Troye Sivan on Hooking Up w/ Straight Men

He talks about his experiences with straight men who have shown interest in him, often expressing a willingness to explore despite identifying as straight. Sivan reflects on why he finds these scenarios appealing, questioning if it’s a form of internalized homophobia or a response to the attention from individuals he might have feared in the past.

He describes feeling empty after such encounters because they were limited in what they could be, with the men ultimately identifying as straight. He contrasts these experiences with others where he was the first guy someone had been with, and they were open and confident in their identity, surprising him with their self-assurance.

The song’s lyrics started with a real-life conversation he had with a straight friend who admitted to wanting to hook up with guys when partying. This led to the song’s chorus, which plays with the idea of being “one of your girls or your homies,” highlighting the casualness these men seemed to seek. Sivan admits that these situations often left him feeling like an experiment or a last resort, which didn’t feel good.

He further discusses experiences where it seemed like straight men were using him for an ego boost, flirting and then withdrawing once he showed interest. He recounts a specific instance with a straight man who would hook up with him between relationships with women, which began after the man publicly made out with him. This individual confessed to watching Sivan’s interviews post-intimacy with his ex, which was part of the reason he wanted to hook up with Sivan.

Sivan also shares a recent encounter where a man, in front of his wife, admitted to being aroused by Sivan’s voice. He reflects on the complexities of these situations, emphasizing the importance of communication and vulnerability. He’s open to exploration but stresses the need for honesty and kindness in these interactions, indicating that lack of communication and understanding can lead to negative feelings post-encounter.

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