Category: Family & Parenting

Busy Dads leaving for work first thing in the morning, are you wondering how you can help get the day off to a good start? Kidding Around Greenville Contributor Robert Neely is a dad of twins. He is writing specifically for you about how dads can set up their families for success in the morning before the work day starts.

Life can get a little crazy at our house, thanks to our 14-month-old boy/girl twins. My wife takes on the huge responsibility of caring for the twins all day while I’m at work. That’s a big job, and I want to do everything I can to help even though I have to be at work most of the day.

So before I head off to work in the morning, my goal is to set my family up for success for the day.

The morning routine

My first goal every morning is to get the twins up, changed, dressed and fed. This gives me a little bit of awesome quality time with the kids, while giving my wife a few minutes to get dressed and ready. It means getting up a few minutes earlier on my part, but it’s totally worth it.

Being a part of the kids’ morning routine is something just about every dad can do.

Tasks to be done

What else should you do? Sorry guys—there’s not one set answer. You need to pay attention to what your wife and kids need, and how it’s changing as your kids mature.

When our twins were newborns, about the most important thing I could do in the mornings was put their dirty clothes in the wash. They went through so many onesies, burp cloths, and blankets that we had to wash them every day. If I could get them started in the morning, it was much easier for my wife to get them into the dryer when one or both baby napped.

During these crazy times, when we hadn’t yet gotten our twins onto the same schedule, I also made my wife a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. That way, if she only could get one hand free to eat while caring for one twin or the other, she had some protein at hand.

Once our twins reached the bottle stage, loading the dishwasher became my morning priority. We had to run the dishwasher every day to keep up with the bottles our twins ate, and the best rhythm for us was to wash the dishes when we went to bed so they were all clean to start a new day.

Now we’re past the bottle stage, and our twins typically nap at the same time. This means that what needs to be done can change from day to day. Sometimes it’s making sure the stroller is in the right car. At other times it’s helping to cut up some food for the twins’ lunch.

And it’s always worth stopping to change a dirty diaper before you leave. Sometimes it seems like our twins have a sixth sense for when I’m leaving and time things for 10 minutes before, but that’s OK. I try to look at it as one or two less dirty diapers for my wife to deal with for the day.

What your family needs will be different. You might have one child, or five. Older kids will undoubtedly require different kinds of help—school lunches, homework checks, and other things our family hasn’t yet experienced.

The secret of your success

So the key is watching and listening. Ask your wife what she needs, rather than guessing. Believe me, she’ll know. And she’ll appreciate you proactively looking for ways to help, instead of waiting until you’re asked.

Watch your kids, and ask them too if they can talk. They’ll tell and show you what they need.

Approaching the day with the goal of setting your family up for success—based on what you’ve seen and heard—points the whole family in the right direction every morning.

And that will help everyone (including dad) have a better day.

What tips do you have for dads setting their families up for success in the morning?

Photos by J. Wingreen Photography.

Diastasis Recti is a common condition in postpartum women – here’s what you need to know about what it looks like and how to tackle it.

One thing I loved doing during pregnancy was checking how big my baby was getting. The fruit comparisons were fun – “your baby is as big as a grapefruit”!

Of course, by the end of it, I was super exhausted and wanted my watermelon-sized baby out! While the big baby belly is gone then, postpartum Moms are still left with a little bump that settles down with time.

However, in some cases, the bump doesn’t go away, and one possible reason for it is diastasis rectus abdominis, where the rectus abdominis muscles which get separated during pregnancy fail to get back to their original position.

If you suspect this may have happened to you, let’s find out by learning more about the condition.

What is Diastasis Recti Abdominis?

Diastasis Recti Abdominis, also called DRAM or diastasis recti, is diastasis of rectus abdominis muscles. These are long muscles that run vertically down the belly, from the chest to the pelvis. They lie in front of the stomach and just below the skin, and are what are commonly referred to as ‘six-pack abs’.

The muscles are divided into left and right sides, separated by connective tissue called the linea alba. When you get pregnant, all the muscles and tissues in the abdomen stretch and expand to accommodate the growing baby, including the rectus abdominis and linea alba.

After childbirth, the muscles and tissues begin their healing process. They’re quite elastic in nature and get back to their original positions soon enough. However, sometimes the tissues are stretched so much that they lose their elasticity and don’t come back together. This condition is known as diastasis recti.

Diastasis recti may occur in the third trimester, although it is visible only postpartum. It is estimated that about 60% of all pregnant women get diastasis recti, with more than half of all cases getting resolved within six months. There are a few reasons that make some women more prone to getting diastasis recti than others.

Causes for Diastasis Recti

• Multiple pregnancies close to each other
• Multiple babies in a single pregnancy, like twins or triplets
• Delivering big babies
• Vaginal delivery
• Being short in height and/or overweight
• Being over 35 years old

Symptoms of Diastasis Recti

While diastasis recti may start in the third trimester, the symptoms are only visible after childbirth. The most common symptom is the belly sticking out – giving the appearance of being pregnant several months after giving birth. Here are more symptoms in detail:

• A belly pooch that begins around the area of the belly button
• Persistence of the tummy bulge despite losing weight
• Extra softness around the belly button, like jelly
• Doming of abdominal muscles on contraction
• Difficulty or weakness when doing everyday tasks like lifting objects
• Pain in the lower back, hip or pelvis
• Poor or weak posture
• Stress incontinence; leaking of urine when sneezing, coughing or laughing
• Bloating and constipation
• Painful intercourse

Sometimes these symptoms may be confusing – do you really have diastasis recti? You can find out either by doing a home test or visiting the doctor.

Diagnosis of Diastasis Recti

An easy way to check for diastasis recti is a self-examination at home. Here’s how to go about it:

1. Lie on your back with your knees bent and feet flat on the floor
2. Anchor your lower back and lift your shoulders and upper back slightly, as if crunching your abs
3. In this position, push down into the center of your stomach with two fingers – just above the belly button, at the belly button and just below it – you may notice a gap between the muscles
4. See how many fingers fit between your left and right ab muscles – if you feel like there’s more than a two-finger width of space between your abdominal muscles, you may have diastasis recti

You can confirm the diagnosis by visiting your doctor, who will use their fingers as well as a tool called caliper to measure the gap between your abdominal muscles.

The caliper gives an accurate measurement of the gap, and doctors also check for how strong the surrounding muscles are. In some cases, they may prescribe an ultrasound, which will give a more comprehensive picture. Based on their findings, you will be prescribed certain exercises to fix your diastasis recti.

Exercises to fix Diastasis Recti

Whether you’ve self-diagnosed or got your diagnosis from the doctor, always consult a professional before starting exercises for diastasis recti. You need to ensure that the workouts you do are going to help you and not worsen your condition.

The best exercises for diastasis recti engage the deep abdominal muscles, particularly the TVA, or the transverse abdominis. Along with the abs, you also need to strengthen your diaphragm and pelvic floor. This is why exercises for diastasis recti are unlike regular workouts – they are slow and controlled, focusing on breathing and engagement.

1. Diaphragmatic breathing

1. Lie down or sit in a comfortable position with your back straight
2. Place one hand on your belly and the other on your chest
3. Inhale deeply through the nose, sending the air into your belly – your stomach should rise
4. Exhale through the mouth with a ‘shh’ sound, emptying your belly of air and tightening your abs as you do so

2. Abdominal bracing

1. Lie down on your back and try to anchor your lower back to the floor – bend your knees if needed
2. Inhale and as you exhale, draw your belly button in towards your spine – feel your abs brace and tighten
3. Hold for 5-10 seconds and release
4. Repeat 5-10 times

3. Pelvic tilts

1. Lie down on your back with your knees bent and feet flat on the floor
2. Push your lower back into the floor, flattening it against the floor and tilting your pelvis backward
3. Hold for 5 seconds and release
4. Repeat 5-10 times

4. Umbrella Breathing with Kegel 

1. Sit on a yoga ball or a chair so that your thighs are parallel to the floor and your feet are flat on the floor
2. Inhale deeply, imagining your ribcage to be an umbrella opening
3. As you exhale, empty your belly, engaging your abdominal muscles and lifting up your pelvic floor as if you are trying to stop the flow of urine – that counts as a kegel

5. Pelvic tilts on all fours

1. Get down in a tabletop position, with your hands and the tops of your feet on the floor
2. Keep wrists under the shoulders and knees under the hips; head and back should be neutral
3. Inhale deeply into the sides of your torso
4. Exhale as you curl your spine down and lift your chest
5. Inhale and return to neutral

6. Kneeling leg and arm extension

1. Get down in a tabletop position, with your hands and the tops of your feet on the floor
2. Keep wrists under the shoulders and knees under the hips; head and back should be neutral
3. Exhale and engage your core by drawing your navel up toward your spine
4. As you inhale, stretch out your right arm in front and your left leg behind
5. Exhale and return to neutral. Repeat on the opposite side

7. Side plank 

1. Lie down on your right side and prop up your upper body by supporting yourself on your right forearm
2. The right elbow should be directly under the right shoulder and left leg stacked on top of the right one
3. There should be a straight line from your heels to the crown of your head
4. Hold the pose for 15 seconds while breathing normally and release. Repeat on the other side

8. Heel taps with weights

1. Lie down on your back with your knees bent and feet flat on the floor
2. Hold light weights or water bottles in your hands
3. Lift your feet so that your knees are directly over the hips and calves are parallel to the floor
4. Start with your arms bent at the elbow and palms facing each other
5. Inhale into your ribcage and as you exhale, extend the right leg so the right heel touches the floor
6. At the same time, lift your weights straight up. Make sure your core is engaged throughout
7. Inhale as you bring your arms and the right leg back to the starting position
8. Repeat with the left leg

9. Leg lifts

1. Lie down on your back with your knees bent and feet flat on the floor
2. Inhale deeply, filling your belly with air
3. As you exhale and empty your belly, engage your core and lift the right foot, straightening the knee and extending the leg as much as you can
4. Inhale and lower the leg to the starting position. Repeat on the other side

10. Glute bridge

1. Lie down on your back with your knees bent and feet flat on the floor
2. Press your heels firmly into the floor and keep your shoulders down
3. Tuck your chin into your chest and use your grounded heels to help lift your pelvis off the floor
4. Squeeze your glutes for a few seconds and lower your hips slowly to the floor

Make sure you avoid these exercises when healing your diastasis recti:

• Sit-ups and crunches
• Oblique curls and reverse curls
• Traditional planks
• Backbends or spinal extensions
• Yoga poses like boat pose or downward dog
• Pilates moves like scissor legs or double leg lifts
• High-intensity exercises like HIIT, Tabata or burpees
• Exercises with heavy weights
• Any exercise that causes the belly to bulge outward

Remember to always start slow and light and then increase the difficulty or weights as you get stronger. Once you are healed, you can try more intensive yoga or pilates to strengthen your ab muscles further.

Other tips to heal Diastasis Recti

• As you go about your day, practice diaphragmatic breathing and abdominal bracing to strengthen the abs
• Don’t lift anything heavier than your baby
• When holding your baby, avoid putting all the weight on one hip
• When getting out of bed, bend your knees, roll to your side and bring yourself up using your arm for support
• Practice good posture while sitting or standing – a back brace or abdominal brace can help
• Place a soft pillow under or behind your lower back for support
• Support or engage your ab muscles when coughing or sneezing

Please remember that belly bands don’t really help with diastasis recti. You need to really target the inner muscles to strengthen and heal them, which can only be done with exercise. The best thing, of course, is to take steps to prevent it in the first place!

Prevention of Diastasis Recti

• Maintain a healthy weight throughout pregnancy by focusing on healthy foods and avoiding high-calorie junk
• Always practice proper posture when sitting, standing or lying down
• Start practicing deep breathing exercises as early as you can
• Avoid putting pressure on your ab muscles after the first trimester
• Don’t lift very heavy weights, and always bend your knees and use your legs to do any lifting
• Always get out of bed by rolling onto one side instead of crunching up

Treatment of Diastasis Recti

The majority of diastasis recti cases can be fixed through regular exercises and good posture. It is recommended not to ignore your diastasis recti because if left untreated, it can lead to complications like:

• Severe pain in the back and pelvis
• Compromised core strength and stability
• Poor posture and functional mobility
• Pelvic floor dysfunction
• Uncomfortable or painful sex
• Umbilical hernia

If your diastasis recti is too severe or isn’t healing with exercise, you may require surgery, although this is quite rare. Surgery is usually done for a hernia or as part of a tummy tuck. Even if you’ve recovered from diastasis recti once, you can get it again the next time you get pregnant. However, by following our tips early on, you can prevent it from occurring at all!

Are you looking for restaurants where kids eat free in Knoxville, TN? Our list has some options to fit what your kids are craving. You may be wondering “What about deals where kids eat free near me”? We have all the information you need!

Finding meals that your kid will enjoy is made easy at these local restaurants that offer meal deals throughout the week. Grab your calendar and add these restaurants to your meal plan routine for a cheap and stress-free dining experience with the family!

Quick Links to Find Kids Eat Free Offers For The Day You Need!

Monday Kids Eat Free or Cheap: Knoxville, TN

O’Charley’s

Offer: $25 family meal (several options available)
Time: Every day
Age: All ages
At Participating Locations:
3050 South Mall Road Knoxville, TN 37917
8077 Kingston Pike Knoxville, TN 37919
364 Fountain View Circle Alcoa, TN 37701
11036 Parkside Drive Knoxville, TN 37934

Clean Juice

Offer: Free kids Smoothie with purchase of adult smoothie
Time: All day
Age: Kids 12 and under
At Participating Locations:
11670 Parkside Drive, Knoxville, TN 37934

Tuesday Kids Eat Free or Cheap: Knoxville, TN

O’Charley’s

Offer: $25 family meal deal (several options available)
Time: Every day
Age: All ages
At Participating Locations:
3050 South Mall Road Knoxville, TN 37917
8077 Kingston Pike Knoxville, TN 37919
364 Fountain View Circle Alcoa, TN 37701
11036 Parkside Drive Knoxville, TN 37934

Carolina Ale House

Offer: Kids eat for $0.99 cents
Time: Tuesdays after 5 pm
Age: Kids 10 and under
At Participating Locations:
9045 Kingston Pike, Knoxville, TN 37923

Denny’s

Offer: Kids eat free on Tuesdays with purchase of adult entree
Time: From 4 pm to 10 pm
Age: All ages
At Participating Locations:
800 Watt Rd, Knoxville, TN 37932

Ruby Tuesday

Offer: Kids eat free on Tuesdays with purchase of adult entree
Time: After 5 pm
Age: Kids 12 and under
At Participating Locations:
All Knoxville locations

Zaxby’s

Offer: Kids eat free on Tuesdays with purchase of adult entree
Time: 5 pm to 8 pm
Age: Kids 12 and under
At Participating Locations:
All Knoxville locations

Hard Knox Pizza

Offer: Kids get a free 8″ Marciano or Marci-roni on Tuesdays with purchase of a 12″ pizza
Time: All day
Age: Kids 12 and under
At Participating Locations:
All Knoxville locations

Main Event

Offer: Kids eat free every Tuesday
Time: All day
Age: Kids 12 and under
At Participating Locations:
9081 Kingston Pike, Knoxville, TN 37923

Wednesday Kids Eat Free or Cheap: Knoxville, TN

O’Charley’s

Offer: $25 family meal (several options available)
Time: Every day
Age: All ages
At Participating Locations:
3050 South Mall Road Knoxville, TN 37917
8077 Kingston Pike Knoxville, TN 37919
364 Fountain View Circle Alcoa, TN 37701
11036 Parkside Drive Knoxville, TN 37934

Barberito’s Southwestern Grille & Cantina 

Offer: Kids eat for $0.99 on Wednesdays with purchase of adult entree
Time: 4 pm to 9 pm
Age: Kids 12 and under
At Participating Locations:
215 Brookview Centre Way #101, Knoxville, TN 37919

McAlister’s Deli

Offer: Two free kids meals with purchase of one adult entree valid for takeout as well
Time: 5pm
Age: Kids 12 and under
At Participating Locations:
All McAlister’s Locations in Knoxville

Firehouse Subs

Offer: Two free kids meals with purchase of one adult entree
Time: 5pm
Age: Kids 12 and under
At Participating Locations:
All Firehouse Subs Locations in Knoxville

Thursday Kids Eat Free or Cheap: Knoxville, TN

O’Charley’s

Offer: $25 family meal (several options available)
Time: Every day
Age: All ages
At Participating Locations:
3050 South Mall Road Knoxville, TN 37917
8077 Kingston Pike Knoxville, TN 37919
364 Fountain View Circle Alcoa, TN 37701
11036 Parkside Drive Knoxville, TN 37934

Friday Kids Eat Free or Cheap: Knoxville, TN

O’Charley’s

Offer: $25 family meal (several options available)
Time: Every day
Age: All ages
At Participating Locations:
3050 South Mall Road Knoxville, TN 37917
8077 Kingston Pike Knoxville, TN 37919
364 Fountain View Circle Alcoa, TN 37701
11036 Parkside Drive Knoxville, TN 37934

Ruby Tuesday

Offer: Kids eat free on Fridays with purchase of adult entree
Time: After 5 pm
Age: Kids 12 and under
At Participating Locations:
All Knoxville locations

Saturday Kids Eat Free or Cheap: Knoxville, TN

O’Charley’s

Offer: $25 family meal (several options available)
Time: Every day
Age: All ages
At Participating Locations:
3050 South Mall Road Knoxville, TN 37917
8077 Kingston Pike Knoxville, TN 37919
364 Fountain View Circle Alcoa, TN 37701
11036 Parkside Drive Knoxville, TN 37934

Sunday Kids Eat Free or Cheap: Knoxville, TN

O’Charley’s

Offer: $25 family meal (several options available)
Time: Every day
Age: All ages
At Participating Locations:
3050 South Mall Road Knoxville, TN 37917
8077 Kingston Pike Knoxville, TN 37919
364 Fountain View Circle Alcoa, TN 37701
11036 Parkside Drive Knoxville, TN 37934

Moe’s Southwest Grill

Offer: Kids eat free on Sunday (dine-in only)
Time: All day
Age: Kids 12 and under
At Participating Locations:
All Moe’s Locations

Let us know if we missed a restaurant!

Kids Eat Free Across the USA

Check out the chains that offer kids eat free deals all over the country and find our lists of local cities with kids meal deals.

By Daria Brown

I first wrote here in 2012 after my toddler suffered seizures and severe brain inflammation at age two. He was then diagnosed with autism at age three. Today my son is 15. It’s been quite a journey along our unexpected path of disability. What I didn’t anticipate was that learning about his diagnosis would lead me to wonder about whether I was also neurodivergent.

Looking back, I always felt different from all of my friends. I was the pickiest eater. I was the only one terrified of animals: I would cry if a house pet wasn’t locked in another room when I was visiting. I also absolutely loved school and was the always the teacher’s pet. My kindergarten and Grade 3 teachers independently told my mother that I would be the first female prime minister.

I was also very particular about what and how I’d play with my brother and my friends. I had countless collections that were meticulously organized.

I was the only person I knew who a list of America’s Top 10 every week in the 1980s, and who would get distressed if I missed a week of America’s Top 40 on the radio. I was the only one who would call the radio station to ask what song was being played if they didn’t announce it, because I needed to know the band and song name for everything I listened to. I was the only one who mailed to request a club membership card to such things as Detroit Radio’s Midnight Funk Association hosted by the Electrifying Mojo. Almost 24-7, I hear and sing songs in my head, and my memories are always visual.

Among my friends, I was the only one who answered sticker collection magazine pen pal requests and became pen pals with other teen girls around North America. I even went out of my way to visit a couple of them on different school trips or family vacations! I was the only one who started clubs for my friends, making membership cards and providing tokens of membership: It was crystals from my parents’ old chandelier for our crystal club, and new nicknames for our valley girl club in the early 1980s. I was the only one who made music videos of my friends and I dancing to steps I choreographed to my favourite songs by Cyndi Lauper or Newcleus.

So, fast forward to COVID. I started reading more and more from autistic adult self-advocates on social media, and began listening to podcasts that interviewed autistic adult women. I recognized myself in the many traits and events they described and thought: ‘That’s just like me!’ I recorded a podcast about this and did a handful of podcasts with The Autistic Self Advocate, Kieran Rose, who clearly believed that I am neurodivergent.

Then I put myself on the waitlist for a publicly-funded autism diagnosis in early 2022 and was finally called by CAMH this past April. I wanted to find out if I qualified for a diagnosis, but I didn’t have a preference for the outcome.

I am a parent advocate, facilitating support meetings with parents of autistic children every week and figured that if I’m autistic, it gives me some ‘street cred’ in my professional role. Many parents of autistic children end up getting diagnosed and even more wonder if they are neurodivergent. My experience could help support my work with parents.

However, part of me was quite worried about the reaction from the person assessing me. What if they looked at me, a successful, fully functioning professional, and said I was wasting taxpayers’ money by seeking a diagnosis when I have no disability? 

The diagnosis process was as I expected. The woman who conducted my assessment was wonderful, compassionate, and very respectful. She was completely empathetic to my experience and curious about my possible neurodivergence. What a relief and comfort.

It began with an interview of why I sought the diagnosis. Then my brother was interviewed about growing up with me, as we’re only two years apart. I completed various surveys and did an online modified version of the ADOS with the psychiatrist. I was also interviewed extensively for numerous hours on three separate occasions about many aspects of my development and tendencies. 

During these assessments I recalled that in my graduate studies in Personality Psychology, I never quite ‘fit’ any of the researched categories of traits. For instance, on Extroversion-Introversion scales, I score in the middle. But on half of the items, I answer very extroverted, while on the other half, I respond as extremely introverted. It just averages my responses rather than accurately explaining the nuances. Similarly, on the measure of Conscientiousness, I score extremely high on items such as ‘pays bills on time’ (I always pay every bill on time) and extremely low on items like ‘I always fill my car up with gas before it goes to empty’ (I always end up on empty before realizing that I need more gas).

I also recalled the first website I made in the mid 90s for my college radio show on which I played electro-industrial music. I essentially described the industrial scene as attracting the neurodivergent, without calling it that. I named my show ‘Distorted Circuitry’ and this is what I wrote about it in the 1990s:

Distorted Circuitry is the name I came up with for my weekly show to describe the dark, energetic electronic music I played and coined ‘industrial.’ It seemed like the artists used sounds resembling something played from circuits, with the clanging noises and distorted vocals. Thus, it seemed like a fine name to me. 

Over the years, I realized that the name had a deeper significance. One could say that the industrial genre and what it has to say via song lyrics represents a ‘distorted’ view of the world, or at least a minority view. Perhaps those who enjoy it are made up of ‘distorted circuitry’ themselves, not fitting in with the norm, expressing themselves in ways that might seem quite alternative to the mainstream (e.g. extreme clothing, hair styles, piercings, tattoos).

But for me, Distorted Circuitry is not about a subculture; it’s about craving something different—and that doesn’t refer to superficial qualities like clothing or style. Maybe it’s a subtle sense of humour, or experience, to suggest that seeking alternatives implies a distortion in one’s make up.

I have always been overly persistent and overly focused on details. I can’t tell a story without including every detail, so much so that my brother will ask me: ‘Is this going to be one of your two minute stories that lasts 35 minutes?’ 

I have been called ‘a control freak’ many times. My romantic partner in my late 20s told a friend that I had ‘a rule book of seven volumes.’ I have persistently struggled with time management. I made my brother late for school so many times because I couldn’t get into the car on time. I made my family almost miss a flight for vacation because I took so long to get ready.

I have always been overly focused on justice. A friend commented that I had a very skewed sense of morality, but once you figured that out, I made sense.

So I guess it wasn’t a complete surprise when the psychiatrist came back in May to announce that there was no doubt in her mind that I fit the profile of a late-diagnosed autistic female. She said I wouldn’t have been picked up for diagnosis as a child.

She added that while most of her women clients seeking an autism diagnosis come in with debilitating co-occurrences, the only co-occurrence she could see in me was my extreme phobia of animals. She noted that I do have a few minor sensory differences, such as sensitivity to sunlight and vestibular movement, and an acute sense of smell. She said that I have really played to my strengths with my career, which was a great pleasure for her to witness.

Now, after reflecting on my diagnosis, I feel that autism is just how my brain works. It’s part of who I am. It really shapes my personality and defines my sense of self. I am the way I am and have always been this way.

It isn’t possible to change my desire for order. I will always anticipate every possible scenario that might happen in the future—dire or pleasant—in order to mentally prepare for action. I ruminate constantly, over anything and everything, and second guess social interactions as a habit. Perhaps these are areas of personal development I could work on, to decrease my stress levels. It’s a good idea. And yet my graduate advisor saw me as one of the most carefree students he’d seen. It’s easy for me to be carefree when I’m able to set aside my responsibilities for a day, an evening, or a week on vacation. This became rarer after motherhood, leading to feeling burnt out more frequently.

But what jumps out to me more than anything else is something one of my probably neurodivergent close friends said to me: ‘Everybody’s definition of normal is different.’

In my household, extreme worry was modelled for me. Emotional outbursts and avoidance of emotions were normal in our home. I recall telling a friend in high school that I never cry. I now realize I learned very well to mask my emotions in that environment, especially when I was told things like: ‘Oh Daria, not everyone is as sensitive as you think they are.’ My differences were pointed out to me constantly, both good and bad. It was my normal that I was different. And I liked it. It wasn’t just my name, Daria, that was unique. 

When I met my ex-husband, he met my family and remarked that we could be in a sitcom, because it was so foreign to what he’d experienced. Indeed, his family was nothing like mine. They were different in their own way.

Now that I’ve been facilitating parent support meetings for seven years, I get a glimpse into the lives of other neurodivergent families and see that everybody’s way of being in the world is unique.

For me, my autism qualities have served me well, caused me much distress, and made my motives often misunderstood. But they don’t disable me as they have my son. My autism helps me relate to my son’s experiences and I have been an exceptionally assertive and unforgiving champion for him. Our normal is neurodivergent, and this feels comfortable.

We have made friends with other neurodivergent families so that we feel at ease when out together. It’s only when we attempt to blend in with typical society that I notice challenges, such as trying to attend ‘typical’ birthday parties, family events, riding on public transportation, and mingling in public settings. The supports we have learned to provide for our son are essential for peaceful living. I wish for all autistics to have this, and I advocate for this as much as I am capable.

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Are you a fan of soccer? Or… as most of the world calls it- football? It is a very popular sport for good reason, and one of the benefits of it is that it can be played without expensive equipment. Read more about how soccer can be a great way to keep kids active without spending a lot of money.

If you’re looking for a cheap way to keep your kids active, a sport like soccer is a great option. Soccer not only keeps kids occupied and improves their fitness, but it also teaches them valuable life lessons like teamwork and discipline. Most importantly, there are plenty of ways to keep it affordable.

Take Advantage of Community Resources

Once your kids have had an intro to soccer, the next step is finding a safe and suitable place for them to practice. Fortunately, many communities have free resources like parks, fields, and recreation centers. You might be able to find some low-cost (or even free) soccer programs by checking local websites or bulletin boards for information.

Buy Second-Hand Gear

One of the main attractions of the beautiful game is its simplicity: you don’t need much equipment outside of a soccer ball. However, it’s a good idea to source some proper boots and shin pads which are essential for in-game protection. If your child is in goal, they’ll need gloves, and if they play in a team, they’ll need a strip. A soccer strip includes a shirt, shorts, and socks.

Fortunately, none of the gear is particularly extravagant. Thrift stores, online marketplaces, and community groups are all great places to find second-hand soccer items. Not only does this save money; it’s an eco-friendly choice too!

Practice at Home

Your kids can easily have a kickaround in the backyard without needing much space. Even an only child can spend hours practicing keepie-uppies in the garden. Common soccer drills require nothing more than a bit of room and some marker cones. For example, footwork and agility training involves dribbling the ball through different cone patterns. If you don’t want to shell out on cones, just use household items for makeshift equipment.

Leverage Technology

These days, you can learn anything online in a tutorial video, and soccer is no different. From learning how to set up drills to trick techniques, now your kids can use screen time to support a healthier habit. With around 3.5 billion fans, soccer is the world’s most popular sport, so there’s no shortage of free content to help your kids develop their skills. 

Organize Neighborhood Games 

We just dropped our oldest off for freshman year of college. A day we have planned and planned for. The move-in could not have gone smoother. He is happy. His roommates are great. He is a student-athlete and his coach could not be nicer.

The athletic trainers, his resident advisor, his academic advisor all seem like a great fit. I am so happy for him. He did it. He set a goal and worked incredibly hard for it. He made it. These are all reminders that my brain is telling my heart. 

My heart is not listening. I am so sad. 

This is the last time I’ll see this version of my son

As we pulled away from campus, leaving him to start his next chapter, my heart was sick. That is the last time I will see that version him. A feeling I have felt so many times before. Being a parent means as excited you are for all the firsts; those firsts mean lasts. 

There was the last time he no longer needed help walking, the last time I could physically pick him up and hold him, then last time he flew into living room to see if Santa came on Christmas morning. All those versions of him are gone. All I am left with are the memories and a phone filled with images to cling to. We all know, parents cannot stop it and we cannot go back.

Everyone is trying to help but I’m not ready to hear that I’ll be okay

My sadness comes in waves. God Bless everyone, I know they are trying to help, but I am not ready to hear it. The redundant sentiments ringing in my ears and swirling in my head.

“You did your job”

“He is going to soar” 

“It gets easier” 

“Time for him to fly”

“They have to leave the nest sometime”

And the worst, “Next year you guys will be empty nesters.” 

I realize how self-involved this probably sounds. We have friends who have lost their children and would give anything for a college drop off. I do understand how lucky we are. This is a blessing. I get that. Please hear me when I say that. Mother’s love and leaving her child anywhere does not have to make sense. 

We are their biggest fans. We are their soft place to land. We know that the sting of the snappy mouth is just hidden fear. We know if the situation calls for a popsicle, a Band-Aid, or the ER. We know every inch of their lives. Most of all, we know that no one will ever love them like we do. 

Raising my kids feels like a novel I do not want to put down

Raising kids feels like a novel we do not want to put down. Putting it down means that have reached the last chapter of his childhood. They are adults.

This will be a new time of navigating and problem solving for my son. He will learn to trouble shoot and maneuver the things life throws at him. Simply put, he will have to figure things out, 

But… my heart is broken. I love being his mother. I have loved mothering him and his brother. I have dedicated my life to being their mom. It is my greatest gift. The best and hardest job I have ever had.

I am not ready to pass his empty room

I love being the one he comes to when things go wrong or when something needs fixing. I enjoy having his favorite meal in the oven when he gets home from practice. I am not ready to stop washing his stinky socks and jerseys. Most of all, I don’t want to pass his empty room when we get home. 

I am sorry. I am not ready. I want more time.

My heart cannot digest all the typical platitudes being spoon fed to me about how I should feel a certain way. I want to be left to stew in my feelings no matter how ridiculous people think I am being. Is that wrong?  

College drop-off is the best and worst experience ever. 

No matter how I prepared my brain to regulate and prepare my emotions and feelings, my heart had other plans. 

Plans to obsess if I did everything I could to prepare him. Plans to pray and beg God to protect him every single second. Plans to freak out that I do this all over again next year with my youngest son. 

We will settle into a routine. I know that. I will adjust to my new role as a college mom. There are good times ahead. The comforting sentiments aren’t wrong. I am the same as every other parent who has done this before me. I know the cliché well wishes are true. He will find ways to soar and thrive. It is an exciting new chapter. We did our job. 

But tonight…

I am not ready. 

I am not fine. 

I need everyone in my life to be ok with that. 

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Looking for a refreshing and nutritious drink that your kids will love?

This Easy and Delicious Muskmelon Juice for Babies and Kids, is just what you need! Muskmelon, with its naturally sweet flavor and hydrating properties, makes the perfect base for a healthy juice that’s great for babies and kids alike. Whether you’re serving it as a quick snack or as part of a meal, this juice is a fantastic way to introduce your little ones to the goodness of fresh fruits. Simple to prepare and bursting with flavor, it’s sure to become a family favorite.

Health Benefits of Muskmelon

Muskmelon, also known as cantaloupe, is a nutrient-dense fruit that offers several health benefits for babies and kids:

Rich in Vitamins: Muskmelon is a great source of vitamins A and C. Vitamin A is crucial for healthy vision and skin, while vitamin C boosts the immune system and aids in the absorption of iron.

Hydrating: With a high water content, muskmelon helps keep babies and kids hydrated, especially during hot weather. Staying hydrated is essential for maintaining energy levels and overall health.

Good for Digestion: The fiber content in muskmelon supports healthy digestion and can prevent constipation, a common concern for young children.

Boosts Immunity: The antioxidants found in muskmelon, including beta-carotene and vitamin C, help strengthen the immune system, making it easier for kids to fight off common illnesses.

Promotes Healthy Growth: Muskmelon is rich in essential minerals like potassium and magnesium, which are vital for bone development and overall growth in children.

Supports Eye Health: The beta-carotene in muskmelon converts to vitamin A in the body, which is essential for maintaining healthy vision and preventing eye problems.

Incorporating muskmelon into your child’s diet is an easy and delicious way to provide them with essential nutrients that support their overall growth and development.

Easy and Delicious Muskmelon Juice for Babies and Kids

Ingredients:

• 1 ripe muskmelon
• 1-2 tablespoons jaggery (optional, for kids above 1 year)
• Chilled water (optional, for older kids)

Instructions:

1. Start by cutting the muskmelons in half.

2. Scoop out and discard the seeds.

3. Carefully peel off the skin using a sharp knife or vegetable peeler.

4. Cut the muskmelon flesh into small, bite-sized pieces.

5. Transfer the pieces into a blender and blend until you reach your desired consistency. This can be served as puree.

6. If serving to older kids (above 1 year) you can add 1-2 tablespoons of jaggery and some chilled water for a sweeter, more refreshing juice.

7. Pour the puree into a bowl and serve immediately for the freshest taste.

This simple and nutritious muskmelon juice is perfect for keeping your little ones hydrated and satisfied.

This easy recipe is perfect for babies and kids, offering a naturally sweet and refreshing treat that’s as healthy as it is tasty. Whether you’re serving it plain or with a touch of jaggery for older kids, this muskmelon juice is sure to become a favorite in your household. Try it today and watch your little ones enjoy every sip!

Easy and Delicious Muskmelon Juice for Babies and Kids

ThisEasy and Delicious Muskmelon Juice for Babies and Kids, is just what you need!

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Ingredients

• 1 number muskmelon
• 1-2 tbsps jaggery optional,for kids above 1 year
• Chilledwater optional,for older kids

Instructions

• Start by cutting the muskmelon inhalf.

• Scoop out and discard the seeds.

• Carefully peel off the skin using asharp knife or vegetable peeler.

• Cut the muskmelon flesh into small,bite-sized pieces.

• Transferthe pieces into a blender and blend until you reach your desired consistency.

• If serving to older kids (above 1year) you can add 1-2 tablespoons of jaggery and some chilled water for asweeter, more refreshing juice.

• Pour the puree into a bowl and serveimmediately for the freshest taste.

Frequently Asked Questions

I know, I know. I just posted last month about giving my daughter a butterfly cut, which came out beautiful. I did mention in the post that it was longer than what I might have otherwise cut since it was my first time using that technique, and we might cut it shorter after… and while chopping off all those split ends and a good bunch of inches made it more beautiful and healthy looking, my daughter was still complaining about her hair and said that she really wanted a pixie haircut. 

Anneleise felt that she was hiding her face behind her hair, and she wanted to stop that, and embrace her face as it was.

My daughter’s hair is thick and she has a lot of it, quite unlike my thin hair that I always want to look fuller. On top of that, she has psoriasis and a sensitive scalp, so brushing is painful for her, and the longer her hair the more time it takes to brush it. Treatment for psoriasis tangles her hair as does scratching her head, which makes the brushing even worse. 

Like when she wanted a pixie cut as a little kid, and when she wanted bangs a few years ago, I first waited more than a week before she initially asked for the haircut before taking the plunge, because if it’s an impulsive decision you can’t simply undo it if you change your mind.

But then we did it. She trusted me to cut her hair. I was scared, because she’d not a 3.5 year old anymore, like when I last gave her a pixie cut, and if I messed it up there wasn’t an easy fix. We looked at lots of pictures and discussed length of each section and how she wanted to have her hair, then watched a few videos on how to give pixie cuts, but in the end I mostly used the same method as I did for her original pixie cut 9 years ago, just with a few more pony tails at the top, since she has a lot more hair. 

I first braided her hair and then cut the whole braid off. Then with the top of her hair gathered up I then layered each side but very short. Then I cut the top so that it lay where she wanted it to lay when parted. Once that was done I evened it out, made sure nothing was sticking out weirdly and voila.

Mostly finished.

It looked really cute, but you could tell how thick her hair was still, and it stuck out a lot in the back and on the sides. When it was wet you couldn’t see the poofiness…

But when dried it was a little “fluffy”.

I got her some hair styling cream to make her hair have more of a wet look, hoping it wouldn’t look as puffy, but it didn’t do the job. We used some hair stuff to bring out her waves, and that also looked adorable. But still, it was big. She said she saw the hair go out at the sides and felt it “made her face look like an almond” and thought cutting it shorter at the sides might fix that. However, I didn’t think that was the solution.

She had her hair like that for a few days and got compliments on it but still wanted me to try thinning it out. I knew that for that you wanted thinning shears, but the two beauty supply stores I went to didn’t have them; I was told only stores for professional hairdressers would have them. Fortunately, a neighbor had a pair I could borrow, and after my daughter came back from a beach vacation with her dad, I tackled her hair, and oh my gosh.

What a difference!

I watched videos on how to use the thinning shears, but I ended up using them much more heavily than they showed in the videos, just because of how thick her hair is.

I felt so guilty cutting off so much hair; I have such little hair that removing that much felt almost like sacrilege. Seeing that much hair on the floor, after it was already short was shocking; you would never have been able to tell by the amount of hair on the floor how much she still had on her head. 

To thin it, I picked up the very top layer of her hair so that would all be the same length, but layer by layer underneath I used the thinning shears, over and over again, until her hair was much flatter and didn’t stick out as much.

Seeing how absolutely thrilled she was after this haircut, I knew it was the right decision. It suits her so well, and she said that taking care of it was so much easier than it ever had been.

I’m so glad my daughter figured out what worked for her hair and that I was able to give that to her without costing me what it would have cost at a salon.

What type of haircut do you prefer for yourself? If you have kids, what types of haircuts do they have, and do you give them or do you get them done professionally? Would you know how to give special haircuts for thick hair? Do you have thin hair or thick hair?

Inclusive classrooms are becoming more common as schools strive to integrate special education students into mainstream education. This approach benefits all students by fostering a learning environment where diversity is respected and everyone has the opportunity to succeed. Integrating special education students alongside their peers can enhance social skills, increase empathy, and prepare all students for a more inclusive society.

However, creating an inclusive classroom requires thoughtful strategies and dedicated effort. Teachers must be equipped with the right skills, tools, and knowledge to support students with varying needs. Effective integration improves the learning experience for special education students while enriching the educational environment for everyone involved.

The following strategies can help educators successfully integrate special education students into mainstream classrooms.

Online programs are particularly advantageous because they offer accessibility to educators who might not have the time or resources to attend in-person classes. Teachers can study at their own pace and from any location. This way, they can manage their professional commitments alongside personal responsibilities. Look up the keyword masters of special education online on any search engine to learn more about the program.

With specialized training, educators are better prepared to handle the challenges of integrating special education students and can create a more supportive and effective learning environment for all students.

2. Implement IEPs

Individualized Education Plans (IEPs) are essential tools for supporting special education students in an inclusive classroom. An IEP outlines specific goals and accommodations tailored to meet the unique needs of each student. These plans are developed through collaboration between teachers, special education professionals, parents, and the students themselves. For IEPs to be effective, they must be implemented consistently and reviewed regularly to ensure they continue to meet the student’s needs.

Teachers play a key role in the successful implementation of IEPs. They must be familiar with each student’s plan and integrate the necessary accommodations into their daily teaching practices. This might include modifying assignments, providing additional support during lessons, or using alternative teaching methods. Implementing IEPs helps special education students achieve their learning goals and allows them to participate fully in the classroom alongside their peers.

3. Foster an Inclusive Classroom Environment

Creating an inclusive classroom environment is critical for the success of all students. An inclusive classroom is one where every student feels valued and supported, regardless of their abilities. Teachers can foster this environment by promoting positive interactions between students, encouraging teamwork, and modeling respect and kindness. Simple practices like assigning classroom buddies or using group activities can help special education students feel more integrated and less isolated.

It’s also important for teachers to set a tone of acceptance and understanding from the very beginning. Open communication is key, and teachers should encourage students to ask questions and express their feelings about inclusion. Using positive reinforcement can also help create a supportive atmosphere. When all students feel safe and respected, they are more likely to engage in learning and contribute to the classroom community. Fostering an inclusive environment benefits everyone by creating a space where differences are celebrated, and all students have the opportunity to thrive.

4. Utilize Differentiated Instruction Techniques

In an inclusive classroom, students have varying learning needs and abilities. To accommodate these differences, teachers must utilize differentiated instruction techniques. Differentiated instruction involves tailoring teaching methods, materials, and assessments to meet the diverse needs of all students. For example, a teacher might present a lesson using multiple formats, such as visual aids, hands-on activities, and verbal explanations. This approach allows each student to engage with the material in a way that best suits their learning style.

Differentiated instruction also means providing multiple ways for students to demonstrate their understanding. Some students might excel with written assignments, while others may benefit from oral presentations or creative projects. Adjusting the pace of lessons is another aspect of differentiation, which allows students who need more time to grasp concepts to keep up.

5. Promote Collaborative Learning Opportunities

Collaborative learning is an effective strategy for integrating special education students into mainstream classrooms. When students work together in groups, they learn to communicate, share ideas, and solve problems collectively. This interaction helps special education students develop social skills and build relationships with their peers. It also fosters a sense of belonging as students work together towards common goals.

Teachers can promote collaborative learning by organizing group activities that require cooperation and teamwork—assigning roles within groups so that every student, regardless of their abilities, has an active part to play. For example, one student might be responsible for gathering materials, while another might lead the discussion.

6. Regularly Assess and Adjust Strategies

The process of integrating special education students into mainstream classrooms requires continuous assessment and adjustment. What works well at the beginning of the school year might need to be modified as the year progresses. Teachers should regularly evaluate the effectiveness of the strategies they are using to support special education students. This task could involve reviewing the student’s progress, seeking feedback from the students themselves, or consulting with special education professionals.

Between night feedings, teething, potty training, and stuffy noses, it’s a wonder parents get any sleep at all! If raising kids has you running on fumes, you’re certainly not alone. Thankfully, there’s a vast selection of products designed specifically to help children—and their worn-out parents—get some rest.

From cozy bassinets and swaddles to comfy toddler beds and handy sound machines, there’s a product for just about every stage of parenthood. To help save you some time (and sanity), our team of expert judges has narrowed down the best ones!

All of our 2024 Kids’ Sleep Awards winners are safe, dependable, innovative, and, most importantly, effective in helping your family sleep more soundly.

Winners: Best Baby Sleep Products

Best Mini Crib Mattress: Newton Baby Mini Crib Mattress

Known for their top-rated mattresses, the Newton mini crib mattress is just as impressive as their full-size options. The ultra-breathable technology and airy construction reduces the risk of suffocation and overheating, ensuring your little one sleeps comfortably and safely in a mini crib. It also features a removable cover, for easy cleaning.

Price: $199.99

Best Crib Mattress: Delta Children Ionic Breathe Crib and Toddler Mattress with Cloud Core

Delta Children’s Ionic Breathe crib and toddler mattress offers a hypoallergenic, mildew-resistant, and non-toxic option featuring their breathable Cloud Core technology. It features two sides to accommodate growing babies: a firm infant side and a toddler side with an additional comfort layer. With maximum airflow, a waterproof barrier, and a removable, machine-washable mattress cover, this one checks all the boxes!

Price: $399.99

Best All-In-One Travel Crib: Joovy Premium Room All-in-One Playard Nursery Center Changing Table Bassinet

Featuring a removable bassinet, flip-away changing table, and oversized storage pocket, the Joovy Room playard packs an entire nursery into a conveniently compact and portable design. It sports two wheels, allowing you to move it around your home (without scratching hardwood floors), and includes a zippered travel bag for on-the-go. It also comes in four fun and stylish colors, perfect for any room.

Price: $169.99

Best Eco-friendly Travel Crib: UPPAbaby Remi 

The compact and lightweight UPPAbaby Remi is an all-in-one bassinet, travel crib, and portable playard for newborns and toddlers up to 20 pounds. Setting it up takes mere minutes and allows your baby to sleep and play on a mattress fitted with a breathable, organic cotton mattress cover. The zip-open panel gives your little one a clear view of the world around them (and easy access for you!), and the attachable canopy provides much-needed sun and bug protection outdoors. As an added bonus, it is GREENGUARD Gold Certified, so you can rest easy knowing your little one is sleeping (and playing) in a safe and comfortable environment.

Price: $299.99

Best Bassinet: BabyBjörn Baby Cradle

Sleek, stylish, and cozy, the BabyBjörn Baby Cradle is designed for quiet and gentle rocking that will soothe any newborn to sleep. It stands sturdy with anti-slip feet, and the breezy mesh fabric keeps your baby cool and comfy. The product is OEKO-TEX-certified, meaning it’s free of chemicals and other toxins and safe for the tiniest, most delicate humans. 

Price: $349.99

Best Zip-Up Swaddle: Happiest Baby Sleepea Swaddle

The pediatrician-designed Sleepea swaddle is made from 100% organic cotton and features extra-quiet velcro, mesh openings to reduce the risk of overheating, and a two-way zipper that opens from the top or bottom. The swaddle hugs your baby closely, mimicking the feel of the womb and keeping even mini escape artists securely wrapped. And, as your baby grows, the arm openings unsnap, making it a great transitional swaddle when needed.

Price: $29.95

Best Wrap-around Swaddle: The Ollie World The Ollie

The Ollie isn’t your typical swaddle: it’s designed to enhance your little one’s neuro-development and ease their transition to the outside world. The flexible fabric allows your baby to move and stretch freely while still feeling as snug as they were in the womb, and it can be used with both arms secured, one arm out, or both arms out.

Price: $59

Best Sleep Sack: Kyte Baby Sleep Bag 1.0

Accurately described as “buttery soft and breathable,” the Kyte Baby Sleep Bag 1.0 is made from bamboo fabric and is ideal for keeping your slumbering baby warm and cozy. The J-shaped zipper makes diaper changes easy. The fabric helps to keep baby warm while regulating temperature, and there’s a rainbow of colors and modern prints to choose from.

Price: $57.99

Best Baby Monitor: Nanit Pro Camera

Track your baby’s milestones, sleep patterns, growth, and so much more with the innovative Nanit Pro Camera and app. The “stress-less” features include full video history, split-screen capability for multiple kids, temperature and humidity tracking, standing detection, and milestone captures (such as rolling over). Nanit’s sensor-free, wearable technology also allows you to track breathing in real-time, so worrying is a thing of the past!

Price: starts at $249.99

Best Nightlight for Babies: VAVA Baby Night Light

The VAVA Baby night light is made from 100% toy-grade materials and is velvety smooth to the touch. Choose from eight colors to give your baby’s room a calming, snooze-inducing glow for up to 100 hours before recharging. You can also dim the light, putting you in control.

Price: $23.99

Best Lotion: CereVe Baby Moisturizing Cream

Keep your baby’s skin extra soft and kissable with the help of CereVe Baby moisturizing cream. This pediatric dermatologist-approved cream is ultra-hydrating, non-greasy, and fast-absorbing. It’s been accepted by the National Eczema Association, making it suitable for even the most sensitive skin. It’s also free of fragrance, paraben, dye and phthalates.

Price: $10.99

Best Overnight Diapers: Coterie The Diaper

Struggling with nighttime diaper leaks? The Diaper from Coterie gives your little one 12-hours of protection and can absorb up to 70 percent more liquid than its competitors. These hypoallergenic and dermatologist-tested diapers are free of 200+ chemicals and are ultra-soft on your baby’s skin. And fewer leaks means better sleep, which is a win-win for the whole family.

Price: varies 

Winners: Best Toddler Sleep Products

Best Toddler Bed: Delta Children Logan Wood Toddler Bed

The transition to a toddler bed is a big milestone! Make it easy with Delta Children’s stylishly safe Logan wood toddler bed. The two attached guardrails and low height make it simple for little ones to get in and out, and the bed frame features a modern-looking wood finish. It is also GREENGUARD Gold Certified, meaning it meets or exceeds current chemical emissions standards.

Price: $99.99

Best Toddler Travel Bed: Hiccapop Inflatable Toddler Travel Bed with Safety Bumpers

Portable and lightweight, the Hiccapop inflatable toddler travel bed includes a removable mattress and bumpers on all four sides to keep active sleepers comfy and secure. It includes a convenient turbo pump, making nap or bedtime ready in seconds no matter where you are.

Price: $99.99

Best Nap Mat: Urban Infant Bulkie™ Super Sleepover Kids Mat

Whether it’s for daycare, preschool, or family movie night, Urban Infant’s Bulkie™ toddler nap mat features a cozy and quilted inner blanket lining made of 100% cotton flannel. The attached pillow can be flipped up or down depending on your child’s height, and the whole mat folds up into a backpack for easy travel. (Arguably the coolest feature!)

Price: $54.95

Best Nightlight for Toddlers: Nanit Sound + Light

If you don’t think you need a smart nightlight, the Nanit Sound + Light might just change your mind. The Nanit app offers seamless control of the device and offers a large library of soothing white noise and nature sounds, lullabies, and wake-up songs. It also includes a cry detection feature, allowing you to get to your little one stat!

Price: $99.99

Best Toddler Pillow: Dreamland Baby Dream Toddler Pillow with Bamboo Pillowcase

The Dream toddler pillow is the ultimate snuggle companion for sleepy toddlers. Its medium-firm surface ensures your little one’s neck and spine are supported and properly aligned. It includes an ultra-soft bamboo pillowcase. Bonus: it’s made from 100% cotton and is hypoallergenic.

Price: $29

Best Bed Rail: Hiccapop Inflatable Bed Rail

The Hiccapop inflatable bed rail is proof that effective bed rails don’t need to be big or bulky! This round, non-slip silicone bumper goes underneath the fitted sheet of any size bed to keep your toddler safe and secure at nap or bedtime. It’s also compact and convenient for traveling.

Price: $64.99

Best Overnight Training Underwear: Goodnites Nighttime Underwear

Potty training certainly comes with its challenges, but Goodnites nighttime underwear can help relieve the stress of overnight accidents. They’re specifically designed for nighttime protection and come in fun character designs any budding big kid will love.

Price: varies 

Winners: Best Big Kid Sleep Products

Best Twin Mattress: BB Kids Mattress

Let’s be honest: big kids are messy. (And that’s okay!) The BB kids mattress keeps this in mind with its Nano Stain Terminator finish, helping to protect against spills and accidents. The gel swirl memory foam is infused with a comfortable cooling gel and airflow technology to keep your kiddos cool, comfy, and well-rested. 

Price: $265

Best Pillow: Nest Designs Twin Poplin Pillow

With a plushy, plant-based filling inside organic cotton fabric, the Nest Designs’ twin Poplin pillow is a dreamy option for growing big kids. It’s hypoallergenic, breathable, machine washable, and the perfect balance of firmness and softness.

Price: $54

Best Rise-to-Wake Clock: Loftie Clock

For kids who need a little help waking up in the morning, the Loftie clock is a simple yet innovative solution. The two-phase alarm system includes a gentle wake-up phase, followed by a louder alarm to get them moving. It also includes over 100 sleep sounds, a Bluetooth speaker, a gentle night light, and customizable alarms.

Price: $149.99

Best Sleep Mask: Dream Essentials Hush Children’s Sleep Mask

If your big kid enjoys a good night’s sleep as much as you do, the Dream Essentials Hush children’s sleep mask is a bedtime must-have. The adjustable velcro band creates the perfect fit, and the cushioned black-out fabric rests over the eyes without adding too much pressure. 

Price: $18.99

Best Stuffed Animal: Hugimals Quinn the Koala

This loveable stuffy creates a “hug you back” effect thanks to its soft, weighted design. Sitting 11″ tall and weighing approximately four and a half pounds, snuggling up with Hugimals Quinn the Koala can help ease anxiety, keeping your big kid calm and relaxed at bedtime, in the car, or wherever a little extra comfort is needed.

Price: $64

Best Projector: Cloud.b Tranquil Turtle™ Rechargeable

Any kid will love sleeping under a calming, underwater oasis with the adorable Cloud.b Tranquil Turtle. The turtle’s plush body makes it a good daytime cuddle buddy, and its light-up shell makes it the perfect bedtime companion. The underwater light effect gives off all of the tranquil beach vibes—just without the sand. Oh, and this cute, musical turtle is rechargeable, ensuring the fun never ends.

Price: $69.99

Winners: Best Sleep Products for the Family

Best Humidifier: Frida 3-in-1 Humidifier XL + Diffuser + Nightlight

No one likes sleeping with a dry or stuffy nose, and that’s where the Frida 3-in-1 Humidifier XL + Diffuser + Nightlight comes in handy. The extra-large tank keeps cool mist flowing for up to 60 hours and works well in larger rooms if needed. With the diffuser, you can add essential oils or BreatheFrida Vapor Drops. And the nightlight has three glow levels. Every nose in the family is guaranteed to stay happy and hydrated!

Price: $79.99

Best Air Purifier: Coway Airmega 100

Beat allergens and other pesky air contaminants with the powerful Coway Airmega 100. It helps get rid of all the usual culprits, such as pet hair, dust, mold, viruses, smoke, and more. It includes a convenient filter-change indicator, sleep mode, and a night light. And it’s speedy, too—cleaning spaces over 800 sq. ft. in just 60 minutes.

Price: $129.99

Best Sound Machine: Hatch Rest + 2nd Generation

Offering white noise, wind, rain, and lullabies, the Hatch Rest + 2nd Generation is a sleep noise haven. It includes a soft-glowing nightlight that can be controlled from anywhere using your phone. The light and sound combo is a nice touch—not to mention parent-friendly—and it can help your kids learn when it’s time to rise, preferably after the sun.

Price: $59.99

Best Portable Sound Machine: Hatch Rest Go

A portable sound machine that fits in the palm of your hand is a total travel must-have, especially for babies who tend to sleep on the go. This handy option includes 10 sleep sounds and conveniently clips onto a stroller, diaper bag, purse, car seat—anything, really. There’s no app, Bluetooth, or WiFi required. It’s just you, the rechargeable Hatch Rest Go, and your kids against the (noisy) world.

Price: $39.99

Best Body Pillow: Eli & Elm Memory Foam Pregnancy Body Pillow

You may never want to leave your bed (or couch) again after resting on the Eli & Elm body pillow. The L-shaped design supports your head, back, hips, knees, and baby bump, and includes a full-size pillow. And it’s not just for sleeping! This versatile pillow can be used for relaxing, reading, nursing, or any activity that could use a little extra support.

Price: $144.99

Best Blackout Drapes: Sleepout Portable Blackout Curtain 2.0

Don’t just dim the sunlight, block it out completely with the Sleepout Portable Blackout Curtain 2.0! Made with unique 100% blackout fabric, this curtain does more than just block out light, it also insulates against heat and noise, creating the perfect sleep environment. Bonus: It installs on any window in just seconds. Just pop on the included clips, attach the curtains, and dim any room in seconds. No tools required.

Price: $149

How We Chose Our Winners

Every year, the Parents team makes it their mission to find the best sleep products on the market: for babies, toddlers, big kids, and their parents and caregivers (who probably need sleep more than most). After receiving more than 125 nominations and submissions, our team narrowed the final cut down to 31 winners, with each product being voted on based on a variety of factors, including comfort, safety, effectiveness, and reliability.

By the Numbers 

• More than 125 products were submitted and/or nominated. These products were then reviewed by our editors.
• Once the list was narrowed down, dozens of entries were vetted by our judging panel, which included doctors, sleep experts, and (yes!) parents. 
• The products were then ranked in their respective categories.
• 31 winners were chosen. 

How Our Winners Made the Cut 

• Met Rigorous Safety Standards. Each product needed to pass strict safety measures that aligned with the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) safe sleep guidelines.
• Expert-Approved. All of our winners were carefully vetted by one of our judges or certified sleep experts.
• No Breaking the Bank. We aimed for the most reasonable prices without sacrificing quality and safety. 
• In Your Corner. As a parent, you need products that support your sleep journey every step of the way, and we aimed to find winners that would have your back.

About Our Judges

Mona Amin, DO, is a pediatrician, mom, and creator of The New Mom’s Survival Guide. She works in private practice and, through her brand Pedsdoctalk, her goal is to provide relatable and easy-to-digest education for the modern parent regarding the health and wellness of their child. 

Angela Holliday-Bell, MD, CCSH, is a pediatrician and clinical sleep health specialist who completed her three-year pediatric residency at Children’s National Medical Center in Washington, D.C. She is the founder and CEO of The Solution is Sleep. She also wrote a book titled Sleeping on the Job: Proven Strategies to Optimize Your Workplace Performance and Personal Wellbeing Through Better Sleep.

Lola Sánchez Liste is a mother of two and the founder of Rockin’Blinks. She is also an infant and child sleep consultant, certified by the Family Sleep Institute. Over the past eight years she has helped hundreds of families to understand their children’s sleep needs and how to establish healthy sleep habits, and through her brand, Rockin’Blinks, she advocates for children’s sleep quality and makes sleep information more accessible for all.

Kimberly Zapata is the editor of Special Projects and Innovations at Parents. Her parenting, health, and wellness work has been published on numerous websites, including Health, Healthline, Parade, Washington Post, Huffington Post, Oprah, The Mighty, Mic, and Vice. She is also the founder of Greater Than: Illness, an organization dedicated to empowering teens and young adults struggling with mental illness, and a mother of two.

Every new generation develops their own slang. But today’s young people—younger segments of Gen Z and, more prevalently, Gen Alpha—have such a unique vernacular that it has its own name: “Brainrot”.

Brainrot: Gen Alpha Slang Explained

Brainrot is a special segment of Gen Alpha slang that comes from spending a ton of time online—usually in spaces like TikTok, Snapchat, YouTube, or even gaming communities like Roblox or Minecraft.

Vanessa Croft, mom of three and middle school teacher with an MA in English Language defines it as “any collection of phrases or words which are understood purely in the context of their use on social media platforms.” 

She adds that it’s almost a measurement of how “online” someone is. 

“Extensive knowledge of brainrot words/phrases is a key indication that the speaker is deeply immersed in online culture,” she says. “Many Gen Z/Gen Alpha users will speak in full sentences comprised of brainrot vocabulary, which can seem difficult for others outside of their online community or generation to understand.”

25-year-old communications pro Tess Coward who works with the agency SolComms admits she may be a little too well-versed in brainrot slang, but simplifies the concept further. 

“Brainrot is when internet trends and jokes are going through your mind constantly. It’s the inability to form sentences without internet slang,” she says. “It infiltrates your life and you don’t even know you’re doing it at some point.”

Trying to Make Decipher Happen

So what makes Gen Z and Gen Alpha’s slang different and confusing for us millennials and Gen X-ers who are stuck trying to decipher it? First, there’s the ambiguity of it all.

Previous generations of slang terms usually had one-to-one translations to, for lack of a better word, normal English. “Bling” means jewelry and shiny stuff. “Take a chill pill” means relax. But “Skibidi Ohio rizz”? It’s meta, it’s a little unhinged, it’s context-dependent. It can mean a lot of different things or nothing at all. And that’s kind of the point. There’s an element of intentional trolling to it, and the fact that most people don’t get it is a feature, not a bug.

“I feel like terms like ‘swag’ and hashtags like #YOLO were way more harmless and easier to understand for older generations,” says Coward. “Recently, the brainrot slang has gotten so unhinged that even though I might use them, I struggle to understand what they actually mean.”

The next big difference is the source of brainrot language. Instead of new terms coming from, say, a popular song on the radio, it’s coming from some random teenager’s viral TikTok, or a reaction vid to that TikTok, or a top-rated comment on a reaction vid to a viral TikTok (really!).

It’s almost not even worthwhile compiling a list of brainrot vocabulary to study because it changes and transforms so quickly, although there are a few hilarious “translator” websites and apps out there that translate Gen Alpha phrases into equivalent Gen X or millennial slang.

For older Gen Z and millennials still struggling to grasp the concept, you can compare brainrot to meme culture. Not only are there countless memes going around, but they get remixed and transformed constantly; memes referencing other memes and then new memes referencing variations of those. It can get really confusing and inaccessible unless you’re up on all the lore (there’s another brainrot term!) that came before.

Is ‘Brainrot’ Actually Bad?

Academic institutions in many parts of the world are reportedly banning brainrot slang terms from the classroom. It’s easy to see how some of the lingo might annoy teachers, who encourage proper spelling, grammar, and diction—but is brainrot really all bad?

Language teacher and owner of Think Languages, Stefano Lodola put it really well.

“[These terms] become a shorthand for expressing complex ideas or emotions. This kind of language is not just random; it often reflects the humor, values, and experiences of the generation using it.”

So just because their secret internal language came from Snapchat doesn’t make it any less valid than the slang from generations that came before. But while that’s great for the kids, what about the parents that are left trying to keep up?

Lodola say the best thing parents can do is ask their kids about the lingo and use those learning conversations as a way to form a deeper connection.

“Instead of dismissing it as nonsense, ask [your kids] what these terms mean and how they use them. This can open up conversations that help bridge generational gaps and offer insight into the digital culture your children are part of. Embracing the curiosity that language naturally provokes can turn what seems like a barrier into a shared learning experience.”

And if you want to try slipping the occasional “rizz” or “gyatt” into your speech, more power to you.

Croft adds, “While my own children cringe when I use their brain rot slang on them, I find it to be a useful tool for connection. Language, after all, is the one thing that can both unite and alienate us.”