How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone

How to get out of the friend zone with a woman?

All we have to do is start to exhibit behaviours that women find attractive on a biological level.

Well, almost…

Actually, the first step is to remove any unattractive traits that we may possess.

If we can comprehend that unattractive traits tend to be universally unattractive to ALL women, then we can see why this is an ideal starting point.

Unattractive male traits

Above all, the two most offputting traits a man can possess are being:

Without a shadow of a doubt, if you take an attractive man and instil these two behavioural traits, he will begin to repel women instead of magnetising them towards his character.

Attractive male traits

Different women are attracted to different attributes in men. There are, however, some traits that are attractive across the board.

The main three alluring male traits are:

• Intelligence
• Leadership
• Creativity

Fitness Indicators

A fitness indicator is a signpost that conveys our genetic value to women.

Indeed, the harder a fitness indicator is to replicate (as in the peacock’s tail, for instance), the more attractive the signpost is to the opposite sex.

The same rule applies across all species, meaning that the first step we need to establish is what specific attributes women are attracted to on a biological level.

List of the main fitness indicators (part 1)

Here is a list of the main attributes that women find attractive in men on a biological level:

• Leader – Controlling the frame of the conversation, not letting the girl lead us.
• Kindness – Showing empathy to others, ability to understand emotions and connect.
• Protector – Looking after our family, friends and loved ones.
• Risk-taker – The time we gambled and won, any time we took a risk and were successful, not being afraid to fail.
• Confidence – We believe in ourselves, as demonstrated in the way we speak and act.
• Intelligence – Choice of language, vocabulary and topics of conversation, our job and interests, reading books and speaking multiple languages.
• Creativity – Art, music, dancing, fashion, religion, storytelling, philosophy, performing, photography.
• Moral integrity – Having standards and living up to them, not lying, cheating or taking advantage of others for our benefit.
• Generosity – It is not about us; it is about others and helping, creating value in life.
• Overcoming adversity – Bouncing back from setbacks quickly, from life’s problems, physical injury, mental issues or even financially.

List of the main fitness indicators (part 2)

Here is a list of some more advanced attributes that women find attractive in men:

• High social status – Is in an important job or position, is well connected, has intelligent friends.
• Non-judgemental – Not criticising ourselves or others, not being affected by others as we know that we have value, is always positive.
• Positivity – It is fun everywhere I go, people are cool, and I enjoy myself. I always look at the bright side, and I always see the silver lining in any situation.
• Passion – Speak with passion and energy about our lives and others, connect with people, make them feel alive, do things that we love, either hobbies or work.
• Health – Eating healthily, doing regular exercise, being in good shape, and talking about exercise or achievements.
• Socially skilled – Varied conversational content that flows, having the emotional intelligence to recognise how others feel, being observant of others around us.
• Humour – Making off the cuff jokes during the interaction, being fun and playful, making her laugh, and telling funny stories.
• Wealthy – Being successful in our career and having disposable income to spend on a nice place to live, going on holiday, having nice clothes, etc.
• Pre-selected – Having ex-girlfriends who are attractive and of high value themselves, attractive to other women.
• Strength – Completing a challenging physical task or an endurance activity, being in physically good shape.
• Energy – Having high energy at all times; we don’t tire quickly and, instead, have lots of energy to be social and have energetic hobbies.

Just being aware of this list of fitness indicators will open your eyes to more opportunities to convey attributes of your personality which women will find appealing.

Displaying genetic strengths

One of my primary focuses as a dating coach is to guide men to convey their fitness indicators during a routine conversation with women.

Indirectly communicating your attributes is more challenging than you may imagine, as often we can put women off without knowing why.

However, most of the time, if a girl loses interest in you, you will have conveyed an unattractive personality trait.

Unattractive behaviours

We can all now recognise the critical fact that unattractive behaviour is unattractive to ALL women. Therefore the initial step we take on my courses is to eradicate any unattractive qualities during everyday conversations.

To illustrate a few here –  negativity, being judgemental and showing a lack of energy. If you want to learn more about the behaviours and traits that put off women then see my infographic below.

You can also read the corresponding article dating coach for men article where I go through each of these step-by-step behaviours that you may be exhibiting that can cause women to disengage.