So, what does October have to do with dating?…a lot, it seems. 10 Tips.

Think outside your “type”

You may always go for the 6’2″ athlete or the 5’9″ blonde, but love can surprise you. I’ve seen many people fall for someone they swore wasn’t their type.

Don’t expect perfection

And don’t expect it from yourself either! Embrace imperfections.

Your date is not a mind reader

A healthy relationship needs communication, chemistry, and shared values. Did I mention communication?

Trust your gut

If something feels off—like a sketchy profile or one suspicious photo—listen to your instincts.

Don’t get attached too quickly

One date doesn’t mean “the one.” Rushing to quit dating others after one great date? Bad idea.  Hmmm, I had this happen yesterday with a client—she wants to stop after one super date meeting other men. Nope.  I’d give it 4-5 dates before you ditch others.

Dive into online dating

Set a goal for 4 first dates in the first two weeks. It’ll build your confidence, especially if you’ve been out of the dating scene for a while.

Say yes

Whether it’s a party, a hike with new people, or a date with someone you’re unsure about, take the chance. You never know where it might lead.

Live in the moment

Stop worrying about date #3 or how it will work with your kids. Focus on enjoying the present moment.

Don’t overthink if they stop texting

If they ghost you, don’t dwell on it. There’s a huge dating pool out there—move on!

Know what you deserve

Never settle. In my 30 years as a dating coach, I’ve learned one thing: there’s a lid for every pot.