Saptarshi’s Journey To Self-Confidence Through Counseling. – YourDOST Blog

Saptarshi is a 24-year-old hailing from a distant town 50 km away from Kolkata, West Bengal. A final year MBBS student from Sri Ramachandra Medical College Chennai. 

Saptarshi mentions having a fun childhood. He played cricket competitively at the district level and took a keen interest in all sports. He likes to be aware of things happening around him and enjoys reading self-help books.

Saptarshi is inquisitive to learn new things and thus has set a goal to learn finances. To keep his mind and body healthy, he engages in cardio and jogging. 

He has a small family consisting of 4 members. Both his parents are doctors and have provided him with the best life possible that one can think of. 

Shifting from your roots to a new settlement can be difficult for some. After completing his 10th, he had to move to the cosmopolitan city to prepare for competitive exams.

Saptarshi missed his hometown where people knew each other. There was less hustle and bustle in his hometown. He cherished the peaceful moments he had spent there. He felt it was a task for him to blend at first in a cosmopolitan city. The surroundings were very contrasting to what he had experienced in his growing-up years. 

“It took some time for me to get used to the new surroundings. I made a few genuine friends who have stayed in touch with me to date.”

Saptarshi explains how difficult 11th and 12th grades were for him. He carried a lot of negativity inside and was under immense pressure to crack the competitive exam. 

Saptarshi revealed feeling insecure about everything around him. The insecurity of others being better at every aspect of life undermined his confidence. His competitiveness with others was unhealthy which led to thoughts that pull him down on the rise.

“I used to blame myself for things that I had no control over and this undermined my confidence.”

“Home wasn’t a pleasant place at a certain time, some things were not working out for me, which bothered me. Human relationships are hard to understand, it’s complex, and even after 30 years people struggle with their relationships.”

Saptarshi considers himself lucky and expresses gratitude to his college administration for signing up with YourDOST. He took the call to get help from the experts and started with therapy sessions with YourDOST, ever since then he has been consistent and there is no turning back. 

Speaking about his therapist Ms. Shravya Devadhar, not only was she a counselor but a friend too. It was comfortable for him to share things with her. She would listen to all his problems and his major life events.

Saptarshi explains how his therapist suggested techniques like introspecting and prioritising himself. She emphasised taking a short pause before he planned his next step and was able to follow these consistently. 

Saptarshi was unable to carry out priority tasks and which would result in procrastination. Shravya assisted him in setting up boundaries for him to say no to things that can be neglected allowing him to focus more on priority tasks. He had to pick his tasks selectively. It was indeed difficult at first but he got in the groove. He set his daily schedule accordingly. 

The transformation curve post-therapy differs for each individual. Saptarshi showed positive signs and is on the right track to becoming a better version of himself. Post-therapy changes are bound to happen and it was finally working out for him. 

Saptarshi shares how he feels much more confident post-therapy. He has started to accept people as they are regardless of their flaws and has developed a balanced approach towards life now. 

“I worry only about things that are only under my control and laugh about things that are not.”

Saptarshi rated himself a solid 3 out of 5 in terms of improvements after the therapy sessions. We are affirmative that road to 5 is not too far for him. 

Saptarshi’s Warrior Tips:
1.“You should always think that there’s light at the end of the tunnel.”
2.“Sometimes you just need to be chill, be yourself and don’t try to please others.”
3.“Believe in yourself that you can do this, one step at a time.”
4.“Expressing yourself helps to get out what’s inside our mind, we should try often.”