Halloween is a great time of year for kids, of all shapes and sizes. For kids with special needs like autism, it is no different. The only thing is that sometimes the change in schedule and structure can impact them a little more. It’s important for parents to do their best to structure the celebrations around this holiday as they do with other daily activities, but it’s also important to have fun on Halloween.
Can a parent of a child with autism do both? The answer is yes. Here are 5 fun ways that a parent can celebrate Halloween with their child who has autism:
1) Let them pick the costume: Sometimes as a parent we worry about what is appropriate and inappropriate for our kids. We may worry a certain costume may scare them or make them uncomfortable. We forget that unless they are babies or very young toddlers, they can decide what to wear, scary or not. Let them have the control here.
2) Throw a small party in your house if they are afraid to go trick or treating: A smaller gathering of close friends may be easier for some kids to handle than going out trick or treating.
3) Have non edibles to give out and give to your child: This is especially good so kids (and their parents), don’t overindulge in the goodies, but also important that those with food allergies don’t feel left out on this day.
4) Share the history of the day (minus the scarier details): For kids that like a good story, share the story of Halloween with them. It can be a great bonding moment for you both.
5) Get dressed up as well: This is not necessary of course, but sometimes when Mom and Dad get dressed up in the spirit of things (pun intended). J This could make nervous youngsters feel more at ease and excited about this day. You could try a family theme: ie Star Wars characters, Adams family, Minions etc.
The most important thing any parent can do, is make sure their child feels like they belong and enjoy the activities of childhood. Halloween and trick or treating is just another one of those childhood events that may take kids with autism longer to feel comfortable around, but when they achieve that comfort level, they have as terrific a time as their neuro typical peers.
Happy Halloween!
– Joanne Giacomini