Danielle also emphasized how important it is to keep in mind that women’s bodies change over time — and how a woman’s orgasms can vary.
“During the perimenopause (or pre-menopause) stage, blood flows to the vagina, vulva, and clitoris decrease, meaning it may take longer to experience pleasure or have an orgasm through direct stimulation of those areas,” Danielle told BuzzFeed.
“That doesn’t mean it’s impossible, just means that you’ll likely have to switch up the approach from time to time and be very patient,” she added.