find yourself wondering, “Will I ever meet someone?”, fret not! You’re not the only one. Instead of lamenting, “I want to feel what love is”, talk to friends and family, join support groups, or consult a relationship coach or a mental health professional. If you’re considering seeking help, Bonobology’s counseling services are here for you.

    Key Pointers

    • Though traditional views suggest one needn’t find love, because it finds you, these days, it’s crucial to find the right person amid a sea of options
    • Some of the most prominent reasons for not finding love are self-doubt or low self-esteem, fear of rejection, and limited social circle
    • A few tips on finding love, when you’re wondering why you can’t find a girlfriend or boyfriend, include: focusing on self-improvement, being open to new experiences, and seeking support from mental health professionals

    We hope you aren’t still clueless or asking yourself, “Will I ever find love?” You see, the concept of love varies from person to person. First, you need to find an answer to: how do you want to be loved? It’s also true that love isn’t easy to find, and there’s no easy answer to why you can’t find a girlfriend, or boyfriend, especially if we’re looking for true love or a healthy relationship, and not mere flings or hook-ups.

    But it’s also true that merely looking for love, without fixing one’s own shortcomings isn’t going to get you anywhere. Likewise, love isn’t a collection of features or qualities. It’s an overwhelming feeling you get with the right person, even if that person is a bit flawed.

    So, instead of focusing on finding someone who checks all the qualities on your list of ‘Mr,/Ms. Right’, find someone who brings you peace. And of course, go through our list of tips if you face any hitches. After all, you’re someone who deserves true happiness. All the best!

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  • Looking For 3 Words To Make A Woman Want You? 51 Phrases To Try

    Looking For 3 Words To Make A Woman Want You? 51 Phrases To Try

    In the world of dating and romance, words can be like magic spells, casting a spell of attraction and desire. But what are those special 3 words to make a woman want you? In this article, we’ll explore 51 phrases that can make her heart flutter and draw her closer to you.

    From genuine compliments about her intelligence to sweet words about her smile, each phrase is like a little love potion designed to make her feel special and wanted. We’ll dive into the power of words and body language, discovering how simple words can have a big impact on how she feels about you. So, get ready to learn the secrets of seduction through the right words. Whether you’re looking to spark a new romance or deepen an existing connection, these magical words for girlfriend are sure to make her want you more.

    What Are The 3 Words To Make A Woman Want You? 51 Ideas

    In the dating game, small words go a long way. But there’s a big question: What are those three words to make a woman want you? We’re going to explore 51 ideas that might just do the trick. These words are like little secrets to make her feel special and want to be with you.

    Running out of romantic things to say to a woman? Not anymore. From saying nice things about how she looks to telling her how smart or kind she is, each idea is a way to show her how much you admire and like her. This is your one stop for three word love sayings, and we’ll see how using the right words can make her feel amazing and draw her closer to you. Get ready to learn about some magic words to attract a woman and the power of right words in making someone like you more. Whether you’re starting a new relationship or want to make your current one stronger, these simple words can help you express your feelings and make her really want you:

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    1. I love you

    The classic three magical words are “I love you.” When it comes to using magic words to attract a woman, this is a no-brainer. Saying these three straightforward yet impactful words is the most genuine way to demonstrate commitment and dedication. They communicate your true feelings.

    2. You’re the one

    Are there any 3 words more powerful than “I love you”? Of course! You’re telling her that she is special to you and cannot be replaced, by using this statement. It’s a positive way to convey that she is the only person in your life who truly matters in your opinion.

    3. You inspire me

    “You inspire me” is one of the best combinations of 3 words to make a woman want you, as you are letting her know that she has had a good impact on your life. It conveys your admiration for her intelligence, charm, and general aura, in addition to her attractiveness.

    4. You understand me

    These words convey your gratitude for her ability to recognize, embrace, and relate to the true you. Telling her that you’re understood says that she genuinely “gets” you.

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    5. I adore you

    This expression is something all the girls love to hear. Telling her that she has a special place in your heart and touching on a level of adoration that transcends simple attraction makes it much stronger than simply saying “I like you.”

    You are my sunshine!

    6. Trust in us

    This expression suggests a strong sense of unanimity and common destiny. Demonstrating your belief in the strength of your long-term relationship and your perception of the two of you as a team reassures her of your commitment. These words will make her understand that it’s not just some mere attraction that you feel for her.

    7. You impress me

    There has never been a better combination of three words to make a woman want you. Saying this to her shows how much you value her exceptional traits. You can describe what you find remarkable about her by saying that she impresses you.

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    8. You fascinate me

    You are completely captivated by her charm — body, mind, and spirit. Through these 3 words to make a woman want you, you will make her understand that she has hooked you completely.

    9. You’re my sunshine

    These heartfelt words will help you in expressing love, and make her realize how she brightens, warms, and delights your life. It tells her that, like the sun, her disposition brightens and cheers you up every day.

    10. Forever with you

    These 3 words to make a woman want you guarantee an ongoing commitment. They demonstrate to her that you two have a lasting future together and that you are not just in it for the short-term rush. These words can make any woman’s heart melt.

    11. You exude elegance

    Saying something like this draws attention to her grace, poise, and charm in a subtle way that will deepen her love for you. This expression also states that her elegant sensuality contributes to her seductive appeal.

    12. You’re very pretty

    So, how do you make a woman want you? Saying “You’re very pretty” to her lets her know that you find her beauty remarkable and inspiring. It’s a strong compliment for women that goes above and beyond the ordinary, conveying the idea that her appearance is strikingly significant. Don’t skip that eye contact though!

    13. You shine bright

    In order to highlight her brilliant and lively personality, use vivid imagery when you say these words. These magical words for girlfriend convey the idea that she exudes a strong glow from within that draws people’s notice and admiration. This will have a positive impact on her, giving her a sense of confidence and appreciation.

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    14. You glow within

    Honor her feminine energy that illuminates her personality as well as her outward beauty. Saying this is a way for you to celebrate her kindness, spirit, and character, while also acknowledging that her inner beauty is just as evident as her outward features.

    15. Your style rocks

    Wondering what are those 3 words to make a woman want you? Honor the ways she wears her clothes to express who she is by saying “Your style rocks.” Tell her that you think her style stands out from the crowd because it is not only appealing but also audacious, creative, and unique.

    16. You’re so glamorous

    Looking for some magic words to attract a woman? Telling her that she’s gorgeous and glamorous expresses your admiration for her remarkable elegance and charm. These are words that any girl would love to hear, as they can boost her confidence.

    17. You look fantastic

    Take a look at these three words to make a woman want you: “You look fantastic.” This simple but effective statement lets her know how much you value her appearance. You’re essentially praising her physical appeal and the time and effort she puts into her appearance. It’s a universal expression that works in any circumstance.

    18. You’re so hot!

    Here’s a direct, audacious, and seductive method to let her know you’re attracted to her physically. It tells her that you find her enticing, which boosts her self-confidence regarding her beauty. Compliment her sexy dress and her shiny hair, and watch her melt for you.

    19. You’re my vision

    These magical words for girlfriend offer a creative and poetic way to acknowledge her beauty. This expression implies that she looks so amazing and breathtaking that she resembles an enthralling scene or a picture, almost like something out of a dream.

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    20. I’m in awe

    Tell her how much her beauty has impressed you and how it caught you off guard. These are powerful words that convey your fascination with her — not just your admiration for her beauty, but also your overwhelming sense of gratitude that this amazing woman is yours.

    21. What stunning legs!

    Tell her you are aware of and grateful for the little details in her appearance. Tell her that you’ve noticed her amazing legs if she flaunts them in a fancy dress or a cute pair of shorts and you simply find her irresistible. She will adore you for this.

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    22. You are mine

    Looking for 3 words to make a woman want you? This is a direct and daring way to tell her how much you want her. This expression conveys not only sensual but also mental and emotional attraction. Tell her how much you miss her company, your physical closeness with her, and her presence. The more masculine energy you exude, the better.

    23. You’re so yum

    Go ahead, make her feel sexy and desirable. This is a playful, flirtatious compliment that implies that her charm and beauty are so alluring that they’re on par with something delicious. These words show her how much you appreciate her senses, which gives your conversations a spicy and enjoyable vibe.

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    24. You’re so ravishing

    Check out these three words to make a woman want you. Remark on how her beauty occupies your mind all the time and make her feel confident about her demeanor and physical attractiveness. Tell her how much you adore her and how captivating and alluring she is.

    25. Let’s make love

    If you’re still asking yourself, “How do you make a woman want you?”, then use these 3 words. This expression is a seductive, intimate way of begging for a passionate, in-depth relationship. It expresses both emotional and physical intimacy, indicating your desire for a shared experience that transcends the material world.

    26. Let’s go upstairs

    Seize the moment by saying these 3 words and spend some time alone with her, as this expression suggests an invitation for intimacy and seclusion. It alludes to a desire to enhance the passionate and sensual energy between you two by going deeper in your relationship in a more exclusive and intimate setting.

    27. Come here now

    Has she done anything especially tender and seductive? Your command expresses how much you want her. It expresses your desire to be near her and piques your genuine interest in her, escalating the passion for one another.

    28. Your body’s exquisite

    Take a look at these three words to make a woman want you. By uttering these seductive words, you are respectfully and artistically praising her physical attractiveness. They show reverent appreciation for her body, recognizing its special qualities and the attraction it has for you.

    29. I crave you

    Women love this one! Tell her how much you’ve been missing her, and let her know how much you want to be near her, touch her, and be with her. This charming expression takes your love to a deeper level.

    30. Kiss me now

    Wanna make that woman obsess over you? Then bring out that masculine energy. This audacious order expresses a strong yearning for her love. By letting her know how much you want her close and intimate, you’re creating a sense of urgency and intimacy in your relationship.

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    31. You smell nice

    Most women love to hear that they smell good. Go ahead and praise her fragrance, which is a very private and intimate feature. Prove to her that you are attracted to her not just because of the way she looks but also because of the way she smells. This can make her feel valued and incredibly desirable.

    32. I’ll cook dinner

    Trust us, this is easily one of the most romantic things to say to a woman. Preparing a surprise dinner becomes more than just a mundane chore when you say this. It becomes a deliberate act of love and care that makes room for enjoyment and relaxation. She’ll believe you to be the man of her desires.

    33. You’re quite generous

    Searching for 3 words to make a woman want you? Check this one out. This one does wonders in the initial stages of the relationship. Tell her that her radiant kindness makes a lasting impression, making her stand out and exhibiting a charming quality that is greatly admired.

    34. You’re my soulmate

    This is practically one of the most romantic things to say to a woman. Being soulmates is something beyond ordinary. It creates an unbreakable link that unites two souls in a meaningful and rewarding dance of life. Every woman wants to hear these words.

    35. Let’s get married

    Say it only if you truly mean it. A marriage proposal is more than just a conventional commitment. It is a deeply personal proclamation of true love and a pledge to ride out life’s ups and downs together.

    36. I’m so lucky

    How do you make a woman want you? By telling her how lucky you are to have her in your life! This overwhelming sense of luck indicates not only good fortune but also the deep happiness and thankfulness brought about by her steadfast love.

    37. Wanna move in?

    This is high up on the list of grand declarations. Proposing to live together becomes more than just a suggestion. It expresses a desire to start a life together and make a lot of memories.

    38. You got this

    This is easily one of the best combinations of 3 words to make a woman want you because encouragement becomes more than just a pick-me-up. It’s a powerful declaration of your unwavering belief in her resiliency and competence. Your faith in her is crucial.

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    39. I appreciate you

    Who wouldn’t want to feel important and acknowledged? Make her feel appreciated, as it goes beyond genuine compliments. It’s an acceptance of her for who she is, what she’s done, and the good she’s done.

    40. I trust you

    Any romantic relationship starts with trust. It’s not just a word, but an unwritten agreement that emphasizes your complete confidence in her honesty and dependability.

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    41. I’m here, always

    This assurance of unfailing support in the relationship can turn into a lifeline for her. One of the best combinations of three word love sayings, it is a reliable source of consolation she can always rely on.

    42. I’ll tidy up

    Grand gestures are nice, sure, but offering to clean up after dinner is a small but meaningful gesture to lessen her burdens and help with domestic responsibilities. This goes beyond simply keeping things organized. A woman wants to see that her man takes care of her well-being and is willing to take over when it comes to household chores.

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    43. You complete me

    Never miss an opportunity to make her feel cherished. This statement emphasizes the contentment and harmony she provides, demonstrating how her presence gives life a delightful twist. Who knows, she might even stop considering you a red flag.

    44. I’m paying attention

    It’s not enough to just listen to what she says, you also need to comprehend her feelings, experiences, and ideas. This commitment entails getting to know her stories, empathetically responding to her, and exhibiting a sincere curiosity about her world. Simply listening to her will make a significant difference in the quality of your relationship.

    45. You’re extremely impressive

    With these 3 words, you can tell her that she stands out for having an unmatched combination of traits, displaying an amazing blend of grace, strength, and intelligence that is genuinely captivating. This admiration highlights her remarkable uniqueness and captures the special essence that makes her who she is.

    46. Do not worry

    This statement is an offer of consolation and confidence in the face of difficulties and is more than just reassurance. It conveys a willingness to share responsibilities in relationships and to offer assistance in getting through any turbulence together.

    47. I’m here babe

    Here are 3 words more powerful than I love you: “I am here.” This statement is a promise of emotional availability and unwavering support, not just physical proximity. It acts as a constant reminder of unwavering allegiance and a promise to be there during happy, sad, or trying times.

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    48. I miss you

    This is an admission of the yearning felt when she’s gone. It represents her influence and how her presence improves daily life by elevating commonplace moments to extraordinary ones.

    49. You’ll rock it

    It’s more than just a catchphrase meant to inspire. It’s evidence of your confidence in her abilities. This statement emphasizes your strong belief in her ability to succeed, recognizing her skill and confirming her ability.

    50. You are safe

    Show her that you’re a real man by giving her emotional security in addition to physical safety. This statement promises a respectful, loving, and trusting environment, where she can be herself without worrying about being judged or hurt.

    51. Just be yourself

    This is an affirmation of her uniqueness rather than a straightforward directive. It honors her individuality and exhorts her to follow her heart and embrace who she really is, without reservation or question.

    To sum up, we’ve learned that words work like magic and can have a big impact on relationships. From expressing love to appreciating someone’s qualities, our words can make someone from the opposite sex feel valued and wanted. By being sincere and open with our feelings, we can strengthen our connections with our partners and even start new relationships.

    So, let’s keep using words to show our love and appreciation, and let’s make sure to be honest and genuine in our expressions. After all, building strong relationships is all about communication and making each other feel special.

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  • What To Say When Proposing: Tips And Ideas

    What To Say When Proposing: Tips And Ideas

    It’s become a real occasion, hasn’t it? Thanks to social media, the entire run-up to a wedding starts even before the date has been announced. Now it’s all about the wedding proposal as well. What to say when proposing? Where to say it? How to dress? What sort of ring? How do you document the event? Everything is planned and fine-tuned to the last minute.

    Considering my wedding ‘proposal’ consisted of a meaningful look and a casual “Shall we?”, I guess it may be sour grapes speaking. So ignore my Gen-X angst, and let’s dive into the wonderful world of romance! After all, asking someone to spend the rest of their lives with you is no easy feat. So when it comes to what to say when proposing to someone, best be prepared on all fronts and start with the most important thing — the marriage proposal speech.

    How To Craft The Perfect Proposal Speech

    Yes, you must get down on one knee and produce the engagement ring, but what you say with it must be as meaningful and memorable. Let’s get into a few key things to remember when thinking of ideas on how to propose and what to say when you propose to your partner.

    But, first, what is a proposal speech anyway? It’s the way of asking for a person’s hand in marriage, but it’s also so much more. To make this personal moment all the more special, the perfect proposal speech needs to show your vulnerable side as well as sound honest and authentic.

    There are no definite rules or a formal structure for this speech, but proposing to your girlfriend/boyfriend does need to present a convincing argument as to why they should agree to marry you. Therefore, it needs to be romantic and passionate for sure. The important thing is to stay calm and start writing from your heart.

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    Tips on crafting the perfect proposal speech

    There’s a very popular Reddit thread asking for tips on what to say when proposing. My personal favorite has to be this user’s personal recommendation: “There is a vocabulary of shared words, meanings, locations, jokes, body language, and other small things between partners. This is your own private method of communication. Use this language to create a way to propose which is private, just between you two, meaningful only to you.”

    If your top question continues to be, “How can I propose to the one I love?”, we are here to help. Our top tips to help you craft your perfect proposal speech:

    1. Use your own words

    The best marriage proposal lines are always the most authentic ones. They don’t need to be poetic (if you are not a poet) or extra dramatic (if you are naturally reticent). What’s more important is that they express your true feelings. Ensure the words and feelings attached are all yours. So, don’t stress about perfection while creating a beautiful proposal for your loved one. You do you!

    2. To find the perfect things to say when you propose, dig into your past

    “How can I propose in a way that’s memorable?” you ask. Well, I would definitely recommend including some inside jokes that mean a lot to the two of you. You could make the speech a collaborative, fun activity with your friends and family, if that’s what you both are into. Or would you prefer it to be low-key rather than over the top? It’s your day and your rules.

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    If you need more help in remembering, have a look at the following questions and let the writing process flow:

    • What was your first meeting like?
    • What did you think about them, then and now?
    • What do you love most about them?
    • What things do you have in common?
    • How has your relationship altered your life?
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    I cannot imagine spending one moment without you. Will you marry me?

    3. Start your speech with a significant event

    If you are worried about what to say when proposing and are lost for ideas on how to propose, an easy beginning refers to a memorable event that both of you shared. It can be a recollection of a funny first date or that big moment when you realized you were in love. If you have any nostalgic memories you can recount, it’s an easy way to set the tone for a beautiful proposal.

    4. List out all the things you love about them

    When proposing to your girlfriend or boyfriend, you can start writing about everything that makes them special. List out the qualities you adore and that make your relationship special. Some of the best marriage proposal lines are rooted in sincere flattery. A few things to say when you propose to your partner:

    • You are the most loving person I know
    • I love the way you love my family
    • I have never met anyone as generous and patient as you
    • You are my best friend first
    • Your enthusiasm is the glue that keeps us together

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    5. Tell them why you want to marry them

    You’ve set the stage by explaining why they mean so much to you. Now take the lovely proposal to the next level by mentioning why exactly you want to marry them. What are your plans for the future? Why are you sure this is the right person to spend your life with? Get into the details and capture your future spouse with your imagination and authenticity.

    As summed up by this Reddit user, “Tell her whatever your heart needs you to say.” And that’s as much of a beautiful proposal as one could want.

    6. Keep it short

    It may seem like we are asking you to write a tome about your love life. But that’s not the case — In fact, when it comes to romantic things to say when proposing, the shorter the speech, the greater the impact. When proposing to your girlfriend/boyfriend, take that deep breath, go down on one knee, bring out the engagement ring, and utter those three or four lines that will capture the moment and your partner’s heart.

    7. One of the most endearing ideas on how to propose: Be yourself

    If you are not into formal clothes and over-the-top gestures, we urge you to stay true to yourself and keep it simple. If your partner hates attention, don’t go planning a proposal in front of their friends and family. On the other hand, if you know your partner has been dreaming about this day ever since you started dating, it wouldn’t hurt to give into the romance of the moment and plan a lovely proposal. Just be true to yourselves – in what you say and do – and let the day unfold naturally.

    8. Practice your speech

    And finally, once you have written your marriage proposal speech, remember to practice it a few times before the big day. One of the best proposal tips, it will help you get more confident with the speech and make it less awkward. It helps to say it aloud in front of a mirror or even to a trustworthy friend. But do not over-rehearse. You don’t want it to sound mechanical either.

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    What To Say When Proposing: 100 Most Romantic Things To Say When Proposing

    Now that you have the basic building blocks of what to say when you propose, let us help you with some proposal speech examples. Use these with discretion. You can mix and match. Think of these proposal tips as prompts to get your own creative juices flowing. Or even copy them into a longer, personalized speech. We leave the fun part to you. Here are 100 romantic things to say when proposing to your partner:

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    1. Marry me and make my life complete?
    2. I want to be yours forever. Say yes today, and make me the happiest person on the planet
    3. I’ve collected so many special moments with you — Remember our first date? Our first road trip together? Moving into our new home? I want so much more with you
    4. I want to turn our love story into an adventure of a lifetime. Will you be my partner?
    5. My love for you is pure. My heart knows it’s sure. Will you marry me?
    6. The strangest twists of fate brought us together. Say yes, and let’s never take our miracle for granted
    7. My search for perfection ended when I found you
    8. You are my missing puzzle piece. Please complete me and be mine forever
    9. Our love is a masterpiece. All it needs is the perfect frame. Marry me?
    10. I promise to always be your best friend, soulmate, and biggest fan
    11. Every day with you is a dream. Say yes and make it a reality
    12. I never knew what I was missing before I met you. Now that I have found you, let’s never let us go
    13. Let’s write the next chapter of our love story together. I’m ready for it all
    14. Let’s make music together. You and I, we are magic
    15. Nothing would make me happier than waking up next to you for the rest of my life
    16. I never believed in ‘forever’ until we met. Say yes and make my forever dreams come true
    17. Marry me. We’ll make every day a celebration
    18. I cannot imagine spending one moment without you. Will you marry me?
    19. When I prayed for a perfect life partner, you appeared. Marry me and be my everlasting miracle?
    20. I want to be the reason you smile every day
    21. I want my life to be special every day. I only see that happening if you accept me as your life partner
    22. You are what I have been searching for my whole life. I thank God for you every day
    23. You are the answer to my prayers. Will you continue to bless my life with your presence forever?
    24. I want to make you as happy as you make me. Will you marry me?
    25. Let’s keep discovering each other for a lifetime. What do you say?
    26. I promise to be your strength when you are weak, your smile when you are sad, and the person you run to for anything and everything
    27. You love movies. So, I’ve decided to make our love story a blockbuster. The plot twist is that I now need you to marry me
    28. You are my sunshine when it rains. My warmth when it’s winter. I want to spend every season of my life with you. Will you spend the rest of our years together?
    29. In your eyes, I see a future I could only dream of. You’ve given me the impossible
    30. With you, every day is Valentine’s Day. So, imagine a lifetime of love like ours
    31. I promise to cherish you with all my heart. Give me the chance to show you how much I love you
    32. Promise to be my anchor when life gets rough; I will be your safe harbor when you need protection
    33. The rollercoaster of life awaits us. Join me? And then, up we go
    34. You are my today and tomorrow for always and forever
    35. Am I your dream too? You’ve been mine ever since I met you
    36. We are the perfect partners — on the dance floor, on the sports field, while traveling, and even at home. Be mine for life. Please?
    37. I want to be the one who sees you at your best and loves you at your worst
    38. You are my greatest inspiration and strongest motivator. Let’s get married and be each other’s anchors
    39. I promise to stand by you during every storm. Even if you say no, my love is not going anywhere
    40. I want nothing more than for you to be my sunshine for the rest of my life
    41. In your eyes, I can see our future so clearly. Do you see the same?
    42. You are my ride-or-die, am I yours?
    43. In your arms, I have found home
    44. Give me your hand today to hold it through life’s ups and downs
    45. You wanted to get me a present last week. This is it. Marry me, my love?
    46. In this world of chaos, you are the only thing that makes sense to me
    47. I don’t need fairy tales anymore. You are my happily ever after
    48. Let’s share our morning coffee and our good night kisses for the rest of our lives
    49. From the first day we met, I knew we had something special. There is no doubt in my heart that we are meant to be together forever
    50. Accept my ring and my heart, today and forever
    51. Let’s hop aboard this train of life together. The journey starts today and ends at never
    52. There is no other story as sweet as our love story. Be mine, and let’s write a bestseller
    53. There are a million reasons I fell in love with you. I want to spend the rest of my life coming up with more and more
    54. I always thought there was nothing you could do to make me happier. But there is — You can be my partner for the rest of our lives
    55. Accept this ring and you accept my heart. It is yours from this day on
    56. You know how I love logic and science? Well, marrying you is the most sensible and logical thing I could do
    57. You are my greatest blessing. Say you will grow old with me
    58. You will always have the best of me. I am yours to take, marry, and annoy
    59. There is no confusion. I will always choose you. And I will keep choosing you till the end of time
    60. I want to wake up next to you for the rest of my life
    61. Love like ours is a once-in-a-lifetime gift. Say you will be my man so we can cherish it together
    62. Let me make you the most loved woman in the world
    63. Can you hear my heart beating? It gets stronger when you are close to me. Please marry me and be my heartbeat forever
    64. You are everything and more than I ever dreamed possible
    65. Hold my hand, we’ll step into the sunset of our lives together
    66. You are my favorite hello and saddest goodbye; let’s get hitched so we never have to part
    67. I love how we never run out of things to talk about. I love how you always put me first. I love how you love
    68. I want to be a better person, and with you, I know it’s possible. Spending the rest of our lives together can only make things better
    69. How is it that you always know how to make my heart happy?
    70. Your heart is my home
    71. You once asked me if I’ve ever fallen in love. Here’s my answer: Yes, many times, and always with you
    72. The best thing about me is you
    73. You are the reason I now believe in love
    74. From the moment we met, you changed my life in innumerable ways. Today, I ask you to marry me because I cannot imagine a life without you in it
    75. We may have met by chance, but I know we are meant to be together forever
    76. I love the feeling I get when I see you. I want to feel like that every day
    77. Be mine, and let’s build a life we have always dreamed of
    78. In the words of a famous movie, “I’m just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her.”
    79. Will you do me the honor and be my bride?
    80. Home isn’t a place. It’s a person. And for me, that person is you
    81. Meeting you made me understand why it never worked out with anyone else
    82. I started writing a list of why I love you, and I still haven’t stopped writing
    83. Do you remember the time when we? That’s when I knew you were the one!
    84. Life is full of challenges, but nothing worries me if I know you are by my side
    85. If fools are the ones that fall in love, will you marry this fool?
    86. My life before you was black and white. After meeting you, I see joy in the little things. Thank you for coloring my life with happiness. Will you marry me?
    87. I can’t paint or sing to save my life. But I can love you till the end of time
    88. Life is too short to make bad decisions. I promise I’ll be the best decision you’ll ever make
    89. Do you have any plans for the next 50 years?
    90. You are perfect. Marry me, and let us create a perfect life together
    91. You are the apple of my eye. Marry me and keep me healthy forever
    92. I can conquer the world with you by my side
    93. I can’t wait to have moments like <mention a specific memory> for the rest of my life
    94. Who would have thought that the stranger I once met on a blind date would be someone I can’t imagine spending my life without?
    95. I love that we both want the same things in life
    96. You were my first love, and you will be my last
    97. Nothing compares to how intensely you care about the world, and still manage to have so much compassion for me
    98. No one else holds my heart the way you do. Will you please marry me?
    99. I have a problem. I have only one life to share with you
    100. You filled a hole in my heart that I never knew I had

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    • Stumped for ideas about romantic things to say when proposing to your partner? Choose from the 100 lovely proposal ideas in this article to get those creative juices flowing
    • Our proposal tips will help you craft the most memorable day for both of you. You don’t have to go over the top you just have to be sincere
    • It’s important to keep it as natural and authentic as possible
    • Remember, these proposal speech examples should be used only as a framework for your thoughts and memories

    Now you know what to say when proposing to your partner. The ‘perfect’ proposal speech is the one that makes your private moment memorable for both of you. While you could possibly get away with “Let’s get married!” (like a certain spouse we shall not name), keep in mind that this is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to woo your partner and sweep them off their feet with the most romantic things to say when proposing.

    Odds are you and your partner will recount the proposal story to quite a few people, so it pays to be prepared, give it your best, and face the ensuing social media frenzy in style. You got this!

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  • Worried How Aging Would Impact Your Relationship? New Research Offers Hope

    Worried How Aging Would Impact Your Relationship? New Research Offers Hope

    The impact of aging on you, your significant other, and your relationship is a common concern. It can be heartbreaking to face the realities of your own limitations as well as your partner’s, as your shared journey veers toward senior years. Worries about debilitating conditions like Parkinson’s, dementia, and heart disease begin to loom large. Not to mention, having to grapple with a diminishing libido that leaves you searching for newer ways to feel connected to your partner.

    What if we tell you there is promising new research that can alleviate these fears and offer hope for a semblance of control over your body and mind even in your advancing years? Studies suggest that GHRP-6, a growth hormone, may stimulate the anterior pituitary gland’s normal growth hormone release. Along with a small number of analogs of ghrelin that have been produced in the last several decades, GHRP-6 is a growth hormone receptor agonist and ghrelin itself.

    Researchers have speculated that it may positively affect neurons involved in Parkinson’s, brain function correlated to arousal and copulation, memory development, scar formation, and heart muscle cells. GHRP-6 is believed to have moderate to high selectivity and is active. Let’s explore more about what it means for your health and your relationship.

    GHRP-6 Peptide And Cognition

    Researchers have been trying to pinpoint exactly how physical activity and exertion affect memory and learning for a while now. No one knows for sure how physical stimulation boosts memory and attention but there’s always been a good reason to think it does.

    Improvements in blood flow and nebulous mentions of growth hormone (GH) were first attributed to the positive effects of physical activity on cognition. Studies in rats have indicated that GHRP-6 may aid in consolidating freshly acquired memories and converting short-term memories into long-term storage, providing further data that GH may play a significant role in memory formation.

    According to the available data, ghrelin/GHRP-6 seems to have a function in spatial learning tasks. It seems that ghrelin and other growth hormone secretagogues may mediate the cognitive advantages of physical activity and that the GH impact is indirect and may be secondary to these peptides.

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    GHRP-6 Peptide And Neuroprotection

    Researchers use animal models of stroke to study whether GHRP-6 can prevent neurons and other CNS cells from dying due to inadequate blood flow. The GHRP-6 peptide has been theorized to have two functions: first, it is believed it may preserve brain tissue during an acute stroke; second, it might help restore memory loss after a stroke if given at the right time.
    It seems that ghrelin and its analogs might prevent programmed cell death (apoptosis) and inflammation in the brain, shielding neurons from the effects of their genes and their environment in the aftermath of a stroke.

    GHRP-6 Peptide And Parkinson’s Disease

    A 2018 research identified ghrelin receptors in the substantia nigra, an area of the brain impacted by Parkinson’s disease, which further refined the speculation of GHRP-6’s potential to preserve brain tissue. The expression of ghrelin receptors on neurons in the substantia nigra has been hypothesized to decrease in research models with established hereditary connections to Parkinson’s disease.

    In addition, the presentation of an antagonist is believed to cause Parkinson’s symptoms in rats who have this abnormality. Therefore, research indicated that agonists such as GHRP-6 may have a place in the context of Parkinson’s. By attaching to the reduced receptors, the peptide may lessen apoptosis in substantia nigra neurons, which might delay or avert the start of Parkinson’s disease, as asserted by scientists.

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    GHRP-6 Peptide And Skin Cells

    By decreasing programmed cell death, GHRP-6 has been speculated to promote the survival of several cell types. Additionally, the peptide has been theorized to promote blood vessel formation, especially in wounds, by interacting with the CD36 receptor. In rat studies, GHRP-6 has suggested promising potential in wound healing, including accelerating the closure of wounds, enhancing the production of extracellular matrix proteins like collagen, and disrupting the normal process of scar formation.

    Investigations purport that these effects may improve the wound site’s overall structure and reduce the scar tissue’s visibility. Additionally, findings imply that the peptide may inhibit the formation of hypertrophic scars. Incorrect deposition of extracellular matrix proteins causes hypertrophic scars, such as keloids.

    GHRP-6 Peptide And The Liver

    Researchers have speculated that GHRP-6 may protect cardiac cells from free radical damage in pig models of heart attack by preventing oxidant cytotoxicity. Following a heart attack, it is believed that this discovery will pave the way for the creation of research compounds that may shield fragile yet live cells. A solution like this might have the potential to reduce mortality and enhance survival rates following cardiac dysregulation.

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    GHRP-6 Peptide And Arousal

    The central nervous system’s ghrelin receptors influence sexual behavior and drive, according to research in male rats. For example, high ghrelin levels might enhance the desire for sexual intimacy. Scientific investigations using GHRP-6 and a GHRP-6 variant that might block the ghrelin receptor have purported that ghrelin receptors in certain brain areas may contribute to regulating sex behavior and reward-seeking behavior. These results have implications for a variety of motivations, including sex and disorders like hypoactive sexual drive disorder, as well as maybe even hunger.

    In addition to its potential impact on motivation, ghrelin may influence mood, according to some studies. Data from rodent studies suggests that GHRP-6 and other ghrelin receptor agonists may alleviate depression and enhance activity in regions of the brain linked to mood, especially under stress conditions. GHRP-6 peptide for sale can be found online; it’s only for research and educational purposes. You must be a licensed researcher to purchase GHRP-6.

    References

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    [ii] S. Beheshti and S. Shahrokhi, “Blocking the ghrelin receptor type 1a in the rat brain impairs memory encoding,” Neuropeptides, vol. 52, pp. 97–102, Aug. 2015.

    [iii] K. Tóth, K. László, and L. Lénárd, “Role of intraamygdaloid acylated-ghrelin in spatial learning,” Brain Res. Bull., vol. 81, no. 1, pp. 33–37, Jan. 2010.

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    [v] S. J. Spencer, A. A. Miller, and Z. B. Andrews, “The Role of Ghrelin in Neuroprotection after Ischemic Brain Injury,” Brain Sci., vol. 3, no. 1, pp. 344–359, Mar. 2013.

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  • 11 Red Flags When Dating In Your 60s | DON’T Ignore These

    11 Red Flags When Dating In Your 60s | DON’T Ignore These

    What’s the first picture that comes to your mind when you think of dating? A cute, young couple sitting in a pretty café, holding hands, and giggling? Well, what if we break all your notions and tell you older people can date too? And we’re talking about people in their 60s. But while we’re slowly coming to terms with older people being comfortable in the dating world, we need to be wary of the red flags when dating in your 60s.

    In your 60s, you’re expected to be financially secure, emotionally mature, and better aware of your surroundings. But you’re also probably less tech-savvy and more prone to trusting people and dating to fix your loneliness, without looking for common ground. So, it’s always better to keep your eyes open to spot potential dangers while dating at this age. And if you’re planning on falling in love after 60, you may keep our list of 11 red flags of dating in your 60s handy and thank us later.

    11 Red Flags When Dating In Your 60s You Shouldn’t Ignore

    Dating in older adulthood must be a cakewalk, right? In fact, a study on the dating lives of people in the age group 57–85 in the US showed how people who dated in this age bracket were “more likely to be college educated and had more assets, were in better health, and reported more social connectedness.” A Reddit user shares her experience: “I found love and passion at the age of 63, and my guy is 67. Yes, it is very possible. The focus is not on marriage or the relationship expectations you had in your 20s. It is more on love, fun, shared adventures, and our dogs! But it is wonderful and real.”

    So, there shouldn’t be much to worry about if you’re dating in your 60s, right? Wrong! Dating after reaching a certain age becomes all the more worrisome because you may get into the wrong relationships just for the sake of some company and compromise on shared values. Worse still, owing to your social status or financial savings at this age, you may become the target of online fraud. So, it’s always better to tread carefully when it comes to dating in your 60s. We have collated 11 such red flags you should watch out for in case you’re looking to date someone in your 60s. Here they are:

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    1. Their past looms large over your relationship

    One of the most glaring red flags when dating in your 60s is the emotional baggage from past relationships that your date may carry, assuming they too are of the same age group. Now, while it’s common for people in their 60s to be widowed/divorced or have kids, the problem arises when such baggage spoils the meaningful relationship you share with your partner. Interestingly, this is also one of the red flags when dating an older man (or woman).

    Such red flags of a damaged woman or man may include:

    • Emotional trauma from past relationships/marriages, especially if they’re dating after 60 and divorced or have been through multiple failed relationships
    • Lingering attachment to former lovers/spouses
    • Attachment to dead spouses when they’re dating after 60 and widowed
    • Dependent kids and spouses from past relationships/marriages

    2. They lead an isolated life

    If you’re dating in your 60s, it’s common to lead an ‘empty nest’ life or one where you’re selective about making friends. But if you find someone lacking a social circle, as in, people with no friends or acquaintances or even coworkers that belong to their inner circle, that could be a giant red flag. In fact, this can be one of the more common dating a widower red flags, as he may be lonely and may latch onto you as a desperate measure. Such a lack of a social circle may also indicate:

    • There’s something fishy about the person
    • The person is rude or unapproachable or simply lacks empathy
    • The person may not have a life beyond dating you and may become overly dependent on you
    • The person is going through a depressive phase
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    Dating in your 60s can be tricky

    3. They are rigid about their beliefs

    When you’re dating someone in your 60s, your partner may have developed some boundaries that may be too rigid. While setting boundaries is good, too much rigidity may spoil the healthy relationship that you share, as there may be no room for adjustments and compromises.

    For instance, my 65-year-old coworker, Charmaine, who was dating after 60 and widowed, faced severe rigidity from the man she thought was her true love. Her lover, Albert, a 68-year-old neighbor, not only became her companion and helped her get over her loneliness but also became a pillar of support in times of need. But issues started to crop up when Albert started to control her. It seemed he had a rigid set of principles that he abided by. A staunch Catholic, he would insist she joined Church on Sundays. He also controlled her food habits. This rigidity eventually led to their breakup.

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    4. They only share positive life experiences

    You must be wary of dating people with a shady past and, more so if you’re dating in your 60s. People in this age group (assuming you’re dating someone who’s in their 60s too), often have a lot of stories to share and a lot of life experiences behind them. So, it’s a huge red flag when people only share positive life experiences with you. This shows they might be lying or projecting themselves as ‘too good’, hiding their flaws in the process. This prevents you from knowing their true traits.

    Even if they’re dating after 60 and divorced or have a messed-up background, they shouldn’t be hiding it from you. Of course, there should be some personal space and aspects of their life they may want to keep private but that doesn’t mean that they should keep major life updates from you. Remember, transparency from your partner, even in cases where they have to share their raw and ugly side, can be a rewarding experience.

    5. They are financially weak

    By your 60s, you have probably earned enough and have a secure retirement plan in place. But be wary of dating someone in your age group who isn’t financially secure yet. This might be one of the giant dating a widower red flags and may indicate that they are planning to latch onto you for financial reasons (after having lost most of their assets in a legal battle or an alimony arrangement).

    Plus, a study indicates that financial conflict is the leading cause of stress even in healthy relationships. Watch out for these financial red flags in a relationship:

    • Financial dependence in every little thing (from date nights to clothes)
    • No financial stability, planning, or investments in place
    • Expectations of being taken care of, financially
    • Excessive debt or loans

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    6. They move too fast

    In this era of online dating, it’s easy to con people with catfishing and other avenues of online fraud. And more so, if you’re someone who’s looking for a partner in your 60s on online dating sites, as people in this age group may not be as tech-savvy as the younger lot. In fact, one of the early red flags dating in your 60s is your partner wanting to take things forward at a pace you’re not comfortable with. For instance, saying ‘I love you’ too soon or making future plans within days of meeting you.

    So, be wary if:

    • They want to have a steamy video chat with you even before meeting you or right after the first date. This could be a potential trap set to blackmail you later with intimate screenshots
    • They set a timeline for future plans, such as getting engaged or married, on the second date itself or within days of meeting you. There could be a hidden motive for exploiting you financially or otherwise
    • You two decide to move in within days of knowing each other. This could be a warning sign that they just wish to share costs, rather than share their life with you
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    You should make sure they aren’t dating you for your possessions

    7. They love you for something you possess

    One of the glaring warning signs while dating in your 60s is when your potential partner is too focused on things that you possess, be it a material possession, such as a luxurious apartment or a fancy car, or some intangible assets, such as your social life. Don’t get us wrong! They can always appreciate what you have. But if your dates always end up with them using you for road trips, luxury vacations, or fancy social gatherings, you must be aware.

    In such cases, there’s a chance that your partner may date you for:

    • Financial gains (using your money to lead a posh lifestyle)
    • Your contacts (to build their professional network)
    • Your status (to show off to their less-privileged peers and score social brownie points)

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    8. They’re too secretive

    One of the early red flags dating in your 60s is ‘excessive’ secrecy from your partner, especially in a new relationship. In this era of smartphones and social media, not much of our lives are a secret, really. Not that it’s always healthy to share every life update with everyone, but a partner should not be the one you should hide your updates from. So, it can come off as a huge red flag if a partner isn’t sharing much with you. In such cases, they might:

    • Keep you away from friends and family
    • Not reveal much about their careers or what they do for a living
    • Not tell you where they live
    • Hide their cell phone from you

    9. They are pessimistic

    If you’re in your 60s, there’s a good chance that you have already gathered a lot of experiences from the golden years of your life and are emotionally stable. But that doesn’t mean you should be sad, depressed, or wallowing in self-pity.

    And if your partner can’t bring you happiness and joy and drags you in their own whirlpool of pessimism, you might as well stay away from dating altogether. So, be aware of people who bring your energy down by constant criticism and pessimism about the world. This is one of the red flags of a damaged woman or man.

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    10. They are emotionally unavailable

    One of the red flags when dating in your 60s is emotional unavailability. In your 60s, you are obviously not the emotional wreck that you were in your early 20s. So, dating too is a different ball game altogether. But then, that doesn’t mean that one isn’t allowed to show one’s emotions just because one belongs to a senior age group. After all, the hallmark of a healthy relationship is emotional support. So, stay away from emotional unavailability, a huge red flag.

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    Red flags when dating in your 60s

    11. They have no respect for your personal boundaries

    A good partner will never play with your boundaries. But when you’re dating in your 60s, it’s often expected that you may have become a bit lenient with your core principles and personal space, since you may not have too many options in the dating scene. Even if your potential date or partner is in the same age group, they may expect you to bend some personal boundaries for them.

    Surprisingly, this is also one of the red flags when dating an older man or woman, as they may assume you, being younger than them, don’t deserve respect for your boundaries. One advice from us is: don’t compromise on your relationship boundaries, and take it as a red flag if they ask you to.

    How To Deal With Red Flags When Falling In Love After 60

    So, does dealing with so many potential red flags when dating in your 60s leave any room for fun? A Reddit user shares her experience of falling in love after 60: “I’ve been having fun dating and I’m 62..found a couple awesome men and have had incredible sex…I’m gettin’ it while I can. I’m not the type of woman that has to have someone around all the time…it’s nice when they go home and I’m alone for a couple days.”

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    So, yes, it’s possible to enjoy the dating scene in your 60s, but you should know exactly what you want. It’s important to be flexible and open-minded, but it’s also crucial to be on your guard and run a proper fact-check on the person you’re dating, just to make sure you’re not being exploited financially or otherwise. So, here are some tips from our end, that will help you deal with the potential red flags while dating in your 60s:

    • Take your time: Dating in your 60s may not be a walk in the park, as you may have evolved as a person widely since your younger days. So, take your time to get adjusted to the dating pool and focus on matching energy rather than plunging into the dating pool and being with the wrong person or someone with different values or life goals. Don’t fall for narcissistic behavior or unhealthy tactics either, such as love bombing
    • Learn about technology: The dating scene can change for the better if you’re well-acquainted with technology, especially if you’re planning to get into a new relationship. Learning about dating apps and tips and tricks for online dating can help you score a better match. Plus, being aware of cyber fraud and dishonest means such as catfishing can help you avert major dangers
    • Make your physical and mental health a priority: Apart from common interests, compatible life goals, and shared values, the other most significant factor in dating in your 60s is your health. So, the best way to deal with dating red flags at this age is to stick to what’s good for your physical and mental health and shun the rest. Stay away from people who force you to compromise on a healthy diet or lifestyle
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    • Keep your mind open: Just like you should never adjust to rigidity in your partner, you should try to be open-minded too. Embrace changes and meet people from different backgrounds. Join a gym, a book club, or a hobby class, where you can just bump into potential partners, and don’t just stick to online dating
    • Communicate: Remember, there’s no alternative to healthy, open, and effective communication. So, make your expectations and boundaries clear to your date. Remember, while it’s important to look out for red flags when dating in your 60s, unrealistic expectations and inconsistent communication can kill a potential relationship too soon
    • Fact-check: Don’t take anything at face value, especially if it’s a new relationship. Remember, it’s better to be safe than sorry. So, put on your detective’s hat and stalk your potential partners on social media. Use features such as reverse image search to find out if they’re using a fake identity. Find out about their job history or dating history. Fact-check and be sure you’re not falling into the trap of a professional con person, and take professional help if required
    • Set boundaries: Some such boundaries may look like not letting your partner/date control your dress sense or food habits; not putting up with verbal or physical abuse, derogatory remarks, or public ridicule; and not tolerating ego hassles or the silent treatment

    Key Pointers

    • Dating in your 60s is not as easy as dating in your 20s, in spite of a better social and financial situation
    • Some of the red flags when dating in your 60s are financial incompatibility, lack of respect for boundaries, and past baggage
    • Some tips to deal with the red flags while dating in your 60s are: taking your time, learning more about technology for dating, opting for open communication, and trying to keep an open mind

    Even among the many red flags when dating in your 60s, you should remember that the need to find a companion does not make you desperate and is completely normal, be it at any age. So, while you should definitely be conscious of the red flags and protect yourself from being harmed or exploited, you should not forget to plunge into some romance and have a good time.

    So, we hope our article helped you get some insight into what you should do if you spot some glaring red flags while dating in your 60s. Be aware, but don’t hesitate to put in your best efforts to make things work, if you think you’ve found the right person.

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    1. What should I look for in a relationship in my 60s?

    By the time you reach your 60s, you will have seen much of life. So, look for someone who can offer you peace of mind, without displaying controlling behavior. Look for someone who can complement your mental and physical health, but don’t forget to enjoy and have some fun too. But also be sure that there are no financial red flags in a relationship in your 60s. There is no set thumb rule that decides what you should look for while dating in your 60s. It all depends on what sort of experience you desire.

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  • Why Do I Miss My Boyfriend So Much: Reasons And Ways To Deal

    Why Do I Miss My Boyfriend So Much: Reasons And Ways To Deal

    Picture this: your boyfriend is away on an overseas internship, and you’re lying in one corner of your bed, listening to his favorite song and waiting for that one call from him which he’ll make when he gets free. Meanwhile, it seems like you’ve put your entire life on hold. Sounds familiar? Well, if you’ve often found yourself in situations where you’ve wondered, “Why do I miss my boyfriend so much?”, you’re at the right place. Missing a partner isn’t all that bad, but what’s unhealthy is when you start neglecting your health, job, or friends in such situations, and start indulging in unhealthy coping mechanisms or feel stressed.

    In this article, we won’t just delve deeper into the probable reasons behind you missing your boyfriend so much but will also provide some expert-backed tips to help you sail through such a tough time, with the help of our expert relationship counselor Ruchi Ruuh (Postgraduate Diploma in Counseling Psychology). So, what are we waiting for? Let’s begin…

    Why Do I Miss My Boyfriend So Much? Possible Reasons

    A friend of mine, Clare, 27, broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years a few months back. While on a call with me, she narrated how she was dying to text him and was missing him like crazy. She spent the better part of her day stalking him on social media and going through their couple photos, and eventually received an apology text from him a few weeks later. Though the breakup was temporary and she and her boyfriend eventually got back together last month, she later said how she felt “addicted” to him. And this very word perhaps describes what it is like to miss one’s boyfriend, be it during a temporary or permanent separation.

    A study, in fact, has proven how missing a lover is scientifically similar to the withdrawal symptoms cocaine addicts exhibit when they’re deprived of the drug. The physical symptoms of missing someone you love can be quite evident. But what causes such a deep emotional reaction? Well, we’ll look at a few possible reasons responsible for this longing for one’s boyfriend that most women go through when they’re not around them:

    1. Emotional attachment

    The most obvious reason women miss their boyfriends is the emotional attachment. When we interact romantically with someone, various neurochemicals, such as oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, affect our brains and make us develop bonds and emotions. Ruchi says, “The emotional connection is further heightened by shared experiences and conversations that one experiences both in happy and challenging times.”

    Related Reading: Love Vs Attachment: Is It Real Love? Understanding The Difference

    2. Support

    Ruchi says, “The next most prominent reason behind the psychology of missing a boyfriend is the support, comfort, encouragement, and reassurance that a healthy relationship brings.” So, you may be missing:

    • The time he cooked up a meal when you were sick
    • The way he stood by you when you had to admit your mother to the hospital for an emergency operation
    • The long phone calls he made at night to listen to your rants when you lost your job
    • The way he pampered you on your first date
    • All those times he took care of you when you were sick

    3. Shared activities and routines

    Ruchi says, “Shared activities, even when they are the most boring and routine chores, are imprinted in our brains and affect us when we can’t engage in them anymore.” These memories bring nostalgia when the person we shared the experiences with isn’t with us anymore. Such activities may include:

    • Watching your favorite movies
    • Playing video games together
    • Interesting intimate or sexual activities, such as couple card games
    • Texting or talking over the phone
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    If you’ve shared a lot of good times, you are bound to miss your boyfriend when he’s not around

    4. Future plans

    Ruchi believes, “When we make future plans with our partners, they help us develop a deeper bond with them, which causes us to miss them when they’re no longer around.” Such goals may not just be serious, long-term couple goals, such as getting married or starting a family. They can be smaller ones too, such as traveling together or going to a café. One of the reasons you’re missing your boyfriend could be that you’re still thinking about those plans, wishing they were part of your future.

    Related Reading: 9 Reasons You Miss Your Ex And 5 Things You Can Do About It

    5. Unique qualities

    The very qualities of our partners that draw us to them become the reasons for us missing them when they’re not with us. Ruchi says, “Such qualities could be their dry sense of humor, their understanding and caring nature, or simple traits such as their habit of taking you out for an ice-cream after a bad day.”

    6. Stress regulation

    A study has proved that women experience significantly reduced cortisol levels (a stress-inducing hormone) after being embraced by their romantic partners. Ruchi says, “Just being in the presence of your boyfriend can bring down stress levels in women and improve their nervous system.”

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    7. Reward system

    Every positive interaction with a romantic partner can create a pathway for the brain’s reward system. So, you will always be craving for that ‘feel good’ factor later too. Ruchi explains, “Any pleasurable activity with your special someone creates that dopamine reward pathway that may make you miss him when he’s no longer with you.”

    How To Tell If It’s Healthy To Miss Your Boyfriend So Much

    It’s not necessary that your boyfriend has to live in another city for you to miss him like crazy. As a Reddit user puts it: “We live close to each other and see each other at least once a week. Not being with him and not having his presence next to me makes me miss him so much.” But how healthy is missing someone so obsessively?

    And how are you coping with your breakup or your boyfriend’s absence anyway? Anxious and worried most of the time? Re-watching your favorite Netflix series that you watched with your boyfriend and crying as you do so? Or have you sunk into a whirlpool of emotional eating and are gorging on ice cream and fast food just to get over your boyfriend’s absence? Well, these are some of the unhealthy coping mechanisms and physical symptoms of missing someone you love that may harm you in the long run.

    With the help of Ruchi, we have collated a table below that will help you comprehend the differences in healthy and unhealthy behavior when you’re missing your boyfriend:

    Healthy Behavior Unhealthy Behavior
    1. Even if you’re eagerly waiting to spend quality time with your boyfriend, you will be able to maintain a calm demeanor, function independently, and be productive. 1. You will be constantly overwhelmed and will feel empty. You may experience separation anxiety and trust issues too.
    2. You maintain individuality and personal growth, pursue hobbies, go out with friends, and use his absence for doing something for self-discovery/growth. 2. You may become overly dependent on him for validation, and thus may neglect your needs and aspirations. Your identity will be defined by his presence.
    3. You will communicate your ideas, trust him, and also be emotionally secure. 3. You will stalk him, doubt him, and be constantly anxious, worried about who he’s spending time with. You may also showcase controlling and manipulative behavior.
    4. You will be able to cope with his absence in a constructive and nurturing way. You may tell him how much you missed him, when he gets back. 4. While you will miss his absence, you may show signs of micro-cheating (talking to or texting other people). When he comes back, you may be assertive, nagging, or showcase passive-aggressive behavior.

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    What To Do When You Miss Your Boyfriend — 13 Tips To Deal With It

    So, now that you know the answers to, “Why do I miss my boyfriend so much?”, are you still struggling to get over the ‘we’ habits? In this section, we’ll tell you what to do when you miss your boyfriend and help you deal with the situation in a healthy way. It could be a boyfriend in a long-distance relationship that you’re missing, an ex you wish to text or reach out to, or a boyfriend who’s temporarily out of town and away from you due to an emergency.

    All that you need to remember is that healing from or coping with this situation won’t be a linear process. Neither can there be an exhaustive list of all the stuff you can do to address this situation. But instead of feeling lonely and sad or wondering, “Why do I miss my boyfriend so much, I cry”, you can try the following 13 tips suggested by Ruchi:

    1. Stay connected

    Considering you’re still on good terms with your boyfriend or are missing a partner in a long-distance relationship, you can try to keep in touch on a regular basis, to tide over the “I miss my boyfriend” feeling. Of course, you need to keep your work schedule in mind while doing so. Ruchi suggests the following ways of being in touch:

    • Through lovey-dovey text messages
    • Scheduling video calls
    • Playing games online
    • Having steamy chats when you’re missing the physical touch

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    2. Distract yourself

    If you wish to address the “Why do I miss my boyfriend so much?” question in a healthy manner, try and distract yourself by indulging in activities you like, instead of waiting for him to fulfill all your needs. Here’s what Ruchi suggests:

    • Spend some time cooking up a favorite meal
    • Enjoy a favorite sporting activity
    • Spend some time reading

    3. Express yourself

    If you’re missing your long-distance boyfriend, try and appreciate him for all the good things that he has done for you. Ruchi feels, “It’s important to let your beau know your feelings. Show him that you care and love him.” This will break any invisible walls between you two and pave the way for a warm reunion.

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    Don’t be so immersed in your boyfriend’s memories, that you forget your friends and family

    4. Be in touch with a support network

    Don’t forget your friends and family when you’re missing your partner. Ruchi feels, “It’s your network of close friends and family members that can provide you a supportive space during this phase. So, confide in them, enjoy their company, and create strong bonds with them. Remember, you should not avoid your other relationships when you’re invested in a romantic partner or are missing them.”

    Related Reading: How To Get Through A Breakup Alone?

    My 24-year-old coworker Mandy started neglecting her friends right after starting a relationship with her current boyfriend, George. But when George moved to another city to pursue a degree, Mandy felt lonely. It was then that she realized how important keeping in touch with her friend circle was. “Why do I miss my boyfriend so much?”, she would pine, and her friends were thankfully there to ensure her well-being when she called them to confide.

    5. Focus on self-care

    Even when you’re missing your boyfriend, make sure you don’t neglect your physical and mental health. Ruchi suggests the following self-care tips to save yourself from emotional distress and ensure your overall well-being:

    • Get enough rest
    • Eat healthy food
    • Spend at least an hour a day exercising
    • Focus on relaxation techniques, such as yoga and meditation
    • Go for long walks
    • Invest in massage therapy

    6. Write a journal

    It’s always a good idea to express your thoughts, describing how you’re missing him. Ruchi suggests, “It’s a great idea to keep a journal to document the emotional turmoil you’re going through.” This will help calm you and let you channel your thoughts. You can always read your journal later and cherish some memories.

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    7. Find a purpose

    All your feelings in the “I miss my boyfriend” phase can be positively used to help you find purpose. Ruchi says, “Instead of complaining “I miss him”, indulge in some self-reflection and introspection.” Focus on your own life and your personal goals. So, you can:

    • Devote extra time to work to get that much-needed promotion
    • Get that certification that’ll help you in your career
    • Invest in a grooming workshop

    8. Do things you’ve always wanted to do

    Ruchi feels, “Instead of wondering, “Why do I miss my boyfriend so much when we are apart?”, you can spend this time wisely, doing things you’ve always wanted to do but couldn’t because of being invested in your relationship.” So, you can:

    • Finish the book you’ve been meaning to
    • Catch a movie you’ve been planning to watch for a while
    • Move away from the city and enjoy a solo vacation

    Related Reading: 11 Expert Tips To Stop Being Obsessed With Someone

    9. Brainstorm creative reunion ideas

    In case you’ve been missing your long-distance boyfriend a lot, you can utilize this gap by planning a cozy reunion. Here are some ideas from Ruchi:

    • Look for thoughtful, romantic date ideas
    • Find out the best restaurants in town to take your bae to when he gets back
    • Chalk out some couple weekend getaway ideas and itineraries
    • Plan a surprise
    • Write a mushy letter for him

    10. Avoid negative emotions

    While you’re missing your boyfriend (even if you aren’t talking now), try and avoid negative emotions. So, you can still tell yourself, “I miss him”, but:

    • Avoid any blame-game
    • Stop indulging in passive-aggressive behavior
    • Stop being judgmental or sarcastic
    • Avoid posting rants on social media
    • Avoid being jealous of his social life or achievements

    Related Reading: 9 Expert Tips On How To Control Your Emotions In A Relationship

    11. Rethink your manner of communication

    Ruchi says, “This is also a good time to reflect on how you’re communicating with your boyfriend.” Find out the flaws, if any, and focus on communicating better.” Ask yourself questions, such as:

    • Am I being too critical of him?
    • Have I been giving him enough time?
    • Do we spend enough time calling or texting?
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    12. Reflect on the strengths of your relationship

    Being away from your boyfriend will give you a clearer headspace to reflect on where you stand in terms of your equation with him. Locate the flaws if any and act on them. Find out the strengths and use them to strengthen your relationship. What is it that makes you two click? Is it your shared goals or your love for the same hobbies?

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    13. Maintain a positive attitude

    Think positive and half your issues will be solved. So, instead of wracking your brain and wondering what to do when you miss your boyfriend, try and maintain a positive attitude and mindset. Here’s how you can do that:

    • Try and think of when you will meet next
    • Re-read everyday conversations and the flirty and fun texts you exchanged when you started dating
    • Use his favorite perfume to remind yourself of him
    • Visit his favorite restaurant and order his favorite dish

    Key Pointers

    • Pining for your boyfriend and saying “I miss him” is not all that bad but can be detrimental to your mental and physical health if you overdo it
    • Some probable reasons for missing your boyfriend could be: emotional attachment, future plans, and shared activities
    • A few tips to deal with such a situation where you’re wondering, “Why do I miss my boyfriend so much I cry?”, are: distracting yourself, focusing on self-care, and avoiding negative emotions

    We’ve tried to offer you a concise guide to dealing with your emotions when you’re wondering, “Why do I miss my boyfriend so much when we are apart?” And we hope you are no longer wondering what to do when you miss your boyfriend! Remember, if your feelings for him are true, it’s completely normal to miss him when he’s not around. But that doesn’t mean you’ll lose yourself in the process.

    A partner, after all, is someone who adds to your individuality. You are a complete person with or without him. So, instead of saying to yourself, “I miss him” and ignoring your needs, try and strike a balance, focus on the positives, and look forward to the time you’ll meet again. Let your heart grow fonder with every second you miss him!

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  • ‘My Husband Starts Fights And Then Blames Me’: Ways To Cope

    ‘My Husband Starts Fights And Then Blames Me’: Ways To Cope

    It’s said that no healthy relationship is all fun and games, or roses and candle-lit dinners, for that matter. A marriage is a life-long journey full of ups and downs, some of them pretty unpredictable. Nonetheless, when a woman is left wondering, “My husband starts fights and then blames me”, quite often in the marriage, is it really a safe space anymore?

    And we’re not talking about a one-off case where a man may have tried to evade responsibility. We’re talking about regular instances of blame-shifting that may leave a good woman complaining, “My husband makes me feel worthless”, or wondering how to deal with a disrespectful husband almost every day. This is one of the signs he is controlling and manipulative and that the relationship lacks a respectful dynamic.

    With the help of our relationship counselor Dhriti Bhavsar (M.Sc, Clinical Psychology), who specializes in relationship, breakup, and LGBTQ counseling, we will explore the reasons and effects of such blame-shifting. We will also help you with some tips to deal with this situation and take care of your emotional well-being.

    Why Does My Husband Blame Me For Everything? 9 Possible Reasons

    “My husband starts fights and then blames me” – we’ve often found women saying this to their friends and loved ones. Are you too tired of being at the receiving end of all the bickering and blame-shifting in your marriage? Or are you wondering, “Why does my husband blame me for everything?”

    You see, an angry spouse doesn’t just pour all their vitriol on you but poisons the relationship too. And if you find your husband always mad at you, you may not be alone. Countless other women are perhaps facing the same situation.

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    A Reddit user shares how she feels when her husband blames her for everything that goes wrong in the relationship. She says, “He has blamed me in the past for not getting a project at work because I didn’t socialize enough with his seniors’ wives. And also for me suffering from health challenges during pregnancy (I was too weak and unfit to have a healthy pregnancy, according to him). I did overcome those health issues to deliver a full-term healthy baby, and baby didn’t require any NICU stay, etc.”

    She then goes on to list a whole lot of other issues he has blamed her for, including his anger issues, his father’s ill health, their daughter’s illnesses, and for calling him at work unnecessarily. If you’re often complaining, “My husband always puts me down”, and wish to find some answers as to ‘why’, here are some underlying issues that may cause your husband to blame you for everything:

    1. A fragile ego/sense of self

    Often, we find women complaining, “My husband makes me feel worthless”, without realizing that men who do this tend to have an ego issue. You see when a man has a fragile ego, he would often find it difficult to confront his faults and take accountability in relationships.

    Dhriti says, “Such people then start deflecting blame onto someone else, as that’s an easier way out, one that is far more acceptable to them than taking responsibility for their actions. This is a common defense mechanism that is known as ‘projection’. But you may be left wondering, “My husband starts fights and then blames me. I have no clue why!” This is a tricky situation.”

    Here’s a Reddit user’s experience: “Last night in particular, we hung out at his friend’s (M) place – just the three of us. And throughout the night, there were occasions in which I felt his remarks were really aggressive and mean to me.”

    She then goes on to say how he reacted when she confronted him about feeling bad: “…after I told him how I felt, he blew up at me. He got mad at me and started yelling at me about how I wanted to argue with him and about how I needed to respect who he is when he is with his friends and how I also needed to respect their time together.” Here, the man is clearly shifting blame onto his wife to avoid facing his own monsters.

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    2. Self-esteem issues stemming from past trauma

    If you’re always wondering, “Why does my husband blame me for everything?”, well, self-worth issues can be a major cause. When you find your husband always mad at you, remember, at times, anger can reflect unresolved issues from the past. People suffering from past trauma, or the low self-esteem that originates from such trauma, for instance, trauma from emotional and psychological abuse, find it difficult to ask for help directly.

    Dhriti explains, “Even if help is readily available, they may not ask for it because it’s hard for them to be vulnerable out of fear. Hence, they lash out at their partners because of these underlying factors.”

    Past trauma can ruin relationships

    One of my coworkers, Damien, had a tremendous self-esteem issue because he couldn’t live up to the expectations of any of his former girlfriends in bed. He had a sexual problem, which he fixed to a certain extent later, with medical advice. But when he got married a few years later, he would often try to have the upper hand over his wife, sometimes, to the point of demeaning her publicly. It was perhaps his male ego talking, or his way of making up for all the disrespect he received in his past relationships.

    3. Tendency to manipulate

    If you’re constantly complaining, “My husband always puts me down”, remember, blaming one’s partner or spouse for everything or picking up fights can be a manipulative tendency because it directly attacks the target’s self-confidence. Dhriti explains, “This way, the person getting unfairly blamed loses their confidence and becomes increasingly more dependent on the person who is criticizing them.”

    A friend, Clare, shared a similar experience. She said, “My ex-husband, Dave, was quite a manipulative person. I would say, he was narcissistic to a certain extent too. So, he played mind games and often blamed me for things that I had no part to play in. For instance, he once left his wallet at the grocery store, and then blamed me, saying he misplaced it because I distracted him by calling him up when he was there. My husband hurt me deeply almost every day, till a point when I realized his manipulative tactics were the reason for my low self-esteem and decided to part ways.”

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    4. Perfectionism

    Often, when a man is a perfectionist who struggles with managing his own expectations, he might lash out at his partner. Dhriti says, “Such people have unrealistic expectations from not only themselves but others around them as well. So, whenever you fail to live up to their expectations in your relationship, instead of adjusting their expectations to be more realistic, they blame you instead and resort to starting fights.”

    Such people often say things like:

    • “I’m only saying this for your own good.”
    • “This will help you improve.”

    5. Stress

    When men start fights, there may be underlying issues — they may be going through something stressful and are unable to effectively manage or express their frustration at the actual source. So, they end up developing anger issues and venting their frustration on their partners. Dhriti explains, “This is another defense mechanism, called ‘displacement’. In this case, emotions get displaced from their source onto someone who had nothing to do with the situation in the first place.”

    Rita, a friend of mine, related a similar tale: “Till a few months back, my husband would often get irritable at home and blame me for every little inconvenience. My husband hurt me deeply at times. So, if the AC wouldn’t work, it would be my fault, since I use it so frequently. If the bathroom door needed repairs, it would be my fault, since I “bang” the door often. And this went on, till I realized the real reason was that he was being held up for a promotion at work and someone else was taking credit for his work. So, it was all that work stress that was being deviated toward me — the punching bag.”

    6. Dissatisfaction with the marriage

    Men may become angry at their spouses if they are dissatisfied with the marriage, or have some unresolved issues or underlying reasons that they are not able to share or bring up. Dhriti says, “This can lead to resentment toward the partner and can make them lash out in different ways, one of them being blaming the wife for things unfairly.”

    Dhriti dealt with one such client, Shehnaz. She relates, “Shehnaz and her husband, Omar, have been married for ten years and have two young children. Apart from working part-time, Shehnaz also manages most of the household responsibilities. However, of late, her husband blames her for various issues, big and small.

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    “For example, if the children misbehave, Omar says she’s not disciplining them properly. When there’s financial stress, he accuses her of overspending or mismanaging the budget. Even in social situations, he criticizes her for not being outgoing enough or for saying the wrong things. Shehnaz now finds herself anxious to please him. A lot of this situation is perhaps due to the drabness of the marriage, where Omar is perhaps frustrated with the marriage itself. A little soul-searching to mend the real issues, be it financial stress or sexual dissatisfaction, can resolve this situation.

    7. Lack of accountability

    When men have a problem with accepting responsibility for their actions, they often tend to gaslight their spouses into thinking it’s all their fault instead. This is one of the signs he is controlling and manipulative. Dhriti explains, “This is common among those who’re not used to taking responsibility or accepting fault in general and hence double down on blaming others around them, mostly their spouses.”

    A Reddit user had a similar experience, “So my husband (34) of eight years has a serious issue with taking responsibility for anything. He finds a way to blame me (33) for everything. I have a never-ending list of all the insane stuff he tries to make my fault, even if I’m not present at the time.”

    8. Family opinions

    Often, men might be influenced by their family members and loved ones to ill-treat their partners. Dhriti explains, “A man’s opinion of his wife may be influenced by his family’s opinions of her. This happens especially frequently in patriarchal households, such as Indian families, where the mother-in-law may have issues with the daughter-in-law. This causes huge rifts in the marriage later.”

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    She cites a case she recently handled: “Take the instance of Raj and Priya, my clients, who are both in their late 20s. They have been married for five years and live with Raj’s parents. Whenever conflicts arise in their marriage, especially those involving decisions or disagreements with Raj’s parents, Raj tends to blame Priya.

    For example, if there’s a disagreement between Priya and Raj’s mother regarding household chores or childcare responsibilities, Raj often takes his mother’s side and blames Priya for not respecting his parents’ wishes.”

    9. His controlling nature

    When a man tends to find faults with things their partner does on her own or attempts to always have the upper hand, it’s one of the major signs he is controlling and manipulative. Dhriti says, “In such cases, men expect their partners to operate exactly as they say or dictate.” Any deviation from how they expect their partners to behave may start fights, with the man blaming his wife for everything.

    Dhriti cites a case. “My client, Annie, and her husband, George, are both working and contribute equally to the household expenses. Despite this, George controls all her decisions and frequently blames her for various issues.

    “For example, he insists on making all major decisions without consulting her, including financial matters and plans for their social life. When she expresses her opinions or desires, he dismisses them and accuses her of being unreasonable or irrational. When she tries to assert her independence and express her needs, Mark responds by belittling her. And, as a result, she has now withdrawn from all social activities.”

    Effects Of Being Blamed For Everything In A Relationship

    Being blamed for everything in a relationship isn’t a minor issue that you can shrug off. It can, in the long run, amount to severe emotional and psychological abuse. And the worst part is, you may be tempted to ignore it and go on because as they say, fights are a part and parcel of every marriage. And all the while, you may be telling your friends, “My husband is angry all the time.”

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    But now that you know the answer to the question, “What are the warning signs of an abusive relationship?”, it’s time to get some insights on the effects of an angry spouse on your mental and physical health.

    So, if you end up believing in the blame game and start saying, “Everything is always my fault in my relationship”, you can be sure you’ve reached a dangerous level of low self-esteem and that your mental health is at risk of being destroyed. So, be aware of the hazardous emotional impact of such controlling husbands. Our expert Dhriti lists some effects of such a one-sided blame-shifting in relationships:

    • Low/poor self-confidence: When your husband starts fights and then blames you often, you may have difficulty trusting yourself to do the right thing. This can result in an overall low opinion of self
    • Resentment toward the partner: Your husband’s anger may cause you to resent him, and this may lead to long-term and deep-seated anger toward him. It may also affect mutual respect
    • Feelings of inadequacy: When your husband demeans you, you may internalize negative beliefs about yourself that sound like “I am not good enough” or “I do everything wrong.”
    • Lack of trust and faith in your partner: Prolonged attacks by your husband may lead you to see them as someone who is always attacking you. You may never picture them as someone who loves you and who you should ideally feel safe around
    • Health issues: When your husband shows he’s angry with you, it may lead you to suffer from stress and anxiety. This may very well lead to permanent damage to your health and well-being
    • You start walking on eggshells: Since you’re mired in self-doubt, you also end up walking on eggshells around your partner, trying to please him, while also complaining, “My husband is angry all the time.”
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    Being blamed for everything in a relationship can affect your mental health adversely

    ‘Everything Is Always My Fault In My Relationship’: 12 Ways To Cope

    Are you struggling with unresolved conflicts in your marriage? Or finding it hard to deal with the fact that your partner blames you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship? How do you go from “My husband starts fights and then blames me” to “I have found a solution to the root cause that’s causing him to behave this way”?

    Well, our expert Dhriti suggests a number of ways you can cope with this situation of being blamed for everything in a relationship. For instance, she recommends that you set healthy boundaries in the relationship, keep your cool, and focus on seeking guidance if things don’t improve. We’ll take a closer look at the various ways in which you can deal with such a situation. So, this is how to deal with a disrespectful husband:

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    1. Educate yourself

    The first step to healing from such a toxic situation where you’re always telling yourself, “My husband starts fights and then blames me”, is learning why people blame others in this manner, and how defense mechanisms work.

    Dhriti feels, “This knowledge empowers you, and you don’t fall prey to manipulation later. So, seek answers to questions such as, “What are the warning signs of an abusive relationship?” Be aware that such unhealthy behavior leads to emotional and psychological abuse, and steer clear of encouraging it.”

    2. Stay calm

    When you’re always thinking, “Everything is always my fault in my relationship”, the best bet is to stay calm. While burying your emotions for a long time isn’t the most recommended way to deal with your husband’s blame game or to improve communication, you must stay calm through it all to maintain your emotional well-being and work toward a conflict resolution plan. Remember, responding to his actions shouldn’t necessarily translate to reacting to it.

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    Dhriti advises, “Your reactions end up giving him power over you. You should look after your emotional health instead so that you don’t get defensive and reactive when this happens. Remember that you get to decide your reality, not anyone else.”

    3. Practice setting boundaries

    Set clear and healthy boundaries when you’re around him. Dhriti says, “You do not need to accept blame or be passive when your husband treats you in this manner. Choose open communication, in a calm but firm manner that you will not accept blame for things that aren’t your fault. Keep your distance and seek help if you face grave issues, such as domestic violence.”

    4. Be objective

    Start looking at things as objectively as possible and proportion blame and responsibility. That way, you gain a deeper understanding of the root causes responsible for his behavior and be able to resolve conflicts effectively. Dhriti recommends, “While you do this, stay firmly grounded in your truth, and have that faith in yourself.”

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    5. Build a good support system

    One of the best ways to deal with spousal abuse is to build a healthy support network. So, be in touch with your friends, family, coworkers, and loved ones. Dhriti says, “Engage in activities with them that make you feel safe and happy.” Remember, seeking support is a healthy coping mechanism.

    6. Encourage your husband to take accountability

    It’s always a good idea to sit down and talk things out. Open and honest communication has no alternative. And while you’re at it, the most important bit is to make him realize his own mistakes and the gravity of your hurt feelings. Dhriti says, “You can try making him understand how his actions are impacting both of you and your marriage.”

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    7. Avoid throwing blame back

    Dhriti believes, “When trying to get someone to take ownership, attacking them or pointing fingers at them is not the answer. Try approaching from a place of understanding and curiosity instead. Mutual respect is necessary to resolve conflicts in a healthy manner.” So, here’s what you shouldn’t do:

    • Pass judgment on your partner
    • Make negative or passive-aggressive remarks
    • Ridicule him or be sarcastic
    • Make him feel guilty
    • Be abusive
    • Make him seem like the ‘bad person’

    8. Find solutions by focusing on the problem

    Remember, it’s not you against your partner. If you wish to sort things out, you need to make it a you and your partner vs the problem scenario. Encourage open communication and have an honest conversation about the underlying factors, to find solutions. Ask him to go through some self-reflection. Dhriti says, “If your partner gets stuck in a cycle of placing blame, redirect the conversation to brain-storming a solution together.”

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    9. Focus on self-care and personal growth

    Dhriti says, “One of the most important steps toward healing from or dealing with such a situation is to prioritize your own happiness and adopt self-care and personal well-being.” Here are some tips on how to do it:

    • Shift focus to your hobbies: Be it dance, art, journaling, or photography, take time out to do what you love doing
    • Learn something new: Join a foreign language class or a Zumba workshop. Learn a new skill for some self-development and personal growth
    • Spare some time to pamper yourself: Go for a spa session or splurge on clothes. Look good and feel good for yourself
    • Unwind by being amid nature: Go for a solo trip to the beaches or the mountains. Meet like-minded people at hostels or homestays

    10. Re-evaluate the marriage

    Take some time to reflect on your marriage. Sit down and jot down points, if that helps. Weigh the pros and cons of being in your marriage and ponder over whether it’s a good idea to stay or to leave. Dhriti says, “Sometimes holding on is more harmful than letting go.”

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    11. Practice effective communication

    At times, letting a person know how you’re feeling is all that’s needed but that’s the only thing that remains unsaid and unheard. So, practice effective communication. Here’s how you can do that:

    • Instead of avoiding your husband when he’s angry, show him you wish to discuss issues
    • Text or call, in case you need to maintain physical distance
    • Don’t give him the silent treatment or accept stonewalling
    • Avoid passive-aggressive behavior such as turning on the TV or slamming the door shut when he’s talking
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    Dealing with a husband who starts fights and blames you

    12. Seek professional help

    And if all else fails, and you are still clueless as to how to fix the “My husband starts fights and then blames me” issue, Dhriti has this to say to you: “To address a situation where your partner is constantly blaming you for no reason, in spite of all your efforts to fix his behavior, seek professional help and opt for individual counseling or couples therapy. It can go a long way in improving your mental health.” Seeking support doesn’t make you look weak. You can always reach out to Bonobology’s expert counselors for more help.

    Key Pointers

    • Reasons why your husband may be placing blame on you for everything can include: past trauma, stress, lack of accountability, a fragile ego, and the tendency to manipulate and make you feel guilty
    • The effects of being blamed for everything may include health issues, lack of trust, and low self-esteem
    • To deal with this situation, you can practice setting healthy relationship boundaries, be objective, focus on problem-solving, and seek professional help by opting for couples therapy or individual counseling

    We’re sure, by now, you must’ve realized that being blamed for everything in your marriage isn’t because you are at fault. If you often think to yourself, “My husband starts fights and then blames me,” remember, it hints at deep-seated issues of your partner, such as past trauma or the habit of not taking responsibility for their actions.

    Nonetheless, apart from trying your best to resolve this issue, don’t shy away from maintaining your composure and taking care of your mental health. Remember to step back and reconsider your marriage, if need be. Also make sure you’re having a good time in your own life because as they say, life is too short to fret over anything. So, if it doesn’t bring you joy in the long run, despite your best efforts, don’t hesitate to stay away from your marriage.

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  • 120 Juicy Questions To Ask Your Girlfriend

    120 Juicy Questions To Ask Your Girlfriend

    Intimacy is among the cornerstones of every healthy relationship, and it is not merely skin-deep. Real intimacy lies in understanding your partner’s deepest desires and what makes them tick. If that’s what you seek to foster in your relationship, this lowdown on juicy questions to ask your girlfriend is for you.

    Whether you want to uncover your girl’s fantasies, learn your way around her body better, explore her desires, or just want a peek inside the most private crevices of her mind, the journey begins with asking her the right questions and offering her a safe space to express herself without any fear of judgment. To that end, we’ve put together this interesting blend of spicy questions, hot questions, unique questions, and dirty questions to ask your girlfriend. Let’s dive in

    Spicy Questions To Ask Your Girlfriend

    Women aren’t always forthcoming about their expectations and desires in a relationship. For some, it can take a long time to find that comfort zone where they can express their needs unabashedly. With the right spicy relationship questions at your disposal, you can nudge her to let her guard down and understand what it is that she needs to truly thrive in the relationship. That is the whole point of asking different types of love questions to ask a girlfriend. To help you get started, here is a list of spicy questions you can weave into your conversations to get to know your girlfriend better:

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    1. What’s your ultimate fantasy that you’ve never shared with anyone?
    2. If we were to role-play, what scenario would you be interested in trying?
    3. What’s the most adventurous place you’d like to have intimate moments?
    4. Do you have any secret desires you haven’t revealed to me yet?
    5. If you could create the perfect date night, what would it involve?
    6. Is there a specific part of your body that you wish I paid more attention to?
    7. What’s the boldest place you’ve ever thought about us being together?
    8. Are you open to trying new things in the bedroom, and if so, what?
    9. If we were to write a steamy short story together, what would the plot be?
    10. How would you feel about incorporating food into our intimate moments?
    11. What’s your opinion on public displays of affection, and how far is too far?
    12. Are there any specific words or phrases that turn you on instantly?
    13. How do you feel about watching adult content together as a couple?
    14. If you could pick a celebrity to join us for a night, who would it be?
    15. What’s the most daring place you’ve ever had a romantic encounter?
    16. Do you have any fantasies about me that you haven’t shared yet?
    17. How would you feel about trying out a new position or technique in the bedroom?
    18. Is there a particular time of day that you find yourself feeling most frisky?
    19. What’s the sexiest piece of clothing I own, according to you?
    20. If we had to choose a romantic getaway, what destination comes to mind?
    21. How do you feel about introducing adult toys into our relationship?
    22. What’s your opinion on sending flirty or suggestive texts throughout the day?
    23. Are there any specific scents that you find particularly arousing?
    24. If you could add one thing to our bedroom, what would it be?
    25. How do you feel about taking a sensual dance class together?
    26. What’s the most daring thing you’ve ever done in the name of romance?
    27. Are there any intimate games or activities you’d like to explore together?
    28. How important is spontaneity when it comes to our romantic life?
    29. If you could describe our intimate connection in three words, what would they be?
    30. Do you have a specific role-play scenario you’ve always wanted to try?

    These spicy relationship questions are just the tip of the iceberg! We’ve got a lot more interesting hot, dirty, and unique questions to ask your girlfriend lined up for you.

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    Hot Questions To Ask Your Girl

    Armed with the right juicy questions to ask your girlfriend, you can turn late-night text conversations or pillow talks into avenues for truly understanding how to make your girl happier and more content. These hot questions will help you do just that:

    How important is laughter and playfulness in our romantic life?
    1. What’s your favorite part of your body and how do you like it to be touched?
    2. How do you feel about being surprised with a sensual massage?
    3. Are there any specific words or phrases that drive you wild?
    4. What’s your idea of the perfect seduction scenario?
    5. Are there any specific scents that turn you on or enhance the mood for you?
    6. What’s the most passionate encounter you’ve ever experienced?
    7. How do you feel about exploring new fantasies together?
    8. Is there a specific location where you fantasize about being intimate?
    9. What’s your favorite memory of our intimate moments together?
    10. How do you feel about engaging in intimate activities outdoors?
    11. What’s the sexiest outfit you’ve ever worn or would like to wear?
    12. Do you have a favorite intimate position or move?
    13. How important is verbal communication during intimate moments?
    14. What’s your opinion on incorporating food into our intimate activities?
    15. How do you feel about incorporating adult gadgets into our intimate moments?
    16. How do you feel about watching adult content together as a couple?
    17. If you could describe your perfect kiss, what would it be like?
    18. Do you enjoy taking the lead or being led in intimate moments?
    19. Are you open to trying new things in the bedroom, and if so, what?
    20. What’s your favorite time of day for intimate activities?
    21. Is there a specific role-play scenario you’ve always wanted to try?
    22. How do you feel about sending flirty or suggestive texts throughout the day?
    23. Is there a particular song that you find incredibly sexy or arousing?
    24. What’s your opinion on romantic or intimate surprises?
    25. How important is laughter and playfulness in our romantic life?
    26. Are there any particular activities or romantic games you find seductive?
    27. How do you feel about taking a sensual dance class together?
    28. What’s your favorite way to initiate intimate moments?
    29. Are there any boundaries or limits you’d like to establish?
    30. How do you envision keeping the passion alive in our relationship?

    Who said love questions to ask a girlfriend always have to be about romance, sweet nothings, and all things mushy? You can just as well use them to add a naughty twist to your conversations.

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    Dirty Questions To Ask Your Girlfriend

    As must be evident by now, the goal of these juicy questions to ask your girlfriend is to deepen different forms of intimacy in your relationship — physical, emotional, and of course, sexual. What better way of doing that than with these explicitly dirty questions to ask your girlfriend:

    1. What’s the dreamiest moment we’ve shared that still sets your pulse racing?
    2. Remember that time [insert playful or suggestive memory]? Describe how it makes you feel now
    3. What part of my body makes you weak in the knees?
    4. What’s the sexiest thing I’ve ever done for you, according to you?
    5. Describe a specific physical detail about me that always catches your eye
    6. If we were stranded on a deserted island, what kind of atmosphere would we create?
    7. If you could rewrite our first kiss, what would you change?
    8. What voice do you imagine whispering compliments in your ear right now?
    9. I love it when you wear [outfit/accessory]. How does it make you feel?
    10. Imagine I’m whispering sweet nothings in your ear. What would you love to hear?
    11. What outfit makes you feel the most irresistible and confident?
    12. What’s the first thing you notice about someone you find physically attractive?
    13. If we were characters in a romantic novel, what kind of adventure would we be on?
    14. I dare you to whisper the naughtiest thing you can think of in my ear
    15. What’s the most scandalous thing you’ve ever dreamed of doing with me?
    16. What’s the most daring thing you’ve ever imagined doing with me?
    17. I challenge you to a sensual dance-off. No choreography, just pure feeling
    18. Describe your ideal romantic evening, focusing on physical and emotional connection
    19. Recall a moment when you felt a magnetic pull towards me. Describe how it felt in your body
    20. Is there a specific way you like me to touch you that sends shivers down your spine?
    21. Imagine we’re whispering secrets under the stars. What would you want me to share?
    22. What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever noticed me do that made your heart skip a beat?
    23. Describe a dream you had about us that left you feeling warm and fuzzy
    24. What about my personality ignites a fire within you
    25. Tell me about the first time you noticed me, and what drew you in
    26. If you could choose any song to describe our connection, what would it be and why
    27. Let’s create a playful challenge with blindfolds and gentle touches. Who’s braver?
    28. I dare you to do the silliest thing you can think of right now. Something playful and revealing
    29. What are some unspoken desires or needs you have in our intimate life
    30. Tell me about a secret desire you have but haven’t shared with anyone

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    Whether you use them over text or in real-life conversations, these dirty questions to ask your girlfriend are sure to heat things up and lead to some mind-blowing action between the sheets (or a hot sexting session). Either way, we say, win-win!

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    Unique Questions To Ask Your Girlfriend

    The great thing about juicy questions to ask your girlfriend is that your imagination is the only thing limiting the direction you take. So, go ahead and shake things up by adding these unique questions to ask your girlfriend into the mix along with spicy questions and hot questions:

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    1. If you could spend a day in the life of any fictional character, who would it be and why?
    2. What’s a skill or hobby you’ve always wanted to learn but haven’t had the chance to pursue?
    3. If you could have dinner with any three people, dead or alive, who would they be and why?
    4. What’s a dream you’ve had that you’ve never shared with anyone?
    5. If you could possess any one supernatural ability, what would it be and how would you use it?
    6. What’s a book, movie, or TV show that you love but are slightly embarrassed to admit?
    7. If you could design your own perfect day, what activities would it include?
    8. What’s a personal goal you’ve set for yourself that you’re working towards?
    9. If you were to create your own festival or celebration, what would it be called, and how would it be celebrated?
    10. What’s a unique talent or party trick you have that not many people know about?
    11. If you could travel back in time and witness any historical event, which one would it be?
    12. What’s the most interesting piece of trivia or random fact you know?
    13. If you were an inventor, what kind of gadget or device would you create to make life better?
    14. What’s your favorite way to unwind and relax after a long day?
    15. If you could communicate with any one species of animal, which would it be and what would you ask them?
    16. What’s a small, everyday moment that never fails to make you happy?
    17. If you could visit any place on Earth that most people have never heard of, where would it be?
    18. What’s the most meaningful piece of advice you’ve ever received?
    19. If you were to write a book, what genre would it be, and what would the title be?
    20. What’s a habit or routine you have that you find particularly quirky or unique?
    21. If you had a time machine but could only use it once, when and where would you go?
    22. What’s a childhood game or activity you used to love that you wish you could still do?
    23. If you could have a conversation with a famous historical figure, who would it be and what would you talk about?
    24. What’s a food combination that you enjoy but others might find strange?
    25. If you could create your own holiday, what would it celebrate, and how would people observe it?
    26. What’s a hidden talent you have that you haven’t shown off in a while?
    27. If you could have any job in the world for one week, what would it be and why?
    28. What’s a gadget or technology that you think will exist in the future but doesn’t exist yet?
    29. If you were to curate an art exhibition, what theme would it have, and who would be some of the featured artists?
    30. What’s a unique tradition or ritual from your family or culture that you’d like to pass on?

    And that’s a wrap. We hope these juicy questions to ask your girlfriend help spice up your intimate life and make you feel closer and more connected. Time them well and use them wisely!

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  • 115 Best Engagement Announcement Captions

    115 Best Engagement Announcement Captions

    Are you recently engaged and looking for the perfect way to announce your exciting engagement party news on social media? And a drab “I’m engaged” message just isn’t enough for you? Look no further! Writing good and simple engagement announcement captions can be a difficult task, but it’s important to find a message that truly represents your relationship with your special person.

    Whether you’re looking for a low-key announcement or a grand declaration of your lifetime love, there are endless options for unique engagement captions that will fit any aesthetic. From romantic quotes to cute engagement captions for your special person, there are plenty of options to choose from. You might want to consider engagement announcement phrases like “Taking the next step together” or “He put a ring on it” for a romantic touch. So, before you choose your favorite engagement announcement quotes, take some inspiration from our list of the 115 best engagement announcements and let the world know that you now have your soon-to-be spouse by your side. Let’s get right into it…

    Romantic Engagement Captions

    Romantic engagement captions are perfect for sharing your special news. If you’re looking for sweet and witty engagement announcements, then you can go with a song lyric that you and your special person loves. Here are some more romantic captions for engagement photos:

    1. Ready to spend a lifetime with just the best person
    2. Our together is forever
    3. And so the adventure begins…
    4. He put a ring on it
    5. An eternal love story begins…
    6. Of all the love stories, ours is my favorite
    7. Guess you could say, I am officially off the market
    8. Only laughter and happily ever after
    9. A moment worth melting for
    10. Found my Prince Charming
    11. Ready to spend forever with my forever Valentine
    12. Meet my forever lifetime love
    13. Taking the next step together
    14. I can’t wait to spend forever with you
    15. My love, my life, my forever
    16. You make my heart skip a beat and my soul soar
    17. You hold my hand, you hold my heart, you hold my future
    18. You paint my world with love and laughter
    19. Overjoyed to spend the rest of my days creating memories with you

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    Funny Engagement Captions

    Are you looking for funny engagement captions for friends? Or ‘just engaged’ captions that tickle your funny bone? The right person for you should have a fantastic sense of humor. If your partner cracks jokes that make the entire party laugh, you’ve won at life. It’s nice to add a funny twist or two to your engagement announcements too, like funny movie quotes or witty incident references that define you and your partner’s relationship. When you announce your engagement officially, use these engagement photo captions mentioned below. Here are some cute ways to announce engagement on social media and get inspired to post with your engagement ring.

    Someone to annoy every day for the rest of my life? Of course, I said “yes”!

    20. Thank God I swiped right
    21. *Deletes Tinder*
    22. Not gonna lie, the only reason I said yes was to get my hands on his Netflix login
    23. I guess I have to start saving for a joint bank account now
    24. He/she won at life
    25. I said “yes” to the dress, but I’m still thinking about the food
    26. Finally get to annoy him/her for the rest of my life
    27. Finally found someone who’s willing to put up with my bad jokes for life
    28. Decided to change my last name
    29. I already knew we were soulmates
    30. No longer available
    31. Said yes to the dress, the ring, and a lifetime of shared laundry duty
    32. You probably saw this one coming
    33. It’s about damn time
    34. Finally found someone who thinks my snoring is cute
    35. From stealing my fries to stealing my heart

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    Non-Cheesy Engagement Captions

    Have you ever wondered what makes great short engagement announcement captions? Captions that are non-cringey! Let’s be honest, we sometimes judge a lot when we come across tacky captions for engagement photos.

    So, are you looking for non-cheesy engagement captions and are tired of googling “engagement captions for myself” every day? Avoid using generic phrases or clichés. Check out our list of engagement party captions and pick the one that goes with you and your soon-to-be spouse:

    36. Saying yes was the easiest (and happiest!) decision ever!
    37. A new life starts soon
    38. Let the wedding planning begin
    39. Not just a ring on my finger, but a forever promise in my heart. Cheers to love, laughter, and happily ever after with my best friend and soulmate!
    40. The easiest “Yes”
    41. Not sure what’s more exciting: getting married or finally getting to change my relationship status on Facebook
    42. You. Me. Oui…
    43. Two fewer fish in the sea
    44. Laughter, tears, and everything in between – I can’t wait to face them all with the love of my life by my side. So excited to say YES to forever!
    45. Never thought I’d find someone who makes me laugh as hard as they make me feel loved. Can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with this incredible human being
    46. Yes, a million times over
    47. Committed to spending my life getting to know every single part of you
    48. Someone to annoy every day for the rest of my life? Of course, I said “yes”!
    49. Looks like we’re in this together for the long term!

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    Celebrity Engagement Captions

    Have you ever wondered what makes engagement announcement captions on social media stand out and resonate with people? Those celebrity engagement announcements are all about expressing your love for your forever Valentine. With the pressure of finding the ideal Instagram post caption for the next chapter of your life, it’s important to be genuine and low-key, ensuring that your announcement resonates with your followers. As you go ahead with your wedding planning or bachelorette party, your happy engagement post caption should encapsulate the love and the joy of finding the right person. Here are some celebrity engagement captions just for you:

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    50. “Keep all my love forever.” — The Beatles
    51. “If I know what love is, it is because of you.” — Hermann Hesse
    52. “Cause we were just kids when we fell in love.” — Ed Sheeran
    53. “True love stories never have endings.” – Richard Bach
    54. “To love and to be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.” — David Viscott
    55. “We may have started as individuals, but now we are as one.” — Bryon Pulsifer
    56. “If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never have to live without you.” — A.A. Milne
    57. “You are the best thing that’s ever been mine.” — Taylor Swift
    58. “Once you’ve found the right person, you just know.” — Sophie Turner
    59. “Before you marry a person, you should first make them use a computer with slow internet to see who they really are.” — Will Ferrell
    60. “Remember tonight, for it is the beginning of always.” — Dante Alighieri
    61. “Hey baby, I think I want to marry you.” — Bruno Mars
    62. “In all the world, there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world, there is no love for you like mine.” — Maya Angelou
    63. “You are my heart, my life, my one and only thought.” — Sir Arthur Conan Doyle

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    Unique Engagement Captions

    So, the ring’s on your finger, and you cannot wait to share the announcement on social media. But generic captions just won’t cut it for this once-in-a-lifetime moment. You don’t want to make people cringe. You would rather use some impactful ‘just engaged’ captions that will be remembered forever!

    So, let your engagement ring photo captions tell the story of your big moment with just the best person on Earth. Here’s a list of unique captions for you to express your eight letters to your loved one:

    64. Forever Valentine alert! Can’t wait to marry my best friend
    65. Found the one worth melting for, and I can’t wait for forever
    66. Here’s to a lifetime of love, laughter, and happily ever after
    67. New ring, who dis? #EngagedLife
    68. From ‘me’ to ‘we’ ― let the wedding planning begin
    69. Ready to write the next chapter of our love story
    70. Officially off the market and loving every minute of it
    71. Kinda wanna marry you, like, a lot. #Engaged
    72. Just found the best person, and I’m never letting go
    73. Ready to spend forever annoying you in the best way possible
    74. Here’s to forever with my favorite human. Let the wedding planning madness begin!
    75. Can’t wait to start the rest of our lives together
    76. Cheers to staying in love forever with my forever person
    77. Found my lobster. Turns out, happily ever after wasn’t just a fairytale
    78. Ready to take on the world with my new bling and my forever love
    79. Beyond excited to start on this new chapter with the person who inspires me every day
    80. Said yes to a future filled with love, laughter, and endless adventures
    81. build a world of our own!
    82. Our love story, penned in whispers and laughter, takes a new turn

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    Instagram Engagement Captions

    Let the world know that you’ve found the love of your life and that you wanna marry the best person you’ve ever met. Don’t worry about using generic captions because we’ve got you covered with these specific and relatable engagement announcement quotes. So, here are some clever gossip girl-like engagement captions for Instagram:

    engagement captions for myself
    To all the awkward glances, silly inside jokes, and late-night talks forever and ever

    83. Said “yes” to my person! Can’t wait to share all the adventures (and inside jokes) forever
    84. Guess who’s getting hitched?!
    85. We met as strangers, fell in love as best friends, and now we’re getting married as soulmates
    86. To all the awkward glances, silly inside jokes, and late-night talks forever and ever 87. From awkward first dates to kisses and stolen last names, here’s to a lifetime of forever with the one who makes my every moment sparkle
    88. They captured the sunrise, the ring, and the tears (happy ones, obviously!)
    89. No photo can capture the pure joy of being engaged to my human
    90. This ring might be new, but our love story feels like chapters written in fairytales. Can’t wait to add a few hundred more
    91. They say diamonds are a girl’s best friend, but honestly, this future husband takes the cake
    92. Never thought I’d find someone who makes me laugh this hard, smile this wide, and say “I do” without hesitation
    93. Remember that time we swore we’d never do the whole marriage thing? Me neither, until this incredible human asked
    94. From nervously sweating to ugly-crying tears of joy, this proposal was everything and more
    95. Here’s to a lifetime of adventures with my biggest supporter (and ring bearer)
    96. They say love finds you when you least expect it. Turns out, I was expecting it right next to that crystal-clear lake where we spent our childhood growing up

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    Engagement Party Captions

    Ready for the official party wedding spam? Now that you’ve said “yes,” with all the celebrations, it’s essential to have the perfect engagement party captions. After all, you want to make your event stand out. And you don’t just want to declare “I’m engaged” in a drab manner. Take a look at some of our engagement party captions:

    97. Let’s celebrate our “yes” till forever!
    98. We’re engaged AF and ready to party!
    99. Mr. & Mrs. soon-to-be, dancing the night away with our favorite faces
    100. Hands up for the next chapter!
    101. Come celebrate our happy beginning
    102. Finally found ‘the one‘ who can tolerate my early morning singing
    103. Cheers to finding someone who makes life even more chaotic (and infinitely more fun)
    104. They call it an engagement party, but really, it’s just an excuse to celebrate finding my partner in crime
    105. It’s time to pop the champagne
    106. RSVP: Love & laughter!
    107. Forever feels a lot closer with you by my side. Can’t wait to explore it together
    108. Can’t stop smiling, can’t stop celebrating!
    109. From lovebirds to party birds!
    110. Can’t keep calm, it’s our engagement bash!
    111. Cheers to the next chapter, starting with the best party ever!
    112. A night filled with love, laughter, and unforgettable moments
    113. Celebrating in style
    114. We’re ‘head over heels’
    115. Celebrating the sparkle in our future!

    With a ring on your finger and a heart full of joy, the world deserves to know who you are spending your whole life with. After all, you’re engaged! Share the news using any of the captions mentioned above that capture the essence of your story and the excitement for the journey ahead. Or choose a perfect engagement post caption that resonates with your vibe.

    It’s your moment, so make it your own. The world is waiting to share your happiness, and your unique announcement will be the first chapter in a love story everyone will want to read. So, we wish you all the best and a happy engagement!

    FAQs

    1. What do you write when announcing engagement caption?

    For witty engagement announcements or caption ideas, consider engagement announcement phrases like “Ready to spend a lifetime with just the best person,” “Guess you could say, I am officially off the market,” or “Finally get to annoy him/her for the rest of my life.” Tailor your announcement to reflect your unique relationship and the excitement of spending the rest of your lives together.

    2. How do you write an announcement?

    When crafting an announcement, explore caption ideas such as romantic engagement captions or celebrity engagement announcements. Use expressions like “Ready to write the next chapter of our love story” or “Found the one worth melting for, and I can’t wait for forever.” Personalize your announcement with phrases that resonate with your special connection.

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  • Dating With Intention: Meaning And Rules To Set You Up For Success 

    Dating With Intention: Meaning And Rules To Set You Up For Success 

    Have you ever thought about what dating with intention means? Well, I have given it some thought. In an instance of serendipity, I came across this quote by author and YouTuber Jefferson Bethke: “Dating with no intent to marry is like going to the grocery store with no money. You either leave unhappy or take something that isn’t yours.” I thought it was a brilliant quote because it so aptly sums up why people date. For many, the intentions for a relationship have marriage as the end goal.  

    But is that the only purpose of dating? What about having fun, great sex, tons of new experiences, and a summer fling? Doesn’t all that fall under dating with intention? 

    That got me thinking more seriously about intentional dating, what it actually means, and how to be successful at it. And since I am no expert, I got fantastic input from psychologist Nandita Rambhia (M.Sc., Psychology), who specializes in CBT, REBT, and couple’s counseling. 

    What Does Dating With Intention Mean? 

    The textbook answer of dating with intention or dating with a purpose means entering the dating world with clarity, self-awareness, and purpose. To know if you are on the right path, simply answer the question of WHY you are thinking of pursuing a romantic relationship. Dating with intention provides a fantastic solution to the complexities of modern dating. You enter the dating pool with a well-thought-out understanding of exactly what you are and are not willing to settle for. 

    Nandita says, “There are different connotations and meanings when talking about intentional dating. Some would refer to it as ‘old-fashioned’ or slow dating, which allows the couple to get to know each other better over a period of time. This is in contrast to fast or casual dating which seems to be the norm nowadays. Dating with purpose means getting into the relationship with clarity on what you are seeking. Clarity could be whether you are looking for a permanent relationship, casual dating, physical/sexual engagement, etc. This makes it easier to get what you need from a partner.”

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    A Toronto Sun report shows that intentional dating is at an all-time high post-pandemic. People learned not to take life for granted and only focus on what matters. The article goes on to cite a survey carried out by Bumble. 

    • 54% of singles have become more reflective about dating
    • 79% of Canadians are embracing ‘slow dating’ for healthier relationships
    • 53% are willing to discuss relationship goals and priorities on the first date

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    What does casual dating mean?

    Casual dating doesn’t necessarily look at the WHY of dating. It’s mostly about testing the dating scene and being open to exploration. If you have heard the term “seeing someone casually,” that would describe this type of relationship. Some of its characteristics are:

    • Less focus on long-term goals: The emphasis is on the present enjoyment. Rarely does commitment come into it 
    • Openness to exploration: It could mean having one or multiple partners while enjoying the dating scene. You may or may not seek clarity about what you want in the future while dating casually
    • Zero or negligible emotional investment: This helps to minimize potential heartbreak
    • Spontaneity and flexibility: This allows for unplanned or casual dates

    A Reddit user summarizes casual dating so well. “Sometimes you want some company, some sex, a bit of companionship, but you don’t want to meet their family, have social obligations with them, or romantic expectations.” All of this begs the question: What is the difference between casual dating and dating with intention?

    Casual versus intentional dating

    It’s important to determine the type of relationship you want to have

    Intentional dating is going into the experience looking for a particular kind of relationship, which is not the case with casual dating. But there are other differences worth noting. We can summarize the difference between casual dating and dating with intention as below.

    Casuals dating Dating with intention
    Goal Enjoyment, exploring options Compatibility of values, present needs, or relationship goals
    Exclusivity Often not discussed. Both partners are open to seeing others Discussed early on. There’s a high potential for exclusivity if both are looking for a committed relationship
    Emotional investment Usually lower with a focus on the present Higher due to the focus on future potential
    Dates Spontaneous and more relaxed More intentional and meaningful
    Communication Surface-level and lighter, aimed at fun Deeper and more meaningful if it’s a serious relationship in the making. Honest and sincere even if it’s just a physically fulfilling relationship
    Casual dating vs. dating with intention

    There are rules to casual dating, though. For instance, a basic level of self-awareness is important to know why you are getting into it. Is it because you want sexual intimacy, or you feel no need for commitment, or you’re just going with the flow? Remember, you may get into casual dating and develop feelings. So, dating with intent may be the better solution if you don’t want heartbreak. And there are ways to date with intention to ensure success. 

    How To Date With Intention: 10 Rules To Set You Up For Success

    When I hit my mid-30s, dating for the sake of it lost its luster. I was ready for a relationship and I wanted a more meaningful connection. Interestingly, dating with intention of marriage was never a top priority for me. But I acknowledged to my friends that I was no longer in my 20s and needed to be more intentional with my life, including dating. So, here are the 10 rules to dating with intent for a successful outcome.  

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    1. Know yourself

    You can’t be intentional about anything if you don’t truly know yourself. At 35, I was pretty clear about my interests and values. I knew what meaningful relationships looked like, and that is what I wanted. No more casual dating based on surface-level factors like physical attraction, good looks, or what my potential partner would offer in terms of a good time. So when you start dating, ensure you have a good understanding of yourself as a person. 

    2. Define your dating goals

    The first step to intentional dating is to define your goals. Remember the WHY question? I was very clear about wanting a healthy relationship going forward. Past experiences in casual dating were not always satisfying or even worth remembering. I was no longer willing to experience the same things that sometimes left me feeling so alone, unloved, and honestly downright cynical about relationships as a whole. I realized how important it is to be on the same page with my potential partner. 

    Nandita agrees. “If you know exactly what you want out of the current dynamic or two years down the line from a potential partner, it helps you avoid wasting time. You get to sift through the riff-raff by intentionally stating what you want. That increases the chances of meeting people who want the same thing, thus higher chances of success in the relationship.”

    3. Be upfront about your intentions

    Intentions for a relationship
    Outlining your relationship expectations will lead to greater happiness

    Honesty about what you are looking for with potential partners is key. If you are dating with intention of marriage, lay the expectations down from the beginning. From the get-go, I communicated that I was looking for exclusivity and not casual liaisons. It was hard to see some people I truly fancied walk away. But hey, I saved myself a lot of time, and possible heartache with upfront honesty and clarity on what I wanted.

    So, does intentional dating work? A Reddit user summarizes their experience, “Went on countless dates. Never backed down on what I was looking for. Came across my current lover on Grindr of all places. We met, talked for four hours, and didn’t have sex until a month into dating. Been together for almost a year, and he just moved in about a month ago. Seriously, it’s been great. I’m so glad I didn’t settle. He’s hot, thoughtful, caring, a great listener, and extremely emotionally mature (he is a therapist). Couldn’t be happier. “

    4. Be your authentic self

    I can describe myself as having a few quirks that some people may find challenging, like taking solo trips when the fancy hits. But I realized stifling that part of me to attract someone would not make me happy. Remember, the dating pool is full of potential partners who want the same things you do. But to attract the right person, you must present your authentic self at all times. You might block some amazing connections if you keep your mask on. 

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    5. Create meaningful experiences deliberately

    In casual dating, the aim is to have fun, perhaps a quick tumble in the bed and everyone leaves with no strings attached. There are no deep connections or conversations, so you can pretty much do anything. But intentional dating should allow for meaningful conversations and shared experiences. So how about being respectful toward each other’s basic needs throughout the intentional meet-up even if all you both want is sex? 

    And if you’re serious about the relationship, instead of meeting at a loud nightclub, how about a quiet dinner where you can dig deeper into knowing each other? I prefer long walks, picnics, or even cooking together with my partner. That’s not to say we don’t go dancing when the mood hits. But we are more intentional about the quality of our dates. And when we are away from each other, we keep the spark alive with some excellent long-distance dating ideas.

    I posed a question to Nandita on whether there is a downside to dating with intent. While not necessarily a downside, she cautions against having a fixed mindset or rigidity about the intentions. “There is a possibility of missing out on meeting a good person who doesn’t fit your strict criteria. That tends to limit your social connections.”

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    6. Intentional dating requires active listening

    Do you know why intentional dating requires active listening? The simple reason is that it allows you to know what your potential partner also wants. This way, there are realistic expectations all around. 

    There’s another benefit: In the early stages, some may say they want the same things you do. But with time and active listening, you may pick up on things that tell you otherwise. Some potential partners may even resort to romantic manipulation in order to get what they want. 

    7. Quality trumps quantity

    Yes, the expectation is that you will have to kiss many frogs before you find your prince or princess. And that’s fine if you are doing the casual dating thing. In fact, take that time to have as much fun as you can; you don’t have to plan a thing. 

    But dating with intent is a bit different. The focus should be on quality connections with partners/dates who align with your values. Once you find your potential partner(s), invest time and energy into knowing them and better. It’s also the first step to building emotional intimacy and bond with them if that’s what you both want.

    8. Dating with a purpose means respecting boundaries

    From a young age, I have defined how I live my life by creating healthy boundaries of what I will accept or not. For example, I will not accept any form of blatant disrespect like being shouted at or insulted. I outline them to my potential partners and expect them to respect these boundaries. 

    I have also asked my dates to tell me what they are not okay with. Setting boundaries is critical in any healthy relationship, even if you are just starting out as a couple. That’s a key ingredient for safety and comfort in any dynamic. 

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    9. Evaluate compatibility with your date

    When I started dating with a purpose, I found someone who pretty much wanted the same things I did. The physical attraction was also very much present. That should have been a pretty awesome solution to my intentional dating plan, right? But the problem was that we did not have shared values. He also had what I considered a rather abrasive communication style, which did not sit well with me. It was clear that long-term relationship compatibility was not in the cards for us. 

    10. Enjoy the journey

    Now that you are pursuing dating with a purpose, it doesn’t mean putting pressure on yourself. There is no timeline for dating nor a penalty if you don’t. Enjoy the journey and look at every experience, whether good or bad, as a lesson. You might not get the partner of your dreams but you can build many other connections as you travel. 

    The man I talked about above is now one of my good friends. It did not work out romantically but to date, we get along so well due to some of our shared interests. Sometimes, your dating life doesn’t work out the way you think it will. Learn to be okay with that. Go back to short-term relationships for some fun while you regroup. Or spend some alone time focusing on yourself rather than searching for romance.  

    Key Pointers

    • Dating with intent means having clarity on what you want to achieve in the relationship. Your goals are already established in your mind
    • Knowing how to date with intention requires active listening, an open mind, and having a transparent purpose of dating
    • The difference between casual dating and dating with intention is that the former is more about fun and less emotional investment, without having marriage as the end goal. The latter is about defining your dating goals for yourself and potential partners, in order to not waste time and avoid heartbreak

    It’s always important to have honest intentions for a relationship. Nandita agrees that it doesn’t have to be all about marriage. It’s okay to have fun and explore your dating life without having expectations of commitment. And once you decide to pursue intentional dating, don’t settle for less, and don’t be pressured into giving more than what you’d discussed. 

    Enjoy the journey and do not place any unnecessary timelines on the process. Also, find your people and community with whom you are on the same page with. This would ensure validation and support as well as more success in your romantic relationship(s).

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  • 13 Exciting Signs She Wants You To Touch Her Body

    13 Exciting Signs She Wants You To Touch Her Body

    Suggested signals, unsaid desires, and clear boundaries — all play a part in human connection. Our deepest intentions and feelings are frequently communicated through nonverbal cues. But understanding and honoring a potential partner’s cues is crucial when it comes to signs she wants you to touch her body.

    If you know what to look for, you can spot the tell-tale signs, which might include a tender touch on the arm or a longing glance. Recognizing a woman’s cues can be difficult for some people, which can cause confusion and lost opportunities. Never forget that in any intimate situation, verbal consent must be given clearly. But watch out for some clear signs if she seems to be inviting you to touch her body, suggesting a deeper level of trust and comfort. In this article, we’ll delve deeper into these signs. So, let’s begin…

    Decoding The Signals She Wants You To Touch Her

    Looking for signs a woman is sexually attracted to you? Deciphering these signals can be both exciting and challenging, requiring a keen awareness of body language, verbal nuances, and contextual cues. However, it’s paramount to approach these situations with respect, understanding, and clear communication. Let’s look into the subtle signs that may suggest a woman is open to physical touch, emphasizing the importance of mutual consent and creating a comfortable environment for both parties.

    1. She’s often in your close proximity

    Proximity speaks volumes about comfort and interest in physical closeness. When a woman consistently positions herself close to you during conversations or activities, it signifies a willingness to bridge personal space. It’s a very subtle sign of a woman being open for your touch.

    This non-verbal cue often reflects a level of comfort and openness, creating an environment where physical interaction may be welcomed. Paying attention to proximity sets the stage for understanding mutual comfort levels and potential romantic interest.

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    2. She touches you playfully

    So, what does it mean when a girl keeps touching you? Playful touches, such as a light tap on the shoulder or a gentle touch, serve as subtle indicators of comfort and openness to physical interaction.

    To understand this, let me give you an example. Imagine you’re sitting together at a café, engrossed in conversation. She keeps shifting in her seat, occasionally brushing her arm against yours. When you mention something funny, she playfully nudges your shoulder and lets her hand linger there for a moment longer than necessary.

    These subtle touches are her way of inviting you to reciprocate, signaling that she’s comfortable with physical touch and perhaps even hoping for more. These gestures communicate a sense of ease and playfulness, suggesting that the person is receptive to increased physical closeness.

    3. She often maintains eye contact

    This is one of the biggest signs she wants you to touch her body. Extended eye contact is a powerful non-verbal signal conveying intimacy and connection. When paired with other positive cues, prolonged eye contact suggests a genuine interest in personal connection and may indicate a readiness for more personal contact. It establishes a shared moment of vulnerability, fostering a deeper understanding between individuals.

    Acknowledging and reciprocating extended eye contact can enhance the emotional resonance of the interaction, creating a foundation for potential physical closeness.

    If she is maintaining eye contact more frequently, she is dropping some strong hints

    4. She subconsciously repeats all your physical actions

    Mirroring, the subconscious mimicking of movements or body language, serves as a strong indicator of connection and comfort. When people mirror each other’s gestures and facial expressions, it signifies a natural alignment and rapport.

    Mirroring is one of the most obvious signs that she’s interested in you, and it establishes a non-verbal synchrony that can contribute to a shared sense of understanding and mutual comfort. Recognizing this mirroring effect can provide valuable insights into the level of connection you share and her potential receptivity to physical touch.

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    5. The never-ending flirting

    One of the huge signs a woman is attracted to you is when there’s subtle flirting involved in nearly all of your interactions. Verbal flirting, including teasing and compliments, often signals comfort with a higher level of intimacy, including physical touch. When a woman engages in playful banter, offers compliments, or teases in a flirtatious manner, it suggests a willingness to explore a deeper connection. Verbal flirting thus contributes to creating an atmosphere of shared attraction, paving the way for potential physical intimacy. It also emphasizes the importance of open communication about boundaries and comfort levels.

    6. She’s constantly dropping hints

    Subtle hints and invitations play a role in creating opportunities for physical contact. When a woman drops hints or expresses interest in shared physical activities, it indicates a desire for closer connection.

    Imagine you’re both at a party, and she’s standing close to you in a crowded room. As you talk, she leans in slightly, giving you ample opportunity to move closer or even put your arm around her. When you reach for a snack nearby, she might playfully bump into you, giving you a chance to catch her or hold her steady.

    These invitations provide a gateway for exploring physical intimacy in a manner that aligns with both individuals’ comfort levels and interests. Responding to these cues with attentiveness and respect establishes a foundation for consensual exploration of physical touch.

    7. She’s always engrossed in everything you say

    Active participation in engaging conversations demonstrates a desire for a deeper connection, potentially including physical intimacy. When a woman expresses genuine interest in your thoughts and experiences, it indicates that she’s attracted to you. Engaging conversations contribute to building a strong foundation for intimacy, allowing for open communication about desires and boundaries. This verbal exchange creates a space for mutual understanding, fostering an environment where physical touch can be explored consensually.

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    8. She lingers on to the hug

    This is one of the most obvious signs she wants you to touch her body.The way a person hugs provides valuable insights into their comfort with physical closeness. Initiating or lingering in hugs suggests a desire for extended physical connection. Hugs, as a form of non-verbal communication, convey warmth and intimacy. Recognizing the nuances of how a woman embraces can offer cues about her comfort level with physical touch and provide guidance on navigating further levels of intimacy.

    9. She’s always initiating physical activities with you

    If a girl lets you touch her, does she like you? Engaging in activities that naturally involve physical contact, such as dancing or playing sports, creates opportunities for more intimate interactions. These shared activities provide a context for exploring physical touch in a comfortable and natural setting. Initiating such activities can serve as a mutual invitation to experience increased physical closeness, fostering a connection that goes beyond verbal communication.

    10. She’s constantly fidgeting around you

    Adjusting clothing or fidgeting may indicate nervousness or anticipation, potentially suggesting a readiness for physical contact. This very subtle sign or non-verbal cue reflects a heightened awareness of one’s appearance and physical presence. While it’s essential to interpret this signal with sensitivity, acknowledging these behaviors can provide insights into a person’s emotional state and potential receptivity to increased physical intimacy.

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    11. Her body language is very relaxed

    Maintaining a relaxed body language, such as uncrossed arms and a relaxed posture, communicates a level of ease and comfort. It is one of the signs she wants you to touch her body. Open body language signals a receptivity to connection and may indicate a readiness for increased physical closeness. When a woman displays open body language, it fosters an environment where both individuals feel at ease exploring deeper levels of intimacy, while prioritizing mutual respect and comfort.

    Here are some body language signs she wants you to feel her that might suggest she’s open to increased physical closeness:

    • Leaning in: If she’s leaning toward you during conversations or when sharing an activity, it can be a sign of interest and a subtle invitation for a closer connection
    • Eye contact and smiling combo: When she maintains prolonged eye contact along with genuine smiles, it indicates not only interest but also a comfort level that might extend to physical closeness
    • Responding to your touch: If she reciprocates or responds positively to your initial, subtle touches, it can be a clear indicator that she’s comfortable with and open to more physical interaction
    • Creating intimate moments: Actively seeking or creating moments of intimacy, such as finding reasons to be close or engaging in private conversations, may suggest a desire for a deeper connection
    • Initiating physical contact: If she initiates physical contact herself, like reaching out for your hand or giving you a friendly touch, it indicates she is offering you a chance to get closer to her
    • Sharing personal space: If she doesn’t shy away from sharing personal space, like sitting close to you or standing in close proximity, it suggests a comfort level that might extend to physical touch
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    12. She’s constantly touching her hair around you

    Subtle gestures like touching her face or playing with her hair can be indicative that she’s thinking about physical contact. These female body language signs of attraction often reflect a heightened awareness of one’s own physical presence and a potential anticipation of increased intimacy. While interpreting these signals, it’s essential to approach with sensitivity and respect, recognizing that such gestures may indicate that she wants you to touch her.

    13. She’s constantly smiling and laughing around you

    If she’s laughing at every one of your silly jokes, then she is totally into you. Genuine smiles and laughter create a positive atmosphere and indicate a sense of comfort and connection. When a woman genuinely smiles and starts laughing during a conversation, it signifies a shared enjoyment of the moment. This positive emotional state contributes to a relaxed and open environment, setting the stage for exploring physical intimacy with a focus on mutual joy and comfort.

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    How To Respond To Signs She Wants You To Touch Her Body?

    So, what to do when a girl keeps touching you or keeps giving you body language signs she wants you to feel her? It can be difficult to navigate the dynamics of relationships and shared desires. You should handle the situation with tact, compassion, and respect above all else if you sense that she wants you to touch her body. The following points are the best advice you can get to help direct your actions:

    1. Start small

    What to do when a girl lets you touch her thigh? Initiating physical contact with small, gentle gestures like holding hands or a light touch on the shoulder sets the tone for respectful exploration. Don’t rush. Look for the green light from her side and then proceed. These subtle actions allow you to gauge her comfort level and create a foundation for more significant physical closeness. Starting small is about taking a gradual step forward, ensuring that both individuals feel at ease with the evolving level of intimacy.

    2. Don’t skip verbal check-ins

    Still wondering how to touch a woman without messing it up? Incorporating verbal check-ins during moments of physical contact is crucial for maintaining ongoing consent and demonstrating a genuine commitment to respecting boundaries.

    Simple questions like “Is this okay?” or “How are you feeling?” help in communicating, allowing her to express her comfort level. Verbal check-ins create a collaborative and consensual atmosphere, reinforcing trust and ensuring that both partners feel heard and respected.

    3. Notice her reactions

    On a Reddit thread, a user wrote, “If she isn’t being obvious about it, like initiating touch first, stepping into your personal space, or making long and longing eye contact with you, you would be correct to assume she doesn’t want to be touched.”

    Pay close attention to signs she wants you to touch her body. Look out for her reactions and body language. They are essential in understanding her comfort level. If she appears tense or uncomfortable, it’s vital to pause and check in with her. Non-verbal cues provide valuable insights into her emotional state and boundaries. Being attuned to her reactions allows for a more considerate and responsive approach to physical intimacy, promoting an environment of mutual understanding and respect.

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    4. Be vocal with her

    Let’s say a girl was very friendly with you, and now you’re wondering, “If a girl lets you touch her does she like you?” Open communication about boundaries, desires, and expectations is an absolute necessity. Discussing these aspects ensures that both individuals are on the same page, reducing the risk of misunderstandings. Sharing feelings and expectations in a relationship openly fosters trust, creating a foundation for consensual exploration. Open communication allows for a mutual understanding of each other’s comfort levels, promoting a safe and respectful environment for both partners.

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    5. Adapt to her pace

    When a girl lets you touch her thigh, then it probably means that she wants to take things to the next level and maybe it’s time you kiss her. But you will notice that this is not the same for everyone. Maybe some other girl will let you touch her thighs or shoulders, and still not be ready to elevate things with you.

    So, wondering how to touch a woman the right way and without offending her? Everybody has a different pace. Recognizing physical intimacy as a journey involves starting with less intimate touches and gradually progressing, based on her comfort level. Being attentive to her cues and signals allows for a more gradual and consensual exploration of physical closeness. Adapting to her pace is about respecting her boundaries and creating an atmosphere where both partners feel comfortable and in control of the unfolding dynamics of their relationship.

    6. Handle rejections with respect

    Respecting her choices is paramount, especially if she expresses discomfort or requests a pause. Pressuring someone into continued physical contact is a violation of consent and trust. Understanding rejection as a clear boundary demonstrates respect for her autonomy and feelings. Responding with understanding and empathy creates a foundation for open communication, fostering a supportive environment where both partners feel valued and respected.

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    7. Maintain emotional connection

    If you’re wondering how to touch a woman and hit it right, well, involve her emotionally. Focusing on forming an emotional connection is extremely important, especially if physical touch is met with hesitation. Strengthening the emotional connection between partners contributes to a fulfilling relationship. Building a strong emotional connection enhances trust and intimacy, creating a space where both individuals feel secure and understood. Prioritizing emotional connection ensures that the relationship remains fulfilling and meaningful, even as physical intimacy evolves.

    8. Check in afterwards

    Checking in with each other is one of the most important things to do. It’s essential for understanding how the experience felt and ensuring both partners are on the same page. It’s a good sign if she is comfortable about it later. Here are some tips when you check up on her:

    • Check if there’s any room for improvement: Discussing what was enjoyable and if any adjustments or considerations are needed for future interactions promotes ongoing communication and satisfaction
    • Make it a form of expression: Checking in afterward emphasizes the importance of allowing both individuals to express their feelings
    • Focus on comfort: When you reach out to her, she would probably end up feeling more comfortable to you and your touch

    Key Pointers

    • The subtle signs that indicate a woman may be open to physical touch, include proximity, playful touch, eye contact, mirroring, flirting, and more
    • Reading non-verbal reactions is a key component in ensuring consent
    • Some ways of responding to such signs are: progressing based on her comfort level, maintaining emotional connection, and respecting her choices

    It takes skill to recognize and decipher nonverbal clues in romantic relationships. In this article, we’ve looked into a variety of signs she wants you to touch her body and cues that could point to a woman’s desire for physical contact. Nonetheless, communication, consent, and respect for one another are crucial. Every relationship is different, and this also applies to the ways in which they communicate. We can cultivate relationships that are not only physically fulfilling but also emotionally enlightening and courteous by paying attention, showing respect, and communicating. But let’s not forget that even if you get huge signs a woman is attracted to you, you must always take her consent before proceeding.

    Empathy, respect, and understanding are necessary for navigating the complexities of physical interactions in romantic relationships. We can create more meaningful relationships if we pay attention to these subtle cues and obvious signs and contextualize them within the framework of mutual consent and honest communication.

    FAQs

    1. What does it mean if she lets you touch her?

    If a woman allows you to touch her, it usually indicates a level of comfort and consent. It suggests that she feels at ease in your presence and is open to physical interaction.

    2. How do you tell if she wants you to make a move?

    Recognizing if a woman wants you to make a move involves observing her body language and verbal cues. Signs may include proximity, playful touches, extended eye contact, or flirting. If she’s engaged in the conversation, responsive to your gestures, and displays positive reactions, these can be indicators of interest.

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  • 11 Situationship Red Flags You Should Know About

    11 Situationship Red Flags You Should Know About

    Finding yourself in a situationship can be both exciting and confusing. I vividly recall a chapter in my own romantic escapades. It all started innocently enough, a friendship laced with something more, until the situationship red flags began to unfurl like cautionary banners in the gentle breeze of our connection. At first, the blurred lines between friendship and romance added a dash of spontaneity to our interactions. We reveled in the undefined, floating in the limbo between commitment and carefree camaraderie.

    However, as our emotional connection deepened, I couldn’t help but notice the subtle shifts that hinted at something beneath the surface. Situationship red flags, those elusive but telling signs, started to emerge like quiet whispers, reminding me that the road ahead might not be as smooth as our initial journey. Little did I know, these subtle warning signs would become the compass guiding me through the uncharted waters of our undefined romance.

    What Is A Situationship?

    The meaning of situationship lies in the nebulous space between a committed relationship and casual dating. It’s a relational gray zone where individuals engage in a connection that lacks the defined parameters of a serious relationship. Situationships tend to blur the lines between friendship and a sexual relationship, teetering on the edge of the casual hookup space while still maintaining elements of camaraderie.

    Unlike a committed relationship with clear expectations and shared commitments, situationships lack the explicit boundaries of a romantic relationship and often leave the parties involved in a state of ambiguity. Participants may enjoy the perks of physical intimacy without the pressure of emotional investment, maintaining the freedom of casual dating until eventually coming face to face with the complexities that arise when the lines between friends and lovers become increasingly hazy.

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    Why I used to like situationships

    Why do guys like situationships? — I’ve been asked this question a few times. As a guy, the appeal of a situationship to me stemmed from a blend of factors that made it strangely enticing:

    • The sexual intimacy offered a sense of connection without the weighty commitments, allowing for physical closeness without the exhaustive expectations
    • The allure was also embedded in the perception that despite all the effort invested, the emotional unavailability inherent in a situationship granted a certain level of freedom
    • It became a self-esteem buffer, a way to navigate the intricacies of modern dating without risking the vulnerability that accompanies a deeper emotional connection

    However, the downside of this kind of flaky behavior and the inevitable moments of feeling lonely prompted a need for emotional detachment from the other person, creating a paradoxical dance between intimacy and independence.

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    Signs You Are In A Situationship

    Determining whether you’re in a situationship involves recognizing key signs that distinguish it from a more defined relationship status. Unlike a serious relationship, situationships often linger in the early stages of a relationship. If you find yourself in the latter camp, then here are the signs you are in a situationship:

    • Unclear relationship status
    • Lack of exclusivity or commitment
    • Ambiguous feelings toward your partner
    • Reluctance to discuss the future
    • Hesitation or avoidance of defining the relationship
    • Perpetually being in the early stages of connection, and not moving forward
    • You’re calling it a no-labels relationship
    • A sense of being in relationship purgatory

    All of these signs only end up exacerbating a state of situationship anxiety — This emotional turbulence is natural when our connections are undefined, when there’s uncertainty and a lack of clear boundaries. The avoidance or hesitation to define the connection leaves individuals in a perpetual state of emotional limbo. You enjoy sexual intimacy but without an exclusive relationship.

    A study that aims to “develop and validate a Situationship Scale” says, “The lack of clarity and commitment in these relationships can cause emotional, cognitive, and sexual distress, which can affect one’s overall well-being. The findings of this study can be used to develop interventions and support systems for young adults who are in or have been in a situationship.”

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    11 Situationship Red Flags

    Navigating a relationship that is still in the early stages — what has come to be called a situationship — is akin to threading a delicate needle. Hence, being attuned to situationship red flags is crucial for maintaining your emotional well-being. If your partner consistently avoids conversations about feelings or commitment (i.e. you are dating a commitment-phobe), displays evasive behavior around dating apps, or avoids introducing you to their social circle, it can be indicative of a desire to keep the relationship under wraps. 

    Situationship red flags often emerge in subtle ways, and it’s essential to recognize these warning signs to avoid falling into relationship purgatory. Here are 11 situationship red flags to be wary of:

    1. The relationship status remains undefined indefinitely

    One potent example of a red flag in a relationship is the uncertainty surrounding the status of the connection. One partner’s evasiveness is prominent when it comes to explicitly defining the nature of the relationship. While some individuals may genuinely prefer the dynamics of casual dating without a label, an extended lack of clarity can become a significant red flag.

    In situations where the relationship status remains undefined, there’s potential for harmful, flaky behavior and an imbalance in commitment levels. It becomes essential for partners to honestly assess their feelings and communicate or manage their expectations, ensuring that both people are aligned on the nature of the relationship. A foundation of honesty and open communication is crucial in any relationship, whether in the context of casual dating or serious relationships.

    2. One or both partners avoid talking about the future

    Evasive conversations, especially when it comes to serious aspects of a relationship, are clear signs of potential issues within a situationship. Try to observe the following:

    • One partner doesn’t want to talk about the future, commitment, or the development of feelings
    • You have concerns about emotional unavailability, which means there’s a reluctance to invest emotionally
    • While casual dating might not always necessitate immediate talks about commitment, feelings, or the future, notice if the evasion of these topics is ‘persistent’
    • There might be a hidden desire (on your or your partner’s end) to keep the relationship in a state of ambiguity

    For the health and longevity of any relationship, even in the context of casual dating or situationships, fostering an environment where partners feel comfortable discussing their feelings, aspirations, and expectations is essential. Evasive conversations can be a red flag, prompting the need for open communication to address underlying concerns.

    3. One of the most common red flags of a situationship: Secrecy around the use of dating apps

    This behavior on dating apps can be a concerning red flag that points to hidden intentions or a desire to maintain secrecy. While it’s not uncommon for people to retain a level of autonomy in their dating lives — especially when it comes to casual dating — consistent and secretive behavior on dating apps, when you’re in a supposed relationship, should raise eyebrows.

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    Being on dating apps can be indicative of a partner hedging their bets, keeping alternative options open, or unwilling to fully commit. The ambiguity goes beyond the confines of casual dating, potentially causing emotional distress to the other person involved. This lack of transparency about one’s digital interactions can lead to trust issues, creating an environment of suspicion and insecurity within the situationship.

    4. You notice a reluctance to socialize outside of the situationship

    In a healthy connection, partners often take pride in introducing each other to their social circles, friends, and family as a natural progression of deepening commitment. However, when a partner continues to avoid or hesitates to introduce their situationship counterpart to significant people in their life, it raises questions about the depth and seriousness of the relationship.

    This may stem from a variety of reasons, ranging from a desire to keep the relationship discreet to an unwillingness to integrate it into one’s broader support system. While the early stages of dating may not always warrant immediate introductions, a persistent avoidance can cause the other partner to emotionally detach. It suggests a hesitancy to integrate the situationship into the fabric of one’s life, potentially leaving the other partner feeling excluded or uncertain about the true nature of the connection.

    5. Another example of red flag in a relationship of this sort: Communication is sporadic and unpredictable

    Inconsistent communication within a situationship is a significant red flag that can contribute to a toxic dynamic between partners. Toxic behaviors often thrive in environments where open communication is lacking, and inconsistent communication stands as one of the common red flags contributing to such toxicity. Here’s what happens:

    • The sporadic and unpredictable nature of communication creates an atmosphere of uncertainty
    • This leads to feelings of anxiety and confusion for both people involved
    • When one partner is unable or unwilling to maintain a regular and transparent line of communication, it can disrupt the delicate balance required for a healthy relationship
    • Inconsistencies can breed misunderstandings, trigger insecurities, and contribute to an overall sense of instability within the connection

    In a situationship, where the boundaries may be less defined than in traditional serious relationships, the importance of regular communication becomes even more critical. Recognizing inconsistent communication as one of the biggest red flags requires a commitment to open dialogue. 

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    Addressing the issue head-on would require you to:

    • Discuss expectations
    • Set boundaries
    • Foster an environment where both partners feel comfortable expressing their needs and concerns

    6. Your partner doesn’t like making plans

    The meaning of situationship often encompasses a certain degree of flexibility, but when vague plans become a norm, it can signal a lack of commitment or intentionality. This is how vague plans become a clear example of red flag in a relationship of this sort:

    • It can amplify situationship anxiety: Ambiguity regarding when and how partners plan to spend time together can contribute to feelings of uncertainty and insecurity. This is a clear red flag that warrants attention
    • It makes you doubt their feelings: Ambiguous plans can leave one partner feeling unsure about the other’s level of interest and emotional investment in the connection

    In situationships, where the boundaries may be less defined, it’s important to establish and respect boundaries around plans to maintain a healthy dynamic. To address this red flag, have an honest conversation about:

    • Expectations
    • Preferences
    • Desired frequency of spending time together

    Open communication can help create a more solid foundation for the relationship, ensuring that both people are on the same page regarding their commitments and the direction they envision the situationship taking.

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    7. You seem to be the one making all the effort in your situationship 

    If you’re wondering, “Why do guys like situationships?”, the appeal lies in the flexibility to enjoy certain aspects of a relationship without the commitment and expectations that accompany more traditional arrangements. However, when one partner always bears the responsibility for planning and organizing dates, it can have the following effects:

    • It can contribute to feelings of loneliness in the relationship
    • It can trigger flaky behavior in the less active partner
    • The dynamic of one-sided effort can also have implications for self-esteem
    • The imbalance may raise questions about the level of interest and emotional investment from both sides

    Addressing the issue of one-sided effort in a situationship requires an open conversation about your needs. So, establish clear expectations and understand each other’s desires for shared experiences. Collaborate on your next plan and invest efforts equitably. This way, individuals in a situationship can work toward a healthier dynamic that meets both partners’ needs and minimizes the potential for imbalances or red flags to emerge.

    8. Your partner’s emotional unavailability bothers you

    Emotional unavailability suggests that one partner may struggle to fully invest in the relationship on an emotional level. It creates a noticeable imbalance in the emotional commitment between partners. When there’s reluctance to fully engage with the emotional aspects of the connection, it leaves the other partner in a state of uncertainty and anxiety about the sincerity and depth of the bond. 

    Emotional unavailability may surface in various forms, such as:

    • Limited emotional sharing: One partner avoids discussing personal feelings, experiences, or vulnerabilities, creating emotional distance in the relationship
    • Unwillingness to discuss the future: The couple encounters difficulties when they talk about future plans, aspirations, or long-term commitments
    • Difficulty in reciprocity: Maybe one partner expresses and displays their affection openly and the other shuts down, gives a superficial response, or changes the topic

    9. Your partner’s interest levels seem to fluctuate

    Fluctuating interest can stir concerns about the stability and sustainability of the connection. While it’s not inherently bad for partners to experience shifts in interest or focus, a pattern of fluctuations in the level of engagement is a notable red flag in relationships. It can trigger uncertainties and raise questions about the authenticity of the connection.

    Such mixed signals can be observed through:

    • Inconsistent communication: One partner either replies promptly or takes an unreasonably extended time to respond to messages or engage in communication, this lack of communication leading to periods of silence and inconsistency in maintaining a regular and open dialogue within the relationship
    • Varying levels of enthusiasm: For example, one partner’s enthusiasm may fluctuate during conversations about the future of the relationship
    • Wavering commitment to shared activities: One partner often flakes out on dates or cancels vacation plans at the last minute — always a red flag in a relationship

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    Initiate a conversation about the reasons behind the shifts in interest; it can shed light on whether external factors, personal circumstances, or differing expectations are influencing the relationship.

    10. You’re ignoring your own situationship anxiety

    This self-sabotage can even lead to a toxic dynamic within your relationship. When feelings of anxiety or unease arise, dismissing or neglecting them may make the emotional strain worse. In a genuine connection, it’s crucial to address concerns and anxieties openly. Situationship anxiety, like new relationship anxiety, often emerges when expectations are unclear, and the refusal to confront these feelings can lead to a strained dynamic.

    In a healthy and exclusive relationship, partners are encouraged to communicate openly about their emotions and expectations, establishing a foundation of trust and understanding. Ignoring situationship anxiety undermines this crucial aspect of connection, potentially causing a rift between partners. Toxic behaviors such as passive-aggressiveness, avoidance, or emotional withdrawal can fester when one or both individuals neglect the need for transparent communication.

    11. One of the most hurtful situationship red flags: Your partner shares limited personal details with you

    Limited personal sharing in a situationship can be a subtle yet crucial red flag. While situationships often exist within the realm of casual relationships, a genuine bond requires a certain level of personal sharing to foster intimacy. In a healthy relationship, both partners feel comfortable opening up about their lives, allowing their partner glimpses into their thoughts, emotions, values, issues, aspirations, and experiences. 

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    A situationship often leads to one partner feeling neglected

    A lack of personal sharing in a situationship can lead to:

    • A surface-level connection
    • Both individuals remaining largely unknown to each other beyond the immediate context of the relationship
    • An inability to deepen empathy or affection for each other

    This limited sharing might stem from a desire to keep things light and carefree, but it could also signify a lack of will to invest emotionally in the connection.

    How Long Should You Stay In A Situationship?

    The duration that one should stay in a situationship is a subjective matter and largely depends on individual preferences, needs, and the evolving dynamics of the relationship. Situationships, by their nature, lack the clear boundaries and commitments that define more traditional partnerships. Therefore, the decision to stay or transition to a more transparent relationship depends on various factors. Here are some considerations to help you decide:

    • Clarity of intentions: Assess whether both partners are on the same page regarding the nature of the relationship. If there’s a shared understanding and willingness to explore a deeper connection, it may be worth giving the situationship more time
    • Communication: If there’s ongoing dialogue about expectations, feelings, and the future, it can contribute to a healthier and more fulfilling situationship
    • Personal satisfaction: Evaluate your own satisfaction and emotional well-being within the situationship. If you find that it’s causing distress, it might be time to reconsider the relationship
    • Desire for commitment: If you are seeking a committed and exclusive relationship, it might be worth discussing these expectations with your partner or reassessing the relationship’s viability
    • Mutual growth: Consider whether the situationship is contributing to personal and mutual growth. If it feels stagnant or lacks the potential for development, it may be an indication to reassess the relationship

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    Remember that every individual and relationship is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer. It’s essential to be attuned to your feelings, communicate openly with your partner, and make decisions that align with your own values and desires. If a situationship no longer serves your needs or aligns with your goals, it may be worth exploring other relationship possibilities or clarifying expectations with your partner.

    Key Pointers

    • A situationship is a casual relationship that involves sexual intimacy without the responsibilities of a traditional romantic relationship
    • If you are unsure of your relationship status, experience anxiety over it, or feel ambiguous toward your partner, you’re probably in a situationship
    • Some red flags include situationship anxiety, toxic behaviors, one-sided effort, and sporadic communication
    • If you find yourself ignoring your own evolving needs to extend the longevity of the situationship, it is a glaring red flag. How long you stay in the situationship should be based on your needs and not external expectations

    As we navigate the delicate balance between friendship and romance, it becomes evident that recognizing and addressing the red flags within these undefined relationships is important. Whether it’s the hesitation to define the relationship, the avoidance of emotional conversations, or the inconsistency in communication, each red flag serves as a guidepost, prompting us to reflect on the true nature of our connections. 

    Knowing how long to stay in a situationship is a personal decision, contingent upon the unique dynamics and aspirations of each person involved. Yet, amidst the uncertainties, the importance of open communication, personal satisfaction, and a commitment to mutual growth emerges as a common thread. Maintain the flow of transparent dialogue with your partners and make choices that are based on your values, needs, and the pursuit of genuine connection.

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  • 21 Clear Signs She Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You

    21 Clear Signs She Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You

    Embarking on the rollercoaster of love, we often find ourselves deciphering the mixed signals that define the trajectory of a relationship. Sometimes, amid the emotional maze, there emerge unmistakable signs that suggest a shift in romantic dynamics. And the signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you may begin to take root. Or you may begin to notice signs she doesn’t love you anymore.

    While these signs may be subtle, it is important to learn how to recognize them lest you keep investing in a connection with no future. It’s crucial to approach this journey of realization with a sense of self-awareness and open-mindedness, recognizing that understanding these signals can pave the way for healthier connections and personal growth. So, if you’re wondering how to tell if a girl doesn’t like you anymore, pay attention.

    We bring you a lowdown on the biggest signs that she is not in love with you and doesn’t want a relationship, in consultation with emotional mindfulness and relationship coach Pooja Priyamvada (M.Phil), certified in Psychological and Mental Health First Aid from Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health and the University of Sydney, who specializes in counseling for issues like extramarital affairs, breakups, separation, grief, and loss.

    21 Clear Signs She Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You

    Everyone is looking for the right person. Navigating the complex world of romantic relationships can be both thrilling and challenging. One of the most difficult aspects is deciphering whether the person you’re interested in is equally invested in pursuing a new relationship. While clear communication is crucial, sometimes people convey their feelings through subtle signs. Let’s explore 21 clear signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you, helping you put two and two together:

    1. She’s not available anymore

    One of the biggest signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you is that she doesn’t return your calls and your text messages are left on read. When she consistently makes chronic excuses or has a busy schedule that prevents her from spending time with you, it might indicate a shift in priorities. This could be a sign that she’s not actively seeking a deeper connection. Maybe she is just busy. Or maybe she is busy talking to other guys. Here’s what her lack of availability might look like:

    • Not calling you often: Maybe she once called you often and your conversations lasted hours. But that’s not happening anymore
    • Always busy: She takes way too long to reply. Sometimes she doesn’t check your texts for a whole day
    • Always canceling: She cancels her plans with you. It’s been going on like that for a while

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    2. Those endless hours on call are history

    Communication is the lifeblood of a relationship. When you find yourself constantly initiating conversations and she rarely reciprocates, it suggests that she is losing interest in you. This change may indicate a shift in her focus or emotional availability. If you’re not spending as much time on phone calls as you used to in the early stages of dating or getting to know each other, then this is definitely one of the signs of a girl not interested in you.

    Pooja points out, “One-word responses or delayed communication can signify a reluctance to engage in deep, meaningful conversations. Such behavior may indicate a desire to maintain a surface-level interaction and avoid deeper emotional connections.”

    If she stops calling and texting you, it’s a sign she is not into you anymore

    3. She is avoiding personal topics

    One of the signs she no longer wants you is when she starts avoiding personal topics. A willingness to gradually open up about personal life is a cornerstone of building a deeper connection. When a woman changes her behavior with you, it could mean lots of things such as:

    • Something else is going on in her life
    • She is simply no longer interested in you
    • She is just not ready for a serious relationship
    • You probably did something to push her away

    If she consistently avoids discussing personal topics or deflects questions about her feelings, it may imply a reluctance to share on a more intimate level. Initiating a conversation about emotional openness and creating a safe space for vulnerability can help bridge the gap.

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    4. The emotional intimacy is gone

    Emotional intimacy is a vital aspect of any meaningful relationship. If she appears detached or uninterested in your feelings, it could be one of the signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you. Lack of emotional intimacy is one of the clearest warning signs you could come across if you’re confused about a girl’s feelings for you.

    5. She isn’t discussing your future together like she used to

    One of the biggest signs that she is not in love with you — or even, signs she doesn’t love you anymore — is when she starts avoiding discussions about the future, such as making plans or setting goals together. This indicates she’s not on the same page as you regarding the direction of the relationship.

    Pooja says, “A woman uninterested in forming a deeper connection may steer clear of certain topics, such as discussions about family, future plans, marriage, or children. This avoidance may signal a lack of commitment.”

    6. She’s canceling on you, again

    Wondering how to tell if a girl doesn’t like you anymore? She’ll cancel on you left and right. Planning to watch a new movie together? Canceled. Planning to go to that fancy restaurant for your next date? Canceled. Repeatedly canceling plans or not following through with commitments can be disheartening. It suggests a potential lack of commitment toward building the relationship, and that is one of the clearest signs of a girl not interested in you. While you are more than eager to spend some quality time with her, she may not feel the same way. To avoid making plans with you, she could tell you things like:

    • That event is three months from now. I have no idea what my schedule would look like then
    • I’m not sure if I can make it
    • Sounds nice but I already have plans
    • It’s not my thing but you should go with your friends

    Pooja points out, “Distinguishing between genuine busyness and intentional avoidance involves assessing if the woman is making an effort to schedule time together. A busy yet interested woman will prioritize meeting or connecting, while an uninterested woman might consistently use work or other commitments as a barrier to engagement.”

    7. Her responses are dry

    One of the biggest signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you is when she falls short on communication. Communication is a two-way street, and consistent vague or non-committal responses may indicate a hesitance to open up or a lack of interest in a deeper connection. Pooja says, “A lack of initiation, delayed or non-responsive messages, and engaging with multiple people rather than making a connection with one specific individual may suggest she’s interested in a casual or not-so-serious relationship.”

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    8. She hasn’t talked about introducing you to the people closest to her

    Getting to meet the inner circle of the girl you’re with is a big deal. If the girl you like hasn’t talked about you meeting her closest friends or her parents, then she is not serious about you. Meeting each other’s friends and family is a significant step in a relationship. If she’s reluctant to introduce you to this part of her life, it may suggest hesitation or a desire to keep a certain level of distance. This is among the signs she doesn’t like you enough to want to take things to the next level.

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    9. No PDA for you

    Physical affection is a fundamental aspect of romantic relationships. If she avoids public displays of affection or maintains a significant distance, it might mean that she doesn’t like you more than a friend. In other words, this is also one of the signs she doesn’t like you to want a relationship with you. Pooja adds, “While specific body language signs aren’t universally indicative, diminished non-sexual physical touch, reduced eye contact, and less engagement in activities like hand-holding can suggest a preference for a more casual or non-committed relationship.”

    10. You get ghosted often

    Getting ghosted is a literal sign that she is no longer interested in you. Frequent lapses in communication or a long haul of silence point to a lack of priority or interest in building a deeper connection. It’s a clear sign that she doesn’t value you, as ghosting in any relationship is very disrespectful. Here’s what getting ghosted could look like:

    • It’s been hours since she responded to your texts
    • She hasn’t called you in what feels like forever
    • Maybe she has opened your messages, but she isn’t replying to them

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    11. She just won’t commit

    Do you think she has no feelings for you? Or are you wondering, how to tell if a girl doesn’t like you? No matter what you do, she won’t commit. If she explicitly communicates a fear of commitment, it’s essential to respect her feelings. We’ve often heard people ask, “She doesn’t want a relationship but wants to keep seeing me, what could be the reason?” This behavior may stem from various factors, and talking about individual timelines and expectations for the relationship is necessary to navigate this difference in commitment levels.

    12. Focusing on Casual Aspects

    If conversations predominantly revolve around casual topics rather than deeper, more meaningful discussions, it may signify a preference for a more superficial connection. So yeah, she is no longer interested in you, like she once used to be. If you’re already in a relationship, then this behavioral shift is among the signs she doesn’t love you anymore.

    Expressing a desire for more profound conversations and understanding each other’s company and intellectual needs is crucial for building a more substantial connection. Pooja says, “Patterns of behavior signaling a lack of interest in a serious relationship include expressions of a free-spirited or non-committal philosophy. Individuals voicing sentiments like “life is too short for one person” or expressing skepticism toward marriage and monogamy may not be seeking a long-term commitment.”

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    13. She is afraid of labels

    On a subreddit about dating advice, a Reddit user asked, “She doesn’t want a relationship but acts like my girlfriend. She says she doesn’t want the labels of girlfriend/boyfriend yet and I’m not sure why?” Avoiding discussions about the nature of your relationship or expressing discomfort with labels could be an indication that she won’t commit or one of the signs she no longer wants you.

    14. She treats you like a close friend

    Do you think you’re getting treated like a close friend? Looks like she is not serious about you. If she sees you as a friend, it’s essential to acknowledge the shift in dynamics. Maybe she doesn’t see a relationship with you in the future, and she doesn’t like you more than a friend, that’s it.

    Pooja points out, “In platonic relationships, women may establish personal boundaries related to physical touch, avoiding even non-sexual contact. Unlike romantic relationships, where physical contact is often present and expected, a platonic dynamic may maintain a more reserved approach to purely physical interactions.” If you notice these behavior patterns, it’s important to acknowledge them for what they are — signs she doesn’t like you more than a friend.

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    15. She offers no emotional support

    Going through a tough patch in life but she isn’t there for you, like you were there for her? A lack of emotional support might indicate that she’s not ready or willing to invest in a deeper, more emotionally connected relationship. Not being there for you in your time of need also indicates that she doesn’t value you. Here’s what emotional invalidation from her side could look like:

    • She isn’t happy about your successes
    • She makes everything about herself
    • She disappears when times get tough for you
    • She minimizes your feelings

    16. She talks about her ex-boyfriend too much

    One of the biggest signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you is when she refuses to move on. Excessive discussions about an ex may indicate unresolved feelings and a preference for a friendship rather than a romantic connection. She doesn’t appreciate you, or perhaps, doesn’t see you as a potential partner. Addressing these concerns openly can provide clarity on the nature of the relationship and help both partners move forward.

    17. She talks about independence

    Constantly emphasizing independence and self-sufficiency may indicate a desire to maintain personal space and autonomy. Discussing each other’s expectations regarding independence and interdependence is essential for establishing a healthy balance in the relationship. If avoiding commitment with you is something she often talks about, then it is among the signs that show she doesn’t love you.

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    18. She tells you that her top priority is her career

    Perhaps, it is not about you. Maybe her love life is just not a priority for her at the moment. And that’s perfectly okay. So, when she tells you her career is her top priority, she’s essentially saying she doesn’t have the emotional bandwidth to invest in a relationship. If that’s not a clear sign she doesn’t want a relationship, we don’t know what is. Accept and respect her wishes, and move on — it’s the best thing you can do for yourself and her.

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    She might use ‘prioritizing career’ as an excuse to avoid you

    19. Not available for your big days

    Not being present for significant events of your life is one of the signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you, and may indicate a lack of interest in building a more meaningful connection. While it may be immensely hurtful to see the woman you love not showing up for you, she is sending a message loud and clear. See it for what it is and save yourself from more pain and angst down the road.

    20. Neither jealous nor concerned

    While unhealthy jealousy is detrimental, a complete lack of concern or interest in your interactions with others might not be a good sign for you. Here’s what it could look like:

    • Even if you tell her about a girl making a pass at you, it doesn’t seem to bother her
    • She doesn’t follow up about the new female coworker who flirted with you at an office party
    • You won’t find her looking through your social media posts to check out the girls that liked it

    If she doesn’t feel uncomfortable even when you mention other girls having a romantic interest in you, it is one of the clearest signs of a girl not interested in you.

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    21. Today’s our anniversary?

    If a girl forgets important relationship milestones or special occasions like birthdays, she definitely isn’t interested in you. Consistently downplaying or ignoring relationship milestones may indicate a lack of emotional investment.

    What To Do When She Is No Longer Interested In You

    So, you can relate to a majority of signs that show she doesn’t love you, and by extension, doesn’t want a relationship with you. Along with pain and hurt, the realization may bring in its wake an all-important question: what to do when she is no longer interested in you? Is it time to stop pursuing the girl you like and back off? Tough as it may be, it’s to handle the situation gracefully and be aware of your feelings. Here are some genuinely helpful steps if you realize she’s not interested in you anymore:

    • Take a step back: Firstly, take a step back and reflect on the signs. Often, subtle changes in communication patterns, reduced enthusiasm, or a decline in shared activities can serve as indicators that her interest may be waning 
    • Have some one-to-one: Open, honest communication is the bedrock of any relationship, and discussing your concerns with her can provide a unique insight
    • Don’t be that clingy guy: Upon confirming that her interest has indeed dwindled, resist the urge to cling desperately to the relationship. It’s natural to feel a sense of loss, but attempting to force a connection is unlikely to yield positive results. Instead, focus on maintaining your emotional well-being 
    • Do your own thing: Engage in activities that bring you joy, spend free time with friends and family, and invest in self-care. This not only helps in personal growth but also demonstrates resilience and independence
    • Ask her the reason: As challenging as it may be, try to maintain open lines of communication. Approach the conversation with empathy and a genuine desire to understand her perspective. Ask open-ended questions about her feelings and be prepared to listen actively. Avoid becoming defensive or confrontational, as this may hinder a productive dialogue  
    • Most importantly, accept: Accept that she doesn’t appreciate you. Accept that she has no feelings for you. Acceptance is a crucial component of navigating a dwindling relationship. Acknowledge that feelings can change, and it’s a part of the natural ebb and flow of human connections. While it may be painful, embracing this reality can pave the way for healing and personal growth. 
    • Asking for help does not make you weak: Consider seeking support from friends, family, or even a therapist. Sharing your feelings with trusted confidantes can offer valuable perspectives and emotional solace. Therapeutic guidance can also provide tools to navigate the emotional turbulence that often accompanies the end of a relationship. Remember, it’s okay to lean on others during challenging times
    • Take some time off: Finally, give yourself time to heal. Moving on from a relationship takes time and patience. Allow yourself the space to grieve the loss and embrace the opportunity for renewal. Rushing into new relationships as a means of distraction may hinder the healing process. Instead, focus on building a foundation of self-love and resilience that will serve you well in future connections

    Key Pointers

    • The dynamics of your relationship can begin to change when a girl you’re interested in doesn’t feel the same way about you
    • Lack of initiative, interest, and investment are tell-tale signs she doesn’t want a relationship with you
    • This may manifest as ignoring your calls and messages, not making time for you, not taking an interest in your life
    • When faced with the realization that she may no longer be interested, approach the situation with grace and self-awareness. Take a step back, accept the reality, and focus on healing and moving on

    Being faced with the stark realization that she is no longer interested can be an emotionally charged and challenging journey for the guy. However, embedded within this difficult situation lies a great opportunity for personal growth and introspection.

    Approaching such a situation with grace becomes way more important than we realize. Grace means refraining from impulsive reactions, accusations, or attempts to force a connection. Try to understand that feelings, like the tide, can ebb and flow. Instead of succumbing to despair, channel your energy into personal development. Embrace new goals, find new hobbies, and dedicate time to activities that contribute to your physical, mental, and emotional well-being.

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  • Gemini And Capricorn Compatibility In Love, Sex, And Marriage %

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    We’re seeing a gradual increase in the trend to find out whether people are compatible with someone or not based on their zodiac sign. According to Bumble’s sociologist Jess Carbino, Ph.D, this trend has to do with young people choosing to identify less with religion and more with spirituality and astrology. Today, let’s look at Gemini and Capricorn compatibility.

    Are Capricorn and Gemini compatible in a relationship? According to AuthorityAstrology, the overall Gemini and Capricorn compatibility is 65%. At first, a Capricorn and Gemini relationship may look like an erratic and mismatched duet in the cosmic symphony of partnerships. Going by the general standards, you can’t really call Gemini and Capricorn soulmates. But surprisingly, Capricorn’s grounded earth and Gemini’s lively air combine to create an arrangement of contrasts and harmonies that defines their compatibility in love, sex, and marriage.

    While Capricorn moves through the world with measured strides, driven by ambition and a constant commitment to stability, Gemini dances through life’s nuances with flexibility and intellectual prowess. This delicate balance is what Capricorn and Gemini compatibility is rooted in. With the help of expert astrologer Aakanksha Jhunjhunwala (Master’s degree focused on Counseling Psychology from the Indian Board of Alternative Medicine), let’s dive into the compatibility of a Gemini and Capricorn. From their core needs to their communication styles, we have all the insights of a Gemini-Capricorn relationship lined up for you.

    What Makes Gemini And Capricorn Tick?

    Giving us the broad strokes of Gemini and Capricorn relationship compatibility, Aakanksha says, “Gemini understands that Capricorn is very particular about their routine. However, they might choose not to follow it. The good thing is that Capricorn will not mind if the attraction is strong.”

    Capricorn and Gemini compatibility, despite their differences, is quite visible in their relationship. Both zodiacs possess distinct qualities that drive their motivations and shape their perspectives on life and relationships, but their approach to understanding each other better can make their relationship last longer, even if their love languages are different.

    Aakanksha adds, “Gemini likes harmony, they would click with someone who makes them feel at peace. Capricorn loves to be around someone who brings stability in their life. Food will attract them to their partner, so if the latter can cook for them, that would be it.”

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    We ask Aakanksha: How good is the Capricorn and Gemini compatibility sexually? And what attracts Gemini and Capricorn sexually to each other? She says, “Their sexual bond might not be too good in the beginning, but with conscious efforts, they are bound to evolve.” Gemini and Capricorn get along rarely. So, when you wonder, “Who are Capricorns compatible with?”, Gemini would rarely be the first obvious answer. Nor are Gemini and Capricorn soulmates in the typical sense of the word. But when they do connect, it’s a match made in heaven.

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    Gemini’s engine

    Gemini is a mutable sign ruled by Mercury and thrives on mental stimulation, variety, and a ceaseless quest for knowledge. They are eternal pace-seekers who go beyond tried and true paths, driven by a thirst for information, new experiences, and social interactions. Geminis are usually extroverted charmers and can easily flirt even in a friendship. Making friends instantly is their cup of tea. If you know enough about Capricorns, you’d know that based on these qualities, the answer to “who are Capricorns compatible with” is rarely Gemini.

    But what makes them like this? Their dual nature, symbolized by the Twins, gives them the tendency for adaptability and versatility in romantic relationships.

    • Gemini’s curiosity fuels their desire for exploration, both in the external world and within the realms of ideas, emotions, and deep feelings
    • Their penchant for communication and their wit often serve as their engine in relationships
    • Gemini’s approach toward life is lighthearted — something that attracts Capricorns to them too
    • They usually like to cut corners while maintaining relationships but if they are into you, they will go above and beyond for you

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    Capricorn’s drive

    Capricorn is a cardinal sign guided by Saturn’s influence, operating with steadfast determination, discipline, and a strong sense of responsibility. They are the builders and achievers of the zodiac, driven by ambitions, quick wits, and a resolute commitment to success. Capricorn and Gemini compatibility can be a rare sight as they have very different personalities.

    • Indirect flirting with a Capricorn man or woman can be a difficult task as they are not interested in hidden meanings. They are drawn to directness more than anything else, so if you are straightforward, they will come to you naturally
    • Capricorns approach life with a pragmatic mindset, valuing hard work, structure, and long-term goals
    • Their patience and persistence enable them to steadily climb the ladder of success, often displaying an unwavering dedication to their careers, relationships, and personal development

    Shared aspects of Gemini and Capricorn compatibility

    Despite their contrasting approaches, Gemini and Capricorn both possess an underlying desire for achievement, albeit in different realms. A Gemini woman attracted to a Capricorn man is usually head over heels in love. Both signs value integrity and authenticity, expressed in their unique ways. This approach uplifts their love affair and can make them a power couple. However, Gemini and Capricorn in bed might face some troubles initially.

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    Understanding what makes them both click with each other will involve recognizing and appreciating their individual drives and motivations. Gemini seeks authenticity through exploration and freedom, while Capricorn manifests it through work-life balance and the pursuit of excellence. So, whether it’s a Capricorn man and a Gemini woman or a Capricorn woman and Gemini man pair, to make the relationship work, they need to pay heed to and respect each other’s different approaches.

    A Rundown On Gemini And Capricorn Compatibility

    Gemini and Capricorn are so different in so many ways that it can lead you to question: do Gemini and Capricorn get along? While Gemini and Capricorn soulmates may be hard to come by, they can create a dynamic and surprisingly compatible relationship. So when you see a Gemini and Capricorn get along, their compatibility is a blend of contrasting personalities in balance.

    Speaking of Gemini and Capricorn love compatibility, it’s vital to remember that conflict resolution is an important piece of the puzzle. So how do Capricorn and Gemini fight? Capricorn and Gemini both have different approaches to a conflict. While Gemini has a lighthearted approach to friction, Capricorn can be serious and rigid.

    “Even so, Capricorn does bring some calmness in Gemini and Gemini brings some excitement in Capricorn’s life,” Aakanksha said, when asked about the long-term Gemini and Capricorn relationship compatibility. “Their different approaches are like two sides of a coin, it can either make their bond stronger or weaker. It’s about how much effort they are willing to appreciate each other’s differences and value the presence of each other in their lives,” she added. Let’s see Capricorn and Gemini’s relationship compatibility.

    Read on to find out how Gemini and Capricorn fit together.

    Communication and intellect

    Gemini, an air sign ruled by Mercury, thrives on communication, mental agility, and adaptability. They are social butterflies, constantly seeking mental stimulation and variety in their interactions. Capricorn, an Earth sign ruled by Saturn, is more reserved, practical, and methodical. Despite this difference, they can foster strong Gemini and Capricorn relationship compatibility because:

    • Gemini’s quick wit and Capricorn’s thoughtful approach to discussions create a strong foundation for communication
    • Gemini’s ability to express ideas meshes well with Capricorn’s pragmatic thinking, fostering intellectual compatibility and mutual respect

    Different approaches to life

    Gemini’s approach to love is more playful and explorative. They tend to be spontaneous, embracing change and seeking excitement. They never settle for anything boring. In contrast, Capricorn is more cautious, valuing stability, structure, and long-term plans. While this can create tension initially, it also offers a chance for Gemini man and Capricorn woman to balance things out.

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    According to a user on Quora, “The Capricorn would balance out the Gemini and make them more “stable” and someone to rely on while the Gemini will be Capricorn’s entertainment and will find Gemini fun to be with.” Once they learn how to strike this balance, Gemini and Capricorn love compatibility can be pretty solid.

    Emotional compatibility

    Gemini is an emotionally sensitive zodiac sign, whereas because of their unwavering focus, Capricorns can sometimes be perceived as an unemotional and cold zodiac sign, even cutthroat. If it won’t matter in five years, Capricorn simply cannot be bothered with it today. So it can be assumed that Capricorns don’t have time for emotions, and Geminis find it difficult to keep their emotions under control.

    You can see how that could create problems for Capricorn compatibility with Gemini. In fact, it may even leave you wondering, “How do Gemini and Capricorn get along at all?” Well, once an emotional connection is established, their differences can complement each other, and they can find common ground. Whether it is a Capricorn man and a Gemini woman relationship or a Capricorn woman and Gemini man pair, a strong emotional connection is what sustains such a connection.

    Marriage compatibility

    A Gemini woman attracted to Capricorn or a Gemini man attracted to a Capricorn woman would go to a great extent to make the relationship work. Understanding and compromise will be key to making their marriage work.

    • While Gemini is adaptable and values intellectual stimulation, Capricorn is practical, ambitious, and focused on long-term goals
    • Capricorns plan their acts of love well in advance and Geminis appreciate these efforts. Gemini’s spontaneity gives Capricorn a chance to do something different once in a while too

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    “In a marriage, they can embrace each other’s differences and take turns to do activities that the other enjoys. But if the love is superficial, they will not be able to do what the other person loves to do. This will result in distance and lack of intimacy,” Aakanksha says. This can cause the relationship to crumble, whether it is between a Capricorn man and a Gemini woman or a Capricorn woman and Gemini man.

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    There are a lot of things that attract Capricorn and Gemini to each other.

    Sexual compatibility

    Are Gemini and Capricorn sexually quite different? Yes. In the bedroom, their differing approaches toward romance might initially clash as they don’t have a similar pace. The sexual compatibility of these signs might seem a little off in the beginning. While Gemini tends to be experimental and enjoys the mental aspect of sex as much as the physical form of it, Capricorn is more reserved and might need time to open up.

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    Gemini and Capricorn in bed are bound to face a few challenges. Then, how do Gemini and Capricorn get along in the long term? Well, with understanding and communication, they can find a middle ground where Gemini’s creativity and Capricorn’s sensuality can connect them deeply on a sexual level.

    Long-term compatibility and challenges

    How do Capricorn and Gemini fight, though? Talking about the strengths and challenges of Capricorn and Gemini relationship, Aakanksha explained, “A strength of theirs is that either of them can take a step back when listening is required to understand what the other is trying to say. A weakness is that Capricorn can be stubborn or rigid at times which can escalate the situation. Gemini, at times, can act impulsively without understanding the consequences of it.”

    In the long run, their differences might become apparent in their lifestyle choices and approaches to responsibilities. This can be a pain point in Capricorn and Gemini compatibility. However, if they find a way to appreciate each other’s strengths and compromise, they can build a strong long-term relationship and overcome most obstacles.

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    Key Pointers

    • Capricorn and Gemini are considered only 65% compatible. However, despite their differences, Gemini and Capricorn have a connection that will bring out their compatibility in various forms
    • Though they express it in different ways, both signs respect sincerity and integrity, and this approach can strengthen their relationship and make them a power pair
    • Over time, their disparities may manifest in the way they tackle duties and live their lives. Gemini’s yearning for flexibility and diversity may collide with Capricorn’s emphasis on security and a job

    As is evident by now, the answer to “who are Capricorns compatible with” is not Gemini. A consistent Gemini and Capricorn compatibility requires understanding and effort in the relationship due to their differing natures. However, when they embrace each other’s strengths and work through their challenges, they can create a relationship that balances excitement with stability, intellect with practicality, resulting in a unique and fulfilling partnership. In essence, these signs are not exactly the best matches in astrology but it may not matter much because their efforts can turn the stars in their favor. All in all, you can rest assured of this relationship!

    FAQs

    1. Is Capricorn and Gemini a good match?

    A Capricorn and Gemini couple usually has moderate compatibility. “This match is an average match; Capricorn could get critical about Gemini’s behavior. Gemini could find Capricorn a bit unpredictable,” according to Aakanksha. However, sometimes, a Gemini man and Capricorn woman can make a great couple.

    “The only trait that could make them love each other is their mutual understanding. They know they are different and won’t try to change each other. They can drive each other crazy with their differences but that would make their love interesting. So, it is a risk that could go either way,” she adds further.

    2. Why are Geminis attracted to Capricorns?

    Geminis are attracted to Capricorn for many reasons. “Geminis are attracted to Capricorns because they have what Geminis lack, so the initial attraction is very strong. They appreciate the small efforts made by Capricorns. However, Geminis lose interest very easily when they feel they are not appreciated in return,” Aakanksha explains.

    3. Why are Capricorns attracted to Geminis?

    The attraction of Capricorns toward Gemini, as Aakanksha suggests, is because “Capricorns like the curiosity of Geminis with regard to exploring new things. They find it attractive even though they lack the energy to follow through. Also, a Capricorn likes how a Gemini can easily read the surroundings and act accordingly.”

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  • How Narcissists Treat Their Exes — 11 Common Things They Do And How You Can Respond

    How Narcissists Treat Their Exes — 11 Common Things They Do And How You Can Respond

    Breaking up with a narcissistic partner can be an emotionally taxing experience, as I discovered firsthand in the aftermath of ending my relationship with a narcissistic ex-girlfriend. Narcissists tend to have a set of dark personality traits that can be both bewildering and hurtful for their former partners. So it’s intriguing to delve into the psychology of how narcissists treat their exes, as these individuals often leave a lasting impact on those who have dared to sever ties with them.

    One striking characteristic is the narcissist’s penchant for manipulation and emotional gamesmanship. In the wake of our breakup, my ex-girlfriend employed a range of tactics aimed at maintaining control and ensuring that the narrative of our relationship suited her agenda. From gaslighting to guilt-tripping, she expertly wielded these tools to cast doubt on my decision and undermine my sense of self-worth. Understanding these behaviors can be crucial for those trying to part ways with a narcissistic ex-partner.

    Do Narcissists Suffer After A Breakup?

    In the aftermath of a breakup with a narcissist, their characteristic narcissistic traits and coping mechanisms come to the forefront. As someone who has navigated the stormy seas of parting ways with a narcissistic ex, I can talk at length about their post-breakup experience. While it might be tempting to believe that narcissists emerge unscathed from the demise of a relationship, a closer look reveals a different narrative. Let’s explore how narcissists suffer after a breakup, examining their unique brand of emotional turmoil.

    • Ego bruised, not heartbroken: For narcissists, the primary source of suffering lies in the dent to their grandiose self-image, rather than the severing of a deep emotional connection
    • Control stripped away: The breakup disrupts the narcissist’s sense of control, prompting desperate attempts to regain dominance and salvage their inflated and false self-worth
    • Concealed pain behind arrogance: Outwardly, narcissists may project an air of indifference or arrogance, but beneath the surface, feelings of rejection and abandonment fester. This is what makes it seem like narcissists hate their exes
    • Rapid rebound relationships: Often, narcissists seek quick rebounds to reaffirm their desirability and cover up their internal turmoil with external validations

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    Regarding the narcissist’s concealment of pain behind an air of arrogance, one study found that narcissists can even go as far as attempting suicide while continuing to adamantly deny their suffering: “Psychiatric inpatient admission of three non-depressed young men who escaped deadly self-injury provided an opportunity to study their character organization. Defects in affect-regulatory functions and evidence of pathological narcissism were identified and explored … Each denied intent to kill himself, and none acknowledged experience of depression or the wish to die. Each also denied his suicidal behavior involved significant risks, and each discounted the importance of obvious, identifiable stressors as triggers for it.”

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    As we delve into the intricacies of narcissistic tendencies and post-breakup suffering, the question naturally arises: Do narcissists miss their exes, or is their emotional landscape devoid of such sentiments? How to know if a narcissist is finished with you can be a mystery, so let’s unravel this aspect of a narcissist’s behavior.

    Do Narcissists Miss Their Exes?

    Do narcissistic individuals truly experience the pangs of missing their former partners? And how do narcissists feel when you move on? As we expand upon these inquiries, it’s essential to unravel the complex layers of narcissistic psychology to see how it shapes their post-breakup dynamics such as dumpers remorse. Do narcissists only connect with certain exes? Do narcissists, driven by a profound need for admiration and control, genuinely miss the person they once shared a relationship with?

    Here are some things they actually long for when they say they miss their ex:

    • Ease of control: Narcissists tend to form relationships based on whom they can overpower, which can influence the intensity of their feelings post-breakup. So if a narcissist wants to be friends after breakup, be wary because it may be a control tactic
    • Ego boost: What narcissists may miss more than the person is the ego boost derived from the relationship. The absence of constant admiration can leave them yearning for what they once enjoyed. So a narcissist wants you back only for this missing validation
    • Idealized version of the relationship: Idealization vs. reality are a constant battle with narcissists as they often idealize their partners during the relationship, creating an image that may not align with reality. Missing their ex may be more about missing the idealized version than the actual person, particularly in a narcissistic relationship with an empath
    • Revisiting their past glory: Nostalgia for the times when the relationship served as a source of narcissistic supply can lead to a distorted sense of missing their ex-partner. Also, denying them their narcissistic supply is what makes them belligerent and why it may seem like narcissists hate their exes

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    On dealing with a narcissist obsessed with his ex, a Reddit user makes some observations on men. They explain that once you leave a narcissist, he will show his true colors in this fashion: “He doesn’t miss ‘you.’ He misses what ‘you’ provided. Replace ‘you’ with her/him and that’s how the narcissist sees it. A means to an end. People before you, people after you. It doesn’t matter since they are selfish and just take and take until you’re depleted.”

    Let’s now explore whether narcissists experience a genuine feeling of missing their exes. In the following section, we will scrutinize whether narcissists truly want to go back to their former partners or if their motivations lie elsewhere.

    Do Narcissists Want To Go Back To Their Ex?

    Entering the realm of what a narcissist does at the end of a relationship brings us to the intriguing question: Do narcissists harbor a genuine desire to rekindle a relationship with their ex-partners? Do narcissists only connect with certain exes — the ones they know they can control? Understanding the motivations behind a narcissist’s actions is key to navigating their post-breakup interactions.

    As we explore whether narcissists want to go back to their exes, it becomes apparent that their motivations are often intricately tied to their need for control, validation, and the preservation of their grandiose, albeit false self-image. Here are some reasons for getting back with their former partners:

    • Ego restoration: Narcissists may entertain the idea of reconciliation as a means to restore their wounded ego and regain a sense of control over the narrative of the relationship
    • Seeking narcissistic supply: The desire to reconnect often stems from a need for a fresh supply of admiration and validation, which the ex-partner previously provided. If a narcissist wants to be friends after breakup, it usually means they’re after this supply
    • Manipulative intentions: Narcissists may express a desire to reunite, not out of genuine love, but as a strategic move of romantic manipulation over their ex-partner
    • Cycle of idealization and devaluation: The cyclical nature of narcissistic relationships may lead to a desire to go back, driven by the idealization phase. This phase is followed by devaluation. All of this creates a temporary illusion of improvement

    One Reddit user talks of his narcissistic ex-girlfriend seeking this narcissistic supply from him: “Mine told me she misses the ‘old Tim.’ I responded the ‘old Tim’ that you kicked out and abandoned all those times? The ‘old Tim’ that you’d go weeks and months ignoring not caring if he was dead or alive? They don’t hold anything sacred, let alone another person, beyond themselves.”

    A narcissist obsessed with his ex will continue to subject her to his manipulative tactics

    When narcissists revisit past relationships, it’s vital to understand how they treat their exes in these scenarios and, more importantly, how one can navigate such interactions. In the next section, we’ll explore how narcissists treat their exes and offer insights on how to effectively respond to these challenging situations.

    How Narcissists Treat Their Exes And How To Respond

    Even if the relationship ends, the narcissistic abuse will likely continue. The aftermath of a breakup with a narcissist often unveils a complex dance of manipulative behaviors and emotional turbulence. “How do narcissists feel when you move on?” I asked a friend, who has been on the receiving end of the harm caused by his self-consumed ex-partner.

    He shared, “From my experience, once you leave a narcissist, he will go to great lengths to protect or feed his ego. A narcissist obsessed with his ex is a common sight for some. But to face it personally was extremely disturbing. I couldn’t have kept sane without the support of those who believed my side of the story.”

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    Understanding how narcissists treat their exes is pivotal for those navigating the challenging terrain of post-relationship interactions. So let’s talk about the common patterns of narcissistic abuse exhibited by them once you break up. We also offer effective strategies for responding to these often tumultuous encounters.

    1. They will gaslight you

    People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder lack empathy, which enables them to employ narcissistic gaslighting tactics to erode your confidence and sense of reality. They sow seeds of doubt through:

    • Persistent denial
    • Trivializing your experiences
    • Even rewriting of events

    This emotional manipulation leaves the ex-partner questioning their own sanity and memories. It creates a toxic environment where the narcissist’s version of events takes precedence, infecting your mind with confusion and self-doubt.

    How to respond: Documenting interactions can help. Keep records of conversations and incidents to protect yourself from gaslighting and false accusations. Doing this will probably not get a narcissist to admit to their wrongdoing but it will protect you from feeling like you’re imagining things.

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    2. They will attempt triangulation

    Triangulation is a calculated narcissistic strategy aimed at maintaining emotional control. By introducing a third party — whether real or perceived — into the narrative, the narcissist triggers feelings of jealousy, competition, and insecurity in their ex-partner. Plus, if she or he cheated now and wants to be friends, there’s a good chance they’re attempting to employ this tactic on you. Whether flaunting a new relationship or strategically orchestrating interactions, this control tactic serves to manipulate emotions, exert influence, and keep the ex-partner entangled in the web of the narcissist’s machinations.

    How to respond: Be aware of the narcissist’s intent in trying to make you jealous. Recognizing triangulation is the first step in mitigating its impact. Refrain from engaging in confrontations with the third party or expressing overt jealousy, as this fuels the narcissist’s manipulation.

    3. They will give you the silent treatment

    Narcissists treat their exes with the silent treatment as a powerful form of emotional abuse. Why do they do this? Let’s see:

    • It’s done to assert dominance and instigate anxiety in their ex-partners
    • By abruptly withdrawing communication, the narcissist leaves the ex-partner in a state of uncertainty and desperation for resolution
    • This calculated tactic is designed to maintain control, as the silent treatment communicates that the narcissist holds the power to grant or withhold emotional connection. Narcissists love holding power over a person, no matter what kind of power it is
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    How to respond: Stay calm and collected. Don’t allow the narcissist’s behavior to trigger frustration or desperation, at least not in front of them. Refrain from begging or pleading for attention. Giving in to emotional pleas will definitely reinforce the narcissist’s belief that silent treatment is an effective tool for manipulation.

    4. Your narcissistic ex will resort to hoovering

    Post-breakup, narcissists often engage in hoovering, a manipulative cycle of the idealization stage followed by devaluation aimed at luring their ex-partner back into the relationship. It’s a three-stage cycle through which the narcissist seeks to re-establish control over their ex-partner’s emotions and undermine their self-confidence, creating a cycle that perpetuates emotional turmoil and dependency.

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    These are the three stages of their behavior:

    • Intermittent displays of affection
    • False promises of change
    • And intermittent attention in the form of excessive praise

    How to respond: Be aware of covert narcissistic hoovering and recognize it as a manipulation strategy employed by the narcissist to regain control and attention. Ask yourself: Are the narcissist’s promises of change or displays of affection temporary? If yes, they are intended to manipulate emotions.

    5. They will shift the blame onto you

    A cornerstone of narcissistic behavior involves deflecting responsibility for the relationship’s demise onto their ex-partner. By casting themselves as blameless victims, narcissists skillfully manipulate the narrative, leaving their ex-partners burdened with unfounded guilt and shame. If you’re faced with a ‘she or he cheated now wants to be friends’ situation, they will very likely attempt to shift blame on you.

    Be wary. This blame-shifting tactic serves to absolve the narcissist of accountability while reinforcing their sense of superiority, and also to create a sense of self-doubt in their victim.

    How to respond: Resist internalizing the false guilt imposed by their blame-shifting. Remind yourself of your own intentions and actions (list them out if it helps), and don’t let the narcissist’s attempts to shift blame affect your self-worth. Resist the urge to become overly defensive or to react emotionally in front of your ex. Instead, calmly address inaccuracies and then redirect the conversation toward finding solutions or resolutions.

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    6. They will attempt to smear your reputation

    To safeguard their own image, narcissists may initiate smear campaigns against their ex-partners. Through a calculated dissemination of false information, distortions, and character assassinations, they attempt to tarnish your reputation. Narcissists treat their exes this way not only to isolate them socially but also to reinforce their control over the narrative surrounding the breakup. This can cause severe trust issues and low self-esteem in the victim, potentially damaging future relationships.

    How to respond: If your ex is doing this to you, seek support. Reach out to friends, family members, or a therapist for a supportive network during this challenging time. Get a restraining order if you fear for your safety. And always remember to prioritize self-care in the middle of all this.

    7. A narcissist wants you back if they resort to love bombing

    Love bombing is a deceptive technique wherein the narcissist inundates their ex-partner with overwhelming displays of affection and attention. This reinforcement of love and admiration creates a sense of dependency and excitement, effectively luring the ex-partner back into the narcissist’s orbit. This strategy of narcissistic behaviors is characterized by an exaggerated intensity of emotions and grandiose displays of love and sexual advances, only to be followed by subsequent manipulation and emotional withdrawal. The bitter truth is that narcissists care only about themselves.

    Also, take note of future faking. A Reddit user recounts her experience of dealing with a narcissistic ex: “It was definitely future faking. The narc will find someone else within a week and start telling her that she is the future wife and beyond perfect. That promise means nothing to them because they will drag it and drop it onto the next person in line.” If this is relatable, then rather than genuinely missing you, please know that your ex is attempting to manipulate you.

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    How to respond: Clearly define and enforce healthy boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. Firm boundaries will come about as a result of self-awareness, and will stop you from getting carried away. Gauge their reaction to your assertion of these boundaries.

    8. They may attempt to control or manipulate your finances

    Narcissists love to overpower their partners completely. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder may exert financial control during and after the relationship, leveraging money as a tool for manipulation and influence. They do this by:

    • Controlling access to resources
    • Creating financial dependency
    • Using financial threats

    The narcissist ensures that their ex-partner remains entangled in a web of dependence, further complicating the process of disentangling from the toxic relationship. For example, a common way of controlling finances post-breakup is by refusing to pay child support.

    How to respond: Consult loved ones or a financial advisor for ways you can become financially independent. If needed, consult a lawyer to see if there is any legal recourse.

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    9. Your ex will exploit your emotional vulnerabilities in yet another display of narcissism

    Narcissists maintain dominance by recognizing and exploiting their ex-partner’s emotional vulnerabilities. It is a key tactic employed by them to keep you trapped. By leveraging your most deep-seated insecurities, fears, or past traumas, narcissists gain a strategic advantage and ensure that you remain emotionally entangled and dependent through trauma bonding. This is probably one of the most damaging narcissist moves and makes it harder for the victim to trust a new partner.

    How to respond: In this situation, sever contact with your ex-partner immediately. If that is not possible, at least minimize contact as much as possible to break free from the cycle of manipulation and regain emotional clarity. It’s not a good idea to even remain friends with a narcissist.

    10. Narcissists will attempt to manipulate the narrative

    Narcissists habitually engage in pathological lying through fabrication of elaborate stories, exaggerations, or omissions. They do this to achieve the following:

    • It is a means of controlling perceptions, attempting to make it seem like their bad behavior is not such a serious offense
    • The compulsive liar manipulates the narrative to maintain a facade of superiority and regain control of the situation
    • Narcissists behave this way because pathological lying serves to reinforce the narcissist’s inflated false self-image while undermining the ex-partner’s ability to discern truth from fiction, perpetuating a cycle of confusion and dependency
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    A narcissist will attempt to play the victim in the breakup

    How to respond: It would help to cultivate emotional independence in order to reduce dependency on external validation. Your core friends and family will support you through this. Make a list of facts, and read it whenever you doubt yourself. Share it with your loved ones.

    11. They will play the victim card

    Narcissists treat their exes like abusers to gain the upper hand. Despite being the orchestrators of emotional manipulation, narcissists skillfully play the victim to elicit sympathy and deflect blame onto their ex-partners. This manipulative tactic, known as DARVO (deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender), involves presenting themselves as unjustly persecuted, fostering a narrative where their ex-partner becomes the alleged aggressor.

    It shifts the perceived power dynamic in their favor. By portraying themselves as innocent victims, narcissists further manipulate perceptions, making it challenging for their former partners to assert their own truths and experiences.

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    How to respond: Since there is nothing you can do to change another person’s perspective, the best thing would be to ignore their actions and focus on your healing. Block them from everywhere. Prioritize self-care activities to nurture your mental and emotional health when dealing with a narcissistic injury of this kind.

    Key Pointers

    • Breaking up with a narcissistic partner is often not the end of the story. They will continue to affect your personal life and other relationships in the aftermath
    • Narcissists do suffer post-breakup but not in the way the rest of us do — They suffer from a lack of ego validation and miss the control they had on you
    • They have a range of tactics that they may employ to lure you back into their control such as hoovering, blame-shifting, love bombing, and DARVO
    • Understanding narcissism is the first step you can take. It’ll help you respond to their attempts at drawing you back into their abusive games

    We’ve delved into the intricate psychology of how narcissists treat their exes and explored the nuances of the suffering they go through, and the one they inflict upon others. From gaslighting to love bombing, the manipulative tactics employed by narcissists have been laid bare. If you’re going through this hurt, we hope you’re taking steps toward breaking free of their control.

    By documenting interactions, educating ourselves, and focusing on healing and self-care, you can not only navigate the complex web woven by narcissists but also reclaim control, fostering a journey of self-discovery and empowerment beyond the shadows of manipulation.

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  • How To Answer, “What Are You Looking For In A Relationship?”

    How To Answer, “What Are You Looking For In A Relationship?”

    In our dating journey, we’ve all found ourselves faced with the question: What are you looking for in a relationship? Like it’s the ultimate compatibility test. Although it’s not always easy, figuring out your response is important. It serves as the foundation of your potential journey with a romantic interest or prospect and ensures that you’re on the same page about the things that matter the most.

    Now, when that question is posed to you, you want to answer directly and concisely. It’s like relationship GPS, I promise you. We’re glad to be able to help steer yours in the right direction. So let’s talk about the qualities to look for in a life partner or relationship.

    How To Know What You Are Looking For In A Relationship

    To be able to articulate your needs and expectations from a romantic connection, you need to establish a foundation for your relationship desires. Are you someone who looks for emotional maturity? Or someone who seeks an adventurous partner maybe?

    All of us have a specific need that needs to be validated through our partners. The points below cover exactly that. These are the main things that you should consider in a potential relationship. They will eventually lead you to answer the question of what are you looking for in a relationship.

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    1. Are you looking for someone who understands your core values?

    Many of us long for a relationship that goes beyond fleeting interactions and hope to discover a relationship based not just on the fundamentals of honesty and commitment but also on shared values and vision. If that’s you, figuring out how to answer what are you looking for on a dating site or when this question is posed on an in-person date shouldn’t be hard.

    People who are looking for a fulfilling relationship frequently want to connect deeply and meaningfully with someone who shares their core values. Finding a mate who has similar views on life, family, and personal development is just as important as being faithful and communicating openly and honestly.

    What to look for in a relationship with a guy or girl should revolve around their values. You must seek a partner who shares your values, whether they be a dedication to self-improvement, a sense of humor, or a shared outlook on the future. When asked, “What are you looking for in a relationship?” emphasize the importance of shared values as the cornerstone for a solid and enduring connection to properly communicate your expectations.

    2. Are you looking for someone who understands your goals?

    When asked what do you want out of this relationship, put your independence and uniqueness first, followed by your career and personal goals. Even in a committed relationship, it’s critical to have individual goals and aspirations. And it’s equally important that both partners foster an atmosphere that encourages them to pursue and accomplish their goals.

    When a girl asks what are you looking for in a relationship, she likely seeks a partner with a goal-centric mindset — someone who not only appreciates the significance of shared experiences but also understands the importance of personal growth and career aspirations.

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    Assessing a potential partner’s commitment to individual goals involves observing whether they actively pursue their ambitions and maintain connections outside the relationship. A positive sign is their encouragement of personal development and space for independent pursuits within the partnership.

    Conversely, a partner displaying controlling tendencies, hindering your interactions with friends, or impeding your pursuit of professional and personal goals, raises concerns. What you are looking for in a woman or man must include respect for your independence and elements of support for personal and professional achievements.

    Wanting your partner to understand and support your goals is natural

    3. Are you looking for someone who is emotionally mature?

    When a girl asks what are you looking for in a relationship, she may be looking to see if you’re emotionally mature. According to Psychology Today, girls mature emotionally faster than boys, and that’s why they may seek out partners who share the same level of emotional maturity as them. However, this need is not necessarily gender-specific. Men, too, may seek emotional stability in a relationship, and that can come only with an emotionally mature partner.

    Have you ever been with someone who would give you the silent treatment or yell and scream when they were mad? These are signs of an emotionally immature person. They feel their emotions but don’t know how to handle them well. Many relationships fail due to the inability to handle and communicate through each other’s emotional baggage.

    On the other hand, an emotionally mature person will talk to you when they’re upset and be willing to work through problems together. That’s why this is an extremely important box to check, especially when you are looking for a partner for marriage and come across the question of what are you looking for in a relationship.

    4. Are you looking for someone you’re sexually compatible with?

    One of the qualities to look for in a life partner is sexual compatibility. What are you looking for in a woman or man should not be restricted to only emotional needs. According to Sexual and Relationship Therapy (Volume 28), the perception of sexual compatibility is essential among young couples. It is also equally important to be physically satisfied in your intimate relationship.

    What’s appealing and satisfying can differ from person to person, so there’s no one-size-fits-all answer — the key is that you and your partner are comfortable with the level of intimacy and sexual activity in your relationship. Yes, it may take a couple some time to find their rhythm, particularly in the early stages of a relationship, and that’s perfectly all right.

    Allow yourselves time to understand what you both enjoy and what may need some adjustment. This process of exploration and learning is a natural and healthy part of building a fulfilling sexual connection.

    5. Are you looking for someone who understands your love language?

    One of the most important things to think about when looking for a partner for marriage or a long-term relationship is whether or not they understand and resonate with your love language. Your way of expressing and understanding love is known as your “love language,” and it can include giving and receiving gifts, spending time with loved ones, verbal affirmations, and acts of service.

    It must feature on your what do you want in a relationship list. Knowing and respecting one another’s love language is the cornerstone of a genuinely harmonious relationship. It guarantees that the tokens of affection that partners exchange are not only meaningful but also well-received. By offering insight into each person’s emotional needs and desires, it cultivates a deep connection and paves the way for answers to what are you looking for in a relationship or marriage.

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    These 5 points are integral to a relationship because

    • Honesty builds trust
    • Loyalty provides security
    • Independence allows personal growth
    • Emotional maturity helps navigate challenges
    • Sexual compatibility enhances intimacy
    • Friendship forms a lasting connection

    These qualities define your relationship preferences, seeking genuine, lasting, and enriching love. Now that we have a set foundation of what are you looking for in a relationship, we’ll look at a few ways you can answer this question based on your preferences. This list will aid in communication. The answers below ensure that you stand your ground but, at the same time, be warm and approachable.

    60 Answers To “What Are You Looking For In A Relationship?”

    Having established a few benchmarks that should help you answer the question, “So, what do you want out of this relationship?”, let us look at a few quick answers that can help you communicate better with your partner.

    This selection of answers will not only clarify your goals but also infuse your communication with passion and emotion. These 60 responses are more than simply a series of numbers; they’re tiny windows into your hopes, concerns, and desires. Consider them as a means to strike up a discussion, reveal your true self, and peel back the layers.

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    By using these answers, you may share a bit of yourself and make the conversation more organic and not like a prearranged interview. Let these responses serve as a guide to what are you looking for in a relationship.

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    1. I’m on the lookout for that dream partner who can seamlessly blend into the roles of both my best friend and my lover. What I truly desire is a connection where I can openly share every aspect of my life, be it joys, sorrows, or dreams, in a deep and meaningful way
    2. Honesty in relationships is an absolute linchpin in my book. I genuinely believe that without it, the very fabric of a partnership begins to fray over time. Honesty is about more than just telling the truth; it’s the foundation of trust and open, transparent communication between two people
    3. A good sense of humor is non-negotiable for me. Life is a journey that should be filled with moments of laughter and levity. I’m seeking a partner who can share in the joy of seeing the lighter side of life, and who can inject fun and playfulness into our time together
    4. My family holds a special place in my heart, and I’m in search of someone who is on the same page. Finding a family-oriented partner is a high priority for me
    5. Independence is a quality I deeply appreciate in a partner. It’s important to me that my significant other maintains their own life and interests outside of our relationship
    6. I’m eager to find a partner who’s open to embracing new experiences, especially when it comes to travel. I firmly believe that life is too short to remain within the confines of our comfort zones, and I’m excited about the prospect of traveling the world together
    7. A partner who can bring laughter into even the toughest of times is a treasure. I value someone who knows how to savor life, not taking things too seriously, and who can always find a reason to smile
    8. Patience and understanding are qualities that I hold dear, especially when it comes to my ambitions. I’m driven and ambitious, and I recognize that not everyone can match my pace. Therefore, a supportive partner is invaluable
    9. Family-oriented values are significant to me. Spending quality time with loved ones is something I hold dear, and I’m hoping to find a partner who shares this sentiment
    10. While shared interests are wonderful, I’m also open to learning new things from my partner. It’s about mutual understanding, growth, and exploration
    11. I envision a relationship where we both stand as equal partners. In my ideal relationship, neither person is more important than the other, and we rely on each other, always having each other’s backs
    12. Trust and communication form the cornerstone of any relationship for me. These two elements create a secure and nurturing environment, whether a romantic relationship or platonic relationship
    13. I appreciate a partner who possesses both intelligence for meaningful conversations and the ability to let loose
    14. A sense of spontaneity is a plus. I’m on the lookout for someone open to new experiences, who can keep things fresh and exciting, even in the face of routine
    15. An active lifestyle and a love for the outdoors are integral to my idea of an ideal relationship
    16. I don’t have a specific “type” but qualities like confidence, ambition, and a strong sense of self hold appeal for me in a partner
    17. Independence is a trait I highly value. I’m drawn to individuals who don’t rely on me to fulfill all their needs
    18. Shared family values and backgrounds hold significance for me. I’m looking for a relationship in which our values align
    19. I’m interested in a partner who’s willing to weather the storms that may arise in our relationship. Relationships can be challenging, and I’m searching for someone willing to put in the effort to make things work
    20. Kindness, care, and consideration are non-negotiables. I want a partner who is always ready to lend a listening ear and offer wisdom or comfort when needed
    21. Reliability is key; I’m seeking a partner who can be there for me emotionally and physically, whenever I need them
    22. A confidant person with whom I can share my deepest thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or rejection is vital to me
    23. A partner who can bring laughter into even the toughest of times is a treasure. I value someone who genuinely laughs, whose company I enjoy, and who can brighten even the gloomiest days
    24. A display of love, both in grand gestures and everyday moments, is something I cherish. I truly want a loving relationship
    25. Encouragement and celebration of each other’s dreams and achievements are vital in my ideal relationship
    26. I’m looking for someone with whom I can have a blast, who shares similar interests, and who enjoys spending quality time together
    27. I’m looking for a long-term relationship, and a partner who is in it for the long haul, no matter how tough the going gets
    28. I desire a partner who loves me for who I am, not for who they want me to be
    29. Support, particularly toward my career and ambitions, is crucial
    30. Dependability and emotional support are fundamental aspects of an ideal partner
    31. Comfort and stress relief in each other’s company are important to me
    32. Handling conflicts in a constructive way and a willingness to compromise are crucial
    33. Honesty and trustworthiness are top priorities for me, as I seek a partner I can confide in without fear of judgment
    34. Spontaneity and a thirst for new experiences are highly valued
    35. I want someone who inspires me to be the best version of myself
    36. I want a balanced, healthy relationship where both partners are equally invested. A connection rooted in mutual respect and zeal for growth is what I desire
    37. I’m searching for someone who shares my values and zest for life, someone who looks forward to the future and embraces new adventures
    38. A relationship based on genuine connection, without pretenses or games, is my goal
    39. Quality time together, whether it’s full of adventure or a cozy night in, is essential
    40. The foundation of my ideal relationship rests upon the bedrock of mutual support. It’s an essential pillar where both partners can freely give and take, fostering a sense of fairness and equality. It’s a partnership where no one feels taken advantage of, and each person contributes their fair share
    41. I’m drawn to individuals who are secure in their own lives, those who don’t seek completion through another person. It’s about finding someone who brings their completeness into the relationship, enhancing rather than completing each other
    42. I’m in search of a partner who not only respects my need for personal space and independence but also possesses the innate ability to shower affection upon me when it’s desired. It’s about striking that delicate balance between autonomy and intimacy
    43. What I truly desire is a partner who can effortlessly keep pace with my active lifestyle and share my enthusiasm for spending quality time outdoors. It’s the joy of having an adventurous partner who shares a love for nature
    44. Authenticity is paramount to me, and I’m in search of someone with whom I can be my true self. I cherish a connection where quirks and mistakes are met with understanding and acceptance
    45. Building a life together is at the heart of my relationship goals. I seek a partner who shares the same aspiration for a shared future, someone who envisions a life intertwined with mine
    46. Support and encouragement are cornerstones of my ideal relationship. I yearn for a partner who not only cheers me on but also inspires and motivates me to become the best version of myself
    47. Physical affection and emotional intimacy are fundamental aspects of the love I seek. It’s about being with someone who demonstrates their love through actions and words, creating a deep sense of connection
    48. Imperfections are what make us human, and I’m in search of someone who not only accepts but embraces all aspects of who I am, flaws and all. It’s a love that doesn’t seek to change or mold me into someone else. There is no perfect relationship
    49. Respect and consideration for each other’s feelings are non-negotiables. I yearn for a partner who treats me with kindness and makes me feel truly loved
    50. An active lifestyle and shared outdoor adventures are high on my list of priorities. I long for a partner who revels in the joy of outdoor activities, exploring new places, and embarking on thrilling adventures in the same way as me
    51. Dependability is a quality I hold dear. I seek a partner who I can rely on, whether it’s for a comforting shoulder to lean on during tough times or a hearty laugh to brighten my day
    52. Equality in a relationship is of utmost importance. I’m searching for a partner who sees me as an equal, values my opinions and ideas as highly as their own, and fosters a true sense of partnership
    53. Finding my soulmate is the ultimate quest, someone with whom I can share every facet of my life and who embraces me without conditions. It’s about finding a deep and unconditional connection
    54. Support and care are indispensable qualities in my ideal relationship. Whether it’s being there to cheer me on during personal achievements or providing unwavering support during challenging moments, I desire a partner who stands by my side through thick and thin
    55. A good sense of humor is an absolute necessity. I’m in search of a partner with whom I can share laughter, and I have a preference for someone who doesn’t take life too seriously all the time
    56. Confidence and self-awareness are qualities that I admire. I’m attracted to individuals who are comfortable in their skin, seeking validation from within rather than constantly craving approval from others
    57. Trustworthiness, honesty, and reliability are paramount qualities I seek in a partner. It’s about establishing a solid foundation of trust, underpinned by open and honest answers
    58. I crave a partner who can gently push me out of my comfort zone while ensuring I always feel safe and supported. It’s a delicate balance that fosters personal growth within a secure relationship
    59. Honesty and openness are indispensable attributes I look for in a partner. I desire someone I can trust with all my secrets, a confidant who listens without judgment. Honesty for me is an attractive quality
    60. Above all, I yearn for a partner who can infuse laughter into our journey together, whether we’re embarking on thrilling adventures or simply enjoying the tranquility of a cozy night at home. It’s about sharing moments of joy, no matter the circumstance
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    Key Pointers

    • It is important to answer honestly and precisely when someone asks you the question, “What are you looking for in a relationship?” Make sure you talk all about your core values
    • You should look for a partner who understands your goals because that acts as a strong foundation for the relationship
    • You should also add things like love language and sexual compatibility to your what do you want in a relationship list
    • It is essential to find someone who lets you be independent and is emotionally mature to understand your needs and desires in the relationship

    We hope this article helped you shed some light on one of the most asked questions, “What are you looking for in a relationship?” Make sure that you answer this question with confidence and honesty. Remember that it takes time to find what you are looking for a partner for marriage or a long-term relationship. So wait, take your time, and don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve.

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  • Emotional Distance: Meaning, Causes, Signs, And Ways To Fix

    Emotional Distance: Meaning, Causes, Signs, And Ways To Fix

    Do you sense a significant gap between you and your partner even when you’re physically close? Does your partner appear disinterested in spending quality time? Are they avoiding intimacy? Are most of your conversations centered around practical matters — careers, schedules, household chores? Does it feel like you’ve exhausted topics to discuss? If the answer to these questions is ‘yes,’ then it’s likely that your bond is suffering from emotional distance.

    Dr. Jacqueline Olds, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, says in The Harvard Gazette, “You have a tidal-like motion of closeness and drifting apart, closeness and drifting apart [in relationships]… And you have to have one person have a ‘distance alarm’ to notice the drifting apart so there can be a reconnection.” And we’re glad you sounded the alarm.

    It’s impossible to be in tune with your partner all the time. However, working together to re-establish that connection after moments of disconnection is vital to make the relationship work. If this does not happen consistently, then there’s a problem. To understand the causes, signs, and how to fix emotional distance in a relationship, we spoke to Avantika Tripathi. She specializes in social anxiety, stress management, mindfulness, and relationship counseling through rational emotive and person-centered therapy.

    What Is Emotional Distance?

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    Before we get to the causes and signs of emotional distance in a marriage or relationship, let’s understand the meaning of the term. Avantika explains, “Emotional distance is a state in which partners start becoming disconnected from each other. Sometimes, they are not even aware of being emotionally distant. They only notice it when conflicts become serious and apparent.”

    In short, emotional distance in a relationship refers to a state where the emotional intimacy between partners weakens or becomes strained. It’s characterized by:

    • A sense of detachment
    • Lack of intimacy and emotional closeness
    • Communication issues
    • Unresolved conflicts
    • Personal stressors
    • Other significant changes in personal dynamics

    This emotional drifting occurs or develops slowly, making it easy to overlook until the gap becomes substantial. There are various reasons for this psychological distance, some related to your partner and others to yourself. Allowing it to persist in a relationship is unhealthy. This is why understanding emotional distancing and its causes is crucial.

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    What Causes Emotional Distance In A Relationship?

    Avantika says, “There are many reasons that can make partners feel emotionally disconnected from each other. Not putting effort into the bond, escaping problems, and reluctance to solve relationship conflicts are common ones. It can also arise due to daily life problems like career and financial issues, causing relationship distress.”

    Emotional distance in a long-term relationship or marriage often develops over time. Though it’s a common phenomenon, understanding the causes can help couples identify and address prevalent issues before they lead to irreversible challenges. Here are a few common causes of emotional distance in a long-term relationship:

    1. You are always under stress

    “External factors such as work stress, financial pressure, or family issues can contribute to emotional distress, leading to distance between partners. Many times, one partner might already be dealing with issues that are causing stress, or even depression, resulting in a lack of passion to put effort into anything including the relationship. This can also cause emotional distance between two people,” Avantika says.

    What happens when you’re stressed all the time?

    • Chronic stress can seriously affect your physical health and emotional well-being
    • It eats away at the quality of your relationship and hardly leaves any room for emotional bonding
    • Your body is always alert or in fight-or-flight mode
    • Distancing yourself from someone you love becomes a habit and a way of life when you’re always under stress

    Sharing a client story, Avantika says, “Recently, a client was feeling distant in a relationship. She talked about the stress that exists in her and her partner’s professional life and how they are trying their best to make the relationship work, despite the emotional distance between them. It took three whole months to bring them emotionally close again and make them more aware of how to bridge the gap between them if it re-enters their relationship.”

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    2. You are either too needy or too distant

    In relationships, the perception of a partner being too needy or distant can initiate a vicious cycle. It looks like this:

    • Initially, a partner’s neediness prompts an emotional withdrawal or avoidance
    • This leads to extreme demands for explanations
    • This push and pull results in further emotional detachment
    • Eventually, the partner completely withdraws, fearing further criticism
    • This withdrawal aggravates emotional distress, contributing to a cycle of increased criticism and dissatisfaction
    • This pushes the partners even further away

    Anxiety arising from change in relationship dynamics may bring back memories of deep-seated wounds or trauma, especially for those with a history of attachment issues or past unhealthy relationships. If your wife or husband seems distant or you’re worried about your partner pulling away or you’ve been trying to distance yourself from someone who hurt you, attempts to regain that connection may ironically lead to further withdrawal, thereby causing more emotional distance.

    3. There is unresolved conflict and criticism in the relationship

    In a relationship, it’s natural to not appreciate every aspect of your partner. However, criticizing them for qualities that challenge you signifies deeper relationship problems and can lead to low self-esteem issues and harm your emotional attachment, whether you’re giving or receiving criticism. A healthy relationship thrives on acknowledging your partner’s positive aspects but also providing them with a safe space to navigate challenges together.

    Another aspect of this is unresolved conflict that builds tension, contributing to emotional distance. So if you’re feeling disconnected in a relationship, or struggling with feelings like “my husband is emotionally unavailable” or “my wife and I are drifting apart”, it could be because of your reluctance to engage in open discussions about sensitive topics. Here’s a recap of what breaks trust apart and creates barriers to emotional bonding:

    • Unresolved or ongoing fights and arguments
    • Past hurt
    • Constant criticism that’s not constructive
    • Valid criticism that challenges core beliefs

    You can see how being emotionally disengaged triggers a toxic relationship dynamic, leading to further emotional withdrawal. It indicates a vicious cycle of deeper relationship problems.

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    4. Emotional disconnection might indicate that you have major compatibility issues

    Another reason that you might be distancing yourself from someone you love is incompatibility. Here’s how it creates more emotional distance:

    • Lost familiarity: When too many differences persist, partners may find it challenging to sustain the emotional closeness that they felt earlier
    • Loneliness: The realization that essential needs or expectations aren’t met or the couple isn’t a perfect match can trigger feelings of frustration and loneliness
    • Confusion and lack of empathy: Partners may struggle to understand each other, in terms of choices and perspectives

    Initial chemistry often drives many couples into serious relationships, but as the novelty fades, disparities in certain aspects may surface, like:

    • Goals
    • Values
    • Expectations
    • Lifestyles
    • Love languages
    • Communication style

    Over time, such incompatibility issues affect the emotional bond between partners, making it difficult to sustain intimacy.

    5. There are serious communication problems in the relationship

    Avantika says, “Lack of communication can result in lack of intimacy and is one of the most common causes of emotional distance. It can slowly form a vivid gap, where people drift away and don’t even feel the need to bridge that gap.” It could be the reason that your wife or husband seems distant or you’ve been distancing yourself from someone you love.

    Watch out for these communication patterns:

    • Inadequate active listening
    • Lack of emotional expression
    • Avoiding difficult conversations
    • Not spending time together
    • Lack of communication or a difference in communication style can also lead to misunderstandings between partners

    Such issues contribute to unfulfilled emotional needs. If a partner feels unheard or misunderstood, they might emotionally withdraw to avoid additional frustration or disappointment. This pattern of ineffective communication fosters emotional distance over time, leading to more significant issues that may signal the need for a relationship counselor.

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    7 Alarming Signs Of Emotional Distance In Your Relationship

    If you or your partner avoid talking about your feelings and worries, it’s a sign of emotional distance

    Now that we’ve talked about the causes of emotional distance in a relationship, let’s talk about how you can spot the early signs. Recognizing the signs of emotional distance is crucial for addressing the underlying issues and working toward a healthier relationship. Here are 7 alarming indicators that you might be experiencing emotional drifting in your romantic bond:

    1. There is a lack of physical intimacy and affection

    Avantika explains, “One of the signs you’ve been feeling distant in a relationship could be dying intimacy and romance. When two people don’t feel attraction or lack romantic expressions for one another, at least one partner will feel unhappy about it. And this will result in distance and intimacy issues in their relationship.”

    Challenges in emotional intimacy are intricately linked to difficulties in physical closeness and affection. The symbiotic relationship between emotional and physical intimacy is disrupted when emotional distance enters the equation. The once vibrant connection may dwindle. Expressions of love, once freely spoken, may fade away — a clear indication of emotional detachment.

    Here are the behavioral patterns that can signify discomfort or irritation, emphasizing the intrinsic link between physical and emotional connection:

    • A fizzling sex life
    • Lack of affectionate gestures
    • Avoidance of physical touch
    • Recoiling from kisses
    • Withdrawing during embraces
    • Absence of “I love you”

    2. If you’re in an emotionally distant relationship, your needs are not being met

    Emotional distance presents challenges in acknowledging, expressing, and fulfilling each other’s needs. How does that affect a couple? Let’s see:

    • Resentment: You face misalignment in attempts to meet each other’s needs which often leads to feelings of resentment in a relationship
    • Temptations: You start seeking fulfillment of physical and emotional needs outside the partnership. Emotional distance after infidelity is hard to repair
    • Mismatched expectations: This stems from uncommunicated differences, contributing further to the problem
    • Neglect: Your partner constantly prioritizes their own needs over yours, showing little concern for your well-being

    Avantika says, “When emotionally distant partners begin to overlook each other’s needs, it can result in silent disappointment. It can make you believe that it makes no sense to talk about your disappointment with your partner, so you start withdrawing emotionally. This creates a larger distance on mental and emotional grounds.”

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    3. You don’t share your feelings or worries with each other

    You were the person your partner shared everything with, but now they keep their feelings to themselves. When you ask, they don’t open up. And it seems like they are deliberately hiding their feelings from you, making you feel uncomfortable. If you or your partner avoid talking about your feelings and worries, it’s a sign of emotional distance and can lead to misunderstandings and assumptions about each other’s thoughts and actions.

    4. You seem to have lost interest in the relationship

    A study shows that in developing relationships, people use self-disclosure to increase intimacy through breadth (number of topics), depth (degree of intimacy in the interactions), and the norm of reciprocity (when the responder is obligated to disclose something at the same level of intimacy to maintain the norm or equity).

    So, when your partner seems disinterested in your life, it hints at emotional distance. If this curiosity wanes, it’s a concern as a healthy relationship involves both romance and friendship. Relationship trouble manifests in the following ways:

    • Neglecting to take an interest in your partner’s life, thus harming the foundation of your friendship
    • One-sided conversations
    • Attempts to spend quality time together are met with avoidance
    • A growing sense of isolation
    • Avoidance of discussions
    • Withdrawal from previously shared activities
    • Reluctance to plan a future together

    5. You don’t have your partner’s emotional support and empathy

    When you desperately seek your partner’s attention and express your feelings through tantrums or tears, their apparent numbness can make you feel unimportant. But what leads to this extreme stage where you demand their attention in this manner?

    Empathy, understanding, and sharing in each other’s feelings are crucial in any relationship. Absence of empathy signals a breakdown in emotional connection, revealing a partner’s inability or unwillingness to comprehend your emotions. This lack of emotional investment can lead to a dearth of support, leaving both individuals feeling isolated and emotionally neglected in tough times.

    In essence, the foundation of a healthy relationship relies on care for each other’s well-being. Avantika says, “Be it relationship or marriage, if partners are not cooperating with each other in important life situations, it can result in serious emotional distance and damage, often followed by a feeling of hopelessness and emotional turmoil.”

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    6. Common signs of emotional distance: You are avoiding conflict and difficult conversations

    Emotional distance often arises from unresolved conflicts. You may want to fix the conflicts and disagreements in your relationship, but see if your partner reacts in one of the following ways:

    • They don’t seem interested in resolution
    • They’re not angry or frustrated, just indifferent
    • When you try to discuss issues, they respond with sighs or eye rolls

    Conflict is common in relationships, but a healthy one involves compromise and resolution. Open communication creates trust and understanding, and when it’s lacking, even small issues can pile up. So if one partner avoids tough conversations, it’s a sign of emotional distance.

    7. You are spending a lot of alone time or time apart

    Relationships can be complicated, needing the right mix of time together and apart. If you notice you and your partner spending a lot of time apart or alone, it might point to emotional distance. In a caring relationship, people naturally want to:

    • Be together
    • Share more moments together
    • Initiate phone calls
    • Use video chats to feel closer
    • Text each other

    This is especially true for long-distance relationships. When emotional distance exists, partners might prefer alone time over shared experiences, leading to less quality time together. Choosing individual activities or making excuses to avoid each other strengthens the emotional gap, causing feelings of detachment and loneliness in a relationship.

    How To Overcome Emotional Distance?

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    Some couples find it beneficial to view their relationship as a series of ‘seasons’ rather than a continuous journey. This perspective offers a fresh outlook and prevents hasty conclusions about the relationship’s fate. Recognizing that a new season is on the horizon diminishes the rush to solve problems urgently and allows partners to take mindful steps in a positive direction.

    Emotional distance develops gradually, so it requires some time and effort to reconnect. Addressing this problem will demand effort and commitment from both of you. Your partner being distant could just be a normal phase, but there are ways to bring them closer. Check out these strategies on how to fix emotional distance in a relationship:

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    1. Introspect and try to figure out the root cause of the emotional distance

    Reflect on your own feelings and needs in the relationship. Are there underlying issues contributing to your suspicions or insecurities or frustrations? Once you identify the root cause of the emotional distance, you can initiate steps to rebuild the emotional bond, given both partners are committed. This might include:

    • Dedicating time to meaningful conversations
    • Participating in shared activities
    • Expressing appreciation for each other
    • Going out on dates
    • Doing household chores together

    Allen Barton, the lead of a 2023 study, says that gratitude is “an important piece to the puzzle of romantic relationships that hasn’t gotten much attention in research studies until recently. And in couple relationships, it’s not just about being appreciative ‘for’ your partner but also about feeling appreciated ‘by’ your partner.”

    2. Seek couple’s therapy to cope with the emotionally distant relationship

    Avantika explains, “Therapy can help you start recognizing the issues that are causing emotional distance and what you can do to overcome the problem. It will help you understand things better and fill you with positivity and motivation to work around the problem. Interpersonal Therapy, Behaviour Activation, CBT, and therapies that revolve around couple’s counseling can help a lot in reducing and treating the intimacy and communication breakdown.”

    Exploring couples therapy or clinical psychology can be incredibly helpful. A couple’s therapist can assist in uncovering the reasons behind the emotional distance in your relationship and recommend personal connection exercises, creating the potential for:

    • Lasting positive impact
    • Enhancing communication skills
    • Strengthening the bond
    • Fostering feelings of attunement and passion
    • A smoother healing process for both of you, individually and together

    If you’re stuck in a similar situation, you can always reach out to Bonobology’s panel of licensed and experienced therapists for help.

    3. Have an open and honest conversation

    Avantika explains, “Communication is the best technique to address and heal emotional distance between partners. Talk more, and in a way where you show concern and your partner feels heard and seen. Often, when a person does not feel seen or heard, they take a step back mentally, where they don’t share what they feel about the whole equation.

    Mel, a 29-year-old Bonobology reader from Utah, shares what they did to heal and promote emotional bonding in their marriage, “My cold distant husband used to feel more comfortable walking away from issues. This way, he distanced himself even more. Slowly, we learned to talk in a way where we were willing to give our complete attention to each other. We learned about our perspectives in a whole new way.”

    If you’re faced with a “my husband is emotionally unavailable” crisis like Mel, instead of making assumptions, try:

    • Open communication with your partner
    • Share your feelings and concerns in a calm and non-confrontational manner
    • Work on rebuilding trust together
    • Be transparent and committed to each other

    Related Reading: Happy Marriage Tips When You Are An Emotionally Distant Person

    4. Put in effort and show active interest to repair the bond

    According to Avantika, “Often, when partners don’t show interest in learning about each other’s lives, it can create a lot of distance. So, try to know about various factors of their life like growth, failure, happiness, and sadness. This will help both partners get the missing closeness and positivity back in the relationship.”

    She explains, “Many times, people simply stop putting effort into a relationship, thinking it can sustain and grow on its own, which is why distance is bound to enter your dynamic. Remember, making an effort is a sign that you still care for your emotionally distant partner.”

    5. Focus on your goals and take care of yourself

    Maintain a balance in your actions and avoid appearing too eager to attain the emotional connection you desire. Creating space in a relationship is important. Sometimes, displaying desperation can push your partner away. Focus on personal growth and your interests while allowing time to play its role.

    Independence can actually bring you and your partner closer. When your partner senses that you’re excessively focused on them or their aspirations, it may seem like you’re neglecting your own needs. Even when your significant other is distant emotionally, allocate time for the activities you love and strive toward your personal goals. Your partner will appreciate seeing your self-directed energy and the fact that you’re not too dependent on them.

    Key Pointers

    • Emotional distance is a common phenomenon in relationships but if you work together to re-establish the emotional connection, you can overcome it
    • Communication problems, chronic stress, unresolved conflicts, and compatibility issues are some of the causes of emotional distance
    • If you or your partner prefer to spend a lot of alone time and lack physical intimacy and affection in your relationship, there are high chances emotional distance is the issue
    • Not sharing your feelings with each other, not showing empathy or giving emotional support, loss of interest in the relationship, and unmet needs are a few other signs of distance in a relationship
    • Understanding the root cause of the issue, communicating honestly with your partner, seeking couple’s therapy, giving space, and showing compassion when it’s hard can help fix emotional distance between partners

    “External factors will always affect the quality of a relationship. Every couple goes through emotional distance in their lives at least once. It is inevitable due to various reasons. But when partners carry a mindset to resolve issues, they can overcome any distance that comes between them,” Avantika concludes her views on how to fix emotional distance in a relationship.

    Just remember this: Emotional distance in a marriage or relationship, if overlooked, can cause significant harm. While addressing it may be challenging and time-consuming, it doesn’t necessarily signify the end of the relationship. If you’re currently grappling with emotional distance, waiting for it to resolve itself may not be the most effective approach. Striking a balance between emotional attachment and maintaining independence is the key to loving bond.

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  • 35 Love Letters For Him That’ll Make Him Cry

    35 Love Letters For Him That’ll Make Him Cry

    In this era of smartphones, where selfies and their truncated Insta-worthy captions win over romantic letters, and where even Gen-Z love notes look like ad copies cut short to the bare minimum, how does one write love letters for one’s boyfriend, without sounding like a yesteryear ‘damsel in distress’ pining for her hero? Have you ever wondered how to write love letters for him that make him cry? And we mean a real letter, not an e-mail or an iMessage.

    Well, read on, as we won’t just tell you how to write a love letter for your boyfriend but will also unearth a vast treasure trove of such letters for that special person, apt for a variety of occasions and moods. We will also give you secret tips and tricks to pen some sweet love letters your boyfriend will love, without ruining his mood or making it sound like you’re trying too hard.

    So, let’s dive into the world of romance…and focus on a few things to write in a love letter. No, we’re not trying to emulate Shakespeare or Byron. We’re hoping after reading this article, you won’t wonder: “How do I write a letter to my boyfriend that will make him cry?” We also hope this helps you in expressing love for him..one heart-touching love letter to boyfriend at a time…

    How To Write A Love Letter To A Boyfriend — Dos And Don’ts

    So, how does one pen love letters for him that make him cry? What are the words that you should use to pen deep emotional love letters and what shouldn’t you mention? Do you wish someone would tell you how to craft that emotional tear-jerker of a letter that your boyfriend won’t be able to ignore? Fret not! Here’s how to write a love letter for your boyfriend:

    Dos Don’ts
    Jot down the things you wish to say, first Don’t be too mushy, as that might backfire if he is not too romantic
    Take him back to the good memories you shared and add some memory anchors, such as his favorite t-shirt Don’t find faults or blame him for something from the past
    Use handmade paper, an ink pen, and a fancy envelope. After all, it’s a special handwritten letter that deserves a personal touch Don’t miss the obvious but little things, such as his smile or his dimple
    Do mention why you’re writing the letter and what you love about him Don’t hurry. A love letter is meant to be special. So, take your time

    Now that you know how to craft that perfect romantic love letter for your boyfriend, it’s time to go through some examples of letters that may come in handy in various situations. These will help you stop wondering, “How do I go about expressing my love to him through a letter?” Read on as we list below some instances of deep emotional love letters, long love letters, short love letters, cute love letters, anniversary letters, love letters for his birthday, and letters to make him know he has hurt your feelings. So, let’s begin…

    Deep Emotional Love Letter For Boyfriend

    It’s believed men can be as emotional as women, though they may not express themselves that often. A woman just has to appeal to a man with more than just her body. So, how do you write deeply emotional love letters for him that make him cry? Here are some instances of how to pen a deep emotional love letter for boyfriend we hope will help you:

    1. Don’t ever doubt my love

    Dear love,

    You are the only one that my heart and mind recognize. We may be imperfect in how we love each other. Yet, I love you with all my heart and will love you till the end of time. I won’t ever give you the chance to doubt my love for you.

    Love always,

    <sender’s name>

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    2. Our love is an exploration

    My dearest,

    Our love is true and like a journey on the rough oceans of life… much like an explorer’s first voyage around the world. We may go through some tempestuous times, but we will also have the gentle early morning breeze caressing us on this uncharted journey. Make sure you never leave my hand!

    Forever yours,

    <sender’s name>

    3. Our love will conquer age

    My love,

    It’s true, not all seasons of life will be the same. While there will be the summers of joy, with the sun of our youth shining bright, there will come a time when the winters of old age will bring wrinkles. But what I can guarantee you, my dear, is that you will have me beside you till death do us part. Our love will shine through all the seasons of life because you’re my twin flame.

    Love you always,

    <sender’s name>

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    4. My love for you will survive the tough times

    My dearest,

    Our love will transcend the shadows of life. Whenever there’s any problem that threatens to devour our deepest feelings for each other, I promise to be with you, hold your hands, and fight the monsters together.

    Yours always,

    <sender’s name>

    5. Our love will live, even if we don’t

    My darling,

    Have you ever seen the stars skipping their shine? Or the Sun refusing to rise? Or the Moon never illuminating the night sky? Our love is a bit like that. Yes, our bodies may turn to dust when we die. But our love is so unadulterated and pure, it will transcend the boundaries of life and death and remain forever.

    Yours and only yours,

    <sender’s name>

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    Long Love Letter To Boyfriend

    Long love letters for him that make him cry have the ability to narrate tales that short notes can’t. So, in a way, writing a long love letter to boyfriend may be the best way to grab his attention and make him realize how much you love him. A long letter can also be an apt love letter for a long-distance relationship. Here are a few instances of such paragraphs for him to make him cry:

    6. You have no idea what I feel for you

    The following are excerpts of a letter by Emma Darwin to Charles Darwin:

    “I cannot tell you the compassion I have felt for all your sufferings for these weeks past that you have had so many drawbacks. Nor the gratitude I have felt for the cheerful & affectionate looks you have given me when I know you have been miserably uncomfortable.

    My heart has often been too full to speak or take any notice I am sure you know I love you well enough to believe that I mind your sufferings nearly as much as I should my own & I find the only relief to my own mind is to take it as from God’s hand, & to try to believe that all suffering & illness is meant to help us to exalt our minds & to look forward with hope to a future state. When I see your patience, deep compassion for others self command & above all gratitude for the smallest thing done to help you I cannot help longing that these precious feelings should be offered to Heaven for the sake of your daily happiness. But I find it difficult enough in my own case. I often think of the words “Thou shalt keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on thee.” It is feeling & not reasoning that drives one to prayer. I feel presumptuous in writing thus to you…”

    Love letters can be both long and short, but it’s the feeling that matters

    7. You inspire me

    Hello, my love,

    You have no clue what you mean to me and how much you make me feel inspired. I have seen you burn the midnight oil to chase your dreams…and there’s simply nobody I’d want to help pursue his dreams than you. I was in awe when we first met over a cup of coffee in the college cafeteria. I remember, you spoke about Keats, your favorite poet, while I went on and on about my love for drama. Through the years, I have only known you better…and realized your depth… I now know how you help others in need and how you’re aspiring to be a better man.

    I wish I could hold your hand through it all. I love you.

    <sender’s name>

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    8. Your love is like a clash of colors

    The following is what Frida Kahlo wrote to her lover Diego Rivera:

    “Diego:

    Truth is, so great, that I wouldn’t like to speak, or sleep, or listen, or love. To feel myself trapped, with no fear of blood, outside time and magic, within your own fear, and your great anguish, and within the very beating of your heart. All this madness, if I asked it of you, I know, in your silence, there would be only confusion. I ask you for violence, in the nonsense, and you, you give me grace, your light and your warmth. I’d like to paint you, but there are no colors, because there are so many, in my confusion, the tangible form of my great love.

    F.”

    9. Thanks for being there

    My love,

    Here’s an ode to the many times you’ve been there for me. I love you for it all. Remember that one time when I had to get back home all alone from the airport at 3 am, and you didn’t hesitate to pick me up? Or that one time when you had that tasteless chicken I made, forgetting to add salt, but you didn’t complain until I found out? Or when you were there with me through my mom’s surgery and then helped me take care of her afterward? You’ve taught me that love isn’t all about flowers and candle-lit dinners. It’s about who’s with you in your darkest hours.

    Thank you, my Prince Charming.

    <sender’s name>

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    10. Love needn’t have a label

    Dear sweetheart,

    We’ve been living together for the last 10 years, and people have asked us ‘n’ number times why we haven’t gotten married yet. All I can say is that, even if we didn’t have a label of ‘husband-wife’ on our relationship, I’ve never felt any less than a princess all these years. You’ve been my dream man to the T and we’ve spent some awesome moments together.

    I wouldn’t change a thing about us, and I want you to know that I will continue loving you even if we don’t stick to labels. Love doesn’t need marriage or kids to be complete. Two people can cherish each other’s company and live happily, sans the shackles of society.

    Here’s my promise to you that I will be yours, forever.

    <sender’s name>

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    Short Love Letter To Boyfriend

    “Brevity is the Soul of Wit…,” said William Shakespeare in Hamlet. And we believe brevity can very well be the soul of romance too, as long as the words don’t sound too clinical. One doesn’t necessarily have to write long love letters for him that make him cry. And expressing your love needn’t always be as complicated as a math code, though that too works at times. So, how does one show one’s love with a short love letter to boyfriend? Here’s how:

    11. You mean so much to me

    Hey darling,

    Just wished to tell you that you mean a lot to me and I am the luckiest woman to have you as my boyfriend. I think of you from the moment I open my eyes in the morning. We may have had fights too, but your thoughtful messages have saved our relationship time and again. Be mine, forever!

    Yours,

    <sender’s name>

    12. You’re my partner-in-crime

    Hey handsome,

    I’m truly fortunate to have someone as gentle, as compassionate, and as caring as you. You aren’t just my boyfriend. You’re my best friend, my partner-in-crime, and my adventure buddy. You’re such an amazing man that my smile brightens every time I see you.

    Stay the same, forever!

    <sender’s name>

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    13. You still give me butterflies

    Hi love,

    Guess what! Every time I get a text message notification from you, I get butterflies, even if it’s been a year since we’ve been together. I smile at the very thought of you and I hope ‘we’ stand the test of time.

    Forever yours,

    <sender’s name>

    14. Let our hearts be one…forever

    My dearest,

    Your warm embrace, your heartbeat, and your warm breath against my skin…these are things that I’m so ‘used to’ by now that nobody else can give me the same feeling.

    I want you and only you…forever.

    <sender’s name>

    15. I love you even when you’re boring me

    Hey love,

    Guess what our time together has taught me! It’s taught me that love needn’t always be butterflies and goosebumps. Sometimes, love lies in the deepest nooks of a boring relationship. Love lies in the everyday life chores that you share, the heavy grocery bag that you carry for me, the errands that you run for me at home, the quiet moments, and the boring movies we watch together…Love is in the ordinary and the mundane too.

    Love you a lot,

    <sender’s name>

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    Cute Love Letters For Boyfriend

    Love doesn’t always have to be serious, but a funny love letter to boyfriend can also be apt. One can also include some sweet, super cute words in love letters for him that make him cry. So, got something cute to write to your boyfriend without sounding like an 18th-century poet? Below are some examples of such cute love letters for boyfriend that will make him teary-eyed:

    16. Missing my love

    Hey cutie pie,

    I want you to do well in life, and I know these days of longing are short-lived. You will soon be in my arms, and I will get to feel your heartbeat. I can’t wait to feel your warmth and to smother you with my hugs and kisses. I miss you. Hope to see you soon.

    <sender’s name>

    17. You are everything my heart desires

    Hi love,

    I often ask myself why I love you so much. And then I realize I have the answer: You are all I have ever desired in a man. I love you entirely – your affectionate nature, your cute and magical smile, your baritone voice, and your kindness to people around you. I love the ‘you’ that you are.

    Be mine always,

    <sender’s name>

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    18. You make saying “I love you” easy

    Hey champ,

    In this world of Insta-worthy relationships, where every couple selfie is carefully crafted to please others, you are my cherished love story and my safe corner where I can cry in peace, forget my inhibitions, fall asleep without worries, and be myself – no matter how plain, how ordinary I am. You make me feel at ease and saying “I love you” is so much easier when I say it to you.

    Yours till eternity,

    <sender’s name>

    19. You’re the sweetest boyfriend

    To the most amazing boyfriend I know,

    I just want you to know that you’re the best thing that’s happened to me in a long time. You give me the best hugs, your shoulders are what I look for when I need to cry, you are my best friend and worst critic combined. You motivate me, inspire me, and correct me when I’m wrong. You make me a happier person. I don’t think I can live a day without you!

    Your girl, forever,

    <sender’s name>

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    20. You have changed my whole world

    My dearest,

    Waking up to your cute good morning texts makes my day! The way you care about me even on my worst days, the way you find me ‘beautiful’ even when I’m running a fever and looking my ugliest, the way you cook for me, and the way you look into my eyes when we make love – it all makes my love for you stronger. You came into my life and changed it forever!

    Thanks for being there,

    <sender’s name>

    Anniversary Letter For Boyfriend

    Yes, love letters are cool, but what about that special occasion when a simple love letter just isn’t enough? How should you structure an anniversary letter for boyfriend? Well, we will advise you to mention all the major ways he has been by your side through the years. We have penned a few such anniversary letters below that will give an edge to your anniversary celebration:

    21. You’ve been my pillar of support

    Happy anniversary to my sunshine.

    It’s been 5 years of love, laughter, tears, and hugs. And through those 5 years, you have been my pillar of hope and support. Be it those troubled times when I got sick, or those anxiety-filled moments just before my exams, you have been my rock. You’ve truly been through it all, in sickness and in health indeed! And I need my rock forever!

    Love always,

    <sender’s name>

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    22. A year went by so quickly

    Hey honey,

    I still remember the first time I saw you in college. It was near the admission counter, and you were waiting in the queue just behind me. And destiny had perhaps wanted us to interact, our thoughts to collide amid the chaos, and our hearts to feel each other through the next few months. The last year passed like a breeze, and I’m thankful I met you. Happy first anniversary, my love. Here’s hoping we have more such anniversaries in the years to come!

    Sending you all my love and hugs,

    <sender’s name>

    long love letter to boyfriend
    Love letters work like magic for old-school lovers

    23. We’ve spent a decade together!

    To my amazing boyfriend,

    Wow! I can’t believe it’s a decade already. We’ve spent 10 whole years on this journey called life. And it keeps getting better since you’re the most incredible person that one could have! To all the wins and losses, the fights, the hugs after not speaking to each other for days, the tears – both happy and sad, the long chats, the travel adventures… Here’s hoping to take it to the next level someday soon! Happy anniversary to the first person I call when I’m happy or sad!

    Here’s all my love,

    <sender’s name>

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    24. It’s been 2 years already!

    Hey precious,

    It’s been 2 years of a fun-filled journey with you, and all I can say is I am loving the ride. It’s crazy how, in just 2 years, you know me through and through, as if you’ve known me my entire life… be it my taste in music, my love for pineapple pizza, my encounter with depression, or my insane addiction to coffee! You have seen me both in my favorite LBD and in my shorts, and you have loved me in both! I wouldn’t want to lose you ever!

    Love,

    <sender’s name>

    25. Here’s to our 3rd year together

    Honey,

    This is our 3rd anniversary, and guess what? I don’t need any anniversary gift from you this year. I just want one promise: that you’ll be there for me, forever! I never thought in my wildest dreams that I’ll have such a fairy tale for a love story. You make my life awesome!

    Love you forever,

    <sender’s name>

    Love Letter To Boyfriend On His Birthday

    Writing a love letter to boyfriend on his birthday is not that simple, especially when it’s a love letter for a long-distance relationship. After all, this isn’t just a special day but you’re writing for an important person too. So, you should be doubly careful not to mess up the flow or write something that upsets him. Here are a few examples of such love letters that you can write for your special man on his birthday:

    26. You’re still 16 to me

    Hey love,

    Happy 23rd and a whole lot of best wishes for the years to come! But guess what: to me, you’re still the 16-year-old nerd I met in our guitar class years back. God, how I fell for your curls and your ability to talk for hours about Green Day, my favorite rock band. I remember how jittery you were when you said “I love you” for the first time.

    Wish you tons of love!

    <sender’s name>

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    27. I have a surprise

    To my dearest friend,

    Hey, it’s your birthday again. And guess what! I have a surprise – it’s my heart, all of it, just for you and you alone. Err… don’t worry, I am not a miser. I have a real birthday gift for you too! Enjoy the day and have a blast!

    Happy birthday my love,

    <sender’s name>

    28. Age is just a number

    To my sweetheart,

    They say age is just a number, and perhaps they are right! You’re turning 40 today, my love. It’s true, we met quite late in our lives, after going through our own battles in life. But wishing you on your birthday for the first time brings me so much joy! This is our first major event together! Calls for some celebration – some wine and music and the two of us, in each other’s arms…inching toward a happy and blessed life.

    Love you, today and always,

    <sender’s name>

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    29. Sorry for not being there on your birthday

    Hey champ,

    It’s your birthday today and it breaks my heart that I’m not with you to celebrate it. Sorry…a million times. And I promise I’ll make it up to you . Hope you have a great day! And don’t forget to tell me whether you like the gift I sent you…and the cake. You’re the first person who knows me through and through and you’re the best I could have! Here are the best of birthday wishes from my end!

    Happy birthday again!

    <sender’s name>

    30. Let this be an occasion to say “I love you a lot”

    To the love of my life,

    I may not say this to you often, but let your birthday be the occasion to say it loud and clear: “I love you a lot and will continue loving you…till the end of time.” Wish you many happy returns of the day!

    Happy birthday!

    <sender’s name>

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    Letter To Boyfriend Expressing Hurt Feelings

    Before we get to more paragraphs for him to make him cry, ask yourself this: have you been ghosted by your lover, or does your boyfriend not communicate as much as he did in the initial days of courtship? And do you feel texting him about it won’t work, as he is just bound to ignore your texts and calls? Well, maybe you should finally write a letter to boyfriend expressing hurt feelings! So, how should you make him feel guilty for hurting you? Here are a few examples of love letters for him that make him cry when he hurts you:

    31. Why did you have to ghost me?

    Hi love,

    I write this with a lot of sadness in my heart, because I felt I still have a lot of unsaid feelings in me. I feel we left our love midway. It’s like waiting for a bus that’ll never arrive. Or as if we left a good book open, after reading half of it. I guess I must’ve done something wrong that drove you to stop answering my texts or calls. I hope you regret ghosting me someday.

    I’ll wait for your response,

    <sender’s name>

    32. Why did you lie to me?

    Hey love,

    I saw you at the mall yesterday, with another girl. She had short hair, just like me. And she was wearing a pink sweatshirt, just like the one you had gifted me on my last birthday. I don’t want to sound possessive, but I was wondering why the person I love the most in the entire world lied to me. Why did you say you needed to visit your friend at the hospital yesterday?! I hope I will get an answer, and I hope you haven’t been cheating on me.

    You didn’t need to lie to me, love.

    <sender’s name>

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    33. Will we ever meet again?

    This is what Simone de Beauvoir wrote to Nelson Algren before breaking up:

    “I am not sad. Rather stunned, very far away from myself, not really believing you are now so far, so far, you so near. I want to tell you only two things before leaving, and then I’ll not speak about it anymore, I promise. First, I hope so much, I want and need so much to see you again, someday. But, remember, please, I shall never more ask to see you — not from any pride since I have none with you, as you know, but our meeting will mean something only when you wish it. So, I’ll wait. When you wish it, just tell…”

    34. What are we?

    The following are excerpts from Edith Wharton’s letter to W. Morton Fullerton, penned in April 1910:

    “I don’t know what you want, or what I am! You write to me like a lover, you treat me like a casual acquaintance!” she wrote. “I have borne all these inconsistencies & incoherences as long as I could because I love you so much, & because I am so sorry for things in your life that are difficult & wearing … Only now a sense of my worth, & a sense also that I can bear no more, makes me write this to you. Write me no more such letters as you sent to me in England.”

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    35. I miss the spark we had

    My dearest love,

    I know we haven’t been speaking every day nowadays. I know you’ve been keeping busy. But I’ve been missing the long late-night conversations we had earlier. Those sweet nothings meant a lot to me. The wait for your texts has become longer too. But I have faith in you…and us. I miss the spark we had, but I hope my lonely nights will end soon! Even today, my heart skips a beat when I hear your name! Just wanted to let you know that I’ve been thinking of you a lot.

    Yours,

    <sender’s name>

    With these things to write in a love letter mentioned here, we wish you all the best in this journey of love. We hope you aren’t still asking yourself, “How do I write a letter to my boyfriend that will make him cry?” or “How should I be expressing my love to him through a letter?” Hope writing such sweet love letters your boyfriend will adore helps you reach back to your own memories for happiness.

    Whether you’re thinking of something cute to write to your boyfriend, planning to pen a funny love letter to boyfriend or just plain expressing love for him, these 35 love letters for him that make him cry will help you in making your love heard and seen. Writing a heart-touching love letter to boyfriend won’t be that difficult anymore!

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